#LetGoAndGrow

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After all these months of trying, I finally realized something life-changing: you cannot change another person. No matter how much you love them or how hard you try, their growth and choices are their own. But what you can change is yourself—your mindset, your reactions, and your boundaries. And in doing so, you reclaim your power.

True peace comes when you stop trying to control others and focus on your own growth. When you let go of that need, you will find freedom, strength, and a deeper sense of self-worth.

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Loving Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back

This entry is from an old relationship

Have you ever felt like you're the only one trying in a relationship? Like you're pouring your entire heart into something while they're just... there?

I'm sitting in my car right now, typing this on my phone because I can't be in my apartment. Because he's there, probably not even noticing that I left an hour ago. Probably hasn't even looked up from his game to realize I'm gone. And the worst part? I already know when I go back, I'll act like everything's fine.

It's such a specific type of heartbreak - loving someone who doesn't love you back but stays anyway. Because that's the thing: he stays. He's still here. Still says "goodnight." Still goes through the motions. But that's all they are - motions.

I keep a list in my notes app of all the signs I try to ignore:

How he takes hours to reply to my texts but I can see him active online.

The fact that he hasn't said "I love you" in months, just replies "you too" when I say it.

How he only wants to see me when it's convenient for him.

The way he talks about his future without mentioning me in it.

You know what the worst part is? I'm not even angry at him. I'm angry at myself. For staying. For making excuses. For thinking maybe if I love him hard enough, he'll start loving me back. For becoming the kind of person who checks their boyfriend's likes on Instagram at 3am, looking for signs of what I already know.

Tonight he asked what I wanted for dinner like everything was normal. Like I hadn't spent the whole day crying in my car because he forgot my birthday. Like he hadn't introduced me as his "friend" at last week's party. Like I haven't been dying inside every time he pulls away when I try to hold his hand in public.

My best friend keeps asking why I stay. I wish I had a better answer than "because I love him." But that's the whole stupid truth. I love him. I love him so much it physically hurts. I love him even though I know - I KNOW - he doesn't love me back.

Do you know how pathetic it feels to plan your whole day around someone who probably doesn't think about you at all? To get excited when they text you first, only to realize they just need something? To lie awake at night wondering what she has that you don't? (Because there's always a "she" - the one they like on every post, the one they talk about a little too much, the one they light up around in a way they never do with you.)

The dumbest part is that I keep waiting for some big dramatic moment. Like maybe one day it'll get so bad that leaving will feel like the only option. But it's not big dramatic moments. It's small things. It's a thousand paper cuts of indifference.

It's the way he doesn't ask about my day.

It's the half-hearted hugs.

It's the "maybe next time" when I suggest doing something together.

It's the way he can go weeks without seeing me and it doesn't bother him at all.

It's how he never puts his phone down when we're together.

It's the fact that I can't remember the last time he was excited to see me.

My mom always said you should be with someone who loves you as much as you love them. I used to think that was just something people say. Now I understand. Now I know exactly what she meant. Because this? This isn't it.

But here's the really messed up part - I'm still hoping things will change. Still analyzing every tiny gesture for signs that maybe he's starting to feel something real. Still trying to be the perfect girlfriend, like if I just try hard enough, he'll suddenly realize he loves me too.

I know how this ends. I've read this story before. I'm not stupid. I know he's never going to wake up one day and suddenly love me the way I love him. I know I deserve better than someone who makes me feel like an option.

But knowing you deserve better and actually leaving are two very different things.

So here I am, sitting in my car, writing this post. And in a few minutes, I'll go back upstairs. He won't ask where I've been. I won't tell him I've been crying. We'll go to sleep on opposite sides of the bed, and tomorrow we'll wake up and do it all again.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn't loving someone who doesn't love you back.

It's knowing they don't love you back and staying anyway.

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[spiritualsoul1969]

Detachment from Worldly Pleasures

Sant Paltu’s teachings highlight the critical need for detachment from worldly pleasures in the pursuit of spiritual enlightenment. His message revolves around renouncing attachment to material desires, recognizing them as fleeting distractions that bind the soul to the physical world. True fulfillment, Sant Paltu asserts, lies not in the accumulation of worldly wealth, sensory pleasures, or status, but in transcending these to realize the soul’s divine nature.

