#‘don’t do love’ - he’s aromantic
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I hate it when people don’t take aromanticism seriously. I hate it when they say “oh it’s just a phase I also thought I was aromantic but then I got a partner.” It doesn’t apply to everyone.
Respect aromanticism as you would respect any other identity
#aromanticism#aro#aromantic#arospec#aromantism#aro pride#there’s this girl who’s flirting with me and me being on the aro spectrum idk whether I like her that way#my friend is being super nice and helpful#however he doesn’t eben consider the possibility of me not liking her. he wants me to get a girlfriend.#he genuinely wants what he thinks is best for me based on his own experiences but#we’re not the same person#he thought he was aromantic but then he got a girlfriend so he figured he was heterosexual demiromantic#and good for him!#but I’m like also on the auto spectrum like him but I cannot tell the difference between romantic and platonic feelings#he’s trying his best but he doesn’t see not feeling love as a possibility#I wanna cry please I want to know if I actually like this girl and what to do if I don’t#I’m so fucking scared that I’m just overreacting and I’m reading too much into it#maybe I just want to be someone’s favorite person in a platonic way and I can’t distinguish it from romantic feelings#I hate this whole situation
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Just reading some comics and saw a panel I thought you might like. :)
ah fuck, characters reminiscing always get to me ;__;
but i will never ever get over that fond way these two talk to and abt each other. especially when they’re poking fun, you can just hear the love in their voice it’s SICK.
the halbarry love language is annoying each other, but even more than that, it’s being each other’s exceptions
#panels#sent to me#halbarry#hal jordan#green lantern#barry allen#the flash#dc#danswers#the halbarry love language/exceptions thing btw is a whole thesis i have in my brain#their love language incompatibilities; their willingness to compromise and make it work; the way they’ve never had a friend like this#hal esp is almost like a completely different person around barry. like he’s still Hal ofc but it’s obvious that he’s never navigated a#relationship like this before. yes i’m talking abt ‘what do you guys see in each other?’ / ‘yk… i have no idea! ☺️’#hal is so aro-coded for someone i don’t hc as aromantic. and that’s only bc barry came along (another whole thesis o’ mine…)#god literally the rare exceptions to each other#been thinking abt writing a halbarry fic abt their love languages (5 chapters 1 love language for each)#not rly sure what that’d even be abt but i do think abt this often so maybe writing smith would help me process/explore/share my analysis +#interpretations of how that works between them#idk i’m not a writer we’ll just have to see
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any thoughts/opinions on vikdecai?
i don’t believe i have any complex thoughts that haven’t already been said by the community at large! mostly my opinions just correlate to a very fond i like them, since mordecai kneecapping viktor in order to save himself from having to hurt him later is really one of the first things that humanizes his character. makes you realize he’s not nearly as cold or practical as he tries leading you to believe -- a front that unravels further given his atlas obsession. and i like that! my favorite thing about mordecai is his subtle longing for the lackadaisy crew, how much he doesn’t wish to hurt them, and how venomously he loathes his current life … what he’s doing now isn’t what he wants to currently be doing, but merely what must be done for his goal, one which is already layered in lackadaisy sentiment. so his bond with viktor is important to me, given how much it highlights this inner struggle and earnest truth within his character. but then again, this can also be applied to mordecai’s relationship with mitzi, atlas, and ivy, so let me discuss them in a more romantic sense. which i’m sure is what this question is trying to get at!
