I think what I want to get into with the "Anyone can do harm." thing that I keep beating yall over the head with is that literally anyone, anyone at all can do harm it's not "in your DNA" to be an abuser or written in the stars that you'll be a predator.
Whatever image you have of an abuser in your head, drop it and replace it with your favorite person in the world and you'll probably be closer to the truth than you realize.
It's easy to address harm when it's coming from someone you already hate.
I see it happen all the time. Someone you couldn't stand for no real reason does something heinous then all of a sudden here comes the avalanche of "I always knew they were a fucked up individual."
No, you didn't.
There is no possible way you could have known, you just already didn't fuck with them before they started doing something you could use to justify your hatred of them. I'm guilty of it too! I'm petty, mean, vindictive, and yes! I'm way quicker to believe something bad about someone I hate versus someone I love because I'm human. Still, y all gotta learn to move past that initial "Well, they were always nice to me!" gut feeling and understand that nobody truly knows anyone and anyone can be capable of anything. Even victims. Even you.
A clip from Grian's Season 10 Episode 21 of Hermitcraft. Scar, Skizz, and Grian are watching Cub descend comically slowly from the sky using a slow falling potion and elytra.
Grian: [laughing]
Skizz: You!
Grian, Skizz, Scar: [laughing]
Cub: Hello, boys!
Scar: Hello, god!
Grian, Skizz, Scar: [continued laughter]
Cub: Great to see you all!
Hard cut to a clip from Cubfan135's Season 5 Episode 1 of Hermitcraft. Cub is mining for resources alone.
Cub: [mining in silence]
Scar's voice: Maybe if I, unmuted my microphone…
Cub: God? Is that you?
Scar: It is…
Jason *dying his hair black*: you know I started dying my hair before Robin.
Dick: yeah why?
Jason: their's like five red heads in Gotham and I knew as a kid for a fact that one was Ivy and one was Riddler. Then I became Robin to find out the other was Batgirl/Barbra and finally Kate Batman's cousin who's now Batwoman-
Dick: Yeah Red Heads in Gotham are either heroes or villains
Jason: -yeah so I didn't want to draw attention to myself.
Dick: ...Jay?
Jason: what?
Dick: I don't think it worked you've been a hero, villain and now anti-hero.