#adultadoptee

[nivchara-yahel]

Urgent! Please Don't Scroll Past! Mutual Aid Needed to Help Disabled Siblings Relocate to Safe, Stable Housing

[Alt-text: Help Needed to Move to Safety. Our landlord has started eviction, and a friend in another state has offered us a place to live while we get our lives back in order. We need about $1500 to relocate, store our belongings, and get some needed post move items. We're moving to a place where we can better address our medical needs/disabilities, and you can help us! ◼️Give (even small donations help!): Paypal: nivcharayahel Venmo/CA$: heathmarie31 ◼️Post this to your social media to help us spread the word. Thank you for helping us get to a better place!

(Background is an original drawing by Hem (@rivalconga on Twitter): an abstract image in the style of Japanese woodblock printing of swirling ocean waves and fire in green, blue, orange, and red ink on white paper.)]

Our landlord has filed for eviction because we haven't been able to pay rent since July, but a friend from out-of-state has agreed to let us move in with her rent-free for long enough to find work/get on disability/get housing and medical assistance, and otherwise get our lives back in order so we can stop having to survival fundraise. $1500 will pay for a moving truck, travel expenses, a few months storage for our belongings, and for some set-up expenses when we get there (such as OOP medical expenses, a second cell phone, bedding).

We are trying to raise $1495 in 10 days (by the end of September) so we can move out as close as possible to the start of October, before our eviction is finalized. Even small donations can help us toward this goal. Click on the link below to find our payment apps:

You can also help by reblogging this and posting the card above on your other social media platforms. It really does make a difference.

Thank you for your support! It means so much to us!

I will be posting updates more regularly on my Twitter account:

[Image above is a screenshot from my Twitter account. You can go there for the original post/alt-text. I will be posting updates there.]

[intergen-effects-of-adoption]

Hello everyone! I am looking for participants for a study about the intergenerational effects of adoption. I would really appreciate if you could share this on any social media you have. Thanks!

#adoption #adoptionstudy #adoptees #childrenofadoptees #adopteesasparents #AdoptionResearch #intergenerational #intergenerationalresearch #intergenerationaleffects #adultadoptees #effectsofadoption #adoptionjourney

[aerialklove]

Introduction: My name is Aerial! I am twenty-eight years old! I am an adoptee! I was fostered and adopted by my parents and found my biological family ten years ago! I also have a twin brother who was adopted with me. I have been blogging my experience as an adoptee for almost ten years. I offer the highs and the lows of my adoption journey. It's rewarding and emotional all at the same time.

I am the oldest of four siblings I was raised with and the second youngest (my twin is the youngest) of five biological siblings. Talk about being the awkward middle child. lol! You all are more than welcomed to ask me anything! I am opened and honest and would love to connect!

Peace & Love

~A.

[aerialklove]

My fiancé brings up adoption... more so when I say “ What if we cannot have children naturally?” He says “ Oh we can just adopted.” It makes me cringe because the way he says it makes it sound like we can just go, adopt a child and keep going with our lives. He is not adopted so his knowledge is very very limited. I love children and I believe every child deserves love and a good home but sometimes that does not always happen even with good intentions. There are so many layers to foster care and adoption. There are so many paths to navigate when you step into the realms of nurturing a child who was removed, taken, abused, given up, neglected in their biological home. I understand those layers because I experienced them. My parents, even with the best intentions, even with giving me all the materialistic things, even pizza Friday could not take away the feelings of rejection, abandonment, identity issues and so on. This is not to say that foster and adopted children are “ hard”... I am just saying you cannot raise a foster/adopted child like you would raise a biological child. Lots of people believe you can and that’s where I believe things spiral.

I have two younger siblings who are my parents natural born children. They did not experience what me and my twin brother experience. We all were raised the same but I believe wholeheartedly that my twin and I should have receive more emotional support. I am not sure what that would have looked like then. Maybe is could have been more honesty when we started to question why we looked different than everyone around us? Maybe it could have been therapy. I am not too sure. I just know that raising a biological child and adopted child is not the same.

So I do not think I would adopted a child just for the sake of having a child. Fostering and adopting should be about giving a child a loving stable home and advocating for the child in every aspect of their life.

Question for all my adopted people: would you adopt a child y/n?

[finding-exie]

It took me fifteen years to find my biological family. Fifteen years of prayers, fifteen years of tears and fifteen years of frustration. This blog is about my fifteen year journey on finding myself...Exie.

