#Queer Ally

[teratomarty]

My brother is a librarian, and his library is one of the ones that hosts Drag Queen Story Time.

He is also 6'3", 300 lbs of Heavy Weapons Librarian.

This week, some karen showed up to take video of said storytime. She was unmoved by the director of the library telling her their policy against taking video in the children's room.

My brother was also unmoved. Specifically, he was unmoved from his position directly in the line of karen's cellphone. She got video of an acre of blue broadcloth shirt, and that's it.

Other people who showed up to scowl at the drag queen decided they had other things to do that day when my brother scowled at them. He inherited our Mama's scowl, and it's a good one.

Sometimes, an ally looks like a big fat bald white guy. Sometimes, an ally looks like a wall.

[angelsaxis]

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[genderqueerdykes]

an addendum to my post about allies- assuming that every cishet person you meet will be queerphobic is judging someone else for their identity, whether or not you want to admit this, that is what is happening, here. you are making a knee-jerk reaction to someone else's gender and sexual identity and assuming things about them based off of that. let that sink in.

every cishet person you meet is not a queerphobe.

i have a lot of neighbors that i talk to. all of them are older than me. they are all queer allies. they gender me correctly. after they found out i'm a trans man, nothing changed, they still call me the right name, they still call me the right pronouns. no one gets pissy about the fact that i dress femme. my neighbors have literally never once given me any shit about how i dress. one of my neighbors is an older man with salt and pepper hair who identifies as straight and has told me so, but loves my dresses. he has literally complimented me on wearing dresses and how good i make my outfits look. most of my neighbors are middle aged to older people who don't identify as queer but also don' treat us like garbage

my neighbor who just left whom i love dearly was a woman in her 60s with white hair. she was a librarian, and lobbies for civil rights and advocates for queer people, homeless people, prisoners, and other vulnerable people in our society. she was so open and welcoming when i told her i was queer. i felt totally safe talking about my struggles as a queer person with her

there really, genuinely, are allies out there. please don't ignore them. please don't treat them like shit. we desperately need them. we have to stop turning literally everything into us vs. them. a cishet person who never gives you flak for your gender is such a wonderful person to have in your life. don't push away that opportunity for a connection with another person just because you want to judge them for their identity.

we don't do that here.

[moonmeg]

Breeil Pride Art ♡

💗💜💙 🤍🖤❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍

Had no idea how to do the ally flag with this coloring style but I hope it comes across fine :')

[wolvesbaneandbuttercups]

saw someone yelling at some poor white and suposedly cishet guy at pride and like, do they know how stupid they sound? That maybe cishet guy could have been queer himself, he could be related to a queer person, or dating one. And you, that all dosnt even matter because we should be glad a white cishet man gives enough of a shit about queer folk to come to pride to celebrate and protest with us.

Do not yell at or attack cishet white guys at pride, you just look like a fucking idiot who's been in an echo chamber for too long.

Pride events are for EVERYONE who's there to celebrate pride. EVERYONE.

[sunnysam-my]

I was talking to my sister the other day about a Polish queer movie called "Hiacynt" (Hyacinth) which is called "Operation Hyacinth" in most non-Slavic countries, since their citizens are less likely to understand that's what the title is referring to.

When I showed my sister the trailer she went:

Her: Oh, so it's a gay movie?

Me: Yes. Why did you think it was called Hyacinth?

Her: What?

Me: You know, like the operation Hyacinth. That time the government created the "pink files" on gay men and transgender people to blackmail them and isolate from society. That literally happened only 34 years ago and the files exist to this day in police's archives.

And she just didn't know about this… because it never effected her… because straight people just don't bother with learning queer history.

What…

[amf-studios]

I dunno if you take requests, but...

Komasan being an ally? :3

The bean! :3

[runabout-river]

Gege Akutami is a WHAT?!

So Gege Akutami is a fudanshi? 😁 That makes so much sense.

So me saying for years that Megumi is bi on a subtextual level is basically correct and all the satosugu truthers are also correct and Sukuna's obsession with Megumi is also gay and Sukuna and Yuji also have some gay in them just like Nanami and Haibara 😂😂

And of course Kirara and Uraume but they're text 🌈

It's endless 👀

[tazmaboxed]

☆ queer related userboxes! ☆

reblogs appreciated | requests open

[bastienb33]

That moment made me cry 🥺 Poor Nick 😭

[oro-junestar]

Helpful explanation of he/him lesbians!!

So I've seen alot of people confused about the existence of he/him or they/them lesbians and how that's possible, so I'd like to clear that up!

Simply put, pronouns do not equal gender (and neither does sex, obviously). He/him lesbian does not mean male lesbian. If you are a woman, cis or trans, you do not necessarily have to use she/her pronouns. Your pronouns are whatever you want them to be, and so is your gender, and they do not at all dictate eachother.

Examples of he/him lesbians:

-Many butch lesbians use he/him pronouns because it matches their masculine-leaning presentation. Some could also be fluid or polygender into masculine genders.

