#advice for men

[uncanny-tranny]

Some advice for men and, really, anyone who wants advice: the best thing you can do to make all of your relationships better is just saying "I love you" to the people you care about.

I have a lot of platonic friendships especially with women, and the connection I have with them has been made better when I explicitly make it clear that I love them. As a man, it makes me feel more secure in my manhood, which I think may surprise others. The vulnerability of loving someone and not being afraid to express that has made me feel more comfortable in who I am.

I specify men because it's so normalized to never come close to even thinking about explicitly doing things like this, but I think you deserve to express the full breadth of your human experience. If you're a man, you're a fucking man no matter what you do, and I hope nobody will ever try taking that away from you.

Of course, every relationship by nature is complex and nuanced. However, finding ways to express the love you have (platonic, familial, emotional, sexual, whatever) makes you feel alive. Every form of love deserves to be expressed in ways that make you and everyone around you feel alive

[workinprogress14]

PLAY WITH HER CERVIX WHILE YOU FINGER HER

you’re welcome.

[killabeeblog]

[my-throwaway-tbh]

SIMGA MALE GUIDE (read)

The Omegaverse has abstract premises for which it could be considered a fantasy genre according to the conventions established by Todorov, but the high specification of its characteristic elements suggests that it could also be considered a literary genre in itself.[3] Its main peculiarity is that characters have two genders: a main one (male or female), decided by their external sexual organs, and a secondary one, that manifests during puberty, determined by their internal reproductive system.[4][5] It's usually chosen from one of the following, each of which also corresponds to some distinctive character traits:[6][7][8][9]

Alpha (α): socially (and in some interpretations, even biologically) dominant, physically built, short-tempered and a natural leader;

Beta (β): depending on the story, they are regular human beings, or have a mix of Alpha and Omega traits, or their own unique traits;

Omega (Ω): submissive and gentle, calm and a peacemaker.

Reproductive systems in the Omegaverse:

MaleFemale

Male

genitalsUterusMale

genitalsUterus

Alpha

/

[a]

Beta

Omega

/

[b]

Omegaverse fiction typically focuses on wolf or other canid-like behavior in humans, especially as it pertains to sexual intercourse and sexuality, which is described as instinctual, responding to animalistic physiological stimuli.[1][2] This includes rutting and heat cycles, pheromonal attraction between Alphas and Omegas,[12] penises with knots (used to "knot", or tie, the partner to an Alpha during copulation, an action known as "knotting"),[1] scent marking,[13] imprinting,[8] breeding, mating rites, pack structures[14] and potentially permanent psychic bonds with a mate.[6] Between Alphas and Betas, only females can carry on a pregnancy, but male Omegas are often envisaged as being able to become pregnant via a uterus connected to the rectum,[14][15][16] and Alphas can impregnate regardless of their main gender.[17] To make penetration and impregnation easier, male Omegas often have self-lubricating anuses.[9]

Since Omegaverse is a type of folksonomy, some of its aspects are included or excluded at the discretion of the story author.[8] Sometimes Betas are absent, or other intermediate designations such as Deltas and Gammas are added.[17] The genre often features other fantasy elements, such as the presence of werewolves or other fantastical creatures.[1] Some works introduce a rigid caste system, where Alphas are depicted as the upper class elites while Omegas are at the bottom tier and face discrimination and oppression because of their physiology, creating an example of biological determinism.[7][18][19] In darker stories, this results in non-consensual or dubiously consensual intercourses, forced pregnancies, Omegas kidnapping and sexual slavery.[20][21]

Omegaverse works are most frequently focused on male-male couples composed of an Alpha and an Omega,[6] though heterosexual Omegaverse works have been produced,[13] and by 2013, about 10% were labeled male/female.[8] Some subvert the genre tropes, telling stories about illicit relationships between Alphas, Omegas who hide their smell using chemical pheromones so that they are not a victim of biological prejudices,[22] or dominant Omegas and submissive Alphas.[2] Non-traditional couples are often featured in Japanese Omegaverse works.[23]

While the terms "A/B/O" and "Omegaverse" can be used interchangeably, the first one often refers only to the sexual dynamics, while the second one is preferred when the story is set in a new ideological world.[12] Some prefer to avoid use of the term "A/B/O" as its spelling resembles a racial slur towards Aboriginal Australians.