In modern life, we are constantly encouraged to seek happiness through external means. We chase after wealth, power, recognition, and material possessions, believing these will provide us with lasting joy. However, Sant Paltu offers a divergent perspective that calls us to see these pleasures for what they truly are—temporary and deceptive. They give the illusion of happiness but fail to provide the deep spiritual fulfillment our souls crave. By placing our identity in these fleeting pleasures, we risk losing sight of our true spiritual purpose.

According to Sant Paltu, the path to spiritual enlightenment begins with detachment from these worldly enticements. Detachment, however, does not mean abandoning life or renouncing the material world altogether. Instead, it means cultivating a state of inner freedom where one is no longer emotionally or mentally bound by material desires. It is about shifting the source of happiness from external possessions to an internal connection with the Divine.

This principle of detachment is a profound yet simple truth—when we let go of our attachment to fleeting pleasures, we create space for the Divine to enter our lives. In doing so, we open ourselves up to spiritual experiences that transcend the temporary highs of worldly success and sensual indulgence. The soul, no longer trapped in the web of desires, begins to experience the eternal peace, joy, and fulfillment that comes from communion with the Divine.

One of the most inspirational aspects of Sant Paltu’s guidance is his unwavering belief that spiritual liberation is available to everyone, regardless of their external circumstances. You don’t need to leave behind your responsibilities or reject the world entirely to achieve enlightenment. Instead, it’s about cultivating a mindset of detachment while still living in the world. You can continue to work, have relationships, and pursue goals, but the key is not to let your happiness or self-worth be defined by these things. The world becomes a stage for your soul’s growth, not the source of your joy.

Detachment, as taught by Sant Paltu, also encourages us to live more consciously. When we are no longer enslaved by our desires, we can act from a place of divine purpose rather than from ego-driven wants. This frees us from the endless cycle of dissatisfaction, where each new possession or experience eventually loses its appeal and leaves us searching for the next thing. Through detachment, we find that our real fulfillment comes from within, from aligning with the divine flow of life.

Practical Toolkit for Practicing Detachment from Worldly Pleasures

Daily Reflection on Impermanence: Spend a few minutes each morning reflecting on the impermanence of material things. Whether it’s wealth, beauty, or success, remind yourself that these are all temporary. This practice helps loosen attachment.

Mindful Consumption: Before making purchases or indulging in pleasures, pause and ask yourself if this will bring lasting happiness or if it’s just a fleeting satisfaction. Shift your focus from consuming to experiencing presence and gratitude for what you already have.

Detachment Meditation: Dedicate time each day to meditate on letting go of attachment. Visualize the things you hold onto most—whether it’s money, recognition, or relationships—and practice releasing your emotional grip on them, trusting that your true fulfillment comes from within.

Self-Inquiry on Desires: Throughout the day, whenever you feel a strong desire for something material, ask yourself why you want it. Are you seeking comfort, validation, or happiness from this object or experience? Then remind yourself that these feelings are found within, not outside of you.

Acts of Generosity: Practice giving without expecting anything in return. Whether it’s your time, resources, or kindness, generosity is a powerful way to cultivate detachment from material possessions and ego-driven desires.

Simplify Your Life: Make a conscious effort to simplify your surroundings and your lifestyle. This doesn’t mean living in austerity but removing clutter and excess that serve no real purpose in your spiritual journey.

Gratitude for the Divine: At the end of each day, take a moment to express gratitude—not for the material pleasures but for the spiritual insights, lessons, and experiences that brought you closer to the Divine. This shifts your focus away from external rewards and toward your internal spiritual growth.

Mindful Relationships: In relationships, practice detachment by not being overly dependent on others for your happiness. Love and connect deeply, but let go of the need to control or possess. Recognize that true love is rooted in the soul, not in the material or physical aspects of relationships.

