#(this is all about a headmate btw)

[yellow-computer-mouse]

If there were a plural form of it, would you use that pronoun?

yes! we use all 3 of our pronouns as plural (with an ampersand (&) at the end if you can), so for example:

I was talking to Bane& yesterday, they&'re so cool!

Bloodbane& is so fun, it&s art is awesome!

Bane& was telling me about this idea xe& had ...

Bloodbane& is so smart.. those things really know what they're talking about!

^ little template for all our pronouns

thank you for asking though!! basically just use it/its, but with an ampersand :) or don't it's fine lol

[the-mighty-nappa]

oh god fuckin- LMAO. I think the worst thing about being plural is having a headmate just absolutely be the yearning demon on your cock. Why did you uncork the bottle of yearning? How did you find the bottle of yearning for a SPECIFIC PERSON what the fuck. ...and then the more feral one is just rattling the fucking cage bars like eric andre. I CAN"T AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[genderqueerdykes]

btw 'syscourse' and plural infighting isn't accomplishing anything. back in the late 90s and early 2000s, the only communities and resources for plurals that were widely available were for and by non-traumagenic systems. the only people who were advocating for normalizing and accepting plurality on a large scale were non-traumagenic systems. if you did research into plurality 10 - 15 years ago, most of the results that came up would have been experiences written by spiritual and natural plurals.

many people at the time were expressing their dislike of forcing every single plural to identify as if they had trauma- many found this insulting to themselves, and rightfully so! no one should be forced to identify in a way they don't agree with just to rightfully be a part of a community they already occupy. this obsession with "you can only be plural if you have trauma" has only come about extremely recently. i found out about plurality through the otherkin community. i was actually told about DID by someone in the spiritual plurality community. people don't seem to understand that most non-traumagenic systems have respect for traumagenic systems and don't gatekeep their spaces to prevent us from entering.

older plural spaces on the web like healthymultiplicity accepted all plurals. the goal of the community was to show that you can live as plural and not have it be a tragedy or something to "fix". if anything, folks with dissociative disorders owe a LOT to non-traumagenic systems for pushing to normalize plurality without implying that we HAVE to integrate our headmates and try to stop being plural. a huge part of the early online plural community was there to push that plurals can and do live happy lives and shouldn't view their plurality as a bad thing

it's not going to make singlet society see us in a better light. it's not going to get people to understand plurality better. it's not going to get us better mental health resources. it's not going to improve the quality of care for dissociative and traumagenic systems. all you're doing is bullying someone else that you don't understand simply because you don't agree with them.

you're not going to recover from your trauma or understand your own plurality better by denying the existence of other types of plurality. you're not "making the community safer" by gatekeeping. telling other people how their brains work is policing their identities. whether or not you want to accept it, if you forcefully kick endos out of plural spaces, you are the cop you claim to hate.

fighting with people on your own team will never net you a victory. to every other dissociative and traumagenic system: endos are on your side. you are wearing the same jersey. you are made of the same flesh and blood. enough. come together to share your similarities instead of fighting over differences. celebrate the diversity that plurality offers. don't take someone else's identity personally. someone can share the space with you without having to match exactly how you identify. diversity is what makes a community thrive.

[rainbow-glittery-gutz]

Still loving your headmates while still not wanting DID can absolutely co-exist btw

Someone had the nerves to accuse our co-host of romanticizing DID all bc he vented about not wanting DID while still mentioning he still loves us despite it bc he didn't want us to see it and feel like we were hated

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

[catboytenya]

as promised, here's a shit ton of screenshots. like i said before, my ex, @/sentiearksys/@/taysudon/@dandelarkchao was incredibly abusive to me and is trying to rewrite the narrative that i was the abusive one, and quite frankly, i'm not gonna let him push me around any longer, so, here's my final post on the topic.

don't go harassing him, but i encourage blocking.

i had been hoping he would stop posting lies about me when i posted actual proof, which i actually have, unlike him, but i don't think he ever will. so, like i said, this is my final post on this topic.

some of these i feel shy sharing because i don't like how vulnerable i am in them, but i feel a bit helpless that he's going around telling people i was the abusive one meanwhile..... i've put up with this cruel treatment for years. and i have the proof of his treatment, and all he can do is talk shit and lie about me without any evidence.

if he wanted me to stop posting evidence, he should have stopped posting lies about me. after we broke up i was completely fine with never bringing him up again until he decided to start lying about me. like i said before, ultimately, this is about defending myself and clearing my name, as well as warning others about how he really is behind closed doors.

