#So therefore if someone can flirt with men...they are attracted to men

[this-is-a-nice-show]

What I love about destiel is that it is both simultaneously cannon and not cannon. It's not cannon because y'know...it wasn't reciprocated. But it is cannon because in my heart I know that Dean loves Castiel.

[dizzyjaden]

✧ GENSHIN MEN CRUSHING AND CONFESSING ✧

Pairings: Kaeya, Xiao, Tartaglia, Kazuha, Diluc, Albedo, Scaramouche x gn! Reader

♤ Summary: Hcs for how various characters go about crushes~ ♤ Warnings: No major warnings mostly fluff, Scara's kind of a jerk though. ♤ A/N: Omggg first real post! Reblogs would be greatly appreciated <3

Kaeya:

When Kaeya meets you, he is first enamored with your appearance. Therefore, the route he takes is confidence and directness to flirt with you, he never once hides his attraction. His sultry voice and brief comments about how infatuating you are to him tend to extract these wonderful little giggles from you. The sound never grows tired on his ears, nor do they fail to make his heart swoon.

Kaeya does not realize it at first, but your effect on him becomes stronger swiftly, and makes him rather clingy. He finds himself unable to focus on the tasks of the day and merely looks forward to seeing you. He follows his urges and seeks you out, passing through your most frequent spots in hopes of 'accidentally' bumping into you. When he finds you, he will spend as long as he can stalling for your time. Asking you questions about your day, showering you with compliments, whatever he can do to keep you talking to him without appearing too desperate. He would usually see idle conversation as a bore, but anything is interesting as long as it's your voice that's talking about it.

It's natural to be wary of Kaeya's approach. While his flattery is nice at first, you notice that his inviting posture and half-lidded gaze does not disappear when he is speaking to others. It makes you wonder if you are as special to him as he's led you to believe.

Put off by this, you brush off his efforts. He is confused by your indifference and his demeanor begins to melt rapidly. He seems nervous now when the two of you are conversing, even blushing and avoiding eye contact with you. Being rejected by someone isn't what scares him. Being rejected by you is.

It is noticeable, people often tease you about what a lovesick puppy you've turned him into, snickering about how they've never seen the slow walking, smirk wearing, calvary captain of Mond so stuttery and fidgety around anyone. It is difficult to stand firm on your previous notion that "he is just that way with everyone." Perhaps he does deserve a chance after all.

Kaeya has mostly retired his earlier mannerisms with you, not wishing to make you uncomfortable. That is until, you throw an unprompted flirtatious comment towards him.

It is experimental and casual on your part, but it successfully shakes him to his core. He realizes then and there he cannot let another day pass without you being named as his partner. This routine of playful flirting is as far as he would typically take it when interested in someone, it was the most enjoyable part to him anyways. But with you, it just felt torturous and drawn out. He craved so much more.

As assured as he appears on the surface, Kaeya is not very good at expressing himself romantically. He does not want to risk everything just yet, so he believes the best course of action is simply asking you out for drinks.

You are still not entirely sold that Kaeya will take care of your feelings, but you agree out of curiosity and give him the chance to prove you wrong. He is overjoyed at your answer and becomes rather excited, he quickly has to catch himself and snap his careless attitude back on, but you saw his eagerness.

For a while you are testing the waters with Kaeya, keeping him taking you on little dates and you are quick to learn that there is a lot more to him than meets the eye. There is a certain serenity, a content air about him when you are together, as if he felt everything had fallen into the right place. The way he looks at you is different than when you first met. It feels as though he truly sees you now.

Finally, you are the one to offer a romantic relationship to him. He has been waiting for you. He knows you have been hesitant, so he's intended to allow you to harness control.

His answer is not a word or agreement, but rather a glint of joy in his eyes, quickly followed by a kiss. When you reciprocate, he knows he finally managed to snatch your heart. How thrilled he is for tomorrow.

Xiao:

Loving you to Xiao is similar to being a cat on a marble floor. He is completely unacquainted with emotion as a whole, so when this stomach tightening, face warming, posture stiffening feeling begins to hit him, he is justly at a loss.

He absolutely despises the feeling, to him it translates as nausea or sickness. Why, you gave him an ailment! How dare you! And to think he still yearns for proximity with you.

That is another thing he despises, ever since you met the adeptus you are always begging to spend time with him and he just can't help but agree. You seem to find much comfort in his presence, he isn't sure why. His conversational abilities are stale, his tone pessimistic, his liveliness is nonexistent. Mortals have never connected with him the way you have, which only makes sense because it's absolutely fruitless.

But there you are, always asking him questions about himself that confuse him. Why did you need to know his favorite color? He didn't have one. They were colors, useless visuals.

You are a strange mortal, and so easily charmed or manipulated as well by the smallest of things. Perhaps that's the reason he ends up taking on such a protective role to you. He is always worrying himself sick about you. A pure spirited person like you is just bound to find themselves in trouble.

Despite the amount of inconvenience you cause him, he finds himself feeling so privileged each time he gets to be around you. He's aware mortals often express gratitude for one another, and his way of doing this is by giving gifts.

They are small gifts, flowers, leaves that are intricately folded into three dimensional shapes, crystals, whatever makes him think of you, really.

He doesn't expect validation for his attempts and the way you react each time catches him off guard. All smiles and hurried words of gratefulness, sometimes you pull him into a tight lung crushing hug, which he just hates of course. But he'll allow it. You're only putting yourself at risk choosing to be so close to him.

Something about you makes him need more of you. Every day he finds himself wondering about you, if you will come find him. He catches himself watching from the rooftops of Wangshuu Inn, waiting. Hoping?

And you're always right on cue. This gives him a sense of stability and routine, which was never important to him before. But now he feels safe in a way. It makes no sense to him, he's protecting you, not the other way around.

It takes him a long time to consider the possibility that he does enjoy your company, that this ailment, this curse you've put on him, is actually just his emotional response to you being nearby. When he identifies it, he isn't sure what to do with it. He's aware that humans like to put labels on each other to signify their connection, but he knows so little, he's too unwilling to ruin what is already there. Friendship with you is better than nothing, even if he feels the urge to just attack you with physical contact each time your hand grazes him.

He takes his time opening up to you about his feelings and desires, dropping small tidbits to enlighten you when you speak to one another. You manage to figure it out before he's really given you a proper confession, but you want him to work through it slowly, so you say nothing until the day he finally outright says it.

"I believe I am... Falling in love with you. So, what happens now?" Hopefully, you're willing to guide him through it?

Tartaglia:

Tartaglia really never expected to become so obsessed with you. His initial interest comes from your abilities in combat. He enjoys sparring with the people that are more similar to him in strength, it helps him improve. You're perfect for this. An equal opponent to help him boost his own abilities is all he saw at first.

What he feels during these sessions with you is pure thrill. He sees your relationship as equally matched opponents who agree that there is nothing to lose and everything to gain. Fighting you is never predictable, you are strangely good at catching him off guard. He becomes easily addicted to the feeling of freedom that comes with fighting you, the ability to let go accompanied by the trust that you could hold your own even if he did take it a bit too far. Soon enough, he's borderline pestering you for more and more matches.

Something he slowly finds out is that the two of you share a specific chemistry. The trust you build on the battlefield with one another fuels your comfortable compatibility. Being around you is just easy. The first time his feelings for you begin to rise, he notices immediately.

Just a certain angle of you, and he... Felt something. He knows it, too. This is when his pursuit for you begins. It is rare for him to have free time, and the majority of that is already occupied with your sparring sessions. So, he has to sacrifice a few of those to instead ask you to spend time with him in a more casual way.

He demands you clear your morning plans to get coffee with him, and you agree. Why not? You don't know much about Tartaglia other than his go-to defense techniques.

But oh, how hopeless he is. Tartaglia has never had a romantic partner before, too consumed in his work to care all that much. He gives you horrendous pick-up lines the entire morning until you beg him to stop. He thought he was doing so well, too.

Fortunately, you're more skilled with words than him and you manage to bring the flow back by distracting him with topics you believe are of interest to him. He is comfortable around you, and prefers casual conversation, so he will indulge. Slightly embarrassed by your reaction to his crude attempt at flirting, he decides it may be best to leave it be the way it is.

Determined nonetheless, he continues to hog your calendar with little meetings, he is transparent and unimpressive, which thankfully comes off as quite adorable to you. You've never seen him in this light before. You enjoy teasing him. However, there is only so much he can take before he has to finally state that he is in love with you, and needs to know if you reciprocate.

Begrudgingly, you accept his feelings, although you are disappointed you no longer get to keep him on his toes, his victorious smile makes it worth it.

Kazuha:

Kazuha is the textbook definition of carefree, when he develops feelings for you, he immediately accepts them and continues to live on contently. Whatever happens, happens! His behavior around you does not change in the slightest aside from going out of his way to be near you. Other than that, it's almost unnoticeable.

His reasoning for not confessing anything to you is plain and simple. He does not wish to put you in an uncomfortable position when he is not sure if you even want the same things he does. He isn't scared of being rejected or losing you, he just genuinely does not want to stress you out. He doesn't want to apply pressure to you, he just wants to bask in your radiant existence as much as you'll allow him. No worries, being just friends is good enough for him if it means you can live undisturbed by his inconvenient feelings of affection.

Kazuha has always been in touch with his emotions, more so than the usual person. He subtly expresses his feelings for you with poems and words of affirmation, he likes to make sure you know exactly how wonderful you are. But he never oversteps or puts too much of a spotlight on you.

Because he is just a romantic at heart, it's easy to assume this may just be how he expresses friendship. He's aware that he comes off that way, which is another reason he's so willing to give you so much affection and praise. He does like you, and he wants to show it, but he knows it's not out of character for him to behave this way.

