#I AM lgbtq+ people

[sadkachow]

hey. hey you.

look at that character you’re headcanoning as a trans man.

are you headcanoning him that way because you think it’s interesting, or because he’s a twink and acts kind of feminine?

if you write about him, do you treat him the same way you do your other characters, or is he distinctly separated?

can he handle himself, or is he always the damsel in distress? do you have someone bigger and stronger than him always save him?

do you make him act more childish or confused? is he super innocent and needs someone wiser to guide him?

are you willing to explore what his transness means, or do you just think it makes him hotter?

did you make him trans because you wanted to write him as the bottom? is he trans because you wanted him pregnant without "technically" writing mpreg?

are you willing to headcanon big strong men as trans men? old men? not stereotypically attractive men? men of color? fat men? disabled men?

is his transness a part of him or do you just treat it is a prop?

on the other hand, is he more than just his transness, or is that all there is to him?

do you include other queer and trans people in your work? how do you treat them in your writing?

how do you treat actual trans men? trans men who dont pass? trans men who do? who dont feel comfortable being perceived as feminine? who present in a more feminine way? who identify as more than just a man? who arent just white twinkish silly feminine men? who are kids, meaning you can’t just sexualize them? who are more than just props to be used within a story to push the plot along?

are you willing to listen to trans men who speak out on their issues, or does that seperate them too far from the fantasy you’ve concocted about them?

how do you treat trans men?

[uncanny-tranny]

A few tips for young trans men/boys, transmascs, anybody who wants tips:

If somebody makes you insecure about your masculinity or manhood, 9/10 times, they're trying to sell you something (and the "something" won't be worth you fretting about)

Wash your face before shaving and use a good shaving cream. Always make sure your razors are sharp

Your body doesn't need to look like a Hollywood star's body. They are most certainly dehydrated, and they are not a realistic depiction of a masculine or male form

Dress in whatever way is most comfortable, including dressing like Adam Sandler

Military-grade is often used as a marketing scheme, save your money

If you aren't happy right now, one day you will be. This is a threat and a promise

Your emotions are not "good" or "bad," they are emotions. Let yourself feel them even if they are uncomfortable

Masculinity and/or being a man are yours to define, and I cannot stress how important it is to have a relationship with your masculinity and/or manhood that is defined by you

You're allowed to have any relationship with your pre-coming out self that you want or makes the most sense with your realization that you're trans

[justdavina]

Sexy makeup worn by a goth transgender girl. I love her dress.. as always I love shear dresses with see through arms. Her hair is magical!

AI ?

[xiaq]

No, but lets talk about this. I dug out my grad school notes and everything.

So my grandmother is acting a fool on FB (what else is new).

And I can't respond to her because I might actually give her a heart attack if I shared some of the images included below. But I wanted to rant to someone so here we are. First, yes, the drag bit at the Olympics was inspired by The Feast of the Gods, by Dutch artist Jan van Bijlert in the 1630's, not The Last Supper mural by Italian artist Leonardo da Vinci, in the 1490's. And yes, pearl-clutching Christians need to touch grass and tone down the victimization because it's getting embarrassing. I think we've established this now from multiple reputable sources.

But like. Even if the Olympics DID make a drag parody of the The Last Supper, it's SO funny that Christians are holding up that painting as some sort of ideal heterosexual conservative icon when plenty of historians (including my Renaissance art prof in grad school) are certain da Vinci was gay. The man had no documented female lovers but was arrested for sodomy with a male prostitute (though charges were later dropped). He had extremely close relationships with his secretary Salaì and pupil/friend Francesco Melzi who both traveled the world and lived with him for most of their lives and through the end of his. When he died, Melzi wrote in a letter that there was "a burning and passionate love" between them. And Salaì modeled for da Vinci all the time--let me tell you, there are some hella erotic drawings of him. Exibit A:

But maybe heterosexuals draw their bros erect all the time and label the drawings "Angel Incarnate." Maybe.

Also if Christians really want to clutch their peals, this drawing might look familiar because da Vinci created his well known John the Baptist painting based on this and other sketches of Salaì.

Well, hello. Also worth noting: there are lots of fun doodles in da Vinci's sketch books, including things like the below--two dicks with legs poking at a butthole labeled Salaì.

Do you REALLY think that this (likely queer) man would care if someone based a drag show off one of his paintings?

[zzoupz]

here's my queer experience for pride month

[thehealingsystem]

It's so wild to me that as a community we're still so hostile to multigender and genderfluid people existing in gay and lesbian spaces.

