#Interpersonal relationship

[courseyoulovemeyoudontknowme]

Love Actually (2003, Richard Curtis)

05/10/2024

[cartipdf]

Dating and Interpersonal Relationships

An introduction to interpersonal relationship – methods, advice and tips for friendship, dating and online dating, intimate relationship, love and kiss, flirting, seduction, romance, marriage and wedding. Interpersonal relationships are social associations, connections, or affiliations between two or more people. They vary in differing levels of intimacy and sharing, implying the discovery or…

[juney-blues]

For the last time, the Diamond Authority in Steven Universe isn't a stand-in for actual fascism, it's a vehicle for the queer power fantasy of getting your transphobic grandma to understand.

[cannotfriendship]

diary of a terrible friend who is struggling in trying do better

today i feel like everyone, well, maybe not hates me, but doesn't really find me worthy of being friends with. i feel it so intensely. and it's true. nobody really likes me. i don't have that many friends on socials, and i believe a few people who watch my stories either do it out of politeness or looking for gossip, because i used to overshare on main. i think i haven't really got it under control, but it's a little better now. not enough, but not as bad as it used to be. but still not enough.

some people have trouble controlling themselves from oversharing, but they have friends, because they're kind, or at least know how to be a good friend to their friends. i used to subtweet all the time. now i understand that it made my friends feel like walking on eggshells around me. it's too late to change my image in their minds. they will never trust me with anything even though i'm much less judgmental now. i don't just stop saying my judgment out loud, i really don't have any ill judgments against my friends now. i feel so sad to realize that they put their guards on when they're around me. i used to not realize that at all, because i was a bad friend who had no idea that they're a bad friend. now i'm still so bad at being a good friend, and in every instance of failure to be a good friend, i realize it only seconds after it happened, after i said something wrong, after i didn't do what i was supposed to do at a given situation, and it always makes me want to disappear. i used to not be able to tell how i made people feel, now i'm better at understanding how people feel, i'm even a better observer than some people when i'm not actively involved in a scene. but i still don't know how to act accordingly. i keep making mistakes and some days i think i'm beyond saving.

in many phases of my life, friends only hang out with me because of the things i know. at school i was one of the smartest person. but my personality is so terrible that my peers only approached me for help with their studies. some hung out with me because they too didn't have friends. today it still feels like that. i think my friends only follows me on socials because i sometimes share good stuff i found on the internet they otherwise will never know about. then i make it a habit to gatekeep the best stuff, because i'm so afraid that my friends who find something through me will share it with their other friends and enjoy it together without including me. now i realize how pathetic i am for doing that.

i keep losing friends lately. it's an age thing too, but in my case it happens at an alarming rate. i do have one good friend who still stays friends with me for more than a decade. she's a really good person, kind, lovely, interesting. unlike past friends that only hung out with me because they're also friendless, she has a lot of friends, and yet she never neglects me. i don't know why i deserve her. and sometimes, often times, i am really worried i'd lose her too eventually. she lives far away from me which i think is one reason she still finds being friends with me bearable. i nearly messed up recently but i was able to turn it around. if i hurt her i will never be able to forgive myself. sometimes i feel bad for her because i only have her and she's the only one who has to put up with all my crap. i try not to make her carry all my weight, it's relatively easy since we don't meet in person on a daily basis. but then i'm friendless where i live. i'm really lonely and my mental health has been really bad.

at the end of the day, my motivation to get better at this is still selfish. i want company. i want to be part of something. i want to have a healthy social life because it's good for my well-being. i want to not look pathetic. i know maybe i should start with wanting to make someone else's day better, but it's hard for me to think of other people before myself when it counts, i guess it's because i have so many unmet needs. it's starting to look like a vicious cycle.

previously, i tweeted my thoughts and concern about my friendship struggles, but it's so embarrassing when i think about it. imagine friends who aren't really rooting for me read that i struggle making and keeping friends. i think it also makes my friends uncomfortable, because the things i talk about sometimes come from an interaction i had with them, and although i try to focus on the phenomenon, not the people involved, they don't necessarily understand that, they'd think it's a subtweet at them, and that's the last thing i want. so i'll use this blog instead. it also makes me feel less pressured to say everything eloquently. i realize this is messy and some parts don't really say exactly what i mean, but it's anon so i shouldn't worry too much of being misunderstood.

please tell me things will get better.

[pangur-and-grim]

I think another reason I love having cats is bc with people you gotta hold yourself back and not be a smothering over-affectionate creep, but with cats you can just hold them up and be like "I LOVE I LOVE I LOVE YOU" and kiss their little paws, and all they do back is meow at you

[aroaceleovaldez]

i have suddenly become obsessed with a theme that HoO established but never proceeded to extrapolate on, which is:

You are Percy Jackson, and you have been swapped with a boy who was allegedly everyone's favorite person, but they have decided to replace him with you. They just met you. You stand next to his best friend and the people he's known his entire life. In his home. In his cloak. In his place. They stopped looking for him.

You are Jason Grace, and you have just found out you have a long lost sister who completely replaced you in her life with this girl you just met. Your lives and personalities are mirrors. She is you, living the life you were robbed of.

You are Annabeth Chase, and you have just become starkly aware that you have been inhabiting the void left behind by your best friend's long lost brother. You and Luke were just replacements for him. Now you have to look him in the eyes when he has nothing and know you took that life from him.

You are Piper McLean, and you have just found out your relationship is fake and built entirely on the memories of Annabeth Chase. You have been given a boyfriend when hers has been taken away. You have no idea how much of it is real or not but regardless you feel like if your relationship isn't exactly in their image that you have failed.

You are Leo Valdez, and you have just learned that you are the echo of your great-grandfather. You are not your own person. You just exist to be a mirror of him. A doppelganger. An actor and stunt double facing all the danger he never had to but wearing his face. To be there for his best friend decades later simply because he couldn't. You are playing a role. A seventh wheel and a pawn for a goddess who carefully sculpted your entire life for her own purposes.

You are Hazel Levesque, and the only reason you are alive is because your brother couldn't save your his sister. You are a consolation prize. An apology. Your existence here is misplaced in every way but you inhabit it anyways.

You are Frank Zhang, and you are a shapeshifter. Inhabiting your own body feels strange and clumsy when you could be literally anything at any time. You are anything and everything and live your life with the simple certainty of knowing exactly how you will die.

[faeriekit]

I think Alfred needs his own prompt 👻(dp x dc)

Alfred had died.

(It was a bit of a waste of time— he'd been scheduled to get the boys to and from their suit fitting at this time. Now here he was; languishing. Murdered. Sulking, even.)

(How frivolous.)

As a busy man with children (an adult child) to care for, a house to maintain, and a budget to supervise, Alfred's main goal was to return to Earth, obviously. If he left Master Bruce in charge of the dusting, the man would absolutely let the unused parts of the house go into disrepair. Too impatient, his ex-ward was.

The only problem was that in this green, nebulous, and gravity-free afterlife, there seemed to be only one way out— navigating through the individual worlds that the denizens of this world have molded around themselves, until he finds a being willing to grant his wish to return.

Alfred sighed, checked for the pistol at his hip and the rifle on his back, and marched straight upwards. Or. Well. Downwards. Actually... Never mind.

[neo--queen--serenity]

This episode really highlighted how close Marcille, Laios, and Chilchuck actually are.

The viewer is used to seeing our main characters behave like coworkers up to this point—even friends—and they express normal, understandable levels of concern and fear when their other party members are in danger. But when the nightmare attacked Marcille, it brought out sides of Laios and Chilchuck that the viewer hadn’t seen before.

Laios immediately notices when something is wrong with Marcille, and he tells the others as soon as he’s sure of the problem. Chilchuck and Senshi then follow Laios’ lead as it becomes clear that he intends to make her get some rest.

We see Chilchuck’s hands lay out the bedroll and Senshi’s hands set up the pillow, working in almost perfect tandem as Laios physically wrangles Marcille into bed.

Senshi is in a similar perspective as the viewer, and mostly sits and watches the ordeal unfold. He doesn’t have a shared history, like these three do, so he helps in little ways, but mostly waits on standby for direction.

From here on out, it’s mostly Laios and Chilchuck who take over in planning how to help her.

It’s uncommon for Chilchuck to openly show such distress and worry for one of his party members. He’s used to Marcille being able to defend herself; he’s used to her being capable and strong. He immediately defers to Laios for instruction, (rightly) assuming he will know what to do.

This actually produces a reaction close to real fear from Chilchuck, who outright SMACKS her in a panic to wake her up before getting any further information.

Laios has to quickly stop him, explaining that he could truly hurt her if he interrupts the attack this way. He tells them how he’s going to wake her, and he doesn’t hesitate. He jumps straight in, explaining what he’s doing for the others so that they (Chilchuck) won’t be afraid.

Chilchuck doesn’t question him once. He just does what he can to hurry along the process. He tucks Laios in with his blanket as soon as he lays onto Marcille—an unnecessary action that betrays how much he cares for both of them.

And Laios succeeds in helping Marcille out of the nightmare’s grasp. While trapped in her mind, he reassures her, protects her, tells her how much she’s valued and appreciated. He isn’t embarrassed or sheepish about it, either; he openly declares these things like it’s the most normal and obvious thing in the world.

He gets her out, he saves her. He did the exact thing he set out to do, even though he’d never done it before, and only had Falin’s secondhand information to work with.

Once he wakes, Chilchuck immediately checks on him to see if he’s alright. Chilchuck is clearly still rattled, displeased with having to wait while both of his close friends were unconscious, fighting a battle neither he nor Senshi could see or help with.

Marcille wakes up shortly after Laios, but Chilchuck is still on edge, worrying that she’ll fall back asleep. Laios, too, has a moment of alarm when he makes sure she won’t close her eyes again.

Once he takes the subdued nightmares out of Marcille’s pillow, only then do Laios and Chilchuck relax.

Laios, for his part, remained calm and collected almost the entire time. He did not show panic or fear when it became clear that Marcille was being attacked, nor when he told the rest of the party what he’d be doing to help her. And once the nightmares had been collected from her bedroll, he gently explained what happened, to everyone else’s horror.

Seeing this, it’s not a huge surprise that the Touden party is so successful. We’ve seen Laios handle danger with a level head; we know he’s capable.

But it’s an entirely different kind of talent to face a threat that’s targeting one of your closest friends—which can make even the most competent fighter sloppy out of fear of losing them—one that requires a high-risk, specific rescue style that none of you have ever tried before. And then pull it off flawlessly. Like damn, these guys are lucky to have him.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[deadboyswalking]

Imagine it's like, 10 years later and not only does Sanji realize that Zoro is kind of his best friend, but he also spends all of his time with him??? And he kind of loves him??? And in all of their time together, Sanji has rarely sought out other companionship (rarer over time) and Zoro has never seemed interested in it???

"OH MY GOD!"

"It's not a big deal, cook."

"I HAVEN'T SPENT A SINGLE DAY WITHOUT YOU IN SEVEN YEARS."

"And you've gotten on my nerves every single one of those 2,556 days."

"WE SHARE A BED!"

"I'm almost always on night watch and you're up before anyone else. Waste of space to each have our own."

"BUT WE SLEEP IN IT TOGETHER HALF THE TIME!"

"At least you don't kick in your sleep. And you always bitch about being cold when you're alone, so I'm not seeing the problem here."

"OH MY GOD, ARE WE DATING? WHAT IS THIS? WHAT ARE WE???"

[vaguely-concerned]

sometimes I think of all the on-the-surface warm, well-meaning but deeply ineffectual advice and attention john gives harrow through harrow the ninth (make some soup and get some sleep! get a hobby! don't be so hard on yourself! self care harrow! as long as I need take no actual responsibility in this relationship whatsoever I would have loved to be your dad!) set up against the stark truth that with his other hand he has been staging her attempted horrific murder again and again and again like a living nightmare on the logic that it will 'put her down or fix her'. and then I find that I wish there is a hell. a special hell where twitch streamers turned necromantic death emperors go

[courseyoulovemeyoudontknowme]

Love Actually (2003, Richard Curtis)

08/12/2023

[sleepnoises]

im reading more harriet lerner and truly this being a possible boundary that god doesn't immediately strike you down for had never occurred to me before. thanks steve

[bixels]

Be honest, what are your thoughts on appledash? Do you hate it or its more of not a big deal

Not a big deal to me. I like it, I see all the appeals, I just personally like Rarijack more.

[dead-core]

i know people love me but i am a black hole and it's just not enough. hope this helps!

[fantastic-nonsense]

oh my god all this time I believed that what fanon!Jason stans really wanted to read was Helena Bertinelli's books (because of all the relationships and interpersonal dynamics they keep stealing from her to project onto Jason) but what they actually should be reading are Catwoman books

Selina's the one who killed Black Mask and dismantled his operation after War Games. She's the one explicitly protecting the East End (aka Crime Alley) and going out of her way to protect the women and children of Gotham's underworld. She was the one doing mafia kingpin shit in the New 52 while Jason was off messing around in space with Dick's friends. She was the one protecting the Alleytown kids and trying to root out crime by "taking control" of it.

like Selina literally took over a crime family and united the criminal underworld in the New 52 while Jason was off fighting the All-Caste and Crux with Roy and Kory, I can't believe I didn't make the connection sooner