Where his feelings for you really shine through is how protective he is. He doesn't like the idea of you travelling anywhere alone and usually offers to accompany you everywhere. He has faith in your capability to defend yourself but he finds comfort knowing he will be there if needed.

Kazuha always has good ideas when it comes to spending time with you, they are likely to involve nature. He knows where all the best places are, hot springs, water falls, fields of flowers, certain spots where the sunset looks just perfect, you name it, he'll take you there.

He enjoys giving you his attention, but even just being in the same room while the two of you are focused on separate tasks is equally enjoyable to him. He likes that there is never awkwardness or tension between you. Just an easy companionship. You understand one another without trying.

Kazuha only confesses his feelings to you when he's certain you want to hear about them. Whatever way you may choose to let him know, he'll act fast to ensure there is no confusion. He sees no thrill or excitement in allowing you to remain oblivious, and is very content telling you directly when he feels you have given him enough hints. It almost feels too easy, which is exactly what he intends. He doesn't want to see you struggle with your own feelings for even a moment.

When Kazuha officially enters a romantic relationship with you, he takes the transition very slowly to keep you comfortable. He does not immediately start smothering you in affection. It's a slow and steady process. It's not that he doesn't want to kiss you at any given moment, he just prefers that you take the reigns in that area so he's always certain it's what you want to do.

When you are with Kazuha, you can always trust that he will listen to you and cater towards your emotional needs. He is just so in love with you.

Diluc:

Diluc grapples with his feelings for you for a while, assuming they will just come and go. He is not the most knowledgeable about relationships and worries about his ability to be a good partner to you even if he does act on his feelings.

The idea of romance isn't something Diluc is a stranger to, but it's never been on the forefront of his mind. Charming and handsome as he is, it is only natural that he's been approached in the past by people hoping for a chance with him. He's never explored with any of those people, it just wasn't something he really wanted to do. But, you changed things. He catches himself imagining a relationship with you, wondering what it would be like to be with you in that way. The longer it goes on, the more painful it becomes.

When he's no longer able to deny his feelings, he takes a very polite demeanor. He's truly a gentleman, it's difficult for you to remember the last time you opened a door for yourself in his presence. If you happen to visit Angel's Share, you can rest assured you're never going to have to pay for anything.

Getting complimented by Diluc is rare, truthfully he just doesn't know how to phrase things. When he does compliment you, however, it's always genuine and heartfelt. Something about your manner, the way you carry yourself, your resilience, things like that.

Ensuring you are safe is the most important thing to him. He will always voice it loud and clear if he believes you are in an unsafe situation. He doesn't want to cross a line so he will only help if you ask him to. If you do happen to need his help with something, he will have it taken care of very quickly.

Diluc does not care to give you sugary compliments or be vocal about how you make him feel. He is more subtle than that. His affection for you is shown through how he remembers little things about you that might go unnoticed to anyone else, reminds you that he is there for you if you ever need him, never fails to show up for you when you do.

It takes a while for Diluc to gain the courage to tell you how he feels, but when he does get fed up pining after you, he is careful with his choice of words. He wants you to know that even if you reject him, he will still be there for you no matter what. You not reciprocating his feelings for you will not change your importance to him.

He genuinely does not expect you to reciprocate his feelings. When you do, he isn't sure what to do. He didn't have that part planned. He becomes a flustered mess on the spot but ultimately manages to pull himself together and swears his devotion to you.

Adjusting to a relationship with you seems to come naturally for Diluc. While he's internally awkward and so unsure most of the time, he becomes comfortable with you quickly as he realizes you do not judge him for this whatsoever. He is satisfied and feels secure knowing that there is nothing to prove anymore.

Albedo:

Albedo is not head over heels with you right off the bat. It takes a long time getting to know you before he feels anything. Of course, there was always something unidentifiable about you that interested him, but that's as far as it went until now. He isn't sure what exactly gave him this emotional response to you, but he's very curious about it.

Albedo is interested in humanity as a whole. He sees his emotions more akin to resources for his research rather than necessary tools to operate in society. So, when this crush on you blooms, it's an experiment to him. Obviously, he's going to need your assistance. He very boldly and plainly states that he is having these feelings and needs your help identifying and exploring them. It's the first time you've ever seen him clueless.

Explaining the concept of having a crush to him is nearly impossible. More often than not, crushes come out of the blue with no single explanation for them. Something about this he just cannot wrap his mind around.

It's a mission, but Albedo eventually gets it. Love, a sensation he had always pinned on biology seems to be much more emotional and complex than he could have ever anticipated. He reluctantly accepts your embarrassed explanation as truth. When he learns that you reciprocate his feelings, he is confused once more. Why didn't you just tell him? Nervous? Why? He insists you tell him when you feel something significant towards him so you two can conduct your research easier.

Albedo often takes notes about how certain things you do makes him feel. When you hold his hand, his face gets warm. When you laugh, he feels as though he is in a trance and forgets where he is. When you respond positively to his affection, he's eager to do those things more. Everything you do elicits a new reaction from him, it's all worth writing down.

He loves learning new things about you. Now that you've managed to put him in this position, it's like you are the most interesting thing in the world. What makes you the way you are? What crosses your mind the most? What is it about your favorite things that you like so much? Tell him everything in excruciating detail, please.

Albedo likes to share his interests with you too, when you offer to work with him on something involving alchemy, he is overjoyed. He likes to tell you about the ins and outs of everything involving life. He always wonders what you will think. Sometimes, you give him a new perspective on it that makes him reflect. He likes that about you. His work is usually rooted in science and logic, so it only makes sense that logical is the mindset he's lived with. But you bring such interesting ideas that he's never considered before.

He's realized he may be more out of touch with the world than he believed. If he did not know what love was before he met you, what else did he not know? Because of this, he will stay open minded and always consider your point of view when making emotion-related decisions.

For as long as you are with Albedo, he will always have something to learn and grow from. He sees you as very important to him in this way and will do his best to make sure you are content and happy in the relationship.

Scaramouche:

Scaramouche believes he has one purpose in this world. Divinity. If he is to invest himself in something, he better be getting one step closer to godhood in the process. His feelings for you are not necessary, he can't get anything of value out from them. That's the way he sees it. What irritates him is how badly he wants to indulge. Emotion is the very weakness that caused him to be cast out by his creator from the start. He isn't about to easily succumb to his emotion once more when his mission is the electro gnosis. But it is so very difficult to resist when you're around.

It's pretty much all up to you to initiate anything. It's challenging. The first time he saw your hand inching closer to his, he snatched it away immediately. Ever since these feelings of his emerged, every time you try to catch him when he's not busy, hoping to spend some time with him, he runs. He actually runs. He makes no attempt to hide it, either.

He knows if he spends too much time with you, his feelings will only grow. Allowing you to hold his hand or be near him is a slippery slope he's not willing to try. Why won't you just leave him alone? Why must you make it so hard for him to overcome his crush? Take a hint, already.

Eventually, you actually do take the hint and stop pestering him for his time. Good! Now he can focus on other things... Except he can't because now he's panicking over possibly having lost you. What if he hurt your feelings? No, he doesn't care about your feelings. You only ever annoyed him anyways. But for some reason thinking about it just stings.

Scaramouche realizes that one person causing this much trouble for him is absolutely unacceptable. You always being nearby was bad, but you leaving him alone is worse. He isn't going to allow you to steal his heart and then run for the hills, no way. He demands that you spend more time with him. You are flabbergasted, but he's glad to hear you agree.

Overtime, Scaramouche becomes more nervous about you. He grows attached to you and nearly everything he's grown attached to in the past abandoned him, it continues to haunt him to this day. He yearns for your affection, but having it would make the fall so much harder when you ultimately leave him behind. However, he's already so far in. He wonders if having a good thing for even a moment would be better than torturing himself over it instead.

With that, he tells you how he feels, how it's all your fault he's such a mess now, and that you need to make it up to him by being his partner. He's not surprised when you accept his feelings. It's the very least you could do, of course.

Over the span of your relationship, you'll notice how clingy Scaramouche is. It's like if you are not in his sight for even a moment, you're probably dead somehow. He'd never admit it, but you can tell he is paranoid and desperately requires reassurance. He's honestly kind of pathetic but he's yours.

Scaramouche remains unmoving on his theory that you will abandon him someday. He's been through it too many times to fully trust you straightaway. You're just gonna have to prove him wrong.

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hey love! can you do a BoB boys when their partner has the same personality as them? please?

love your work 🤭❤️

Hi Nonny, you're so sweet :) I'm glad that you enjoy my work so much! Reminder that my requests are open and that I don't mind spam BUT PLEASE, I don't write actual smut scenes/imagines/x readers :) So don't ask?? Thanks??

Cut for length, more under the cut:

Dick Winters:

-You mean this man finds someone of equal responsibility, maturity, kindness, and social grace? The world is unprepared for the level of wholesome that this relationship is going to be.

-I think that naturally, this is the type of person that Dick Winters attracts anyway, so it all works out

-You know that quote about how the Lydia's of the world don't attract the Mr. Darcy's? Yeah, totally applies here. To be in a relationship where there's equal level respect, focus on the job, and genuine care for one another is rare

-He's very grateful for you and for the relationship and never misses an opportunity to express this

-The men of Easy Company easily consider you the parents of the group, hands down

Lewis Nixon:

-This relationship is so chaotic, SMH—like—this man is out here getting drunk most of the time and so are you, as you helpfully suggest an unhinged thing that actually works

-The level of genius and smarts is unparalleled, it's just soured by the attitude that is doubled when the two of you are together

-He considers you his soulmate (like, way more than Vat-69 is) and vice versa

-I think that ultimately, this is a relationship that is consistently burning and like a wildfire, but in the most sensual and best of ways—you're there to help each other be both simultaneously worse and better

-Iconic, if I do say so myself

Ronald Speirs:

-Scary dog privilege goes both ways now?? Iconic, truly.

