#trama

[associatedwithpumpkin]

So Let’s Talk…

For many adults, the mere sight of a pile of dirty dishes can trigger memories of their childhood trauma, leading to feelings of anxiety, shame, or worthlessness. Even if they have the skills to complete the task, their emotional landscape can create barriers that hinder their ability to follow through. This struggle can feel isolating, as it may not be readily apparent to others why a seemingly straightforward household chore can provoke such intense feelings.

The journey of healing from an abusive childhood is complex and often filled with setbacks. It involves unlearning negative thought patterns, building self-esteem, and developing the ability to advocate for oneself. For adults who experienced this kind of upbringing, simply knowing how to do the dishes isn’t enough; they may need to navigate their emotional responses to the task first.

To foster a healthier relationship with chores for all children, it’s essential to teach them in a supportive and encouraging environment. Here are some key approaches:

1. **Model Positivity**: Adults should model a positive attitude towards chores by showing that they can be a part of daily life. Use language that frames chores as a shared responsibility rather than a burden.

2. **Encourage Autonomy**: Allow children, regardless of gender, to take ownership of their tasks. Instead of enforcing chores through punishment, help them understand the importance of contributing to a communal space.

3. **Provide Guidance**: Teach children how to do chores by guiding them through the process rather than forcing them. For example, you can turn washing dishes into a fun activity by making it a game or incorporating music.

4. **Normalize Mistakes**: Make it clear that making mistakes is part of learning. This helps children develop resilience and reduces the fear of failure that can stem from abusive environments.

5. **Open Communication**: Encourage children to express their feelings about chores. If they’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, creating a safe space for those emotions can help them articulate their needs and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

6. **Celebrate Achievements**: Recognize and celebrate the completion of chores, no matter how small. Acknowledging their efforts can boost their confidence and reinforce positive behaviors.

7. **Teach Life Skills**: Emphasize that chores are essential life skills that contribute to a healthy lifestyle. This includes teaching the benefits of maintaining a clean space for mental and physical well-being.

By using these approaches, we can help children build a healthier relationship with chores, reducing the likelihood of trauma manifesting in adulthood. The goal is to create a nurturing environment that fosters independence, self-worth, and emotional regulation, empowering individuals to tackle daily tasks without the weight of past trauma.

When it comes to teaching children about chores and responsibilities, especially in sensitive contexts where trauma may be a concern, there are critical practices to avoid to prevent further traumatization. Here’s what NOT to do:

1. **Do Not Use Fear as a Motivator**: Avoid threatening or instilling fear as a way to get children to do their chores. This can create anxiety and reinforce negative associations with responsibilities.

2. **Do Not Yell or Berate**: Refrain from raising your voice or using harsh words when a child does not complete a chore. This can be emotionally damaging and may trigger past trauma.

3. **Do Not Punish for Mistakes**: Making mistakes is part of the learning process. Avoid punishing children for errors in completing chores, as this can lead to shame and fear of trying again.

4. **Do Not Dismiss Their Feelings**: If a child expresses fear, anxiety, or frustration about chores, do not minimize their feelings. Acknowledge and validate their emotions, showing understanding and support.

5. **Do Not Overwhelm Them**: Assigning too many or overly complex tasks can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed. Keep chores age-appropriate and manageable to help them feel successful.

6. **Do Not Compare to Others**: Avoid comparing a child's efforts to those of their peers or siblings. This can create feelings of inadequacy and pressure, making them reluctant to engage in chores.

7. **Do Not Ignore Individual Needs**: Every child is different, especially if they have experienced trauma. Do not assume a one-size-fits-all approach; tailor chores to fit each child's unique capabilities and emotional state.

8. **Do Not Make Chores Gendered**: Avoid assigning chores based on gender stereotypes. All children should learn to contribute to household tasks, reinforcing that these responsibilities are not gender-specific.

9. **Do Not Present Chores as Punishment**: Chores should not be framed as a consequence for misbehavior. This can associate responsibilities with negative experiences, pushing children away from taking part.

10. **Do Not Neglect Positive Reinforcement**: Failing to praise or acknowledge a child’s efforts when they complete a chore can diminish their motivation. Celebrating small successes helps build confidence.

11. **Do Not Force Compliance**: Forcing a child to do chores without their willingness can lead to resistance and resentment. Encourage participation rather than demanding it.

12. **Do Not Ignore the Importance of Teaching**: Simply telling children to do chores without explaining the reasons behind them can lead to confusion and frustration. Teach them about the importance of contributing to the household.

By avoiding these practices, you can help create a nurturing environment that fosters a positive relationship with chores, promotes emotional well-being, and minimizes the risk of further traumatizing children.

When supporting an adult who experienced trauma related to chores or responsibilities as a child, it's essential to approach the situation with sensitivity and understanding. Here’s a guide on what to do and what not to do in order to help them navigate their feelings and encourage healthier behaviors:

✅ What To Do:

1. **Listen Actively**: Provide a safe space for them to express their feelings. Listen without judgment and validate their experiences and emotions.

2. **Be Patient**: Understand that healing from trauma is a process that takes time. Be patient with their progress and avoid pushing them to overcome their fears too quickly.

3. **Encourage Open Communication**: Foster an environment where they feel comfortable discussing their feelings about chores and responsibilities. Encourage them to share their triggers and concerns.

4. **Offer Support, Not Pressure**: Offer to help with chores or responsibilities without imposing pressure. Let them know you’re there to support them, but allow them to take the lead in what they are comfortable with.

5. **Normalize Mistakes**: Remind them that it’s okay to make mistakes and that they can learn and grow from them. Emphasize that everyone struggles with tasks at times.

6. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Acknowledge and celebrate their efforts, no matter how small. Positive reinforcement can build confidence and motivate them to continue facing their challenges.

7. **Provide Resources**: If they’re open to it, suggest resources like therapy or support groups that specialize in trauma and mental health. Professional help can be incredibly beneficial.

8. **Model Healthy Behaviors**: Demonstrate a positive attitude towards chores and responsibilities by engaging in them with a sense of calm and positivity. Your behavior can influence theirs.

9. **Encourage Mindfulness**: Introduce mindfulness techniques or grounding exercises that can help them manage anxiety when faced with tasks that trigger their trauma.

10. **Respect Their Boundaries**: If they express discomfort or resistance to certain tasks or discussions, respect their boundaries and don’t push the issue.

🚫 What Not To Do:

1. **Do Not Minimize Their Feelings**: Avoid dismissing or downplaying their feelings about chores. This can make them feel unheard and invalidated.

2. **Do Not Pressure Them to Conform**: Forcing them to engage in chores or responsibilities before they are ready can lead to increased anxiety and resentment.

3. **Do Not Compare Them to Others**: Avoid making comparisons to how others handle chores. This can increase feelings of inadequacy and hinder their progress.

4. **Do Not Use Guilt or Shame**: Avoid using guilt or shame to motivate them to complete tasks. This can be damaging and may trigger past trauma.

5. **Do Not Assume You Understand**: Everyone’s experiences of trauma are unique. Avoid assumptions and instead ask questions to understand their perspective better.

6. **Do Not Criticize Their Efforts**: Critiquing how they approach tasks can be discouraging. Instead, focus on encouragement and support.

7. **Do Not Ignore Their Triggers**: If they mention certain tasks or situations that trigger their trauma, do not disregard these. Acknowledge and take their triggers seriously.

8. **Do Not Avoid the Topic**: While it’s important to be sensitive, avoiding the topic altogether can prevent healing. Engage in gentle conversations when they’re ready.

9. **Do Not Enable Avoidance**: While it’s important to be supportive, don’t enable avoidance behaviors. Instead, gently encourage them to face their challenges at their own pace.

10. **Do Not Forget Self-Care**: Supporting someone with trauma can be emotionally taxing. Ensure you also practice self-care and seek support if needed.

By following these guidelines, you can create a supportive environment that helps the individual navigate their trauma while fostering healing and encouraging healthier behaviors over time.

[sarathrwizard]

I Care. Chapter 3/4 (Part 3/3) (Rottmnt Comic)

The brothers have finally reunited! But it seems they didn't return undamaged. The wounds they received in their spiritual form seemed to effect their physical bodys as well.

Next Part:

Pevious Part:

[blognamebelieveit]

Ello everyone! ^^

I’m Melody/Mimo! And I’m gonna be a new tumbler poster ig? -v-

It’s nice to meet you all and I hope you see this post! I’m new to this community, (when I say that I mean new as in first posting) it doesn’t make too much sense but trust me, IT DOES TO ME!

I’ll be mainly posting LMK drawings, ocs, and maybe even reblogs! But… that might be a little rare because I am always pretty busy with school and and stuff so I’ll try my best to get motivation to post as much as I can!

Here’s one of the drawings I made!

This art was inspired by @kyri45 ‘s SHADOWPEACH BIO PARENT AU!!! Where MK gets the circlet by Li Jing… I SWEAR IM GONNA BEAT LI JING’S ASS ONE DAY! But anyways… I had lots of fun drawing this and I hope y’all like it! That’s all. Love you ^^

[dreamdropsystemarchive]

no one lives here.. no one important at the least....

[nxptoons]

TW BLOOD

I wonder what happened 🫢

[cosmic-spider]

Back we’re it all began

Preview

Chapert 1 》

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Memories of the factory you once worked in, came back to you in your dreams. Some were pleasant memories while others were nightmares. Most of them were not that detailed only snippets of faces of other workers and…. Toys?

But they were only three memories that we’re still deep in your mind clear as day I was a good movie you always remembered since you were a kid.

The first thing was your first day at work at the toy factory. The way everything looks how crowded it was.Hundreds of families and kids. People coming in to see the factory some coming in for work. While coming in for a good time to spend the day.The way everything looks so colorful, so alive something coming out of a child’s imagination. It felt so comforting at the same time so strange and ominous. Remembering, the way you looked at everything as if you were a kid on Christmas. The way the factories work the mass production Agreed to tours of people.How ever bit of the factory it was covered in something colorful. From few building blocks on the floor to a few pictures of the mascots on the walls. Everything looking so child like at the same time so efficient .

The second memory, being a tall figures, some rounded, fluffy or others made out of plastic. You didn’t really remember what most of them looks like, but they look like stuffed animals. Remembering the voice of one of the characters. One voice happy to see everyone at the same time, caring and thoughtful to others. Remembering that they had a smile on their face, but it wasn’t forced. It looks like a genuine smile, but the same time you couldn’t remember most of the things they had. As well as the nicknames they called you.

Angle-

 The last memory was something, not so happy and joyful. Unlike the other two it was something more terrifying, more horrific some thing that almost looks like to be out of a horror film. Creatures that look cute and cartoony being treated like animals. Put in cages being electrocuted with sticks. Some were strap down on tables as the creature yelled out screeching in pain. As groups of people in white coats would go around them with tools that must doctors would use.You remember the pain you had inside yourself as you watch. The wanted to help you wanted to do something but you couldn’t. Your fear took you over over as you just stand there chained to the wall and watch. Until you were able to get a bit of strength to force yourself to get out and away from there.

The only other think you remembers were in snipers but you knew it was all together. What sounded like an amalgamation of voices. Female, male, monstrous, childlike. All put together into a single entity.

How it called out to you. Telling you to open the door to

HELP

to

LET IT OUT

to

LET THEM OUT.

After that, all you remember was a big hand that looks to be something made out of thin metal needles crawl out in front of you before you heard a faint

Thank you

Then it blacked out.

[flamingskull28]

3 paced back in forth in front of her usual seat in Alterna, the extra chilly air nor the aches caused by lack of sleep did little to deter this.

"4... she..she hasn't called or texted in weeks.. She's never missed a call not even at night." The squid sisters listed to the rambling of their captain, she was rarely so chatty or scared so they weren't going to brush this aside.

"Come on, remember she went with Off the Hook and 8 right? She's fine Cap.." Callie couldn't help but grimace seeing 3's worry for their girlfriend.

"Yeah weeks ago! We haven't heard from them either! Plus don't you remember you and have of Splatsville being unresponsive for a few days?!" 3 kicked the box they usually sat on then cluched their foot from the pain. She looked at Callie and Marie's blank states and sighed "Sorry... I'm just worried... I miss 4." Her voice whined almost patheticly as she spoke.

"We understand, don't worry okay? How about this, we go out looking for-" Marie was cut off by the high pitch yell of a nearby kettle, the one to enter Alterna specifically.

3 shot up to look over, the longing feeling in hee chest being pushed away by joy as she saw 4 standing there. The girl took a second to get her barring then spied 3 and dashed forth without hesitating. "3!"

3 was almost knocked over by the hug, which she returned tightly. "4... I missed you..." 3 spoke muffled into 4's shoulder.

"I.. missed you too 3." 4 pulled away from the hug and 3 let out a gasp seeing their face up close.

Marks of an electric burn were etched into her face. Her eyes seemed to be the leading point for this.

"What happened to you!?" 3 grabbed 4's head. Behind them Callie and Maire gasped as well.

4 was silent and fixed her gaze to the floor. 3 bit her lip, this seemed all to familiar...

"I.. think I can explain." Marina had appeared to, but hadn't been noticed. 3 glared up at Marina, stareing daggers into their soul at the idea she was responsible. Marina cleared her throat nervously.

"Well.. as you know I wanted 4's help with my Memverse project, it was meant to help the sanitized gain their memory's back.. but a Rouge AI was born from the wish for an unchanging world of the engineers that helped me... the AI know as order trapped me, Pearl 8 and 4 in the simulation. Since 4 was meant to be security for the spiral, order controled 4 used them as a sort of boss to keep 8 from stopping them... 8 manged to beat them a few times. I think that might've caused her real life headset to overload slightly and... burn 4 slightly."

4 stayed quiet as Marina explained, pulling herself closer to 3 who held them tighter in response.

"4 is..is. this true?"

She nodded. 3 felt a flurry of emotions hit her, rage, grief and slight relief that 4 was okay. Part of her wanted to stomp Marinas head in but.. she knew it wasn't their fault. It had always been one of 3's nightmares that 4 would be controlled as she was, being by an AI made it worse. She'd make sure that thing paid but for now...

"4 I was you to listen to me, I'm here for you. You are your own person and no one is going to take that from you okay? I promise." 3 spoke the words she wished were told to her. She also gave her signature glare at the others signaling them to leave which they did quickly.

"I..." 4 paused, the liquid from her tears soaking into 3's sleeve "I love you... please... stay with me for a while..." 3 squeezed her tighter.

"I love you too, and I won't be going anywhere... just like you did for me..." the two sat their unmoving. That was okay with 3, she wouldn't let 4 go through this hell alone.

[just-here-for-the-whump]

@whumpcember24 Day 13: Trauma

Iron Fist 1x8 The Blessing of Many Fractures

[spacious-geek]

Imagine how traumatized the octonauts actually are? Like they have all had so many close death encounters it's crazy! I imagine they have to have some way to cope right?

[kimjimagery]

Warning: sad true story!

I had mentioned that it wasn't just Disney that gave me a hard time in my life. There were many other caveats going back all the way to my childhood and this is one of them.

My childhood in terms of interacting with people was never good it was nothing but bullying and torment during  my time at one of the middle schools I get picked on a lot by the other students and the teachers refuse to help me sometimes the teachers would leave the room and leave all of us students unattended and all of them would turn their attention to torment me they would throw hardened or sharp objects at me, they would even turn off the light when they did this to me and I couldn't do anything about it. 

And that wasn't the only school where I would get tormented. I was in a lot of others that treated me poorly and all for what?! I haven't done anything to anyone and this is how I get treated yet another reason why I have such anxieties  and trust issues being around people.

[theghostoficarus]

SCREAMING!!! I'm so proud of myself yall!!!

This is art of my original characters from my comic Phantom Flames. If you have any questions TELL ME I BEG I WANT TO YAP!!!!

Anyways... Characters in order of appearance:

Scarlet- she/her| Charolette's older sister, bad bitch, gay as hell

Charlotte- she/they| otherwise known as Candlewick, poor sad little baby.

Mother- she/it| The sister's mom, raging alcoholic, anti-feminist, chain smoker.

Simon- he/him| The one driving with the hat. He's chill, lives on a farm, driving illegally, shhhh

Marco- he/they| Blind silly man who has Charlotte smitten, bandanna-wearing dude

Mo Shang- she/her| Girly with the buns, super hyperactive but we love her. She matches everyone's freak.

[sarathrwizard]

Out of the Blue... Part 4

Poor Leo, Poor Donnie. He's never had to deal with this on his own.

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[astro-lmk-enjoyer]

ME AFTER SEEING @kyri45 ‘s LATEST COMIC PAGE: *violent shaking* RRRAAAHHH WHEN I FIND YOUUURRRRAAAAAHHHHH

[6loner96]

¿No piensas irte hasta que te dé la razón?

[my-life-my-stories-my-love]

So I have something called slipping rib syndrome. That means that I was born with floating rib and then suffered a chest trauma that caused my ribs to move or “slip” out of place and aggravate the surrounding nerves. This is extremely painful and relatively unheard of.

It took me 13 doctors and nurses to get diagnosed and when I finally was it was by a medical student. Everyone told me it was all in my head and I just had anxiety and needed to go to school. I was also told when pointing out a lump near my ribs (which turned out to be my slipping ribs sticking out) that I was just skinny.

I ended up missing 148 days of school due to the pain because some days I couldn’t even get out of bed let alone walk across my high school huge ass campus.

The worst part is this is normal for slipping rib syndrome in teenagers and younger children. The surgeon I saw said that my story of the multiple doctors and nurses and being told it was in my head was common and he heard that story all the time from his patients.

I don’t know what is happening to the medical field but not everything is in people’s head and it pays off to take them seriously. I cannot even begin to count the number of people I know who can say that doctors and the medical field generally suck and that they aren’t taken seriously. Especially with women and teenagers and it’s such bullshit. Everyone should be taken seriously when it comes to the physical and mental care no one knows you better than yourself. And I know some people genuinely have their medical issues come from within the head/brain but that should still be taken seriously and not brushed off.

Medical professionals please take note and take your patients seriously. And NEVER dismiss them and refuse to listen and provide options for treatment and testing.