#intersex ally

[perennialkarmaofficial]

I just finished reading a post which involved a perisex person trying to tell several intersex people that their experiences weren't real, because there wasn't proof.

So, because of this, fellow perisex people, stay in your fucking lane. If you don't deal with intersex experiences first hand, you DO NOT have the right to tell intersex people what is an experience or not. That is NOT your place.

It's DISGUSTING how it's so normalized to speak over intersex experiences, because perisex people don't experience them. Do you realize YOU are repeating the same exact CYCLE perisex cis people have done to trans people for millennia?

"Oh I just don't see it, it must not be real," or "I don't experience this, so it's not real", actually fuck you. Seriously.

INTERSEX PEOPLE DESERVE TO BE HEARD AND RESPECTED. IT'S NOT FUCKING ROCKET SCIENCE.

[smilepilled]

[Continuing off from my previous intersex terminology posts (LINK).]

For fellow intersex people who use AFAB/AMAB for how you're perceived or treated: please don't do that, either. I will outright say that I was also a person who did this out of ignorance, but that's also why ai know and believe it is important to learn and avoid making similar mistakes as I have, hence why I'm making this post on sequence. For this, I would like to propose a few different terms for this...

♀️ Perceived As "Female" In Collectivity (PAFIC); a term for those who, regardless of their actual biological sexing (or their forcefully assigned sex), are perceived as "Female". This can occur for many reasons, most of which are up to the user decide on regarding their own experiences. This "Perceived Femaleness" is commonly dyadic/perisex/endosex, but it can be intersectional with many forms of oppression (E.G.: Transmisoginy, Queerphobia, Racism, etc.)

♂️ Perceived As "Male" In Collectivity (PAMIC); a term for those who, regardless of their actual biological sexing (or their forcefully assigned sex), are perceived as "Male". This can occur for many reasons, most of which are up to the user decide on regarding their own experiences. This "Perceived Maleness" is commonly dyadic/perisex/endosex, but it can be intersectional with many forms of oppression (E.G.: TransAndromisia, Queerphobia, Racism, etc.)

⚧️ Perceived As "Thing" In Collectivity (PATIC); a term for those who, regardless of their actual biological sexing (or their forcefully assigned sex), are perceived as a "thing". This can be read as being perceived as both of the constructed sex binaries, being tossed around between the two previous perceptions, being mistreated for not fitting into the previously mentioned two binarified extremes of biological sex, and whatever else fits the user's experiences. This term can be intersectional with many forms of oppression (E.G.: TransAndromisia, Queerphobia, Racism, etc.) — ALTERNATIVE NAME WOULD BE "PERCEIVED AS SOMETHING ELSE IN COLLECTIVITY" (PASIC).

Note: The word "thing" has been directly used to me and many others, hence why I'm using it here. You're free to use PASIC, or even PADIC ("different") if you feel more comfortable doing so.

I hope this can help not only intersex people, but the entirety of the queer community. Being perceived often causes us issues that we don't immediately/often unpack or clock, nor contextualize for ourselves — I think it's important for everyone to understand how being perceived can affect you in society, and affect you as a person.

That being said, THIS TERM IS INCLUSIVE OF ALL PEOPLE. The term has been made with the focus on giving intersex people their terminology back, so naturally this may be used by everyone who wishes to be respectful to intersex people who were forcefully assigned a made-up "binary sex" during their youth.

Read: ANYONE may use this terminology. Dyadic/endosex/perisex AND intersex people. So many of us can be perceived as any of these terms, and it's important to let intersex people have their rightful terms back. Please give this a place in your thoughts.

[isobug]

Rainbow Intersex Ally Flags

For anyone included under the Rainbow flag who is an ally to Intersex people!

Requested by anon and made with two versions of the Gilbert Baker Rainbow flag, along with the most commonly used Intersex flag by Morgan Carpenter. Made with my Ally flag PSD template so the proportions are the same as the original Ally flag.

Free for anyone to use anywhere as always! If you would like a variation of these with a different Rainbow or Intersex flag feel free to send me a request !! The parallel flag set can be found here.

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing

[blueinkscribe]

My dash has become filled with intersex people sharing their experience, sharing things they want perisex people like me to know, letting out there frustration, and I tried to reblog as many of them as I could.