-Two rather quiet people who are there to work hard and get the job done by whatever means necessary meet and fall in love and therefore the stories about the two of you are UNHINGED

-But behind closed doors, you're both just very soft for one another and in love

-And if you steal as much as he does? It's maybe a competition to see who can flatter the other person more via stolen Nazi goods, but hey—if it works for you two lol

-Honestly, the leadership and compatibility in the way that you two work together is unparalleled

Buck Compton:

-Two college kids that are out there with natural charisma and fun but care about the men in Easy Company more than anything else? Bestie, this is just for you

-This man is utterly besotted with the way that you can talk college/academics with him and not even miss a beat

-There's a fun and healthy level of competition when it comes to games and downtime, which the both of you enjoy

-And everyone knows how good you two are at keeping spirits up and preserving morale, especially for each other

-The kind of emotional atunement to one another is rare to find I think that everyone is slightly envious of the two of you

Carwood Lipton:

-A responsible mom friend meets another responsible mom friend—and you know what? The level of married couple that you two are off the bat from meeting one another is just too much haha

-It's the domestic details and trying to check in on people/their mental health throughout the war, it's the way that the two of you know exactly how to care for one another in a non-overbearing sort. of way—

-If Lipton is the undisputed leader of Easy Company during Bastogne, then you're the undisputed right hand person—always putting the needs of the men and your S/O before yourself

-Selflessness and genuine love is also really rare to come by and I think that this is just what Lipton really needs—a support who is just a little bit too much like him

-You two are easily married by the time you end up in Austria

Joe Liebgott:

-Why is this giving gremlin energy? I can't explain it, but the way that the two of you constantly flirt and joke and have each other's backs is amazing

-Everyone is just like, "Lieb, there's two of you" and they're not wrong

-Supporting one another's beliefs and vengeance—because sometimes it's not about making the other person better, it's just about accepting them as they are and loving them anyway

-Easy Company simply adores the two of you and the way that you two succinctly work as a team and in tandem most of the time

-But you two are also so incorrigible and horny at any given time, so that's their one vice with the two of you

Donald Malarkey:

-This man?? Right here? The best friend energy that he exudes and now gets to have with you? Amazing

-It's the way that your relationship feels like breathing air because the two of you are so easily able to talk to one another, are each other's best friends, and the way that you care fiercely about one another and everyone else

-Sometimes it's like looking in the mirror though and the two of you are like, "please just go take a nap,"

-And unwillingly taking charge of situations w/Easy Company because it's just you or him that's left to lead? Also part of the deal, but everyone is on board with you

-Lots of hugs and cuddles are needed between the two of you

Eugene Roe:

-Oh goodness—two people who are out here burning themselves out for everyone else because they care so much? You two are either the most passionate lovers ever or you two are arguing about how the other person needs to take care of themselves and there's no in between

-You're both nurturers and lovers by nature and so being in this war is hard for the two of you

-Exchanging stories from home and sternly commanding the other to please "get some sleep or eat something" because you love them?? It's a love language

-No one wants to be on either of your bad sides—let alone the two of you at the same time. It's giving the energy of upsetting the nicest and clearly bravest people ever.

-If you two aren't engaged by the end of the war, then what's the point?

Bill Guarnere:

-Loyal to a fault, good sense of humor, probably from Philly? I mean, it's no wonder this man fell for you, you're just him in another font

-Literally everyone out here just wants to be friends with the two of you because you're already lowkey married, if that makes sense

-The conversation alone leaves everyone just wishing the two of you would get a room though

-Physically affectionate best friends who also makeout and maybe have some serious feelings for one another? Absolutely

-He absolutely writes you letters throughout the rest of the war after Bastogne and wants to marry you ASAP

Joe Toye:

-Quiet energy that lowkey makes people scared because of an RBF but then is super gentle? Oh yes, the two of you were made for one another

-You two easily become friends and easily fall in love—after all, the level of devotion and friendship, but also the ability to actually talk to one another? Unmatched

-He always has your back and vice versa; he already wants to talk about domestic life and you're out here naming your future dogs together

-And then Bastogne happens and you promise that you're gonna make it home so you can take care of him

-And no one is surprised when the same week you get home from the war, you end up married to him

George Luz:

-The comedic value here is too great and far unmatched. You're either super menaces together and leadership hates the two of you or you are carrying the morale of Easy Company on your backs.

-He's never met someone to match his humor so well or encourage him in the same way that he does others—and it's a beautiful match made in heaven

-Everyone is half-convinced that you're just his twin or something, but then the two of you are in love and everyone is rooting for the two of you

-You probably both propose to one another in a joke at some point and then have to actually do a proposal later on at the end of the war

-Everyone shows up for the wedding because no one was gonna miss out on the speeches that the two of you prepared haha

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Shit I’ve noticed during my clone wars rewatch and my interpretation (very Obi-Wan focused because he’s my favorite character lmao):

(Includes spoilers obviously)

+ I love this show to bits, but it has horrible issues with consistency. Every other episode there is a new weapon or something introduced and we’ll never see it again. This is very prevalent in especially the first seasons.

+ Obi-Wan is such a fucking enabler. Like he tells Anakin his plans are stupid at least twice during the Malevolence episodes, but then joins him on all of those. It’s literally like: “Anakin this plan is reckless and won’t work, anyways what’s my part in your plan?”

+ Rex running into that metal pipe. I forgot about that and laughed for 20 minutes straight.

+ Anakin pulls a “Are ya winning son?” on Obi-Wan about Ahsoka.

+ I once saw a post that it isn’t confirmed that Obi-Wan and Cody are friends, but you have Obi-Wan literally marveling on how competent the commander is and Cody always going the extra mile to save his general’s ass. To me that’s pretty much a friendship.

+ The Jedi are in general very gentle, but quite touchy. They might not go for hugs, but there is always someone touching someone’s shoulder or waist. And they’re just so fucking kind. I don’t think I ever noticed that as a kid, but they’re so respectful about life and culture and always helping someone. I just love them so much.

+ And I love the understanding and kindness the clones have. They’re soldiers and programmed to kill, but they’re also good people in most cases. I just wanna hug most of them.

+ My mother told me I cried as a child during the episodes with the Zillo beast. Well, I didn’t cry again, but I’m still so fucking mad at Palpatine for putting that poor creature in that position. If he just had listened to Mace Windu (more of the characters should actually, just saying) that poor animal wouldn’t have killed people and found its end like that.

+ Mortis is quite hated by the fandom but for me it’s a defining showcase of Obi-Wan’s, Anakin’s and Ahsoka’s relationship. I’ve seen people in the fandom saying that Anakin would’ve turned out differently if Obi-Wan would’ve told him he’s proud and took care of his feelings. This episodes literally show that he does exactly that and Anakin still doesn’t give a shit.

+ Anakin tells the son in his dream, that he’ll never come to the dark side willingly. Only to walk over to the literal manifestation of the dark side like 10 minutes later to save Ashoka. I came to the conclusion that the only way to tempt him was by promising to save his loved ones. I still think it was a really awful and greedy thing to become Vader for that, but I must admit it’s a noble character trait to put others first.

+ Kit Fisto doesn’t have nipples. Therefore I’ve concluded he’s isn’t a mammal and hatched from an egg like Nemo the clownfish. (And no, that isn’t a animation thing, Rex does have nipples when his shirt is off).

+ The discussion with my gf about Kit Fisto nipples and Star Wars biology also touched the topic of “how does Maul use the bathroom”. My conclusion is: he has a stoma, because the lower abdomen, where that would be, is always covered.

+ Hardcase mentions he is hyperactive. I now see him as my favorite ADHD clone, because having ADHD myself I can fucking relate.

+ I forgot Waxer died on Umbara and bawled my eyes out. Waxer is one my favorite clones and when he cried while dying I just couldn’t take it.

+ My friend spent the entire Umbara arc just simping for the clones (mostly Jesse), while I was suffering. So maybe they look hot or something for people attracted to men in this episodes.

+ In the episode after the Umbara the duo usually consisting of Waxer and Boil is sent out, but this time it’s just Boil and I was about to bawl again.

+ For being called “the negotiator” Obi-Wan gets his ass beat quite a lot after his “negotiations” (aggressive flirting).

+ While I’ll never forgive Obi-Wan for doing that Raako Hardeen shit, I nearly pissed myself when the Ziro the Hutt’s ex gf is flirting with not one but two women there. Like I didn’t expect her to be the fucking gay rep in clone wars.

+ I’m seriously never forgiving Obi-Wan for that. I can’t get over Ahsoka’s tear filled eyes while she’s holding his corpse. Also she doesn’t seem angry like Anakin just massively sad and disappointed after it is revealed that he’s still alive. Personally I believe she’s starting to doubt the order here.

+ Point three on hating on my favorite character for that shit, I feel like Anakin becomes quieter and less playful after that disaster.

+ Maul is me. He’s obsessed with Obi-Wan and mentions that he has massive problems what is going on inside his head. As a mentally ill person, that makes me feel really seen lmao.

+ The underwater episodes and the ones with Ventress on that train were just the most beautiful worlds I’ve ever seen. Like the planets in general are so beautifully designed in clone wars, I’m so in love.

+ Motherfucking “I said fuck the council and became a child soldier for a rebellion at 13” Obi-Wan Kenobi seems very reluctant on doing it again. There are two entire arcs of him disagreeing on helping rebels. First I didn’t understand, because like dude you literally did this before, but since he talks about his worries about bringing the separatists in or worsen the situation, I think the poor man is just a little bit traumatized.

+ After the events of Onderon I’m pretty sure Ashoka is already filled with doubts about the order, the republic and the war. I also feel like she’s feeling massively led down by Obi-Wan again, which broke my heart because I love their relationship.

