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I got a peach cow :3

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hey so i literally do not have you blocked nor have i ever have had you blocked can you please stop lying to make me look like a Big Bad Scary Evil Radqueer Who Is Evil And Scary. thanks

for desirdae i was not trying to recoin anything, simply making an alternative flag thats inclusive of rqs for my own comfort. i genuinely really like the term desirdae, i think the the word sounds very pretty and the definition of it fits me much better than transID as most transIDs are pretty dysphoria-focused and i dont have dysphoria about most things. me making an alt flag and symbol was not me trying to "turn desirdae radqueer" or anything, i simply am desirdae and have been since it was coined and just wanted an alternative flag that i could use so i dont break the boundaries of desirdae coiners. while you cant put a term behind a dni, i feel uncomfortable publicly using someones art (flags) that they have asked me not to use.

for my recoining of wishqueer, yes obviously that was a recoin, but i explained why i recoined it in the post. since i assume most people arent going to read my posts, ill reiterate and elaborate on it here: i recoined it because, for me, being wishqueer was an important aspect of my identity and my transition from being extremely anti-radqueer and hating on radqueers constantly to being radqueer (again, since i had previously left the community). being wishqueer (and desirdae, to an extent) was part of me stopping how reactionary and mean i was constantly and stepping back to evaluate whether what i was doing (harassing people, hating on people for existing, etc) was truly right or not. being wishqueer, which for me was just wanting people to stop arguing and exist peacefully, helped me form my own identity outside of discourse and ive landed somewhere that isnt quite in either community (radqueer or anti-radqueer). radqueer is way too broad and lets in a lot of shitty people (some people are trying to be extremely edgy and support noncon, some people are somehow radqueer and anti-endo or shit like that??) while the anti-radqueer community is extremely toxic and completely destroyed my mental health when i was in it. the only terms that have ever really fit me are terms that ive coined myself, or terms that friends of mine have coined, and the blankqueer that ive always identified with more than any other has been my sinqueer term. id consider my wishqueer recoining an extension of that. was it wrong of me to recoin a term? eh, debatable. id be pretty pissed if someone recoined sinqueer, but at the end of the day, if someone disagrees with me but feels connected to something ive created, im not going to stop them. i still have my term, and you have yours.

and im not gonna pull the "IVE GOTTEN ONE BILLION HATE ANONS BECAUSE OF YOU" shit that people pull a lot. in fact, i currently havent gotten any hate, which is nice, only a few more notes on some of my posts. i hope that none of my friends or followers have given you any hate either. i have not blocked you, you were never blocked, i genuinely do not care if you see my terms or not. the only people i block are people who harass me or people who are supportive of harassment, and you have done neither of those things.

i would appreciate it if you posted this ask, but ngl i would not be surprised if you just deleted it and pretended i never sent it because a lot of anti-radqueers have done that when ive tried to explain things in the past

hey sorry most likely we assumed you blocked us since we could not find your blog !! That was our bad.

and for the Desirdae and wish queer thing we do have some things to add.

We are a Ex Radqueer we made Desirdae and wish queer for ourselves to describe our thoughts and our experiences

we honestly aren’t to angry about the making a Radqueer friendly Desirdae flag , you do you .

but we are and feel extremely angry and frustrated at the wishqueer recoin.

Wish queer was a term made by us for us. To help OUR recovery from being a Radqueer. You reckoning it is extremely disrespectful. Especially the fact you didn’t even change the name or anything !! You also referred to it as being “ true wishqueer “ which is laughable .

We understand it may have been apart of your identity in the past but now it should not be. You should make your own term with its own name and meaning. Do not try and recoin / re skin an already made term to mean different things and completely disrespect the creators boundaries.

It’s important to respect others which also means respect their terms. You have so many other terms you could have made or found that mean what you reskinned whishqueer to be.

it is extremely disrespectful to take someone else term and change its meaning deliberately. It would be disrespectful of us to take a Radqueer stance term and reskin it to make it mean and stand for something way different and not even change it’s fucking name.

sure if it was a gender term we wouldn’t care. But wishqueer is NOT. It’s a queer term for a STANCE. It’s a term for those with specific ideas of values. You changing its definition not only brings confusion into what wishqueer is but it also again is disrespectful as fuck and shows a clear disregard for others boundaries.

Breaking boundaries and stealing others terms ( no matter who they are ) is never ok. And we will not be silent about that opinion.

-Link and Diya

( @corporatecoinings )

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Why should you support, or at least respect, paraphiles?