Professor Kristina Busse has described Omegaverse as a "seemingly perfect storm" of tropes that already existed in fandoms.[22] For example, the 1967 episode "Amok Time" of the American television series Star Trek introduces the concept of pon farr, the Vulcan mating cycle wherein Vulcan males must mate or die. Pon farr became a popular plot concept for fan works in the Star Trek fandom, particularly fan fiction focused on the Kirk/Spock pairing. The concept of mating and heat cycles among humans was subsequently adopted by other fandoms, and later became a staple of the Omegaverse subgenre.[24] Ursula K. Le Guin also wrote, in her 1969 novel The Left Hand of Darkness, about an extraterrestrial androgynous world with hermaphroditic characters and mating cycles named kemmer.[2]

The origin of the Omegaverse is typically attributed to the fandom surrounding the American television series Supernatural, as a fusion between werewolves and the male pregnancy subgenre of erotic fan fiction.[1][25] Another source of inspiration could have been the science fiction drama Dark Angel, where Supernatural actor Jensen Ackles plays a soldier with feline DNA, and female characters go into heat.[25] The first works recognized as A/B/O were published in mid-2010:[6] that year in May, a writing prompt was shared on a LiveJournal community dedicated to Supernatural, mentioning "alpha" males having knots on their penises, and "bitch males" without the knots, inspiring user tehdirtiestsock to write I ain't no lady, but you'd be the tramp, a real person fiction work focused on actors Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles as an Alpha and an Omega, which was published on July 24.[2][19] Despite not using the term "omega", the story created many of the characteristics later associated with the Omegaverse genre.[2]

Over the next few months, other anonymous authors shared similar stories, until on November 9 a new writing prompt mentioned Alpha, Beta and Omega men for the first time, spurring the creation of three works. By June 2011, the term "Omegaverse" and its dynamics had become commonplace; the following month, the first femslash Omegaverse work was published, and the first use of the tropes outside the Supernatural fandom was recorded.[9]

The genre subsequently expanded in popularity to other fan communities: first to those focused around Sherlock and X-Men: First Class, then it quickly reached other fandoms like those of television series Hannibal, Teen Wolf, Glee, Doctor Who and movie The Avengers.[1][9] A Chinese translation of an A/B/O Sherlock fanfic posted on website Suiyuanju around October 2011 introduced Omegaverse to Chinese slash fan circles, from which it spread to danmei original novels.[26]

In 2012, the notion of "fated mates" was introduced.[27] In 2014 it gained strong traction in Japan,[23] acquiring market value with the publication of the first A/B/O manga in 2015.[28] In 2016 the discrimination and power dynamics between Alphas, Betas and Omegas began to be outlined, and the idea of the mark or bite that chemically and biologically links couples together was created,[29] while in 2018 the concept of the "inner wolf", an animal instinct guiding Alphas and Omegas, arose.[30] Through her work Kanraku Alpha Enigma, manga artist Shinshi Nakai subsequently tried to add the "Enigma", a new type of character who can mutate their secondary gender, but the novelty was resisted by Omegaverse fans and had no impact or continuity.[31]

Omegaverse has become both extremely popular and controversial in fandom circles. Some condemn it as revolting and sick, affirming that it reinforces patriarchal values and a rape culture,[32] objecting to its roots in bestiality fiction and the power imbalances between genders.[6] Conversely, others appreciate how it deconstructs bodies and gender roles, offering subversive social commentary on queer identity and oppression.[32][33]

