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bixels · 5 months

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The idea that uni protesters are "elitist ivy-league rich kids larping as revolutionaries" on Twitter and Reddit and even here is so fucking funny to me if you actually know anything about the student bodies at these unis. Take it from someone who's going to one of the biggest private unis in the US, 80% of the peers I know are either from the suburbs or an apartment somewhere in America, children of immigrants, or here on a student visa. I've heard about one-percenter students, but I've never met one in person. Like, don't get me wrong, the institution as a whole is still very privileged and white. I've talked with friends and classmates about feeling weird or dissonant being here and coming from such a different background. But in my art program, I see BIPOC, disabled, queer, lower-income students and faculty trying to deconstruct and tear that down and make space every day. So to take a cursory glance at a crowd of student protesters in coalitions that are led by BIPOC & 1st/2nd-gen immigrant students and HQ'd in ethnic housings and student organizations and say, "ah. children of the elite." Get real.

#also idk how to tell you this but even if it were true. wealthy children potentially sacrificing their educational careers to protest is #a good thing actually. idk how to tell you that caring about people from other nations is good #personal #“this war has nothing to do with most students cuz nobody's getting drafted” idk how to explain to you that we should be angry #that our tuitions of 10s of thousands of dollars that we pay every year for an education is being used to fund a genocidal campaign #also the implication that if you go to a uni institution you are automatically privileged by participation no matter your bg #i didn't /want/ to go to this school. i was supposed to go to a school with an art/animation program. but i realized my immigrant #parents have been working their whole lives to get me here. and turning the opportunity down would be a disservice to their sacrifice #this is getting into convos of “what 2nd gen kids owe their parents” which is different for everyone but. yeah #i just get pissed off at seeing people misrepresenting student bodies as “wealthy” and “privileged” and “elite” when it's such a blatant li #i remember a year ago a friend told me they can't fly home to hong kong for winter break because the plane tickets are too expensive #so they have to find temporary housing around the area #last quarter for a film doc class my film partner made a doc on a small group of marxist grad students from india discussing praxis #during a rally a few months ago in response to police presence the coalition invited palestinian students to speak about their experiences #and lead songs and read poems they wrote. these are STUDENTS. are they elitist too?#this is not to disregard my own personal privilege either.#this whole narrative's just to rationalize a lack of empathy to me. seeing a 19yo student get shot by a rubber bullet and your first #reaction is “HAW! HAW! bet richy rich didn't see THAT coming when she put on her terrorist hood!”#newsflash. these big uni campuses are HAUNTED by the violence of past protests and revolutions and police brutality. we know.#why do you think these coalitions have been making reinforced barricades at record speed

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worstloki · 11 months

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Loki telling the Avengers he's never had a family before them all and Thor is sitting in the back of the room spitting out his coffee sobbing crying he feels sick to his stomach

#Thor like THEN WHAT AM I????#Loki like YOU'RE LIVING HERE TOO WHAT"S THE PROBLEM????#Thor like you very much had a family you have a family what was Asgard to you the past millennia and a half #Loki like um a fake family i thought we went over that when it was clear they lied to me (and you) our entire lives ?#Thor should feel sick about it actually #I don't think Thor ever Got the fact that if Loki was being disowned/separating himself from the family that includes. their parents.#i don't think he comprehended that if Loki doesn't consider them his parents anymore he wouldn't consider them his parents anymore #i think Thor just assumes it's symbolic or something or that inevitably Loki will get over it and come back btw #i think that should happen if post-Avengers 1 Loki is banished to Earth #and I think Thor should actually be upset and feel sick aobut it #i think Thor didn't understand that being lied to hurt Loki even when he watched Loki let go on the bifrost

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anonymergremlin · 1 month

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P is a good boi. He really is. But he is still Geppetto's son, he still is Carlo brothers. So I wondered. If 'Rise of P' boi ever gets scared about how much he comes after this father?. Could he ever become so neglecting, could he ever become so controlling and could he ever end up sacrificing someone for someone else? He knows he is his own person, he believes he is good. But still...

He is Geppetto's son.

#lies of p #lies of p p #lies of p gepetto #thought #i guess not everybody has such thoughts #but sometimes i think about how our parents can influence so much #that we end up just like them

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masked-alien-lesbian · 11 months

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So elves physically and mentally age slower than the other races. We may look like we're in our 20s but we HAVE to be at least in our 40s if not 50s. It's canon we were old enough to remember our biological parents when we were adopted, and Nia just confirmed that mc aged slower than Kade but Kade looks like he's in his 20s so we had to be a lot older than him for us to look like we're in our 20s next to Kade otherwise by the time mc physically looked 20, Kade would be middle aged, so we HAD to be a lot older than we looked when adopted and being raised with Kade.

