#allos scare me....

[chemicalarospec]

For a solid month I used to keep getting recommended on youtube “this song sounds like you’re 14 and in love” and every time my honest reaction as an aromantic was: Y’all were experiencing LOVE at FOURTEEN???

[scrumptiousfoxglitter]

Being aro/ace is great except for when allos. Like, I saw a conversation online about how one partner in a couple "Wasn't bad looking, just when compared to THEM" and I'm just sitting here like... What? My only basis for how attractive allos find people is my aesthetic attraction to them and... They're basically look on par with each other? They've even got the same aesthetic going on. Wdym? Why you insulting my boi (gender neutral) like that? If that's what you think of them then maybe you don't deserve them, how about that?

[no-thanks-bro]

How can I be THIS sexy and yet entirely uninterested in other people. Wasted potential!!!!!

[skyllion-uwu]

I wanna be in a QPR so bad but I can't communicate efficiently without feeling guilty for expressing my own needs and wants, so for everyone's wellbeing I just don't bring it up

[captain-k8kat]

The thought that I could be allosexual and just confused my asexuality with aromantism is a thought that's been cropping up a lot lately and it's terrifying me.

Like it's easier to say that I'm ace/allo, it's easier to say that I'm simply aro/ace, but saying I'm allo/aro just scares me. Because while I know objectively this isn't true, a part of me feel that the moment I identify as allo/aro is the moment I become morally bankrupt. That no matter my sexual history, I will be this heartless creature who's only ever in it for sex in the eyes of the public. And like, I know that just internal aphobia but it scares me regardless.

[crowskullls]

wish we had a specific system tag for when other headmates post. hm

[raccoon-queer]

the funniest part of realizing you're asexual young is the pressure to have sex slowly building and building. when I was 14 and came out as asexual I was completely comfortable with never 'doing it'. now I'm almost 18 and nervous for the day when I can no longer use the 'um, I'm a minor' excuse

[the-bee-graveyard]

I remember once when I was still in the closet I was at a family event and someone asked me why I didn’t have a boyfriend and I said that love was beneath me and my cousin who brought her boyfriend to introduce us to went on about how in love is the most noble thing a person can be and no one is beneath love and I’ll know it once they try it. And she and that boyfriend broke up two months later.

[vagorsol]

the thing about the talon/quinn relationship—romantic or platonic—that you need to understand is that it isn’t “he’s so cool and mysterious and edgy, and she’s naïve and inexperienced” (which, first of all, is kind of misogynistic but we’ll get to that later), it’s “he’s a spicy little feral kitten clawing and screaming and hissing the entire time, and she is so blasé to this and just picks him up like a hamburger like. ‘you’re my friend now. we’re getting soft tacos later :)’”

[chemicalarospec]

In the end I think my biggest complaint with Dead Boy Detectives is that it's paced like a kid's show despite being a young adult show. If they just aimed for 2-5 minutes less in every episode, I think the characters wouldn't have had those moments where they seemed a little bad at their job for how long it was taking to figure things out.

[silenced-sky-spake-sooth]

I do NOT struggle with "having no love interest and being lonely" I'm actually very good at it.

[pirefyrelight]

"well if you're aroace how will you ever experience love and heartbreak" I can get fired from my job. That's basically the same thing as being dumped from a toxic relationship right.

[cacophonylily]

"I'm your constant, remember?"

Dear Luke, Love, Me

[leafatlaw]

may have made a mistake …

[itistimetodisappear]

Yes we've all heard aroace people complain about the 'you haven't met the right person' line. But to the idiots citing this as the reason aroace people 'aren't oppressed’: No, micro aggressions aren't what's oppressing us.

I could talk about corrective rape, but I'm not going to because that's not what scares me the most. The worst thing about being aroace (aromantic, and asexual to a certain extent) is that society is set up for couples.