Stupid little [informational] rant on why there's nothing wrong with paraphilias and paraphilic disorders, yes that includes the bad ones, and why anti-paraphilia is technically ableist. "S-so i'm ableist for not liking pedophilia?!" shut up and listen.

Before I go all out here's some terms you should know ;

anti-contact : someone who doesn't support *practicing paraphilias, more specifically ones that cannot be consented to.

pro-contact : someone who supports *practicing paraphilias

there's also neu-contact, complex-contact, blah blah

*practicing : a paraphile who practices (acts on) their paraphilia

non-practicing : a paraphile who doesn't practice (act on) their paraphilia

okay keep reading for the actual reasons, please repost to spread awareness /nf.

To start, paraphilias are completely uncontrollable just like any other fetish or even mental condition. Their causes are mostly trauma, internet exposure at a young age, and sometimes can be passed down through genetics. Again, they cannot control any of those, so why judge them for it?

Because of the way paraphilias are looked down on, it makes it difficult for them to seek treatment or even supportive communities. Especially younger paraphiles who may not be in a good environment or feel too ashamed to tell anyone about it. Not being able to get help can lead paraphiles to harm others or themselves.

Paraphiles do not choose to be paraphiles, they do choose however, whether they act on their paraphilia or not. If you still don't understand, let me explain it in a different light. Take NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) for example, people view those with that disorder as horrible and abusive (which isn't true mind you.) NPD is also caused by trauma or genetics, and narcissists have the choice of being abusive or not, just like any other person.

So what makes it so different from other mental conditions, especially since paraphilic disorders are also a thing? They're only viewed horribly because of the stereotypes, just like almost every mental condition. Does that make them deserving of being discriminated against, for something they have no control over?

Now take anti-para and replace it with something else, like anti-PTSD or anti-hypersexual, now that doesn't sound like something you'd want to be, does it? Be support of all neurodivergent / mentally disabled people, not just some.

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How & Why to add Plain Text to your Coining Posts!

[PT: How and why to add plain text to your coining posts. END PT.]

What is plain text?

Plain text is just text without any outside formatting (i.e. bold, italics, big, etc.) that's added to posts that have them.

Why do posts need plain text?

A lot of the time, it's for people who are visually impaired and/or who have any vision issues! Bolded or italics may be harder to read, big text might be worse for some people instead of better, and colored text could mess with a person's eyes (like me!) for some examples. At the end of the day, it's for accessibility!

Okay, how do I do plain text?

There's a few different ways you can write the plain text itself, and really, how you do it is up to you.

[PT: Text. END PT.]

[pt: text. end pt.]

PT: Text. END PT.

pt: text. end pt.

Those are just a few of the most common ways we see people write them; essentially, the core components are "PT" (to indicate a start of a plain text) and "END PT" (to indicate the end). As for the plain text itself, it should be the exact same thing but with proper grammar/vocabulary (other than capitalization, if you prefer all lowercase). Some examples are:

hallo!!! how r u doing today :333 -> PT: Hallo! How are you doing today? :3 [cat emoticon]. END PT.

vi'm doing good, how about kyu? -> [PT: Vi'm [I'm] doing good, how about you? END PT.]

th4t's g00d! h4v3 y0u n0t1c3d th4t 0ur tqs 4r3 ch4ng1ng 3v3ry m3ss4g3? -> pt: that's good! have you noticed that our tqs [typing quirks] are changing every message? end pt.

why ywes, the fictional character has! h♡ believes that the op of this post is a dork -> [pt: why yes, [i have]! h[heart] believes that the [original poster] of this post is a dork. end pt.]

Personally, if something needs to be changed in a plain text—that being an acronym, pronoun, or something else—I flip-flop between adding it next to it in brackets or parenthesis or just straight up replacing it in brackets. Either or works!

Where should I put plain text?

It depends on the text you're making plain, if that makes sense. For example: if it's something unreadable (i.e. replacing letters with numbers), then you're gonna want the plain text before the actual text. On the other hand, if it is readable—at least to screenreaders—you should put the plain text right below the text itself. Some people like to put all of the plain text at the end of their posts, too; the only thing you're going to want to stay away from is putting it under the cut! This is because if you change your URL (I believe) or deactivate your blog, anything under the cut is no longer accessible and therefore your post no longer has a plain text.

But, plain texts don't fit my post's aesthetic/make my posts look more cluttered!

Have you considered that, in that case, it isn't the plain text's fault? If your post has so many things that need separate plain texts that it ends up just making your post look bad, then I don't think that the plain text is to blame; having a million different things of text colored and bolded and using fancy fonts is just unnecessary. I like to think that my posts are fairly aesthetic, albeit a bit simple.

