#Marisa G. Franco

[random-bookquotes]

Platonic love lies at the lowest rung of the hierarchy our culture places on love. But I’ve learned it’s a devastating loss to us all if we dispose of it there. I wrote this book because I’d like for our culture to level this hierarchy. But because we don’t always value friendship, we lack knowledge on how to cultivate it. If we’re going to realize friendship’s full potential in our lives, we need to know how to make and keep friends.

Marisa G. Franco, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends

[darthfoil]

Community = "A group of people who have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose relationships go deeper than their masks of composure and have developed some significant commitment to rejoice together, mourn together, and to delight in each other, and to make other's conditions our own." Marisa G. Franco in Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends

[wellconstructedsentences]

Our friends advertise the kaleidoscope of ways we can live. They expose us to new ways of being in the world, showing us another life is possible.

Platonic by Marisa G. Franco

[rosinasnoot]

Hello, yes, I think you may have misunderstood. 70% of the time I am a loosey-goosey “no idea what the fuck I’m doing but hopefully it’s mostly right” sort of person, and the other 30% of the time I am extremely intentional with how I’m behaving. Except that 30% is concentrated in how I act toward my friends, and I got it from a book I read one time so it’s missing a few pieces. So when we saw each other in person again I think you may have thought I didn’t care and/or completely wasn’t trying when really 60-70% of what went wrong was actually that I had no idea how the fuck to get my outside behavior to match my inside feelings.

[pleaseeeimjustagirl]

You Need To Decenter Men From Your Life 

Heyyyy babes<3 We will be working on decentering men from our life. This is super important! As women, we are taught to appeal to the male gaze and do everything for male validation. This can affect many young women. Causing them to have trouble being themselves and dealing with insecurities. This is also for my girlies who are serial daters. You have never been in a season of your life where you were truly single. You use relationships to ignore the real problems you have with yourself. This post is not to bash men! It is to help you ladies decent men from your life so you can start your self-love journey<3

How to decenter men

♡ Focus on making your teens and twenties about you! How can you love someone and you don't even love yourself? Self-love is the best form of love! Take this time to get to know yourself and pour into yourself. Travel, test different careers, make new friends, and so on. Your teens and twenties especially your twenties are the most important years of your life and you won't get them back so really take this time to focus on bettering and improving yourself inside out so when you start dating again you feel and know you are the prize.

♡ Let go of society's beauty standard! Most of us will NEVER be the beauty standard. You may have certain attributes that fit into the beauty standard but not all and that is okay. Your higher power created you a certain way for a certain reason. Beauty standards change! In the 90s thin was in. The model body was the beauty standard now having curves specifically an hourglass figure is the beauty standard and it is funny because 20 years ago if you told a girl she was curvy or had a big butt she’d feel insulted. 

♡ Validate yourself. Let your opinion of your beauty be the #1 opinion. Affirm yourself in your beauty and remind yourself you are that girl! Compliments are nice to hear but your confidence shouldn't change because someone calls you unattractive. We are all attractive and unattractive to someone. You deserve to be loved and you're beautiful. Tell yourself that and believe it don't wait for a man to come and tell you before you can truly believe it.

♡ Learn to enjoy your own company. I understand wanting to have someone, going on dates, and receiving flowers but you need to take this season of singleness and pause especially if you haven't been single in a long time. Learn to enjoy being alone, find hobbies, take yourself out on dates, buy yourself flowers, write love letters to yourself, and heal your internal wounds. 

♡ Be realistic about men. They are people just like us lol the eat, sleep, and poop. Men aren't perfect individuals they have their insecurities and issues. And this isn't me trying to talk down on men I like men lol. But once you take them down from this pedestal you will be able to see them as regular people.

♡ Reads books on decentering me. Try and find books on this topic to educate yourself further on decentering men. There are amazing books on amazon I will list a few for you ladies to check out<3.