today, i had the luck of talking to some of the people he lied about to me and forced me to block, and i got to finally hear their sides of the story. all these people that he told me were terrible and awful and cruel are the sweetest people i've ever spoken to who did not deserve the terrible things he was saying about them. if i DO make another post, it'll be entirely to defend them and include screenshots of the awful things he said about them. for now, i'll be leaving them out of it. i just wanted to include this paragraph to thank them for taking the time to reply and to talk to me, and honestly, to show my appreciation for them as my new friends.

i'm not only including any screenshots from previous posts, i'm also including new ones, so everything is on one post. thank you for listening.

as i mentioned before on older posts, we're both systems, and use pluralkit to talk. i get that because of this it might be a bit confusing, so i'll spare you the trouble: cloudy creatures, katsuki/kacchan, and shouto are me, the rest is my ex. i explained in past posts that some of these screenshots are old, and that's why some of the timestamps say "today"

this was originally one long screenshot but tumblr destroys the quality, so, here it is in parts:

he voted for trump btw. if his parents made him do it why is he defending his decision so hard over a tumblr post?:

Here's my admitting that he was the reason I didn't kill myself while I was feeling suicidal, followed by (a few of) the times he held it above my head:

there's also.... whatever this incident is. passive aggressive, guilt tripping, ect. typical playing with my emotions while i'm trying to have a serious conversation:

he would also pretend that his headmate(s) were dying or grievously injured to punish me. basically a "your partner is DYING because of YOU" kinda thing:

these are from a previous post but here he is making my cat dying about him and also about choosing either him or my best friend faith:

and here he is barely even giving me a second to grieve my other cat dying VERY suddenly before he starts talking about the mini art fight me and my friends have going year-round. also who says "haha!" to someone who's cat just died?:

the next few screenshots are gonna be censored since they're from a previous post before i decided to stop censoring them, red is my ex, blue is me. anyway he would start talking in morse code during serious conversations to make me have to stop what i was doing to open a translator:

here he is doing his typical "i don't like when you talk about faith" thing:

here he is being upset about my animals as well as being jealous over my theoretical bunny i've been wanting to adopt:

here he is upset about me leaving to go play mario kart with my sibling??:

here he is demeaning my ability to communicate + also just?? telling me that i need to relearn basic english???:

here he is claiming that i didn't give him any recognition in a really demeaning way even though like. idk how else to explain it but we were so head over heels that we excused 99% of his behavior.:

here he is making me feel really shitty about how many songs i put in my character playlists, this eventually culminated in me deleting all of the playlists i had made:

i genuinely have more but i've hit the 30 image limit. thank you for reading, and again, if i make another post, it'll be because i'm doing it for my new friends.

[the-indigo-symphony]

"dehumanization is the weapon of the enemy and it is wrong to do to anyone" also goes for systems btw.

Dehumanization is the process of denying someone's humanity or personhood; to say they do not occupy the same position as a full human person, and as such, are not to be treated as a full human person. It's often used as the reasoning behind being cruel to someone – "They're not a person like you and I, so it's okay to treat them as lesser.", essentially. It's not always as clear-cut as "this thing isn't a person", nor will those dehumanizing others always realize that's what they're doing, but it's typically an intentional effort to divorce "acceptable humans" from "unacceptable monsters/things/devils".

Dehumanization is a shitty thing to do. It is still a shitty thing to do when the victims are systems and/or the headmates in systems.

Whether you see our selves, or the selves of anyone else, as people, parts, or anything else, you need to treat us like people. Denying us this position of personhood is to deny us rights and respect. To do so is to declare that we are lesser than you, that you don't need to listen to or care about us; that it's okay to treat us poorly and differently. To prevent this, then (and some system punching you in the face down the line, sorry not sorry, talk shit get hit (especially when your "shit" is a key component of fascism)), you must learn to recognize when you are treating us not only as other, but as lesser.