You...are aware that people who are both men and women are allowed to be gay, right? And lesbian? Their other genders doesn't cancel their connection to womanhood, or manhood, or whatever else they id with. They are allowed to be gay despite their fem-alignment, and they are allowed to be lesbian despite their masc-alignment.

It comes from these weird online spaces that the standard to be gay or lesbian is to be a "non-woman" or a "non-man," which is inherently transmultiphobic and...extremely ahistorical. And completely misunderstands nonbinary identity. So if you're both then you just don't belong anywhere I suppose.

[raine-draws]

Random thoughts, and I need answers

[positively-bi]

Actually every time an aroallo has sex without romance an angel gets their wings so shut the fuck up

[youbutstupid]

A reminder that Aisha Tyler and Kirsten Vangsness are both openly queer women who have dated/been engaged to women and their identities do not deserve to be glossed over. They have both been open about their love for women and the LGBTQ+ community as a whole and just because the queer women of the show are not the skinny white ones, it does not mean that you get to ignore them.

[bolszaja-miedwedica]

it's pride month so reblog if you think that genderfluid, bigender, fem people who use the term "girlfriend" and she/her or she/he pronouns can identify as mlm, gay men or sth

[thelolarahaii]

BRIDGERTON 3.01 | "Out of the Shadows"

[uncanny-tranny]

Not a day goes by where I do not think about the advent of medicine like PrEP and wonder just what the people - especially queer people - who passed from HIV/AIDs during the AIDs crisis would think

And then, I read this survivor's testimony and it just makes me emotional. I think this is the closest answer we have. HIV has changed, and we must always remember the people who didn't see that change before it happened.

[thefangirlinsideofme]

tumblr is such a great website when you're trying to figure out your sexuality because apparently that's the hot topic in the world like everyone needs to know who's fucking who like it's their business, so conforming to these societal urges of strangers of "i need to know whats between your legs and also who you'd like to put there", i started questioning myself

i wanted to be able to be normal

but it didn't fit

i didn't fit

i was never actively looking for it, but i noticed that my experiences concerning relationships and sexuality kind of weren't like what i saw on tv

and i was baffled when i found out not everyone thinks that sex scenes in movies or tv shows were a goddamn waste of time and probably only made it on the screen to lengthen the epidode to their expected duration. no they were put there on purpose. and i was like why????

then i came across the term asexuality, and it was like the sky opened for angels to descend upon my horizon and sing the hymn of my people; i was literally like YES OMG THAT which i didn't say out loud because it happened while i was watching tv with my whole family and that was kinda awkward

after that i didn't put much thought into it. i made offhanded comments about it to a friend one time but i never mentioned it to anyone else because why. it's not something that just comes up in conversation and i never understood the hype around coming out (just MY opinion, i know a lot of people draw strength from saying their truth out loud YOU GO PEOPLE TELL EM SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOP)

ANYWAY

the point of this is

i found tumblr and, just, all the thoughts, doubts or questions i still have about myself i never bothered to answer because i literally don't care enough about knowing myself, all of that though, just comes up on my dash. just randomly. posts that reassure me. posts that are just like OMG EXACTLY YOU PUT IT INTO WORDS

in a world where no one in my life really gets asexuality, tumblr is a place where i don't have to feel like the odd one out.

and they really wouldn't get it. my family. they'd be supportive and nice about it obviously, but i don't think they'd be able to understand really what it means and frankly i'm too awkward to explain it to them but that's also totally fine because i know they love me for me, even the parts they don't know about.

and just for myself when i think i might be faking all this for attention while i'm telling no one about it (make it make sense), ace tumblr finds me with a hot chocolate, a blanket and a hug and says hey i've put this ace feeling into words do you relate and i cry and say yes yes i do thank you ace tumblr

and then i'm fine again :)

[discountgospel]

of losing. of wanting

[hello-im-queer]

I asked my alloallo friend (maybe alloro and ace they don't know rlly) why people cheat on their partners.

They said something along the lines of 'well they get bored but still love their partner but want to try something new cuz the spark from the start of the relationship isn't there anymore. They just wanna try somebody else to figure out if they still love their partner'

Like

Huh???

Just talk???? Why would you risk that there's a person who loves you so much will hate you because you did it with another person? If they'd talk, there's maybe a bit of hurt, yes, but it's all morally okay you know? Communicate!!!! If you don't communicate how would your partner know that you're getting bored and think abt other people? Like that's so fucked up

Aroace conclusion: just talk or break up ffs

[locusfandomtime]

see, i was going to make a genuine (albeit still jokey) one of these, but I think this is way funnier.