#Homemaker Care

[samwisethewitch]

*takes your face gently in my hands and looks sincerely into your eyes* listen. your home does not need to look like a showroom. homes are meant to be lived in, and that means a certain amount of mess. it's okay if there is clutter on your desk or if you don't remember the last time you cleaned your oven. mess is morally neutral. but at the same time, you deserve to live in an environment that is safe and comfortable, and that means someone has to clean sometimes. things like mold, spoiled food, and dirty litter boxes are genuine health hazards and need to be dealt with before they make someone sick. think of cleaning less as "my home needs to be completely spotless" and more as "I am an animal and I need a habitat that is free of hazardous material." it's okay. *kisses you on the forehead and tucks you into a blanket*

(and of course it is always acceptable and even good for you to ask someone else to help you with cleaning if it's physically or mentally difficult for you. even if you're paying them to do it.)

[georgiahealthcarefamilysvcsinc]

Among the things we should be thankful for is to have the chance to reach senior years and have extra time to continue doing the things that we love and enjoy either by ourselves or with the most special people in our lives. But there may come a time in our senior lives when we’ll meet health challenges like illness, injury, disability, etc., which can threaten our independence. If ever these circumstances occur to us, we need some form of assistance from professional care providers.

[fayriequeene]

Some cookies I baked for myself 😌🌸🌼

[lunarharp]

being attached to that moment qifrey held a baby one time and my ideas for the future :)

[xiaonyc]

˖⁺ ⊹ 𝓫𝓪𝓫𝔂𝓼 no-oven pizza recipe <3 ⊹ ⁺ ˖

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✩ crust: 1.5 tsp instant yeast, 1 tsp sugar, 1 C warm water, 2.5 C flour, 2 T oil, 1 tsp salt

✩ sauce: 1 tomato (diced), 4 T tomato paste, water (enough to thin sauce), salt, pepper, oregano to taste [opt. pinch of sugar, 1 grated garlic, 1 T minced onion]

✩ toppings: onion, mushroom, sharp cheddar

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sauce: combine all ingredients

crust: mix yeast, sugar, + warm water (rest 10 min), add flour, salt, oil, knead till smooth (rest 5 min), roll out into 2 discs (makes 2 med pizzas)

toppings: sauté onion and mushrooms (optional)

cook: Oil skillet and Assemble pizza on it, drizzle with olive oil and oregano, turn on heat to med, add 1/4 C water around edges when pan heats up, cover with lid on low heat and cook until water all evaporated (~10 min)

𝓍𝒾𝒶𝑜 says "Spongy crust and crispy bottom, is delicious and kid-friendly <3 enjoy! ^_^"

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T = tablespoon, C = cup, all dividers and photos by me, please do not use without permission.

[miraculouslbcnreactions]

What's your opinion on malewife/house husband Adrien posts? I asked this to another blog, and like I said to them, I find them a guilty pleasure: The concept is cute, but I know that would be the last thing Adrien would ever wanna be after all his dad put him through.

I don't think that it would be the last thing that Adrien would ever want. I actually think it suits his character in a lot of ways, you just have to handle the topic with care.

First let's talk about why it suits him.

Miraculous has totally failed to give Adrien any sort of career-based passion and - if we ignore the senti complication - I honestly love that for him! I want more characters with no major life ambitions to balance out the Marinettes of the world!

I think that society places way too much pressure and value on finding the perfect career that fulfills us in every way while also allowing us to put food on the table. Most people will never find that and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you've failed or that you're lesser. For most people, the goal is to find a career that pays the bills and that you enjoy enough that you don't hate doing it 40hrs/week. Along similar lines, for most people, your passion will be something that doesn't make money. It will be something like a hobby or spending time with those you love or analyzing badly written French TV shows.

This brings us back to Adrien.

Adrien seems to get a great deal of joy from being around his loved ones and making them happy, so I can absolutely picture him finding a lot of joy in running a home. This is extra true because Marinette is pretty clearly career driven and she's planning to go into a creative field, so she'll probably have a pretty crazy schedule and struggle to stay on top of it all. Having a loving husband to take things like cooking and cleaning off of her plate would be a blessing and a gift that she'd greatly appreciate, but that would feel unbalanced if Adrien was working, too. (Yes, they could hire staff, but that risks the secret identity thing, so I don't see them doing that.)