Book Recommendations

♡ How to Be Single and Happy by Jennifer L.Taitz

♡ Healing the Purpose of Your Life by Dennis Linn

♡ Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends by Dr. Marisa G Franco

Comment any tips that you have, and share any books, podcasts, and YouTubers! Thank you so much for all 172 of you babesss love youuuu ladiesss<3

[marlocandeea]

Priests in the Middle Ages distrusted friendship, fearing its love could eclipse our love for God. Then, in the seventeenth century, it enchanted priests, who saw it as a channel to demonstrate our love for God.

Platonic, Marisa G. Franco

[wecandoit]

what i read | feb-mar

note: '*' indicates a trigger warning (references to death, abuse, violence, obvious triggers for mental illnesses) note 2.0: bolded links show sources that i found super interesting or introduced me to a new/profound concept

Books

Death in Her Hands by Otessa Moshfegh

The Grownup by Gillian Flynn

The Housekeeper and the Professor by Yoko Ogawa

The Pachinko Parlour by Elisa Shua Dusapin

Articles/Essays

How to get to know all (the parts) of you [note that this article is about plurality and multiplicity, which is never directly stated in the article but it should have been imo]

What Causes Deja Vu?

Rise of ADHD Diagnosis in Women*

For Beauvoir, it’s friendship that lets us become truly ourselves

The Integrated Scientist-Practitioner: A New Model for Combining Research and Clinical Practice in Fee-For-Service Settings

Cultural Sensitivity Beyond Ethnicity: A Universal Precautions Model

Questioning the banality of evil*

Vaccines and Autism: A Tale of Shifting Hypotheses by Jeffrey S. Gerber and Paul A. Offit

Don’t Blame It on the Moon by Kym Kaufmann

Seeing the Light: Aboriginal Law, Learning and Sustainable Living in Country by Ambelin Kwaymullina

Trans women retain athletic edge after a year of hormone therapy, study finds

How does hormone transition in transgender women change body composition, muscle strength and haemoglobin? Systematic review with a focus on the implications for sport participation

The science says let transgender women play women’s sport

A Fair And Inclusive Solution For Transgender Women In Sports

Short Stories

When A White Guy Walks into A Waiting Room by R.Nash

Wonderful Wounds Await You by Marisca Pichette*

TED Talks

The fairy tales of the fossil fuel industry--and a better climate story - Luisa Neubauer

How to recognise privilege--and uplift those without it - Mariam Veiszadeh

How to celebrate the ups--and downs--of family life - Glen Henry

The secret to making new friends as an adult - Marisa G. Franco

A real history of Aboriginal Australians, the first agriculturalists - Bruce Pascoe

[realjaysumlin]

Dr. Marisa G. Franco: Racism as a multiracial person means people like t...

This is why many Black Indigenous People globally became psychologists to find their true self. It's sad that so many Black Indigenous People globally don't get it. You are hated for no reason and this bullshit needs to stop inside of our Beautiful family.

We are not inferior to anyone on this planet and we need to start feeling better about who we are as the only humans on this planet. We originated in Africa and spread across every continent before any colonizers. Inferior people tear down what strong and compassionate people build.

[brunito812]

¿Es hora de que el papa anule el infierno?

Buenos Aires, 24 de diciembre de 1997

Juan Pablo II

Ciudad del Vaticano

De nuestra consideración:

Se acerca el fin del milenio. Se acerca, posiblemente, el Apocalipsis y el Juicio Final. Si es cierto que son pocos los que se salvan, como advierte el Evangelio, se acerca para la mayor parte de la humanidad el comienzo de un infierno inacabable. Para evitarlo basta volver a la justicia que Dios Padre dictó en el Génesis. Si Él castigó la desobediencia de Eva suprimiendo nuestra inmortalidad, no es justo que el Hijo nos la haya restituido, tantos siglos después, prolongando padecimientos. Si una parte de la Trinidad dicta una sentencia cuya pena termina y se completa con la muerte, no puede otra parte abrir cada causa, agregar otra sentencia, resucitar el cadáver y aplicar un castigo adicional que repite infinitas veces el castigo ya cumplido por el pecador una vez muerto. La justicia del Hijo contradice y viola la del Padre. La existencia del Paraíso no justifica la del Infierno: la bondad de los pocos salvados no les permitirá ser felices sabiendo eternamente que novias o hermanas o madres o amigos y también desconocidos y enemigos (prójimo que Jesús nos ordena amar y perdonar) sufren en tierras de Satanás. Le solicitamos, entonces, volver al Pentateuco y tramitar la anulación del Juicio Final y de la inmortalidad.

Lo saludamos atentamente.

CIHABAPAI

(Club de impíos herejes apóstatas blasfemos ateos paganos agnósticos e infieles, en formación)

Adhieren a esta iniciativa Daniel Acosta, Rodolfo Agüero, María Inés Aldaburu, Alberto Alonso, María Álvarez, Irma Amato, Roberto Amigo Cerisola, Osvaldo Baigorria, Elba Bairon, Oscar Balducci, Carmen Baliero, Irene Banchero, Jorge Barneau, Ricardo Bartís, Florencia Battiti, Fernando Bedoya, Alfredo Benavidez Bedoya, Miguel Ángel Bengochea, Alicia Benítez, Carlos Boccardo, Nestor Boher, Oscar Bony, Juliano Borobio Matos, Mirta Botta, Marcelo Boullosa, Michèle G. Briante, Fernando Broussalis, Anahí Cáceres, Luis Camnitzer, Viviana Canet, Juan C. Capurro, David Carbó, Adrián Carreira, Álvaro Castagnino, Aníbal Cedrón, Marcelo Céspedes, Gustavo Charif, Diana Chorne, Emilia Chouhy de Finger, Diego Ciardullo, Gabriel Correa, María Mercedes Covas, Adolfo Coronato, Salvador Costanzo, Florencia Crescimbeni, Carmen D’Elía, Deni De Biaggi, Patricia Delmar, Mirta Dermisache, Santiago Deymonnaz, Marta Dillon, Juan Carlos Distéfano, Juan Doffo, Diana Dowek, Andrés Duprat, Gaba Echeverría, Beba Eguía, Emei, Lucas Engel, Gabriela Esquivada, Omar Estela, Roberto Fabbiani, Fernando Fazzolari, Alejandra Fenochio, León Ferrari, Mónica Filgueiras, Gloria Filipuzzi, Federico Finger, Julio Flores, Elsa Flores Ballesteros, Hernán Jaime Fontanet, Ana Foos, Jean Franco, Luis Freisztav, Roxana Fuertes, Pedro Gaeta, Griselda Gambaro, Nora García, Fernando García Delgado, Cristián Gay, Silvia Gay, Juan Gelman, Marisa Giménez, Mónica Girón, Andrea Giunta, Omar Glezer, Daniel Glüzmann, Ana Godel, Carmen Guarini, Miguel Harte, Joos Heintz, Juan Herrera, María José Herrera, Alicia Herrero, Eduardo Iglesias Brickles, Alejandro Inchaurregui, Graciela Jacob, Álvaro Jiménez, Magdalena Jitrik, Javier Maldonado, Pablo Marchetti, Silvina Martínez, Noé Jitrik, Kenneth Kemble, Guillermo Kexel, Laura Klein, Raquel Kogan, Patricia Kolesnikov, Patricia Korenblit, Diego Korman, Martín Kovensky, Mara La Madrid, Ramiro Larraín, Sergio Langer, Juan Lepes, Gabriel Levinas, Federico Lezcano (Bode), Ricardo Longhini, Ana López, Javier Maldonado, Ernesto Mallo, Laura Malosetti, Norberto José Martínez, José Luis Meirás, Nora Menghi, Leonardo Moledo, Tununa Mercado, María Moreno, Ester Nazarian, Adolfo Nigro, Luis Niveiro, Luis Felipe Noé, Fernando Noy, José Nun, Alejandro Oliva, Norberto Onofrio, Daniel Ontiveros, Enrique Oteiza, Clemente Padim, Pablo Páez, Margarita Paksa, Marcelo Paredes, Gerardo Patiño, Alan Pauls, Hilda Paz, Carlos Peralta, Margarita Perata, Pérez Celis, Ricardo Piglia, Alejandro Puente, Augusto Reinhold, Rep, Juan Carlos Romero, León Rozitchner, Horacio Rueda, Alfredo Saavedra, Corinne Sacca-Abadi, Guillermo Saccomanno, Tulio Sagastizábal, Carlos Ángel Sánchez, Viviana Sasso, Cristina Schiavi, Daniel Schiavi, Julia Schneider, Marcia Schvartz, Oscar Serra, Diego Sigalevich (Catón), Gabriela Siracusano, Rosa Skifik, Oscar Smoje, Elsa Soibelman, Sometidos por Morgan, Pablo Suárez, Asunción Suárez, Enrique Symns, María Inés Tapia Vera, Osvaldo Tcherkaski, Cristina Terzaghi, Alejandro Vainstein, Miguel Vayo, Ileana Vegezzi, Beatriz Velázquez, Daniel Veronese, Olga Viglieca, Jorge Villarroel, Luciana Volco, Teresa Volco, Yacaré Cumbiao-Litoral Poético, Alicia Zárate, Horacio Zabala, Beatriz Zardain, Luis Ziembrowski, Vicente Zito Lema, Lucía Marck-Meister, siguen las firmas

