#Unhappy For You

[arrianeles]

You need to wake up and get up. You'll have to figure things out yourself, you can't keep abandoning yourself and chase a person. You can't help someone while ruining yourself. Someone needs to end it, you need to end it. But never forget to communicate with the person before you do.

[torresjkr]

movie night.

[inkskinned]

the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.

when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."

but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.

now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.

the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.

but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."

the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.

but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?

because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!

and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.

[calaycay]

Unhappy For You

Watched the movie yesterday and here are my thoughts:

The movie and the storyline in general are 7/10. Nothing new and a typical love/heart break story. BUT JoshLia serves. Acting and visuals wise, they are giving. Did they make me cry? Of course! Ako pa ba? Baka iyakin lang talaga ako pero I felt the story. I don’t have the same experience because I know for myself that I cannot be casual with my ex. It is just JoshLia showcases “that” chemistry. They make you feel the love that they share and the pain that they suffered on that relationship. Sabi nga ng Tita ko, Juancho and Zy’s story tells what really happened to Joshua and Julia. I do not want to give spoilers but if I am a JoshLia fan, I would agree. It is like they are narrating what between them.

There is a bit of comedy also. Julia and Joshua is effortlessly funny and such a joy to watch.

People get tired. People have limits. People only have so much to offer and so much to give. There are also people who are really madly and crazily in love to the point that their way of thinking and decisions do not make sense and are just pure stupid.

And it is also true that sometimes, the best and most logical choice is to let go, even if you do not want to, even if never wanted to. Letting go doesn’t mean love vanished or given up. Sometimes, you just know that better is coming when you decide to go out of that situation or relationship.

Unhappy For You also tells us that there is always two sides of the story. One’s perspective is different than the other. There should not be a good guy bad guy in the relationship because both parties are mutually happy during the relationship and also mutually suffering during or after the relationship.

Communication, growth, support, and dreams should always be present and should always be mutually understood and committed. One cannot function alone to carry the relationship. It always takes two to tango.

For the technicalities, Star Cinema always produces beautifully shot scenes and angles. I guess Moira’s Paubaya is really JoshLia’s breakup theme song since it was released. The scoring made me cry. The writing is good also —- the movie is romantic but has comedy on the side.

Everyone can enjoy the movie and the chemistry of JoshLia. Tho I would say that this movie is best suited for couples who are young in love and just starting life together. They will learn a lot from this movie.

[attleboy]

here's something you guys probably forgot about.... the pomni backflip art i promised for 10k notes on the post that now has 16k notes... whoops i may have let her land the backflip but at the end of the day she is a failgirl :)

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

[lovesickgoose]

It's sweaty medic season

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Bonus 8: How met your mother (CSSR design by @qourmet!)

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[teenagenutant]

a bit more weird, wild, and less structurally stable than the 2-turtle fusions, here's bosch (raph+mikey+donnie) and machiavelli (leo+mikey+donnie)!

pure impulsive destructive excitement and 'what if your annoying little sibling was also the world's most acrobatic awful cat'

[batwynn]

Alt text:

It’s ok to be disabled and happy. Being disabled does not mean you have to constantly suffer.

[christakisbang]

[riseandfallofsecunit]

…maybe I’m just a robot with enough human neural tissue jammed in my head to make me stupid.

[syn0vial]

my gun-loving, car guy, "i'm the straightest man i know" brother who just finished baldur's gate 3 talking about astarion:

[laurapetrie]

I want everything—everything a girl can have.

L.M. Montgomery, Rilla of Ingleside (1921)

[shockingshinx12-shinx]

You Are Out Of Hope. The World Will Never Be The Same

@padabana

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story