+ I just realized he fails Ahsoka a third time, when she is captured by Hondo and Obi-Wan is supposed to help her. Instead he gets attacked by Grievous and is forced to postpone the helping them until they help themselves. I mean it’s not his fault but in Ahsoka’s place that wouldn’t feel good to me.

+ This particular fight with Grievous ignited my love for Obi-Wan again. Before he attacks Grievous he helps an injured clone and when he goes into the fight, Grievous directly kills a clone. Instead of his usual witty remarks, he just goes: “you’re gonna regret that” and jumps Grievous. He just loves his clones as much as I do.

+ One of the most beautiful shots in the entire series for me is in the episode before the droids find Gregor. This WAC droid looks into the desert and it reflects in his eye. Because of the cracks in the desert ground it looks almost like a retina. Beautiful metaphor of combining something artificial and metallic with an organic and almost human part. This was such a fucking raw shot for me, it took my breath away.

+ Tarkin is an asshole, but he’s climbed the asshole latter so hard after he has been mean to Plo Koon.

+ Shotout to Obi-Wan for convincing the order to let Anakin go after Ahsoka. Additionally the whole time he acts in her support only to be shut down by the council. I didn’t remember him doing that so I was surprised.

+ Fives tells the plot with the inhibitor chips to a cab driver. Do you think the cap driver ever thinks back after the war and is like: “Fuuuuuuck”?

+ I kid you not, the clone bar has gender neutral bathrooms (and no, it’s not bc the clones are all male, in the bar are also women). The bathroom are just decided by humans, hutts and a third species I cannot quite recognize.

+ I forgot Teckla gets shot, NOOOOOOO

+ I always say clone wars anakin is better, but Jesus stop acting like a jealous bitch. Padmè deserves an award for putting up with his bullshit. Obi-Wan too. He even tries to give him reassurance by telling him that feelings are not forbidden and Anakin just bitches at him.

+ Obi-Wan casually passing on babysitting duty for Jar Jar fucking killed me (and yes, taking care of Jar Jar is babysitting duty).

+ Never in a million years I would have thought to see Jar Jar admitting to fucking this queen, but here we have him saying he was making love to her last night. Imma set myself on fire and I believe Windu will join me.

+ You could also call the clone wars the exposition wars. Every episode has their one minute exposition in the beginning, but I feel like a lot of the dialogue is used for exposition.

+ Obi-Wan doesn’t learn shit. That man got drugged by Hondo, but yet still accepts drinks from the Pykes. MY BROTHER IN CHRIST PLEASE DONT

+ I AN GOING TO SCREAM. You have been informed that the Clones have a behavior influencing chip in their brains and then you find out Dooku was behind the creation of the clones and no one connects the fucking dots. I love the Jedi, but goddamn are you all dense.

+ Do you think Hunter thought Rex was screwing his general? Because their conversation sounded kinda suggestive and then they trail off to do something secret.

+ Ahsoka going “my older brother thought me”after kicking a guy where it hurts most. I now imagine Anakin going to Ahsoka as soon she got to be his padawan: “Listen up Snips, if you ever facing a creepy guy, you kick them right there”

+ When the sisters make their escape I don’t get why they don’t let Ahsoka fly. She’s clearly the more capable pilot.

+ Controversial opinion: I have a strong dislike for Bo Katan. She’s a fucking terrorist who doesn’t betray the deathwatch when they murder an entire innocent village, no but when there’s Maul trying to take their authority. Says a lot about her character if you ask me.

+ I mcfucking cried when the clones painted their helmets according to Ahsoka’s face markings and my flatmates gf came in and asked me if everything’s alright. I am fucking embarrassing I have seen this scene three times already but I still bawl like a baby.

+ Also my dear Obi-Wan can you quit being an ass? A “hello Ahsoka, nice to see you” wouldn’t have killed you.

+ Through the whole show most of the characters seemed to appear increasingly tired towards the end. Especially Obi-Wan and Ahsoka, but other characters aswell. The only one who seems to stay energized is Anakin. He becomes more serious but I feel like he’s the only one at the end that is still going into battles with full energy. It almost felt like he’s especially thriving in a war scenario which is incredibly sad.

+ The beauty of that last scene with Vader is truly unparalleled. I don’t ever think a tv show can recreate that.

+ I still love this show to bits and I cried 5 times total during that rewatch, shit this was nice.

[lover-of-mine]

omggggg YES whether you look at eddie through a demi!gaze or just a queer!gaze, the difference between he and buck is sort of obvious? (to me)

it makes sense for them to say that bi!buck has been scattered throughout the show, we’ve seen and heard hints directed at/about several other male characters. so it’s logical it’s not entirely about eddie for him and therefore his bi!arc starts with someone else

eddie on the other hand hasn’t really had ‘moments’ with other male characters? a lot of his queer!spec comes from his history and the way he is with dating, but his main interactions with other male characters are the softer more domestic scenes with he and buck. 704 proved that eddie’s friendship with other men is completely different to how he is with buck. so in my head it’s logical that for him, it is about buck, and that’s where his queer!arc starts

Yeah, here's the thing, like Oliver pointed out, there are a lot of moments of Buck having flirty moments with men who are not Eddie in the show, even if it wasn't on purpose in the beginning, like, something Oliver was consciously told to portrait, Buck does have a bisexual energy to him from the get-go, and I think it is nice for him to be able to explore that outside the person we all know is the love of his life, yk? He needs to accept that he likes men before he accepts he loves Eddie. It's kinda like the way a lot of feeling realization fics from Buck's pov have Buck fine with the idea of wanting a family with Eddie but panicking when he realizes he wants to have sex with him, he needs to accept that, especially with the way he has a bad relationship with sex overall.

But, Eddie on the other hand, he doesn't have moments with men, he has moments with Buck, I think maybe if you push a little bit, you can say he was flirting with Judd in the crossover, but like, it's been Buck since the ridiculous sexual tension in the gym during under pressure. And, like, until the show tells me I'm wrong I will exist in my "Eddie is settled into his feelings because he thinks Buck can't feel the same" because you can absolutely make an argument for Eddie to be in the "it's not his fault he can't feel the same way about me" stage of falling with your "straight" best friend, I say straight because Eddie still doesn't know, I did write a whole thing on how you can recontextualize the show to make it seem like Eddie has been semi-aware of his feelings since the lawsuit, and I know they are probably not gonna go the route that he's been aware of his feelings (rip shooting as Eddie's oh moment you will always be true to me), but the groundwork for him to be like oh! about Buck at any point is there. And Eddie is a lot more aware of his own feelings than Buck, he wouldn't need someone to kiss him to have the realization, he can have the realization in a less on-the-nose moment. And the thing with the way they have been playing Eddie and his love interests, especially with the added context on Shannon we got last season, that they were friends first and all that, you can make a really strong argument for him to be demisexual and that's why he struggles with the idea of dating, that he feels like that's a performance, and why he has weird chemistry with the woman he pushed himself into dating since Shannon died, and that can absolutely push him towards Buck. Because here's the thing, with Buck dating men, and Eddie's relationship in crisis, he could very well look at Buck and be like "oh, I wasn't aware he was an option" because of the whole struggle with attraction and the way he has such a strong relationship with Buck, and maybe wonder about what it all means, and they can tumble into the realization that maybe they could be more together. That none of them has been secretly pining, but they have such a strong thing going that there's no reason for them not to go there. It could be this natural thing. And it's right there, even more with the comment of Eddie trying to understand his place in the world. Because for Eddie is not about Buck being a man, is about Buck being his best friend, and I think Eddie as a person would need to come to terms with that and he wouldn't get that hung up on the fact that Buck's a man. So Buck can absolutely be his queer awakening. But if Buck had the realization he has feelings for Eddie, he would get hung up on the fact that he is a man if he didn't explore his bisexuality before that.

I kinda think the route we are going here is Buck processing he likes man, Eddie processing he likes Buck, Buck being like "wait men are an option, Eddie is a man, I already have most of the things I'm looking for with Eddie, maybe we can go there" and then maybe some mutual pining before they do go there.

[thecoolerliauditore]

im very sleepy but fuck it ummm. quick and dirty jimmy ecosystem breakdown for you specifically @puppyocto this is very sleepy me writing this is wrong

scott: suffers inherently from The Ecosystem by default by being gay. He chooses to embrace this as kind of. his niche, therefore ridding the threat of being ostracized or humiliated for it. Type to get called gay and start flirting back.

However (possibly because of said ecosystem) his view on romance is extremely idealized and fairy tale-esque. He views Jimmy as someone who can "fill the role" of a partner who can give him the happily ever after ending and is frustrated when jimmy fails to live up to his standards.

In Utena terms Scott is a princess waiting for his prince to come rescue him and give him the happiness he desires from being loved. But when he discovers Jimmy is "incapable" he takes on the prince persona for himself and "keeps Jimmy safe" by taking away Jimmy's agency. This frustrates him, but the "prince" role makes him feel capable and Good so he doesn't complain too much and continues to make Jimmy more and more helpless so that their dynamic can continue.

joel: also suffers inherently from The Ecosystem by being gay except he's NOT gay he's definitely NOT gay which is totally the truth and not his defense mechanism. He overperforms masculinity and always emphasizes his relationship with lizzie for totally normal reasons and not because he's living in fear.

He sees Jimmy as almost this danger to him because he's attracted to him. If Jimmy is a princess to Scott then he's a very stupid seductress to Joel, at least at the start. Joel abuses Jimmy for making him feel things for him and tries to push him away, but at the same time can't keep Jimmy too far because he deeply desires the intimacy and non-judgment he can only get from jimmy. He also made a kid with him that one time I don't really know how to interpret what happened there still.

