#acceptance therapy

[ghostlyschizophrenic]

treatment for ocd is such bullshit what do you mean i have to sit with it??? and what do you mean that’s actually how that works??? i’ll try to distract myself or do other things but i can’t because my brain is on fire and apparently i have to be like well ill just sit in the flames until it goes out… and then it does. like a 45 minute youtube video about the history of the omegaverse wont do shit but sitting down for ten minutes to focus on my breathing and reality checking what i can and can’t control and having an inner mantra to focus on and accepting what is and isn’t possible is apparently the only way i can get to sleep after hours of rumination it’s bullshit i tell you absolute bullshit

[greetings-inferiors]

The "big three"'s opinions about trans people:

Drake: Doesn't see trans men as men, so uses being less masculine than a trans man as an insult (family matters)

J Cole: Only sees people as walking genitals, so says no matter how much a trans man says he's a man, he still has a vagina so his manhood is invalid (Pi)

Kendrick Lamar: We as a culture see femininity as a weakness, which is a big problem, because it leads to us welcoming trans men and shunning trans women. If a trans woman says she's a woman, why shouldn't I believe her. If a trans man says he's a man, why shouldn't I believe him. I've lived around trans people nearly all my life and they are some of the most important people in my life. When people use religion to justify their hatred towards trans people, I speak up in defence of my trans siblings, humanity is more important than religion. I also recognise that I've not been a perfect ally all my life, I've made jokes and used slurs that I didn't realise the harm of, and this realisation will lead to the emotional climax of my album (auntie diaries)

Can you tell which one is my favourite?

[haleyincarnate]

Reminder to be gentle with yourself today. You are living and loving the best you can in the position you're currently in. Rest when you need. Tuck yourself in at night. Keep doing what you can.

[arbuzyansky]

So I have a small collection of sketches with me and Beetlejuice 🥀

[erinwantstowrite]

wdym bruce’s new love interest is his parents’ killer’s daughter nah they better bring back selina

how unoriginal do they have to be to continue to bring out characters that are secretly tied to the murderers of their parents. like how many fucking characters were at the circus that night the Graysons were murdered??? and doesn't Dick have a sister that was Zucco's daughter FOR SOME FUCKING REASON???? and now this??? BE ORIGINAL DEAR GOD. if i have to read Bruce dating anyone but Selina (or my headcanon ships) then give me a new character that isn't tied to all of that? I think it'd be interesting if Bruce dated a civilian that he (and everyone else) expected to last like 3 weeks at most but Bruce actually ends up liking them a lot and they stick around a few months before everyone is like "Wait Bruce what????? what???" and Bruce is like "I don't know they're nice..." Even better if this civilian doesn't have any twists like "and they were a new villain all along!" shit I mean I want a completely regular person who is clever enough to keep up with Bruce and the others for the most part, but doesn't get involved in the Batman stuff (though they do figure it out eventually). i think it'd be an interesting dynamic that i don't believe Bruce has been put in yet

[frankiebirds]

do you ever think that the reason hotch is so willing to accept affection from garcia when he isn’t from the rest of the team is at least partially because receiving affection from garcia doesn’t force him to admit he is a person worthy of affection. because garcia is just Like That. when other people show affection towards him he bristles because he believes deep down that he is a bad person unworthy of love, but when garcia shows him affection, he can justify to himself that garcia is only affectionate towards him because she’s affectionate to everyone, not because he’s particularly deserving. weirdly, he accepts it because he can reject it. haha. i do.

[inkyrainstorms]

thinking about how bill gave up the game as soon as Ford confronted him, despite keeping up the con for 2 years STRAIGHT. it feels so foolish, so… counterproductive. why would you ever want the guy you need to open the portal to hate you, to work against you?

but of course, why would you hide if there’s nothing to hide from? Bill is always, always running from his own atrocities by pretending that they’re not actually terrible, that he can’t be held accountable, and then he hides his crimes behind other things he can accept as reality.

Bill has nothing to hide.

Bill didn’t murder all of Eucyldia, that’s be absurd. he liberated them.

bill isn’t manipulating the shit out of someone he cares about, someone who cares about him, whatever could you mean? look, he’s laying the truth out in front of his pawn friend, plain for anyone to see. Bills a bad person, see? Bill isn’t hiding anything. Ford should hate him.

