#So therefore if someone can flirt with men...they are attracted to men

[dizzyjaden]

✧ GENSHIN MEN CRUSHING AND CONFESSING ✧

Pairings: Kaeya, Xiao, Tartaglia, Kazuha, Diluc, Albedo, Scaramouche x gn! Reader

♤ Summary: Hcs for how various characters go about crushes~ ♤ Warnings: No major warnings mostly fluff, Scara's kind of a jerk though. ♤ A/N: Omggg first real post! Reblogs would be greatly appreciated <3

Kaeya:

When Kaeya meets you, he is first enamored with your appearance. Therefore, the route he takes is confidence and directness to flirt with you, he never once hides his attraction. His sultry voice and brief comments about how infatuating you are to him tend to extract these wonderful little giggles from you. The sound never grows tired on his ears, nor do they fail to make his heart swoon.

Kaeya does not realize it at first, but your effect on him becomes stronger swiftly, and makes him rather clingy. He finds himself unable to focus on the tasks of the day and merely looks forward to seeing you. He follows his urges and seeks you out, passing through your most frequent spots in hopes of 'accidentally' bumping into you. When he finds you, he will spend as long as he can stalling for your time. Asking you questions about your day, showering you with compliments, whatever he can do to keep you talking to him without appearing too desperate. He would usually see idle conversation as a bore, but anything is interesting as long as it's your voice that's talking about it.

It's natural to be wary of Kaeya's approach. While his flattery is nice at first, you notice that his inviting posture and half-lidded gaze does not disappear when he is speaking to others. It makes you wonder if you are as special to him as he's led you to believe.

Put off by this, you brush off his efforts. He is confused by your indifference and his demeanor begins to melt rapidly. He seems nervous now when the two of you are conversing, even blushing and avoiding eye contact with you. Being rejected by someone isn't what scares him. Being rejected by you is.

It is noticeable, people often tease you about what a lovesick puppy you've turned him into, snickering about how they've never seen the slow walking, smirk wearing, calvary captain of Mond so stuttery and fidgety around anyone. It is difficult to stand firm on your previous notion that "he is just that way with everyone." Perhaps he does deserve a chance after all.

Kaeya has mostly retired his earlier mannerisms with you, not wishing to make you uncomfortable. That is until, you throw an unprompted flirtatious comment towards him.

It is experimental and casual on your part, but it successfully shakes him to his core. He realizes then and there he cannot let another day pass without you being named as his partner. This routine of playful flirting is as far as he would typically take it when interested in someone, it was the most enjoyable part to him anyways. But with you, it just felt torturous and drawn out. He craved so much more.

As assured as he appears on the surface, Kaeya is not very good at expressing himself romantically. He does not want to risk everything just yet, so he believes the best course of action is simply asking you out for drinks.

You are still not entirely sold that Kaeya will take care of your feelings, but you agree out of curiosity and give him the chance to prove you wrong. He is overjoyed at your answer and becomes rather excited, he quickly has to catch himself and snap his careless attitude back on, but you saw his eagerness.

For a while you are testing the waters with Kaeya, keeping him taking you on little dates and you are quick to learn that there is a lot more to him than meets the eye. There is a certain serenity, a content air about him when you are together, as if he felt everything had fallen into the right place. The way he looks at you is different than when you first met. It feels as though he truly sees you now.

Finally, you are the one to offer a romantic relationship to him. He has been waiting for you. He knows you have been hesitant, so he's intended to allow you to harness control.

His answer is not a word or agreement, but rather a glint of joy in his eyes, quickly followed by a kiss. When you reciprocate, he knows he finally managed to snatch your heart. How thrilled he is for tomorrow.

Xiao:

Loving you to Xiao is similar to being a cat on a marble floor. He is completely unacquainted with emotion as a whole, so when this stomach tightening, face warming, posture stiffening feeling begins to hit him, he is justly at a loss.

He absolutely despises the feeling, to him it translates as nausea or sickness. Why, you gave him an ailment! How dare you! And to think he still yearns for proximity with you.

That is another thing he despises, ever since you met the adeptus you are always begging to spend time with him and he just can't help but agree. You seem to find much comfort in his presence, he isn't sure why. His conversational abilities are stale, his tone pessimistic, his liveliness is nonexistent. Mortals have never connected with him the way you have, which only makes sense because it's absolutely fruitless.

But there you are, always asking him questions about himself that confuse him. Why did you need to know his favorite color? He didn't have one. They were colors, useless visuals.

You are a strange mortal, and so easily charmed or manipulated as well by the smallest of things. Perhaps that's the reason he ends up taking on such a protective role to you. He is always worrying himself sick about you. A pure spirited person like you is just bound to find themselves in trouble.

Despite the amount of inconvenience you cause him, he finds himself feeling so privileged each time he gets to be around you. He's aware mortals often express gratitude for one another, and his way of doing this is by giving gifts.

They are small gifts, flowers, leaves that are intricately folded into three dimensional shapes, crystals, whatever makes him think of you, really.

He doesn't expect validation for his attempts and the way you react each time catches him off guard. All smiles and hurried words of gratefulness, sometimes you pull him into a tight lung crushing hug, which he just hates of course. But he'll allow it. You're only putting yourself at risk choosing to be so close to him.

Something about you makes him need more of you. Every day he finds himself wondering about you, if you will come find him. He catches himself watching from the rooftops of Wangshuu Inn, waiting. Hoping?

And you're always right on cue. This gives him a sense of stability and routine, which was never important to him before. But now he feels safe in a way. It makes no sense to him, he's protecting you, not the other way around.

It takes him a long time to consider the possibility that he does enjoy your company, that this ailment, this curse you've put on him, is actually just his emotional response to you being nearby. When he identifies it, he isn't sure what to do with it. He's aware that humans like to put labels on each other to signify their connection, but he knows so little, he's too unwilling to ruin what is already there. Friendship with you is better than nothing, even if he feels the urge to just attack you with physical contact each time your hand grazes him.

He takes his time opening up to you about his feelings and desires, dropping small tidbits to enlighten you when you speak to one another. You manage to figure it out before he's really given you a proper confession, but you want him to work through it slowly, so you say nothing until the day he finally outright says it.

"I believe I am... Falling in love with you. So, what happens now?" Hopefully, you're willing to guide him through it?

Tartaglia:

Tartaglia really never expected to become so obsessed with you. His initial interest comes from your abilities in combat. He enjoys sparring with the people that are more similar to him in strength, it helps him improve. You're perfect for this. An equal opponent to help him boost his own abilities is all he saw at first.

What he feels during these sessions with you is pure thrill. He sees your relationship as equally matched opponents who agree that there is nothing to lose and everything to gain. Fighting you is never predictable, you are strangely good at catching him off guard. He becomes easily addicted to the feeling of freedom that comes with fighting you, the ability to let go accompanied by the trust that you could hold your own even if he did take it a bit too far. Soon enough, he's borderline pestering you for more and more matches.

Something he slowly finds out is that the two of you share a specific chemistry. The trust you build on the battlefield with one another fuels your comfortable compatibility. Being around you is just easy. The first time his feelings for you begin to rise, he notices immediately.

Just a certain angle of you, and he... Felt something. He knows it, too. This is when his pursuit for you begins. It is rare for him to have free time, and the majority of that is already occupied with your sparring sessions. So, he has to sacrifice a few of those to instead ask you to spend time with him in a more casual way.

He demands you clear your morning plans to get coffee with him, and you agree. Why not? You don't know much about Tartaglia other than his go-to defense techniques.

But oh, how hopeless he is. Tartaglia has never had a romantic partner before, too consumed in his work to care all that much. He gives you horrendous pick-up lines the entire morning until you beg him to stop. He thought he was doing so well, too.

Fortunately, you're more skilled with words than him and you manage to bring the flow back by distracting him with topics you believe are of interest to him. He is comfortable around you, and prefers casual conversation, so he will indulge. Slightly embarrassed by your reaction to his crude attempt at flirting, he decides it may be best to leave it be the way it is.

Determined nonetheless, he continues to hog your calendar with little meetings, he is transparent and unimpressive, which thankfully comes off as quite adorable to you. You've never seen him in this light before. You enjoy teasing him. However, there is only so much he can take before he has to finally state that he is in love with you, and needs to know if you reciprocate.

Begrudgingly, you accept his feelings, although you are disappointed you no longer get to keep him on his toes, his victorious smile makes it worth it.

Kazuha:

Kazuha is the textbook definition of carefree, when he develops feelings for you, he immediately accepts them and continues to live on contently. Whatever happens, happens! His behavior around you does not change in the slightest aside from going out of his way to be near you. Other than that, it's almost unnoticeable.

His reasoning for not confessing anything to you is plain and simple. He does not wish to put you in an uncomfortable position when he is not sure if you even want the same things he does. He isn't scared of being rejected or losing you, he just genuinely does not want to stress you out. He doesn't want to apply pressure to you, he just wants to bask in your radiant existence as much as you'll allow him. No worries, being just friends is good enough for him if it means you can live undisturbed by his inconvenient feelings of affection.

Kazuha has always been in touch with his emotions, more so than the usual person. He subtly expresses his feelings for you with poems and words of affirmation, he likes to make sure you know exactly how wonderful you are. But he never oversteps or puts too much of a spotlight on you.

Because he is just a romantic at heart, it's easy to assume this may just be how he expresses friendship. He's aware that he comes off that way, which is another reason he's so willing to give you so much affection and praise. He does like you, and he wants to show it, but he knows it's not out of character for him to behave this way.

Where his feelings for you really shine through is how protective he is. He doesn't like the idea of you travelling anywhere alone and usually offers to accompany you everywhere. He has faith in your capability to defend yourself but he finds comfort knowing he will be there if needed.

