#the patriarchy also hurts men

[whatyoueg]

It so odd that the same people making a fuss about “male loneliness” are the same people who defend the patriarchy which makes it so that men can’t express love to each other without people calling it romantic

Huh so weird

[tic-loud-tic-proud]

"Maybe white men wouldn't have overwhelmingly voted for Trump if it wasn't for feminists telling them they're bad all the time!!1!!" Weird how everything men do ends up being women's fault somehow

[userautumn]

"not all men" but not in a men's rights way, in a "it's important to remember that men aren't the only perpetrators of cruelty, abuse, and evil and that subconsciously or consciously training yourself to view men as inherently evil and everyone else as inherently safe inadvertently puts you in a position where you're both vulnerable to attack or harm from people you otherwise wouldn't suspect, AND causes you to limit the number of allies you might have in a time of need" kind of way.

[pjharvey]

if i lived somewhere where i could actually study women’s studies without the curriculum being the most watered-down man-friendly capitalism-friendly christianity-friendly slop imaginable i would maybe be doing that instead of environmental science but then i just knoooow i’d have to get a job for some corporation who wants me there to make them seem woke like i’m studying environmental science because it’s a lifelong passion but also bc there aren’t a lot of jobs that don’t make you be a corporate shill and that seems like my best choice

[grimark]

unnecessarily long wall of text tag essay aside, “we all need to be nicer to men so they don’t radicalise and try to kill us” is really not a take i’m in the mood for hearing right now.

[dashing-disaster]

Something that I'd love to see addressed on 9-1-1 is how Buck and Eddie constantly getting inappropriate comments about how hot they are and getting leered at and even propositioned by women while on the job is harassment but nobody takes it seriously because they're men.

But that's never going to happen because when it's women getting propositioned on the job by men it's harassment but when it's men getting propositioned on the job by women it's comedy.

[sundancefemme]

i cannot believe this has to be said. men are not the primary victims of a system that oppresses women in order to advance the social power of men.

[trans-estinien]

people really love to conveniently forget trans men exist when they talk about feminism. or if they dont they make us out as also part of the problem as if we somehow are able to have the same amount of privilege as cis men. absolutely wild

[transfemgorgug]

you are men and men are part of the oppressor class, thereby benefiting from privilege regardless of whether or not you want to or acknowledge it

[cloudbells]

I love reading Barbie critiques because I thought I was the insane one coming out of that film. The way people built it up to be the pinnacle of feminist commentary - so revolutionary, so hard-hitting, so emotional....and I went in expecting a real mainstream feminist movie only to get...that.

[bisexualamy]

the thing is i agree that well-meaning cis men are trying to include and validate trans men by bringing them into these heterosexual, misogynistic rituals. some of them may be doing it to further differentiate trans men from women, but i honestly don't think they put that much thought into it. i think, for many cishet men, This Is How You Be Men. this is what they were taught a man was from a young age, and much like their fathers and other men in their life, they're taking in trans men and Showing Them How To Be Men in the same way they were.

i cannot tell you how many cis men (most, but not all, het) I've befriended that have later confided in me that the way i view gender and the way i embody my maleness gave them pause to examine their own relationship to masculinity and maleness. for a few, this led to them realizing they're trans, but for the vast, vast majority, they are cis men who are now less misogynistic, less toxicly masculine, and more comfortable in the way they embody their gender. patriarchy benefits from cishet men not doing this work. i really think this comes from cishet men having never critically examined their relationship to their own gender until they meet trans people.

[bittersweetsweetheart]

I hate how men seem to expect women to solve men's issues. There's a 'male loneliness epidemic'? Ok, but why it that women's problem to solve? Why isn't the focus on encouraging community, emotional openness, mental health awareness and vulnerability between men instead of expecting a woman to fuck their problems away or act as a therapist?

[unforth]

I stumbled upon the post of you talking about how you're trying to raise a son that won't hate himself for being male. From a young man to the mother of a young man, thank you. Honestly thank you so much. That will mean so so much for your kiddo, both now and for the rest of his life. I hope your mother's day is a joyous one :)

oh anon, many many hugs. and thank you. I hope you don't hate yourself either, you seem like a really kind and caring person. <3

[itsladykit]

We still live in a patriarchy. Do you think “reverse racism” is a genuine problem too?

Genuinely can't tell if you mean "we still live in a patriarchy" sarcastically or not. Mostly because I don't think I've ever said anything to imply we don't, so I'm not sure what you're trying to argue with me about.

Are you mad that I block folks with "men DNI" in their bio? There's an argument to be made that I'm being respectful of their wishes, Anon. I'm genderqueer, which might mean I'm just man enough to make them uncomfortable, username aside. So really, such folks wouldn't want to interact with me any more than I would want to interact with them.

[hneycmb]

Yes, the patriarchy hurts men too, but why do we have to convince men that the liberation of women will benefit them in order for them to care about it. I'm not going to sit around waiting for men to be incentivized to care about us as human beings.

[gingus-doon]

thinking of that transles separatist girlie who said every attractive trait in men is eroticized misogyny