#Relationship Self Help Book

[mymercyprevailss]

[growwithbooks]

“Progress isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s just choosing not to quit.”

[histhoughtslately]

Tell me about every bandage, every wound, pain, scar; and let me love you anyway.

#gentlelove

[dennisboobs]

[non-conventionnel]

“Don’t walk in front of me… I may not follow Don’t walk behind me… I may not lead Walk beside me… just be my friend”

― Albert Camus

[fisheito]

Do you think Yakumo is long enough and thin enough to be a bookmark?

yes. no qwuestion. debateless. if he thinks he's too 3-dimensional/voluminous to fit, smash him between the pages until he learns.

[pinkcoquetteribbons]

[callmexnielara]

[authenticity2025]

The tension of the future is unbearable in us. It must break through narrow cracks, it must force new ways. You want to cast off the burden, you want to escape the inescapable. Running away is deception and detour. Shut your eyes so that you do not see the manifold, the outwardly plural, the tearing away and the tempting. There is only one way and that is your way; there is only one salvation and that is your salvation. Why are you looking around for help? Do you believe that help will come from outside? What is to come is created in you and from you. Hence look into yourself. Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you. C.G. Jung, The Red Book: Liber Novus, edited and introduced by Sonu Shamdasani

[tea-cat-arts]

I'm willing to at least hear out most of the "xyz plot point is heavily tied to abc cultural context" brands of posts but the "wwx isn't meant to be read as morally gray" and "the western fandom made up Sizhui being wangxian's son" brands of post make me feel like my cultural ignorance is being used to gaslight me

[soulwriterblogsstuff]

Everything is a miracle!

No risk, no fun

Everything happens out of reason

Because as long as there is love, there will always be hope 🩶🫧🌟

[itimetraveller]

Meditating under a full moon, known as moon gazing, helps you clear your mind and gain full control of your thoughts. Doing moon gazing meditations 10 minutes every day, will help you improve your communication skills and will wipe out all of your negative thoughts.

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[xxdreamscapes]

diary 042225 | 11:19 am

on incessant improvement culture;

We can’t always be in a constant, forced state of growth. While it’s true, we never stop growing, it’s meaningless if we don't pause, breathe, and take the time to enjoy where we are at. What do we call it when cells keep growing, and multiplying rapidly, becoming malignant? Cancer.

Don’t let online productivity content and “high/low value” rhetoric dehumanize you. You’re a person, not a machine. You don’t need to “serve” anyone, just be conscious of how you’re treating the people around you and adjust. Find the balance between lounging around and making zero effort in your relationships and making some intentional, consistent and meaningful effort. 

There is nothing to be "fixed" — your body, your mind, or your special interests. Don’t fall into consumer traps or useless binary extremes, masc vs. femme, maximalism vs. minimalism debates. I’ve noticed how people operating in extremes tend to be more dysfunctional. Never define yourself through just one thing, one label, one career, or one hobby. Empower yourself bitch. You can change whenever you decide.

Improvement comes with life experience and the willingness to grow. Accept the feedback, ignore the patronizing criticisms. Accept the lessons as they come, ignore bids for chaos and war. Be open and willing to confront where you might be wrong. Make effort, but don’t force people or things that make it clear they do not want you. 

You cannot hate yourself into becoming a better person. 

At 19, I started internalizing this message and I am so much better for it. Repeating the same things over and over, expecting different results drives people insane. Sometimes the answer is so simple. Do something different. Don’t give yourself choice paralysis. Don't compare yourself to others. You don't have to make these huge, earth-shattering, changes. You just have to take steps in the right direction.

There’s this amazing idea called beyoumaxxing… ya’ll should try it some time ( •̯̀ ₃ •̯́)

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p.s. self help books don't make a difference if you don't actually practice habits that change up or better your life

[icterid-rubus]

I’m getting so good at holding hands. Not to brag but I love holding hands. My hand only gets a little moderately sweaty when I do so. I’m so good at it.

