#actual feminism

[angelellipsis-devilofdots]

since taylor swift's definition of "feminine rage" is normalizing cheating, romanticizing ableism and mental illness, and immaturely whining about exes, here's some recommendations of my favorite actual feminine rage songs

trigger warning for abuse, violence, alcoholism, and rape/sa

as good a reason by paris paloma: alternative, indie pop. themes include body image, learning self love, imbalance of power, and fuck the patriarchy vibes

bitter medicine by the crane wives: alternative/indie rock. themes include high responsibility, the consequences of expressing anger as a woman, and self-resentment

blood in the wine by aurora: pop rock. themes include religious trauma, overcoming guilt and shame, embracing human nature, and defying societal norms related to pleasure (sexual and otherwise)

burn your village by kiki rockwell: alternative/indie rock. themes include sexual assault and rape-related trauma, coming to terms with trauma, revenge, high expectations, and witch hunts

everybody supports women by sofia isella: alternative, electronic. themes include societal hypocrisy, unrealistic standards placed on women, and society scrutinizing individuality

labour by paris paloma: alternative, indie pop. themes include unrealistic expectations/standards for women, burnout, emotional stress, and imbalanced relationships

pray by the amazing devil: melodramatic, theatrical, alt-folk. themes include religious trauma, religious power imbalances, oppression of women in religion, overcoming trauma, and self-forgiveness

scars by the crane wives: alternative/indie rock. themes include childhood trauma, mental health/mental illness, self-doubt, and self-resentment

take me to war by the crane wives: alternative/indie rock. themes include fighting bigotry, activism, allowing oneself to express anger and rage, and power imbalances

that unwanted animal by the amazing devil: melodramatic, theatrical, alt-folk. themes include domestic violence and abuse, lack of communication, unhealthy/broken relationships, sexual expectations, and emotional instability

the calling by the amazing devil: melodramatic, theatrical, alt-folk. themes include lifelong trauma, mental health/mental illness, alcoholism, heartbreak and depression, coming to terms with trauma, and self-reflection

the fruits by paris paloma: alt-folk, indie pop. themes include religious trauma, manipulative and abusive relationships, and overcoming trauma

which witch by florence + the machine: alternative/indie pop. themes include witch hunts, revenge, defying societal norms, and unhealthy/unstable relationships

i'm sure there are more in my playlists but this is all i can remember off the top of my head at the moment. i'll edit if i think of more. enjoy xx

[hard--headed--woman]

i'm sorry but when it comes to beauty culture and gender roles, you're not going to destroy them by sitting around and doing nothing to challenge them. saying "it's okay not to shave" while shaving is absolutely useless. stop shaving. complaining about how society wants women to fit beauty standards all the time and making positivity posts for women who don't while still wearing makeup and all that shit is useless too. stop wearing makeup. don't do cosmetic surgery. stop starving yourself to be skinny. do concrete things instead of just talking or it's absolutely useless. you know why it's normalised for women to wear pants now? because women started to wear pants until it was. they didn't just sit around in their dresses saying "uh it's ok to wear pants but i won't do it".

[bsof-maarav]

I truly feel like I'm living in the twilight zone when other americans expect that someone in my position as a Jew, a lesbian, and a woman, would just naturally be on a campaign against Israel right now in favor of uplifting the Islamic Republic and its various terrorist proxies who would love to eliminate all Jews, gays & lesbians, & subject all girls and women to unspeakably brutal forms of oppression...do they think I have a death wish and also a deep hate for everyone remotely like me?

And these are the same groups of americans who pride themelves on their sensitivity to identity politics down to the level of caring about the subtlest of microaggressions??

Chaverim, I simply cannot get my mind around this shit.

[crazycatsiren]

How the hell did we go from "men and women are equal as human beings therefore we should be treated equally and we deserve equal opportunities" to "trans people are a danger to society".

[paperlunamoth]

Friendly reminder that if you ever use the words "bitch," "cunt," or "whore" as an insult, for any reason, at any time, in any context, you are a misogynist.

Feminists don't think that using misogynistic slurs suddenly becomes not-sexist if you don't like the women you're directing said misogynist slurs towards. That's what misogynists think.