this is cute but also i like to think the pope has to preface every single statement with "this isn't dogma but" like he has to break character for a sec and clarify that he's not speaking ex cathedra

[digital-junk-journal]

Jan. 24

Recently saved items & a quote i liked- from Platonic by Dr. Marisa G. Franco

[random-bookquotes]

Here’s a simple, sometimes surprising truth: making friends as an adult requires initiative. We have to put ourselves out there and try. It’s a process of reaching out over and over again. It’s meeting someone we like and, instead of letting the moment pass, hoping they might ask for our phone number, seizing the moment and asking them for theirs.

Marisa G. Franco, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends

[darthfoil]

"Initiative doesn't just mean showing up. You have to engage with people once you get there" - Marisa G. Franco, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends

She goes on to talk about Overt Avoidance, which is not showing up, and Covert Avoidance, which is physically being at a gathering but checking out mentally. This reminds me of a lot of my students since the pandemic. They are physically in the classroom but they don't participate and find it really hard to engage because the time in isolation avoiding COVID stole a lot of their social skills.

Franco discusses further "When you no longer avoid what you fear eventually the anxiety dissipates but consistent avoidance crystalizes the fear" - ibid

[dolliesrot]

Yeah, even at their best the public is exhausting. And honestly how often are they at their best? :/ You're in the service industry too, right? I don't know much about art but I figure if you keep looking at the world, trying things, and having fun with it that's what it's about.

You could tell I was hoping you'd ask what movies, right?

Sunday

Dracula (The Dirty Old Man) (1969, William Edwards) Pretty repugnant, but it was amusing how they saw their movie was shit and then MST3Ked themselves recording the voiceover narration.

Devil Story (1986, Bernard Launois) I was deliberately trying to pick "fever dream" stuff and this qualified. Devil horses are hard to shoot.

Monday

Calamity of Snakes (1982, Chi Chang) Kind of a dud. I watched the "cruelty free" version, which doesn't show snakes being killed on camera but supposes that they don't mind being sprayed with fire extinguishers. Captures Taiwan (?) at a truly unfortunate moment for fashion. Morbid curiosity was not rewarded.