romantically, i view mordecai and viktor’s dynamic as … favorable? it’s entirely plausible there were feelings there, an intimacy only they shared as men inside atlas’ arsenal, people who were entirely knowledgeable of the lackadaisy’s nasty underbelly. it’s their slaughter of people deserving and of many, many innocents that help their boss’s speakeasy run, and this violence ( this constant watching one another’s back ) would only breed closeness in spite of the horror it’s built on. and, of course, they have core things in common outside of their job and efficiency for bloodsport! like their love for family, their devotion towards those who matter most, and how out of place they equally feel on this soil - - in this world and era, where everything feels like it’s out to get them in some way or another. their ability to connect beyond their surface level traits and quirks ( mordecai and viktor are very much opposites on their surface, and they have a habit of bickering about these differences, albeit lightheartedly ) demonstrates the profoundness of what they have and what they’d do to protect it. they care for one another in little gestures, insignificant to most but in a way that truly matters to them … as they can see the genuineness in it, since they’re putting themselves into the careful actions and aren’t just doing things for politeness sake. for example, mordecai tries adorning them in matching cloth so they’re two equal halves, symmetrical, and then we have viktor who pocketed mordecai’s glasses to give him later when they were done with their mission. i like to imagine there are more things like this in their relationship! stuff that isn’t as severe as life or death, like saving your friend’s skin by a mere inch or dragging each other to a finish line every day. any of atlas’ men can offer that. it’s the extra things, done out of agency and personal desire, that bring them closer than any other regular joe on atlas’ payroll. it’s rather clear that they were close canonically, and that viktor was perhaps mordecai’s closest friend in a way that atlas could never be due to the pedestal he was constantly put upon. and while we have less insight on viktor’s feelings, i’d imagine the betrayal has never, and will never, fully heal. it is not a wound he can easily patch up, and it isn’t something one could just forget either. how can you dismiss someone who used to be your hands and eyes and ears? when you two functioned as another man’s extra body in your entirety? you may as well have shared a mind when out on the field, and that’s a closeness and a trust which is hard to lose. viktor hardly lets anyone in as is, just as anti social as his spectacles wearing companion, so to lose that in such a violent was is an unspeakable pain he bears, i’m sure. mordecai took whatever remained of his life from him with that shot. he’s permanently robbed viktor the ability to defend the last few hairs he cares to protect. his purpose is now up in the air. and all this anguish from someone he completely and utterly believed in … there is a lot of hurt, is what i’m saying. a hurt that’s too deep and life altering for it not to be supremely personal too. it’s deep and festering and viktor ignores it, and mordecai ignores it, mostly, but sometimes his paw strays near his wound and he itches at it, and it reopens the ache all over again. there is metaphor to be found there! an abandonment and a departure that leaves you bloodied from maiming or being maimed. it is very easily a multi-layered sentiment!
however, i could still take this or leave it romantically, hence my earlier statement of favorabe rather than unabashed gushing and swooning. this is a ship i like, but i don’t read mordecai as crushing on viktor per se? i’ve always viewed his extreme relationship with atlas as puppy love that’s half bred from devotion, something not entirely genuine but also still genuine enough, which makes for a nice parallel between that and rocky’s bond with mitzi. his rivalry with atlas’ wife and his oddities such as wearing his boss’s shirts read as girlish crush behavior, typical things one does when believing themselves enamored, you know? naturally his views and feelings for atlas aren’t quite that simple nor easy to parse, and i’m not trying to simplify them in any way! i just believe he had a torch for atlas, and thus didn’t carry another for anyone else, at least not as intensely. whatever feelings he might have for someone would always be second to atlas, who was his very reason for living and breathing every day, who was his answer and justification and eventually? his obsession. in many ways i think mordecai was too wrapped up in atlas to properly develop feelings for viktor, even if there were inklings of something inside of him. ironically, the term something is what i love using when thinking about him with viktor or mitzi. mordecai is something with those two, he feels something, an unlabeled sort of thing he can’t really reach -- perhaps he doesn’t even want to, scared of what it might mean, what it could say. and it is different somethings! they are not the same feeling, what he feels towards those two, but it’s not fully known to him in the way that his feelings towards atlas was. it is not as clear! especially now, with things as awful as they are and with mordecai so full of turmoil he’s forcing himself to not share. he also has an intense aversion to emotions, obviously, which doesn’t help matters lol. this man could find some of the closure he’s so desperately seeking if he took more than a glance inside of himself, but then he wouldn’t be apart of this tragic tale, now would he?
