#intersex ally

[userboxesandstuff]

I think it's stupid that people won't believe the "out group" will help them.

Perisex people can be allies to intersex people

Cis people can be allies to trans people

Non queer people can be allies to the queer community

Transmasc and transfems and transneutrals all help each other

Men can be allies to women

White people can be allies to black, brown, hispanic, asian, and native people

Abled bodied people can be allies to physically disabled people

Neurotypicals can be allies to neurodivergent people, whether that's toward intellectual disability, mental health, learning disability, cognitive disability or other stuff

We're all in this fight together: don't forget it. Be an ally to the groups you're not a part of. Help people you see needing help.

[perennialkarmaofficial]

I just finished reading a post which involved a perisex person trying to tell several intersex people that their experiences weren't real, because there wasn't proof.

So, because of this, fellow perisex people, stay in your fucking lane. If you don't deal with intersex experiences first hand, you DO NOT have the right to tell intersex people what is an experience or not. That is NOT your place.

It's DISGUSTING how it's so normalized to speak over intersex experiences, because perisex people don't experience them. Do you realize YOU are repeating the same exact CYCLE perisex cis people have done to trans people for millennia?

"Oh I just don't see it, it must not be real," or "I don't experience this, so it's not real", actually fuck you. Seriously.

INTERSEX PEOPLE DESERVE TO BE HEARD AND RESPECTED. IT'S NOT FUCKING ROCKET SCIENCE.

[1nky-quill]

Everyone’s reminder that the American school system is intersexist as fuck.

They try to be inclusive to trans people by saying ‘only sex is binary, gender isn’t!!’ Which simply isn’t true. Neither are binary.

I’m so disappointed in how intersex people are completely erased from conversations about sex.

In my sex ed unit last year, intersex people were completely left out of the conversation. Intersex people deserve to be able to be safe with their bodies just as much as anybody else does. Same thing when learning about sex characteristics in 8th grade science. The teacher said “there is only two sexes, male and female, XY and XX” which literally isn’t true??? Someone asked her if different chromosome types were possible and she said no. Genuinely how are you a science teacher.

Stop excluding intersex people from conversations about sexual health.

[the-future-is-chrome]

i hate it when people call intersex people “anomalies” or “mutants” like no we’re not in fucking x-men. intersex people are human beings not some weird science project gone wrong.

[lgbtqtext]

[shayne-the-sage]

The attempt by fascists to take power from trans people ends up harming people other than trans people. Everyone saw that coming.

The new 🍊 guy in charge has promised that the government will formally deny the existence of the four identifiable human sexes other than “male” and “female”. This is directly going to harm the intersex community, and will also harm the non-binary and likely the binary trans community as well. It will also directly impact United States v. Skrmetti, the Supreme Court case questioning if discrimination against trans individuals on the basis of gender is sex discrimination. With the upcoming redefining of sex in government, it will almost certainly be ruled that gender discrimination is not sex discrimination. 💛💜 We need to educate our neighbors on the existence of intersex people, whose existence is soon to be identified as nonexistent by the government. We need to share with our neighbors and friends the dire nature of the government insisting that some people who live in this country don’t even exist.

[isobug]

Rainbow Intersex Ally Flags

For anyone included under the Rainbow flag who is an ally to Intersex people!

Requested by anon and made with two versions of the Gilbert Baker Rainbow flag, along with the most commonly used Intersex flag by Morgan Carpenter. Made with my Ally flag PSD template so the proportions are the same as the original Ally flag.

Free for anyone to use anywhere as always! If you would like a variation of these with a different Rainbow or Intersex flag feel free to send me a request !! The parallel flag set can be found here.

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing

[blueinkscribe]

My dash has become filled with intersex people sharing their experience, sharing things they want perisex people like me to know, letting out there frustration, and I tried to reblog as many of them as I could.

But just to be 100% clear here. I want my Blog to be a safe space for intersex people. I know I still have a lot to learn, and I promise im trying, Im listening. If I ever say something offensive, please call me the fuck out!

But if you're intersex and finding my Blog, please know I stand by you, I hear you, I see you, I love you. I want to be a safe space for you.

[lycarael]

I actually find it ironically hilarious that the right is so hell-bent on enforcing gender conformity that they're taking away treatments that are mainly used on intersex people that increase gender conformity. They don't want trans people to exist but they're about to get an influx of people who are visibly/openly *born* with atypical sex chromosomes/physical development. You don't understand, I'm sobbing laughing at how they're accidental allies for intersex people.