Kazuha always has good ideas when it comes to spending time with you, they are likely to involve nature. He knows where all the best places are, hot springs, water falls, fields of flowers, certain spots where the sunset looks just perfect, you name it, he'll take you there.

He enjoys giving you his attention, but even just being in the same room while the two of you are focused on separate tasks is equally enjoyable to him. He likes that there is never awkwardness or tension between you. Just an easy companionship. You understand one another without trying.

Kazuha only confesses his feelings to you when he's certain you want to hear about them. Whatever way you may choose to let him know, he'll act fast to ensure there is no confusion. He sees no thrill or excitement in allowing you to remain oblivious, and is very content telling you directly when he feels you have given him enough hints. It almost feels too easy, which is exactly what he intends. He doesn't want to see you struggle with your own feelings for even a moment.

When Kazuha officially enters a romantic relationship with you, he takes the transition very slowly to keep you comfortable. He does not immediately start smothering you in affection. It's a slow and steady process. It's not that he doesn't want to kiss you at any given moment, he just prefers that you take the reigns in that area so he's always certain it's what you want to do.

When you are with Kazuha, you can always trust that he will listen to you and cater towards your emotional needs. He is just so in love with you.

Diluc:

Diluc grapples with his feelings for you for a while, assuming they will just come and go. He is not the most knowledgeable about relationships and worries about his ability to be a good partner to you even if he does act on his feelings.

The idea of romance isn't something Diluc is a stranger to, but it's never been on the forefront of his mind. Charming and handsome as he is, it is only natural that he's been approached in the past by people hoping for a chance with him. He's never explored with any of those people, it just wasn't something he really wanted to do. But, you changed things. He catches himself imagining a relationship with you, wondering what it would be like to be with you in that way. The longer it goes on, the more painful it becomes.

When he's no longer able to deny his feelings, he takes a very polite demeanor. He's truly a gentleman, it's difficult for you to remember the last time you opened a door for yourself in his presence. If you happen to visit Angel's Share, you can rest assured you're never going to have to pay for anything.

Getting complimented by Diluc is rare, truthfully he just doesn't know how to phrase things. When he does compliment you, however, it's always genuine and heartfelt. Something about your manner, the way you carry yourself, your resilience, things like that.

Ensuring you are safe is the most important thing to him. He will always voice it loud and clear if he believes you are in an unsafe situation. He doesn't want to cross a line so he will only help if you ask him to. If you do happen to need his help with something, he will have it taken care of very quickly.

Diluc does not care to give you sugary compliments or be vocal about how you make him feel. He is more subtle than that. His affection for you is shown through how he remembers little things about you that might go unnoticed to anyone else, reminds you that he is there for you if you ever need him, never fails to show up for you when you do.

It takes a while for Diluc to gain the courage to tell you how he feels, but when he does get fed up pining after you, he is careful with his choice of words. He wants you to know that even if you reject him, he will still be there for you no matter what. You not reciprocating his feelings for you will not change your importance to him.

He genuinely does not expect you to reciprocate his feelings. When you do, he isn't sure what to do. He didn't have that part planned. He becomes a flustered mess on the spot but ultimately manages to pull himself together and swears his devotion to you.

Adjusting to a relationship with you seems to come naturally for Diluc. While he's internally awkward and so unsure most of the time, he becomes comfortable with you quickly as he realizes you do not judge him for this whatsoever. He is satisfied and feels secure knowing that there is nothing to prove anymore.

Albedo:

Albedo is not head over heels with you right off the bat. It takes a long time getting to know you before he feels anything. Of course, there was always something unidentifiable about you that interested him, but that's as far as it went until now. He isn't sure what exactly gave him this emotional response to you, but he's very curious about it.

Albedo is interested in humanity as a whole. He sees his emotions more akin to resources for his research rather than necessary tools to operate in society. So, when this crush on you blooms, it's an experiment to him. Obviously, he's going to need your assistance. He very boldly and plainly states that he is having these feelings and needs your help identifying and exploring them. It's the first time you've ever seen him clueless.

Explaining the concept of having a crush to him is nearly impossible. More often than not, crushes come out of the blue with no single explanation for them. Something about this he just cannot wrap his mind around.

It's a mission, but Albedo eventually gets it. Love, a sensation he had always pinned on biology seems to be much more emotional and complex than he could have ever anticipated. He reluctantly accepts your embarrassed explanation as truth. When he learns that you reciprocate his feelings, he is confused once more. Why didn't you just tell him? Nervous? Why? He insists you tell him when you feel something significant towards him so you two can conduct your research easier.

Albedo often takes notes about how certain things you do makes him feel. When you hold his hand, his face gets warm. When you laugh, he feels as though he is in a trance and forgets where he is. When you respond positively to his affection, he's eager to do those things more. Everything you do elicits a new reaction from him, it's all worth writing down.

He loves learning new things about you. Now that you've managed to put him in this position, it's like you are the most interesting thing in the world. What makes you the way you are? What crosses your mind the most? What is it about your favorite things that you like so much? Tell him everything in excruciating detail, please.

Albedo likes to share his interests with you too, when you offer to work with him on something involving alchemy, he is overjoyed. He likes to tell you about the ins and outs of everything involving life. He always wonders what you will think. Sometimes, you give him a new perspective on it that makes him reflect. He likes that about you. His work is usually rooted in science and logic, so it only makes sense that logical is the mindset he's lived with. But you bring such interesting ideas that he's never considered before.

He's realized he may be more out of touch with the world than he believed. If he did not know what love was before he met you, what else did he not know? Because of this, he will stay open minded and always consider your point of view when making emotion-related decisions.

For as long as you are with Albedo, he will always have something to learn and grow from. He sees you as very important to him in this way and will do his best to make sure you are content and happy in the relationship.

Scaramouche:

Scaramouche believes he has one purpose in this world. Divinity. If he is to invest himself in something, he better be getting one step closer to godhood in the process. His feelings for you are not necessary, he can't get anything of value out from them. That's the way he sees it. What irritates him is how badly he wants to indulge. Emotion is the very weakness that caused him to be cast out by his creator from the start. He isn't about to easily succumb to his emotion once more when his mission is the electro gnosis. But it is so very difficult to resist when you're around.

It's pretty much all up to you to initiate anything. It's challenging. The first time he saw your hand inching closer to his, he snatched it away immediately. Ever since these feelings of his emerged, every time you try to catch him when he's not busy, hoping to spend some time with him, he runs. He actually runs. He makes no attempt to hide it, either.

He knows if he spends too much time with you, his feelings will only grow. Allowing you to hold his hand or be near him is a slippery slope he's not willing to try. Why won't you just leave him alone? Why must you make it so hard for him to overcome his crush? Take a hint, already.

Eventually, you actually do take the hint and stop pestering him for his time. Good! Now he can focus on other things... Except he can't because now he's panicking over possibly having lost you. What if he hurt your feelings? No, he doesn't care about your feelings. You only ever annoyed him anyways. But for some reason thinking about it just stings.

Scaramouche realizes that one person causing this much trouble for him is absolutely unacceptable. You always being nearby was bad, but you leaving him alone is worse. He isn't going to allow you to steal his heart and then run for the hills, no way. He demands that you spend more time with him. You are flabbergasted, but he's glad to hear you agree.

Overtime, Scaramouche becomes more nervous about you. He grows attached to you and nearly everything he's grown attached to in the past abandoned him, it continues to haunt him to this day. He yearns for your affection, but having it would make the fall so much harder when you ultimately leave him behind. However, he's already so far in. He wonders if having a good thing for even a moment would be better than torturing himself over it instead.

With that, he tells you how he feels, how it's all your fault he's such a mess now, and that you need to make it up to him by being his partner. He's not surprised when you accept his feelings. It's the very least you could do, of course.

Over the span of your relationship, you'll notice how clingy Scaramouche is. It's like if you are not in his sight for even a moment, you're probably dead somehow. He'd never admit it, but you can tell he is paranoid and desperately requires reassurance. He's honestly kind of pathetic but he's yours.

Scaramouche remains unmoving on his theory that you will abandon him someday. He's been through it too many times to fully trust you straightaway. You're just gonna have to prove him wrong.

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hey love! can you do a BoB boys when their partner has the same personality as them? please?

love your work 🤭❤️

Hi Nonny, you're so sweet :) I'm glad that you enjoy my work so much! Reminder that my requests are open and that I don't mind spam BUT PLEASE, I don't write actual smut scenes/imagines/x readers :) So don't ask?? Thanks??

Cut for length, more under the cut:

Dick Winters:

-You mean this man finds someone of equal responsibility, maturity, kindness, and social grace? The world is unprepared for the level of wholesome that this relationship is going to be.

-I think that naturally, this is the type of person that Dick Winters attracts anyway, so it all works out

-You know that quote about how the Lydia's of the world don't attract the Mr. Darcy's? Yeah, totally applies here. To be in a relationship where there's equal level respect, focus on the job, and genuine care for one another is rare

-He's very grateful for you and for the relationship and never misses an opportunity to express this

-The men of Easy Company easily consider you the parents of the group, hands down

Lewis Nixon:

-This relationship is so chaotic, SMH—like—this man is out here getting drunk most of the time and so are you, as you helpfully suggest an unhinged thing that actually works

-The level of genius and smarts is unparalleled, it's just soured by the attitude that is doubled when the two of you are together

-He considers you his soulmate (like, way more than Vat-69 is) and vice versa

-I think that ultimately, this is a relationship that is consistently burning and like a wildfire, but in the most sensual and best of ways—you're there to help each other be both simultaneously worse and better

-Iconic, if I do say so myself

Ronald Speirs:

-Scary dog privilege goes both ways now?? Iconic, truly.