Bill doesn’t show real weakness because that means he’d have to admit to himself that he can BE weak. He doesn’t miss Eucyldia, he says. He was always using Ford, never felt anything but indifference to him. of course.

[fyeaheddiemunson]

This is Eddie Munson:

This is Joseph Quinn:

This is Eddie Munson:

This is Joseph Quinn:

This is Eddie Munson:

This is Joseph Quinn:

This is Eddie Munson:

This is Joseph Quinn:

This is Eddie Munson:

This is Joseph Quinn:

If at any point you were unable to distinguish the difference between the actor and the character they portrayed in a fictional tv show, I would like to congratulate you on being the actual problematic one and not the actor. Joseph is not Eddie Munson IRL. It's sad that I actually had to type that. Stop complaining and whining about things that aren't actually problematic and don't affect you or your existence. If your feelings are hurt or you feel "betrayed" I'm embarrassed for you. Grow up. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 273

You know what? We need more Good parents Fentons. 

And you know what else? Technically, Jack helped Danny defeat Pariah via the use of the Ecto-Skeleton. And like, that’s his son, his baby boy. Sure Danny is and has always been a mommy’s boy, but it doesn’t change that fact. They’re both already feeling horrible about the fact they could have hurt him, they could have hurt their son- they have hurt their son, killed him with their inaction and never again. 

So when these oversized jello-eyeballs try to insist that their baby, their precious baby boy, take a crown? Become a king when he’s not even out of highschool, when he doesn’t want it? No. Hell no! That is his Danny-o, his baby boy who was terrified of his own parents! 

Which is how Jack, despite technically still being alive even if so-very ecto-contaminated, became the Ghost King. 

And for some reason there’s several ghosts rather happy about this- oh, these are his Danny-O’s ghost-parents? Not-ghost parents seeing as some of them have never been anything but a realm denizen? That’s really fascinating- y’know what, want some fudge and we can exchange childcare- Maddie dear come over and meet our co-parents apparently!  

Now it’s not all easy, but they’re trying their best, and that’s all that can be asked. 

…

Which is perhaps why it’s so exasperating- or as Maddie would put it, downright infuriating- that it is now, almost an entire year and a half later that the Heroes finally arrive to investigate. Well, at least he has plenty of fudge since it’s almost time for the council meeting. 

[srslylini]

I have some thoughts about the idea of forgiveness and moving on we see in media and fans. The thoughts mostly come from being in therapy and spending time with people who specialize in those fields and helped me come to terms with my own pain.

This can very well be taken in general but is mostly about Vi.

Right. So.

Vi is a genuinely interesting character, who has gone through hell and back to put it lightly. She lives in conditions in the undercity that has people who don't live in them wear masks to handle them. She grew up and saw her parents die, which means she had to step up. Vander did adopt her, her sister, Mylo and Claggor but Vander still put a lot of responsibilities on Vi. She was told she cannot be selfish when people look up to her.

Then, of course, the entire act 1 of season 1 happens, which in itself is already very much and not something that should have ever happened to anyone, let alone a kid/teenager. She then, on TOP of all of this, got thrown into Stillwater after seeing her entire family die (and presumed Powder also as dead, although she continued to hope), where she was canonically beaten, starved, put into isolation and... the rest is up to interpretation because I guess the writers did not care. But that interpretation is not a good one.

What I am trying to say with all of this is that Vi has been put through so much by the system and by people (Enforcers get a special mention here) all around her.

This gets me to the point. I see a lot of people, the writers themself even, talk about how Vi needs to (or already did) forgive and move on. And I just wonder where this idea comes from?

In all my time in therapy, no matter what and who I talked about, you know what I have never heard? That I need to forgive.

What I heard instead was rather close to this:

"What happened was not your fault. It happened and can't be changed. But there is still something you can do, because you stand here now. You can imagine yourself back then and guide yourself. Hold yourself and tell the younger version of you that what happened isn't ever going to be fine but that you are still here and that you need to be kind to yourself." She told me "take the hand of your younger version and walk her through it because in the end it will have always happened but you can choose to help yourself"

There is a lot more she told me, but that is between her and me. What I am trying to say with this is that not once did I ever get told that I need to forgive the people involved. I am also not trying to say that doing this works for everyone, because health does not work this way. The point I am making is that I find it incredibly weird that we came to the point of saying that the only way to let go is to forgive, when that could not be further from the truth.

