#Victim blamer of a child

[irithnova]

Imagine wasting your time making 15 FAKE ACCOUNTS JUST TO DO THIS HELPPPP

This is literally the definition of harassment but ok continue being obsessed Panda or like one of your friends or something

"You are becoming a bully" dawg you are a racial eugenicist

[cologona]

Yet again going crazy over what Jason’s Robin could’ve meant.

Dick was a mirror of Bruce who was able to move past his parents’ deaths. Hope in the form of showing Batman that he could be something more than an expression of grief.

Jason was a direct contrast to Bruce. A son built to challenge every assumption and bias he might’ve still held onto. The pauper to Bruce’s prince; the thief and the son of a criminal to Bruce’s noble lineage. Both of them entirely Gotham in very different ways. Bruce went to Jason thinking he was like Dick (and to some extent himself) but the individual he found instead would’ve opened his perspective far outside of his own trauma.

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that BTAS- the most popular animated Batman- has a Robin who is basically Jason in all but name. Jason is a perfect counterbalance, rounding out the story so that Batman and Robin soundly moves beyond the realm of “he just beats up the poor and mentally ill”. He is conceptually the closest to that ideal of a dark yet compassionate protective Hero in a story where Jason is Robin.

Once Jason dies, Batman falters. The story has to absolve Bruce from the now-glaring issue of child endangerment so Jason kind of has to be made responsible for his own death. However that makes Bruce come off as a victim-blamer, and opens up this uncomfortable space where even if we pretend that Jason truly was a Bad Robin all along, Batman not only loses his counterbalance but the story doubles down on the classism Jason’s presence moved it away from.

Bruce basically regresses. Tim, the next Robin, is an another where grief is what brings them together. Batman remains a great man but now a flaw has become inherent to his character.

I don’t mean to say that Batman stories from Tim’s era are more classist than those from Jason’s or that Tim is a worse Robin. (Tim is a Robin where the whole point is gritting your teeth and having hope despite all the grief, isn’t he?) I’m speaking conceptually- in terms of the bare bones of these characters and the setting.

Anyways that’s all I got for now. Good hunting or whatever ciao…

[hp-confessions]

Seeing Snape and marauders fans argue all the time is like the live reenactment of the characters in a nutshell.

Both will continue arguing over their takes on that era and how their sides are the better choice. However, no one, or at least most of each community refuses to listen to each other. Instead they keep arguing as if it’s going to solve things.

Usually it’s always just reduced to petty insults.

“Snape deserved to get bullied” On a snape slander post.

“stan bambi” on any and EVERYpositive tt centered around snape.

“She should’ve gotten with snape anyways” on a jily post.

The same thing happens in the book. Insert the name calling.

Then there’s the apologists/victim blamers.

“Snape didn’t do anything wrong. he was right to bully children.”

Just because snapes life sucked doesn’t mean he’s just allowed to take it out on others?

“They were just fifteen.”

Unclothing someone, the shrieking shack incident , and probably having multiple 4v1 isn’t justifiable by any means.

“they matured”

Seeing as sirius still calls snape snivilous at his grown age, snape taking any moment he can to slander any of them, or just remus brushing things under the rug id say that yeah no the fuck they didn’t.

“snape saying mudblood was an accident”

He still said it.

“Shrieking shack was an accident”

Remus got exposed and Snape could’vedied.

“We dont know if they completely took off his underwear so it’s not that-“

exactly. we don’t. yet a lot of evidence points towards it but wtv. either way he still took his pants off. That’s assault.

“His father and the rest nearly killed me and tormented me for seven straight years.”

yes, and that’s bad ofc but that doesn’t excuse snape continuing the cycle and doing the same to his students.

”He was a slytherin! He wasn’t a good person!”

pretty sure a first year wasn’t showing any signs of being death eater material but alright..

then there’s the demonizers….😟

“Snapes a pedo because if harry was a girl he’d be creepy towards harry”

WHAT THE FUCK🤢🤮 NO HES NOT OH MY GOD..😨😭 Genuinley what goes through your mind when you think that.. Snaoe would probably still act hateful or if anything he’d absolutelyavoid fem!harry because in this hypothetical situation she was similar to lily. Not because he’s a pedophile but because of TRAUMA????? HELLO???? Seeing ur bully is one thing but seeing ur dead ex bff is another.. just. because. you. think. he. liked. her. mother. does. not. mean. he’s. going. to. become. a. kid. liker. for. her. daughter. just because harry’s a gender bend doesn’t mean snapes going to transform into a creep. how did you even get that from SNAPE of all people. SNAPE. If you haven’t gotten the memo bro DESPIES no he LOATHES the existence of children. he’d be the last person to be a pdo. Yes he does care for them obviously, but in a way of where if a pedo was idk being creepy with a child bro would 🪄💥🧨🔪🧠 off that pedo…

