#Patriarchy hurts men and women

[estranhossonhos]

If this truly happened, then I have only two things to say:

1) How can one argue that Feminism is no longer necessary when women have been conditioned to compete against each other, leading to the internalization of misogyny? It's a hard truth to express, but it must be said: sometimes we are our worst enemy.

C'mon: break the stereotype. Break the gender bias. Break the patriarchy!

2) There are as many people falsely identifying as feminists for personal gain or branding as there are those opposing the feminist movement for similar reasons, often without understanding the true goals of feminism. So please, please, please try exploring the historical roots of gender conditioning (think: why are women always considered less valuable than men? Less dignified, less important, with no rights - only duties).

You'll soon realise why societal structures traditionally undervalued women compared to men, and how the lasting effects of these biases endure TO THIS DAY.

It is not an overstatement to say that every single day, multiple times a day, little girls and women must choose between their own safety—by fawning, fleeing, or freezing in the face of any danger, discrimination, or even misogynistic "jokes"—or to stand up against them. And, funny enough, even if you chose to stand up and fight, is looked down upon, and often labelled as "the crazy ex". Or, when demanding respect in public, they're seen as irrational, rather than the actual perpetrator of harassment or assault. And then there's the ultimate final boss - that the majority loves to hate them: "gold-digger" or the "fame hungry" ones that, according to the popular legend, they emerge whenever they pursue legal action or to speak out about their abuse, regardless of how much time has passed.

Jokes aside, after studying, investigating and considering all of this, please please please, don't be scared or ashamed to change your opinion on this matter.

Many lives depend on it! - patriarchy hurts men and women.

this part of stevie nicks’ interview with rolling stone is taking me out

[tic-loud-tic-proud]

"Maybe white men wouldn't have overwhelmingly voted for Trump if it wasn't for feminists telling them they're bad all the time!!1!!" Weird how everything men do ends up being women's fault somehow

[abortionado]

It's hilarious that men are raised to believe that crying makes you look like a woman ie weak and stupid and pathetic, but still act like this is an ideology that primarily victimizes them and privileges women

[ayaahh00]

One of the most annoying liberal feminist takes I keep seeing is the idea that “patriarchy harms men too, if not equally.” Let’s get this straight: patriarchy, a system created by men to limit women’s freedom and keep men in power, supposedly harms men equally? That’s a blatant lie, and it’s disrespectful to women. Patriarchy was literally designed to oppress women and benefit men. Saying men are harmed by it in the same way is just a way to shift focus off the horrific oppression women have faced. When you try to include men as victims of the very system they created for themselves, the same system we are trying to dismantle to liberate ourselves as women, it dilutes everything women have gone through under patriarchy.

[coolcarabiner]

lesbians who are terfs will never make any sense to me crying about the supposed exclusivity of the “female experience” like my brother in christ she experienced an othered, lonely, confusing childhood where she was made to feel inadequate in her gender, sexuality, or both just the same as you and instead of letting this unify you against patriarchy you just enforce it on other people to maintain the sliver of “power” you think you have. how do u not see how dumb this is oh my god

[lgbtlunaverse]

While I think it's good people have become more aware of how the patriarchy as a system hurts everyone living under it, even the more privileged classes, I do feel like I live in a bizarro world everytime people talk about cis men's mental health issues as if they all genuinely believe women were raised with perfect sympathy for their emotions and never demonized for their feelings or taught to repress them.

"Girls are taught it's okay to cry while boys are not!!" You have got to be kidding me. I am very young and even I was already old enough to be on the internet while people were still earnestly debating whether women were fit to be in official leadership positions or if they were "too emotional" and would lay ruin to the world because they were on their period or whatever. Like that was a real thing in the 2010s still. It's probably gonna make a comeback this decade if the tradwife revival keeps going long enough. Do we all have collective amnesia?

It's "okay" for girls to cry because it's benefitial for us to be seen as weak and lesser than men. It is useful for us to cry so it can be used against us. That is not exactly a good environment for girls to develop a healthy relationship to their emotions, is it? Everytime someone suggests men are uniquely tortured I feel like i'm going insane. Do we not remember hysteria? There was an actual fucking medical diagnosis for women who were expressing their emotions too much. Do we not remember the demonization of postpartum depression? Do we not remember the entirety of the anti-sjw movement specifically stereotyping feminists as foaming at the mouth and crying at nothing to make them seem illogical? Are all of you secretly from a parralel universe where misogyny never existed? I don't get it.