-Two rather quiet people who are there to work hard and get the job done by whatever means necessary meet and fall in love and therefore the stories about the two of you are UNHINGED

-But behind closed doors, you're both just very soft for one another and in love

-And if you steal as much as he does? It's maybe a competition to see who can flatter the other person more via stolen Nazi goods, but hey—if it works for you two lol

-Honestly, the leadership and compatibility in the way that you two work together is unparalleled

Buck Compton:

-Two college kids that are out there with natural charisma and fun but care about the men in Easy Company more than anything else? Bestie, this is just for you

-This man is utterly besotted with the way that you can talk college/academics with him and not even miss a beat

-There's a fun and healthy level of competition when it comes to games and downtime, which the both of you enjoy

-And everyone knows how good you two are at keeping spirits up and preserving morale, especially for each other

-The kind of emotional atunement to one another is rare to find I think that everyone is slightly envious of the two of you

Carwood Lipton:

-A responsible mom friend meets another responsible mom friend—and you know what? The level of married couple that you two are off the bat from meeting one another is just too much haha

-It's the domestic details and trying to check in on people/their mental health throughout the war, it's the way that the two of you know exactly how to care for one another in a non-overbearing sort. of way—

-If Lipton is the undisputed leader of Easy Company during Bastogne, then you're the undisputed right hand person—always putting the needs of the men and your S/O before yourself

-Selflessness and genuine love is also really rare to come by and I think that this is just what Lipton really needs—a support who is just a little bit too much like him

-You two are easily married by the time you end up in Austria

Joe Liebgott:

-Why is this giving gremlin energy? I can't explain it, but the way that the two of you constantly flirt and joke and have each other's backs is amazing

-Everyone is just like, "Lieb, there's two of you" and they're not wrong

-Supporting one another's beliefs and vengeance—because sometimes it's not about making the other person better, it's just about accepting them as they are and loving them anyway

-Easy Company simply adores the two of you and the way that you two succinctly work as a team and in tandem most of the time

-But you two are also so incorrigible and horny at any given time, so that's their one vice with the two of you

Donald Malarkey:

-This man?? Right here? The best friend energy that he exudes and now gets to have with you? Amazing

-It's the way that your relationship feels like breathing air because the two of you are so easily able to talk to one another, are each other's best friends, and the way that you care fiercely about one another and everyone else

-Sometimes it's like looking in the mirror though and the two of you are like, "please just go take a nap,"

-And unwillingly taking charge of situations w/Easy Company because it's just you or him that's left to lead? Also part of the deal, but everyone is on board with you

-Lots of hugs and cuddles are needed between the two of you

Eugene Roe:

-Oh goodness—two people who are out here burning themselves out for everyone else because they care so much? You two are either the most passionate lovers ever or you two are arguing about how the other person needs to take care of themselves and there's no in between

-You're both nurturers and lovers by nature and so being in this war is hard for the two of you

-Exchanging stories from home and sternly commanding the other to please "get some sleep or eat something" because you love them?? It's a love language

-No one wants to be on either of your bad sides—let alone the two of you at the same time. It's giving the energy of upsetting the nicest and clearly bravest people ever.

-If you two aren't engaged by the end of the war, then what's the point?

Bill Guarnere:

-Loyal to a fault, good sense of humor, probably from Philly? I mean, it's no wonder this man fell for you, you're just him in another font

-Literally everyone out here just wants to be friends with the two of you because you're already lowkey married, if that makes sense

-The conversation alone leaves everyone just wishing the two of you would get a room though

-Physically affectionate best friends who also makeout and maybe have some serious feelings for one another? Absolutely

-He absolutely writes you letters throughout the rest of the war after Bastogne and wants to marry you ASAP

Joe Toye:

-Quiet energy that lowkey makes people scared because of an RBF but then is super gentle? Oh yes, the two of you were made for one another

-You two easily become friends and easily fall in love—after all, the level of devotion and friendship, but also the ability to actually talk to one another? Unmatched

-He always has your back and vice versa; he already wants to talk about domestic life and you're out here naming your future dogs together

-And then Bastogne happens and you promise that you're gonna make it home so you can take care of him

-And no one is surprised when the same week you get home from the war, you end up married to him

George Luz:

-The comedic value here is too great and far unmatched. You're either super menaces together and leadership hates the two of you or you are carrying the morale of Easy Company on your backs.

-He's never met someone to match his humor so well or encourage him in the same way that he does others—and it's a beautiful match made in heaven

-Everyone is half-convinced that you're just his twin or something, but then the two of you are in love and everyone is rooting for the two of you

-You probably both propose to one another in a joke at some point and then have to actually do a proposal later on at the end of the war

-Everyone shows up for the wedding because no one was gonna miss out on the speeches that the two of you prepared haha

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Do you think Katniss was at any point romantically attracted to Gale? I don’t, and I kinda roll my eyes when people interpret that scene with Madge bringing the morphling as her actually being romantically jealous, because I think it was more about fear of losing him, but what do you think?

I never know how to interpret Katniss’s jealousy about Gale and the other girls, whether to take it at her word that she just liked him as a hunting partner or if this is classic Katniss denial. I saw it as denial when I was younger but I don’t know. I think she saw it as almost an inevitability that they would spend their life together in one way or another before she really met Peeta but not that she was like, excited about it. You know? I feel like there might be some jealousy of Madge but not like a “you’re moving in on my man” but more “you can do more for him than I can right now and I hate you for that.” I think Katniss liked Gale romantically the way I used to like men romantically lol. Like could she really imagine marrying him? No. But would she hate living and hunting with him, as long as the relationship didn’t progress? Maybe.

It’s complicated to parse all this because Katniss found it difficult to understand herself. All of it is so complicated and confusing, and I think especially in Catching Fire she was desperate to feel like she was making a choice, any choice, that was against what was planned for her by the Capitol, even though she says that she wouldn’t mind being married to Peeta, she just doesn’t like being forced into ANY relationship.

The two things that are at the core of Katniss though is that she hates being told what she should feel and also she’s just bad at parsing her feelings. She views emotions as manipulation because that’s her experience, and also she’s autistic as hell so it’s hard for her to recognize feelings, name them, and then decide what to do. It’s a big mess.

I interpret it (and this is me projecting a lil so if you don’t vibe with this nbd) that she’s very bad at delineating between romantic love and friendship, and friendship and acquaintance-ship for that matter. Like she doesn’t understand how people view her, she doesn’t recognize that Delly probably wants to be her friend. I’ve always interpreted Madge as having a crush on Katniss not Gale, and that scene was Madge doing her best to support her unrequited crush/love however she could. I’m also a Delly lesbian truther too so I don’t even know how any of these dynamics would really work, I haven’t written it so therefore I haven’t unwound it lol. But it’s a common autistic experience not knowing if someone is flirting with you, making fun of you, or is just trying to be friendly and nice. I’m terrible at all of this. I’m also terrible at being friendly without some people thinking I’m flirting with them or trying to be polite but coming off as passive aggressive.

Anyway

Autism!

(There’s a version of this gif that has autism in the rainbow but it doesn’t work if I download it and insert it in here so :( )

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Shit I’ve noticed during my clone wars rewatch and my interpretation (very Obi-Wan focused because he’s my favorite character lmao):

(Includes spoilers obviously)

+ I love this show to bits, but it has horrible issues with consistency. Every other episode there is a new weapon or something introduced and we’ll never see it again. This is very prevalent in especially the first seasons.

+ Obi-Wan is such a fucking enabler. Like he tells Anakin his plans are stupid at least twice during the Malevolence episodes, but then joins him on all of those. It’s literally like: “Anakin this plan is reckless and won’t work, anyways what’s my part in your plan?”

+ Rex running into that metal pipe. I forgot about that and laughed for 20 minutes straight.

+ Anakin pulls a “Are ya winning son?” on Obi-Wan about Ahsoka.

+ I once saw a post that it isn’t confirmed that Obi-Wan and Cody are friends, but you have Obi-Wan literally marveling on how competent the commander is and Cody always going the extra mile to save his general’s ass. To me that’s pretty much a friendship.

+ The Jedi are in general very gentle, but quite touchy. They might not go for hugs, but there is always someone touching someone’s shoulder or waist. And they’re just so fucking kind. I don’t think I ever noticed that as a kid, but they’re so respectful about life and culture and always helping someone. I just love them so much.

+ And I love the understanding and kindness the clones have. They’re soldiers and programmed to kill, but they’re also good people in most cases. I just wanna hug most of them.

+ My mother told me I cried as a child during the episodes with the Zillo beast. Well, I didn’t cry again, but I’m still so fucking mad at Palpatine for putting that poor creature in that position. If he just had listened to Mace Windu (more of the characters should actually, just saying) that poor animal wouldn’t have killed people and found its end like that.

+ Mortis is quite hated by the fandom but for me it’s a defining showcase of Obi-Wan’s, Anakin’s and Ahsoka’s relationship. I’ve seen people in the fandom saying that Anakin would’ve turned out differently if Obi-Wan would’ve told him he’s proud and took care of his feelings. This episodes literally show that he does exactly that and Anakin still doesn’t give a shit.

+ Anakin tells the son in his dream, that he’ll never come to the dark side willingly. Only to walk over to the literal manifestation of the dark side like 10 minutes later to save Ashoka. I came to the conclusion that the only way to tempt him was by promising to save his loved ones. I still think it was a really awful and greedy thing to become Vader for that, but I must admit it’s a noble character trait to put others first.

+ Kit Fisto doesn’t have nipples. Therefore I’ve concluded he’s isn’t a mammal and hatched from an egg like Nemo the clownfish. (And no, that isn’t a animation thing, Rex does have nipples when his shirt is off).

