#Abusive men

[my-dark-happy-place]

One thing about this Drake and Kendrick Lamar beef is that it, once again, really shows that abusive men keep quiet and protect each other until they're mad or it benefits them to expose each other.

[traumatizedjaguar]

You’re allowed to reject anybody you want and you don’t need a reason. If a man walks up to you like the guy I dated in high school and he wants to talk and you decline and he starts saying you’re rude and disrespectful: that’s your first red flag to leave and stay far away from him. He’s abusive. If he tries coming up with any reason why you can’t or aren’t allowed to reject him, he is abusive. If he tries blaming you for any reason, he’s abusive. If he doesn’t immediately respect your wishes, he’s abusive.

[ex-foster]

"Predatory men love women with zero support system"

- Adult former foster youth on the topic of dating as a former foster youth

[actual-changeling]

sleeping on the highway tonight, i will never emotionally recover from this scene

[coochiequeens]

Sounds like the guy knew he was losing control of his wife so he said nothing about the termination until after so he could use it to make her life hell and possibly make money by suing her friends.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2023/05/04/texas-abortion-wrongful-death-countersuit/

After a Texas woman got a positive result on the home-pregnancy test she took in July, she texted two friends to discuss her options, according to a new countersuit.

A trigger law banning all abortions would take effect in her state in August, about two months following the overturning of Roe v. Wade. Abortions were already illegal in Texas after the six-week mark. Another law had also made prescribing abortion pills online or mailing them to Texans illegal, which the woman and her friends discussed, the complaint states.

The woman had decided to end the pregnancy, according to the countersuit, filed in the District Court of Galveston County on Monday.

“Not questioning if this is what needs to happen,” she allegedly texted her friends. “I know it does.”

She took abortion medication on July 14, the suit states. Months later, in early March, her ex-husband filed a wrongful-death lawsuit against three women — including the two friends he said she had texted over the summer — whom he accused of being involved “in the murder of his child.”

On Monday, the two women filed a countersuit, alleging that their friend’s ex-husband was aware that his then-wife had wanted to terminate her pregnancy after he “illegally accessed” her phone without consent.

“He wasn’t interested in stopping her from terminating a possible pregnancy,” the countersuit claims.

Attorneys for the two women and the ex-husband did not respond to requests for comment. The ex-wife is not a named party in either lawsuit. Under Texas law, a pregnant patient who has an abortion cannot face criminal, civil or administrative liability or penalties.

The husband filed the original wrongful death lawsuit on March 9 in Galveston County, Tex.

In the suit, he alleged that the two friends assisted in “murdering [the] unborn child with illegally obtained abortion pills” that were acquired from a third woman. The complaint claims that the wife hid the pregnancy and had a medication abortion “without [his] knowledge or consent.”

The married couple finalized their divorce in February. The husband’s complaint states that he brought the lawsuit after he had “recently learned of the defendants’ involvement in the murder of his child.” His lawsuit was among the first of its kind since Roe v. Wade was overturned, the Texas Tribune reported.

On July 12, the husband allegedly dug through his wife’s purse without her knowledge, according to the countersuit. He found a Post-it note with the number for an abortion clinic, and he read messages on her phone between her and her two friends about her “possible pregnancy and her desire to terminate it,” according to the document, citing a police report he later filed.

The next day, he looked through his wife’s purse again, the countersuit alleges.

This time, according to the friends’ countersuit, he found a small white pill labeled “MF” and learned it was mifepristone, which can be taken to terminate an early pregnancy. The friends allege that he placed the medication back in her purse and did not say anything to her about it that day.

The wife took the abortion medication the following day, on July 14, the countersuit states. Four days later, he went to the League City Police Department to file a report about his wife’s “intent to terminate the possible pregnancy,” according to a photo of the incident report that was included in the countersuit. The man also told police he had “accessed [his wife’s] phone without her permission,” the countersuit alleges, citing the police report.

The League City Police Department did not respond to a request for comment.

After talking with police, the husband began to “threaten and try to control” his then-wife about the medication, according to the countersuit. His wife allegedly texted her friends to say: “So basically because I didn’t tell him in the first place that I was in that position he’s using it against me.”

The countersuit alleges that the husband threatened to have his wife “‘thrown in jail’ if she did not give herself to him ‘mind body and soul.’”

The friends’ lawsuit accuses the husband of violating Texas’s Harmful Access by Computer Act by reading the messages between his ex-wife and the two women, as well as taking screenshots of the correspondence without their permission.

The legislation allows Texans to sue those who have accessed a computer, computer network or computer system that they own without their consent. When the husband allegedly accessed his wife’s phone, he harmed the two friends, the countersuit claims, causing them to “suffer damages and losses.”

The countersuit also argues that the husband violated the friends’ right to privacy when he allegedly read their conversations with his then-wife.

By Praveena Somasundaram

[thedepressedweasel]

I want to slash my sperm donor’s throat to watch the blood flow as his eyes widen with panic, eat his disemboweled guts like spaghetti as he screams and cries in agony, and then piss and shit on his still twitching carcass as he finally dies. Make him feel as small, weak and helpless as he made me. Break him. Just like he broke me.

These are, in fact, normal and healthy thoughts of a nonbinary, bisexual and genderfluid autistic person.

I'll always remember what he did to me and I will never forgive him for what he did to me, to my uncles and to my grandmas from either side of my bloodline.

[misespinas]

“I don’t question how embarrassing it would be for a man to come forward and admit that a woman is abusing him. But don’t underestimate how humiliated a woman feels when she reveals abuse.”

Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? (2002)

[victims-of]

paging @neil-gaiman and Bryan Fuller 🤮

[jellyfishfem]

everyone is grilling jkr and no one even mentions jackie chan. or any abusive male celebrity for that matter. wonder why that is.

[tryinganythingtobehappyagain]

Now someone do a post of all the songs women have written about predatory men.

[grneyedmonster15]

An often overlooked benefit of being fat is that you don’t have to deal with narcissistic, sociopathic men being attracted to you anymore. I honestly don’t even care to lose weight at this point (although I could if I tried) because I’m happier (and safer) not being attractive to shitty men.

I have absolutely terrible taste in men and would 100% rather be a born-again virgin than ever start dating again. I stopped dating even before I gained the weight and it was the best decision I ever made.

I never again have to deal with a man trying to ruin my credit, steal my shit, eat all my food, be an unemployed leech up in my house, cheat on me, verbally and physically abuse me, hate on my kids, mess up my house, do drugs in my bathroom, dump his kids on me while he takes off on a three-day bender, etc. These are all actual things men have done to me.

Being permanently single feels fabulous in comparison.

[ex-foster]

[darkwebclaires]

Abusive men deserve to feel as powerless and scared as the women they hurt. While we’re at it, let’s starve them and cut them up like the women they torment do to themselves.

[coochiequeens]

The update gave me hope

The MIL isn’t bossing her grown son around. She’s giving rising him right one more shot.

[justanotherbloodywoman]

I've noticed the consequences of a having an abusive man in a household is quite similar to what can happen in a business: if the employees are exploited - and they normally are in general, chances are that they will end up believing they can't dispute anything with their boss(es), so they may resort to horizontal aggression, which is easier and much more effective (even if it is to pull an colleague down with themselves) and encouraged by the elites.