If you force parts language onto all of us with the excuse that it's impossible to be more than one person in a single body, you're dehumanizing systems. If you tell headmates that they're not allowed to use the same vocabulary as real people – whoops, I mean singlets [PT: real people – whoops, I mean singlets / end PT] to describe themselves, you're dehumanizing systems. If you make a rule that introjects are not allowed to go by their own names in your community, but real people – whoops, I mean singlets [PT: real people – whoops, I mean singlets / end PT] who happen to have those same names are allowed to, you're dehumanizing systems. If you deny us the right to have our own religious and spiritual beliefs the second those beliefs involve our plurality, you're dehumanizing systems. If your argument is "this would be fine if you were a real person [PT: a real person / end PT] the only one in your body, but you're not, so it's not", congratulations! You are dehumanizing systems. You are denying them the position of personhood. I do not trust you, you need to take a step back and correct yourself, and until you do that, I don't think you're a safe person for any marginalized group or person to be around, since you've shown yourself to be someone who is all-too-happy to buy into the excuses of why it's okay if we're treated like shit.

I want to make it clear that this isn't an argument against parts language. Some systems or individual headmates don't like to call themselves people and choose to call themselves parts, and that's fine. But no matter the language someone(s) uses for themselves, you still need to treat them like people. You need to watch the way you talk about us, you need to unpack your pluralphobia and sanism, and you need to respect each headmate as an individual with their own thoughts, emotions, opinions, experiences, and worldviews, even when that means simultaneously respecting them as part of a whole. Some systems using parts language is not an excuse to treat them, or any other system, like shit. Respecting how someone wishes to be referred to does not give you free range to disrespect them in other ways.

"But isn't it impossible to be more than one person in a single body?" Personhood is a concept, not a law of nature, as seen by how easy it is to take it away. Therefore, whether it's "impossible" is not only irrelevant, but impossible to determine for certain. Whether or not individual headmates meet some arbitrary standard for personhood*, you still need to show them the respect you would anyone who is the only being in their body. You need to hold your gddamn tongue [PT: hold your gddamn tongue / end PT] if you don't believe it's possible to have more than one person or self or part or anything else in the same bodymind. I do not care about your personal beliefs, have whatever philosophical views you want, just don't make them the problem of anyone else. Don't share your opinion where it's not explicitly asked for, and don't be surprised if you're called an asshole for telling strangers that you don't consider them real people.

* We don't even have a standard, btw! There is no standard! We're still figuring out how to define consciousness, and you think personhood is somehow a concrete, perfectly defined, and universally understood idea? You must be joking if you think it's some sort of law of the universe that one body = one person. Get out of here.

"But (marginalized group/person said) –" yeah, I hate to tell you this, but you can be part of a marginalized group and still a fucking asshole. Especially when it comes to a group you don't know much about and don't interact with all that often, thus leaving your preconceived biased unchallenged. It doesn't become okay to dehumanize a group just because you're not top of the pecking order. Transphobia is still transphobia when it comes from a cis woman; pluralphobia is still pluralphobia and dehumanization is still dehumanization when it comes from someone who is part of a marginalized group.

"But this headmate doesn't identify as human!" Yeah, cool, not an excuse to be an asshole to them or treat them as lesser. Seriously, this is not a comeback. "I think it's okay to treat others badly if they identify in a way I don't like despite it harming no one and obviously being important to them." isn't an own. And neither is the implication that it's okay to treat anything that isn't a human like shit; this just makes it sound like you're fine with animal abuse.

Dehumanization is basic cruelty that borrows from the fascist playbook. It's wrong to do to anyone, and that includes systems and individual headmates. Systems, plurals, and all others who are more-than-one – you don't have to sit and take it. You can tell them off for it. You can tell them this is unacceptable. You can tell them exactly what flavor of shit they're spewing. You deserve the full respect and rights that anyone else is given. Spit in the face of bigots. And may everyone who's ever been dehumanized for being more-than-one find unexpected luck this week – you deserve it for ever having to put up with such bullshit.

[syscest]

[not a confession] y'all mentioned sys4sys sex now i'm, curious about the intrasystem sex basics.... i don't even know where to begin looking for info on this, but i'd like to be more intimate with my headmates. can y'all talk a little bit more about that or share any tips. thanks a bunch (anyone can share tips btw)

hi ^^

so intrasystem sex ends up being a lot more complicated and individualized than intersystem stuff in our experience. a lot of it comes down to how your individual experience of systemhood works.

for folks with fully realised "headspaces" where it feels like headmates all hang out while not in front. headmates interacting with each other, or having fucked in headspace, is sometimes just like. a fact of life. or at least that's what I'm led to believe.

we personally don't have much of a headspace, and interactions seperate from the body tend to feel pretty floaty to us. it's good for flirting or bullying your headmates, but doesn't manage sex for us.