+ The discussion with my gf about Kit Fisto nipples and Star Wars biology also touched the topic of “how does Maul use the bathroom”. My conclusion is: he has a stoma, because the lower abdomen, where that would be, is always covered.

+ Hardcase mentions he is hyperactive. I now see him as my favorite ADHD clone, because having ADHD myself I can fucking relate.

+ I forgot Waxer died on Umbara and bawled my eyes out. Waxer is one my favorite clones and when he cried while dying I just couldn’t take it.

+ My friend spent the entire Umbara arc just simping for the clones (mostly Jesse), while I was suffering. So maybe they look hot or something for people attracted to men in this episodes.

+ In the episode after the Umbara the duo usually consisting of Waxer and Boil is sent out, but this time it’s just Boil and I was about to bawl again.

+ For being called “the negotiator” Obi-Wan gets his ass beat quite a lot after his “negotiations” (aggressive flirting).

+ While I’ll never forgive Obi-Wan for doing that Raako Hardeen shit, I nearly pissed myself when the Ziro the Hutt’s ex gf is flirting with not one but two women there. Like I didn’t expect her to be the fucking gay rep in clone wars.

+ I’m seriously never forgiving Obi-Wan for that. I can’t get over Ahsoka’s tear filled eyes while she’s holding his corpse. Also she doesn’t seem angry like Anakin just massively sad and disappointed after it is revealed that he’s still alive. Personally I believe she’s starting to doubt the order here.

+ Point three on hating on my favorite character for that shit, I feel like Anakin becomes quieter and less playful after that disaster.

+ Maul is me. He’s obsessed with Obi-Wan and mentions that he has massive problems what is going on inside his head. As a mentally ill person, that makes me feel really seen lmao.

+ The underwater episodes and the ones with Ventress on that train were just the most beautiful worlds I’ve ever seen. Like the planets in general are so beautifully designed in clone wars, I’m so in love.

+ Motherfucking “I said fuck the council and became a child soldier for a rebellion at 13” Obi-Wan Kenobi seems very reluctant on doing it again. There are two entire arcs of him disagreeing on helping rebels. First I didn’t understand, because like dude you literally did this before, but since he talks about his worries about bringing the separatists in or worsen the situation, I think the poor man is just a little bit traumatized.

+ After the events of Onderon I’m pretty sure Ashoka is already filled with doubts about the order, the republic and the war. I also feel like she’s feeling massively led down by Obi-Wan again, which broke my heart because I love their relationship.

+ I just realized he fails Ahsoka a third time, when she is captured by Hondo and Obi-Wan is supposed to help her. Instead he gets attacked by Grievous and is forced to postpone the helping them until they help themselves. I mean it’s not his fault but in Ahsoka’s place that wouldn’t feel good to me.

+ This particular fight with Grievous ignited my love for Obi-Wan again. Before he attacks Grievous he helps an injured clone and when he goes into the fight, Grievous directly kills a clone. Instead of his usual witty remarks, he just goes: “you’re gonna regret that” and jumps Grievous. He just loves his clones as much as I do.

+ One of the most beautiful shots in the entire series for me is in the episode before the droids find Gregor. This WAC droid looks into the desert and it reflects in his eye. Because of the cracks in the desert ground it looks almost like a retina. Beautiful metaphor of combining something artificial and metallic with an organic and almost human part. This was such a fucking raw shot for me, it took my breath away.

+ Tarkin is an asshole, but he’s climbed the asshole latter so hard after he has been mean to Plo Koon.

+ Shotout to Obi-Wan for convincing the order to let Anakin go after Ahsoka. Additionally the whole time he acts in her support only to be shut down by the council. I didn’t remember him doing that so I was surprised.

+ Fives tells the plot with the inhibitor chips to a cab driver. Do you think the cap driver ever thinks back after the war and is like: “Fuuuuuuck”?

+ I kid you not, the clone bar has gender neutral bathrooms (and no, it’s not bc the clones are all male, in the bar are also women). The bathroom are just decided by humans, hutts and a third species I cannot quite recognize.

+ I forgot Teckla gets shot, NOOOOOOO

+ I always say clone wars anakin is better, but Jesus stop acting like a jealous bitch. Padmè deserves an award for putting up with his bullshit. Obi-Wan too. He even tries to give him reassurance by telling him that feelings are not forbidden and Anakin just bitches at him.

+ Obi-Wan casually passing on babysitting duty for Jar Jar fucking killed me (and yes, taking care of Jar Jar is babysitting duty).

+ Never in a million years I would have thought to see Jar Jar admitting to fucking this queen, but here we have him saying he was making love to her last night. Imma set myself on fire and I believe Windu will join me.

+ You could also call the clone wars the exposition wars. Every episode has their one minute exposition in the beginning, but I feel like a lot of the dialogue is used for exposition.

+ Obi-Wan doesn’t learn shit. That man got drugged by Hondo, but yet still accepts drinks from the Pykes. MY BROTHER IN CHRIST PLEASE DONT

+ I AN GOING TO SCREAM. You have been informed that the Clones have a behavior influencing chip in their brains and then you find out Dooku was behind the creation of the clones and no one connects the fucking dots. I love the Jedi, but goddamn are you all dense.

+ Do you think Hunter thought Rex was screwing his general? Because their conversation sounded kinda suggestive and then they trail off to do something secret.

+ Ahsoka going “my older brother thought me”after kicking a guy where it hurts most. I now imagine Anakin going to Ahsoka as soon she got to be his padawan: “Listen up Snips, if you ever facing a creepy guy, you kick them right there”

+ When the sisters make their escape I don’t get why they don’t let Ahsoka fly. She’s clearly the more capable pilot.

+ Controversial opinion: I have a strong dislike for Bo Katan. She’s a fucking terrorist who doesn’t betray the deathwatch when they murder an entire innocent village, no but when there’s Maul trying to take their authority. Says a lot about her character if you ask me.

+ I mcfucking cried when the clones painted their helmets according to Ahsoka’s face markings and my flatmates gf came in and asked me if everything’s alright. I am fucking embarrassing I have seen this scene three times already but I still bawl like a baby.

+ Also my dear Obi-Wan can you quit being an ass? A “hello Ahsoka, nice to see you” wouldn’t have killed you.

+ Through the whole show most of the characters seemed to appear increasingly tired towards the end. Especially Obi-Wan and Ahsoka, but other characters aswell. The only one who seems to stay energized is Anakin. He becomes more serious but I feel like he’s the only one at the end that is still going into battles with full energy. It almost felt like he’s especially thriving in a war scenario which is incredibly sad.

+ The beauty of that last scene with Vader is truly unparalleled. I don’t ever think a tv show can recreate that.

+ I still love this show to bits and I cried 5 times total during that rewatch, shit this was nice.

[lover-of-mine]

omggggg YES whether you look at eddie through a demi!gaze or just a queer!gaze, the difference between he and buck is sort of obvious? (to me)

it makes sense for them to say that bi!buck has been scattered throughout the show, we’ve seen and heard hints directed at/about several other male characters. so it’s logical it’s not entirely about eddie for him and therefore his bi!arc starts with someone else

eddie on the other hand hasn’t really had ‘moments’ with other male characters? a lot of his queer!spec comes from his history and the way he is with dating, but his main interactions with other male characters are the softer more domestic scenes with he and buck. 704 proved that eddie’s friendship with other men is completely different to how he is with buck. so in my head it’s logical that for him, it is about buck, and that’s where his queer!arc starts

Yeah, here's the thing, like Oliver pointed out, there are a lot of moments of Buck having flirty moments with men who are not Eddie in the show, even if it wasn't on purpose in the beginning, like, something Oliver was consciously told to portrait, Buck does have a bisexual energy to him from the get-go, and I think it is nice for him to be able to explore that outside the person we all know is the love of his life, yk? He needs to accept that he likes men before he accepts he loves Eddie. It's kinda like the way a lot of feeling realization fics from Buck's pov have Buck fine with the idea of wanting a family with Eddie but panicking when he realizes he wants to have sex with him, he needs to accept that, especially with the way he has a bad relationship with sex overall.

But, Eddie on the other hand, he doesn't have moments with men, he has moments with Buck, I think maybe if you push a little bit, you can say he was flirting with Judd in the crossover, but like, it's been Buck since the ridiculous sexual tension in the gym during under pressure. And, like, until the show tells me I'm wrong I will exist in my "Eddie is settled into his feelings because he thinks Buck can't feel the same" because you can absolutely make an argument for Eddie to be in the "it's not his fault he can't feel the same way about me" stage of falling with your "straight" best friend, I say straight because Eddie still doesn't know, I did write a whole thing on how you can recontextualize the show to make it seem like Eddie has been semi-aware of his feelings since the lawsuit, and I know they are probably not gonna go the route that he's been aware of his feelings (rip shooting as Eddie's oh moment you will always be true to me), but the groundwork for him to be like oh! about Buck at any point is there. And Eddie is a lot more aware of his own feelings than Buck, he wouldn't need someone to kiss him to have the realization, he can have the realization in a less on-the-nose moment. And the thing with the way they have been playing Eddie and his love interests, especially with the added context on Shannon we got last season, that they were friends first and all that, you can make a really strong argument for him to be demisexual and that's why he struggles with the idea of dating, that he feels like that's a performance, and why he has weird chemistry with the woman he pushed himself into dating since Shannon died, and that can absolutely push him towards Buck. Because here's the thing, with Buck dating men, and Eddie's relationship in crisis, he could very well look at Buck and be like "oh, I wasn't aware he was an option" because of the whole struggle with attraction and the way he has such a strong relationship with Buck, and maybe wonder about what it all means, and they can tumble into the realization that maybe they could be more together. That none of them has been secretly pining, but they have such a strong thing going that there's no reason for them not to go there. It could be this natural thing. And it's right there, even more with the comment of Eddie trying to understand his place in the world. Because for Eddie is not about Buck being a man, is about Buck being his best friend, and I think Eddie as a person would need to come to terms with that and he wouldn't get that hung up on the fact that Buck's a man. So Buck can absolutely be his queer awakening. But if Buck had the realization he has feelings for Eddie, he would get hung up on the fact that he is a man if he didn't explore his bisexuality before that.