Academic opinions are equally divided between those who believe Omegaverse shows a new type of gender essentialism combined with homophobic and heteronormative elements, and those who see the space to give it a transgender reading.[6] Delgado Díaz, Ubillus Breña and Cappello do not believe that the Omegaverse is linked to queer theory or transexuality, despite containing allegories to gender identity and the female condition (Omegas, both male and female, could be considered embodiments of the traditional role of women as housewifes and mothers), whose purpose, however, is only that of frameworks to plots ranging from melodrama to horror.[34] According to researcher Milena Popova, "the features of the A/B/O genre allow for the exploration of themes of power, desire, pleasure, intimacy, romance, control, and consent in a variety of ways",[35] and it's used by writers and readers "as a tool to articulate and think through consent issues in unequal relationships".[36] Similarly, Laura Campillo Arnaiz argues that dark Omegaverse works serve to gain control on the feelings of helplessness and humiliation that characterize it, creating a cathartic experience.[37]

Angie Fazekas wrote that "[i]n the omegaverse, fans use traditional tropes of gender and sexuality to imagine a universe where queer sexuality is the norm and normative gender roles are often skewed and upended",[33] but that they fail to offer real progressiveness since, like most of the other fan fictions, their works are predominantly focused on relationships between white men.[38]

The Omegaverse exploded in popularity in 2017, quickly becoming a frequent subject of fan fiction writers.[30] As of July 2018, over 39,000 Omegaverse fan works had been published on the fan fiction website Archive of Our Own,[9] and over 70,000 as of 2020.[1] In addition to these derivative works, Omegaverse has emerged as its own genre of original commercial erotic fiction: roughly 200 Omegaverse novels were published on Amazon from January to June 2020.[1] It has also become a subgenre of both commercial and non-commercial yaoi (manga featuring male-male couples).[23][39][40] Given the positive reception in Japan, South Korea started its own production of Omegaverse manhwas, as well as China, although the censorship applied in this latter country has limited the genre popularity.[41]

Beginning in 2017, the "Dom/Sub Universe" subgenre gained popularity, particularly in yaoi works in Japan; it uses BDSM elements, positing dominant and submissive as secondary genders, and draws inspirations from Omegaverse in its depiction of caste systems.[42] In the Korean "Cakeverse", a small part of the human population is divided into "forks", who have no sense of taste, and "cakes", people with a particular flavor that makes them irresistible to "forks".[43]

[mosie-b]

Why is Grindr like that?

Put my photo up, cute one, maybe the cutest I have; the kinda photo you look at and think, "Oh, they seem cute," within five minutes, BOOM!! cock. Now, I'm not a prudish girly. I can appreciate a dick pic from time to time, but please tell me why these "men"

(for can we really call a creature, so debased by its urges, a man. Can we truly, and in good conscience, label "man" as something which will send a girl young enough to be its own daughter a picture of its cock, I truly do not know, but I digress)

See fit to send the most horrid angles imaginable? There are two which I have seen to be most pervasive. The first I will label is the 'aerial landscape:' A photo in which the phone is hoisted above a body situated most typically in a reclined position to create an image much like this illustration.

Figure 1: A third-person illustration of the posing method 'aerial landscape' in which we see a man take a photo of himself and his genitalia from an elevated position.

He creates the effect of his body as a landscape atop which trots all sorts of nature's creatures(lice, dirt, poor hygiene, etc.) As if enticing the viewer to come. He hopes his image will engender it's viewers with the same feelings as a nation's tourist advertisements. But unbeknownst to him, his dirty cock and nude body do not illicit the same reactions as beautiful helicopter photography of the Swiss Alps, or Scandinavian Fjords.

The second and more elusive angle I have entitled the "majesty." Despite its name, this angle is anything but majestic. Instead, just as with the former, it seeks to emulate that which holds beauty, the wonder when gazing upon a mountain or of man's tallest creations. The sense of majesty and splendor created by something so much grander than yourself. Unfortunately, and once again, his cock may not live up to these expectations.

Figure 2: A first-person illustration of the posting method 'majesty' in which we see a man's face eclipsed by his erect penis from the perspective of the phone

In conclusion, if you, as a man, wish to send a picture of your 'member' erect or otherwise, to a young woman, especially one such as myself, please first take the time to work through a simple set of criteria:

Is my angle truly enticing(ask someone whom you trust and more importantly whom is willing to help you)

Is the lighting favorable to me and my member

have I taken proper care to clean myself before

finally, and most important, is this being sent with consent

Now with that last point, I understand that using Grinder in and of itself constitutes a form of minimal consent for this type of behavior, but I still think it should not be encouraged especially when performed so sloppily.