Weekly Digital Detox: Set aside time each week to disconnect from social media, shopping, or entertainment that feeds attachment to worldly pleasures. Use this time to reconnect with nature, meditate, or engage in spiritual practice.

Surrender to the Divine Will: Cultivate a habit of surrendering your desires and goals to the Divine. Trust that whatever comes into your life is for your highest good, and practice detachment from specific outcomes.

By incorporating these practices into your daily life, you can begin to detach from the grip of worldly pleasures and create space for spiritual enlightenment. Sant Paltu’s teachings offer not just a path to freedom from material desires but a doorway to the deepest joy and fulfillment that comes from living in alignment with the Divine. This detachment is not a loss but a gain—an entry into a life of spiritual abundance, peace, and eternal bliss.

[fly-care]

Let go for a better you ❤️

[maryamgantois-blog]

Let them

Let them mess it up with u, jugle u, cheat on u, lie, lack effort, twist, slime, disrespect, not showing up..

Let them

Really, it is not your responsability to let them know: 'Hey you got a person like me.

It is not your task to prevent them from ruining and destroying u.

It is not up to u to make sure they wont hurt u.

You know why?

Because it is theirs, they will have to live with the fact they did this to u and lost u, they'll have to live on with it and the mess

So, let them mess up, piss u off, ..

Just let them

Lose u

[untrappedmind]

I know it's hard but you just have to let go

"If you continue to carry the bricks from your past you'll end up building the same house"

- Unknown

[adiyo]

❤️Learning to Support Without Losing Yourself❤️

Ever been caught in that place where you want to be there for someone but feel yourself slowly sinking under the weight of their problems? You see their struggle, maybe even relate to it, and part of you just wants to help—really help. But the other part knows that you’re edging closer and closer to emotional exhaustion.

I know this struggle too well. Ever since I was young, I’ve been a nurturer. If someone’s hurting, I instinctively want to help ease their pain, to be the person who shows up, listens, and supports them. Especially if they’ve faced hardships that mirror my own. It feels impossible to stand by and watch anyone struggle. I relate so deeply to the feeling of powerlessness, the desire for relief, the need for someone to just get it.

But that’s where the struggle is—because not everyone who needs support is ready for change. As someone who’s clawed through my own healing process, I know firsthand how easy it is to get stuck in the role of “the victim.” And it’s hard when you’re pouring everything into supporting someone who isn’t ready to take the steps forward, no matter how much they need it.

So, how do you stay kind, compassionate, and helpful, without draining your own energy? How do you stand beside someone without standing in their emotional storm?

For me, it's been about understanding my limits. I’ve realized that just because I can empathize doesn’t mean I have to carry their burdens. I ask myself, “Is my need to help them going to compromise my own peace? Am I sacrificing my own stability to lift theirs?” It’s tough, but it’s become clear that I can’t fully be there for others if I’m running on empty.

It’s also been a journey of learning to set boundaries—not easy for someone who wants to help, but essential. I’ve started to remind myself that it’s okay to say, “I’m here for you, but I don’t have the emotional space for this conversation right now.” Because no one should feel obligated to be a martyr for someone else’s healing, and we can only pour from a cup that’s full.

Supporting others can mean sometimes stepping back to protect our own emotional health. It’s possible to love people while respecting your own capacity. After all, it’s about walking with them, not carrying them. And sometimes, our strength as supporters is in knowing when to let others walk forward on their own.

[chaotic-embrace]

Sometimes it's better to let go.. It hurts less.

[jsscrz-blog]

I’ll let go the moment someone claims the space I can’t have.

[wonderyin]

Hitting the Wall: How to Break Down, Let Go, and Rise Again

Life has this funny way of pushing us until we’re stretched to our absolute limit. You know the feeling—you’re juggling a thousand things, handling everything like a pro, and then, one day, you hit that wall. It’s not a gentle nudge, it’s a full-body slam. You’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and suddenly, everything you’ve been keeping inside comes flooding out. It’s that moment where you just need to break down, cry, mourn, and process all the emotions you’ve been holding back. But here’s the thing: that breakdown isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of something important.

