#Unmarried with Children

[captainfreelance1]

Dinosaurs S2 E9 Unmarried with Children GIFset (2/2)

The First Apperence of the Sinclairs neighbor and friend Monica Devertebrate.

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

"contentment in singleness" doesn't require you to stop desiring marriage & family. it doesn't require you to stop pursuing marriage & family.

Christians are called to be content in any situation--that doesn't mean we abandon all our good desires and concrete goals.

contentment is to trust/rest in God's promises to love you, provide for you, and make you holy.

you can do all of those things, and earnestly want and seek a husband.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22

"Favor from the Lord" meaning, of course, blessing as the result of a life molded by wisdom.

Now, how can one find a good wife without seeking? Seek without wanting? And how can wisdom and contentment be mutually exclusive?

[short-wooloo]

Considering the rise of forced-birth, anti divorce extremists in this country, people really need to appreciate the no marriage no bio kids norms/values of the Jedi

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

What the fuck did I just read in the year of our lord two thousand and twenty-four

[hamdosana]

An Apology from a man to his future wife!

DearFutureWife, I know, I don't know you. But yet I want to apologize to you.

I'm Sorry...

Because I haven't so far asked for your hand in marriage.

I want to be your husband to protect your Chastity and mine.

I want to be your husband to preserve you from fitnah of our time, where most of the boys and girls are engaged in Haraam Relationship just to fulfil their desires (physical or emotional).

But it is the decree of Allah. And He will make us together at proper time. May be, I'm not completely ready, because to live In our society. A man needs a home and a good job to provide for his family.

I'm sorry my dear future wife. But we must be patient. Insha'Allah soon Allah will make us together.

Remember me in your Dua's As I remember you in my Dua.

Lets pray that Allah make us together soon from his bounty.

O'Allah please grant all brothers & sisters a pious, loving & caring spouse soon Ameen.

[concrete-metaphors]

[lesbianlenas]

let us remember that marriage is intrinsically tied to capitalism and exists in its current form so that property could be passed through patrilineal lines. the only way a man could ensure that a woman was having HIS baby was to make her his property. and that was so important when wealth and status was tied to property so it was necessary to have a (male) heir to pass it down to. i am not against marriage as a concept but we need to remember that it IS an oppressive institution for women and women should consider it w that in mind. the patriarchal roots of our existing marriage institution have not been erased even with the progress that has been made.

[meezer]

I was thinking about Daisy Miller and how I hated it because of how misogynistic it feels. strangely enough, I think the novel itself isn't misogynistic, even though most of its characters are. I came to the conclusion that Winterbourne from has the vibes of a guy who supports women's sexual liberation not least of all because it means he gets to fuck with no strings attached. and he's the novel's most feminist-adjacent character! (beside Daisy, of course) even though he too kind of "manic pixie dream girl"s Daisy and sees her as a desirable, fascinating object rather than a human being.

[summerhighlandfalls]

Don’t think about Iruka trying to adopt Naruto and having his petition for adoption denied because he’s legally too young to adopt

[tanuki-kimono]

I have a question for you! Do you know what sort of garment unmarried noble girls would wear? And i mean very noble women- i need it for a reference :D

Hi! That truly depends on what time period you are talking + what you mean by noble + how old is the girl ^^;

A Heian girl will not wear the same as an Edo one, same for a noble (kuge) or samurai (buke) daughter

[captainfreelance1]

Dinosaurs S2 E9 Unmarried with Children (1/2) GIFset

The First Apperence of the Sinclairs neighbor and friend Monica Devertebrate.

[yourapple56-blog]

As a woman who never wanted children or marriage, I can fully relate to this.

[officialromaniantranslatiuni]

not to sound like an annoying old person, but if you are a beginner, you don't really deserve to be paid more than even someone with 3 times your experience

i was chatting with some of the highschoolers from my school and i was shocked to learn that they are expecting to be paid at least 10000 lei once they graduate from university

i get it that some of them got even 4800 lei by selling shawarma in summer, so they think that a degree in the future will immediately make them desirable and that employees will desperately want them, but it's not like this

i was a beginner and my salary was shit many times because i had no experience, so i don't want them to be taken advantage of like i was, but how about being a bit more down to earth with expectations

each new generation comes with new things to teach the older ones and other advantages, but the lack of experience is a very heavy burden and you are limited - there is actually very little you can offer during your first years

[abstractstew]

Beware of Greeks Bearing Gifts

[homunculus-argument]

Random worldbuilding: A culture where everyone's social status is expressed through how their hair is braided.

Children all have the same kind of a simple, unisex "child's braid" which is meant for their parents to be easy to do - traditionally boys were only taught how to do a "wife's braid" while women braid both their husbands and their children, but a modern man is naturally an attentive father and contributes to both cleaning and feeding, and clothing and braiding his children.

While this kind of knowledge is more accessible in the modern age, the art of braiding is still seen as an intimate family thing, and it's not unusual for a youth to come out to their parents by the way of braids - for example a daughter asking her father to teach her how to do the "wife's braid", or a son asking her mother how to weave the "husband braid" for their future spouse. Or a trans kid asking their parents to give them the other gender's braid when it's time to transition from the child braid into the "unmarried youth" one.

It is nonetheless still somewhat common to see an older gay man with a "wife's braid" or two older women both wearing "husband braids", because that was the only way they were taught to braid a future partner's hair when they were young. They could learn the "appropriate" braid now, but it has become a part of the culture, an old-fashioned gay thing to do. It's pride - if you wear this braid to show that you're an adult with a spouse, why try to hide who braids your hair every morning?