“Sirius tried to murder snape”

….no…he didn’t. if i recalled sirius was not guilty gor murder charges regarding a rat.. like i said earlier, the shrieking shack incident wasnt okay in the slightest but that doesn’t mean it was purposeful attempted murder. they were stupid (no this also doesn’t justify their actions) and thought it’d scare him and obviously didn’t think their little prank through. they weren’t trying to murder him they were just being assholes. i don’t see sirius using remus to kill, ever. a highly dangerous prank apparently? yeah? murder? no,

“____/____ didn’t contribute at all”

Snape, sirius, and remus literally threw away his life to save harry. not pettigrew tho he’s a little bitch rat i hate pettigrew!!!!!!!👺👺

Anyways, to summarize, everyone’s arguing yet never actually trying to achieve anything but submission when that’s quite literally impossible to accomplish. And that’s because no one’s willing to find a common ground and no one wants to actually create logical arguments. Petty insults and cursed theoretical nonsense isn’t going to solve the argument.

Many Snape fans ignore or straight up defend him bullying students and refuse to acknowledge he was in the wrong.

Many marauders fans ignore or straight up defend the bullying and refuse to acknowledge they were in the wrong.

Snape will refuse to back down from Sirius and Lupin and will continue behaving the way he does.

Sirius and Remus will refuse to back down from snape and continue to do the same things they did as schoolboys.

Real or fantasy, this is something that will never be resolved. maybe because no one cares enough to fix it? maybe because they care too much?

either way i guess it’d be nice to say i like snape and not immediately stereotyped as a snape apologist or get made fun of by it from friends. Im not stupid and if anything i like that he’s morally grey. i don’t support his actions, but i like to see characters with faults and put together why they ended up that way. his home life and other (non bullying) aspects of him are relatable and that’s another reason i like him.

i guess it’d be nice to talk to marauders fans and let them yap abt fanfics and for them not to think that i’m going to instantly call them horrible people for liking the marauders. I may not be in the m fandom but that doesn’t mean i won’t be respectful and gen listen to them. i’m sure that marauders fans like relate to the non bullying aspects aswell.

anyways yeah, i kinda just wished the fandom was a little more chill and not a fucking dumpster fire💀💀

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[blitz0hno]

Oh perfect it's Purge March day so anyway amane innocent sweep trial 3 let's Go

Listen listen listen it's p straightforward at this point

Amane does worldly medicine (on cat) -> breaking doctrine bc ur supposed to let god heal things -> punished severely, knows that's what is "supposed" to happen because it happens over and over as shown on Magic

Amane's "mother" kills the cat, presumably violently -> breaking doctrine on vulgar action (hurting/killing another living being; they make it a point to emphasize Amane's vegetarianism so it's obviously a very big thing in the doctrine) -> no punishment? No one around to punish her? No one else sees the contradiction? Well Amane is a big adult girl right? In her own eyes anyway, thanks to the cult. A FULL member of the group!! So it's her turn to deliver justice right????

I mean. Wrong but HOW WAS SHE SUPPOSED TO KNOW?? her mother and presumably her father CHOSE to raise her in that cult and abuse her. They showed in Magic how often she had those dogmas drilled into her head. It's not her fucking fault and she's traumatized if you care

Amane was shown in Purge March to be in almost a trance-like state. Yes, she's been "trained" for this, and no matter how she's related to the sinner "a sin is a sin." Did she probably go further than she wanted/needed out of pure rage and injustice?? Even if she did, she was NOT in control of the ideas and reactions she was LITERALLY TOLD TO HAVE.

I'm not saying she was right to kill a woman honestly but no never mind I am saying that child abusers deserve death haha anyway amane inno sweep 100 years

Like Jackalope DEFINITELY ain't tryna let inno Amane slide bc he sees a need for her to "take responsibility" even though she never denies responsibility at all?? She knows what she did, or at least is sure she knows. She isn't remorseless, she has been told that feelings are bad compared to God's word. Shocker that she represses them.