if you're capable of co-consciousness, or even just fairly rapid switches, we can definitely recommend masturbating together. mutual masturbation counts as sex for folks in different bodies, so why should the shared body experience be different.

getting off to smut that you can project a fantasy about you and your headmate onto and passing control of your body back and forth in the process, is probably our most common method here.

at the same time having a headmate instruct you how to get off, or order you to do particular things. is very hot. and once again a kind of kink/sex you can do with people in other bodies, that translates pretty easily to in-system sex if you're co-con.

if you have the ability to be co-con and also pass control of parts of the body back and forth, you can also sometimes get the sensation of another headmate touching you through the body (e.g. their use of a shared hand on your use of the shared face). or, if they can immobilise parts of your body for you, you can sometimes get a good approximation of what it might feel like having them pin those parts of you down.

even if you can't share bodily control, you can try things like having one headmate put the body in restraints (collar and a leash tied around a bedpost, cuffs around the ankles - normal kink precautions apply make sure it's something all ur headmates can undo in a pinch) and then switch out of front, leaving another headmate tied up in a compromising position. while it might not be a direct headmate on headmate interaction, you're still very much doing a kink scene with your headmate.

if you don't have the capacity to talk back and forth in your head or similar, things get a bit more difficult from here. sexting your headmates or leaving them slutty pics in a private chat for them to read later is always an option. as is just getting off thinking about them and seeing if they express opinions about that later.

our experience is a blend of a lot of the above, and we've found a solid horny rapport between headmates can be really positive. getting caught off guard by a headmate's horny thoughts and stumbling to catch your breath? having a headmate throw you onto your bed. grope you. tease you. push you around? getting collared and leashed to the bed and left to relax half naked and feeling very cute about it? finding porn that reminds you of another system member and masturbating furiously while you tell them what you'd do to them? being ordered to cum in a glass and then swallow your/your headmate's cum? well it all ends up a nice pleasant blur of experiences, at least for our own median-ish system.

if anyone else has tips or experiences feel free to chime in. again what works best for you will likely be very individual and require some trial and error to figure out ^^

[infwctednyacifier]

bored n life sucks so gonna made a plural code that'll be called The Infwcted Code for now ig so yeah plural code except we have a really creative imagination and we're using it for this :3 pls tag us if u use this!!!!

Btw the Infwcted Code is on Pluralpedia as of 4/21/2025.

Basics

ⓘ; these are not specific to one thing and can be used for anything like gender, sexuality, role

❓ = don't know, haven't figured this out, difficult to explain.

❗ = this is important and you should notice or remember it

➕ = there's more that aren't listed for whatever reason

➖ = information has been abbreviated (shortened)

✔️ = this applies to me/I agree with this

✖️ = this does not apply to me/I do not agree with this

🟰 = I am neutral on this/my opinion on this is either or

Origins

ⓘ; it should be noted that these can be used for both systems AND individual headmates

❤️‍🩹 = adaptive and/or traumagenic

🍃 = endogenic and generally non-traumagenic

🏗️ = willogenic, parogenic, any form of intentionally created plurality

💥 = spontaneous or sudden

🧠 = neurogenic

🗃️ = complural (complex) or multigenic

⁉️ = quoigenic or generally unaware/confused about origins

🥣 = mixed origins

🚫 = will not/do not want to/do not feel comfortable discussing origins

📿 = religious, spiritual, etc origins

Headmates

👤 = headmate

🛐 = alter

🧩 = part

🧮 = sysmate/system member

🧶 = facet

🦜 = tulpa

🧰 = willomate

Specifics

🩹 = formed from trauma

😬 = formed from stress

🐣 = natalgenic or born in headspace

🍼 = protogenic or has been around for as long as anybody can remember

🤔 = confused/doesn't know/isn't certain about source/s

🕹️ = gametive or sourced from a game

🎶 = songtive or sourced from a song

🌍 = factive or sourced from a real life person

🌐 = fictive or sourced from a fictional character

🔖 = introject or sourced from an original source

📝 = OCtive/generally based on or is literally an OC (tends to count as introject but still separate)

👹 = exanthrope or a non-human member (real or fictional species)

Gender

ⓘ; we feel the need to mention that, for the genderless symbol, you can change the skin tone if you want to :)

♂️ = masculine/masculine aligned

♀️ = female/female aligned

🔣 = androgynous and/or multigender

😐 = neutral and/or along the nonbinary spectrum

👎🏻 = unlabeled, genderless, identifies as having no connection to or generally lacking a gender overall

🎁 = identifies primarily/only with xenogenders

〰️ = identifies primarily/only with genders that are fluid or fluctuate

Sexuality

📏 = straight/attracted to the opposite sex

🏳️‍🌈 = gay gay homosexual gay >:)

💐 = attracted to more than one gender such as bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, etc.