I kinda think the route we are going here is Buck processing he likes man, Eddie processing he likes Buck, Buck being like "wait men are an option, Eddie is a man, I already have most of the things I'm looking for with Eddie, maybe we can go there" and then maybe some mutual pining before they do go there.

[augustuscaesarsalad]

In your HC what are Tom and Harry's sexualities? Non straight ofc but what kind of non straight? Both bi? Or one bi and one gay?

Depends on how I’m imagining them tbh. But mainly;

Tom only feels love for Harry, and has complex feelings about sex in general. He might seduce someone to get what he wants, or be a homewrecker bc it’s funny to him, but he doesn’t give a fuck about whoever he sleeps with. He’s straight for pay lol. 20 galleons is 20 galleons. I also see him as someone who sometimes enjoys sex but sometimes is super repulsed by it. He also majorly looks down on anyone who sleeps with him (other than Harry) because he perceives them as being weak for caving to desire and being tricked by him. Like the second someone he’s flirting with shows interest, he immediately hates them and goes back to their place so he can steal their belongings while they’re tired.

Harry is more of a romantic for sure, he doesn’t strike me as a hookup guy. I think he’s bi but tends to find men more physically attractive. This does result in him being a lot more awkward around men and therefore having more success with women romantically lol.

(This is all foreshadowing for a Tomarry fic I’ve been working on���.)

[thecoolerliauditore]

im very sleepy but fuck it ummm. quick and dirty jimmy ecosystem breakdown for you specifically @puppyocto this is very sleepy me writing this is wrong

scott: suffers inherently from The Ecosystem by default by being gay. He chooses to embrace this as kind of. his niche, therefore ridding the threat of being ostracized or humiliated for it. Type to get called gay and start flirting back.

However (possibly because of said ecosystem) his view on romance is extremely idealized and fairy tale-esque. He views Jimmy as someone who can "fill the role" of a partner who can give him the happily ever after ending and is frustrated when jimmy fails to live up to his standards.

In Utena terms Scott is a princess waiting for his prince to come rescue him and give him the happiness he desires from being loved. But when he discovers Jimmy is "incapable" he takes on the prince persona for himself and "keeps Jimmy safe" by taking away Jimmy's agency. This frustrates him, but the "prince" role makes him feel capable and Good so he doesn't complain too much and continues to make Jimmy more and more helpless so that their dynamic can continue.

joel: also suffers inherently from The Ecosystem by being gay except he's NOT gay he's definitely NOT gay which is totally the truth and not his defense mechanism. He overperforms masculinity and always emphasizes his relationship with lizzie for totally normal reasons and not because he's living in fear.

He sees Jimmy as almost this danger to him because he's attracted to him. If Jimmy is a princess to Scott then he's a very stupid seductress to Joel, at least at the start. Joel abuses Jimmy for making him feel things for him and tries to push him away, but at the same time can't keep Jimmy too far because he deeply desires the intimacy and non-judgment he can only get from jimmy. He also made a kid with him that one time I don't really know how to interpret what happened there still.

I also do think jimmy and joel do share a genuinely very close platonic bond so that's always there for when they're not caught up in the hell spiral.

fwhip: honestly I don't actually think fwhip is Super Into Jimmy the way Joel and Scott are. I think he feels some? level of resentment towards jimmy for one reason or another since he constantly seeks to punish him in some way (this is especially bad in esmp2) and the "romantic gestures" (see: forcefully kissing him, stalking him, making a serial killer shrine dedicated to him) feel more like they're in line with that than any genuine interest.

I'm willing to believe he is attracted to men and just very confused about it and acting out some of that frustration onto Jimmy I just don't think he's too into Jimmy past using romantic gestures to humiliate/punish and fitting in socially (I've noticed he's usually at his worst when in public, his one on one interactions with Jimmy are usually. fairly chill)

sausage: I don't really know if I can talk about him I actually went on a giant binge once of his videos trying to figure out what he is to me and I couldn't do it. He is definitely interested in Jimmy sexually is all I've gathered definitively.

He's also very. odd about gay relationships if we're talking story. Obviously this is more or less just the CC baiting for fan interactions but a lot of the times he mentions gay relationships are through a frame of humiliation or spectacle. See: him claiming bdubs kissed him during the crossover but also said he "only does that for etho" or when he put on a play in the sos talent show mog hosted where the joke seemed to just be. Joel and Etho's whole thing. And ofc how he treats jimmy just in general.

of course he's. very gay too in this context so idk maybe there's some depth there to be dug up.

grian: honestly kind of a tough one because he exists just on the verge of the ecosystem to me. Homophobic grian is the funniest thing in the world to me but also kinda canon, but homophobic in a very different way compared to Sausage where he doesn't find any humour from it.

Even when he admonished jimmy and joel for kissing in RL his tone is more. "think of the consequences" than anything else.

To me grian is kind of like. a fucked up little animal who protects himself by disengaging with all of it. He refuses to let himself be vulnerable for others and at the same time clings onto those who can give him comfort. I don't think he's really into jimmy though so. shrugs.

I think I'll talk about this more in that essay I'm planning to write but grians someone who bends the rules just enough to protect himself, but still plays the game and believes you can only survive by playing the game. He looks down on jimmy for not being good enough at that (e.g. southlanders) but at the same time is sympathetic towards him.

martyn: oh this bitchass um. also kinda exists on the outskirts of it. like joel he overperforms masculinity but I think it's much less because of insecurity and more because that's what he takes pride in playing the role for (which is also rooted in insecurity but. whatever. sleepy)

he sees himself as a protector/provider more than anything else and gets frustrated when that role is denied from him, such as in third life with jimmy, because when he can't do that he's forced to confront his insecurities and he very much doesn't want to do that. I don't think he's? attracted to jimmy as much as he just wants to keep him safe but. sigmund freud's face flashes in front of my eyes killing me instantly.

[diviningtime]

Okay, so Lilia's sexuality is complicated in my head because the way she experiences life and time is complicated.

I definitely believe Lilia is attracted to women, but I'd hesitate to call her a lesbian, maybe bisexual with a majority attraction to women with occasional exceptions for other genders? I just feel limiting her to just one gender attraction isn't right, but I also feel saying bisexual or pansexual is too wide reaching and isn't accurate either. But definitely primarily attracted to women. But is open to other attractions. Lesbian open to discussion? You know, this is why I hate labels; they're all too damn limiting.

But anyway, I digress from my actual point.

So while being sexually attracted to women in early 16th century Sicily would have been generally frowned upon in common society (though women globally got away with it much more than men did as it wasn't believed women could have sex with each other, and therefore couldn't commit any 'sins'. Plus women were allowed to just be friendly 'companions' so that was a nice cover. But again; I digress dammit) I feel it was absolutely 100% accepted by the society of the coven, so while she was within their walls I don't think Lilia had to hide or change anything about herself. Therefore I don't believe she has any centuries old hang-ups about her sexuality, or ever held any shame about it.

HOWEVER, I do not think relationships or attraction has ever been easy for her, or maintained, due to the fact she experiences her life out of sequence. I feel Lilia, especially once her coven were gone, has found it incredibly hard to make those kind of romantic or sexual connections because she experiences parts of the relationship before it happens, and also experiences it after it happens, she remembers pieces and not others, there are gaps, all of which would make it very, very difficult to grow and develop and nurture a relationship. I feel the way she experiences time would really hinder, and inadvertently sabotage, any growing connections. Especially if that person didn't know that Lilia experiences her life out of sequence (and considering how private she is about it within the show, it's not likely she was sharing that fact with people she'd just started seeing romantically).

I think as difficult as relationships would have been, and how they all petered out quickly, or were just stopped dead in their tracks by her Sight and out-of-sequenceness, any kind of brief sexual encounter would have been extremely difficult for her too. Because what if she has one of her flashes during sex? What if a stranger sees what she's really like and what she can do? What if they weren't to be trusted and reported her to authorities? Or thought she was insane and locked her away? It's too risky.

Now, don't think I mean that Lilia has not had relationships or sexual experiences; she most definitely has. It's just that with all these problems, and then all these fears, and all these hurdles and complications, she slowly stopped trying, that eventually, out of survival and safety as well as a loss response, she just decided to isolate herself (to be a hermit, as she admits) and no longer reaches out at all.

I'd say it's been at least a century since she last engaged with that part of herself, and while she's had loves in her youth, and almost-somethings and heartbreaks since, she has disengaged with that aspect of her life/body/mind that she thinks about it very little currently. I'm not saying it couldn't be re-engaged, but I am saying that it means if someone liked her and was flirting with her, she wouldn't initially notice because her mind is not currently in that place. She'd need a lot of prodding and heavy hints.

The last time she was truly open with love and sex and attraction was when she was with her coven. During that time she was very carefree with it all, because she was surrounded by people who knew her and understood her and knew what her gifts and powers were. I think for her to be completely free and engaged with that part of herself, she'd need that kind of safe environment/support in her life again, for her to feel secure enough to take those chances.

[ventbloglite]

I think where the discussion is going awry r.e. 'genitalia preferences and transphobia' especially in the queer community is that the cis people involved seem to think the trans people involved are demanding that they receive sex regardless of genitalia (and in truth, many trans people are being tactless about what they're saying and do indeed come off completely wrong and rude) or at the very least start to find the genitalia they do not like inherently attractive 'because gender'.