I would say understanding it happened and being kind to yourself does a lot more than trying to forgive people who hurt you so much that it ends in you being broken to what seems beyond repair (it isn't I have learned that much, lol). That's what my therapist taught me.

Which brings me back to Vi and why I find the notion of "she needs to forgive and move on to get better" or the writers writing "she forgave and moved on" so weird.

What happened to her is not something that can be forgiven. And... that is okay. Or it should be okay. But for some reason it isn't?

I mean if you can and want to forgive that is for you to do but to say that it is a (or even THE) way to move on does not sit right with me. At all.

[mutantfactor]

Fangs of Fortune | Zhuo Yichen & Zhao Yuanzhou 𓆩 .˚⋆ Darkest Night ⋆˚. 𓆪

[beccawise7]

Reflection.

Acceptance.

Peace. ✌️

~beccawise7💜🖤

🎵🎶 ~ The Moment I Knew ~T.S.

[haleyincarnate]

In every ending there is a beginning I am willing to chase. In every beginning there is the fear of it all coming to an end.

Give yourself the time to mourn what was and then allow yourself to feel the bliss of starting anew.

[r4phel]

Don't ask me, just accept.

I don't know, I'm depressed and I distract myself by drawing.

[nonbinaryeye]

Durgetash with redemption arc never works for me. Especially resisting Durge trying to redeem Gortash. And it's not even because I don't believe that one can write plausible redemption arc while staying true to their character. But the presence of it, the motivation for it, it just removes one of the main appeals of the ship for me.

Because I love durgetash because of the trope of "I love you the way you are, not despite of it! I don't have to look past anything to love, I'm fully accepting you." and it work both ways, it's two terrible evil people with deep admiration for each other, that's the appeal of the ship for me.

I'm just not particularly interested in any "I can fix you" narrative. Because resist!Durge trying to make Gortash better is just "I think I still feel something towards you and so I'm going to change you to what I now perceive to be the good and correct way to see the world and behave." Which might objectively be a good thing but it takes away the initial appeal for me.

[nothing0fnothing]

hey I have some lived experience personal care advice I had to learn the hard way in my adulthood after growing up with abusive neglectful narcissistic parents. Maybe it will help someone else.

The most important room in your house to be clean is your kitchen. If you only have a few spoons and a whole house of mess, spend them on getting your kitchen clean, hygienic and tidy enough to be usable.

spending money on things that last longer or work better isn't a waste of money. You don't have to use the cheapest of everything because spending is bad work out what YOU think is worth splurging on.

Always buy the best shoes you can afford. Taking care of your feet is so important for your health. If you're afab the same goes for underwear, buying one pack of good quality, good fitting cotton breathable underwear will save you so much money on feminine care supplies if you get what I'm saying.

Get your feet measured in a shoe store. Especially if you're over 25 your feet will have grown since you were 18. I spent years thinking my body was wrong because my feet ALWAYS hurt. My girlfriend suggested we measure them and I realised I was in shoes two sizes too small. For years!! I didn't even know shoes were supposed to have space in them.

a cheap bottle of washing up liquid (dish soap) costs like £1 and can be used on basically every surface. Clean your counters, toilet, sinks, bathtub or shower, oven and hob with a scrub daddy and some cheap washing up liquid. It doesn't react with other chemicals and it cleans deeply and easily. I even use it on the inside of the shower glass where it collects that crusty water residue.

When bathing with an unscented bar soap everywhere first. Then wash a second time with your scented soap. The scented liquid soap isn't designed to clean you it's designed to make you smell beautiful.

Don't use scented soaps on your kitty. Don't use femfresh or other feminine washes on your kitty. Don't use feminine wipes on your kitty. You use your unscented bar soap you use on the rest of your bodh on your kitty once a day. That's all it needs.

You don't need sewing skills to mend things. A £5 sewing kit you keep somewhere in your house and maybe a 2 minute YouTube tutorial is all you need to fix holes in your clothes and make them last longer.

Cereal for breakfast is quick and convenient but aim to eat protein for your first meal. Things like eggs, meat, a protein shake, Greek yogurt. You'll feel fuller for longer and your body will appreciate it.

most things don't need to be ironed. For the things that need creases out a steamer is better for the fibres and easier to use. Simply hang up the item and hold the steamer against the creases.