If you wish to improve your dick pic 'game,' I suggest heading to sites such as tumblr.com or twitter.com, where you may gaze upon the work of the mighty transfemme. Just as with the Dutch Masters of old, these women have perfected the art of the dick pic. They understand lighting, composition and enticement. They know how to leave the viewer intrigued.

Please, before you send me another dick pic, just ask, and then maybe put on some panties; leave a little something to the imagination, you fucking troglodytes.

[lvr-by]

My shyness has ruined another situation… what’s wrong with me

[nullwork]

oh so i threaten to kill myself in front of you and it ruins the function. Great. Well I'm going to make it your problem now.

[bitchywitchymom]

Hey baby,

If your girl hasn't asked you about your day when you come home from work, and actually cared about the answer,

DUMP THAT BITCH

[thegenxpointofview]

How to be a better man: Mornings

So in this series I post advice for heterosexual men because that is what I know. If this advice can help you that’s great. I don’t personally care about your gender, your sexuality how you identify etc. I try to provide good advice for men because honestly there is very little of it out there. So that out of the way, being a better man encompasses many areas. One of the hardest things to master…

[ultrathedarkangel]

Let it sink in

[thecreditsroll]

Women's internal misogyny is well discussed but I don't think I've ever seen men's internal misandry get discussed

Just see how any self help guru or dating advice talks to their male viewers and how the communities influenced by that content treat each other it's a serious problem

[lvr-by]

I refuse to settle.

[elaytv]

[theambitiouswoman]

Types of relationships that look like love but are not:

Infatuation: This is an intense emotional or sexual attraction to someone that can give the illusion of love. However, infatuation is often based on idealized perceptions rather than a deep emotional connection.

Codependency: Codependent relationships involve one person excessively relying on another for emotional or physical needs. This dependency can mimic love, but it is rooted in the need for validation, control, or a sense of purpose.

Unrequited love: This refers to a situation where one person has romantic feelings for another, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It may involve one-sided affection, longing, or an obsession with someone who does not feel the same way.

Limerence: Limerence is an intense and obsessive form of attraction characterized by intrusive thoughts, longing for reciprocation, and an idealized image of the other person. It can feel like love, but it often lacks a genuine emotional connection.

Conditional love: In relationships based on conditional love, affection and care are only given when certain conditions or expectations are met. This type of relationship lacks unconditional acceptance and can be manipulative or controlling.

Trauma bond: A trauma bond forms when two individuals share intense emotional experiences, often negative or abusive. Despite the harmful dynamics, there may be a strong attachment due to the shared trauma, leading to a mistaken perception of love.

Transactional relationships: These relationships are based on mutual benefit or convenience rather than genuine emotional connection. Partners may stay together for financial security, social status, or other practical reasons, rather than genuine love and affection.

Manipulative relationships: Manipulative relationships involve one person exerting control and power over the other through emotional manipulation, coercion, or gaslighting. The manipulator may feign love and affection to gain control or exploit their partner's vulnerabilities.

Fantasy relationships: In fantasy relationships, one or both partners create an idealized version of the other person, often based on unrealistic expectations or fantasies. The relationship may lack a true emotional connection, as it is based on the person's fantasy rather than the reality of who their partner is.

One-sided relationships: These relationships are characterized by an imbalance of effort, care, or emotional investment. One person may consistently give more while the other takes without reciprocation. It can create an illusion of love, but it lacks equality and mutual respect.

Love addiction: Love addiction refers to a compulsive or obsessive pattern of seeking out relationships and being dependent on the euphoric feeling of being in love. It can lead to a cycle of unhealthy relationships, as the person seeks constant validation and excitement without addressing underlying emotional issues.

[thegenxpointofview]

Advice for Men – If you think she is the one, consider this.

Here we are another Wednesday another blog post. Todays post is for the men out there who have been in a relationship for some time and are on the path to marriage. I have been married for decades, I have kids and a good life. Marriage is not for everyone and let me be CRYSTAL clear for you. When you get married you are entering into a legally binding contract. The enforcement of that contract is…