Also technically it was her mother's responsibility to not get herself murdered by abusing her child and killing a cat and raising her kid in a cult. I'm not a victim blamer but that's a 12 year old dawg if you messed up that bad in life nothing's saving you try again next time.

[dukeofdelirium]

I think some people believe MJ is guilty because they want to hold on to the “believe the victim” mindset. They are aware of the allegations, and to them, if someone is just accused of something then they obviously did it. Once you come to his defense, you’re called a victim blamer or a victim shamer. They won’t bother to look into it cause then you would be doubting the victim and you don’t want to do that. Nobody will actually understand what Michael was like mentally, such as we’ll never have to be on stages starting at five years old, or spend many nights hearing our older brothers with groupies while in same room, or being robbed of playgrounds, birthdays, and Christmas. Obviously, there is some behavior that fans would not agree with or condone, but none of it made him a criminal.

and it’s fucking ridiculous that they claim they “believe victims” bc MJs accusers were never established to be victims to begin with. On the contrary, they are proven extortionists, opportunists and money hungry liars.

MJ never would have harmed a child. He loved children and devoted his whole life to taking care of kids all over the world. He was never inappropriate toward kids and hundreds of children that knew him have defended him in life AND death, including Brett Barnes and Macaulay Culkin.

Brett knew Jordan Chandler and Wade and James! There’s video and photo evidence of him around all 3 of these accusers, which punches holes in numerous parts of the allegations, like Wade and James saying MJ kept the boys all apart and that they didn’t know each other as kids.

Elizabeth Taylor said it better than anyone: “If they had planned an assassination, they couldn’t have done it any better.”

[shadycomputerpolice]

The Role of Seperatism in Female Liberation

Yes, seperatism will not end patriarchy. I have never seen any seperatist make that claim so I wonder why anti-seperatists like to point that out like their lives depend on it. Also, no singular act, outside of killing all males, can achieve that.

And yes, seperatism is often an individual action. Just like anti-beauty: not shaving, not wearing make up and heels, etc but we still understand that those acts of resistance, even though individual, have value and contribute positively to women and girls' wellbeing.

What seperatism does claim is that it protects women and girls' wellbeing by denying males access to them.

As seen in the images above, for [misogynistic] crimes to happen, all three elements: opportunity, desire and ability must be present and removing just one of them prevents crime. The images above apply to all crimes but since we are talking about female seperatism we can tailor it down to Gender Based Violence (GBV).

Seperatism is about preventing GBV by removing opportunity for harm. Individual seperatists can achieve personal safety in their homes while seperatist communities can achieve community wide safety. So when you claim seperatism is useless you are basically saying crime prevention efforts that focus on denying potential criminals the opportunity to commit crimes is useless. If that is your claim then you have to provide evidence of that.

Seperatists recognise that women cannot influence the ability and desire of males to harm females because behavioural change is self motivated so they focus on what they have control over which is the opportunity for harm.

Now are males, like all predators, going to seek new ways to gain opportunities to harm females, yes of course they are. Outside of GBV, criminals are always changing their strategies especially when their previous strategy becomes well known and people stop falling for it. Using cyber crime as an example because I am Nigerian (LOL), when people stopped falling for the destitute African Prince method, they changed to other methods like romance scams and blackmail. Criminals/Predators are always to seek new ways to catch their victims/prey which is the why the victims/prey must always be alert and aware of the criminals/predators methods so that they can protect themselves.

So yes, as long as men exist, they will be no feminist utopia where women and girls can exist without the threat of violence. We will always need to be on guard and strive to protect ourselves from them no matter the method they use.

Seperatism cannot save all women and girls in the world just like how crime prevention efforts in Ghana cannot save me in Nigeria and I shouldn't even be expecting it to because geography, language barrier, national laws, etc. What can be done is we adapt the methods used in Ghana to our local context and apply it to see results.

Seperatism is an elective individual and geographical community level action that has the potential to save all women and girls but nobody is kidnap unwilling people and hold them hostage.

And I know, someone is going to scream " VICTIM BLAMING" and to that I say, I don't care about being labelled a victim blamer. However, if you have another viable method for keeping women and girls safe, kindly put forward your idea so it can be evaluated. Please note if you suggest "educating men and boys", I will block you because I don't have the patience for that level of stupidity and delusion.