〽️ = attraction fluctuates

🙄 = who cares who I'm dating? Mind yo damn business.

💔 = I don't feel anyways life laugh love? no die cry hate <3

Ages

🌱 = little, usually 9 and under

🌿 = middle, usually 10 and up

🪴 = systeen if you consider them different from middles, usually 14 to 17

🌳 = adults, usually 18 and up

🕰️ = members who are over human ages such as immortal, hundreds of years old, ageless, etc.

🌫️ = age hazy or not certain about their age

Roles

🎮 = host, co-host, generally fronts more than others to a noticable extent

🎬 = directors

🏥 = caretaker, no specifications

🛡️ = protector, no specifications

📋 = gatekeeper, no specifications

🚱 = persecutors

🧺 = holders (such as symptoms, disorders, etc)

🥄 = multiple roles/jack of all trades

🆘 = helper/assistant with no assigned role and helps whenever available/needed

[sophieinwonderland]

as a genuine question, why is it that you want to spread plurality?

FIRST, like I said in the other post about it, I think a lot of children have natural plurality. Society calls these "imaginary friends". But many demonstrate a high level of self-awareness and autonomy consistent with other people. (To be clear, I don't think all imaginary companions are headmates. But I think about a third to two thirds are.)

My host's mom had "imaginary companions" herself as a teen. She would tell my host stories about adventures they had when she was young, and she later came to believe they might have been spirits. She even looked at cemeteries in the town her companions "lived" in once she was older. (That town BTW was Picher Oklahoma, now an actual ghost town.)

She pushed them away because of the social pressure. Because people would make fun of her for them. Because her parents thought she needed to "grow up."

It's wrong.

It's wrong that she was forced to get rid of her companions. To shut them out.

It was unfair to her. It was unfair to her companions. And it's unfair to the hundreds of millions of kids who are put in that position.

Future children deserve to be able to make the choice for themselves to keep their companions instead of having society choose for them.

SECOND, Tulpamancy has been shown to help with mental health. It can help with loneliness and depression. These studies are so far based on self-reports, but the future for tulpamancy to help people looks promising.

There are similar benefits to religion, which works on a similar principle of building a relationship to an invisible other. But religion can be subverted. It can be used to spread hateful and harmful dogma. With tulpamancy, you make your own tulpa. That tulpa learns and grows with experience. Their beliefs are not subject to the whims of preachers bending gospel to their values or millennia-old morality from a different world. I would prefer someone in need, given the choice of companionship with an invisible other, choose tulpamancy over religion.

And for people who are suicidal, who are thinking of ending their lives... I think it helps to both have someone else to live for, and to know that if you took your life, you would be taking theirs as well.

I know of plenty of people who have talked about how their tulpas saved their lives.

THIRD, I believe in a plural future. One where we are free to live our lives as publicly as we want without persecution. Getting there though... it requires political power. And in a Democracy, which I hope we will still be even if prospects are looking dim due to recent events, power is most often achieved through numbers. The more systems there are, the more powerful systems will be as a voting bloc.

It's obviously not just about the numbers in the community. It's also going to be about allies. But numbers will help a lot.

I want to get to a point where politicians are thinking about what they can do to help get the "plural vote," and appeal to plurals as a community. I want to get to the point where we can celebrate the first openly plural congresspersons.

And it's not just political. Systems are also consumers. I want to see social media companies willing to implement more system-friendly features. I'd like Discord to add an official feature that was similar to Pluralkit but without the issues associated with Pluralkit. For example, a lot of servers don't like plurakit because of its moderation problems. From what I understand, the fact that it goes through bots makes it really hard to block or ban users.

But if Discord made this an official feature of the site, I think a lot more servers would be more willing to use it.

Tumblr already has sideblogs that make it plural-friendly. Why not Reddit and Facebook and other social media companies?

And the more plurals there are, the more companies will be willing to invest in positive plural media to appeal to them. From books to cartoons to movies.

Numbers matter. They matter for gaining political power in a Democracy. They matter for getting products catered to the plural community in a capitalist society.

