#But it's not worth it

[hacked-by-jake]

I have spent so much time, thoughts, work and tears trying desperately to be someone special/popular/known that there was no room left for the thought of how much more beautiful it would be, instead of becoming someone else, to work on learning to love and accept myself exactly the way I am right now. While this isn’t easy either, it’s still so much easier than becoming someone I’m not.

I want to stop romanticizing that life can only be beautiful if you’re popular and known by many people. But I want to start romanticizing how nice it would be to love yourself. How nice it would be to look at myself and to think "You’re worth it, you’re worth working on accepting and loving yourself."

[martritzvonmercie]

My summary of you: chronically lesbian :)

literally not even true i <3 kissing men

[stardustedknuckles]

I also need planned parenthood to stop calling me to tell me they need a referral or I'm going to have to pay to see them. I KNOW. Not that anyone told me that before the first appointment, but like. Look at where we are living. I don't have a pcp I trust not to hate crime me in the name of the lord if I ask for a referral. And! That referral is required to be specifically for trans care! The longer I can go without telling insurance or the government that I'm trans, the happier I will be. I told the lady this is the third time I've gotten this call and I appreciate it but would she please note that I've been made aware. And I told her my reasons and mentioned that in Texas they're trying to pass legislation to get access to the names of everyone who has sought trans care and for now I'm better off paying out of pocket.

And she was literally like. Her whole demeanor changed and it was "okay thanks bye."

I'm glad to have access to hormones and whatnot, but I can't stop thinking about how everyone's laptops were decorated with "power to the pussy" stickers and "no uterus no opinion" and how they asked extremely outdated and even offensive questions. I can usually keep my head up but sometimes trying to navigate between the cracks of a world that not only isn't made for me but is actively trying to exclude me - sometimes it wears on me. Especially right before my period, which I'm trying to not keep having.

[colorsinautumn]

metallica tickets are stupidly expensive as expected so i guess i'm not going

[mr-mustard-man]

Also I know everyone says it but DO NOT bind with bandages it is not worth the rib and breathing pain

Stay safe please

Hey, PSA for younger/newer transmascs:

Tumblr has been showing targeted ads for "FTM binders" off Amazon. They look like this:

Do not buy these.

A binder is a piece of medical equipment. If you use one incorrectly, or use a poorly made one, you can really fuck up your ribs. This article from the Cleveland Clinic talks about how to bind safely.

A $14 binder is guaranteed not to be safe. There's a reason reputable companies charge more- sometimes a lot more. They have to carefully design binders so they don't crush your ribs or make you sick.

You know how everyone says Don't Bind With Duct Tape? Don't bind with Amazon binders.

[flight0fthecrows]

holds them gently

[tariah23]

Oh…. Well, it’s over for Crunchyroll I guess

[recomvery]

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

[qrowpilled]

hate when you find a character whose so infuriatingly Your Type that its embarrassing like yeahg no one is gonna be surprised when i announce this is my new Guy Of The Month

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

License to Kitty.

[spacelazarwolf]

you know i think i’ve come to the conclusion that the answer to “but what if a cis woman is traumatized by men/male presenting people/whatever?” irt safe spaces is this: if you can’t be in the same room with someone you assume to be male or a man without feeling triggered, it probably means you have a lot more solo therapy and healing to do before relying on group therapy or other communal healing.

because how do you decide who gets to stay and who gets kicked out based on a cis woman’s trauma response? is it based on appearance? should intersex women with facial hair not be allowed because beards are triggering? should butches and studs not be allowed because masculinity is triggering? should tall broad shouldered trans women who don’t want to voice train not be allowed because low voices are triggering? is it based on identity? should a pre transition trans man who came out two days ago not be allowed because he’s a man? is a nonbinary person with a full beard and deep voice allowed because they are not a man?

because if you base your entire set of rules for who’s not allowed in the safe space on what makes cis women uncomfortable or triggers them, you’ve just made that space unsafe for trans people. and you need to decide if you’re ready to own that.

[assumptionprime]

Sometimes we could all use a reminder. (source)

[as-i-watch]

Affirming boys' right to be silly and women's right to blow shit up

[krembruleed]

astarion is cheating