still, in a better world where the lackadaisy’s gaggle of traumatized characters are allowed healing without any casualties or major losses, then i’d enjoy seeing a viktor and mordecai slowburn. where they decide to remain steadfast by each other’s side like once upon a time before, and they deal with life as a unit. maybe when given the space for it, mordecai’s affection can finally cement into real love for viktor -- the romantic kind, something sappy and disarming and maddening all at once. maybe viktor will allow such indulgences, finally able to touch upon his heart again and use it in a way that he hasn’t gotten to in a couple ages. or maybe he won’t share the specific feelings that mordecai possesses for him, but he’ll enjoy creating an entirely new thing that’s only for them : he can compromise and he can bend if mordecai is willing to bend just the same. they certainly wouldn’t be your typical couple, their emotions too stunted for regular dates or typical pda, but there’s something more special and intimate to them carving out their own space, and thus having their own secret world. a mix of platonic and romantic affections, a healthy dose of selfishness and desire they couldn’t ever have before but now can hoard so entirely, in small bearable doses. and there will always be some things they both won’t ever be able to shake ( mordecai disabling viktor, atlas, viktor’s daughter, etc ), although they could manage these aches and guilt better together, which is the exact sort of happy ending i’d want for them. if i may be so indulgent myself haha ( <- person who knows lackadaisy’s ending will be mostly dark and tragic but likes playing around with hopeful scenarios and what-if’s regardless! )
#my asks.#lackadaisy analysis.#lackadaisy#vikdecai#i’m still figuring out my opinions on things! still analyzing text and trying to figure out my own perspective …#so i hope this isn’t too wishy washy or incoherent!!#basically. tldr : i think their bond is so important and i could see mordecai letting his fondness become more#and i love them so bad <333 idc if it’s friendship or gay or whatever i’m obsessed with them#let it also be known that i’m a asexual mordecai truther#but i do think he likes men. like i don’t think he’s aromantic … just asexual …#anyway!! thank you sm for this ask!!! i love asks so i was very eager to answer this haha#hope this was okay!!!#( also i highly recommend the midnight special by shutterbird on ao3 btw!#wonderful read of mordecai and viktor’s relationship#and is one of the rare fics i’m using as a way to flesh out the characters and their relationships#so. a lot of my views probably allign with that fantastic read!! )#i also feel like i want to say more on this topic but for now this’ll do!
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I’ve been lurking in the 911 tags for only a week and I’m already exhausted of most b*ddie shippers holy shit
#the annoying ones know who they are#this isn’t a personal attack#I truly don’t want them to become canon out of spite#why even tag your hate in the goddam tag dedicated to another ship#Tommy’s tag has a lot of hate and people talking about eddie how there’s clues etc etc#I haven’t been deeply involved in fandoms in the last few years for this exact reason#when it becomes too meta it kinda ruins it for me#people digging through interviews and trying to find evidence in situations that weren’t intended that way in the writing drains you#sorry to break it to you#but Bucky is into tommy and was since the beginning of meeting him#yall going#well actually#he’s in love with eddie but doesn’t know and misplaces it with Tommy#is tiring#I don’t know if b*ddie will be canon but not everything has to be about romance with them#they seem to have a connection that goes even deeper than romance#having them be a couple just kinda irks me#they don’t need to be two bros sitting in a bathtub five feet apart but they seem like soulmates in a way that I don’t see as romantic#I say as an aromantic person too#deep connections can be just as intense and interesting if even more than coupling up#obviously not tagging the ship name cause I’d be lynched if I do#and again this isn’t about the actual ship it’s more about the fandom and how they feel entitled to claim theories as facts#lety rambles#tommy kinard#tevan#tuck#911#911 abc#911 show#bucktommy
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Y’all don’t even understand I love Neuvillette sooo so much
#genshin impact#neuvillette#single father. autistic swag. ocean imagery. looks mean but he’s actually a sweetie. the list goes on#CANE USER ALSO. room for me to hc him as disabled#canonical heat sensitivity and sensory issues with his hair and clothes?? drinks water for FUN???#I have got to give this guy a hug IMMEDIATELY#honestly in regards to shipping I see him as aromantic#and i think he sees furina in the light of like. he’s her mentor and feels protective and paternal over her#but i also know a lot of ppl shit neuvifuri and I’ve heard hoyo team is pushing it so no disrespect to that side either#this is just the vibe i pick up from them. seems like the proud father of a theater kid#he goes to pta meetings and watches her school plays#and i know ive reblogged some posts wriothesley and neuvillette together#and tbh i see why people like the pairing i think it’s alright#but it doesn’t Compel me yknow#i do think wrio likes him but i also think neuvillette is like. flattered but doesnt really reciprocate#doesnt feel on the same level as mortals type of shit mayhaps#which could contribute to his distaste toward archons who have relations with humans?#idk man I’m just talking#bottom line love this guy and don’t ship him with anyone but no hate to those who do y’all have fun out there#all love