But just to be 100% clear here. I want my Blog to be a safe space for intersex people. I know I still have a lot to learn, and I promise im trying, Im listening. If I ever say something offensive, please call me the fuck out!

But if you're intersex and finding my Blog, please know I stand by you, I hear you, I see you, I love you. I want to be a safe space for you.

[creator-of-calm-queer-chaos]

I don't know if it's just me but I've been seeing so much more intersex awareness/acceptance/people/positivity on my dashboard than last year, and I'm so happy for it! Intersex folks happy pride and happy everything!! <333

[kneehighrainbowsocks]

if you’re intersex and queer/trans i love you. if you’re intersex and cis i love you. trans masc intersex people i love you. trans femme intersex people i love you. nonbinary intersex people i love you. INTERSEX PEOPLE I SEE YOU AND I LOVE YOU YOURE WONDERFUL AND YOUR PRESENCE MEANS THE WORLD ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[perennialkarmaofficial]

I want to be a better ally to intersex people, and I want to actively do better to accommodate them, and to uplift and respect the terminology that was coined by the intersex community.

Instead of referring to myself as afab, should I instead use the term perisex ftm? Would that be a better way to describe myself?

I love you, intersex people, you have a place in this community. I want to do better by y'all, and to be a good ally. I wasn't in the past, but I'm growing and maturing. From here on out, I will do my research, ask appropriate questions, and advocate by uplifting intersex voices, and allowing y'all to be heard rather than trying to form my own ways to uplift.

[smilepilled]

Just a reminder: if you are perisex, you were not assigned anything at birth. In fact, some intersex people haven't as well — AGAB (AFAB/AMAB) is terminology utilized for coercive (and nonconsensual/forceful) "fixing" of intersex bodies. It means you were operated on or received hormone replacement "treatment" for you to "become" a dyadic male or female. Otherwise, you are neither — please stop appropriating intersex terminology, it's quite distasteful.

I don't think xeno-AGABs are fully immune to this post, but I do enjoy the nature of "telling the medical sector to go fuck itself", in a way, and telling yourself you weren't assigned anything but (insert specific topic). So please always make sure to use AXABs critically and sensitively with this in mind.

[lspicerart]

HAPPY PRIDE!! There will never be a hetero explanation for any of this

[smilepilled]

Sorry if this is a dumb question but what is the issue with agab terminology? I would assume it's because of some people thinking experiences are exclusive and stuff (I've seen some drama of it but I'm not part of it and I never ever really thought experiences were exclusive to a persons agab or perisex people), I personally feel connected to it bc I'm heavily connected to my agab/asab since I feel like my gender is tied/connected to it in a way (in an alterhuman sense) even though I have some dysphoria (mainly the atypical kind), and tbh I kind of always thought people used it in a positive way??? Idk of that makes sense. If you don't feel comfortable answering I totally understand /gen

Hey! Glad you asked, here's some simplified points for ease of understanding with the issue intersex folks have been having with AGAB terms being tossed around.

MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING for medical abuse and bloody/macabre situations involving intersex erasure, as well as the recent major bigotry from perisex folks towards intersex folks.

Direct answer: There's nothing inherently wrong with AGAB terminology, but rather how it has been appropriated from intersex people and misused en masse — AFAB is being used as "dyadic female"/"mostly female"/"female on legal papers", while AMAB is being used as "dyadic male"/"mostly female"/"female on legal papers". Or even worse, "seen as female"/"seen as male".

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Further Background On The Terms (TIMELINE):

The terms AFAB/AMAB were originally created with the intention of discussing the coercive/forceful medical malpractice done to intersex newborns or younglings. So, for AFAB, a intersex baby/child would be forced to undergo surgeries AND/OR hormonal treatment < TO FIT INTO THE MADE UP BINARIFIED CATEGORY OF "TRUE BIOLOGICAL FEMALE" > — all while not being able to consent. The same goes for AMAB, but with the "TRUE BIOLOGICAL MALE" bullshit. Basically, intersex erasure by forcing them into one of the two boxes (and that often backfired because the person developed into the opposite of what they were ASSIGNED, or otherwise had pain/loss of sensation in their privates, or hormonal complications). For reference, this does not happen in indigenous groups for example, because there is no White Normativity in them && they embrace natural diversity in a majority of cases (or it just doesn't matter).