[fantasyworldsys]

btw theres a high chance some of us don't like you

especially the bloodshot subsys

just know

if a few

of us dont like you

doesnt mean we all don't

the traumagenic headmates are like. parts of my brain that fell off, including the bad and the horrible.

we won't all like you. stop throwing fits about it. can you tell this is very aimed.

[funnier-as-a-system]

okay, this is gonna sound super stupid, but I desperately need advice:

does talking to other people in your head to comfort yourself count as being on the plurality spectrum?? I'm not educated on it by any means, and sometimes its just my own thoughts, and sometimes theres other people in my head. Am i just making this all up??? Im actually kinda nervous ab this , so any advice is welcome ,,

(other info: I also disassociate sometimes too, just going throughout my days just living in my head / talking to myself, or feeling like nothing is real ,, )

It very well may be plurality! In fact, I'd say it almost certainly sounds like it!

In plurality, there is more than one self-aware self or being occupying the same body. This includes situations of multiple people sharing the same body who talk to each other (and comfort each other). The question for you, then, is this: are these people you talk to self-aware? Or are they simple figures you imagine to bring you comfort? (There's no shame in the second, btw!)

Since you talk to them, it seems like the best course of action may be to just ask them whether or not they consider themselves their own people, or headmates. If they answer "yes", well, that's that, isn't it? You've got multiple people in your head who can think for themselves! (And if you feel like you're controlling or strongly guiding their answer, well, that's an indicator in the other direction, isn't it?) Now, this may get a bit tricky since it's sometimes your own thoughts that you talk to, but I assume there's a distinction between your thoughts and these other people that you can make and recognize whenever you talk to yourself or them. I also acknowledge that self-doubt is an annoying burr when it comes to things like this, and your initial reaction may be, "But what if I just imagine/make up their answer?" – in these cases, there's not much you can do except do your best to trust your headmates that they're speaking for themselves, but if you're especially worried about it, looking for corroborative evidence of plurality – like switches, memory gaps, differences in opinion between yourself and your headmates, etc. – may help you shut down those fears of making it all up. Speaking of...

The dissociation you mention also sounds like another indicator that you may be plural, as systems often experience dissociation like that. Granted, so do those with immersive daydreaming, but that just loops us back around to the question of whether or not these people in your head are temporary figments of your imagination you conjure up for the purpose of comfort or a daydream narrative, or just people living in there who comfort you when you need it. And if you've got a feeling one way or the other just based on the way I'm talking about them... follow it. It's probably the right one.

I very much doubt that you're making all this up; whether or not you're plural, you're definitely experiencing something, and you wouldn't request advice if that something didn't matter to you. With all honesty, I'm trying to do my best to cover all possibilities here just in case, but if this weren't already a conversation about you questioning if you're a system, I would be suggesting that you look into the idea of plurality from the moment you mentioned these other people in your head.

In conclusion, while I'd never decide for someone else whether or not they're on the plurality spectrum, it does sound very, very likely to me that you are. "I have people in my head who comfort me and aren't just my own thoughts." is a very, very plural thing to say.

If you'd like to learn more about plurality, I recommend checking out morethanone and healthymultiplicity.com. They're good resources for those new to plurality, as well as those questioning if they're plural.

I hope this helps!

[idioticaltxri]

It's been a while since I've been out in the, you know, outerworld. I feel bad you have to deal with this chaos gremlin (Zephyr) /lh

Our headspace is a right variety, for example I mostly live solitarily in the scorched, desert type roadside, but most of the headspace is lushious forests and stuff (apart from front room, that's more like a room). I'm kind of curious to know about headspaces of other fellow systems, what's your headspace like?/nf /if you have one ofc /srsly nf

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ooo!!! headspace stuff!!

our headspace is essentially just... a city (but I'll call it "overworld" for reasons you'll see later and the City itself "the main spot") , NYC based with a big ass skyscraper that has our front room at the tippy top and then the other floors have mostly rooms for everybody. the rest of the city is also fairly populated with npcs and our actual headmates but the BIGGGG thing about it is the portals in the middle of the city. These portals are usually portals that basically go to the realm of a fandom, like say for me (jax btw) there's a portal that i can go to to essentially "go back to my home" it's not really my home it's just kind of an on point replica so everyone can feel like at home and so that we (the alter who are split from said fandom) can have a place to do the usual things we did in canon.