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Does anyone know how to maneuver a relationship where they are interested in dating you but you were fine being old school acquaintances who don’t speak to each other
#tgdposts#personal#aroace#actually aroace#aromantic#asexual#ace#aro#asexuality#aromanticism#we’re hanging out at an undetermined point which I’m fine with I love hanging out but I can tell he’s into me and I feel neutral about it#good new is I’ve clearly grown since last time this scenario happened because I think I’m being less of a leading on asshole about it#also ideologically I’m not about assuming they want to date instead of be friends so I don’t want to assume anything#but based on how he’s talking to me I think he likes me which I obviously do not reciprocate#fond of me as the Brits say#he’s asked how my day/weekend was for the second time in all too short a timespan which I find telling#not that it irritates me but it’s obvious he wants to pursue SOMETHING#anyway just bc I said okay to hang for coffee does not mean I want to participate in this kind of online conversation he’s initiating#his eagerness to talk is telling and I already lowkey had vibes from him after the fall semester when he asked how my winter vacay was#I was like yeah I’m SUPER BUSY with family stuff and studying for my makeup exam#tbh thought that was the end of it until recently#this is mainly a vent post I guess if anyone has opinions feel free to share#I guess my broad struggle is that I’m learning how to be aroace and assume the best of a situation without leading people on#also I feel this kind of situation is almost inevitable if I want to make friends with guys even though having them want to date me#is not the most ideal start to a friendship with someone#ok to rb although idk why you’d want to
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35 and 36 are. Such episodes but i always enjoy how utena-focused scenes are just her having vague flashbacks to her childhood and squinting really hard and Having A Time Of It but being unable to place why because it scares her too much to consider (understandably so) and then you cut to touga and he’s like ugh. it’s so hard being the world’s first and only gay womaniser. im just gonna romance one woman now because I Am In Love With Her i think probably haha. anyway i have to save her from this guy. oh why? Well. and then he implodes
#i love tougabashing but please also know that he makes me. gahhh#trying to explain the layers of what’s going on with him in those episodes is so fun#i forget that some people think he is sincerely romantically in love with utena#which is more to do with me being aromantic than it is him being gay#like utena’s a boy. that’s why he likes her#anyway he’s aromantic too don’t get it twisted#god i love being normal#< touga after doing the most complicated mental gymnastics ever in 35
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Qpr friend is being romantic towards me again gotta smash his feelings or something
#IsaSpeaks#I really do love (/qpr) this guy#but man. I’m not fit for the type of love he reaches for#idk how to even break to him without being rude#as I did in the whole time he has been my friend#he’s way more than a friend; but that label doesn’t break the partners boundary#I think it’s too much for me a proper relationship#sigh#idk man#aromantic struggles#aromantic#aromantism#edit: I don’t even think he realizes we’re qpr#I don’t like the idea of a romantic relationship label#or a queer platonic one; it’s too much#qpr friends sounds just perfect
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Doing a lot of thinking on troll sexuality lately and just based on the quadrant system there’s definitely troll sexuality’s that are different from human ones.
Starting this off I totally believe that there are gay/lesbian/straight etc trolls. The trolls live in a binormative society but there are definitely trolls that are only attracted to certain genders over others. HOWEVER I wonder if this can vary between quadrants. Like what if there is a troll that is only interested in matespritship with women, but will only enter a kismisis or moirail relationship with men.
Maybe aromanticism is the same way. While there certainly are trolls that are aromantic regardless of the quadrant, maybe there are some that are only aromantic towards redrom or blackrom and do feel attraction towards people in other quadrants.
ALSO POLYAMORY!!! Trolls are polyamorous from human standards, but there are also probably trolls who are polyamorous in certain quadrants as well (having multiple kismesis/matesprits/moirails/being an auspice to multiple kismesis or having multiple auspice). And there are probably monogomous/love beyond quadrants trolls too, like Signless and the Disciple, which in troll society would be seen as abnormal.