[actualadvocacybruh]

you're not a feminist

I am … you just don’t know what that word means

It doesn’t mean “agree with all women even if they are racist homophobic psychopaths”

It means you want equality and the end of patriarchy in society as it harms women and violates their rights

You would suck the cock of the patriarchy if it means you can see a gay or trans person be whipped for the horrific crime of being the icky gay

Just look around at your “feminist” movement right now it’s filled with pedos, racists and reactionary politicians that push for misogynistic policies under the pretense of “protecting women from the LGBTQ agenda”

[marysbrighteststar]

WHEN 👏 WILL 👏 PREGNANCY 👏 NOT 👏 BE 👏 SEXUALIZED

[bisexualseraphim]

tell me jk rowling’s transphobic tweets, using her own words.

What I’ve learned from this past week is that a person can literally say “I think [X group] should be eradicated from the world,” and when you respond telling them that that’s a really fucked up and bigoted thing to say, they’ll repeatedly respond with “no it isn’t. How is it bigoted to say that lol I’m just speaking the truth,” much like a 7 year old who’s too stubborn to admit the Tooth Fairy isn’t real even when he’s seen his own mother put the money under his pillow. Nothing you say will ever convince them until they learn to pull their own heads out of their arseholes.

Therefore, I will refer you to — oh who am I kidding, you’re not going to read or watch anything I link you. I will refer MY FOLLOWERS and anyone else who sees this post to timestamp 41:00 of Contrapoints’ brilliantly crafted video essay on JKR and her transphobia — and that of her rabid fucking fanatics like you. I think she puts it perfectly well.

[chronic-high-achiever]

I will never not find it so funny how fucking downhill all of the Christian nationalists are going in America.

I’m literally fucking Pagan, and I know more about the main dude of your silly little book than you do.

He promoted loving those who need it, helping the helpless and giving voices to the voiceless. He promoted loving one another despite differences.

As far as I’m aware he said fuck all about killing or otherwise harming the LGBT+, black, immigrant, homeless, poor, women, those who have abortions, and all the other people that Christian Americans are trying to squash out of their society. In fact, from what I believe Christianity is meant to represent, he would have loved them the most. Or rather, the same as everyone else. It’s so wild because I’ve genuinely been thinking, and I truly believe that I might have been Christian if they actually followed the values set by the Bible. But instead, it’s because this horrible bastardised gentrified cherry-picked version that only intends to support cis straight white men. Sad, really.

But again, I’m pagan, so what do I know.

[angelellipsis-devilofdots]

the dumbest points ive seen from terfs and radfems that do nothing except make this movement look ridiculous:

trans men are misogynistic gender traitors who become men because they hate women and want to be privileged. they will DEFINITELY never experience oppression for their intersectionality at all! they will never be the victims of transandrophobia and lingering misogyny. because ALL MEN live easily, duh

it's okay to sexualize transmascs and then see them as innocent little girls who were manipulated into hating themselves for being women

sex involving kink between consenting adults is ALWAYS bad and is NEVER excusable even though both/all people involved EXPLICITY and ENTHUSIASTICALLY consent to said kinky sex

all men are automatically disgusting and evil, and masculinity is inherently gross and negative (even when it is healthy masculinity and NOT the toxic and fragile kind!)

taking testosterone hrt will not make you a man, but if you were born with a vagina, are raised female, identify and live as a woman, and then find out later in life that you have a higher testosterone level than the average cis woman, you are indisputably a man

top surgery is misogyny because it mutilates the breasts of innocent women. it definitely isn't actually a life-saving gender-affirming surgery that is completely consensual and something that people work hard to receive access to and is proven to be a procedure that statistically has a <1% regret rate

if you feel sexual attraction or kinks you're a pervert with unresolved trauma and you just want to sexualize yourself. but also asexuals are all just confused teenagers who want to be special and sex is what makes us human or something

becoming the oppressor is absolutely a valid form of liberation! it is in fact okay to commit violent acts against cis men and transgender people! it definitely IS some kind of salvation and ISN'T some kind of fucking petty form of hatred that could traumatize future generations

all cis women should feel threatened and endangered by the fact that a woman with a penis exists in the same space as them

if cis women want to be happy they cannot get a husband. marriage to a man is an act of self hatred and they will regret it forever and it is internalized misogyny. (unfortunately this is a real thing i've seen terfs and rads say. i wish i was making this up)

seriously. why are some people still listening to these idiots.