Sidenote:

I always wondered why allegedly smart women will "but child brides in Afghanistan" as a counter to female seperatism. The wins of feminism activism will always be limited by geography. There is no feminist activism that will impact the lives of ALL women and girls. An individual's or organisation's target population will be limited by geography and unfortunately by resources. You can't help everybody applies in feminism too.

Imagine if someone said that about abortion rights in the US. "Fighting for abortion in America doesn't help child brides in Afghanistan". Most people can see how ridiculous and frankly insulting it is to bring up that issue.

[flowersovevil]

my sisters husband is such a bastard. he is always forcing my nieces to keep playing soccer even when they have serious injuries and now my fifteen year old niece has a plate in her hand. it’s the utter stupidity and pointlessness of forcing his children to be “tough.” My parents were like this too and it’s honestly sadistic. he and my sister have made their children their entire lives to the point where it’s an obsession and it seems like they have zero autonomy, which is also a page right out of my parents playbook. If my sister and her husband weren’t such victim blamers they would realize this parenting model is incredibly toxic instead of cracking down even harder on their own kids. child abuse makes me so sick

[lockandkeyhyena]

stuff like that can be used to groom and desensitise victims to those sorts of actions

you’re making the “women wearing revealing clothes leads to them becoming abused” argument

Fiction isn't abuse. Grooming can be done with anything, it's a pattern of behavior that needs to be recognized and addressed, and going after fiction does not address the problem at all.

the moral panic over art affecting reality was and is used by predators to paint themselves as a good person. Quite recently, cartoonist Kyle Carrozza was arrested because he was caught owning at least 600 images of child sexual abuse, of children under the age of 12, and got away with it for 15 years because he always made sure people talked about fiction and never looked too closely into what he was doing

what you’re saying is “I will blame the person who posted the art I think is immoral, I will blame the art for existing that someone was groomed”, but you’re not blaming the groomer for hurting someone. That’s the problem

hey anon, i’m trying to engage in this discussion in genuinely good faith- and i said quite clearly that i genuinely do not know what my stance is on ‘dark fiction’ and dangerous and unhealthy actions and behaviours being depicted in fiction, but you seem to be assuming the worst faith of me and honestly being kind of a fucking dick lol.

i don’t even fully stand by the ‘fiction like this can be used to groom people’ argument, and you’d realise that if you read my whole post. my argument comes from a place of personal disgust and revulsion, which is why i’m open to discussing this- it’s not based in any sound logic, rather an instinctual reaction.

that being said, i don’t think your argument makes much sense. at least in the part calling me a victim-blamer? i never once said it was the victim’s fault if they were abused using that sort of content, and it’s strange that you extrapolated that.

also saying as a blanket rule that fiction doesn’t affect reality is just… wrong? it’s a very nuanced topic that i think needs to be evaluated on a case by case basis. i don’t believe video games cause violence, but i do believe that games like, idk, call of duty, can be used to spread propaganda. if fiction never affected reality, propaganda wouldn’t work lol.

may add more to this in a rb but. yeah. i dont think you’re interacting with me in good faith, which is a shame.

[neverborncollective]

Chara unironically did nothing wrong. Y'all are just victim blamers

Nearly all your faves are attempted child murderers AT BEST. Meanwhile sans chose to let a child die repeatedly and then joked about it to their face.

But no the suicidal child who internalised harmful lessons is the real villain

[lolitarosebride]

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Major TW for: incest, incestuous rape, childhood trauma, child molestation, rape, sexual abuse, csa, cptsd, emotional abuse, mental abuse, dissociation, detachment from reality as a means to cope, emotional numbness, suicidal ideation, self harm, eating disorders, chronic illnesses, chronic depression, body horror, chronic pain, derealization, hallucinations.

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[super-hero-confessions]

i think the people who blame sharon carter at all for the ending endgame gave to steve rogers and peggy carter need some serious help.

it's not on the younger woman if her apparently?? uncle made moves on her and THEN decided to become her uncle. but it is completely gross and entirely HIS and her AUNT'S faults.

they helped raise her, they would have watched her grow up and the scene implies they both didn't care and did nothing to stop the event. if sharon is still perfectly okay with her uncle *choosing to kiss her*--not the other way around, after the fact? it's not gonna be because she's "just a bad egg". that's not how children work, and contrary to the victim blamers who keep ignoring that sharon would have been partially raised by these people, yes, sharon was once a child. and she would have been partially raised. by these people.