The quadrant system is fun to think about I might make up some troll sexualities later
#as a side note why the fuck do trolls have biological sex#they literally don’t reproduce via their own bodies why are there different sexes???#maybe they evolved from a species that used to reproduce via male female shit and they’re not far enough detached to lose that trait yet idk#anyway#homestuck#quadrant system#homestuck quadrants#sexuality#gonna tag some trolls so this will show up sorry if I’m clogging a tag#karkat vantas#vriska serket#eridan ampora#(he’s on the troll aromantic spectrum in the sense that it’s very rare for him to feel flushed feelings but he can easily feel pitch)#sollux captor#(he and aradia were in a monogomous/love beyond quadrants relationship but he also does quadrants as seen with fef)#maybe I am Karkat#maybe that’s me#kismesis#matesprits#matespritship#moirails#moiraillegiance#auspices
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EDDIE DIAZ IS SO ASPEC CODED I WANT TO EXPLODE
#everything he does is because it’s what he thinks he should do because of society or other peoples opinions#he keeps shoving himself in a box that he doesn’t fit in and saying don’t look i fit in i fit in i’m normal i promise#im doing everything i’m supposed to#but none of it feels right it all feels wrong but if it’s what i’m supposed to do and want and if i don’t want it then society has said#there is something wrong with me and there can’t be something wrong with me#y’all i’m just i’m having so many emotions#i have thousands of things to say#i love buddie but more and more i’m like but what about aroace eddie i’ve always seen him as aspec but him not being attracted to anybody#is so fascinating to me because it could work SO WELL#idk i just there is something so aromantic about this new plot line#rey actually speaks#eddie aspec diaz
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#I’m just having some thoughts this morning. ignore this#…#…I wish I wasn’t so confusing#all these feelings inside me#my mind couldn’t have picked something simple. an identity that was easy to explain and label#i couldn’t be just bi or trans#instead I’ve got a million feelings fighting for a name#I’m asexual. I don’t want sex. i do want sex. don’t touch me#I’m aromantic. I love platonic relationships. I want to be in a relationship. i don’t think I’ll ever be able to return romantic feelings.#stay with me anyways.#I’m a girl. I’m a boy. I’m not trans. i am.#he/she#it’s just. confusing for me#i wish it was simpler
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Oh No! by Marina is an Aki Hayakawa song. I will not be taking questions at this time.
#meposting#my thoughts#I know I already listed oh no! on my big csm character song list but. i still think it’s funny/fitting#Aki to me is like. a mix of metal and sad bubblegum pop.#Denji is alt rock. lots of electric guitar.#Power is hyperpop. real scratchy shit.#csm#my csm thoughts#chainsaw man#csm aki#aki hayakawa#music#music genres#‘don’t do love’ - he’s aromantic#‘don’t do friends’ - see him saying ‘I’m not here to make friends.’ emotionally repressed sadguy#etc etc#grind culture. grew up too fast.#maintains distance from others/himself in order to function and maintain the status quo (subjugation of Fiends)#also it’s just fun as hell to associate him with the song#I feel like the CSM anime has such an infatuation with Aki that it tends to try to make him as serious and poised and sexy as possible#but like. at the end of the day he’s a fucked up 19 year old. I want him to be allowed to be a loser and be silly.#reclaimation of childhood (innocence/joy) and family/community is. to me. such a big part of csm (part 1)#Denji had to survive on his own in spite of extreme poverty/exploitation. financial anxiety under the threat of death? he’s like. 7. son.#Aki had to ‘be mature for his age’ (aka sacrifice his life/wellbeing for Public Safety and the goal of revenge) after losing his family.#and he had to live with the guilt of knowing that. if he hadn’t voiced his wants/needs to his brother that day (hands being cold).#his brother might still be alive.#how do we live with guilt?#Power is defiantly childish and self-absorbed. possibly in part to resist the dehumanization that humans have forced upon fiends.#Angel’s similar in that he refuses to do any more than the bare minimum that he’s forced to do (under threat of death).#using the little agency he does have in his situation/cage
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#things are not going well in the psyche of the previously-identified aromantic lesbian who is now seemingly in love with her#tboy best friend that could possibly be some form of limmerance emerging from attachment anxiety due to the fact that this person#has never felt seen or understood by anyone this much in her life and is convinced it must be some divine intervention rather than#just human connection she possibly could have found anywhere#and now she is aware of that but is still convinced she needs this person more than anyone else to feel okay#and like on the one hand is trying to learn that is okay to need people and rely on them#but on the other hand realizes its not good to put all your needy eggs in one basket#and then catch feelings for that basket that venture beyond what has been established as the norm#possibly dooming the relationship to said basket because now things are weird#and she doesn’t know how to unweird them#and is pretty sure he knows or senses something is off#but she doesn’t know how to bring it up#so she confesses to a mutual friend who is kind and helpful but then does something else to make her uncomfortable#thus reinforcing her belief that the only person who’s truly compatible with her in a way that makes her feel safe to be herself#is This One Person#only now she is pretty sure she has fucked it with This One Person#because how do you tell a person that you’re kinda in love with them but you don’t want to be and you know that#the only way this relationship works is if romance/sex is left out of it#but you’ve mentally Crossed The Line#and it can’t Be Uncrossed#so naturally she just keeps spiraling about it#p#delete later
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with the note that invisibility isn’t privilege I’d like to remind people how erased aro people are
like I work with several queer people, gay and bi and such. Not one of them knew what aro or queer platonic was before I told them
during pride month you know what flag they don’t have in general stores? Aro
Even at pride itself when I went last year, there were four aro things. That’s it. Do you know how depressing that is to go to the queer place specially and you have to stop at every single stall to scour for a single thing to represent you?
