#Dating Rules

[creatingnikki]

not a camel. I cannot store your affection and attention that you so generously shower me with on a Tuesday afternoon to bank on for the rest of the week when you forget I am your “baby”. the fault doesn’t lie in you, though. it lies in me. how can I drink from a sea that I don’t even know? how can I accept anything without knowing who you are? I’m not starving anymore, I’ve grown to provide the bare minimum for myself. so, a little bit of patience and due diligence is possible now? you’re not an investment — but my emotions are precious. I cannot just get attached. I have to evaluate. do not fault me for that; you out of everyone should understand.

[sadnesshasanappeal]

[prettypupp]

i dont understand dating rules and it makes it so difficult to actually feel confident and sure when i do want to date people bevause the rules just dont make sense

i fall in love with people im friends with for a while so a lot of dating rules dont make sense to me. the weird "you need to know these things 6 months into your relationship" questions i alrwady knew within the first week of knowing them before we even started dating because we were friends and they were just regular topics!

honestly what is a "talking stage"? people have tried describing it to me but its just... being friends? yeah theres an end goal but youre literally just friends??

and i just found out about the "honeymoon phase" where after 4 months you just stop loving them because you realize they have flaws?? were you not friends before dating?? shouldnt you know this already?? theyre a person of course theyre going to have flaws youve been together for 4 months how did you not notice it until now??

and im supposed to follow these weird rules that make zero sense? why???

[her-luminous-highness]

But also not leaving these nuggets of tags out from @femme-dor .

[ujusttry]

10 Outdated Dating Rules You Can Forget & 10 Modern Dating Rules to Embrace

Dating has evolved significantly over the years, and with it, the rules of engagement have transformed. While some traditional guidelines were well-intentioned, many are no longer relevant in today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world. 10 Outdated Dating Rules You Can ForgetAlways Let the Man Make the First MoveNever Talk About Money on a DatePlay Hard to GetWait Three Days to Call/Text After a…

[stevowie]

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[her-luminous-highness]

“Does he make me feel safe, comfortable, and at ease?”

Everything is summed up in this question. If the answer is yes, proceed. Any hesitation, regardless how small, proceed with caution or reflect deeply before moving forward. Trust the gut not the sparks.

Date by honoring your nervous system.

This took me a long while to realize, but once I did, it changed how I see dating and chemistry. Let me explain.

When you realize that chemistry and flying sparks have zero correlation with compatibility, you've leveled up your dating mindset.

Most often those sparks and butterflies you feel, that's your subconscious picking up on familiar toxic patterns in the other person. Patterns which remind you of past experiences or even childhood trauma. Our brains are designed to see familiarity as safe, so when toxic dynamics are all you know, this can turn against you. You have to conscious rewire your brain, and be intentional and aware of how they make you feel.

Toxicity = familiar = safe = we interpret it as attraction. If they make your nervous system go haywire, we see this as chemistry and sparks flying, but it is actually alarm bells going off to signal we are not safe.

Healthy = unfamiliar = can feel unsafe and scary. We may interpret a vanilla, calm, comfortable interaction as a lack of chemistry. But there is a difference between no physical attraction, and being attracted to someone but not feeling any sparks. The latter is normal in the beginning. If your nervous system feels calm, they make you feel comfortable and at ease, that's a good sign!

So if there's any advice I would give to my younger self, it's this: date based on how he makes your nervous system feel. Does he make you feel safe, comfortable, at ease? That's the green flag to go for.

-Lumen

[corvus-for-ddd]

[demigods-posts]

headcanon that percy and annabeth have a relationship contract they made after they got together once the war came to pass. they outlined it on paper in percy's bedroom. typed up a final draft using sally's laptop. and printed out and laminated it at the local library on their two month anniversary. and they abide by it like it's the law.

[tsukii0002]

Mc: Hum... Where will Beel be? I should go look for him.

The game:

I'm still laughing in the floor for this.

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[creatingnikki]

You've had your Before Sunrise moments. You've had your rooftop moments. You've had your wine nights. And your spontaneous 3 am drives. You've had your on-a-Wednesday-in-a-cafe-I-watched-it-begin-again moments too. Your "oh wow, the moon is gorgeous" "yes, so gorgeous" as he looks at you moments. And your coming back to your apartment at 7 am, rushing to get dressed for work, using your very expensive concealer to hide the love from the night before moments. You have had the rush, the adrenaline, the butterflies, the recklessness of the 20s romance. You've had the flings, the situationships, the drama, the confusion, the throwing your phone across the wall moments. But you know what you have not had? You have not had a stable, healthy, long-term relationship.

A boyfriend, a partner who you celebrate your one-month, one-year, five-year anniversaries with. Who drives you back home after every date and sometimes comes up home to have chai with your mom. Who sends you waffles to your workplace. Who shows up at midnight with Chinese takeout and the hug you need. Who wakes you up on Sunday afternoons with one too many kisses all over your face and the spicy bun omelette you like. You have not had that - the consistency, the comfort, the commitment. So, this. THIS is what you now seek.

And for that, you have to ignore those 2 am texts you get from that random boy asking you what's your scene like tomorrow. And for that, you have to learn how to draw the boundary with men so that they remain friends and cannot cross into the grey land of more. And for that, you have to ignore texts from those from your past who weren't capable of communication to convert what you had into something that resembles healthy checking in and consideration but rather are reaching out because they are lonely and want to shoot their shot with you yet again. Okay? OKAY.

[helshollowhalls]

[spark-river]

MC: Why are angels dressed sluttier than Asmo?

Simeon: Wha-?

Solomon: nudity was a form of purity too and in the end it's just a body.

Asmodeus: Michael definitely was the one to tell you that. He has his tits out.

Simeon: He doesn't?!

[isagispuzzle]

imagine being sae's girlfriend and sitting in the stands during the u-20 match. you're surrounded by girls screaming his name and cheering him on, but it didn't matter. you know you're the only one in his eyes, and that your cheers are the only ones that matter to him.

so why is it that sae has been looking at his team's number 13 every chance he got? wait... did sae just agree to give him his number after the match?

[rdm00n]

Happy birth 💞 tried to do this quick cause work is eating me up lmao

[helpiamlostsomewhereinthegarden]

MC: Let's just hug it out. Come on, hug it out.

The brothers: *struggle into a group hug*

Lucifer: Who took my wallet?

Mammon: Sorry.