THEY would have taught her their moral principles.

so instead, it's gonna be because someone TOLD her it was okay. and normally? it ends up being the guy making the moves, i.e. the UNCLE.

this ending looks awful for all the characters, but it looks ESPECIALLY terrible on steve and peggy. even if it's an AU because that just causes different problems and still makes steve a scumbag who treated his niece like shit and didn't even love peggy since replacing her and destroying the life she built on her own was totally fine.

please stop and think. we need to stop absolving men and victim blamers of wrong doing because of personal bias. god, i'd hate to see what these people would say about similar real life situations as fucked up as this. i swear they are maybe two steps away from slut shaming a rape victim to suicide with this line of thinking because i STILL see them bullying sharon fans and shit talking the character for bad writing that makes even their faves in this scenario look horrible AF, and then try to JUSTIFY it!? i can't. even if it's fictional in this case, i just can't.

that's not okay, and neither is the way emily vancamp and fans were treated over such stupid, petty, misogynistic, slut shaming, and now victim blaming bullshit.

[deviantartdramahub]

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I don't think you know how babysitting works anon? Imagine if you were a parent who left their child with someone bc you had to go to work or something, but then the babysitter charges to your work place just to make you change your kid. Sounds crazy and insensible, right? Eh why am I trying to reason with you. I really hope no one ever trusted you with their kid XD

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Please, tell me how in the world this blog is "racist". Bet you won't cuz it's just another buzzword for your slander.

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Hon please, you are fucking crazy. He never said kids can consent just bc he acknowledges pedophiles exist lmao. I think you broke both your legs due to the extreme jumping to conclusions...plus, what's the harm in him censoring words? It's completely understandable he doesn't want to say the whole thing, I think you're just pissy you can't get off on the word when it's censored.

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Dumbass, you acquired personal information of his and used it to threaten him. You completely deserve to be called out for that, you idiot. THE COPS VERY MUCH SHOULD BE CALLED ON YOU. And then you still have the nerve to say he's lying after you're straight up admitting to all this?? Dear God how could you be this stupid. Dox-threatening is a very bad thing hun-bun, even if you don't act on the threat. Imagine if someone sent you a death-threat, but everyone told you it's nothing to be upset about bc "YOU'RE NOT ACTUALLY MURDERED, RIGHT?" So how about you shut up and admit you did something terrible...and the added blackmail based on slander is horrible. You put Club in danger whether you admit it or not. I really do bet you take pride in that though, you sick fuck...reasonable people know you're 100% in the wrong though.

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Loveless literally just came to DA to attack Club. He did NOTHING to her and she started harassing him, then for some reason got shocked when he called her out and started crying. We all know YOU are the victim-blamers here, that's one of your favorite things to do, smh.

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Got any proof the roleplay in question was an erp? No? Aight good day.

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You wish, I bet you'd wank to it. Too bad Club would never do something like that.

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What evidence? And you're the ones who try to silence anyone who doesn't agree with you, lmao.

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Explain to me how this was automatically Club's fault.

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Number one, that's a screenshot sweetheart. A screenshot that could've very well been manipulated. So remember, it isn't valid proof! ^w^

Number 2, proof that you refuse to give a voice to anyone who doesn't agree with you or even questions you. One of the reasons why this blog is 100% better. You just want to tune everyone out and surround yourself with yes-men while Tri lets everyone give their story, and gives everyone a fair chance. The fact you want everyone to only listen to you shows you aren't trustworthy.

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Roleplaying with people is always grooming?? Thus the logic of DADramaNow. Apparently all RPs are automatically sexual.

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Lmao Sam doesn't have friends.

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An example of DADramaNow using the "fetish mining" term on Club.

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You just contradicted yourself there. If Club didn't know that fetish existed, how could you accuse him of having it?? He's innocent and you know it, just give up already.

Another long one with many call-outs in one post let's gooo babyyyy.

I remember someone commented once to say that the thing about Mod S and college was a cover for being arrested by the FBI. Meanwhile, Club still has a presence here. Flawless victory.