we need to normalize aromantism. We need to stop more than friends and “you laughed at what he said you’re in love!” Or “you spent the night with her just admit you’re gay” attitudes. Romance is not required to be a human and it’s not required for intimacy. It should be just as known and accepted as being gay.
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What queer Asian sci fi authors would you recommend?
Yeah, to put my money where my mouth is, here are some queer SFF writers from Asia and the Asian Diaspora in the Anglosphere that I really like and highly recommend:
Nghi Vo: probably doesn’t need an endorsement from me, hah, her The Empress of Salt and Fortune is one of the most perfect novellas I’ve ever read and well deserved its Hugo win. The whole Singing Hills cycle is great. It’s a fantasy world strongly inspired by Imperial China and Vietnam, and does clever things with fantasy, folklore, storytelling, and memory. Her novels are standalone historical fantasy set in 1920s-America-with-magic and are very much about Asian immigrant/diaspora experiences in the early 20th century US. With Magic.
Yoon Ha Lee: I love his Machineries of Empire. Would love to finish that trilogy someday. But seriously it’s creative, intense military sci-fi in a magic-science space empire and is very interested in what it takes to uphold such a system.
Simon Jimenez: The Vanished Birds is sooo heartbreakingly good and I need to read A Spear Cuts Through Water soon.
Isabel J. Kim: Short story writer. Runs the gamut of sci-fi, fantasy, horror, and the weird stuff in between. Creative and vivid in really compelling ways. Her first novel is in the works and I am SUPER interested. She does funky and creative things with perspective and structure in her stories. Has several stories now that are about turning popular tropes or other iconic stories around like they’re in a kaleidoscope, but her first published story “Homecoming Is Just Another Word for the Sublimation of the Self” is probably still the most affecting to me.
Michelle Kan: Has a trilogy of novelettes called Tales of the Thread, self-described as “aromantic Chinese fairytales” that take a deliberately aro approach to fairytale retellings and fairytale style fantasy. I recommend them. (Also has a superhero novel I haven’t read.)
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Haven’t read yet but they are on my TBR:
Aliette de Bodard: Her Xuya universe novellas, and the relationships between humans and AIs and spaceships, sound super up my alley.
Kai Cheng Thom: Author of Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl’s Confabulous Memoir is a less traditionally sff entry but is a fabulist/surrealist take on the Trans Memoir… which I feel like I have to be in the right space for, but I do want to read it.
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Also he’s not out as queer or anything but I can’t not recommend Ted Chiang because he writes some of the best short stories In The World and has THE most interesting and unique and compelling ideas.
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There are also so many more authors out there I don’t know and haven’t read! But! Someday!!
#There are also queer Asian authors who I think write stuff that’s just mid. John Chu. Amal El-Mohtar. Iona Datt Sharma#But they still deserve interest and support for not being Relentless Internet Harassers. Check ‘em out#asks#anonymous#books
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The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality
Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!
I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.
One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.
Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.
It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.
It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.
When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.
But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.
Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.
But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!
Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?
Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.
Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.
And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.
But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.
#aromantism#aromantic#aroace#asexual#hazbin hotel#alastor#hazbin alastor#lgbtqia#alastor aroace#PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE#“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE#RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX#let us have this#we barely get anything as it is#but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it#nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself#i just would like people to understand a little more that#yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations#yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid#if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out#my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience
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