The whole idea behind this discussion was actually to dissect what counts as reasonable personal wants/desires/preferences based on ones sexuality and also individuality and what is actually transphobia being disguised as those reasonable things.

First and very importantly foremost - every single person, even another trans person, is allowed to say 'no' to getting with a trans person in any way. You don't even need a reason. In fact, the conversation will probably go smoother if you don't give one. You don't need to be defensive, because you're allowed to say no to anyone.

Consent and bodily autonomy rank first and foremost. If the trans person gets pushy and starts accusing you of transphobia despite all you saying is 'no thanks' then that's a them issue, not a you issue.

Now maybe your reasoning is down to genitalia, you just don't want to ask the 'have you had bottom surgery' question, or you're just not sure about vaginoplasty pussy or phallo cock and just don't wanna find out right now or ever. Sure, cool, whatever. It's fine if sex is a big big thing for you in a relationship and the specific way you like to get genitalia involved would mean your partner needs to have something specific 'down there'. That's fine.

But where the line between personal opinion and systemic transphobia comes in is how we phrase this exclusion from the dating pool and why we exclude trans people at all.

For the sake of brevity, I'm going to focus this post on transmisogyny but it is not exclusively transmisogynistic.

Let's have a test - which of these scenarios is transmisogynistic/transphobic?

A - A cis lesbian says she only dates women and therefore does not date trans women but does date trans men (unless they have phalloplasty). B - A cis lesbian says that being a lesbian means attraction to people with vaginas only, so she will never date a trans woman even if they have vaginoplasty but also does not date trans men because they are men. She also dislikes when trans men who still have vaginas call themselves lesbians.

C - A cis lesbian says she would date a trans woman, but only if that trans woman has had vaginoplasty. This is because sex is very important to her and she mostly likes scissoring, she is only attracted to vagina and is repulsed by penis.

D - A cis lesbian prefers women who have vaginas which she acknowledges could include trans women in theory, when approached by a trans woman in a bar she doesn't respond to the flirting and says 'no' to swapping numbers.

E - A cis lesbian who only likes vagina finds her sexual attraction dips when it comes to light that she is kissing and about to have sex with a trans woman who still has a penis, and politely removes her consent for the situation with or without giving the reason.

The answer is A and B only.

Whatever happens 'I don't date trans women because I am a lesbian' is transmisogynistic because you are purposefully stating that a wlw cannot be attracted to trans women despite the fact that they are women.

"Lesbian means female homosexual, i.e. attraction to your own sex i.e. vagina it's not about gender I do still think that trans women are women," - some trans women have vaginas, so excluding them entirely is clearly a transmisogyny issue.

"Ok, a lesbian is someone with a vagina who likes others who have vaginas," so trans men who date other trans men and don't have phalloplasty are lesbians, or trans men without phallo who date cisbians are lesbians, so men can be lesbians? Are we cool with that yet? Pretty awesome if you are but still transmisogynistic to exclude trans women especially if they also have a vagina.

"Fine, a lesbian is someone who has a vagina and is also a woman, who dates other women who also have vaginas" - ok so I'm saying it again, trans women are women and some have vaginas, so you can't default exclude them from being lesbians or potentially attractive to cisbians. Your personal preferences should not be used as a blanket statement to police other people's sexualities.

So what is a lesbian? A lesbian is someone who identifies as a lesbian because of their queer love for women and/or other lesbians. Imo at least. But my definition of lesbian is not whats up for debate here. What's up for debate is understanding what someone saying no to a trans person is fine (take notes trans people) and when it's illogically based on transphobia not ones sexuality or attraction to certain genitalia (take notes cis people).

There are plenty of cisbians who date transbians too. They find ways to engage in sex that makes everyone comfortable, so even if the cisbian is penis-repulsed and the transbian is too dysphoric to use her penis anyway they have fun, because the cisbian is a wlw and that's regardless of the adjective placed before 'woman'. She is not less of a lesbian. To say so is lesbophobic.

Also a lot of you who say 'it's just genitalia preference!' also do not like transbians calling themselves lesbians, and dating other transbians. In this case where they are not imposing upon you and are still women who love women, you are being transmisogynistic. 'Gold star lesbian-ing' is lesbophobic.

So in a nutshell -

Transphobic - not dating trans people who have the gender you're attracted to because they are trans and therefore 'don't actually count', not dating trans people who have the genitalia you're attracted to because they are trans, denying trans people the rights to use certain sexuality labels

Not transphobic - saying no to a trans person who wants to date or get off with you, never having dated a trans person before, prefering your partner to have a certain genitalia and therefore only dating trans people if they have that, not being sure about if you want to date a trans person so just not dating them, liking only one kind of genitalia in general and not wanting to work around it being there but otherwise not caring what or who trans people date who aren't you and not judging other gay people who date trans people

[femcel-interruped]

"Boy-Sober": The Concept and Rules as explained by Hope Woodard

I first discovered this idea of "boy-sober" through a random tiktok of a woman explaining her own experience doing it. She coined the phrase and has further explained the rules as different questions come up, and there are a lot of "what ifs" to consider.

In a nutshell, being boy-sober is to not be involved with any man romantically. This includes dating apps, situationships, exes, basically any man who would take up your brain space is off limits. The goal and hope is to disconnect from the male gaze and enjoy your life as your own entity. You are no longer reaching for the validation, affection and entertainment that dating would most commonly provide.

// sidenote... As I'm explaining this in writing, the lines are so blurred to me because I'm scared of jumping into the deep end, quitting all men cold turkey. What about my ex that I miss and love so dearly and am still close to? What about the men that seem nice and want to take me on a date? I guess that's why I'm doing this, it's a challenge. I have to remind myself that I'm not depriving myself of joy or love, I'm making way for a more peaceful and driven life. Not only am I creating a more balanced and healthy lifestyle for myself, but I am also creating higher standards for what I will accept as a partner. It will benefit me in all ways that will serve me in the future. //

So, here is Hope Woodard's (the person who coined this phrase) rules for being boy-sober:

no dating apps

no dates

no exes

no situationships (you are NOT single if somebody is taking up your headspace, it does not matter how "casual" the relationship is)

no hookups

It sounds very simple, but there are a lot of what-ifs.

For example, what if a random person that you find attractive asks for your number? According to Woodard, in this situation you may give out your number if you are so inclined to, but you have to disclose that you are not dating.

What about sex? If it is a true necessity for you to have sex with another person instead of doing it yourself, that is completely okay, go for it as long as you are able to stay unattached. Not all of us are that strong.

Am I allowed to flirt? Yes, yes, yes. This is not a practice of isolation or separation. You are encouraged (by Woodard) to keep flirting, keep meeting people. But you have to keep in mind that that is where the relationship will pause for the time being until your boy-sober journey has reached a fulfilled ending.

Is it okay for me to want a partner/be lonely? Absolutely. It is so completely natural to feel these things and is apart of this process. This experience will give you time to think about what you really want in a partner, therefore you will have a higher quality partner in the future once figuring out what kind of person suits you best. Keep in mind, finding someone is NOT the end goal; the end goal is to find fulfillment within yourself, which will ultimately increase your quality of life.

Below are affirmations I've found during my research that may help the process be a little less painful:

I can make space for loneliness and still be kind to myself

The longest relationship I’ll ever have is with myself

I can give myself the things I need to feel better

The loneliness I feel isn’t something I have to feel all the time

I feel joy and pride in accomplishing things by myself

I give myself permission to make time for being sad, then I’ll get back up when I feel able to

I am simply disengaging from bad energy

I have the power to change direction

Day 1 starts tomorrow.

[uwuthomasuwu]

Why is it so much more acceptable for straight men? Also like why? It's it because I'm AFAB so I'm "woman light" and therefore anyone attracted to women can like me? But oh wait you're going to hold lesbians to a higher standard. I know that I personally don't believe anyone who explicitly isn't attracted to men can respect my gender while telling me they want to date me. Especially when I can't bind and have a c cup chest. I get that I look feminine and might be attractive to people who like that look. At the same time, if you're on a dating app you should look at someone's bio and pronouns. Mine clearly state that I'm a genderfluid demiboy and my pronouns are he/him. While I'm not a man I view myself as man adjacent. You can't be attracted to me and not accept the masculine parts. So why? Why do straight men get more of a pass to find masculinity attractive than lesbian? Is it the he/him pronouns? That shouldn't matter. These results wouldn't bother me so much if it was a clear yes or no for both but the answer is different. I mean yeah the winning answer was "what the fuck is going on" and that's valid but I asked y'all because I've had both straight men and lesbians approach me on dating apps despite my gender being visible. I've had to put in my profile that I won't date cishet men because of this. And I figured if everyone seemed to say that straight men and lesbians can be attracted to my gender without denying it or the masculinity I occasionally identify with then I'd stop rebuffing the lesbians and straight men and see if I could have good experiences. But these results don't give me a good feeling about doing that. It makes me feel like I really shouldn't trust straight men and like maybe tumblr hasn't gotten past their hangups enough to be able to help me with knowledge about the queer community. Maybe I just need to ask the lesbians I know irl but that feels like it would come off as flirting and I really don't want to do that to anyone. I'll ask one more time. Why?

[taleasnewastime]

helloo, just wanted to say you’re an amazing writer and i love your work♥️

I have a request for a drabble for WIILYTM please. So basically someone flirts with reader in front of Jungkook and tries to ask her out and he gets jealous

Ahh that's very lovely of you to say, thank you. And thanks for the request, I hope you enjoy :)

Word count: 800

Warnings: swearing, drinking alcohol.

“Can I get another round of the same please?”

The passing waiter nods, only pausing long enough to hear your order. It’s busy tonight and you feel a little guilty adding more to their plate. You’ll tip heavy, just hope they actually remember to come back with your drinks, you wouldn’t be surprised if they forget, they probably have a thousand other things to remember. You remember the days when you waited tables and are not envious of anyone working here tonight.