The only braid that one is expected to do on themselves is the widow's braid - the only one that is also unisex, braided in reverse from the simple children's braid. Sometimes, young unmarried adults who have no interest in starting a family switch directly into wearing a widow's braid to signify that they are not looking for a partner and are independent adults on their own.

[cookinguptales]

So I’ve been enjoying the Disney vs. DeSantis memes as much as anyone, but like. I do feel like a lot of people who had normal childhoods are missing some context to all this.

I was raised in the Bible Belt in a fairly fundie environment. My parents were reasonably cool about some things, compared to the rest of my family, but they certainly had their issues. But they did let me watch Disney movies, which turned out to be a point of major contention between them and my other relatives.

See, I think some people think this weird fight between Disney and fundies is new. It is very not new. I know that Disney’s attempts at inclusion in their media have been the source of a lot of mockery, but what a lot of people don’t understand is that as far as actual company policy goes, Disney has actually been an industry leader for queer rights. They’ve had policies assuring equal healthcare and partner benefits for queer employees since the early 90s.

I’m not sure how many people reading this right now remember the early 90s, but that was very much not industry standard. It was a big deal when Disney announced that non-married queer partners would be getting the same benefits as the married heterosexual ones.

Like — it went further than just saying that any unmarried partners would be eligible for spousal benefits. It straight-up said that non-same-sex partners would still need to be married to receive spousal benefits, but because same-sex partners couldn’t do that, proof that they lived together as an established couple would be enough.

In other words, it put long-term same-sex partners on a higher level than opposite-sex partners who just weren’t married yet. It put them on the exact same level as heterosexual married partners.

They weren’t the first company ever to do this, but they were super early. And they were certainly the first mainstream “family-friendly” company to do it.

Conservatives lost their damn minds.

Protests, boycotts, sermons, the whole nine yards. I can’t tell you how many books about the evils of Disney my grandmother tried to get my parents to read when I was a kid.

When we later moved to Florida, I realized just how many queer people work at Disney — because historically speaking, it’s been a company that has guaranteed them safety, non-discrimination, and equal rights. That’s when I became aware of their unofficial “Gay Days” and how Christians would show up from all over the country to protest them every year. Apparently my grandmother had been upset about these days for years, but my parents had just kind of ignored her.

Out of curiosity, I ended up reading one of the books my grandmother kept leaving at our house. And friends — it’s amazing how similar that (terrible, poorly written) rhetoric was to what people are saying these days. Disney hires gay pedophiles who want to abuse your children. Disney is trying to normalize Satanism in our beautiful, Christian America. 

Just tons of conspiracy theories in there that ranged from “a few bad things happened that weren’t actually Disney’s fault, but they did happen” to “Pocahontas is an evil movie, not because it distorts history and misrepresents indigenous life, but because it might teach children respect for nature. Which, as we all know, would cause them all to become Wiccans who believe in climate change.”

Like — please, take it from someone who knows. This weird fight between fundies and Disney is not new. This is not Disney’s first (gay) rodeo. These people have always believed that Disney is full of evil gays who are trying to groom and sexually abuse children.

The main difference now is that these beliefs are becoming mainstream. It’s not just conservative pastors who are talking about this. It’s not just church groups showing up to boycott Gay Day. Disney is starting to (reluctantly) say the quiet part out loud, and so are the Republicans. Disney is publicly supporting queer rights and announcing company-supported queer events and the Republican Party is publicly calling them pedophiles and enacting politically driven revenge.

This is important, because while this fight has always been important in the history of queer rights, it is now being magnified. The precedent that a fight like this could set is staggering. For better or for worse, we live in a corporation-driven country. I don’t like it any more than you do, and I’m not about to defend most of Disney’s business practices. But we do live in a nation where rights are largely tied to corporate approval, and the fact that we might be entering an age where even the most powerful corporations in the country are being banned from speaking out in favor of rights for marginalized people… that’s genuinely scary.

Like… I’ll just ask you this. Where do you think we’d be now, in 2023, if Disney had been prevented from promising its employees equal benefits in 1994? That was almost thirty years ago, and look how far things have come. When I looked up news articles for this post from that era, even then journalists, activists, and fundie church leaders were all talking about how a company of Disney’s prominence throwing their weight behind this movement could lead to the normalization of equal protections in this country.

The idea of it scared and thrilled people in equal parts even then. It still scares and thrills them now.

I keep seeing people say “I need them both to lose!” and I get it, I do. Disney has for sure done a lot of shit over the years. But I am begging you as a queer exvangelical to understand that no. You need Disney to win. You need Disney to wipe the fucking floor with these people.

Right now, this isn’t just a fight between a giant corporation and Ron DeSantis. This is a fight about the right of corporations to support marginalized groups. It’s a fight that ensures that companies like Disney still can offer benefits that a discriminatory government does not provide. It ensures that businesses much smaller than Disney can support activism.

Hell, it ensures that you can support activism.

The fight between weird Christian conspiracy theorists and Disney is not new, because the fight to prevent any tiny victory for marginalized groups is not new. The fight against the normalization of othered groups is not new.

That’s what they’re most afraid of. That each incremental victory will start to make marginalized groups feel safer, that each incremental victory will start to turn the tide of public opinion, that each incremental victory will eventually lead to sweeping law reform.

They’re afraid that they won’t be able to legally discriminate against us anymore.

So guys! Please. This fight, while hilarious, is also so fucking important. I am begging you to understand how old this fight is. These people always play the long game. They did it with Roe and they’re doing it with Disney.

We have! To keep! Pushing back!