If they both have power careers, then they'd barely see each other and I hate that for them. I think that it would make Adrien incredibly sad and depressed. Plus, while Marinette thrives off of competition and staying busy, only needing occasional breaks before diving right back in, Adrien seems to hate busy schedules and heavy work loads.

Given all of that, I think that there's a lot to be said for Adrien stepping away from the working world. Especially since he's been in it for years and being a child celebrity is no joke! I think it would be nice for him to escape from strict schedules and expectations. Dinner fails? Order takeout!

While we're on the topic of food, I really like the idea of Adrien falling in love with cooking. Dude needs a creative outlet and that's honestly a great one (I hate it when people write characters as unable to figure out cooking like it's some cute quirk. While an initial struggle is believable, it's not a mystical art that takes years of practice. Between YouTube, the wider Internet, and maybe some classes if he wants to get fancy, I think that he'll be fine.) There's so much variety with what you can do in the kitchen and the end result gets to be shared and appreciated by those you love. It just seems like a perfect fit for him, but I would never make him a professional chef because the hours are insane and the pressure to be perfect is high. I only see him loving it as a hobby where he can go at his own pace, take days off, and make lazy meals when he's not feeling like being a show off.

The big concerns that come with making him a homemaker are a lack of financial independence and a lack of socialization. I don't see the first thing as an issue for Adrien since he comes from a wealthy family, so that one doesn't phase me.

The isolation could very easily be an issue, but it could just as easily be a problem if he started working, too. It's not as if a job is a sure way to have friends or even just consistent positive social interactions, which is another reason why I don't really see a need to give him a traditional job. You can get a vibrant social life in lots of other ways.

Here are the two big things that I keep in mind when writing an Adrien-as-a-homemaker or similar setup as it is where I tend to have Adrien land for all of the above reasons:

Adrien needs to be active in some organization or project. Volunteer work is a good fit as is being an active stay-at-home parent or some combination of the two. Voice acting is also on my radar, but my default is to have him act as the head of team miraculous' out-of-battle activities. Scheduling meet and greets. Going to see sick kids. Jetting around the world for humanitarian aid missions. Basically let Chat Noir be his "career" which gives him a lot of much needed flexibility for making his own schedule, especially if he's a stay-at-home parent to any eventual kids. I also like the poetic nature of Adrien finally being proud to be the face of a "brand" via his hero side while his civilian side becomes just some guy that people kind of remember from old ads.

Consider having a non-traditional living arrangement. I am a big fan of hero teams living together, so my default is to take the Agreste mansion and remodel it into a secret HQ for the team. Adrien and Marinette would have their own apartment/wing/whatever, but they'd still be surrounded by their found family on a near-daily basis, so that social isolation is the last thing on Adrien's mind. There's almost always someone to hang out with! You could also just have Alya and Nino or other friends live in the same apartment building so that they're over a lot/Adrien has a place to hang when Marinette is working late because you know that she'd do that.

Basically, Adrien's rich, so he doesn't need to make money and he doesn't seem to have any interest in a normal job, so I really like letting him having a unique life where he doesn't have a traditional job. He is a superhero, after all. Unique career paths are pretty par for the course. You just have to be careful to make sure that all of this feels like his fully informed and carefully considered choice and not like you forced it on him to make Marinette's life perfect (I only brought her up earlier because this is a story and it makes sense to design characters around each other). I usually do this by sending Adrien to therapy in his late teens or by giving him some other parth of self discovery.

Do note that all of the above is inspired by my read of Adrien which may be totally different from your read of him and that's fine! I just can't picture him as someone who thrives in a traditional career path based on knowing people who strike me as similar to him and from whom I draw my understanding of how to write that part of Adrien's character. I think that he'd be perfectly able to have a traditional career path, but I also think that he'd be pretty miserable for a lot of reasons.

I'll also note that I'm not sure what posts spawned this ask, so there may be elements of those that I'd have criticisms of. This post was about the general concept of Adrien being a homemaker. I tend to avoid the broader fandom for my own sanity and the use of the term "malewife" has me concerned that I'm implying support of something I wouldn't actually support because that's a new one for me and it sounds incredibly sexist.

