#Done That

[aflawedfashion]

Putting Melanie, Ben, Till, and Audrey on the train and then only letting it last for one episode where they time skip over everything was an offense against me personally

[rat-at-heart]

Bean there, done that -him

[notbeingnoticed]

[syrena-del-mar]

Alan honestly comes across as the textbook “nice guy.” (Which isn’t hard when you have First playing him, who is an actual nice guy). You know, the nice guy that acts nice until they don’t get their way and when they don’t, they take on a whole different persona that you wouldn’t expect because of how they presented themselves as the nice guy. Alan can be a “nice guy” and still raise red flags, especially how he postures himself when talking to Wen. 

It’s important to also consider the timeline in which they are living in. This is taking place during mid Covid-19. The show alludes to all the financial struggles due to the economy and Wen himself states that he’s living paycheck-to-paycheck. It makes sense that Wen is stuck living with his ex. It happens all the time to couples, sometimes no matter how much you may want to leave, there are extrinsic (in this case, financial) factors that impede your ability. 

And! In every interaction that Wen and Alan have together, Wen is more than crystal clear that there is nothing left in between them, even if they are still living together due to circumstances. 

First, the interaction they had when they were sharing a bed together. The moment that Wen feels Alan is snuggling up to him, Wen wakes up and tells Alan to move off of him. There’s a certain coldness in the way that Wen tells him to move, as if its been something already discussed. 

The next scene, Alan and Wen are having breakfast. Alan doesn’t even ask if Wen wants to go to the party of their mutual friend, he simply states, “You’re going.” He took away any choice from Wen and expected Wen to go along with the charade that they were still together. Wen put a stop to that and even states that pretending that they’re together makes him uncomfortable. ‘Pretending’ is the key word, signifying that they already discussed that their relationship has ended. 

Then, when Wen arrives the next morning, Alan reprimands Wen for not notifying him that he wouldn’t make it home that night and for not picking up his phone. There’s no relationship there! Wen already stated as such. Alan is crossing a line that has already been drawn, there was no reason to attempt to scold Wen, when Alan is nothing to him. He’s not his lover and not his parents, so if Wen doesn’t want to let him know that he’s not coming home, he doesn’t have to and that pisses Alan off. 

Wen also tells Alan that he’s moving out and that he found a condo to stay out. Wen is giving Alan a heads up so he can figure out his living situation, that wasn’t a comment for him throw it in his face whether he’s moving in with a boyfriend. Even if he was! It’s! Not! His! Business! 

The final straw is when Alan seeks out Gong, asking for information on Uncle Jim, just because Wen posts him on his IG story. A) Wen has made it clear that they’re not in a relationship anymore B) who Wen spends his time with is none of his business C) going to a mutual friend to find out is overstepping a huge line when it’s clear Wen doesn’t want Alan in his life. 

To top it off, whatever the final straw was for Wen, Alan plays it off as if Wen was being too much since he did it with good intentions. Gong even states that no matter if his actions were well-intentioned, he should have considered Wen’s opinion. I swear Alan’s posturing as if he knows what’s better for Wen kills me. 

Then he actually goes and tracks down where Wen is with Uncle Jim and asks if they’ve slept together! The way that he pushes Wen down, as well, he didn’t stop to think until he saw that Wen fell. Talk about overstepping, he really ran through the line that was drawn by tracking them down and then resorting to violence. 

It really doesn’t matter that they live together or that Alan has unresolved feelings. Wen has made it clear through his actions and verbally that there is nothing left for them. Wen even stated that what they were pretending for their mutual friend and even just pretending made him uncomfortable. I don’t know how much clearer Wen has to be. 

Alan isn’t in limbo with his relationship, Wen made his intentions clear in ending the relationship. Alan just can’t believe or come to terms that Wen doesn’t want him. Living together, sharing common spaces, doesn’t equal a welcome into his personal life just because they used to be together and Alan can’t seem to accept that. 

I get it, relationships make people do crazy things, jealousy can be a bitch, but that doesn’t give an excuse for literally stalking your ex and abusing the situation. 

TLDR; Alan is a walking red flag “nice guy” that can’t accept that just because he loves Wen that doesn’t mean that Wen has to love him. 