The Weight You Carry

For months, you’ve been handling it all. Maybe it’s the job, maybe it’s family responsibilities, or maybe it’s just life piling up in unexpected ways. You hold it together because that’s what you do—you manage, you solve problems, you push through. But there’s only so much you can handle before the weight becomes too much, and eventually, your body and mind start screaming, Enough!

That’s when you hit the wall. It doesn’t matter how strong you are; it happens to everyone. For some, it’s sudden—one bad day, one unexpected moment—and for others, it’s a slow build-up of pressure that finally cracks. But the breakdown comes, and it’s brutal.

Breaking Down: Why It’s Okay

In those moments, when you’re at your lowest, it can feel like you’ve failed somehow. Like you couldn’t keep it together, and you should’ve been able to handle more. But that’s not true. Breaking down is human. It’s your mind’s way of forcing you to pause, to stop pushing so hard, to take stock of everything you’ve been carrying.

So, if you find yourself in tears, feeling like you’ve hit rock bottom, understand this: those emotions you’ve been stuffing away need to be felt. Let yourself cry, mourn, and scream into a pillow if you have to. You’ve been so busy being strong that you’ve forgotten you’re allowed to fall apart. The release is necessary. It’s not weakness—it’s part of healing.

Mourning What You’ve Lost

Sometimes, when you hit that wall, it’s because you’ve lost something along the way. Maybe it’s a relationship, an opportunity, or even just a sense of who you are. When you’re constantly on the go, you don’t always have time to process those losses, so they sit in the back of your mind, weighing you down.

When you finally break down, it’s also a chance to mourn. And I don’t just mean grieving for things that are gone—I’m talking about mourning the version of yourself you’ve had to let go of to survive. Life changes us. It pulls us in directions we didn’t plan, and sometimes, that means leaving behind pieces of ourselves that we once held dear.

Give yourself the space to mourn that. To acknowledge the pain, the exhaustion, the frustration. You deserve that moment of reflection.

The Bounce-Back

Here’s the good part: once you’ve let it all out, once you’ve cried until you can’t cry anymore, something shifts. It doesn’t happen right away, but it happens. After the breakdown comes clarity. You start to see things for what they are—what’s truly important, what you can let go of, and what you can change.

And then, slowly but surely, you start to come back up. You get up off the floor, you wipe your face, and you take that first step forward. The weight starts to lift, and you realize that, yes, you’re still capable. You’re still strong. In fact, you’re stronger because you’ve allowed yourself to feel everything instead of pretending it’s not there.

Taking Care of Yourself Through It All

One thing I’ve learned is that self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and face masks. Sometimes, self-care is ugly. It’s allowing yourself to break down, to sit in the dark, to feel completely lost for a little while. And then, it’s making the decision to rise again.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help during those tough times, either. Whether it’s a friend, a therapist, or just someone who can listen, you don’t have to go through it alone. We all hit the wall eventually, and we all need someone to remind us that we can come back from it.

Moving Forward

So, if you’ve hit your wall, if you’ve broken down, and you’re wondering how to move forward, just know that you’re already doing it. The fact that you’ve acknowledged it, that you’ve let yourself release those emotions, is the first step in healing. You’ll come back up. You always do.

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🌟 The Journey of Forgiveness 🌟

Forgiveness is not always easy, but it’s one of the most beautiful gifts we can give ourselves and others. 🌱✨ It takes courage to let go of pain, hurt, and resentment. But when we do, we make room for peace, healing, and growth. 🌿💖

Whether it’s forgiving someone else or ourselves, remember that forgiveness is not about forgetting—it’s about finding freedom in your heart. 🕊️

Every step forward, no matter how small, is a step towards a lighter, brighter life. ���🌼 Let go of what weighs you down and open your heart to new possibilities. 💫💕

[theloulouge]

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Give yourself a chance to meet someone else. Don’t go back to someone who was already lucky enough to have you but didn���t value you.