I'm not a fan of implying that the default definition of "wife" is "submissive homemaker" so a man taking on a homemaking role is clearly submissive and acting like a woman does while his aggressive, domineering wife is acting like a man, which is the definition of this word that I'm finding online and yikes! Wife and husband are legal/social status in my book. They are not clearly defined jobs/roles/personality types, so I'm not a fan of using gendered terms to refer to stuff like this especially since I do actively try to use gender neutral words in my own writing whenever I can, though I'm certainly far from perfect on that front.

I also don't see homemaking as a submissive act. It certainly can be, but that's not how I picture Adrien at all! I picture him as relaxed and plesent, but 100% in charge of the home and all choices about how it's run. I also see him being in charge of their finances like homemakers often were in the "old days" since they were the ones in charge of things like scheduling cleaners, buying food, and other things that needed strong budgeting skills while the person who worked wasn't actually spending money or managing the home since they were at work. I like to think that Nathalie would prep Adrien to be a wealthy man and so he'd have strong skills in finance management.

[melisssg99]

Today I went to the hospital to finally get an official diagnosis for my fibromyalgia. (I apparently didn't get an 'official' diagnosis before)(long story)

Basically I was told that of all tests I score higher than whats required for it to be recognised as fibromyalgia.

So I guess I might have fibromyalgia+deluxe edition😆

Had some blood drawn to make sure that it's "just" fibro and not maybe something different or more that might be causing all my symptoms.

Next week I'll visit again and hear the results and what our next steps will be.

I feel so lucky.

My doctor really seemed to get me and was so nice to me.

She was very clear and helpful.

It's good to feel understood and not feel like my pain is not taken seriously and that I have to "proof" myself.

[viviah]

I saw some "trad" blogs, thought it was thinly veiled fetish stuff, and it was. There's nothing traditional about posting porn, yuck. God created intimacy to be between a married couple and NOT whomever happens upon their social media.

[theseancekid]

okay but that throwaway line in s4 where Klaus talked about cutting coupons was actually so fucking funny to me. I didn't love the germophobe take, but I do genuinely love to think about Klaus in a domestic setting. getting all excited when his favorite brand of cookies is on sale asfdfxcajsfdgcjgfc he's so cute i can't stand it

[samwisethewitch]

People seem to like when I share my ADHD homemaking tips on here, so here's one I've recently figured out: sometimes, when I'm struggling to find motivation to cook meals, it's not because I don't want to cook but is instead a classic case of neurodivergent executive function weirdness. When this happens, trying a new recipe that's easy, low stakes, and made with ingredients I already know I like can give me the hit of dopamine I need to actually do the thing.

Like today, I decided to finally try that sushi bake recipe that went viral a few months ago. It has like five ingredients, took less than an hour from start to finish (and most of that was cooking time), and was even tastier than I hoped!

And served with some sliced cucumber and avocado, it makes for a pretty balanced/nutritious meal.

Sometimes a silly little TikTok recipe is enough to bypass the ADHD executive dysfunction spiral.

[mistyhollowcottage]

Self Care for the Pregnant SAHM

This is what I’ve been doing for myself this pregnancy, feel free to take what works and leave what doesn’t 🌿

Get enough sleep - you need more sleep when you’re pregnant (8-10 hours!!) and you absolutely are no good to anyone if you’re trying to operate on less than ideal sleep. Obviously some nights are just hard nights, but don’t be tempted to “steal” time for yourself after your other kids go to bed. Ideally you’d be in bed and asleep between 9-10pm.

Create a solid bedtime routine - for me this looks like: toddler in bed at 8, tidy any remaining scattered toys, hop in the shower, lotion lotion lotion, wash face, brush teeth, put hair in braids, climb in bed to read for a bit, sleep

Wake up earlier than your kids - even just thirty minutes earlier gives you a much needed slow start to your day. This will give you enough time to brush your teeth, brush your hair, get dressed, and start some coffee so you can be ready for anything the day throws at you. Don’t underestimate the importance of getting a quiet moment to yourself.

Daily walks - it’s getting colder but that doesn’t mean you want to skip on getting some fresh air and exercise. Walking is so good for your body while pregnant and it’s a great way to strap in any toddlers you may have for 20-30 minutes of silence (hopefully!)