[pr1ncessk1tty]

[theydrian]

https://open.spotify.com/album/0O6onBuhBVzHtJb9bk4rOV?si=of8i3AE4S-2ZniK4bdWm7w

suffer

Nah

[00blackbird]

«El capitán quería protegerla. Porque a una mujer siempre había que cuidarla, al ser incapaz de cuidarse por sí misma. Iba ser cuestionada de todos modos, sólo porque su anatomía era distinta a la del resto de marineros. Sus capacidades serían puestas en duda porque sus manos eran más finas, su piel más pálida y suave. Iban a condenarla si jugaba con el capitán, pero también si no le seguía la corriente. Un «sí» o un «no» no tendrían diferencia alguna. Si acababa metida en su cama sería la consentida inútil del capitán. Si no lo hacía hablarían de la estrecha que calentó lo que no pretendía comer. Escogiera el camino que fuera, iba a perder. ¿No sería mejor elegir aquél que, al menos, le aportaría algo de diversión? Si iban a quemarla igual, por lo menos que mereciera la pena. —Te he dicho que no seas condescendiente —espetó antes de girar sobre sus talones. Su ceño quedó fruncido mientras caminaba, apretando los puños hasta notar las uñas clavándose en las palmas de sus manos. El hombre cuidando de la integridad de la mujer, tal y como repetía la historia. Poniendo en tela de juicio sus propias decisiones. Era tan injusto que le quemaba en la piel, le retorcía las entrañas y le hacía querer gritar hasta enmudecer. —¡Apártate! —ladró a Hjörn cuando quiso ayudarla. ¿Querían que demostrara sus aptitudes? Les enseñaría a esa panda de energúmenos lo que era capaz de hacer. Estiró con fuerza del cabo, apretando los dientes y gruñendo por el esfuerzo. Obcecada en la tarea y amenazando con la mirada al estúpido hombre que todavía intentaba acercarse.»

Owena Kerdoncuff en @kaelkoth.

[raphwshere]

people DIED

[ao3feed-tomarry-harrymort]

Been There, Done That

Been There, Done That

by lemonchase

There was a time when Harry would have been appalled at the thought of putting his mouth anywhere near a guy���s cock but that time is long gone. By now, he has found his peace with the fact that he’ll always find himself kneeling between somebody’s feet sooner or later.

Words: 1258, Chapters: 1/1, Language: English

Fandoms: Harry Potter - J. K. Rowling

Rating: Explicit

Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings

Categories: M/M

Characters: Harry Potter, Tom Riddle | Voldemort

Relationships: Harry Potter/Tom Riddle | Voldemort

Additional Tags: Extremely Dubious Consent, Implied/Referenced Rape/Non-con, Blow Jobs, Jaded Harry Potter, Asphyxiation, Misunderstandings, Teenage Tom Riddle, Teenage Harry Potter, Alternate Universe, Harry Potter & Tom Riddle Attend Hogwarts Together, Explicit Sexual Content, Ambiguous/Open Ending, Hopeful Ending, Dark, Abused Harry Potter, Tom Riddle is His Own Warning

Read Here: https://archiveofourown.org/works/48883960

[laestoica]

Sylvia Plath

[fandomfairyuniverse]

Ah yes. Having a crush on someone who’s already in a relationship. The eternal struggle

[evilmark999]

Harbor Trait Fools

...and that...

OH BOY!

[paintedcrows]

They do this every year...

Happy 25th to Dipdop and Lebam!! and Happy 17th to Hatsune Miku!! 🎉🎉

(comic continued: The M&M stands for...)

[skipppppy]

I was cooking on twitter today

[red-dead-sakharine]

I'm sorry, but I disagree.

Yes, make an effort to connect. But just because you love someone, you don't have to force yourself to particiate in everything.

This breeds toxic expectations. You have your own life. You can tell them "This is not my cup of tea" or "I'll look at this later".

You don't have to force yourself to share everything, even if you have zero interest in it.

When someone you love offers a bid for connection, you say yes every time. When someone sends you an article, a video, a funny post, it’s a bid for connection. They are trying to connect with you. When someone shares details about their day, their life, their thoughts, or their feelings with you, that is a bid for connection. They want to connect with you on a deeper level. They are trying to pull you into their world. If you love them, you say yes every time. Yes, even if the article they send is not particularly interesting to you. Yes, even if it means listening to them ramble about a game you don’t care about and think is stupid. Yes yes yes. And let’s hope they always say yes to your bids, too.