#Comforter

[kidcore-nostalgia]

[mystery-aberration]

System roles do not have to be your entire identity. You do not have to conform to the stereotypes of them, and you do not have to hold your role alone or without help. You do not need to keep them forever, either. They may be what you were placed into the system to help with, and they may be something you are good at--but it does not have to be you forever.

I am a persecutor, and that does not mean I should be treated differently or harmed. Being a persecutor does not mean that everyone should be scared of you by default either.

Protectors should not be expected to be strong and emotionless walls to put in front of everything all the time. They do not need to be tools.

Comforters might need a break to unload their own stress and need comfort in turn. They do not need to give all of themselves to everyone else and never expect help back.

Littles may not be littles forever, and should not be devalued just because they are children. They are just as real and alive as any other system member and should be taken into account.

Trauma/memory holders might need help to cope with the things they hold, and sometimes when the time is right it means sharing that burden. Maybe there is no right time, but they deserve support whether they can share those memories or not.

Gatekeepers may need a break from controlling switches or access to front, and should be allowed one if needed. Gatekeeping can be a lot of work.

Hosts do not need to do everything for the body or system all the time. Sometimes, being the host of a system can be hard, and support and breaks are deserved.

Systems often put a lot of weight on roles, and it can impact the way that those who have them can feel about their role. It is okay to fit into your role, but it is also okay to not fit, or to end up not fitting your role over time. Some headmates can feel like a failure if they do not uphold their role, some can feel like they have no other choice even if they wanted to not perform it. But a role is a description, it is not an essence of who you are and will forever be. This may be non-traditional but we use roles exclusively as self descriptors so that we do not get wrapped up in what we "should be". If the label no longer fits, or if you need help more than you might have in the past, that is okay.

Be kind to yourselves, and be kind to your other headmates.

[disrealities]

Comfyr. "Kom-feer". COMFy + alteR.

A type of comforter that is always warm, and comfortable. Their feelings and warmth may often bleed into front, making the rest of the system equally as comfortable. They may be an overall warm person, and are always sweet.

For day one of @puriette's event!

[tiny-merkitty]

🛍 : slumber party stimboard!!!

🍿: 1, 2, 3 / 4, 5, 6, / 7, 8, 9

[charliemcarthy]

Totally normal about this comforter

[dabiconcordia]

Iced coffee can work wonders – even on a day like this - the end of October

[cpahlow]

[saturns-emotes]

Left to right:

Middle Alter

Little Alter

Fragment

Comforter

Soother

Receptionist

Nonhuman Alter

Persecutor

Internal/Inner Self Helper

[holly-days]

Santa Toile Organic Cotton Duvet Cover

[internetburial]

4/26/2006 by Christine

[kidcore-nostalgia]

[magicalshopping]

♡ 7 Piece Crushed Velvet Bedding Set ♡

[disrealities]

Creafyr. Kree-feer. CREepy + FeAR (+Y).

An alter whose creepy and comforting feelings bleed into front. This alter may be a comforter, but a little unsettling . . . Really any combination of creepy + comfy feelings!

[ayiemojis]

Mine& — you&

Your& — youreself&

You’re& — yours&

Alone in front — little in front

Comforter

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]