Your eyes drift around the bar.

There’s a table of girls in the corner, laughing loudly about something one of them said. A couple of older men sat at the bar, hunched over their drinks you’d guess they must be regulars. There’s a table of half cleared glasses someone’s trying to claim while their friends gather around the bar. A couple sat near the fire, cuddled close despite the warmth, clearly on a date and clearly very into one another. There’s another girl who’s just walked in, head looking around the room in search of someone.

Someone slides into the seat opposite you, cutting your search short. You don’t mind, you’d much rather look at the person you came with anyway. But when you look at the now occupied seat opposite you, your smile drops off your face.

That’s not Jungkook.

“Can I get you a drink?”

Does he think he’s being smooth? Even if you weren’t taken, you can’t imagine being won over by the line. If anything guys like him, saying things like that only put you off. Still, you’re too polite to tell him to fuck off.

He’s brought his own half-finished pint with him. Dressed in a white button down, the top two buttons left undone He’s teeth gleam and his hair is styled to an inch of it’s life. He’s not bad looking, in fact he’s kind of attractive, it’s just the fact he’s so boldly taken a seat at your table that puts you off. That and the fact you’re with Jungkook.

You kind of respect how bold he is. He has confidence, you’ll give him that.

“I’ve just ordered,” you say with a small smile, your eyes darting over his shoulder. “But thanks.”

You’d hoped the short, closed answer would send a certain message, but he only looks to settle deeper into the seat.

“Great. What you on?”

“G&T.”

“I should have guessed. Gordons?”

“Bloom actually.”

His eyebrows raise as he takes a sip of his drink. “Fancy.”

You shrug, your eyes dancing away from him again.

“I’ve only got Stella,” he lifts his glass drawing your eyes back to him. “Maybe I should be trying this gin?”

“If you’re into gin, then yeah, sure.”

He laughs, though you struggle to see where you’ve made a joke. The laugh stops only when he takes another gulp of his drink, basically finishing it off. You’re thinking about how you hope that’ll be enough to get him to leave when you feel someone come up behind you.

Unlike when you saw the man opposite you, this person’s presence only gets you to relax. You don’t have to look behind you to know who it is. His arm skims your back as you feel him place hand on the back of your chair and then his body leans into it and therefore into you.

“Everything alright, babe?”

Your eyes stay on the man, wanting to see his reaction at Jungkook’s arrival. Again, you have to give him credit, he doesn’t balk, his smile only dips a little but it’s still there.

You have to twist a little and crane your neck back to look at Jungkook and though he’s smiling you know him too well to not see the annoyance in his face. You have to bite your lip to stop from smirking. Yep, he’s jealous.

“We were just talking about what we’re drinking.”

“Oh right,” his eyes remain hard on the man for a beat and then he completely softens when he looks down at you. Your heart skips a beat with the complete 180 as well as the gentle touch on your shoulder. “Did you manage to get us another round?”

You can only nod your head at him and it’s his time to smirk at you. He gives your shoulder another gentle squeeze before looking back at the man.

“Looks like you need another too,” he nods his head at the man’s empty glass.

“Right,” the man scrapes the chair as he stands, but you only have eyes for Jungkook now. He retakes his seat opposite you, taking your hand in his. Even when your drinks arrive he does his best to keep physical contact with you the entire night. You really don’t mind.

[pluviophile-imagines]

your first date with kuroo tetsuro has turned out to be a certifiable disaster.

you’d never have pegged yourself as an office romance type but it’s difficult not to fall for his horrible laughter and easy teasing. he asks you out after months of mild flirting and your coworkers quietly pushing you together. you agree readily, feeling that it’s perhaps a bit overdue but aware that he’s less confident than he tends to let on.

of course, the disaster comes in when he decides that your interest in him means you expect him to be some rich, suave ceo type. he picks you up in a car that drives too fast for your comfort, takes you to an expensive restaurant that you are far too underdressed for, flaunts his friendships with the men on the teams playing at the volleyball game he’s gotten the two of you tickets for. as the evening goes on it becomes more and more unbearable, and you find yourself yearning for the slightly awkward yet charmingly dorky man you’d agreed to go out with.

it’s a bit of a relief, therefore, that you end up here. he’d offered to introduce you to some of the players and, more in a vain attempt to spend more time with him (because despite how he’s been acting you really do like him) than any concrete interest, you’d agreed. somewhere along the line he’d been roped into a pickup game. now you’re sat on the sidelines with a couple of merch-clad fans who you don’t remember the names of watching your date dive for volleyballs and it’s admittedly the most fun you’ve had all night.

firstly because he’s clearly having fun, and you’re not too put off to admit that it makes you happy to see him like this. his genuine passion for volleyball was one of the things that you found charming in the first place, and it’s particularly sweet to see how much he lights up with every block and spike. it’s not your first time seeing him play—lord knows you became a regular at the company team’s practices just to see him more—yet you’re impressed by how well he’s holding his own even against professionals, and…

well, secondly, it’s a certain kind of attractive to watch a man in a well-tailored suit playing his heart out. you don’t even bother to hide the way you’re biting your lip and ogling his forearms so prominently displayed with his sleeves rolled up like that. his ass looks nice, too, now that it isn’t covered by the jacket currently draped over your shoulders.

it comes to an end too soon; they’d only gone a few rounds. kuroo approaches you with a wide grin on his face and helps you to your feet with a big hand around yours.

“sorry ‘bout that,” he says breathlessly, cheeks still flush from exertion. “thanks for sticking around.”

before you can respond his friends call out in goodbye, and he looks over his shoulder easily as he responds. his hand finds home on the small of your back. for the first time tonight, it actually makes you feel a little warm.

“no worries,” you tell him once his attention is back on you. “i like watching you play.”

“yeah?”

“yeah.”

“even though i’m all gross and sweaty now?”

the light snort you let out is too genuine to be embarrassed about. it makes him grin wider. “yes, even though you’re all gross and sweaty now.”

“hey, look at you, actually having fun. i was starting to think this whole thing was too much of a bust…”

so he had realized you weren’t feeling it. you pause now that the pair of you are far enough down the hall that the people you’ve left behind can neither see nor hear, prompting him to do the same, and raise a hand to cradle his jaw.

“i like you a lot, kuroo. i really do. and i’ve liked you a lot for months. what i don’t like is you pretending you’re someone you’re not because you think it’ll impress me. the guy i fell for was who i saw playing volleyball with his friends tonight, not the one who picked me up in that insane car and took me to that gaudy restaurant. you get what i’m saying?”

kuroo doesn’t respond for a moment. he just stands there, staring at you, seemingly a little dazed as one heartbeat passes and then another, but then he nods.

“yeah. yeah, i do. thank you for telling me.”

you lean up to press a kiss to his cheek before pulling away. “good. now, uh… you wanna go get some ice cream or something?”

“sure!” it’s fast, a little rushed, and you giggle at his eagerness. it makes him flush again, this time surely not from his unexpected workout. his hand finds its place on the small of your back again and he gestures down the hall. “there’s a place nearby run by this old couple i’ve been going to since i was in high school. i’ll introduce you, if you promise not to be weirded out by how excited they’ll be that i brought a date.”

“i swear i won’t,” you tell him seriously, earning a cheeky grin.

“the car’s not mine, by the way,” he adds on suddenly. “i borrowed it from a friend.”

“oh? somehow that doesn’t surprise me. you seem like the mini van type.”

kuroo lets out an exaggerated gasp. “the mini van type? i resent that remark. i’ll have you know i’m the ‘still drives the old coupe he inherited from his father at 20 years old because it still works fine and he’s too attached to it’ type.”

you bite your lip, trying to resist the urge to laugh and push down the surge of affection that swells up in you at the admission. he doesn’t miss your reaction, moving in closer and sliding his hand along to wrap around the side of your waist.

“what?”

“you’re adorable,” you tell him effortlessly, a little impressed with yourself by the ease with which you get it out.

“hey! that’s my line.” he sounds genuinely affronted, and he’s pouting at you, which makes you laugh even harder.

“you can say it, too. nobody’s stopping you.”

“okay. you’re adorable.” he glances down at you with a soft, sweet smile. “i might just have to kiss you when i drop you off at your house.”

that gets you flustered, cheeks warming as your laughter peeters off and you avert your eye. but you lean in closer to him despite it, tuck your shoulder in beneath his arm, and manage to respond giddily.

“keep this up and i might just have to let you.”

[syrupsyche]

sorry OP for the inevitable long post but:

Enjolras is most definitely queer but IMO, not entirely for the reasons people usually think! In the book, he is described as such:

"...he was serious, it did not seem as though he were aware there was on earth a thing called woman. He had but one passion--the right; but one thought--to overthrow the obstacle. [...] He chastely dropped his eyes before everything which was not the Republic. He was the marble lover of liberty. [...] If any grisette [...] had tried her beauty on Enjolras, an astounding and terrible glance would have promptly shown her the abyss..."

From this, one can clearly see that he has no interest for women, directing any capacity of romance he might have had for them to his republican causes instead. If any women had tried to flirt with him, he would have rejected them.

The most obvious takeaway is that, therefore, he isn't attracted to women and thus, is not heterosexual. Here is where headcanons begin to branch out, all making equal amount of sense: his disinterest in women could very well mean that he's gay (hence his very popular mlm ship), but could also mean a disinterest in romance and/or sex in general (hence his popular aro and/or ace headcanons).

BUT...my personal reasoning is that regardless of what identity he may or may not be, Enjolras is queer simply because he is devoid of sexuality, particularly heterosexual sexuality, and thus not conforming to society's (and especially 19th century society's) expectations of a bourgeois, young man.