in the middle of all the portal is the portal of the Gatekeepers Realm* no idea what's beyond that portal because I've never bothered to go in bc you need a pass for it which you have to either pay for or you can get a one day pass as a guest. I've heard from the others that the Gatekeepers realm* has like.. a council tower, where at the tippy top is our system leader's office and below is the council room where they hold out meetings. the other floors apparently hold offices and stuff.

then in that exact realm we also have THE Hospital with all of our medical team there, we also have our own little hospital in the "overworld" which usually has 2-3 medics max bc if you're in an emergency you automatically go to THE Hospital. also, quick side note, our Healthcare system is sooo gooddd omggg..

then we have our prison/jail where people who've broken rules or done something horrible go to. Surprisingly, i have not been there... yet.

I've heard the usual sentence is from 2-3 days to "forever" (aka when it's decided you're good to get out, and that people are sure you won't do that thing again, "forever" is usually reserved for those who've done A REALLY HORRIBLE THING)

i don't know what else there is in the Gatekeepers Realm*, I'm missing a few things bc of not ever going there, but these are the things I've been toldby others who've gone there

our (the tadc introjects + a few others who've been employed there) Spudsy's is placed somewhere in the overworld, it's where i work at currently. it has evolved a lot from canon, it's got a Spudsy's Café where you can get pastries, coffee and just like, anything sweet. Then we also have our delivery Spudsy's Deliveries. the owner of our Spudsy's is Gangle (the one whomst has posted before, as we have another gangle besides him)

Besides the NYC Themed city, you can actually go out and travel the world (it's like a version of irl but mostly just inspired), some of us have actually scattered around it but we can always just teleport back to the main spot of the world (NYC based city)

Some of us, especially the ones who are prone to speak another language in headspace are the ones who've fleed the main spot. There's also just... like, the people who love traveling who've also fleed the main spot. Personally I've not explored or traveled much besides it and a few other realms. Factives (and the brainmades too) are more prone to stay in the overworld btw bc it's very realistic looking and it's just... "irl but with extra cool stuff" as some have dubbed it. of course the famous Factives are still famous and still do concerts and the like, bc we've got thousands of npcs and stuff.

overall, our headspace is cool, and I have no idea if it was built by somebody or was here the entire time, i just know that each time a new fandom has appeared they've built their own stuff over in the overworld and their home/fandom portal is usually built by the gatekeepers and whoever else wants to help.

also another side note, the Gatekeepers Realm* guest passes are also habded out if you're called in someones office in there for some reason. The forever Pass is either paid for like a subscription or you're cool enough to get it for free. The people who work in the Gatekeepers Realm* don't have or need a pass they're always okay to go in. ALWAYS. and as a security measure, There's a 2 guards that are always guarding the portal at all times. they have different shifts though because once every few hours the guards get swapped.

there's a lot of other things in headspace that i can't really go into bc i don't know much about, i don't like hanging out and about much, I'm kinda lone wolf-ish, unless it's my Sourcemates or a few friends that I surprisingly have but kind of avoid (woops)

*idk the exact name our sys uses for it atm, also it ain't just the Gatekeepers realm it's for all the important roles and important things our system has and stuff..

[dhddmods]

For all our current followers:

We recently updated our bio, but we're sure most of ya'll haven't seen it, so we're going to copy and paste it here. We didn't want to make our bio into a pinned post, because we think that spreading intersex awareness is more important, and therefore our intersex guide is what we prefer to have pinned.

(Also, check out our headmate introduction post/ask us anything post, if you want, and feel free to send questions about either all of us, or specific headmates!)

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Our bio:

Our non-Undertale account. Profile artwork by @starfact0ry. We are a system. Please use they/them in reference to all of us, unless a specific headmate specifies their own pronouns. We don't have an easily describable DNI as we believe people are capable of learning, but if you wanna see our DNI/beliefs check below.

DNI if you are a terf/swerf/radfem. DNI if you believe transmascs don't deserve to have a word to describe their experiences, or that they don't experience bigotry. DNI if you refuse to listen to intersex, altersex, and non-binary people, and refuse to change your language to be less binary-centric. If you make intersexist jokes ("small dick", "no balls/small balls", "low T", etc), please either reconsider how you are being intersexist, or DNI.

If you misuse neurodivergent terms (narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, psychotic, bipolar, OCD, etc), please reconsider how you are being ableist or DNI. Also, learn the difference between empathy/sympathy and compassion/kindness. Hypoempathetic people can still be kind, having no/low empathy doesn't make people abusive.