I also do think jimmy and joel do share a genuinely very close platonic bond so that's always there for when they're not caught up in the hell spiral.

fwhip: honestly I don't actually think fwhip is Super Into Jimmy the way Joel and Scott are. I think he feels some? level of resentment towards jimmy for one reason or another since he constantly seeks to punish him in some way (this is especially bad in esmp2) and the "romantic gestures" (see: forcefully kissing him, stalking him, making a serial killer shrine dedicated to him) feel more like they're in line with that than any genuine interest.

I'm willing to believe he is attracted to men and just very confused about it and acting out some of that frustration onto Jimmy I just don't think he's too into Jimmy past using romantic gestures to humiliate/punish and fitting in socially (I've noticed he's usually at his worst when in public, his one on one interactions with Jimmy are usually. fairly chill)

sausage: I don't really know if I can talk about him I actually went on a giant binge once of his videos trying to figure out what he is to me and I couldn't do it. He is definitely interested in Jimmy sexually is all I've gathered definitively.

He's also very. odd about gay relationships if we're talking story. Obviously this is more or less just the CC baiting for fan interactions but a lot of the times he mentions gay relationships are through a frame of humiliation or spectacle. See: him claiming bdubs kissed him during the crossover but also said he "only does that for etho" or when he put on a play in the sos talent show mog hosted where the joke seemed to just be. Joel and Etho's whole thing. And ofc how he treats jimmy just in general.

of course he's. very gay too in this context so idk maybe there's some depth there to be dug up.

grian: honestly kind of a tough one because he exists just on the verge of the ecosystem to me. Homophobic grian is the funniest thing in the world to me but also kinda canon, but homophobic in a very different way compared to Sausage where he doesn't find any humour from it.

Even when he admonished jimmy and joel for kissing in RL his tone is more. "think of the consequences" than anything else.

To me grian is kind of like. a fucked up little animal who protects himself by disengaging with all of it. He refuses to let himself be vulnerable for others and at the same time clings onto those who can give him comfort. I don't think he's really into jimmy though so. shrugs.

I think I'll talk about this more in that essay I'm planning to write but grians someone who bends the rules just enough to protect himself, but still plays the game and believes you can only survive by playing the game. He looks down on jimmy for not being good enough at that (e.g. southlanders) but at the same time is sympathetic towards him.

martyn: oh this bitchass um. also kinda exists on the outskirts of it. like joel he overperforms masculinity but I think it's much less because of insecurity and more because that's what he takes pride in playing the role for (which is also rooted in insecurity but. whatever. sleepy)

he sees himself as a protector/provider more than anything else and gets frustrated when that role is denied from him, such as in third life with jimmy, because when he can't do that he's forced to confront his insecurities and he very much doesn't want to do that. I don't think he's? attracted to jimmy as much as he just wants to keep him safe but. sigmund freud's face flashes in front of my eyes killing me instantly.

[keithydove]

i dont remember WHERE i heard this, but i remember mel saying that they identify as aroace because "i've been screwed over in past relationships (orange) so im never doing that again. therefore im aroace" and thats just not how that works AT ALL. im aroace and consider myself unattracted to anyone. period. so i feel like i can share my perspective on her take.

obviously its ok to not wanna be in relationships for a while or ever if you feel like you were hurt. thats not the issue here. my issue is that mel acts as if not wanting to be in a relationship means they're aroace. it doesnt. aro/ace people feel no attraction to a persons physical appearance/demeanor (demi-aroace ppl only feel that type of attraction after being with a person for a longer amount of time btw). i personally cannot look at someone and imagine myself in a relationship with them of any kind. it doesnt mean i dont want to do couple things like kissing etc. i just dont want to do that stuff with a specific someone. its how qpr work after all (ive never been in one tho so take that with a grain of salt). idk if mel feels attraction to anyone or she just phrased her statement weirdly, but imo you shouldn't identify with the aroace label just cuz you dont wanna be in a relationship. thats not what aroace means.

then again idk her situation or sexuality. it just really bothered me as an aroace person (take a shot each time i said aroace in this post lol) srry for the yap session but i felt like it was important to note. also i think mel only started identifying as aroace after watching hazbin hotel?? or maybe im mixing it up with when she changed pastel's sexuality to aroace after watching hh. maybe they thought pastel would appear more.. idk 'quirky'?? with the label?? idk im not gonna dig deep on that one. anyway i hope you're feeling well and remember to take care of yourself in this difficult time!!!! ^-^

I AGREE WITH THIS ACTUALLY

My least favorite thing is when ppl say “I’m aroace cuz I’ve been screwed over in past relationships” cuz it’s the equivalent of a girl saying “I’m lesbian now cuz all my relationships with men sucked”. She says she’s an aroace lesbian iirc but Khai told me that she literally flirts with men on vrchat 😐😐

Pastel being confirmed aroace was probably because Mel identified with the label (which feeds more into the fact that she is her self insert) yet would make ship art with her and other characters that was blatantly romantic. I mean yea, her characters, her rules, whatever — but if that was a lesbian with a man n vice versa ppl would probably care way more and it annoys me. I get aroace is “LITTLE TO NO attraction” but a lot of the time it’s just none but we can’t have nice things I suppose

AND TY VERYY MUCH 🙏🙏 I am taking care of myself and my mental health is improving :))

[iangallagherisadeadman]

I made a post another day about how I can't comprehend those imagines people write about Lip cause they're just describing a totally different character, Lip has never treated none of his romantical partners that way so I just do not understand where that comes from, and therefore I said I can't understand how people are attracted to him.

I do stand by what I said but it kept me thinking, cause I received some answers and now I do see what the appeal is: Lip is a malandro.

I don't know if there's an equivalent translation for the term cause I believe it is essentially a Brazilian thing but a malandro would be this man who always has the upper hand since he's streetwise and has some brains which leads to the ability to take the best of every situation. Like a rascal? A scoundrel?

A malandro lives life kind of freely, lightly; he fits the space he is put in, he is a natural. He would avoid the complicated and to compromise, wants to live an easy life, and his motivations can be perceived as laziness. The term is associated to young criminal men usually — no good thing could come of someone like this —, and there's this appeal of this boyish man, a bad person but not necessarily a bad boy, who knows how to have a good time and is always breaking rules, the men no father desire to their daughter, the way he's a promise of a good time for any women, that leads to his attractiveness.

A malandro also has the gift of the gab (which I love cause in portuguese we say "ser bom de lábia" or "ter lábia" which directly translates to "have a lip" in the meaning of having its ways with words, knowing how to speak and convince and even fool someone easily).

Just from this description, Lip fits it better than any other shameless character.

there's how he made money easily: often scammed people like the northwest guys to work for free, later to visit Fiona's club, then when he was a trainee stealing money and taking their tablets and all, also selling weed and fireworks, selling homework and school projects and then the SAT thing — he never really gets a conventional job or source of income, and when he had aka s5 construction he left it to travel to Miami.

then his dating: he first got with Karen with the whole dirty tutoring and even madly in love with her he never really wanted her as a girlfriend; Mandy was flirting and having sex at his little sister's sleepover, and then she kind of made herself his girlfriend and he let her cause it was comfortable for him; Amanda's parents hated him and later she did too cause he gets sick of her and kind of ghosted her; he was smartfunny and had a quick mouth and got into his professor Helene's pants; i don't really remember Sierra but he was the cute boss younger brother etc.; and Tami was the easy fuck. The point is, he doesn't compromise, he's the promise of easy good sex, he cheats and lies.

and other stuff like he was not only a genius but smart, making good connections with older and powerful people like his professors; the way he never really looked forward to college or any other accomplishments really and he hated the pressure and expectations people had with him; how he was always committing delicts by breaking things, getting expelled from school, stealing, working with JimmySteve, underage drinking, etc.

[zbdjjsjwjajba]

ok yknow what HELP

ive looked through the demiromantic tag for like an hour and i still cant figue shit out so here we are

am i demiromantic or have i just not met enough ppl

bc the way i would explain demiromanticism (?) to myself is im friends w someone for a bit (ranges from a couple weeks to a year) and then we r put in close proximity?? ig and then the secret romantic attraction quest is unlocked however absolutely does not NEED to be completed (which means i dont HAVE to tell them i like them bc im not really expecting anything out of it?? its just a thing thats kind of happening)

ok so the only crushes im counting total up to 3 (? (will be explained))

1!! my friend group at the time thought it would be a funny little haha to say that they all actually 'ship' me w another friend,,, which led to friend jokingly flirting w me all the time which led to us spending more time together therefore secret romantic quest unlocked which i DID complete (told them and got rejected, cried a little, got over it)

2!! actually dated this person for a bit but honestly dont know if i liked them?? or how i happened to start liking them if i ever did??? like ive looked back on this relationship and thought yh we were absolutely friends who held hands more often and they attempted to kiss me a couple times but like?? was that it??? this is the questionable crush bc genuinely have absolutely no fucking clue if i did have a crush on them or if we decided to give dating a shot just bc they told me a bit before that they did like me and i fully just asked them out (and now did i ask them out bc i wanted to date them or bc everyone around me was getting into relationships and i felt like i was being abandoned??? who knows) THIS PERSON IS ALSO ARO NOW AND WE ARE STILL FRIENDS

3!!! classmate i went on a school trip to nyc w (we were friends?? im not good at knowing if im friends w someone,,, point is we talked quite a bit bc we sat next to each other in maths) and he would do things that i consider sweet,,, like lending me his gloves bc it was cold and letting me hold onto his arm while we were on the subway bc i didnt have anything else to hold onto (we did almost topple over) but now that im writing this out and thinking about it,,, i dont think i would think anything of this if it wasn't a dude?? maybe i have way lower standards for men??? i think thats it,,, ok well now im thinking about if i ever actually found him attractive in any way or if it was just the action of giving me gloves and an arm to hold onto,,, anyway that ig?? unlocked the secret romantic quest??

also those were pretty bunched together??? like in the span of like i think 2 years max and its been i think around 2?? years and no romantic attraction has been felt at all but i think it may be bc i havent really met that many new ppl and therefore pool is smaller????????

nddjnd think this is also kind of important to add but one time i was on a call w a couple friends and smthsmth and i went yh its ok i can just find ppl attractive from afar and they went aww blair :( and i was so confused bc i didn't think i said anything wrong???

ok fuck i have way too much shit to think about now,,, anyway help me out pls this is frying my fucking brain

[hellomynameisbisexual]

There are many different stereotypes depicted that are then perpetuated by society and contribute to bisexuals having such a negative reputation. Biphobia and bi-erasure have sadly been prevalent in society for decades, if not longer, and as I’ve gotten older I have noticed some similarities and some glaring differences in the portrayal of bi men, women, non-binaries and all other gender identities in the media. For clarification, for the duration of this blog, I will be using the term “bi” to cover all those under the umbrella term (e.g. bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, multisexual, polysexual, heteroflexible, homoflexible, fluid).