Viy (1967, Konstantin Ershov & Georgiy Kropachyov) Banger! Magic and witches and state-of-the-art Soviet special effects courtesy of Aleksandr Ptushko.

A Virgin Among the Living Dead (1973, Jesus Franco) Rewatch, but I previously had only seen the Wizard VHS version with the alternate clothed takes and the added terrible slow motion zombie scenes. Much better in this version.

Conquest (1983, Lucio Fulci) Vivid in its gruesome derivative patchwork brutality, in spite of looking like it was shot through cheesecloth.

Tuesday

Kuroneko (1968, Kaneto Shindō) Awesome. Spooky and atmospheric and features a kitty.

The Empire Strikes Back Uncut (2012, Casey Pugh) Warm and cuddly fun starring multiple dogs as Chewbacca.

Wednesday

Blonde Ambition (1980, John and Lem Amero) Easily the most charming and effervescent porno I've ever seen. Also deserving of praise that isn't so faint as to be backhanded!

The Cassandra Cat (1963, Vojtěch Jasný) Pretty terrific and beautiful fable. The cat had little wee glasses!

Lord of Illusions (1995, Clive Barker) Enjoyed the LA scenery and stage magic milieu. Unexpectedly terrifying turn from George's boss Mr. Kruger from Seinfeld. (Daniel von Bargen RIP)

Torture Dungeon (1969, Andy Milligan) What can one say about an Andy Milligan movie?

Thursday

The Boogey Man (1980, Ulli Lommel) I was unprepared for how great this was. A slasher ghost story about how childhood trauma follows you through life. John Carradine, couples therapist. I wept. Watch this one, Anna!

Shogun Assassin (1980, Kenji Misumi and Robert Houston) Finally got to hear all the skits from Liquid Swordz in their proper context!

Friday

Hell Comes to Frogtown (1988, RJ Kizer & Donald G. Jackson) Total male fantasy about how hot it would be if Sandahl Bergman wore glasses and had a bomb she could use to blow up your cock whenever she so chose.

The Night of the Hunter (1955, Charles Laughton) Rewatch. Classic. Needs no introduction. It is so good!

The Night of the Hunted (1980, Jean Rollin) Eerily quiet time capsule of a particular era of Parisian architecture. Also weirdly prefigures Memento, but with more nudity.

Perversion Story (1969, Lucio Fulci) Total male fantasy about how hot it would be if Marisa Mell did anything, in this case send you to the gas chamber by framing you for her murder. Really amazing time capsule footage of San Francisco, too. And there's a photographer character, those are always fun.

Oh and I watched a bunch of old Looney Tunes and Merrie Melodies in there, too.

Yay The Fly! I've never seen The Hunt. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess you watched the one Mads Mikkelsen is in. :D Am I right?

Hope you're feeling better soon! Enjoy that time away from work.

Oh wowowow you managed to get through a lot! I have a hard time multitasking, which makes it hard to watch movies and paint :,c wish it wasn't either or, but god scrambled me that way so whatyyagonnado. DUDE I watched Night of the Hunter for the first time like two months ago and am pretty pissed off that I haven't watched it sooner! I wish the song about the pretty fly and the spider was on spotify 🕸️Also!! Thank you! You totally gave me some bangers I need to put on my list! (Probably gonna try and get to Viy, A Virgin Among the Living Dead, and The Boogey Man first!).

Also,,,, I think i'd bang him </3 religious psychosis and murderous nature be damned mans got a way with werds.

[stupidcupid06]

When you're hunting, or working on a car, or shooting free throws, you can look together at the deer, or the transmission, or the basket, and talk. The common objective gives you something to talk about, and not having to face each other means you don't have to lay the full weight of your emotions on each other

-"Games Boys Play," Atlantic

quoted in Platonic, by Dr Marisa G Franco. A good fucking book

[marlocandeea]

For it does not desire this or that body, but desires the splendor of the divine light shining through bodies.

Marsilio Ficino in Platonic, Marisa G. Franco