[creator-of-calm-queer-chaos]

I don't know if it's just me but I've been seeing so much more intersex awareness/acceptance/people/positivity on my dashboard than last year, and I'm so happy for it! Intersex folks happy pride and happy everything!! <333

[perennialkarmaofficial]

I want to be a better ally to intersex people, and I want to actively do better to accommodate them, and to uplift and respect the terminology that was coined by the intersex community.

Instead of referring to myself as afab, should I instead use the term perisex ftm? Would that be a better way to describe myself?

I love you, intersex people, you have a place in this community. I want to do better by y'all, and to be a good ally. I wasn't in the past, but I'm growing and maturing. From here on out, I will do my research, ask appropriate questions, and advocate by uplifting intersex voices, and allowing y'all to be heard rather than trying to form my own ways to uplift.

[kneehighrainbowsocks]

if you’re intersex and queer/trans i love you. if you’re intersex and cis i love you. trans masc intersex people i love you. trans femme intersex people i love you. nonbinary intersex people i love you. INTERSEX PEOPLE I SEE YOU AND I LOVE YOU YOURE WONDERFUL AND YOUR PRESENCE MEANS THE WORLD ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[lspicerart]

HAPPY PRIDE!! There will never be a hetero explanation for any of this

[gillyeowalters]

Because it is the anniversary of his death, I wanted to share a small story about my grandfather.

Before I knew that I was intersex, I identified as a trans man. And I went the way any trans man has to go if he wants to transition in my country. My parents thankfully were supportive but I was afraid to tell my grandparents. My grandparents were German and lived/were raised during the third reich. While both of them never said or acted in a way that suggested that they had fascist views (my grandfather was until he died part of a leftwing political party), but there still was this fear in me. "They are old, they grew up surrounded by abhorrent beliefs...". And then there was my aunt. Who would constantly claim that my grandfather was homophobic.

The problem was, back then, there were no openly out gay people in our area, so I never got the chance to see my grandfather interact with someone who was queer. So I just believed her. Because she was so insistent on it. And because it confirmed my fears and my brain loves to be constantly afraid.

But I knew I wanted to come out. I had to, eventually, because I had stopped my estrogen treatment (back then, I did not know that I got that because I was intersex) and went on testosterone instead and first physical changes began to show. We all lived in one big house, so my grandparents would eventually notice.

I was so afraid that my father at some point offered to talk to his parents. I waited outside in the hallway that led to their kitchen and listened.

My father explained, easy to understand, that I was going to transition from female to male because I felt terrible in my body. My grandfather asked, "Is that why the child* is so depressed all this time?" I had been in and out of multiple clinics for manic depression at that point. My father gave a yes. And my grandmother made the incredibly selfish comment, "Can't that wait until I am dead?"

Before I even got time to be upset, my grandfather slammed his fist down on the table. I had never seen or heard him do anything like that before. He was a very calm and collected man who preferred to leave the room before he got too angry. "No, it can't wait. The child gets to get well now. And if that is what is going to help, then it needs to be done."

From that day on, he never used my deadname again or used the wrong pronouns for me. Sometimes, he would stop in a sentence to think and remind himself, but he did always address me correctly.

He celebrated with me when my name was legally changed. He built the bed frame for me and my boyfriend's bed when we moved in together, just like he had built the first adult sized bedframe for me when I outgrew my small bed. He drove my boyfriend to his chemo sessions because my grandfather also had cancer and knew how terrifying it was to go alone.

Did he fully understand what it means to be intersex? To transition? No. But he understood that one of his loved ones was suffering and that he could help to alleviate that pain. And so he did.

He taught me calligraphy. He taught me how to sew. He taught me bookbinding. He gave me many gifts.

But the biggest gift he gave me was, that when someone hated me for what I am, I could stomach it. Because this man was willing to unlearn the bigotry he had been taught for decades so he could love me for who I am.

*in my grandpa's dialect it was normal to refer to children as just 'the child' (genderless)

EDIT

I was blown away by how many people have reblogged this post. I believe my grandfather would be very happy to see that he can give some hope and love to others even now.

I do not want him to stay faceless; so here is a piece of art I made for his obituary, with a slightly altered quote added now.

Dahlias were his favorite flowers. Orange ones especially. They reminded him of the home he had to flee from as a child.

EDIT 28/03/25

Happy birthday.

[ipso-faculty]

Perisex allies: stop this shit

CW: intersexism

Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:

Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."

It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩

It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩

It's so wrong in so many different ways:

Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.

Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.

Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.

Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.

Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.

While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.

📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.

Here are some starter resources to give:

Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl

Media and style guide by IHRA

FAQ by intersex-support

A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies

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