A common stereotype of bi people generally is that they’re greedy nymphomaniacs unable to settle down with one person, and therefore more likely to cheat which then leads to the belief that they are more likely to contract and pass on STIs. There are no facts to support any of these claims, and yet these are the most common accusations the bi community faces. Bi people usually find that a lot their “friends” believe they are always trying to flirt with them, usually after we have opened up and come out to them which discourages many from being open with others about their sexuality. Partners often accuse bi people of wanting to leave them for someone of a different gender, claiming they can’t be satisfied with one partner because they can be attracted to more than one gender. A common claim is that bi people are just going through a phase or doing it for attention before they eventually decide on heterosexuality or homosexuality; that sexuality is and can only be that black and white with no grey areas. Additionally, when a bi person goes from dating one gender to another and people comment “so you’re straight/gay now”; this insistence that we must be one or the other invalidates our orientation and is one of the most infuriating things to experience.

As for differences, bi women are often sexualised and fetishized whereas bi men are abhorred and ridiculed. Bi women face comments from straight men about automatically being ok with a threesome, and many face attitudes for so-called “gold star” lesbians who won’t have anything to do with bi women as they may have been with a man in the past. Bi men are not as fetishized; instead, they are often avoided by straight women, who act as though they are dirty or shameful and more likely to pass on STIs due to possible relations with other men, and gay men, for being “too straight”. There is one common element I have noticed about the different things said about bi men and bi women in particular that I would like to draw attention to. A lot of the comments I and other bi women hear is that we’re only doing it for attention from men, to make us seem more sexually appealing, and that eventually we will settle down with a man so we can have a family. Bi men, on the other hand, are frequently told that they’re just too scared to be gay and that they will eventually admit that they are gay and settle down with a man. In both circumstances, a male partner is viewed as the inevitable ending for us all; it implies that women are not a viable option for a long-term partner, and this in itself is a very sexist attitude to hold and perpetuate.

Those who identify as non-binary, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc. usually face the same comments as bi men and women but it is dependent on how others perceive them which in itself is alienating and can be very dysphoric to the individual. It erases more of their identity than bi men or women as their gender is invalidated as well as their sexual orientation, and this can be very damaging.

One of the most concerning things I have found from speaking with others within the bi community is that some of the worst biphobia and bi-erasure they have experienced has come from within the LGBTQIA+ community itself. Here, too, exist the beliefs that bi people will cheat with a different gender because they can never be satisfied with one partner. This is not only unfair and untrue, but it also invalidates any who choose a polyamorous lifestyle. There are also many who claim bi people don’t belong if they are in a relationship with someone of a different gender to themselves as they have “straight passing privilege”, meaning they don’t face the same discrimination as an openly and obviously gay couple would as they can pass as a straight couple. This further alienates bi people from a community that is supposed to accept us, and has left a lot of bi people questioning if they want to date outside of the bi or straight community as they feel they will get less judgement.

The attitude towards bisexuality from both straight and LGBTQIA+ people is that it is a stepping point to “picking a side”; they ignore the huge expanse of no man’s land between straight and gay where all the bi’s live. Also, both straight and LGBTQIA+ people try to dictate what bi means, assigning descriptions without discussing it with those it concerns. For example, bi people are often told that identifying as bisexual is transphobic and/or doesn’t include non-binary people and, that if you are attracted to trans/non binary people, you are automatically pansexual. The basis is that “bi” means “two” and is interpreted as two genders; this is not the true definition of bisexuality which is romantic or sexual attraction to more than one gender.

Biphobia and bi-erasure should not be as prevalent as they are. In the last fifty years, we as a society have made great strides in acceptance for those within the LGBTQIA+ community, and we are in a much better position than our forebears. That’s not to say that there isn’t more still to do, but now imagine that that community who fought so hard to get here are also still ostracising one of their own; bi people are still fighting stereotypes, misconceptions and ignorance from all corners when we should be banding together. We need to unite to show that, regardless of our spectrum, all flags are valid, seen, respected, valued, and loved.

[bethanydelleman]

Cynthia Kirkpatrick (Wives and Daughters) and Mary Crawford (MP) - cut from the same cloth?

You are SO in luck, the person who coerced me into reading Wives & Daughters frequently compares it to Mansfield Park so this was already swimming around in my head. So grateful that I was coerced by the way, here is their comparison of Roger and Edmund if you are interested.

To your question! I don't think Mary and Cynthia are similar at all.

Cynthia, if I understand her correctly, has been deprived of love by her mother and this leads her to attempt to gain the admiration of basically every man she meets, whether she likes them or not. She's very beautiful and she pretends to be interested in what people say. She accepts Roger not because she loves him, she even admits this, but because he's a good person and it makes her feel safe since she's already engaged to the loathed Mr. Preston. She breaks it off, I think partially because she sees that her and Roger are unsuited to each other, but also because she fears losing his love over time and because of the Mr. Preston thing.

The only big similarity I see between them is that both Cynthia and Mary understand and respect the goodness of their prospective man.

Mary hasn't been so much deprived of love as she's lost her mother and mother-figure. While her brother won't live at Everingham for her, he clearly loves her and they seem to have a good, secure relationship. Mary doesn't come off as someone yearning for attention and admiration, she wants to attract a man so she can marry well. Mary does attempt to flirt with Tom, but she isn't trying to charm every man she sees in the way that Cynthia does. Unlike Cynthia, Mary does really love Edmund.

Cynthia was one of those natural coquettes, who, from their cradle to their grave, instinctively bring out all their prettiest airs and graces in order to stand well with any man, young or old, who may happen to be present.

Now to be clear, I found Cynthia very sympathetic and the explanation for why she does what she does is important, but Cynthia is constantly trying to win over men; she can't really help it. Mary is not like this. Mary doesn't try to flirt with Tom when he returns, she doesn't flirt with Yates, and when she returns to London, Edmund explicitly says he isn't jealous of any other person. Mary does say nice things to people socially, but going around a ball and complimenting the family is very different than flirting.

Mary is mercenary or superficial. Cynthia really doesn't seem to care about wealth very much, it seems she likes Mr. Henderson because he's charming and he understands her. Mary loves Edmund, but she cannot let go of her desire for wealth and consequence.

Also, Cynthia is terrified of losing the love she does have. She has Molly’s devotion and fears telling her about Preston. She is very afraid of losing Mr. Gibson’s regard as well. Mary insults Edmund’s profession to his face and doesn’t really worry about losing him until he stays unexpectedly long away. She also never seems afraid of losing Mrs. Grant’s or Henry’s regard. 

The dynamic between Cynthia/Roger and Mary/Edmund is very different, but that might partially be because we get a lot more of Mary/Edmund while most of Cynthia and Roger’s relationship he is in Africa and she is dealing with the Mr. Preston problem. However, I don’t see Cynthia as someone who would encourage Roger to change his profession. She is capable of being manipulative but we only see her really use that when she convinces Molly to return the money to Mr. Preston. Most of the time she’s just trying to make people like her.

The dynamic between Fanny/

Additional Note: Cynthia is a complicated character because she’s very beautiful and therefore the threshold for a man proposing is lower than for your average woman. She does like the admiration, though she doesn’t seem to like that men propose. She could act in a way that put men off, as Molly does with Mr. Coxe, but she doesn’t. And yes, its unfair that by simply looking very attentive when a guy talks, men assume that she loves them. However, I don’t think Mr. Gibson was unreasonable to be angry at her for not being more off-putting when she is semi-engaged to Roger.

Cynthia’s life isn’t fair and her society isn’t exactly helping her.

[femcel-interruped]

"Boy-Sober": The Concept and Rules as explained by Hope Woodard

I first discovered this idea of "boy-sober" through a random tiktok of a woman explaining her own experience doing it. She coined the phrase and has further explained the rules as different questions come up, and there are a lot of "what ifs" to consider.

In a nutshell, being boy-sober is to not be involved with any man romantically. This includes dating apps, situationships, exes, basically any man who would take up your brain space is off limits. The goal and hope is to disconnect from the male gaze and enjoy your life as your own entity. You are no longer reaching for the validation, affection and entertainment that dating would most commonly provide.

// sidenote... As I'm explaining this in writing, the lines are so blurred to me because I'm scared of jumping into the deep end, quitting all men cold turkey. What about my ex that I miss and love so dearly and am still close to? What about the men that seem nice and want to take me on a date? I guess that's why I'm doing this, it's a challenge. I have to remind myself that I'm not depriving myself of joy or love, I'm making way for a more peaceful and driven life. Not only am I creating a more balanced and healthy lifestyle for myself, but I am also creating higher standards for what I will accept as a partner. It will benefit me in all ways that will serve me in the future. //

So, here is Hope Woodard's (the person who coined this phrase) rules for being boy-sober:

no dating apps

no dates

no exes

no situationships (you are NOT single if somebody is taking up your headspace, it does not matter how "casual" the relationship is)

no hookups

It sounds very simple, but there are a lot of what-ifs.