If you have "cis men DNI" in your bio, please consider the fact that we have cis men in our system, and thus by following us you are either misgendering some of us or being pluralphobic. Also consider that putting "cis men DNI" in your bio is excluding non-binary, intersex, altersex, gay, m-spec, and/or a-spec cis men. And you are forcing trans people to out themselves in order to follow you.

If you are against non-traumagenic systems, we think you are either uneducated, a racist (as many non-traumagenic systems are from cultural practices), or pluralphobic. Non-traumagenic systems can also be diagnosed with DID/OSDD/UDD btw, because they could have dissociative symptoms too.

[abysshare]

Are you normal about introject relationships btw.

No i mean for real.

Are you ?

Content creator factives who date other content creator factives.

Problematic factives dating other problematic factives.

A headmate Markiplier factive dating a JackSepticeye factive.

A headmate Wilbur soot dating Angel Dust.

A headmate Vanny ( GAME universe ) dating a William Afton.

A headmate Anakin dating a Pinkie Pie and a Sans Undertale, who's in a QP with a factive of someone irl.

A headmate based off an OC x dating a fictive.

A factive dating a OCtive. Etc etc.

An adult Catnap dating an adult Frisk headmate.

I say this because sometimes i feel like not so much. I feel like when someone puts a ship in their DNI i always worry that they are including System relationships. Which they aren't, i doubt a major of them knows what a system is or how that works.

But its still worrying. I don't really see people talk about it, because i guess its not as common or maybe they're worried too?

That they'll seem creepy because Their headmates split too early before knowing the big plot twist is their sources are family.

Or that sometimes kid sourced characters, split and are grown up and not at all children ( unless they age slide or are regressors ).

Or that thats just how THEIR relationship works, whether its exomemories or sources or NOT.

Headmates are PEOPLE, with their own choices ( even when its harder for some ). I get so tired of this thinking of that if one headmate has an opinion or interest or whatever, the whole system has the same one, when that isn't always the case.

For singlets or people who do not understand, that would be like if YOU wanted to make cake, but someone else in your group wanted to make pie, well now all the other groups believe you like pie and want to make pie. They're just assuming because someone in your group wanted to make pie, now you do too.

this post goes out to the systems who are too afraid to say anything. To the systems that want to be heard and seen.

( Note: OP is PRO Endo/Nontraumagenic, however does not mind if RESPECTFUL neutral/antis who dont care about discourse reblogs/likes.

Please NO DISCOURSE on this post or about this post. This is just me rambling more than anything.

Also no shipcourse, thats not what this post is about. /srs )

[holder-culture-is]

Joyholder culture is

AAAAAAAA❣️

I'm so so SO proud of my sysmates/headmates‼️ XD

Our anger holder and traumaholder (catch-all role label we all use for em) had a conversation in writing (we have an easier time communicating in writing together, be it story/narrative or just random thoughts on paper).

I wasn't actually THERE but like. So the traumaholder did what trauma does and had bad thoughts about stuff. Well, the anger holder was. Ok it surprised me bc I didn't expect to see it, I don't think anyone did, but they had a GENUINE look of HURT on their face, like betrayal.

So traumaholder did a little bit of stupid stuff by themself (recoverable from, so no worries there), break downs, etc etc. EVENTUALLY, they were calmed down, though usually it's in a tired and numb way.

I wanna say the angerholder actually started the conversation? Somehow? Not sure how but I think it's just cuz they had a (sarcastic/funny) thought they wanted to write down, and it just went on from there.

ANYWAYS LIKE I'M SO PROUD OF THEM‼️ Idk about you but I. Love. PROGRESS❣️ Like the good kind. I'm the system's personal cheerleader, basically XD

THEY HAD A CONVERSATION TOGETHER AND LIKE MANAGED TO MAKE UP AND REASSURE EACH OTHER AND STUFF AND LIKE IT WAS SO CUTE AND IT WAS THE FIRST TIME I'VE SEEN OUR ANGERHOLDER LIKE THIS‼️ Pretty sure they're a protector, so they definitely are trying to help us and like support us, 100% I'VE JUST NEVER SEEN EM LIKE THIS!!!

I'm so happy I could cry TwT /pos

(Btw when I think about giving em a group hug I just see the angerholder trying to free themself from my clutches >:3 XD)(All in good fun, I promise X3)

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