[chapel-system]

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~~♱..I shot an angel with my father's rifle..♱~~

♱-Name::Chapel

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~~⛧..I should have set it free, but I let it bleed..⛧~~

♱-Likes::animals, being weird, civics, dolls, emojis/emoticons, history, mandela catalouge, mlp, music, og addams family, plushies, reading, rainbow high, scenecore, reading, scenecore, true crime

⛧Music::alternative metal, crunk, nu metal, post grunge, rap metal, morute, gothic folk, indie pop, lo-fi indie, permanent wave and more

♱-Dislikes::Anti recovery, Anti self dx, Endo "systems", Fatphobes, Fake claimers, Mental health care (never works for us), Proana

⛧-Boundaries::Basic DNI, No 18+, No random dms, NSFW IS A HUGE NO,

♱-Triggers::Animal gore, ASA (Animal sa), COCSA (Child on child sa), Guilt trippers, Hatsune Miku, MHA, Rape, Real gore, Real sh pics, Sexual assault/Harassment, Stalking, Suicide, Victim blamers

~~♱..Sickness of poacher's pride..♱~~

[rebeleden]

Victim Blamer 😂 Dave Chappelle

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[mimikyudying]

account TW for a lot of things / mainly sh, csa and general abuse

vent/trauma blog for a DID sys. unless you know us well call us Nebby or Mimikyu. adult body, he/it unless we say otherwise. we don’t sign off posts usually, and we normally refer to ourselves singularly - as in I, me, my

you can talk to us if you want, we might not always feel up to talking though.

we have BPD and HPD and we will talk about those sometimes

this is a side blog and we have a bad habit of disappearing from the internet.

DNI:

-kink blog

-don’t want to see vents

-basic dni (transphobic, racist, etc.)

-think children can consent or anything gross like that

-victim blamer

-I’m not anti-paraphillia, but due to the nature of the trauma I talk about here I’d really prefer pedophiles who openly blog about it DNI with this specific account. If it’s not something you talk about then I don’t mind you interacting, but please don’t bring it up here. I’m a child sex trafficking victim and had CSEM made of me, and while I’m learning to cope I still spiral when I think people have interest in that sorta thing because they get off on it.

This isn’t a syscourse blog, but also please don’t take traumagenic system related posts and make them about endogenic experiences. Also please don’t take trauma related posts and make them about ‘innerworld trauma’ or ‘source trauma’, if im not tagging ‘source trauma’ or ‘source vent’ then it’s something that happened to me bodily and i’d like for it to stay about that experience.

[dailymanners]

How is telling someone "you should have done this when you were a child" helping. Shall OP get out their time machine and go back to when they were a child and change how you are assuming they responded? This is all just shaming and blaming, and years after the fact at that. Who does this help? What does this change? How many 11 year old children being bullied at school are on this website?

What this website does have is parents and teachers (which I know from the notes and replies I get to my posts) as in, people who actually have real power to step in and do something about these situations.

Even if children fight back and hit their bullies (like I did) often what happens is the victim gets in trouble (hello which happened to me, I was punished when I did fight back, and never the bullies) and can you believe what happens next when the victim who fought back was blamed and punished? It just teaches the bullies that they can get away with continuing to bully because their victim will be punished if they fight back, which is EXACTLY what happened to me!

This is often what happens in the legal system too btw that victims of domestic violence are punished more severely for defending themselves than the actual abuser. Which means even if the abuse victim fought back the abuse continues when the abuser learns their victim will only be further punished by fighting back.

Victim blaming does not actually do anything except blaming and shaming someone already suffering a lot, you are accomplishing nothing except rubbing salt in the wounds of victims. Nothing will change or get better until we shift our focus to the behavior and actions of perpetrators instead of how the victim reacts.

You probably refuse to believe this because it's more comfortable for you to believe that you're immune to being a victim of bullying or harassment so long as you react the "right" way and do all the "right" things. But guess what, you can do all the right things and fight back and still find yourself helpless and watch your harasser get away with it. A lot of victim blamers are victim blamers specifically because it's too uncomfortable to sit with the fact that they're not immune to being victimized too. But you are not immune to being victimized too. Nobody is, no matter how much they try to convince themselves they'd react the "right" way and that would somehow save them in any scenario.

I will never ever understand why anyone would want to make another human being upset on purpose. I never have and never will understand the appeal of "getting a rise out of" another human being. I will never understand why some people find joy or amusement over another human being's suffering and distress.

And the fact that this behavior is so widely acceptable and tolerated really is the root of so, so many problems. Sexual assault and abuse wouldn't be so rampant if this behavior wasn't so socially acceptable, you can't change my mind. Today's "he's just trying to get a rise out of you because he thinks it's fun to make you upset, but it's not a big deal and it's completely harmless that he likes to make you upset for fun" is tomorrow's rapist and/or abuser.