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aspenstarflare · 1 year

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Tales of the Jedi Ahsoka looks so freaking cool and I can’t help drawing Ahsoka because SHE ALWAYS LOOKS SO FREAKING COOL

#ahsoka tano #clone wars #tales of the jedi #clone wars fanart #tales of the jedi fanart #ahsoka tano fanart #tales of the jedi - practice makes perfect #anakin and ahsoka #anakin’s grade a parenting #i do not do ahsoka justice with my drawings but I can’t help drawing her #stop looking so freaking cool ahsoka #(i lied please keep looking cool ahsoka)#we love our child soilder who had to become op through difficult training to survive all the truama #my hand hurts from re-sharpening my color pencils over and over again

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duahauuoplanh · 1 year

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the problem of a child that has never been loved properly, is that we don't know what to do when our parents show us their little love and our heart just keeps breaking.

#you can feel his heart had skipped a beat #he doesn't know what to do with this abnormal care his parent just gave him #we just pretend we don't need our parents' love but we do #lies that our defense system tells us everyday so we don't fall into pieces #but perhaps our parents have their reasons #perhaps they are still kids themselves that got hurt from their parents too #when it comes to trauma I think we are all the same.#we're all survivors after all #this drama has brought me laughter but also leave some bitterness in my mouth #Junho #Lee Junho #It’s Junho’s season now #King the Land #2pm #series of things that went straight to my heart and never leave #I put my heart into every gifset I’ve made #always next to Junho

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aroacesigma · 25 days

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i cant fucking stand her oh my GOD

#ramblings #i cleaned up the entire fucking kitchen while shes eating her dinner that we were suppoed to do together #and she promises. she PROMISES that she will clean up the TINY FUCKING PILE of things that i left for her to do #literally like 5 things #she cleans up one of them #and then makes more of a mess.#that i have to clean up.#and then when i ask her why she didnt i wasnt even rude #she acts like its my fault. and im the bad person #and shes so fucking condescnedngin oh my god she acts exactly like every bully ive ever fucking had #and then lies to our dad that she totally definitely cleaned it up 🥰as i am in the middle of cleaning it up #will i get an apology? hell the fuck no!! but she ill probably knock on my door in 5 minues to tell me about her FUCKING ice skating #I DONT GIVE A FUCK OH MY GOD #this seems so petty but its stuff like this every day #you guys dont udnerstand the way she talks to me #the way she acts #she wont touch anything ive touched she looks at me like im disgusting #im not disgusting am i disgusting i swear im not #ive asked my parents ive asked my friends they say im not gross and dusgusting and unheygenic what am i donig wrong why does she think this #whywhwywhwywhwywhwy #why does she hate me so much #i hate myself so much #every time i interact with her it makes me hate myself

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shannaniganss · 2 months

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When my sister told me she was going to be in a NYT article I didn’t think it would impact me on tumblr and now I keep seeing critiques of it and I have to grit my teeth and remind myself that they are not coming after my sister but the way the article was written but at the same time!! You better believe that if they didn’t reach out to our parents and allow them to speak on the matter, my mother would have rained hellfire upon that article. And upon me as well for not telling her it was going to happen. I had mental breakdowns leading up to the publication and then I saw the publication and was like. Oh. Yeah. She just lies. And yeah that sucks and is fucking with me right now. But like. I still understand why they asked her for comment. And yeah I would have wanted the article written differently but like. Idk it makes me upset that people seem more upset than I am and my family is actually in the article. And maybe that’s because I feel stuck and I wish I could be like my sister and escape but I am still enmeshed in my parents life bc I am less than an hour away and they still financially help me and it’s like. Am I an ungrateful bitch? Or am I a traitor to my sister? And now every time I see the article on my dash I get dealt psychic damage and have the urge to defend my sister even though no one is attacking her. And so I’m a tangled knot of emotions, emotions I was taught to suppress and bury, and yeah. Idk. I felt the urge to vent.

