#911 evan buckley's parents

[emolionsrawr]

buck: hey dad can you pass me the salt please?

tommy: *reaches for the salt*

phillip: *reaches for the salt*

bobby: *reaches for the salt*

buck:

bobby:

tommy:

phillip:

buck: tommy i said dad not daddy

tommy: sorry my mistake

[naturegirl555]

[livelovecaliforniadreams]

#The Strict Parent vs. The Easy Going Parent

[myfav0tps]

People reacting to Buck and Tommy:

Them reacting back:

[cryscabbage]

Does anyone else hate how forgiving your abusive parent is so pushed in 9-1-1? Like Chimney had every reason to stay pissed at his dad for life, yet he got forced into giving the man a chance by Albert who literally guilt tripped him (no Albert hate).

Then there's the Buckley parents who, admittedly, went through therapy, but I don't think it's fair how Maddie and Buck were just expected to forgive them.

Eddie's parents too. I did kind of like how they handled this situation because it was generational trauma and his dad apologised, but the fact that it adds to the list of abusive parents that were quickly forgiven just annoys me.

There's more instances but I can't think. It's like any child who rightfully puts space between themselves and their parent is in the wrong and must find a way to forgive and forget.

As someone who is non-contact with their father, I wish there was some representation for when the parent is unforgivable.

[emilyrosecreatives]

i have walked through fire every single day of my life 🔥

[dudesrysly]

Bobby: do me and Buck spend a lot of time together? Yes.

Bobby: Do we have a special bond? Absolutely.

Bobby: But do I cuddle him more than any other loving parent?

*Remembers the time when Buck caught a minor cold and he took care of him for a whole week, spoon-fed him his soup, carried him to bed, and tucked him in every night*

Bobby: it’s possible.

[agentmurtsegway]

I cant stop making these

bonus Bobby one from the well episode

[mizuphae]

fuck the buddie vs bucktommy debate for 7x06, the real crime is if goddamn phillip walks maddie down the aisle instead of buck

[hopeswells]

You know what? I bet Margaret and Philip Buckley would get along great with Tommy.

In fact, if they had to choose a man for their son to date, it would actually probably be Tommy Kinard.

He insists on calling Evan by his proper name, for one. He doesn't encourage any of Evan's silly shenanigans. He agrees with them that Evan is too excitable and that he should learn to tone it down. And whenever Evan starts going on about his firehouse found family, Tommy helps remind him that he already has a real family.

Tommy speaks their (passive aggressive) language fluently – something Evan never quite managed to pick up – and he's a fair bit older too, which means that they can trust him to keep Evan in check.

Yeah, the Buckleys would happily give Tommy their seal of approval.

[can-i-get-a-yippee]

Thinking about Maddie as a child not being a donor match for her little brother and crying every night because she feels like she failed him,,, Thinking about how happy she would be when Buck is born and how excited she is when her parents exclaim that he’s a match for Daniel and he’ll be able to save him when she couldn’t,,,, Thinking about Maddie sneaking into Buck’s nursery and holding his little fist and telling him about how much fun they’re gonna have when Daniel is better from the hospital and how much she and Daniel already love him,,, Thinking about Maddie holding little baby Evan in her arms at Daniel’s funeral because her parents can’t stand to hold him after the graft failed and whispering in soft tones as they lower the coffin into the ground that she’s so sorry Daniel that she was a bad big sister but she’ll take care of Evan — she’ll be better this time

[emolionsrawr]

"i haven't even met his parents yet and i wanna beat them"

my mum about buck's parents

[theupstairskid]

have we considered:

Buck tells Eddie "we can't just call you Eddie" in Under Pressure because Maddie's legal name is just Maddie, it's not a nickname like most people think

So at that moment Buck probably thought Eddie's legal name is just Eddie

And that's why he says we can't just call you Eddie

Eddie and Chim think Buck's being weird, but he's actually going off of personal experience

So later Buck is trying to make Eddie feel included by giving him a nickname because he doesn't know that Eddie is short for Edmundo yet

[jackwhiteprophetic]

ALWAYS GOING BACK TO "TWO CUT LINES" and the whole team understanding that Buck would prefer to die with Eddie than be left behind having failed to save someone. When he saw Buck's face after he got out, Eddie knew it too.

To Buck, wanting to die for someone is the only way he knows how to love them, because he thinks that is all he has to give, to show he should be kept around (as a body, as spare parts;) His parents taught him this, even though he didn't know about Daniel. Buck intrinsically knows what it is to exist having "failed" to save someone and it is his deepest fear to have that happen again.

Eddie saw that Buck would rather die with him than fail at dying for him and it fucking terrified him and also it terrified him to think that Buck and Christopher, two halves of his heart, could be split up if his stopped beating and so he changed his will, legally forced Buck to stay and he made sure that they can never have two cut lines but now Buck has to love Chris and Eddie by staying for them instead of destroying himself for them...

[comradesummers]

The take that Maddie's childhood wasn't great but Buck had it so much worse is so infuriating. I know Buck is the fandom's favorite, but why are you straight up lying about Maddie to prove that Buck had it worse? Can't they both have had shitty childhoods? Because canonically, they sure as hell did.

To recap, Maddie watched her little brother slowly die and then her parents moved her away from any one who knew Daniel and forced her to never speak of him again. Like I cannot stress how fucked up this is. They completely isolated this traumatized child from any support system she may have had and literally forbade her from grieving. That's insane. And on top of that, they parentified her and made a nine year old the primary caretaker of a baby all while neglecting them both. Also Maddie talks about how her mom would tell her that she wanted to kill herself. You know like a normal thing to say to or in front of your young daughter. And that's just how they treated her when she was a kid. When she got with Doug (at only 19!) her parents basically disowned her, thus ensuring that she would not feel safe to come to them when the relationship became abusive, which is probably a big reason she stayed for so long. And people are always talking about how the Buckley parents never visit Buck when he's grievously injured in the hospital. They also don't visit Maddie in the hospital after her husband kidnapped her and nearly stabbed her to death, even though we know Buck called and told them about it.

Unlike some of the Buck girlies, I don't feel the need to compare. The Buckley parents were awful to both of their living children (and frankly to Daniel as well for erasing his memory like that). I just object to the idea that Maddie somehow had it better than Buck because it is so obviously not true. And I find it really interesting that when it comes to male characters like say, Dean Winchester, people will write endless meta about how parentification is abuse. But when a female character is parentified by her parents people think it's not that bad because it doesn't seem as unnatural for a girl to be forced into a caretaker role, even if she was literally nine years old.

[alkaysani]

okay what if buck gets it? what if he tells eddie something along the lines that living in a home where your own parents have not dealt with grief can have long lasting effects on the children? how living with the ghost of someone so loved but not grieved can harm kids even though you do their best to hide them from it?

the way his parents and maddie hid daniel from him and the effects that he has felt to this day? what if he says something about maybe chris not being there while eddie truly dealt with his grief will be the best thing in the long run? not just for chris, but for eddie as well?

dealing with your grief doesn’t have to be too late

it hurts now, it sucks but eddie has to deal with his grief

he needs to do things for himself first