-Some trans men/enbies who are very early into their transition may also still feel comfortable calling themselves lesbians (such as myself! Even though I'm transmasc and would not like to be called a woman, I would still rather be called a lesbian than a straight man. Maybe later into my transition, that might change.)

-Some enbies are also fluid or polygender into feminine genders and could at times be considered lesbians, no matter their pronouns

I hope that this explanation has been helpful! Together as the LGBTQ+ community and allies, let's all keep learning to understand eachother and help make the world a safer, happier place!

[dzgrizzle]

In 2005, Dolly Parton wrote a Grammy and Oscar nominated song, “Travelin’ Thru,” for the movie Transamerica. The movie is about a trans woman who goes on a road trip with her long-lost son. Dolly’s song “Travelin’ Thru” is literally about how Jesus loves everyone, including the characters in the movie. In her beautifully poetic lyrics, Dolly compares the spiritual journey of coming out and self-acceptance with being born again. She directly references the Bible as well as two earlier Gospel songs, “Wayfaring Stranger” and “I Am a Pilgrim.” Dolly said she wrote the song because of her status as an outsider and her belief that “It's all right to be who you are.”

My point is that, even before “Travelin’ Thru” 19 years ago, Dolly Parton has ALWAYS been an ally and a supporter of LGBTQ+ rights. There have ALWAYS been Dolly Parton drag queens, and Dolly has ALWAYS loved and supported them. She has ALWAYS had queer fans, and she has ALWAYS loved us (yes, US. I’ve been a fan of Dolly all my life). The fact that some homophobes are just now discovering that Dolly Parton is an LGBTQ+ ally tells me they have not been paying attention, and they aren’t really fans of Dolly Parton or they would already know how she stands.

If you want to know what true Christian spirituality looks like, here it is, in just under 4 minutes:

From 7 years ago:

[genderqueerdykes]

I'm straight but have gay transgenders both sexes and lesbain friends and no I'm not scared of any of them like most straight guys cause they know I respect them and there choices they made in there life.

king shit... honestly man, mad respect, you've got life figured out. that's all you gotta do. and you know they respect you, too. hell yeah brother. the world needs more of you. thanks for being a real one

[prickly-paprikash]

This might just be me, but does anyone else feel weirded out whenever someone says they're "unfortunately straight"? Or when they say "no, unfortunately I am not gay and only interested in (insert opposite sex)"?

Like, thanks for seeing queerness as cool, I guess? But, I mean, what's so unfortunate about being straight?

And I don't mean the incredibly shitty standards for dating, especially for cishet women who must deal with horrible men enabled by the patriarchy. That is rather unfortunate, no doubt about it! But, objectively speaking, there's nothing inherently better about being queer either.

I mean, I understand the sentiment! Thank you for being able to recognize that same-sex, multiple, or absence of attraction is beautiful. Yes! It certainly is! Thank you for being able to recognize that it's perfectly normal to be gay as fuck. I appreciate that!

But it comes off as, idk, patronizing? A little fetishistic even, I think. No one chooses who they are attracted to. No one gets to choose the manner in which they feel romantic and sexual attraction or the absence of either or both. No one chooses the gender identity they have and the manner in which they feel most comfortable expressing it.

So no. I don't think there's anything "unfortunate" about you not being as zesty as me, dude. The existence of the patriarchy is unfortunate. The oppression perpetuated by binary gender norms is unfortunate. The toxic masculinity pervasive in cishet male circles is unfortunate. The demonization and dehumanization of women and queer identities is pretty fucking unfortunate.

But when you come at me with that weird "Nah, I'm sadly only attracted to dudes/gals. I wish I was gay!"; that ain't the allyship you think it is. That ain't the positive affirmation you think it is. 'Cuz there's nothing unfortunate about attraction, in any shape it takes. It kinda feels like you're making the convo about you again.

"Oh, woe is me that I'm as straight as an arrow! Oh, of only I could enter the wonderful realm of Fagelot, like you!"

Are you for fucking real? Allyship is acceptance. Allyship is perseverance. It isn't this pity party bullshit where you think you'll make me feel safer by saying you wish you were as faggy as me.

You're straight. I'm queer. You're cis. I'm... well, okay I have no idea wtf I am but that's for me to figure out. We're cool. We're friends. You don't need to put up this act. It's who you are, and it's who I am. We can't change that, but we can be friends. We are a community. We have a common enemy in patriarchy, capitalism, fascism, racism, transphobia, sexism and all these other horrible -ism's.

You're not impressing anyone. I don't care if you "hate being straight and cis." I genuinely couldn't care less.

Just say you got my back, 'cuz I sure as shit got yours because we all need to be in this fight together.

[andresmounts2]

Stop outing people.

If you claim to be an ally, you need to be aware of the people you're around and what you're saying about queer people.

It is not your place to make comments or jokes about somebody's sexuality or gender identity if they haven't given you permission to do so.

Just because YOU are an ally and that person trusted YOU, does not mean that everyone is an ally.