#like I’m so proud of my sister for talking about it #when all our lives we were told NEVER to talk about family matters #and so this was a huge thing for her #so it’s hard for my silly little brain to see the article not well received #even though that isn’t my sisters fault #also #part of me wanted to reach out to the author after it was published #and be like #yeah my mom lied #two against one bitch #but alas #my mother knows where I live #also cut offs are extremely hard #yeah they abused you but they are still your parents #and part of the issue is that the abuse had moments of calm #moments of kindness #where she would defend us and help us #but she still hurt us #and we don’t want to hurt her #we just want to get better #and I’m trying to get better without having to cut her off #because the possibility that she will kill herself is high if I leave #I just have a lot of feelings #personal

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gay-impressionist · 1 year

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having the same conversation over and over the years with my parents "you and your sister don't really talk about your life" "it's because you don't want to hear about it. you can barely remember the names of my 10+ years friends who i go on holidays with every year" "that's because we don't want to intrude" "but my friends are the most important part of my life. yet you haven't even met them" "we could have" "you're introverts who didn't like when i invited people after i got out of primary school. and the few times you got home when they were here, you immediately went to your bedroom" "to give you privacy" "you could have stayed and chatted a bit" "i would have hated it if my mother had done that." "i understand where you're coming from. i don't mean stick around for hours, just a bit. i know all my best friends's parents. but no one knows mine. and when i tell you about my friends, i can see it flying over your heads. i'm a chatterbox so i still talk about them but it does hurt when i can sense you don't care. maybe that's why [sister] doesn't talk about her life. or maybe she's just like dad. you have to probe them if you want an answer over three words." etc etc

it's like going around in circles. and yet this week i had my mom on the phone every day. we talk. and yet we don't. and i've long accepted that is what it is.

#it's not something we regularly talk about #but a few times #and it's always the same #reminds of when i was 17 and a friend invited me to go on holidays with her parents for a week #said my mother could call her parents #but my mother told me i could and that she didn't have to call #my friend's parents still called her bc they couldn't understand that my mother would let their daughter go on holidays #with someone they never met and with parents they never met #truth is i've been going on holidays for years with friends and i could have 100% lied about it #my mom never asks questions. and that's bc she trusts me. but it also hurts #my parents love me and know me by heart. but they also don't know me at all in some ways.#and it hurt me a lot growing up #it always will #but i've accepted it's how they are #we never talk about feelings about friends about relationships about what hurts #i've never confided in them #or even my sister tbh #that's just how our family is #and even when it doesn't satisfy us we don't find ways to change #like an irrevocable truth. we don't talk about intimate things. we unhealthy criticize each other about what we eat.#my mother doesn't understand my and my father's anxiety. my sister is late. my father works too much.#we send stuff on our groupchat and no one reacts besides an emoji or a few meaningless words. and repeat #and repeat #lise raconte sa vie

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sab-teraa · 7 months

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#tye talks #my parents are genuinely just so fucking frustrating #they really don’t know me a single bit #after all this … they think I’m upset about money?#firstly I make my own money #second I’m sick of my mother trying to isolate us from everyone #that’s where my issue lies #and refuses to let us interact with any of our family members … both sides #and goes onto lie to them that we have no interest in associated with them etc.#my brother and I literally have no family other than each other … bc my mother makes our lives hell if we do so #and what makes it extra annoying is not that she’s tryna protect us or whatever #it’s the fact that she interacts with them perfectly fine and goes to all events etc. while lying to them that my brother and I are too #friend orientated too care about family #the worst one ever was when she lied that I’m too sick to go to my grans party and my dad left without me … my gran died a few weeks later #I’ll never forgive for that #and she causes drama if we date too #it clearly stems from the fact that both my brother and I are older and don’t need her as much #and she resents the fact that she sacrificed her career etc to be a stay at home parent #so now she wants us to have no relations with anyone other than her #I moved out forever ago and she tries to control everything #from what I wear to what I eat to what time I come home #and the most frustrating part is her going on on about how I should have become a lawyer etc.#stop trying to live your dreams through me !!!!#anyway im over it #I’ve offically decided to distance myself from everyone bc that’s what they wanted #so I will interact with absolutely no one #including my brother #like? I live ten hours away from them and still refuse to let me breathe

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4thbrighteststar · 2 years

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#no wait listen to me. listen to me #im south asian. my grandparents were muslim. my great aunt and uncle and their children and my parents siblings are all muslim #my parents aren't. they raised us without any religion. without even our national cultural ceremonies tied to islam #dont let yourself believe for a fucking second that has nothing to do 9/11 happening two years before i was born. two years before we moved #im south asian. my dad's first name is mohammed. when we catch a flight we get to the airport two hours earlier-#to account for the time it'll take my dad to be 'routinely stopped and searched' by airport security #routinely is right lmfao. it happens every time we fly #last time i was on an american airlines flight our checked luggage ended up across the continent and took two days to get to us #(my 12yo cousin gifted us an alarm clock that made an ominous ticking noise and we couldn't shut it the fuck up-#the luggage was labeled mohammed and coming from south asia. my sibling jokes it's a wonder we got it back)#im canadian. i cried my ass off to cfa tonight bc of how touching the story of a small town coming together to help a group of strangers is #(can't help thinking that never would've happened in a bigger city? but thereby lies another tale)#and god normally i hate 9/11 stories bc it feels like two sides of my identity being pitted against each other and it makes me so uncomfy #like as a canadian i should be sympathetic towards the states and at the same time im viscerally aware of the lasting prejudiced impacts #but cfa did it so beautifully #will never get over the 'thorough search' scene. 'you will never understand'.#the lump in my throat i get every time I watch my normally distinguished and tough and coolheaded father be pushed through airport security #how resigned he is to it. how he tries to stay dignified. how scared my mom gets every time. how rough they are with him #when he usually commands respect #and yet also the pride and the lump in my throat i got today knowing it was a little canadian town that made a difference #sigh enough out of me i just have a lot of feelings #come from away #team screams

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hummingbirdsinjune · 2 years

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Alexa, play Teenage Dream by Katy Perry

#come on didn't we all gay sleep overs with our crushes #and didn't want our parents to know #moonlight chicken #li ming x heart #fourth nattawat #gemini norawit

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daz4i · 1 year

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ik strengthening the separation between right and left is what our shitty far right government wants but truly everything they do makes me even more of a leftist every day

#also reading abt shit from the past that i didn't know about bc our media actively suppresses it despite being considered leftist too #schools too. obviously. lots of propaganda #i do think ppl in other countries don't know the full extent of the situation. but like. we don't either #and when i tell my parents for example my dad immediately starts yelling it's all lies even when i bring up official sources #bc it's so ingrained in the older generation to blindly support the country. and like. i know why!#my dad's parents were holocaust survivors so ofc he'd blindly trust the country's history when they would've died otherwise!#but this is ignoring the more recent stuff in favor of that historic image that helped #...man i wanna move to another country. I'm also just. scared. not just by our government but wars too #it's no wonder everyone in this country has ptsd and/or anxiety 😭😭😭 we can't rest for a moment there's always gotta be Something #vent #a political vent oof.. sorry #the situation here is. not good to say the least ajskflh

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rackartyg · 1 year

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lov it when you tell your therapist a story about your childhood and she goes ‘that’s, uh, that’s neglect’

cool!

#my parents hated how i was drawn to computers and video games #and when i was a little kid they would often tell me that i would end up nearsighted like them and need glasses (which was implied to be #the worst fate in the world) if i didn’t go outside and play more #they neglected to factor in that our neighbours were my bullies and i had no friends with which to play outside #anyway this instilled so much shame in me that when i started not being able to see at like age 9 i said nothing for an entire year #the next summer we visited a ren faire and there was this man who sold gorgeous handmade bows and i fell in love #i wanted one desperately but they cost 2k and that was literally all my money at the time #so we left so i could think about it which ended with me sitting in a gutter crying with stress about it. and i didn’t get one #but when we got home my dad took me to the local archery club and i got to try it #but since i’m right handed i need to aim with my right eye and it’s my right eye that’s the problem #so i literally couldn’t see the target. but i couldn’t tell my dad this because i was so ashamed #so i lied and said i didn’t want to keep doing it #eventually my parents did realise i couldn’t see ans brought me to the eye doctor #who uncovered that really it was my right eye that was nearsighted and my left had started going too from #the strain of compensating #and that i had a lazy eye because of #it too #he asked my dad how long i’d had the lazy eye and he said ‘about a year i think?’#and the doctor said incredulous ‘and you’re only #bringing her in *now*?’#my right eye was actually squeezed close during labour and didn’t open until #i was a week old. which is probably the reason it can’t see very well #what happened around age 9 was that my left gave out from compensating #anyway that’s the horrifying story of how i got glasses. tune in next time #for part 2 - asthma and part 3 - the blood clot #she speaks #bad brains blogging #familyposting

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spineless-lobster · 1 year

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#I’m so fucking pissed at my parents right now why the fuck would we bring people into our house when they lied to us #and made our lives a living hell last time?#why won’t my father understand that sharing dna means nothing if you’re a piece of shit? why did my mother relent #despite promising that this would never happen again?#why didn’t they consider how my brother and I felt about this? why didn’t they ask us?#did we fucking learn anything from last time?#why can’t I ever say no #sorry for the vent I just fucking hate my parents rn

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xx-hail2theking-xx · 1 year

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'It' being the void.

The system just, 'says' thing about running, about offering to end the program, failing to find things, or in one case, about Lucifer being unconscious when I tried to teleport him, and asking I still wanted to attempt it. But you were there for that one, so...

Anyway. No. The void woke, and talked to us.

oh, good. the system isn't supposed to be sentient.

you told me about the void.

#...and...#how my parent lied to me.#chrono #what if we lost our minds - raum

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