The bubble was burst, and the terms began being used wrongfully (see short answer) by perisex people — and in some cases, intersex people as well — as things varyingly, scarily different from their original meanings. This naturally has caused great damage not to the queer community (since everyone is, once again, being forced into THIS or THAT ideologies and boxes), but also for the intersex community itself.

The intersex community is now somewhat struggling 'n scrambling to find terms to replace AFAB/AMAB/AGAB, but given that it is no easy feat, it has remained a ongoing issue for us to solve eventually. I've came up with a few terms in my mind, but none come up properly enough — the creation of CAFAB and CAMAB (adding a "coercive" to the pre-existing terms) happened for this, but they also don't seem to work properly for the discussion because it ends up being confused as the misused AFAB/AMAB with a mysterious new letter in front of it.

Additionally, in light of helping perisex folks have their own word for the things they misused AFAB/AMAB for, the terms "OFAB" and "OMAB" were created — observed female/male at birth. While a lot of intersex people seem to be satisfied with this outcome, it hasn't solved much of anything regarding this situation AND it also sounds confusing to have "at birth", as well as sounding too similar to the original two terms. This is the latest part of this entire timeline; we are still figuring what to do to stop the appropriation of these terms while also offering better alternatives for all sides involved.

TL;DR — You are not of any ASAB or AGAB if you are not intersex AND were forced/coerced into changing things about yourself without being able to consent properly (by whatever means the lack of consent may be present). These terms mean things and have been heavily misused to the point of damaging both the overall queer community AND the intersex community. Intersex people have been BEGGING perisex folks to not use these terms ignorantly, but our pleas have been met with silence, willfull ignorance, or otherwise not being listened to/taken seriously. If one is perisex (or intersex without these experiences being at least hinted-at/possible), one is not "AMAB" or "AFAB".

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I think that's all? This is somewhat similar to the situation with TME/TMA (the whole "being appropriated by the wrongest groups and turned into something moreso negative than positive in-use" ordeal), but that's a different can of worms. I hope this is somewhat easy to understand, maybe? Feel free to send additional asks about this, if so needed. I apologize if I sound harsh/blunt, I don't have a easy time conveying tone when explaining things (or in general). There is no biting, just explaining. ^,.,^

[ipso-faculty]

Perisex allies: stop this shit

CW: intersexism

Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:

Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."

It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩

It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩

It's so wrong in so many different ways:

Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.

Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.

Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.

Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.

Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.

While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.

📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.

Here are some starter resources to give:

Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl

Media and style guide by IHRA

FAQ by intersex-support

A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies

[liminalweirdo]

NOTE: this is NOT about sharing your pronouns with colleagues/fellow students/professors etc. in general, it's about those introductory circles where everyone introduces themselves.

*trans includes nonbinary, agender, and other gender non conforming identities including autigender for the purpose of this poll.

no nuance button, but feel free to say your thoughts in the comments/tags or so i can make a better poll if necessary

[nyxxx6]

Sexy right? 🖤😋🥵❤️‍🔥

[loki-god-of-mischief-13]

Pride Mezuzahs

If I forgot your flag, tell me. Happy pride to the Jews in my phone.

[kijiboop]

I was thinking about this when I read about Biden’s administration saying gender-affirming surgery should only be allowed to adults. No one mentioned how this could/should effect infant surgeries in intersex cases. It makes the whole story much more nuanced than I think any media source will ever consider and that’s very frustrating for me.

not sure what to put as the caption but. yeah!!!!

[ghoul-butch]

the thing about transphobes saying that "sex can't be changed" while still making making intersexist carve-outs in law is that they give up the plot immediately. they think sex can be changed! but only to suit their agenda. they only bring that line of reasoning out for the cruelty of stopping those who seek to change their sex, while keeping it out of their mouths for the cruelty to enforce the sex binary on intersex people. it's all to make a two sex binary real through any means necessary, before anyone wants to call this "hypocrisy". it's not hypocritical to announce exactly what evils you intend to do to others and then do them.