[jaymme68]

Definitely confusing. #adoptedkid #adultadoptee #adoption #adopt (at Lynn Haven, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3OC7LoAAOl/?igshid=s1unpeqaauia

[theadoptionoption]

#Repost @adoption.books · · · · I believe it is just as important for our transracially adopted kiddos to have experiences and resources that explicitly discuss adoption and transracial families, as it is to have experiences that implicitly ormalize" adoption (because although it's not normal and ideal, our kids need their reality validated). This could include books, movies, art, everyday conversation, therapy, interactions with other adopted and fostered children. it's important that they see and hear a wide variety of examples, instead of understanding adoption from just one narrative. We all need to know we are not alone! We should be intentional about the messages our kids hear (or maybe don't hear) about adoption. These four books written by Robert Munsch, all feature transracial families. The parents in each book are white and either have a child of colour, or children of various races. None of them address adoption at all. So they are great examples simply awesome picture books that broaden the world's definition of "family". Descriptions of each book in the comments. ***Disclaimer 2 of these books should be carefully evaluated before reading. This evaluation must include hearing a variety of adult adoptees share how they feel about being refered to as "gifts" or adoption related fees. In one, the children wrap themselves up as gifts on Chirstmas morning, and in another a daughter is mistaken for a doll, given a pricetag and dad can't leave the store until he pays. These are triggers for MANY adoptees. I do not take these references lightly.*** #robertmunsch #bookreviews #adoptionbooks #fostercarebooks #diversebooks #blackgirlmagic #adoption #fostercare #transracialadoption #transracialadoptee #adoptee #adultadoptee #adoptioniscomplicated #adoptionislove #adoptionishard #adoptionislove https://www.instagram.com/p/BrTNmf_BmBM/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1lytc7x7spp5q

[iamtheothersideofthemoon]

From an objective POV abortion would have been a 100% far kinder and humane choice.

Truly truly.. I wanna run away....never say good bye..... care than what I was given by

Adoptees-tell me one thing you wished people knew about the adoption process.

*feel free to repost* let’s get the conversation started

We can be as real as we want to ❤️

For me I would want people to know that I am still angry at my birthmom for abandoning me… even though I have an absolutely amazing mom who I love so so much

[adoptedwrites-blog]

[maggieannjernigan]

She Loved You So Much She Gave You Up

https://beautyandpainofadoption.wordpress.com/2020/08/08/she-loved-you-so-much-she-gave-you-up/

[nivchara-yahel]

Survival Fundraising for Disabled, Queer Siblings - Please Read (and Help)!

My sibling (Hem - a.k.a. rivalconga on Twitter) and I are disabled. Hem has a broken hip in need of a replacement they cannot yet get, POTS, HS, and an essential tremor. These conditions make it impossible for them to work outside of the home, and they have been applying for online WFH for many months. If you have WFH leads on transcription, data entry, or research work, please get in touch with them via the link to their Twitter, or hit me up here on Tumblr.

I just observed (in July) my 10th anniversary of a chronic congestive heart failure diagnosis, and I also am a fairly recently diagnosed T2D working on getting a good treatment regimen, and regularly require infusions of IV iron for lifelong iron-deficiency anemia that doesn't respond to oral iron supplements or dietary iron. I am also in the midst of trying to get an ADHD diagnosis.

I am unable to work, and I applied for SSDI in April, and was given my first denial in July, which happens in about 80% of SSDI cases. I am getting an attorney to appeal, but the process is slow. In the meantime, I'm not able to bring in income.

We do not have family to provide us with assistance, and we have extremely limited resources for help where we live. There are no homeless shelters here, and our state (Missouri) is openly hostile to LGBT+ and unhoused people. Also, most assistance here is tied to evangelical Christian organizations, and I am Jewish.

You can help us by spreading the word on your social media for us. If you can help us financially, even if only $1, please send aid to our payment apps:

Paypal - nivcharayahel

Venmo - heathmarie31 (This is Hem's account.)

CashApp - $heathmarie31

You can find direct links to these and my other social media at my Linktree:

Hem is also a budding artist, and is offering art for $10+ donations. Here's their Twiter thread for more details:

Here are samples of their art (which are, IMO, way better than okay!):

If you're interested and you can't contact them on Twitter, get in touch with me here!