For example, what if a random person that you find attractive asks for your number? According to Woodard, in this situation you may give out your number if you are so inclined to, but you have to disclose that you are not dating.

What about sex? If it is a true necessity for you to have sex with another person instead of doing it yourself, that is completely okay, go for it as long as you are able to stay unattached. Not all of us are that strong.

Am I allowed to flirt? Yes, yes, yes. This is not a practice of isolation or separation. You are encouraged (by Woodard) to keep flirting, keep meeting people. But you have to keep in mind that that is where the relationship will pause for the time being until your boy-sober journey has reached a fulfilled ending.

Is it okay for me to want a partner/be lonely? Absolutely. It is so completely natural to feel these things and is apart of this process. This experience will give you time to think about what you really want in a partner, therefore you will have a higher quality partner in the future once figuring out what kind of person suits you best. Keep in mind, finding someone is NOT the end goal; the end goal is to find fulfillment within yourself, which will ultimately increase your quality of life.

Below are affirmations I've found during my research that may help the process be a little less painful:

I can make space for loneliness and still be kind to myself

The longest relationship I’ll ever have is with myself

I can give myself the things I need to feel better

The loneliness I feel isn’t something I have to feel all the time

I feel joy and pride in accomplishing things by myself

I give myself permission to make time for being sad, then I’ll get back up when I feel able to

I am simply disengaging from bad energy

I have the power to change direction

Day 1 starts tomorrow.

[youcatchyman]

How to Seduce a Leo Man in 6 Steps

How to seduce a Leo man and make him chase you? Any male born between July 23rd and August 23rd is a Leo. Typical of him is his self-confident and charming manner, with which he likes to be the center of attention.

He also enjoys being courted by women and likes to feel like royalty. Understandably, you were captivated by his confident manner. Do you want to find out how to win the heart of a Leo man and how he shows interest?

We will show you his typical characteristics, strengths, and weaknesses, which women he likes, and which strategy you can use best to seduce a Leo man and make him man chase you.

Seducing a Leo man

You have certainly already discovered some character traits and, above all, strengths of the Leo man. But do you also know what weaknesses he has?

Strengthen

Self-assured

Charming

Determined

Generous

Faithful

Weaknesses

Dominant

overbearing

Willful

Intolerant

megalomaniac

Attracting a Leo man: What are his typical characteristics?

1. Charming

One of Leo man’s greatest qualities is his charming nature. He loves to flirt and be surrounded by a crowd of women. Thanks to this charming characteristic, it is not at all difficult for the Leo man to communicate with women — they love the charmer in him. Sometimes he should just be careful not to appear too arrogant and think that he could wrap any woman around his finger. But in general, it’s just the Leo man’s way of flirting and showing his love.

2. Proud and confident

The Leo man has many qualities — but shyness is not among them. On the contrary: he always appears self-assured and full of pride, which many women find very attractive in combination with his charm. He always stands by what he’s doing and always represents his opinion. To win over a Leo man, it can help simply to adore him a little — then he will only feel more confident in himself and his pride.

3. Faithful and loyal

Although the Leo man likes to flirt with many women at once and let them adore him, at the same time faithfulness and loyalty are firmly anchored in him. Once he has decided on a woman, nothing else matters to him. It may happen that he will continue to flirt since that is just his way, but then nothing more will happen.

4. Likes to be the center of attention

As mentioned earlier, the Leo man is very confident. Added to this is his desire to always be the center of attention. He simply feels comfortable in the spotlight and thus never misses an opportunity to get there. He is typically outgoing and loves the hustle and bustle. He loves socializing and making new acquaintances, also from your side. He also likes it when you affirm and support him in this: if you turn out to be his fan, you will surely be able to seduce the Leo man.

5. He is the king

The lion is the king of the beasts, and so is the lion man among other men. If someone gets in his way, he always knows how to defend himself — he behaves like an alpha animal. Also, he just loves the admiration of others and also needs it to rule his kingdom. However, he likes to overshoot the mark and cannot understand why other people sometimes hesitate. Therefore, he may sometimes come across as arrogant to others.

What a Leo man looks for in a woman?

Since Leo men are very confident, they also like women who know what they want. Also, she should be aware of her worth and be independent. Your dominant nature shows him that you get along with his nature and that he can deal with you accordingly.

He is looking for a queen who will rule his kingdom together with him. He also likes women when they introduce him to their circle of friends. After all, he likes to make new acquaintances and would thus like to get to know your circle of friends.

But he would also be happy to teach a woman something because he likes to play the teacher — for example with techniques in bed. Let him show you what he’s got. He also likes it when women challenge him. Commenting on how your ex was in bed is sure to make him want to trump him. However, you should always be careful not to depress or embarrass him.

On the outside, you should dress feminine, but above all feel comfortable in your clothes if you want to please a Leo man. Whether it’s an elegant dress, skirt, blouse, or jeans — the main thing is that your clothes exude security and strength. Because you also need them to seduce and conquer a Leo man.

The Leo will like elegance, maybe also a deep decollete. It can also be a little more with make-up, for example with red lipstick. Perfume on the neck can make a big impression, especially when hugging. Then the Leo man will also remember his dream woman.

How to seduce a Leo man in 6 steps

1. Let Him conquer you

The Leo man is a born hunter — the hunting instinct is in him from birth. Understandably, he would like to conquer his prey himself, which in this case is you. So to seduce and make a Leo man chase you, you should take that as a positive because he doesn’t put in the effort for every woman. However, if he likes you, he will also make an effort to get to know you better. He gladly accepts this challenge. In this case, it is exactly the other way around, and you should let the Leo man conquer you.

If he doesn’t show immediate interest at first, you have yet to awaken his hunting instincts. This succeeds with visual stimuli, which the Leo man particularly loves. So to make him chase you could try to wow him with an elegant and feminine outfit that flatters your figure. Then he will certainly notice you and will also want to try to get to know you better. He also likes it when you make it clear that you want him to conquer you.

2. Support him

To seduce a Leo man, you must know that he likes to be the center of attention and is therefore looking for a woman who will be by his side. To please him, you should show him your full support — in his dreams, plans, and goals for the future. Encourage him instead of making him think. This also applies to jealousy: if you cheat on him, he will probably never forgive you. Show him your loyalty and that he can count on you — no matter what.

3. Make him fidget

Although the Leo man loves to hunt and wants to conquer you, he also loves the challenge of getting to know each other. So don’t give up too quickly and rather let him fidget a little longer. Show him that you are interested in him by complimenting him, but try to resist him a little more — he will like this game. It triggers something in him that only makes him crazier about you. So you just shouldn’t be too obviously available. Be careful not to let him down, as this rejection will hit him hard.

4. Be direct and open

Leo men are known for their strong egos. To a Leo man, you should above all show interest and ask him openly and directly for his opinion, or tell him your opinion frankly and immediately. A little admiration won’t hurt either. He just likes to feel interested in your questions and it makes him feel valued. He will also appreciate your openness.

5. Let him lead…

…but don’t submit to him! The Leo man loves his freedom and likes to take the lead in the relationship. You should also give him this freedom to make decisions, simply so that he feels more comfortable with you. So if you want to seduce a Leo man, you should be prepared for it from the beginning. Plus, it will pay off because he will reward you with his love and all his resources. You should just be careful not to lose sight of and undermine your worth.

6. Stand by your love

To seduce a Leo man, you should be very open about your love. He likes to be the center of attention and therefore wants to share his happiness with everyone. So don’t hold back on public kisses, hugs, and other romantic gestures to win him over. Stand by your love! Also, you should never criticize him in public or even in front of his family — if there is a reason to do so, you can do so once you are alone again.

Leo man in love: Signs a Leo man is falling in love with you

How to tell if a Leo man is serious about a woman? How does a Leo man in love behave?

When a Leo man has feelings, you can tell by the fact that he always wants you around. Even in a large group of friends and acquaintances, his eyes will always wander to you, and he will also want to refer you to others.

Also, he will make you feel special and he will want to spend time with you. For example, if he suggests doing something together, it’s a good sign that the Leo man is in love. He tries to get closer to you and then you will be the only one for him too.

Leo man seduction: The perfect place for a first date

The lion likes it a little fancier and the location for your first date should also be chosen accordingly. It’s best to let him decide — he’ll appreciate that you let him make that decision. However, if he does want you to choose something, pick a posh place. Even if it gets a little more expensive, don’t let that put you off — in the end, the Leo man will want to foot the bill, no matter what the price is. You can see his generous nature again.

In addition, the Leo man likes everything that does not conform to the norm. He’s extroverted and likes your date to be exciting and special — something spontaneous too. So think of something exclusive and don’t try to talk him into a run-of-the-mill date. Fun is essential to the Leo man.

These zodiac signs are compatible with Leo

Leo and Gemini

With these two zodiac signs, the focus is on having fun. Both are very extroverted and dynamic and have strong characters, which is why both need some space. In the long term, however, the two have a good chance of a great relationship and marriage.

Leo and Libra

The Leo and the Libra can support and advance each other well: The Leo helps the Libra to get ahead in life, while the Libra brings the Leo man the necessary calm and balance. The harmony between the two is perfect.

Leo and Capricorn

Things can get pretty passionate with these zodiac signs. Capricorn makes sure that Leo receives enough attention. However, Leo should try to come to terms with the fact that Capricorn also wants to focus on their career — sometimes even more than on their partner.

Leo and Aries

Two fire signs that can look forward to a fiery love life. Both are open to expressing their feelings, which greatly enhances the relationship. In addition, Aries makes sure not to stay in the shadow of Leo, which is also very important in this relationship. So the Aries woman has a good chance of seducing a Leo man.