[xianzhoualliance]

honestly i think a lot about how people think mu qing was “extremely evil” it always astounds me… like in comparison to the 2/3 tumors and jun wu u could argue mu qing was the nicest character LMFAO

[allmypink]

Developing New Relationship Habits

Now that you can identify emotionally mature people, there's one last piece of the relationship puzzle to address: your own behavior. In this final section, we'll take a brief look at some new approaches on your part that can make your relationships more genuine and reciprocal. You can work on these actions to help your relationship flourish. After all, improving your own ability to act in an emotionally mature way in as important contribution to having the relationships you want.

Exercise: Exploring New Ways of Being in Relationships

Let's create a profile of emotional maturity that you can work toward. The following list presents a picture of how an emotionally mature person might interact and behave in relationships. Read through the following list of new behaviors, beliefs, and values and choose a few to practice. Just pick one or two at a time, and be gentle with yourself as you work on them. Some might be harder than others.

Being Willing to Ask for Help

I'll ask for help whenever I need to.

I'll remind myself that if I need something, most people will be glad to help if they can.

I'll use clear, intimate communication to ask for what I want, explaining my feelings and the reasoning for my request.

I'll trust that most people will listen if I ask them to.

Being Myself, Whether People Accept Me or Not

When I state my thoughts clearly and politely, without malice, I won't try to control how people take it.

I won't give more energy than I really have.

Instead of trying to please, I'll give other people true indication of how I feel.

I won't volunteer for something if I think I'll resent it later.

If someone says something I find offensive, I'll offer an alternative viewpoint. I won't try to change the other person's mind; I just won't let the statement go unremarked upon.

Sustaining and Appreciating Emotional Connections

I'll make a point of keeping in touch with special people I care about and returning their calls and electronic messages.

I'll think of myself as a strong person who deserves to give and receive help from my community of friends.

Even when people aren't saying the “right” thing, I'll tune in to whether they're trying to help me. If their effort makes me feel emotionally nurtured, I'll express my gratitude.

When I'm irritated with someone, I'll think about what I want to say that could improve our relationship. I'll wait until I cool off and then ask if the other person is willing to listen to my feelings.

Having Reasonable Expectations for Myself

I'll keep in mind that being perfect isn't always necessary. I'll get stuff done rather than obsess over getting things done perfectly.

When I get tired, I'll rest or do something different. My level of physical energy will tell me when I've been doing too much. I won't wait for an accident or illness to make me stop.

When I make a mistake, I'll chalk it up to being human. Even if I think I've anticipated everything, there will be outcomes I didn't expect.

I'll remember that everyone is responsible for their own feelings and for expressing their needs clearly. Beyond common courtesy, it isn't up to me to guess what others want.

Communicating Clearly and Actively Seeking the Outcomes I Want

I won't expect to know what I need unless I tell them. Caring about me doesn't automatically mean they know what I'm feeling.

If people close to me upset me, I'll try to understand my reaction first. Did something trigger my feelings from the past, or did the person really treat me insensitively? If someone was insensitive, I'll ask them to hear me out.

I'll be thoughtful to other people, and if they aren't thoughtful in return, I'll ask them to be more considerate and then let it go.

I'll ask for something as many times as it takes to get a clear answer.

When I get tired of interacting, I'll politely speak up, asking if we can continue our contact another time. I'll explain kindly that I'm just out of gas at the moment.

Do you get a sense of how much more energy and lightness you'd feel if most of these statements were true for you? You'd be active and self-expressive in your relationships, treating yourself kindly and expecting to be heard by others. You'd be freeing yourself from emotional loneliness. Even if you didn't learn these values and ways of interacting as a child, you can develop them now. Having emotionally immature parents may have undermined your self-acceptance, self-expressiveness, and hopes for genuine intimacy, but there's nothing to hold you back now as an adult.

Excerpt from 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal From Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents' by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD