#I hate being misunderstood but I also don’t understand ppl

[cherrysnax]

I often feel like I have the wrong type of autism from every other autistic person (I think everyone feels this way tho. it’s a spectrum)

[meejijis]

ah yes today is the day where one of my most hated manga moments of all time gets animated and I’m already just salty just thinking about it

[iheartgirlzn]

tbh i think pjo calypso is so over-hated. like i understand why people dislike her, but i feel like a lot of her actions can be excused.

she’s been cursed to live on an island her whole life because she chose to side with her dad in the war against the gods, and she’s been cursed to fall in love with everyone who ever enters said island. she’s basically forgotten how to love platonically and what it’s like to be loved. but leo changed that for her.

i don’t ship caleo because i feel like she’s unnecessarily rude to him and it them being together doesn’t make much sense. i feel like their relationship is forced. i feel like calypso only loves leo because he saved her, and leo only loves her because she agreed to date him and she ‘makes him feel loved’. even tho i don’t really think she does. (i also don’t like how rick puts everyone in a relationship, but that’s a rant for another time.)

but at the same time, she’s never learnt how to be in a good relationship, if that makes sense? i mean, she got cursed for trying to help her dad and there’s so much more depth behind that. she’s LITERALLY JUST A GIRL WHO WANTS TO BE LOVED. she’s so misunderstood and she’s learning how to be mortal like how apollo did! yet he doesn’t get the hate she does. (i love lester and apollo’s character development tho, i will fight anyone who hates on him.)

anyways, i’m not a fan of how she’s written but i think she has so much potential. i do kind of understand why some ppl don’t like her, but some of her hate is just rlly forced.

[will80sbyers]

THANK you, bisexuality has always meant attraction regardless of gender 🙌 people can call themselves what they want of course and every pan person I’ve met has always been well-meaning but sometimes it annoys me that we have to keep clarifying this… bisexuality is attraction regardless of gender, there’s definitions of bisexuality dating all the way back to the 70s that state this… meanwhile pansexuality was coined Way later and it was initially defined as ‘attraction to men, women and trans ppl’ which implies trans ppl are another category not included in regular labels, which is so transphobic. I know the definition has shifted to many things now in an attempt to not be transphobic but all any new definitions keep doing is implying the other labels are something different than they are. Like saying pan is for when you’re also attracted to nonbinary ppl? Wrong, anyone can be attracted to nonbinay ppl, including straight ppl, bc you can’t tell if someone is nonbinary by just looking at them… There’s no need to create an entire new label for the inclusion of nonbinary ppl when other labels never excluded them in the first place... Or saying pan is when gender is not a factor in attraction whereas bi is when gender IS a factor? Well attraction doesn’t work like that, it’s not a mathematical equation, and also here we have again a case of the pan label redefining other labels in order to define itself. Anyway sorry for this rant bc you probably already know this. I really don’t want to upset pan ppl and I think they can obviously call themselves whatever they want, if the word pan feels more like them then obviously that’s beautiful❤️ I’m just pretty tired of anyone trying to redefine MY label in the process of trying to define their own. Like bisexuality is attraction regardless of gender and if that’s how you understand pansexuality then congrats, they’re the same, and don’t yell at me to “get educated”, educate yourself first, I ask this kindly… Anyway. I know they mean well so I feel like an asshole but this has been bugging me and many of my bi friends for a while. If this hurt anyone I’m sorry but I’m tired of having to bite down my frustration in being misunderstood all bc it might hurt pan ppl meanwhile no one cares if it hurts ME to be misunderstood like this. I hope the pan ppl reading this know this: I rlly don’t hate you , we are siblings in queer solidarity, I love you, but please try to understand us❤️

And Dani thank you for making me feel heard ❤️

Yesss absolutely, same I have no problems with people that feel like the pan label is more appropriate for them but I think it's important to remember that bisexuality has always included us non-binary and trans people... and also all the other micro labels of bi+ like "regardless of gender" or with varying degrees etc etc are all under the bisexual umbrella, that's inherently included and I don't feel any need to go outside of the bi definition even with all the stereotypes on our community that may make us want to not take that label to avoid being stereotyped as cheaters or evil etc

Personally the label that feels most me is bisexual and I love it, glad to know you're feeling heard!! Always be proud ✨

[hayakawalove]

What do you think about nanamis line about gojo being a jujutsu freak and only caring about self satisfaction and not anything/anyone else “protecting others” etc..

Personally I found that really harsh and it’s also really ironic how the entirety of chapter 236 focuses and talks about how gojo has been misunderstood his entire life exp the flower scene and then nanami goes and yet again misunderstands him

ESPECIALLY WHEN HAIBARA/GETOU AGREED!!!

I think they also misunderstood him, since getou at some point did start seeing gojo only for his strength and got the mentality that strength is what matters and can make a change

Alsooooo did you see gojos expression when he hears nanami say that ☹️What do you think it was? To me his facial expressions with his pursed lips and widen eyes looked like he expressed great sadness/ disappointment

Like… “oh I’m still getting misunderstood even after I’m dead”

ALSOO why do you think gojo said that “he was glad he died by a strong opponent and not by old age/diseases”To me it was so he could fully like up to the title of the strongest since it’s more fitting to die in battle than any other way since he’s the strongest and it’s the only way people/jujutsu society views him as…

I HATE THE MISCHARACTERIZATION OF HIM ON TWITTER SM 😭

Like I saw a post by a translator with 6K+ likes of them expressing how gojo was uncaring and a battle freak who ONLY wanted and was interested in strong allies do he wouldn't feel lonely and only looks after students who are strong so he can USE THEM???

PPL ALWAYS CALL HIM UNCARING and harsh words and if you defend him then say you’re babying him and being biased towards him BUT ITS THE TRUTH!!!

what do you think??? WOULD LOVE YOUR OPINION ABOUT THIS PLSPLSPLS 💕💕💕

HELLO

I’m sorry I’m getting to this very late. But.

I haven’t read that chapter so my opinion might be a bit off.

I think he’s a very interesting character. I do think he is a jujutsu freak, but not in a bad way. He didn’t really have a choice. There is no world in which he could have come out normal with six eyes and limitless. I do think he cares about people, I think he cares a lot.

I don’t think anyone can really fully understand him. There was a point in time in high school where Suguru understood him, they both had strong techniques and were on the same level. That didn’t last very long though. It’s really sad to think about how lonely it must be to desperately want someone to understand you, and for everyone else to think you’re this god.

In terms of how he died, I think he understands it wouldn’t have been fitting to die from a disease. In the world of Jujutsu, most sorcerer get killed. And he’s the strongest, so of course he’s gonna go out in style. I think he thinks it was a good ending to his story, it would have been boring if he was 70 and in bed surrounded by his loved ones, no matter how much he deserved it.

I do think he cares about strength, but not in a bad way. I think he purposely goes out of his way to help yuuji and yuuta because they are strong, and they don’t know what to do with it. I think he can see himself in other kids. There was a time when he was clueless.

I think he finds them and tries to aid them because he doesn’t want them to be used. I think he understands that sorcerers, especially strong ones, are used as pawns. He’s used for his strength, and his best friend was used until he was tossed away like trash, shoved aside to rot until he left.

So I think he does care about strength. I think he appreciates it, and wants to help those who are confused. Caring about strength doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

Plus, we see that he cares about people who aren’t as strong. Like Nobara. She’s strong yeah, but when you compare her to the likes of yuuji, yuuta, and gojo, she isn’t comparable. But he cares about her and thinks shes cool in her own way.

I think when people talk about his obsession with strength they make it out to be this hideous, nefarious thing when I really don’t think it is like that.

It would be a bit weird if he didn’t care about strength to me.

His whole childhood he was molded into something, everyone always talking about how strong he would be. Your childhood shapes you.

I think gojo cares so much it hurts sometimes, but he has to distance himself a bit. He knows people don’t understand him, and he knows that most people will die. I think he loves everyone, but he keeps an eye out for those who are strong. I think he wants to avoid watching them be used by the higher ups. He knows no one will understand him, but there are some people who might come close, and he wants to help them so they don’t get treated terribly.

Would he be as interested in yuuji if he didn’t have Sukuna? No. I don’t think so. I think he would still care, but he wouldn’t be as interested. Sukuna is a legend in jujutsu, so of course gojo is going to be interested. But also, he understands that yuuji was put in a shitty situation and he doesn’t know what to do and no one understands him either.

I think people don’t understand gojo which is really sad. Obviously everyone’s free to have their own opinions, but I think people who think he’s this killing machine are missing fundamental aspects of his character.

If he really was like that, why would he have left Suguru alive for 10 years? He cares so much about people.

If he only cared about strong students, why would he mentor everyone else? He does this because he wants the next generation to change everything, to not treat people awfully.

I really love him.

[nightcourtreader]

about your previous anon ask: I had quite different journey in regard of Nesta than you. is it weird that now I hate nesta? I mean tumblr ppl made me hate her so much right now and when I read acosf for the first time I fell in love with her but I didn't forget what she'd done to ppl around her specially Feyre but I forgave her. bc I understand her, her self-loathing, her lack of action to prove someone wrong even tho it might hurt herself or others. but like I said I also never forgot how she was in the first book. after coming here I just saw how ppl, specially her stans, misunderstood her how they turned her in to this saint that she has done nothing wrong but that was not sjm intention. Nesta hated herself for how she treated Feyre and here are ppl calling her queen for those behavior or how they say Feyre wanted to hurt herself and act like a victim while they were in the cabin. I even saw someone say that Feyre had no right to tell Nesta not to marry Tomas before she left for spring court or the way she imprisoned her at the house of wind (do they know what imprison means? whatever Nesta's situation was I'm sure as hell wasn't being imprisoned) and it's funny that Nesta was thankful for her bc she was one of the reasons she turned into this person that she is now.

a very similar thing happened between me and my younger sister and even tho I was mad at the time I'm always going to be grateful for her. if I see someone is drowning themselves and it doesn't matter the amount of time I gave them to heal themselves to overcome their trauma and now their actions are reaching me as well? Imma try to help them myself in whatever way I can even if it's unwanted. it might not be right to force ppl to do things but it's been effective as we saw in acosf and how Nesta was grateful to both Feyre and Rhys at the end.

and I can't love Nesta freely or without this ugly image these Nesta stans pictured for her. or tell others without someone coming at me telling me their distaste for Rhys & Feyre or IC in general.

idk maybe it's just me. maybe this is how sjm intended, to make Feyre the bad guy in Nesta's story. to make Nesta and Elain in the right for not helping Feyre bc they're not parents of Feyre and they shouldn't have a little sympathy and help their sister in difficulty bc that's what a human being does and not a selfish one and call their sister half beast or whatever...

yeah anyway sorry for the rant maybe I should reread acosf and try to forget those ugly comments and try to love her again but it's quite hard. I hate that HER STANS taint her character for me :')

I completely understand. I think it’s perfectly fine to not like her. I think it’s valid reasons not to like any character in this series.

Like I think people like to argue ohh nesta is just mean in the first acotar book, but to me she was still mean up until her book. I do not give her credit for telling Feyre about the pregnancy because she also, alongside the IC, agreed not to tell Feyre in the beginning & she only did it so she could hurt someone because she was hurt by Armen. It’s not a good thing when you don’t do it for the right intentions.

I know everyone is like ohh but Rhys threaten her and blah blah and told everyone to be quiet, but nesta also threaten Feyre because of Elain. Nesta isn’t only at fault about the whole pregnancy thing either tho. I think EVERYONE (Rhys & IC included) was fucked up, besides Mor since she was gone & Elain because I don’t even think she even knew or was told. But I think it makes sense for nesta to still be mean because her healing journey didn’t start until acosf.

I think when you read the series, in my opinion, if you think nesta is a saint, or any of the characters for that matter are saints who can’t do anything wrong than you are reading the wrong series. I think a lot of stans have trouble accepting that their fav characters has done wrong in the series & I get it that their fav character might have been wronged by others but we’re not talking about that, we’re talking about what the character has done. Like I’m a Feyre girlie, but I can accept that my girl has done some fucked up shit and this series. Rhys too.

The thing some people don’t understand is that nesta herself didn’t want to be that mean, bitter, angry person. She didn’t wanna lash out of people. She only said those things for self satisfaction that only lasted for a few minutes at most. Nesta also knows she wasn’t a good person and wanted to get better, that was the whole point of acosf. I know a lot of people are mad she’s with Cassian and she’s still in the night court but in my opinion the night court really fits her. People think she changed herself to fit Cassian’s standards and I don’t think that is true either. I think nesta just added to herself.

I also don’t think that nesta verbally abusing Feyre is a Queen moment to me. I know a lot of people didn’t think she did, but to me she did. It’s just really messed up. I know a lot of people don’t like Feyre and glad that nesta talked down on her, but nesta literally didn’t like doing that stuff. And if it was Feyre saying those things all hell would have broke loose.

But I think nesta behaved that way with Feyre because she knew Feyre did all the things she wouldn’t allow herself to do, and I think she acknowledges this. Feyre herself stated that they are two sides of the same coin, Feyre and nesta are so similar to each other in my opinion.

I know a lot of people say it’s the Archeon’s parents fault for what happen to the sisters in the cabin and I whole heartily agree. Papa Archeon should have gotten his ass up and did something, but I don’t think nesta & Elain made the situation any better. Refusing to help to spite your father knowing he’s not going to help what so ever is not a good enough excuse for me.

Also, Feyre telling nesta about Thomas is something nesta was thankful she did say. Why wouldn’t Feyre tell her sister that the man she has every intention on marrying has an abusive father? Abusive tendencies can be given to the next generation. We see how Thomas turned out to be, so why would we want nesta subjected to that?

Honestly I do agree with the fact that Feyre & the IC could have went about it another way with nesta & the house of wind, but I can also see it as involuntary admission, which is something that happens in the real world where people are admitted to a facility because they are a danger to themselves and they are admitted against their will.

I don’t think nesta was going to get better on her own, she was too stubborn. A lot of people argue that Feyre was given months to heal and stuff and I get that but nesta & Feyre aren’t the same, nesta is way more stubborn & I feel like why would they let nesta intentionally suffer knowing they could help her? If they didn’t help nesta, she would’ve been like that for years and it wouldn’t have been healthy! She would have destroyed herself. And in the end nesta is glad they gave her the help because she knew she wasn’t going to do it on her own!

I think that it was intentional that SJM wrote nesta & Elain to be like the bad sisters in acotar. Its very obvious that she wrote them like that to not be liked. I think she didn’t plan to do a spin off on the sisters at first. But then she did.

I don’t think Feyre was the villain of nesta’s story, I think it’s very obvious she and the IC are not the villains of nesta’s story no matter how bad people want them to be. I understanding not liking the method of what they did with the house of wind, because 10,000 steps is a bitch to go down, but nesta literally did it when she was mad and going to confront Armen. If she was really mad enough about staying I think that she could have left. Could have left the night court. I think the times she wanted to leave the house was to go get alcohol, something she didn’t need and that’s the reason SJM didn’t have her go all the way down the stairs.

And I do agree that some nesta stans do make it hard to like her. I do think it’s ok if you don’t like the IC or Feyre and like nesta. But I don’t like really seeing bashing posts about Feyre and the IC unless it’s accurate information about it because people like to make up and expand stories to tell why they don’t like them.

So my advice is to block and filter things you don’t like seeing to enjoy your experience. That’s what I do and it has made my experience on here so much better. I also try to move on when I see things I don’t like on other social media because people like to pull out of the ass things. Like maybe reread and see if you like nesta yourself without being influenced by others opinions and it’s ok if you still don’t in the end, your opinion is valid.

I would just look at it like all the characters are fucked up but can I still like them after the fact?

[maoam]

sasusaku is not toxic

firstly, sakura tried to kill him first. sasuke acted out of self-defense. but most ppl completely misunderstood that scene and arc anyway.

in fact, ppl just don’t understand sasuke and sakura’s relationship or their individual characters. I just wanna point out the hypocrisy of the commonly used statement, “sasusaku is toxic”

naruto is a story about change and forgiveness.

need i remind you all that a great majority of characters in the naruto universe are mass murderers.

need i remind you that practically all these characters were redeemed after listening to naruto's words. these characters have killed more ppl than sasuke.

all these characters have bonds and relationships with other characters that none of you seem to have a problem with.

even for sasuke. if sasuke's romantic relationship with sakura is toxic, then his brotherly relationship with naruto and his student-teacher relationship with kakashi is also toxic.

examples:

note: i am not hating on these characters, in fact, i love them.

gaara. has killed way more ppl than sasuke. is a character that is loved by this fandom (as he should be). has a friendship with naruto that is loved. he has tried to kill him. all of these relationships would be considered toxic in rl terms.

itachi. is a mass murderer. has completely traumatized sasuke. is the reason why sasuke went on a dark path. is loved by fans. is constantly called the “best brother” his relationship with sasuke would also be considered toxic in rl terms. don’t dare deny that.

of course, there are many more examples.

see, ppl hate sasuke and sakura's romantic relationship by comparing them to real-life standards. however, i don’t see anyone compare any other relationship in naruto to our rl standards. it’s completely unfair and ridiculous.

it seems to me that the only problem y’all have is when someone who has redeemed themselves forms a romantic relationship. tell me, is there much difference in a friendly, familiar, student-teacher, relationship than a romantic one?

is your only problem the fact that sasuke and sakura are canon?

to you guys, anything is acceptable unless it concerns sakura or sasusaku.

stop using “sasusaku is toxic” as an excuse. just say you hate either sakura or sasuke and leave.

You seem to have misunderstood. We hate Sasuke and Sakura's "relationship" because they have nothing in common, they never have a meaninful conversation, Sakura is disgusting towards Sasuke, demeans what means the most to him, harasses him despite him rejecting her romantically multiple times, and because Sakura treats Sasuke like an object. And because Sakura is ready throw even the last bit of her dignity away just to get a crumb from Sasuke. Hope this helps!

Sasuke needs no forgiveness because it's Sakura who did wrong towards him by never caring about what he said and only talking about herself. And Sakura was never apologetical so she can't be forgiven.

You people lack reading comprehension, emotional intelligence and maturity, kinda like Sakura. You focus on proving how them attacking each other can be forgiven, and completely ignore the fact Sakura has never cared about Sasuke as a person other than him being hot and cool. You sound like 13 year old and I hope you are because if you're an adult, oh how I pity you.

[fixielixie]

i always find it funny when people feel sorry for no one caring that shen jiu got booted out of his body and that everyone liked shen yuan better. as if shen jiu didn’t go out of his way to make literally everyone hate him, he wasn’t “misunderstood” he was actively trying to make people dislike him by being awful. i like shen jius character and do love when ppl explore him in fanon but i’m also unhinged about shen yuan. i take it personally when people like shen jiu better bc i don’t understand how and im not trying to im just bitter

plus shen yuan has all the interesting parts of shen jiu (bitchiness, pettiness, being pretty, wearing green, holding fan) while also not being a genuinely horrible person. he also has the Defining trait in making a character god tier, Loving Luo Binghe

[olivishii]

Astro observations, but mostly my opinions part 3

🌦air or earth in the big three, particularly rising sign, give someone very contrasting features. they also can come off quite intimidating. i’ve found that air/earth risings come off more mysterious than a scorpio rising.

🌦aries suns are much more introverted than their aries moon/rising counterparts.

🌦celebrities with air moons are always very well liked & popular.

🌦 mercury square mars people have a hard time conveying their thoughts and are often misunderstood. on the other hand, you may create a lot of enemies because of your agressive nature.

🌦if the sign in your 8th house is in someone else 3rd, it makes for amazing communication.

🌦ok this is just a birthday observation from looking up so many kinds of peoples charts, a loooooootttttttt of famous sagittarius/capricorn’s (particularly december capricorn’s but not limited to december capricorn’s) have pisces moons.

🌦contrary to popular belief, a lot of pisces tend to be combative. (and i’m not talking about the ones with aries placements.)

🌦if your third or ninth house is in either sagittarius or gemini. or your mercury is in the eight house or sagittarius or gemini, you might enjoy being on sites like reddit, twitter, or tumblr. since they all have to do with discussion, sometimes about taboo or theoretical things.

🌦scorpio & taurus are opposite signs, but i find them to be quite similar in more ways than they are different.

🌦taurus w/ an aquarius mars or moon or aquarius with a taurus moon or mars are hard to keep down, they will rebel and there is absolutely nothing you can say that will make them not.

🌦i think leo’s are amazing friends. a lot of people tend to hate on them, but they’re the mosy fun, loving, and loyal personalities. they’d do anything for you.

🌦pisces moons are aaaaalllllwaaaaayyyssss on edge. and have bad ass tempers.

🌦taurus & cancer moons are the most understanding people i’ve ever met. maybe even a little bit too understanding.

🌦men with sagittarius moons are always means & rude as fuck. like straight up fucking assholes. cold hearted assholes. but the women with sag moons are💕🥰🤍💋👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

🌦i fucking would die for libra and sagittarius women.

🌦taurus fem ppl have strong “it” girl energy. like hello miss janet jackson? megan fox? jessica alba? all taurus.

🌦i don’t think i’ll ever see the day me and a pisces placements genuinely get along on all levels. will always be a love hate thing going on.

🌦personally, i don’t “hate” any of the signs. some people do and that’s fine. but i think if you want to be in astrology or astrologer you can’t really hate any of the signs. you’re readings would be very biased.

🌦now on the other hand, there ARE certain placements i just truly do not click with.

🌦many people that hold a very strong and influential postion on the internet ALL have earth placements. i can make a whole ass series on that. (nicki minaj has a virgo moon, trisha paytas is a taurus, fred is a virgo, rolling ray is a virgo, tiffany pollard is a capricorn etc etc...)

🌦earth & air placements have the sexiest bone structure and eyes...my god.

🌦i don’t know if i’ve already said this, but scorpio’s are sooooo funny. i swear to god.

🌦it’s true, sagittarius suns, moons and risings have amazing bodies. they just have something very prominent on their bodies.

🌦the elements as popular musical genres....air is alternative FOR SURE. earth is r&b or soul. ok fire can either be rap or hard rock. and water is bubblegum pop or house music.

🌦speaking of music, the song “take me away” from freaky friday had to have been written by a sagittarius sun or mercury that’s all i can think of when i hear it lol.

🌦virgo people have a fierceness about them. they truly do, like beyoncé literally has an alter ego called sasha fierce. pink is such a punk ass bitch, micheal jackson, do i even need to elaborate?

🌦gemini woman, especially woman, may have had to feel like they needed to watch what they say because people take their forwardness for rudeness.

🌦i would want a sagittarius boss. please.

🌦i like to believe that stereotypes do not strongly apply to certain placements, but damn capricorn’s really can be buzz kills. with their just all around attitudes or something they say.

[sotorubio]

I'm really confused cus ppl are attacking tiff for taking control of her life, saying she doesn't need to be rescued. I thought that's a good thing? But people are saying it's fake feminism because she was so mean to lola before. But isn't that the whole point of skam? People have this "shame" in their life that they grow from? Like how everyone wanted lola to be forgiven for stuff she did to other people in s6, (eliott, lucas, daphne, etc ,) because she had her own struggles but had grown /was growing from it? But with tiff we're not supposed to support her? It's hilarious how people have decided there's a right and a wrong way to react to clips and it you don't fit the "right" reaction box then you're some kind of heathen 😔

well if we're talking real life ofc something like that is a good thing, finding ur strength after going through trauma is always good n a common "feminist" trope is that a girl recognizes that she needs no man or whatever. i haven't been that active on here recently so i haven't seen the reactions to it but this season has not been a feminist one in the least no matter how many catchphrases they throw in there

above all this season is abt a cis, white, straight and rich girl so. failed step one. ppl need to understand that if feminism isn't intersectional it's worthless n this doesn't just mean they should've picked someone else for the role (which they should've, but there's more to it) u can't make a feminist season abt a white girl if ur gonna villanize all ur woc especially the black women. u can't make a feminist season abt a cishet, rich girl if ur gonna make the bisexual poor girl ignore the fact that this is the person who played w her trauma just a year before. u can't make a feminist season abt a rich girl if the previous season she was overworking her privilege to show how classist she was (which the fans love to forget bc they don't see poor ppl as oppressed lol) and again u can't make a feminist season abt a white girl if all her Cool Feminist Moments only happen when she's talking to a black man such as her snarky "that wasn't an invitation" when aurélien tried to kiss her or her physically attacking him bc he? cares abt their daughter? being consider a Powerful Mom Thing

if all this didn't exist sure it would be considered feminist for her to not need saving, but when we put it in the context of literally everything else we can see that this is yet another poor attempt at taking a cliché feminist phrase that u could see written by a male avengers movie director for woke points. ppl need to understand that tiff has huge amounts of privilege over both aurélien (being white) n max (being cis) so her being a woman doesn't even automatically place her social status "beneath" these men. even just outside of fandom shit ppl should understand that supporting certain women will inherently be anti feminist, just bc ur cheering on a woman doesn't make u feminist.

then second abt the shame thing & lola. the "shame" in all skam seasons has always been smth "innate" due to the lack of a better world. smth that the society shames u for. the isak seasons r abt being gay bc society makes ppl ashamed of gayness, but u don't think being gay is a "shame" do u? neither is being a muslim, but the sana seasons r abt that bc again the "shame" is smth society perpetuates. the fact that tiff was "mean to lola" (she was a classist, she told her to kill herself, she made her trauma n mental illness into her own little joke) is not her "shame" bc that was her choice....that's smth she chose to do she isn't misunderstood or oppressed bc she hates poor ppl lmao. if they made made a season abt the nico character would u say his shame is sexual harassment? i doubt it. bc that's not smth he's involuntarily shamed for that's an action he chose to take.

also tiff n lola's "forgiveness" or lack thereof isn't comparable. first of all i'm not sure why u mentioned lucas? she never rly did anything to him but he on the other hand has a shitload to apologize for to her. abt eliott & daphné i also don't quite understand bc as for daphné they had a mutually toxic sibling dynamic, both failing at communication n treating each other badly but like.. even in that situation daphné was literally stalking her sister so again not sure what blame lola has on her here. n for eliott i also don't get what she should've apologized for like if u mean the club clips then u r in the wrong place bc lola didn't even do anything bad other than be rude which every other character is also guilty of smfjlskd

like see the difference? tiff & lola's conflict wasn't mutual, tiff chose to harass n stalk her based on nothing at all, she was only able to do that bc of the privilege n power she (a white cishet rich girl) has over lola (a bisexual mentally ill poor girl). i don't see how those two r in any way comparable.

so i guess that's my explanation for it. as for ur last point i do agree i don't know why it's anyone else's problem how others react to clips but even then i do think we need to understand that skam remakes take pride in their "diversity" n "representation" so sometimes certain reactions actually r objectively wrong. like saying "i liked this clip" or "i didn't like this clip" is all cool n no one should get hate for that but if ppl watch a clip where certain stereotypes r used unironically n their decision is to actually enforce the harmful message n not waste any of their three braincells for critical thinking bc It'S jUsT FiCtiOn then u r not immune to me thinking ur a brainless idiot

[dastardlydandelion]

Thanks for being level headed about the whole ‘shipping’ thing. Ship wars just never made sense to me after like you said, it’s only fiction. People shouldn’t feel the need to justify why they hate or love a character or pairing. I will say I’m guilty of still being interested in Nick/Ziggy but I acknowledge he’s definitely a character not meant to be redeemed or liked at all lol

*fear street spoilers below*

np, dude. i'm not gonna pretend i personally understand the appeal of ziggy/nick (or nick in general) but u do u. it's fandom. we're here to enjoy fictious content, not to share how-to guides about relationships. thank u for also being reasonable and acknowledging that in canon nick is a villain thru and thru, and not pretending otherwise just to "validate" ur ship or whatevs ppl call it. i'd never pretend jackie from what keeps you alive (2018) is anything but a monster or that lori prime from happy death day (2017) was just misunderstood, but i'm still going to enjoy their characters and their villain status isn't gonna prevent me from writing porn of them if that's what i want, either. i'm not gonna care if other ppl wanna do similar with nick just bc i personally don't care for him.

[starsxinxthexbluexsky]

Hi, there. I just wanted to add to your last ask my thoughts. As for me I’m more like GG (we could also date haaaa). But I think ppl often interpret his politeness as if he’s naive and too trustful. I just want to add at first we can clearly see his development from his XFire days till now. Even then, if you watch his XFire vligs and interviews you could see he’s actually a warm person outside but a little cold inside. What I mean (it’s my personal opinion, ok?). It’s that being warm and polite doesn’t always mean that the person is open for you like a book, and being cold doesn’t mean rude but it means that he lets only few ppl get really closer to him. Only the ones he can trust and with time flying I think he got more careful about ppl around. It’s just like me. I have friends, mates from work, college. But such ppl like me and gg are really hard to trust ourselves fully to someone. We’d better hold our worries and problems to ourselves as we don’t want and don’t see the point to burden others with your problems as everyone’s life is hard and instead we’d better listen to other people and coax them. Besides, I can’t say here for gg for sure, but I can feel something familiar that we want ppl to love us, but not because we want something from them, we just want ppl to like us because if they don’t we start to look for a reason not in ppl but in ourselves. (What did I do wrong? Maybe I talk very strange? Maybe I said not right word) and it makes you feel bad. Especially if u’re a perfections and want everything to be done right. And one more important moment, as for such ppl like me and gg it’s important to keep your face, be well-mannered because it’s good, it’s accepted in public, it’s what most ppl like and what’s make them happy. But we are not toys, we can’t always be in a good mood and very nice. So we also have this naughty side that we can’t show to most ppl, as we are afraid to be misunderstood and that ppl will hate it. So we behave naughty only with close ppl as we’re sure that they will accept any side we show

Ahhhhh!!! Anon, I have loved your comment (about going out, who knows? 👀👀👀😂😂) I have other questions before yours, but I preferred yours. Does that make me a bad girl 😂😂?

Fake. CPN. I don't pretend to offend anyone with this post.

Actually I understand quite little about GG's personality (but, I understand him more since, I think they're SZD, than before), thanks for explaining me a bit, the truth is, if he seemed lonely in X-Nine, something like he was warm and gentle in that time too, but i think he was feeling belittled by his company when he's a pearl, that must have made him feel very sad. Also, I forgot to add to the other response, that he needs someone to tell him that he is the best, because sometimes he thinks that he isn't that and it's sad for me to see him belittle himself.

In my case I am more similar to DD and if you allow me I will explain my version, since you explained yours 😂😂.

If you see him with UNIQ, he got along with his brothers and there is a lot of trust, as with the TTXS brothers (although I think DD likes to talk more with people much older than him) He must act cute because he had to win some fame, but that wasn't really DD's personality and it's really weird for me to see him on UNIQ (not because I think he felt lonely with the UNIQ members, but after he got away from them). Sometimes, when I saw him, after UNIQ separated. I thought he was a little lost, I am 1 year younger than him, but he seemed lonely at times too. (I don't want to offend anyone).

Both, he and I hate being in physical contact with strangers, especially if cause misunderstands. It gives me chills just thinking about it ... 😄😄😄

Most of the time I am very nervous around new people and when they approach me in a friendly manner, I give them an intense look (as if analyzing them), I don't care much what is socially accepted. if I don't like you, I won't talk to you, I'll pass. I have a bad mood, little patience and I am self-centered, I always want attention of my closest people. I will feel sad if you hate me, but I will keep it in the bottom of my heart and I can hurt with my words. I will always say what I think, my mouth has no filter

If i've been watching you for a while, maybe I may smile at you out of courtesy, but if I don't like you, I won't look at you. I will give short answers such as "yes" "no", "you don't care" (I can't say in the case of DD, but he is also curt when he doesn't want to talk about something, besides his work environment doesn't always allow him to be honest with the things he wants to say, although "No sense" says a lot, doesn't it?)

My face is an open book and my way of being too, if I'm jealous, if I'm angry, if I'm happy, it's going to show on my face. DD is the same, he can't hide it, it's obvious and that's funny.

The case is also that if you don't like me, then you are wrong, because I didn't do anything wrong, if you don't like my personality or my way of being the problem is yours and I will walk away so that I don't have to see you and that you don't look at me, I don't want to suffer discomfort.

But, once I get warm with that one person, I'm not going to leave her/im, I'll smile at him/er and make him/er as happy as possible, I'll defend you and be selfish (especially if I like that person 😂😂. DD seems to be like that too, when he warms up, he is kind and sweet, he gives you his attention and smiles.) But, if I do something wrong, I will apologize and leave you, if you do something I will forgive you, but it will never be the same. For people like DD and me it is somewhat difficult to warm up to people, we are cold on the outside, but warm on the inside and we act for instinct.

I may not know much about DD, only his GG knows that, but there are things I see that I can say that we are alike.

Long, but I wanted to say it. 😂😂😂

[abla-soso]

Saw your post about Toji and I think the worst of it is on twt. Not as bad as Dabi yet but I cringe every time someone tries to paint him as a good or loving dad or minimize his actions by saying others did it too (where?). Recently, there was a whole Toji vs. Endeavor discourse and ppl getting mad that how dare anyone compare Toji to Endeavor, all he did was leave his kid, not abuse him. That was wild xD Let's hope stuff like that stays a minority opinion!

I remember that stupid discourse, lol. Nothing funnier than seeing folks arguing up and down that trash is different from garbage. 

I also remember Toji stans fearing he’d be hated like Enji, but so far it seems he’s kinda being loved and excused like Dabi.

Listen, I looove Toji and i’m happy that most people are willing to sympathize with him and understand the complexity of his character. But i’d be pissed if “fanon Toji” ever became a thing! (if his canon personality got so distorted by the stans who want to excuse him). 

JJK fandom... plz love canon Toji for what he is and don’t turn him into an uwu misunderstood, secretly good guy. 

[indigosprite]

Hibari Headcanons

that nobody asked for

He likes small animals but not your usual small animals. (The way he kicked uri out in the future instead of letting the cat stay 😭) I.e he’d pick a sugar glider over a guinea pig

He hates crowds because he still hates the fact that when he was still learning to be sociable kids had the power of alienating him. He despises that group mindset that children had. In kindergarten some kids invited him to play then told him to get lost and nobody stood up for him. He has one intrusive thought and it’s that feeling. He genuinely hates crowds because it feels like an opportunity for people to get to decide who isn’t welcomed. He lowkey doesn’t want to witness that moment to happen to anyone else.

His overthinking only stops when he’s alone so he genuinely does prefer it. He doesn’t mind one or two people in an intimate setting but when it’s more he wants to disconnect.

He’s all about repaying debts quickly I think he takes this on an emotional level too so he feels if you get too close or kind he has to return that by being transparent as well and he knows he’s bad at it so he just stops you altogether by not letting you even create that environment around him. I.e in the future he’s fine in the hospital room then more people come and he warns Tsuna then beats his ass because it was getting too emotional seeing ppl visit chrome when he just wanted to check on her from afar and not hear everyone’s emotions.

He takes pictures of random things , like a leaf with water droplets, clouds from Nami middles roof , his sneakers when he’s walking. They’re not amazing but he just always does it and never shares. It’s kind of grunge but unintentionally.

He has a knack for throw blankets. He has one in every room they’re mostly black white or purple no designs except for the ones from his grandparents.

If you have ever watched Saiki k I think he has the exact same relationship with his parents. If you haven’t : he’s serious and reserved and willingly antisocial but not because of trauma and his parents are so normal and caring it’s funny in contrast. But they’re a tad bit more refined than saikis.

He was partly raised by his grandparents when he was much younger and that’s why he really loves tradition and order while his parents are hardly as strict.

His grandfather was probably a vet who joined solely to protect Namimori . Hibari has that same love for the town because of him but like his grandfather he’s in no way patriotic. They both just love this town He thinks of his grandfather when he thinks of Namimori and because he is gone now he latches on to the town even more.

His grandfather is Fon. Hear me out. Fon could have been around 40 when he was cursed , could’ve had a son young (18) but it was fine because he was a very well respected champion. The Hibaris had money and as long as he was a positive image in his career field they wouldn’t mind what he did although their lineage is that of leaders and scholars. He stopped for a bit to go into the army and when he came back he stumbles upon the mafia . His son grows up to also have a kid young Fon and his wife watch after Hibari until he’s around 7 while his son and daughter in law work extremely hard to get established in their career paths. They come back and one day Fon just vanished bc he’s cursed and hibaris dad knows he was in the mafia so he just doesn’t dwell on what might have happened but doesn’t share because he didn’t want to pain him as a bad guy to his son but they’re all pretty upset about it.

Fon taught hibari how to fight , that’s why he has his grandfathers disposition and tenacity although it’s a tad immature in comparison. Fon tells him his style will be what he picks and hibari randomly picks tonfas as his weapon. Fon has it in his house because although he uses no weapons he’s fond of their history. Fon gets him a pair of silver ones.

He’s not the brightest, he’s not as terrible as Tsuna and Yamamoto but he’s average academically. He’s not interested in excelling academically and getting a painfully respectable job like doctor lawyer or something in business. And I think his air of nonchalant attitude can only come from a trust fund kid who’s parents don’t expect them to be their carbon copy.

He literally gets himself held back just to stick around a middle school he likes and nobody objects or is worried about his future. It’s definitely secured.

He really doesn’t care about the disciplinary committee members because he didn’t mean to form it. Students have a love hate relationship with him. He was just some scary strong guy who happened to beat up the right people who were pests and they thought he did it for the good of everyone. But they realized too late that it’s really just who irritates him and that sometimes coincides with their best interest so they let it be because he’s a comforting and unsettling presence to have. Like even Tsuna acknowledges this despite being terrified of him most the time he’s always like “wait Hibari will handle it”

He likes that he has disciples because it’s a crowd he’s apart of and is the center of but doesn’t have to be too close and nobody can kick him out or make him feel unwanted.

His parents actually like that he’s respected (oblivious to the fear) as the leader of this club around town because their family is known for strong leadership and he’s applied it to what he wanted.

He likes hamburger steak because when his parents came back his mom liked to test American recipes once she moved back to Japan. This was the only one he really liked enough to ask for again

He can’t cook. At all. Hopeless. Would burn water.

He would kill you for a well made dessert. They put him in a good mood but he’s a weirdo that doesn’t like rewarding himself so it has to be a gift or offered.

He actually likes band t shirts ripped jeans boots and all of that but hardly wears it out because he finds he likes being in his uniform more.

He’s a good boxer because everyone seems to forget he won a BOXING match for royhei. Hello he couldn’t use tonfas he actually had to punch ppl. Yeah he’s strong but that’s a style of fighting he definitely learned from Fon.

He jogs on a private trail around his families property, sometimes his father joins him.

His parents know him really well. He’s not a difficult kid to them. they’re the only ones he answers to but even then they raised him to be independent so they’re not that authoritative over him.

He has a hard time listening to them because he thinks they leave him to govern himself too much and shouldn’t only get a say sometimes.

They feel bad about leaving him to his grandparents for so long but his mother says she’ll never regret making sure their lives were better for him.

They have a good relationship give or take a few problems stemming from their separation from him.

He can draw really well. I don’t know why. But he just does. He does it often on random papers his only collection being a small box his mother keeps of them. He hates when she saves them.

He’s the baby of his entire family but his father is on the higher end of his family and same with his mother for hers so everyone is always asking to see him but he refuses to leave Namimori for longer than a day or two.

He has a sister. Idk. I just feel he has a sibling that’s either way older or a toddler that spends time on trips with their mother because she doesn’t have school yet.

He watches horror movies with his parents a lot. But they have to be psychological thrillers and he always has to fight his dad with his mom on what everything meant.

He’s spoiled. He’s nonchalant about everything but when it comes down to it he is a trust fund baby who would have been sent to a nice private high school abroad.

He has been arrested but his father being his father makes an arrangement with the police force in Nami where he’s just his own independent junior division. It would explain why the people in his committee look significantly older than him sometimes😭.

Tetsyua has always been the only member who’s name he learned because he doesn’t disappoint him. He is to him what Shoichi was to Byakuran , competent in other areas and capable of surprising him. And he never made Hibari feel like he had to say anything to him for that hibari considers him to be a good friend.

Tetsu and Ryohei are the only people he finds familiar and respectable enough to converse with like a normal fucking teenager 😭.

Royhei is loud but he doesn’t mind him because the boy is ALWAYS alone training. And like him he doesn’t backdown from a fight , also he causes no trouble at school.

He hangs out with him more than you’d think but he never initiates it or stops it.

Hibari lets Royhei use his private trail to jog sometimes. His parents know the sasagawa kids well because of this, they get invited to dinner a lot.

He likes kyoko better because she’s like a quieter Royhei but just as kind and determined. He tries to be nice to her by greeting her from them to time but stops because she popular and it draws attention and annoying rumors.

She says he really hates crowds and understands how nosy people in their grade are and says it’s okay if he doesn’t wave back sometimes. She assumes he’s actually extremely shy and misunderstood. (Sis he’s just a delinquent)

It’s platonic but he actually fond of her and is nice to her and they text from time to time. She’s the only one who knows to give him sweets because they talk about them.

He tries to get revenge on Mukuro for making him associate something he actually liked enough to go view (Sakura) with humiliation and anger that he tries to return the favor. The bastard loves nothing that much so he’s still thinking.

His parents think some girl broke up with him at a Sakura filled place and that’s why he suddenly hates it. He won’t explain they’re wrong because it’s better than the real story.

He’s a history buff , but a world history buff not just Japan.

He has an admirable garden that he tends to and sells half the vegetables his chef only cooks for three and doesn’t need that many.

He likes the snow he thinks it’s calming when everyone stays home in their house while outside is cold and harsh but pretty. He makes his parents special hot chocolate on days like that. They let him drink hot wine sometimes but only a sip or two.

He’s bilingual because his parents taught him Italian when he was younger after they had come back. They also taught him a little English.

He watches a lot of American media and listens to their music as well.

On his birthday he never goes out because it’s a holiday and more people are out than usual so his family has a dinner for him and get him gifts.

His mother gives more thoughtful gifts that he appreciates later while his father indulges him and gets him stuff like a popular manga series or a meeting to upgrade his tonfas again or clothing he really likes.

[joebrickwoll]

I agree with what you said in the tags of the last answer. Lots of twitter ppl seem to be critical of his post-game quotes and use that to criticize his character but they always get shortened (steve simmonds notoriously cuts out freddie's words), english isn't his first language and uhh he's not a forward who can default to "we need to get pucks deep". the team loves him, they've made that so clear over the years, countless of times. i seriously don't get the hate

listen I get that he’s a millionaire white boy and all that but you’re right there has always been an air of xenophobia to it all, additionally the guy didn’t play his developmental hockey in canada or the states so he’s not always very good at the hockey media speak but besides that he just often gets his words taken out of context or misunderstood/misrepresented.

like I said though fans also just don’t understand reserved or introverted people and they mistake it for him being detached or apathetic, they think he doesn’t care enough and as a result doesn’t work hard enough, it’s the same bullshit willy gets all the time. he also doesn’t self flagellate every time he makes a mistake which I actually think is healthy but is something people cream themselves over whenever jack does it so they tend to see him as arrogant in comparison. it’s all just an ugly tapestry.

[galvanizedfriend]

I dont think ppl understand the difference between character bashing and calling a character out, I love love love fics where Caroline calls Elena out on her double standard bs, or gives Hayley a piece of her mind for actively trying to pursue a person who is clearly in a committed relationship, but when calling a character out on their flaws (which even caroline has loads and loads of ex: Caroline is the most notorious slut-shamer in the entire show) becomes demonising them it leaves such a sour taste in my mouth, like you know what we have enough canon characters in the show who are the most evil villains but are painted as white manpain experiencing misunderstood heroes, vilify them as they should be, instead of making a generously flawed female character who at the end of the day may or may not be good but is definitely not BAD a evil bitch.

I just think there’s a lot of revenge writing in fandom, and it’s mostly against the female characters. All these characters are genuinely flawed and have made tons of mistakes over the course of both shows, but somehow I feel that the real reason they get that treatment is resentment. Sure, explore all of their flaws, have conflicts, that’s great. They don’t have to be perfect and they certainly don’t have to like each other. They can even be villains or straight-out enemies. There can even be petty jealousy involved. So long as that’s all acknowledged for what it is and treated fairly. 9/10, Hayley and Cami are bitches because they dared to get involved with Klaus and whatever mistreatment they get, it’s well deserved. I’ve seen stories where Caroline kills Cami out of jealousy. Where Klaus kills her because Caroline was uncomfortable. Where Hayley gets murdered because she was in the way of KC being together. Honestly...

And don’t even get me started on Elena. I don’t get this fandom’s treatment of her, really don’t.

TVD is awful towards its female characters as a whole. None of them gets fair treatment. I’m very big on female friendships and sorority and I don’t see why we, as a fandom, can’t make that better than canon did. I used to be the kind of person who hated women in shows when I was younger (especially the ones in the way of my ships), but as I got closer to my 30s I realized how conditioned we are to see women as rivals and simply hate them based on the male opinion that is always, always, woven into how these shows are written. Now I can’t stand that.

On that note, I would like to mention two writers who have done AMAZING jobs at portraying complex female friendships/relationships, not always amicable, and who have done justice to female characters who get so villified by fandom.

@klarolineagainnaturally with her amazing fic Psychedelic Kicks does a BEAUTIFUL job of portraying the most complex variety of female friendships. Caroline’s conversation with Hayley is one of my favorite parts of the story!

And @idiot--wind, who acknowledged Hayley and Camille in her TO rewriting (a true masterpiece and the definitive TO rewriting!) in such fair, beautiful ways, also building a fantastic bond between Caroline and Hope. It’s just RIGHT.

So thank you to all the writers out there doing fine, fine jobs in fixing this stupid trend of lashing out on the women! I really appreciate and admire you!