[spiritualsoul1969]

Vairagya: The Path of Detachment and Liberation

Saint Muktabai’s doha on vairagya (detachment) unveils a profound spiritual truth. "Vairagya ka maarg chale, saadhu vahi mahaan. Prabhu charnon mein jo rame, paaye nirvaan." This means that one who walks the path of detachment is a great saint, and those who immerse themselves in the feet of the Lord attain nirvana.

This doha is a clarion call for spiritual seekers who strive to move beyond the distractions and attachments of worldly life. In the realm of spirituality, vairagya is not merely renouncing the material, but an inner journey of transcending desires, fears, and ego. It is the understanding that worldly pleasures are temporary and that true fulfillment lies in connecting with the divine.

Understanding Vairagya: Detachment, Not Escape

Detachment is often misunderstood as abandoning responsibilities or running away from worldly life. But Sant Muktabai’s wisdom reflects a deeper, more meaningful interpretation. Vairagya is a state of mind where one is no longer a slave to external situations. The saint who walks this path is not someone who escapes life but someone who rises above its entanglements.

In a materialistic world, we often believe happiness is found in accumulation—of wealth, relationships, and achievements. However, Sant Muktabai reminds us that true greatness lies in releasing our grip on these things. The ultimate joy and peace that we seek do not stem from external success, but from an internal state of liberation, which happens when we "dwell in the feet of the Lord"—when we anchor ourselves in the divine and let go of fleeting pleasures and temporary attachments.

The Greatness of a Saint: Internal Liberation

A saint is not someone who lives in isolation from society. Sant Muktabai’s interpretation of a “great saint” is one who lives in the world but is not of the world. They navigate life with a heart free from desire, a mind free from ego, and a soul that dwells in divine love. They achieve true greatness not through external accolades but through their internal liberation.

This detachment is not an act of denying the world, but of seeing it for what it truly is—a transient illusion. The saint who walks the path of vairagya has discovered the divine within and understands that attachment to material things leads to suffering. Their detachment opens the door to nirvana, or spiritual liberation, which is not some far-off place but a state of being where peace, bliss, and unity with the divine are constant companions.

The Power of Dwelling at the Lord's Feet

The doha also speaks of immersing oneself at the Lord's feet. This is symbolic of surrender, devotion, and a deep connection with the divine. By surrendering the ego and accepting the grace of the divine, we experience the truth of our existence. In this surrender, we release the need to control life and instead trust in the divine flow.

Those who "dwell at the Lord’s feet" understand that their true nature is not defined by external circumstances but by their spiritual essence. By centering themselves in the divine, they transcend worldly distractions and attain nirvana—a state of eternal peace and freedom.

A Practical Toolkit for Daily Vairagya

How can one practice vairagya and attain spiritual freedom in daily life? Here’s a practical toolkit to incorporate this wisdom into your routine:

Morning Reflection: Begin each day with 10 minutes of quiet reflection or meditation. Focus on releasing your attachment to specific outcomes or desires for the day. Visualize yourself as an observer, watching life unfold without needing to control or cling to it.

Gratitude for the Present Moment: Throughout the day, whenever you feel stress or anxiety, pause and take a moment to practice gratitude for the present moment. Acknowledge that everything you need for peace exists right now. Detach from the need for things to be different.

Non-Attachment to Results: In your work, relationships, and daily tasks, remind yourself that your worth is not tied to the results. Do your best, but let go of the need for specific outcomes. Trust that the divine has a greater plan.

Surrender Practice: Set aside time each evening to reflect on any fears, worries, or attachments that surfaced during the day. Consciously surrender these to the divine. Imagine placing them at the Lord’s feet, letting go of control and embracing trust.

Detach from Materialism: Choose one day a week to practice minimalism. Refrain from excessive consumption, whether in the form of material goods, social media, or other distractions. Use this time to reconnect with your inner self and your relationship with the divine.

Seek the Company of the Wise: Surround yourself with individuals who embody the values of detachment, simplicity, and spiritual growth. Engage in conversations that uplift your soul and remind you of life’s higher purpose.