Being aromantic is a crushing economic disadvantage. As a couple, you can save more. As a legal couple, you can borrow more. This puts Mortgages out of reach for a lot of aromantics. Adopting too. Although aro people can adopt, you must have a similar income to a couple, which again, rules out a lot of aros. Don't forget Immigration, spousal visas will never be an option for us.

Being poor and aro means you're denied housing, family, international movement, basically anything that allos of a similar income would get. And anything you can get, you'll have to jump through many more hoops for. But we can't fix this by legalising aro marriage, like we did for the gays. Until our society's economic system is completely revolutionised, we'll be waiting.

It's impossible to compare oppression. You can't objectively say which minority group has it worse and I really mean that. But also I'd rather be called slurs and hated by Christians all fucking day.

[orangeocelotmartyn]

Cyan Centipedes (False, AntFrost, and Ren)'s reactions to Martyn's Velma outfit, part two

Part One here

False: Eyy, Martyn's live. (through laughter) His face just popped up on my screen. I have him open. Ren: Oh good lord, okay, we gotta get Martyn-- AntFrost: Oh, I need to open his stream-- False: Velma's here guys, Velma! (False and Ant laugh) She's made it. Oh. Ren: Oh, wow, he is...he's--he's also. I mean, there is a lot of Martyn on this screen-- Ant: Oh my gosh, wait-- Ren: There's a lot of Martyn. False: Dude, it came up and it was like, full screen on one of the monitors. (she laughs) Ren: Dude, look at him! He looks so good! (Ant and Ren laugh) He can't play MCC with those glasses on, he can't see through that nonsense. False: I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit jealous, where are my glasses? I didn't get a character with accessories. Ren: Oh good lord. The dress and everything! False: It's a skirt! Oh, oh it's got the Scooby-Doo logo on it! Ren: (in disbelief) He's even got the pose! (voice higher pitched) That's how she poses! (False and Ant laugh) The little curtsy and everything. False: I didn't even think about the--socks! Martyn: (playing from Ren's stream) I'm glad I'm seeing nothing but 'slay' in the chat (Ant and False laugh) I'm seeing nothing but 'slay' in the chat, that's right, that's right. We're here to play. We're here to play. (at the same time as False) You ready? You ready for some MCC? False: (at the same time as Martyn) Ren, you've disappointed us! Where's the Scooby-Doo? Ren: I'm sorry guys, I'm sorry. False: Wait, do you actually have Scooby-Doo on? Scooby-Doo? Martyn: (playing from Ren's stream) I ate and left no crumbs, according to chat. This is all--this isn't me inflating my own ego, this is all chat. Ren: I mean, you know. False: C'mon, do a face reveal. You can do a face reveal. Ren: Absolutely insane. False: You could do a face reveal. Ren: I've--no one has ever seen my face, False. I've been locked in my-in my computer since I was twelve. False: In the computer? Ren: Yeah. False:....(after four seconds of silence) Mhm. Gonna watch. Martyn: (actually in the Discord call) 'Allo? Ren: (at the same time as False) Dude, you look so stinkin' hot. False: (at the same time as Ren) Hello! Ren: Slay queen. Mm! Martyn: That's it! Ren: I would take you on a date Immediately! Martyn: You know what I want? Big sub sandwich. I see Shaggy and Scoobs do it all the time, that's what I want. I want in on this. Ren: That's what you get. Although I did notice you haven't shaved your legs for the occasion. Martyn: Hey, it's winter. We can't be solving mysteries if we've got, uh, if we've got the chillies ourselves. I wanna be shaking when there's ghosts around, not when uh, not because of the temperature. False: No no no, you're the-you're the smart one. You don't get scared. It's fine. (Martyn laughs) Ren: I'm also mildly disturbed, I was just saying how you-- False: (at the same time as Ren) I was saying to Shaggy, I was mildly disturbed by how short your minidress is? Martyn: Yeah--it's a bit short, right? False: Miniskirt! Martyn: I was very careful when I put my leg up then, to show that the socks are like, trying to reach my knees but not quite. False: Yeah yeah yeah. Martyn: I was like, there could be a slip, I'm very wary of that.