These tips will help you get the most out of your horoscopes. We’re keeping our fingers crossed that the seduction and conquest of the Leo man work out!

Do you already have experience with it and know how to seduce and make him chase you? If you have other tips on how to impress and win over a Leo man or how, for example, as a Cancer woman you can let a Leo man conquer you, please let us know.

Read also: How to Get a Virgo Man to Chase You: (28 Ways That Work)

[akaraboonline]

How To Find And Fall In Love With The Man You Will Want To Marry Easily

Do you struggle to know how to approach men?  you even know how to flirt with a guy once you catch his eye or how to make a guy like you? How To Find And Fall In Love With The Man You Will Want To Marry Easily you appear to never be attracted to anyone, or worse, do you clam up and lose any charm or personality you may possess when you are, rendering you about as beautiful as wallpaper? Then, when it comes to the people you're not interested in, you're at your most amusing, cute, and playful. That has to be the worst. So, where do you go to get advice on how to meet potential suitors? And how can you become more at ease around them so you can learn how to win over a guy without jeopardizing your chances of finding real love? I can tell you, but be prepared for a surprising response.

You can meet good men anywhere

How To Find And Fall In Love With The Man You Will Want To Marry Easily All you need to do is greet me! I am not joking. They can be found anywhere, including the grocery store, the laundromat, your local coffee shop, the hardware store, the driving range, and the gym. That's not the shocking thing, though. The stunning thing is that they're lonely and rely on you to let them know it's alright to approach them. In the end, that's what guys desire in relationships and dating. Finding the proper man for you and learning how to make a guy like you will be much easier if you know this secret. Men are lonely, too It's likely that the cute stranger you meet at the grocery store, gym, or coffee shop didn't grow up nearby. It's likely that he did not attend college there either. Additionally, his native family is probably far away. That is to say, he is probably not spending much time with his childhood pals, school mates, siblings, or parents, who are the people he is closest to in the world. However, there's still more. Due to how expensive modern life is, he might work absurdly long hours with little time for a personal life. This is particularly true if he is American because, compared to other countries, Americans work the most hours with the least amount of free time. Not to mention that he is a male. As a result, society demands that he uphold an outdated, unhealthy masculine ideal. Because so many people are homophobic, males aren't allowed to hold hands with anyone unless it's romantic, they aren't allowed to kiss other men (provided they aren't attracted to women), and they aren't allowed to discuss deep, intimate secrets with one another unless it's truly a huge deal. Many women are able to be intimate with other women and their friends without it coming across as sexually suggestive, connect with everyone they meet, and chat to them constantly. Women do not experience loneliness in the same way that males do. Men want you to turn the table — and make an approach So, when you're learning how to make a guy like you, don't be afraid to approach a guy you like when you see him next since he's waiting impatiently for your greeting! The rest of the story is as follows: The art of approaching women is taught to guys. All the pursuing is "supposed" to be done by them. They have been aware from kindergarten that they must take action if they like a girl.

Look for the story behind the smile

What happened to the typical man by the time you run into him in the real world, then? He has had numerous rejections from ladies. So, after some unpleasant encounters, he has learned to avoid approaching ladies unless he is certain that they want him to. Therefore, unless he's a cocky bad boy, he'll search for some indication from you that you won't boot him from the couch once again. And if you're attractive (which you are), and you don't give him any cues, he'll think that you're already dating someone. He won't take action because he will think, "A woman like her must be with someone." Start the conversation yourself What can you do, then, to put an end to the madness? Even though it's so straightforward, it's the reverse of what you've been doing. You only need to start conversing with males wherever you go! Anything you say will be appreciated by them.   You are not required to say something insightful, humorous, or even stunning. Just say anything, please. He might not respond much if he is not interested or if his girlfriend is five feet away. It won't happen by magic The best part is that if you talk to men constantly wherever you go, you'll be so at ease that you won't suddenly lose your entire personality when you encounter the guy you want. You'll have built up all those "talking to men" muscles, so it'll be simple. He will adore you for being your most fabulous, endearing, and energetic self. Consider giving it a shot before you dismiss it because you might believe it's difficult or won't work for you. Talking to people in public can be challenging at first, but it will get easier.   Read the full article

[advisorsage]

Why is it so much more acceptable for straight men? Also like why? It's it because I'm AFAB so I'm "woman light" and therefore anyone attracted to women can like me? But oh wait you're going to hold lesbians to a higher standard. I know that I personally don't believe anyone who explicitly isn't attracted to men can respect my gender while telling me they want to date me. Especially when I can't bind and have a c cup chest. I get that I look feminine and might be attractive to people who like that look. At the same time, if you're on a dating app you should look at someone's bio and pronouns. Mine clearly state that I'm a genderfluid demiboy and my pronouns are he/him. While I'm not a man I view myself as man adjacent. You can't be attracted to me and not accept the masculine parts. So why? Why do straight men get more of a pass to find masculinity attractive than lesbian? Is it the he/him pronouns? That shouldn't matter. These results wouldn't bother me so much if it was a clear yes or no for both but the answer is different. I mean yeah the winning answer was "what the fuck is going on" and that's valid but I asked y'all because I've had both straight men and lesbians approach me on dating apps despite my gender being visible. I've had to put in my profile that I won't date cishet men because of this. And I figured if everyone seemed to say that straight men and lesbians can be attracted to my gender without denying it or the masculinity I occasionally identify with then I'd stop rebuffing the lesbians and straight men and see if I could have good experiences. But these results don't give me a good feeling about doing that. It makes me feel like I really shouldn't trust straight men and like maybe tumblr hasn't gotten past their hangups enough to be able to help me with knowledge about the queer community. Maybe I just need to ask the lesbians I know irl but that feels like it would come off as flirting and I really don't want to do that to anyone. I'll ask one more time. Why?

[taleasnewastime]

helloo, just wanted to say you’re an amazing writer and i love your work♥️

I have a request for a drabble for WIILYTM please. So basically someone flirts with reader in front of Jungkook and tries to ask her out and he gets jealous

Ahh that's very lovely of you to say, thank you. And thanks for the request, I hope you enjoy :)

Word count: 800

Warnings: swearing, drinking alcohol.

“Can I get another round of the same please?”

The passing waiter nods, only pausing long enough to hear your order. It’s busy tonight and you feel a little guilty adding more to their plate. You’ll tip heavy, just hope they actually remember to come back with your drinks, you wouldn’t be surprised if they forget, they probably have a thousand other things to remember. You remember the days when you waited tables and are not envious of anyone working here tonight.

Your eyes drift around the bar.

There’s a table of girls in the corner, laughing loudly about something one of them said. A couple of older men sat at the bar, hunched over their drinks you’d guess they must be regulars. There’s a table of half cleared glasses someone’s trying to claim while their friends gather around the bar. A couple sat near the fire, cuddled close despite the warmth, clearly on a date and clearly very into one another. There’s another girl who’s just walked in, head looking around the room in search of someone.

Someone slides into the seat opposite you, cutting your search short. You don’t mind, you’d much rather look at the person you came with anyway. But when you look at the now occupied seat opposite you, your smile drops off your face.

That’s not Jungkook.

“Can I get you a drink?”

Does he think he’s being smooth? Even if you weren’t taken, you can’t imagine being won over by the line. If anything guys like him, saying things like that only put you off. Still, you’re too polite to tell him to fuck off.

He’s brought his own half-finished pint with him. Dressed in a white button down, the top two buttons left undone He’s teeth gleam and his hair is styled to an inch of it’s life. He’s not bad looking, in fact he’s kind of attractive, it’s just the fact he’s so boldly taken a seat at your table that puts you off. That and the fact you’re with Jungkook.

You kind of respect how bold he is. He has confidence, you’ll give him that.

“I’ve just ordered,” you say with a small smile, your eyes darting over his shoulder. “But thanks.”

You’d hoped the short, closed answer would send a certain message, but he only looks to settle deeper into the seat.

“Great. What you on?”

“G&T.”

“I should have guessed. Gordons?”

“Bloom actually.”

His eyebrows raise as he takes a sip of his drink. “Fancy.”

You shrug, your eyes dancing away from him again.

“I’ve only got Stella,” he lifts his glass drawing your eyes back to him. “Maybe I should be trying this gin?”

“If you’re into gin, then yeah, sure.”

He laughs, though you struggle to see where you’ve made a joke. The laugh stops only when he takes another gulp of his drink, basically finishing it off. You’re thinking about how you hope that’ll be enough to get him to leave when you feel someone come up behind you.

Unlike when you saw the man opposite you, this person’s presence only gets you to relax. You don’t have to look behind you to know who it is. His arm skims your back as you feel him place hand on the back of your chair and then his body leans into it and therefore into you.

“Everything alright, babe?”

Your eyes stay on the man, wanting to see his reaction at Jungkook’s arrival. Again, you have to give him credit, he doesn’t balk, his smile only dips a little but it’s still there.

You have to twist a little and crane your neck back to look at Jungkook and though he’s smiling you know him too well to not see the annoyance in his face. You have to bite your lip to stop from smirking. Yep, he’s jealous.

“We were just talking about what we’re drinking.”

“Oh right,” his eyes remain hard on the man for a beat and then he completely softens when he looks down at you. Your heart skips a beat with the complete 180 as well as the gentle touch on your shoulder. “Did you manage to get us another round?”

You can only nod your head at him and it’s his time to smirk at you. He gives your shoulder another gentle squeeze before looking back at the man.

“Looks like you need another too,” he nods his head at the man’s empty glass.

“Right,” the man scrapes the chair as he stands, but you only have eyes for Jungkook now. He retakes his seat opposite you, taking your hand in his. Even when your drinks arrive he does his best to keep physical contact with you the entire night. You really don’t mind.