Nap time is your time - every day this might look different but you should try your best to carve out a little bit of time for something YOU want to do. Maybe the mirrors have been driving you crazy and that’s what you want to do, or maybe you’re really into the book you’re reading, or maybe you have a project you’ve been dying to finish. Just make sure to do something for you.

Finally, accept that you are not in a “get everything done perfectly” season of life - gourmet meals? Forget about it. The crockpot is your friend. Workout classes? It might just not be your time. Take your walk and invest in a couple of weights to do a quick workout at home. Heck, you might end up all night sick, your kids might come knocking at 5am, or your day might get filled with kids movies and a teething toddler. It’s okay. This is just a season.

[theadhdhomemaker]

Creating a Cozy and Chaotic Haven: Welcome to The ADHD Homemaker

Home is where the heart is, and as homemakers, we have the incredible privilege of shaping and nurturing that heart. Welcome to The ADHD Homemaker, your online guide to the art of homemaking. Whether you're a seasoned homemaker or just beginning your journey, you've found a welcoming space where we celebrate the magic of home.

The ADHD Homemaker isn't just a blog; it's a community of people who are passionate about learning more about homemaking and finding peace within the chaos of this crazy world. Here, we explore the many facets of homemaking, from organization and decor to cooking, cleaning, and everything in between.

I believe in the transformative power of homemaking. It's not just about keeping a tidy house; it's about cultivating a nurturing environment that reflects your personality and values. Homemaking is an art, a labor of love, and we're here to help you embrace it with enthusiasm.

This blog is your resource for all things homemaking, offering a wealth of ideas, advice, and inspiration. In the upcoming posts, we'll dive deep into various aspects of homemaking, including:

Home Decor: Discover tips and tricks for decorating your living spaces to reflect your style and create an inviting ambiance.

Cooking and Recipes: Explore delicious recipes, cooking techniques, and meal planning ideas for all skill levels.

Organization and Cleaning: Learn how to keep your home tidy and efficient, making daily life smoother and more enjoyable.

DIY Projects: Get creative with DIY projects and crafts to add a personal touch to your home.

Homemaking is a labor of love, and it's even more rewarding when shared with a like-minded community. We encourage you to share your insights, ask questions, and engage with us and fellow homemakers. Together, we can make the journey of homemaking more enjoyable and fulfilling.

I am thrilled to have you join me on this homemaking adventure. Together, we'll find joy in everyday life, create spaces that envelop us with comfort, and turn our houses into homes filled with love. Stay tuned for our upcoming posts, and let's embark on this journey of homemaking and heartwarming together.

Thank you for becoming a part of our homemaking family!

[homemakinghippie]

[xiaonyc]

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Self-improvement aka glow up and show up healing the wounds and becoming a strong mama

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❍ Defining my boundaries w social media pt II

❍ Defining my boundaries w social media

❍ bday baby glow up ♡

❍ Personal Check-in

Cooking aka domestic goddess diaries

❍ cooking_.log photo diary

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Art

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[wri0thesley]

i also think yan scara and albedo would have no interest in babytrapping partly because those two are drowning in mommy issues. i'm of the opinion that both of them are drawn to 'maternal' or that kind of caring figure (because they didn't have it themselves), but they're also greedy for their darling's attentions. they don't want to share with someone else, most especially not a child who you might love more than them. they almost want to be mothered themselves.

[citronavalkiro]

So I am a homemaker mostly because I can’t work a full time job due to my disabilities which I collect SSDI for. I see a lot of these posts about tradwives and housewives being domestic goddesses while my own house is a mess because it is difficult keeping up with housework. My first year of not working I tried to do the whole tradwife thing and do whatever I could to make my husband happy but I found after a while I couldn’t keep that act anymore because I was ignoring my own needs and not speaking up when I needed help. It’s great if you want to be a housewife or SAHM but it is important to still practice self care and not ignore your own mental health in favor of your husband and kids because failing to do so is not sustainable. It was so liberating when I allowed myself to ask for help when I realized I wouldn’t be a nag. I think it is something to keep in mind as a homemaker that self care is important and doesn’t make you bad or lazy. After all most of those ads from the 50s we like to emulate only represent a very idealized life of that time. Most husbands at that time were still dealing with a lot of trauma from WWII after all. I still love being a homemaker even if I don’t quite fit that mold but that is okay.