In the above block quote, Enjolras DOES have the passion a young lover might have, but only for fighting for the cause. And he IS a charming lover, but only for Liberty. He stares longingly only for the Republic and does not (and cannot) see anything else. That is his lot in life: to be in love with the future, and sparing no other feelings.

This means that IF Enjolras ever lived in a world that did not require his wholehearted dedication to the revolution, he could very well be any sexuality at all! He could even be straight, and not queer at all!! But the fact that he is never given the chance to explore plausible romance options sets him outside of societal norms and expectations, and is thus in of itself queer.

And this is not to mention his feminine looks* as well. Hugo does explain that “like certain young men at the beginning of this century and the end of the last, […] he was endowed with excessive youth, and was as rosy as a young girl”, so his looks may not be particularly transgressive for its time, but a contemporary reader may find it subversive that the strong and fierce leader of Les Amis de l’ABC is portrayed to be so feminine in looks ((and a small digression here: this is where many Les Mis adaptations fail at capturing Enjolras’ full essence; they may often find someone hot and handsome enough, but they rarely ever find someone /pretty/ enough)).

TLDR: Enjolras is queer because he subverts heteronormative ideals, not simply by being (possibly) gay/aro/ace etc., but because he is inherently devoid of sexuality. He only exists for the cause. His gender expression, to contemporary readers, also constantly conflates his masculinity and femininity, and can be subversive as such.

Not sure if any of this makes sense and I’m a little embarrassed now that I’ve rambled so long on some poor OP’s post but….here it is anyways!

*I am a cis woman so I’m unable to provide a personal account on what Enjolras’ constant feminine descriptions may mean WRT queer gender identities. If anyone has any thoughts on this pls let me know!!

Enjolras

from Les Misérables by Victor Hugo

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[justlikethatoneguy]

ok yknow what HELP

ive looked through the demiromantic tag for like an hour and i still cant figue shit out so here we are

am i demiromantic or have i just not met enough ppl

bc the way i would explain demiromanticism (?) to myself is im friends w someone for a bit (ranges from a couple weeks to a year) and then we r put in close proximity?? ig and then the secret romantic attraction quest is unlocked however absolutely does not NEED to be completed (which means i dont HAVE to tell them i like them bc im not really expecting anything out of it?? its just a thing thats kind of happening)

ok so the only crushes im counting total up to 3 (? (will be explained))

1!! my friend group at the time thought it would be a funny little haha to say that they all actually 'ship' me w another friend,,, which led to friend jokingly flirting w me all the time which led to us spending more time together therefore secret romantic quest unlocked which i DID complete (told them and got rejected, cried a little, got over it)

2!! actually dated this person for a bit but honestly dont know if i liked them?? or how i happened to start liking them if i ever did??? like ive looked back on this relationship and thought yh we were absolutely friends who held hands more often and they attempted to kiss me a couple times but like?? was that it??? this is the questionable crush bc genuinely have absolutely no fucking clue if i did have a crush on them or if we decided to give dating a shot just bc they told me a bit before that they did like me and i fully just asked them out (and now did i ask them out bc i wanted to date them or bc everyone around me was getting into relationships and i felt like i was being abandoned??? who knows) THIS PERSON IS ALSO ARO NOW AND WE ARE STILL FRIENDS

3!!! classmate i went on a school trip to nyc w (we were friends?? im not good at knowing if im friends w someone,,, point is we talked quite a bit bc we sat next to each other in maths) and he would do things that i consider sweet,,, like lending me his gloves bc it was cold and letting me hold onto his arm while we were on the subway bc i didnt have anything else to hold onto (we did almost topple over) but now that im writing this out and thinking about it,,, i dont think i would think anything of this if it wasn't a dude?? maybe i have way lower standards for men??? i think thats it,,, ok well now im thinking about if i ever actually found him attractive in any way or if it was just the action of giving me gloves and an arm to hold onto,,, anyway that ig?? unlocked the secret romantic quest??

also those were pretty bunched together??? like in the span of like i think 2 years max and its been i think around 2?? years and no romantic attraction has been felt at all but i think it may be bc i havent really met that many new ppl and therefore pool is smaller????????

nddjnd think this is also kind of important to add but one time i was on a call w a couple friends and smthsmth and i went yh its ok i can just find ppl attractive from afar and they went aww blair :( and i was so confused bc i didn't think i said anything wrong???

ok fuck i have way too much shit to think about now,,, anyway help me out pls this is frying my fucking brain

[nightswithkookmin]

Their relationship seems to be poisoned with libertinism, as pure as it may seem at times. I have always felt as if they are beyond the barriers of adolescence to believe in sickly cloying concepts as true love and destiny, and can never be the kind to risk the career that they've devoted their lives to, can they? Dalliances like this occur in Asia as well, therefore it's not exactly a foreign concept to even the most conservative countries and their people. Besides, anyone can take a look at Jimin and can tell that he is a bloody sex kitten, and has that Brigette Bardot sex symbol, coquettish kind of effect which lures men and women in, like remember the Taemin-Jimin bleachers scène, like everyone knows they were flirting. Besides, see, in this way, Jungkook didn't have to risk his career and found a pretty paramour in his friend just to release his libido... but it's just the untamed lust for the fleshly pleasures, he is not in love with him, if he were, he wouldn't be practically sexting (or more like having video sex) with his hormonal female fans at the hours of darkness, arousing (no, like FEEDING it down their pharynx) their fantasies and neither would Jimin be displaying his promiscuousness to the world. Jimin should keep his paws off Jungkook, both should, actually, off each other. They are corrupted, and oh, by the way, Jungkook even listens to Cigarettes After Corruption, wonder if he reminisces Jimin whilst listening to them... Highly not! It's always Lalisa, the true lover. 🖤

Lalisa who??

The true lover...

Dracula is that you??

Dude I think you take this vampire business too seriously lose the fangs and the fake eye contacts c'mon!

Did several spit takes in between but in the end it gave me nothing but an anticlimatic shock wave which I must say is very disappointing. Had high hopes for you given how overly verbose and unnecessarily wordy this piece is.

Jimin is sexy Jungkook is a flirt ergo jungkook dont love Jimin but somehow he loves Lalisa is what you are saying?? Naa can't be, you smarter than this. Give me something not this cheap out of logic logical fallacy. Surely you can do better.

And I'm sorry but doesn't it follow the same logic then that if Jungkook is so shamelessly indiscriminately horny for Jimin then he is not horny for this Lalisa?? Perhaps because he doesn't find this Lalisa sexually attractive??

And if he doesn't love Jimin because he sex texts random unknown faces in his fandom, then surely he doesn't love Lalisa either. Surely Lalisa must be appalled by this conduct as well to see her bf flirt with Jimin and fans with no respect for their relationship. Someone needs to love herself and demand better from her BF.

And "true love" is overrated- at least the concept of it- really because there's no difference between that and platonic love💀

If he ain't banging you you are his friend and no different from his mother. Jungkook is not asexual. Neither is Jimin. Sex fulfills them just as much as love or money or fame. Stop with this medieval way of thinking about relationships and quit being a prude.

You seem to be self soothing when you say these things. Does it give you comfort to place less value on sexual attraction and more value on this vague concept of true love?

What is this true love you speak of?

Commitment? Protection? Provision? Loyalty? Affection? Care? Desire?? Reverence? Honor? Respect? If so then what Jikook have is true love and lizkook is a figment of your imagination.

Love is not a true emotion. It's a word we use to communicate a combination of other tangible feelings.

When people say they love others what they mean is, they have an emotional connection with them, or have a sexual attraction to them, or have a desire to be loyal and faithful to them, have a desire to commit to being a life companion to them, have a desire to make kids with them, or share their life with them, provide for them, a desire to protect them, be there for them.

Love is a very tangible emotion.

You should pay me for this but most people confuse their needs for love. They assume they love others when others fulfill a specific need in them. They grow attached to what the other person does for them. That's not love. That's codependency.

Only Jikook can explain what love means to them. In my opinion it's not difficult to ascertain what love means to someone like Jungkook with all his angst. If it's fake love it must at least be sexual, I want to lift up my partner and kiss them in that position at least once- sex plays an important role to him and it's one of the ways he expresses love and intimacy.

I'm holding on to something. Won't let go of you for nothing- to him love is about commitment and loyalty too. I should do a jikook love language pt2.

I digress.

Glad we can agree Jikook have the hots for eachother and Oh boy do they drill eachother's buttholes woof. Clutching your pearls yet??

Jimin gives Jungkook orgasms your Lalisa can never give him in his wildest dreams😭

Since Jungkook has a man why don't you ship your Lalisa with me. I'm single- well not at the moment but soon. My ex who is now my fwb gave me the cleanest bath ive ever had a few nights ago and blew my back out. If I knew she was this kinky we wouldn't have broken up in the first 😩

But still there's a lot we can do with this Lalisa. Hell I'll take her to the orgy I'm organizing for Jikook. I'll do Jimin, run my pumpum all over his face while Jungkook claps her cheeks. It's a win win. Since I hate cooking she can make us all something after while the rest of Army have their way with Jikook😊

Please tell her to love herself. She deserves a man who finds her sexually attractive to the point they won't look at other girls twice or very attractive men and someone who won't flirt with horny teenagers on the internet with a backdrop of a naked het couple copulating in the background.

Jikook shud stay away from eachother but really they don't want to so leave them alone. They are adults who decide whom to love and fuck. Jimin can love whomever he wants, fuck Jungkook for all I care- I just want him to cuddle me and lick my clitoris with his tongue whew. That thing can do damage if you know you know! Oh he can clap my cheeks too. It's called manifesting look it up.

And if I find out you are talking about Lisa from Blackpink I SWEAR TO GOD.