Daily Affirmation: Start each day with an affirmation such as, “I release my attachment to outcomes and trust in the divine flow of life.” This helps to reinforce a mindset of detachment and surrender.

Walk the Path of Vairagya

Walking the path of detachment, as Sant Muktabai teaches, is not easy, but it leads to the highest form of greatness—spiritual liberation. It requires us to rise above the ego and its attachments, to trust in the divine plan, and to surrender fully. When we dwell at the Lord’s feet, we step into a life of true peace, beyond the fleeting joys and sorrows of this world.

[harmonyhealinghub]

The Wisdom of Surrender: Embracing Flow Over Resistance Shaina Tranquilino July 17, 2024

In the rhythm of life, there exists a profound lesson: the power of surrender. Often misunderstood as weakness or passivity, surrender is a concept that carries deep wisdom and transformative potential. It speaks to the art of letting go, of releasing our grip on outcomes, and trusting in the natural flow of existence.

The Nature of Resistance

Resistance is a familiar force in human experience. It arises from our desires, fears, and attachments—the compelling urge to control circumstances, outcomes, and even other people. When we resist, we expend energy in opposition. It's like trying to swim against a strong current; the more we struggle, the more exhausted we become.

Resistance manifests in many forms:

Emotional Resistance: When we refuse to accept our feelings or deny their validity.

Intellectual Resistance: Holding onto rigid beliefs or viewpoints despite evidence to the contrary.

Physical Resistance: Struggling against physical discomfort or limitations.

In each instance, resistance acts as a barrier to growth and peace. It fixes us in place, preventing the natural evolution and transformation that life invites us to embrace.

Surrender: The Path of Flow

Contrary to resistance, surrender invites us into a state of flow. It does not imply resignation or defeat but rather a conscious choice to let go of our need to control. Surrender acknowledges the limits of our understanding and the vastness of the universe’s wisdom.

Here are some aspects of surrender worth considering:

Trust in the Process: Surrender involves trusting that life has a way of unfolding as it should, even if it doesn’t match our expectations.

Letting Go of Control: It means releasing the illusion of control over external circumstances and outcomes.

Embracing Acceptance: Surrender fosters acceptance of what is, which can lead to inner peace and clarity.

The Paradoxical Power of Surrender

One of the most intriguing aspects of surrender is its paradoxical nature—by letting go, we often gain more than we could have by holding on. This is not to say we abandon goals or stop striving for improvement; rather, it suggests a shift in approach. When we surrender, we align ourselves with the natural currents of life. We become more attuned to opportunities and open to possibilities that may have been obscured by our resistance.

Strengthening Through Release

Resistance tends to strengthen the energies it attempts to oppose. By fixating on our struggles, we inadvertently give them more power over our thoughts and actions. In contrast, surrender loosens these binds. It frees up our energy and attention, allowing us to redirect them toward more constructive endeavors—self-discovery, creativity, and nurturing relationships.

Cultivating Surrender in Daily Life

In practical terms, cultivating surrender involves mindfulness and self-awareness:

Mindfulness Practice: Engaging in meditation or mindfulness exercises can help us observe our thoughts and emotional reactions without immediate judgment or reaction.

Reflective Journaling: Writing about our experiences and feelings can provide clarity and insight into areas where resistance might be present.

Seeking Support: Sharing our challenges with trusted friends, mentors, or therapists can offer fresh perspectives and encouragement.

In essence, the wisdom of surrender lies in recognizing that true strength often emerges from letting go rather than holding on. It invites us to flow with life’s currents rather than struggle against them. By embracing surrender, we open ourselves to deeper understanding, resilience, and peace—a testament to the transformative power of releasing resistance and trusting in the natural unfolding of our journeys.

[kathybarnes]

People are often told that when they’re wronged, they must forgive and hold no grudge over the person who hurt them. Regardless of how one-sided it may seem, this advice provides ease to both parties. One doesn’t have to bear the guilt permanently, especially when the mistake wasn’t intentional. And the other gets released from the bitterness and burden in their hearts...