[ratttoro]

true feminism will continue to include trans women and women of colour rather you like it or not btw

there will always be people advocating and fighting for those you don’t think deserve it btw

you can’t erase years of history and actual science just because you don’t like it btw

your transphobia won’t stop people from transitioning btw

[questionablequeeries]

This is honestly the funniest bullshit I’ve ever seen. How many times have TERFs told me to kill myself because of my post or tried to invalidate my gender despite me being literally a cis woman? How many times have they harassed trans people to the point that trans people fear for their lives? And guess what? There’s no anon button that helps them feel safe in real life when TERFs decide to start spewing their toxic, misogynistic hate.

‘Oh, no, someone told me they wanna kill all TERFs! :(‘ Yeah, well, people tend to hate bigots, and it’s easy to play nice when you’re not the minority being accosted. Proud Boys are also pretty decent to other Proud Boys and Nazis are real sweethearts to other Nazis, but maybe pay attention to the way they treat the oppressed.

[minyoongishair]

Y’all are so fucking weak oh my god

[actualadvocacybruh]

Not that it’s ever particularly meaningful when a man calls himself a feminist, but why do you have that word in your bio when it seems like all you do on here is call women Karens and defend porn? I’m dying to know what your definition of feminism is

This is why rad feminism is fundamentally a false ideology just like anarcho-capitalism

They just saw the word and went “yeah that makes sense I don’t need to think about it more than aesthetically”

I’m an actual feminist cause I fight for women’s rights and equality … you are a fascist that simps for the patriarchy when they oppress someone you don’t like while also demanding every “male” bow to your will and wants cause you believe they are lesser than you just for having a cock

We are literally not the same ….

[neccturtle]

“that doesn’t exclude someone”

is something too many people skip over.

I bring a “there’s no meaningful difference between men and women that doesn’t exclude someone” to the function that gender essentialists hate

[bisexualseraphim]

the number of female sex offenders in British jails is 6%. The number of transwoman sex offenders is 47%. Why do you think that female prisoners safety is worth less then gender affirmation of a rapist?

PAHAHAHA THIS IS THE MOST FALSE STATISTIC I’VE EVER SEEN ARE YOU 9 YEARS OLD

I feel like I don’t even need to disprove this since anyone with half a brain cell would read that and point and laugh but fine. I’ll humour you.

According to the UK government, as of March 2022 (as this is the most recent reliable study I can find on the subject) there are only 230 transgender people in prison in the UK, with 168 of those identifying as trans women. This is compared to, according to the 2021 Census for England and Wales, around 262,000 transgender people in the total English and Welsh population of 59.6 million. (I could not find a reliable statistic for Scotland since they don’t have a Census, but the estimated transgender population is thought to be 0.5%, which would add up as around 24,000 Scottish people. Finding a reliable statistic for Northern Ireland is even more impossible but the estimated amount is 0.1%, which would add up to only 1885 people as of 2019.) Of those 168 trans women, only 6 were placed in female prisons — female prisons hold around 4% of the total UK prison population, adding up to around 3150 women. So 6 out of 3150 adds up to around 0.19% of the total female prison population in the UK.

According to the same study, as well as one done the year before in September 2021 (since the statistics did not increase significantly during those 6 months), there are estimated to be around 65,000 sentenced prisoners (if you include remand the number is around 79,800) in the UK, about 14,000 of which are sentenced sex offenders. Immediate custodial sentenced sex offenders make up around 11,900 of that.

So. We don’t know exactly how many trans people, particularly trans women, are in prison specifically for sexual offences. However, even so, neither 230 nor 168 are anywhere near 47% of 11,900, 14,000, 65,000 or 79,800. In fact, just to recap and tie this all up, the maths shows that transgender people make up a measly 0.29% of the total prison population, with trans women specifically adding up to 0.21% — and only 6 of those being placed into female prisons, meaning trans women make up a microscopic 0.19% of the total female prison population in the UK. All of this adds up to an even smaller amount than the 4% of total female prisoners and even that 6% statistic you just gave me of (cis) female sex offenders in prison, anon. Funny, that. Reckon your maths needs some work, eh?

Bro thought they could just dump a completely made up statistic in my ask box and I’d just take it 💀 Clown