Until Hem gets work and/or I get my SSDI approved, we need about $1200 monthly to cover rent, groceries/household supplies, and Rx/over-the-counter medical expenses.

We also have an Amazon Wishlist if you'd prefer to help in that way. (Link coming soon--it is badly in need of an overhaul.)

Thank you so much for helping us survive!

Read my intro/bio post for more information about me.

[adoptee-voice]

I relate to this so much.

I think about her every single day. I wonder if she’s doing okay. I wonder how her life turned out. I wonder if she remembers my face since I can’t remember hers. I imagine her brown eyes are soft and warm maybe even a little sad like mine. I miss her so much. I miss her though I never met her.

[senorsparklesmgee]

I am not a fan of mike pence but i just found out that he signed a bill in 2016 that makes Indiana the 14th state to give adult adoptees from the “closed records” period aka 1941-1993 access to their original birth certificate and identifying information on the adoption records starting June of this year!! :)) *Something I never thought would be possible given how difficult it has been fighting with the state legislature for years on this issue. The service is free of charge you just have to fill out paperwork online starting in june 2018 if were born in Indiana like I was. Im excited to learn who my birth parents are without having to make contact with them so I can weigh my options. They won’t be informed that you know their names unless u include contact options on the form provided below. Here are the links for more info

http://www.magbloom.com/2017/02/new-law-will-allow-adoptees-access-to-their-birth-records/

  http://indianaadopteenetwork.org/indiana-adoption-registry-information/

[aerialklove]

Here is an overview of my adoptive family:

Momma- I call my adoptive mom momma ( or “my mom”). She fostered me and my twin from six months old until seven years old. I don't know her by anything else except my mom. We have a better relationship now that I am an adult than we use to have.

Dad- I call my adoptive father dad! He was more of a provider for us. He tossed the football and shot hoops with us occasionally but he work two jobs to give us everything that we asked for. He would come home and watch westerns, eat and go to bed but he was a great day and even to this day he still calls me cupcake. Other family says I am his favorite.

A ( my twin brother)- My twin brother and I was adopted together. The social worker did not want to break us up. He is a very quiet person. His adoption story, even though we grew up in the same home, is different than mine. He was very adamant about not wanting to know his birth family or anything to do with the subject. Now we have met the majority of our birth family on our birth mother side. He is my best friend and the only biological connection I had growing up. We have a great relationship.

Wil- Wil is the first natural born child of my adoptive parents. Before our adoption was legalized my mom gave birth to him. We fought a lot as children. We never agreed on anything, we made fun of each other, and there was always a power struggle. Now in our 20s we have a better relationship.

Meme ( Meya)- Mini is the youngest. She didn’t like me growing up. She favored A more than me. She is the last child of my adoptive parents. We really didn’t get along that well. Now we have a great relationship.

Granny- My granny is my mom’s mother. She is the matriarch of our family. We stayed with my grandparents a lot and she definitely had a hand in raising me. My grandfather passed away 15 years ago so my grandmother has been widowed since. She is a very sweet lady but will let you know what she thinks about you.

Auntie- My aunt is also my godmother and my mom’s only sister. She was always around and she also had a hand in my upbringing. I don’t believe we have the best relationship growing up but now we are better.

[thatadoptedgirl]

I wrote a new piece for AmericaAdopts.com. Just go to the site and click 'blog' and my piece is at the top :). After you read it, you might think I'm a bit crazy, but hopefully you'll love me anyway :). xoxo Love always and forever, That Adopted Girl. ✌️💕 #adopt #adored #adopted #adopting #adoption #adoptedkids #adultadoptee #allaboutlife #adoptionoption #adopteddaughter #adoptiveparents #adoptedandadored #iwantyoutoknow #imissyou #littlegirl #crazydays #therapy #lifeofanadoptedkid #lifelessons #americaadopts #writing #julianawhitney #loudvoices #lovealways #loveyourself #thatadoptedgirl #innerchild #adoptedchild #emotionalbreakdown #itsoktocry

[jaymme68]

I have to say.. I look an awful lot like my Biological Mother right here. She might can deny me but she can't deny that. 😁. At least she's beautiful. #adopted #Adopteeissues #adultadoptee #adoptionblogger #adoption #adopt #pledge (at Montgomery Mad House) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3NtmdXA9np/?igshid=jtf677haac9x