[userautumn]

"not all men" but not in a men's rights way, in a "it's important to remember that men aren't the only perpetrators of cruelty, abuse, and evil and that subconsciously or consciously training yourself to view men as inherently evil and everyone else as inherently safe inadvertently puts you in a position where you're both vulnerable to attack or harm from people you otherwise wouldn't suspect, AND causes you to limit the number of allies you might have in a time of need" kind of way.

[bbqhooligan]

i am glad drake is being called out and i’m glad kendrick is doing exactly that but i can’t help but notice that men are only quick to label other men they hate as predators and not their very own friends.

its a valid way to feel but when trying to analyze peoples actions possible political results i find its better off to try to lock away ones own feelings about the entire system. its unfair.

like ive seen many people upset along the lines of "so kendricks just coming out with these serious allegations just cuz theyre beefing. men only care about womens violence to dunk on other men" and while thats a valid way to feel about the culture, about the general, the majority, about men, cuz we literally see this happen around us, etc etc we literally cant apply it to individuals baselessly.

i have 0 idea what the circumstances were and what kendrick was thinking through this whole thing, WHAT I DO KNOW is that its literally historic someone with this kind of platform is so ruthlessly coming after someone else from the industry with very clearly stated accusations. its so ugly but in Hollywood, you have actors and directors revealed as sex offenders or in lawsuits of sexual violence OR EVEN COMPLETELY OFF THE GRID unacceptable behavior and no one breathes out a word on it. its tradition directors take advantage of women to give them roles. tradtion to write naked scenes for women they want naked. but everyones tail is caught in everyones mouth, so people whose brands are wholesome or "progressive" stay silent to stay employed. its all very hushed.

ive never seen a man this popular and widely respected openly call another man a misogynist. like i said before, its not that Kendrick Lamar is some Feminist Scholar King, its that the action, the angle is surprisingly pro-woman. in times feminist sentiment gets so much backlash and is so unpopular with general audiences i was pleasantly surprised by the way he spoke of women. thats it.

[isawthismeme]

[tariah23]

Apparently, BM are complaining about the new color purple movie “depicting BM in a negative light,” and are mad about Celie and Shug kissing (they did more than that in the novel and they also kissed in the original film, are these people stupid) and I-

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I think more women would care about men's issues if men stopped using discussions of women's oppression as the one and only instance to bring up men's issues. More often than not, men's problems are brought up to deflect from the conversation at hand and silence women.

[whatyoueg]

It so odd that the same people making a fuss about “male loneliness” are the same people who defend the patriarchy which makes it so that men can’t express love to each other without people calling it romantic

Huh so weird

[sundancefemme]

i cannot believe this has to be said. men are not the primary victims of a system that oppresses women in order to advance the social power of men.

[trans-estinien]

people really love to conveniently forget trans men exist when they talk about feminism. or if they dont they make us out as also part of the problem as if we somehow are able to have the same amount of privilege as cis men. absolutely wild

[transgender-png]

hate when someone refers to a guy being stubborn/hotheaded/hard to open up/other bad trait as "being a guy/a man thing".

i KNOW if a woman was being emotional or defensive or hell, even one of the things i mentioned before, and i said "it's because she's a woman" i would earn myself a one way ticket to Asshole Town and rightfully so! but someone saying the same thing about a man is apparently okay, because he's a man?

this is an issue i noticed long before i started transitioning, but i notice it a lot more now.

it's no wonder men act like douchebags when theyre taught from a very young age that that's how they're supposed to be. if you teach someone they're supposed to be aggressive and tough and emotionless because that's what it means to be their gender, of course they're going to grow up to act like that.

and if you read this post and think that because im standing up for an issue men face, that i cant also believe in women's rights and stand up for them, then i think you need to reassess your reading comprehension skills and how open-minded you really are, because the fact that women have issues that are caused mostly by men in our society and men have issues that are caused mostly by women in our society are two things that can, and do, coexist, and you should be including men in your feminism too. no one benefits and everyone is hurt under the patriarchy.

[waddlesizsleepy]

someone tagged one of my posts with "misandry"

out. out now. catch this block. out of my sight.