Could we get a boost for this post? (not forced!) @radiomogai @the-astropaws @local-maneater @hysangel @rabidbatboy @vampitsm @icwdtea @smilepilled @pupcoins

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Would it be weird if I, as someone who has no speech or hearing issues, used an AAC app? (Weave Chat specifically)

I have very severe anxiety and so talking to people has been something that is extremely difficult for me, especially because sometimes if I'm too overwhelmed or anxious I start shutting down and often just won't respond to people when that happens, it's not really that I can't speak, I just won't speak, I don't really know why

I've had times in the past where I'm unable to verbally communicate a specific problem or feeling I'm having because I'm too anxious and writing it out to hand to someone is something that has helped me so I thought that maybe using an app like Weave Chat could help me communicate since it would work similarly to how writing stuff out does. I've been wanting to relearn ASL as a way to communicate without having to physically speak but it's hard to find free and credible online places to learn that (I'm agoraphobic and have no way to earn money so paying or going to in person classes isn't feasible atm), plus I feel like most people don’t know sign language unless they themselves have or someone close to them has speech or hearing problems

I just don't know if it would be wrong or weird of me to use it since I don't have any speech disorders or hearing problems

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Headcount - 7, only about 3 of us aren't dormant atm as far as I can tell

Pets - 2 cats and a guinea pig (our family has way more, those are just the ones that are ours lol)

Favorite color - I have like ten million favorite colors that change every other week lol, one of the main ones is pink and that's also another headmates absolute fav color so I'll go with that (the other headmate who isn't dormant doesn't care enough to pick a favorite color lol)

No tags cause I don’t know anyone lol

feelin like making a tag game!

systems, name your (aprox) headcount, if you have any pets, and your collective favorite color!!

ill start

Headcount: 12-13 (Fern is dormant n idk if he comin back, so idk if we should count him) Pets?: yes!! we have an orange and white american shorthair named Pumpkin :3 Fav Color: evenly thru the headmates? medium blue | through intensity of interest in the colors? indigo

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Desirdae's I identify with and why (Cause I'm bored lmao)

[pt: Desirdae's I identify with and why (Cause I'm bored lmao) /end pt]

(Just so we are clear, no one owes anyone an explanation for why they identify as certain things, I'm doing this purely cause I'm bored and want to)

Please keep in mind these are very basic simplifications for why I identify with these terms

Desirpermadaydream - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to be permanently daydreaming and/or to be permanently in a daydream. Reasons for this may be MaDD, delusions, being a headmate who's sourced from a daydream, etc.

Why? - I have (self diagnosed) MaDD

Desirtopsurgery - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to have top surgery.

Why? - This one is pretty straightforward, I'm transmasc and would like to have top surgery lol (though due to a fear of anything and everything medical-related as well as not liking the idea of permanently changing my body since I'm prone to changing my mind, I don't believe I will ever actually get top surgery)

Desiranger - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to be angry.

Why? - I have a lot of issues with experiencing/expressing certain emotions and anger is the biggest one, when I do feel angry I can't help but feel guilt and shame for it

Desircatvocals - A term under the desirdae umbrella, and a subcategory of desirvocals, when someone desires/wants/yearns to be able to make cat sounds.

Why? - I'm alterhuman and I'm cat/felinehearted and I have a few feline link-types as well (Also I just love cat sounds lol)

Desirpaws - A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have paws. Some examples of using this might be alterhumanity, being a headmate with paws, atypical dysphoria, etc.

Why? - Again I'm alterhuman and heavily identify with felines

Desirtail - A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have a tail. Some examples of using this might be, alterhumanity, atypical dysphoria, etc.

Why? - Feline related alterhumanity

Desirclaws - A desirdae term for those desire/yearn/want to have claws. Some examples of using this might be, atypical dysphoria, alterhumanity, etc.

Why? - Feline alterhumanity (As well as dragon otherlink)

Desirshifter - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to be a shapeshifter in some way. Some examples of why are nonhumanity, being an alter, for fun, atypical dysphoria etc.

Why? - I am under the genderfluid umbrella as well as alterhuman (I am also part of a system and even though I actually do identify with the body I think it would be cool if my headmates could have the body look just like how they actually look in headspace)

Desirsleep - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to sleep in someway due to working all the time, insomnia, fatigue, etc.

Why? - I have insomnia and somniphobia, I am also just extremely tired all the time regardless of how much sleep I am able to get

Desirimmortal - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want to be immortal. Some examples of why would be being immortal in source, for fun, etc.

Why? - This one is very specifically because I have a very very extreme fear of death

DesirDPD - A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have DPD (dependant personality disorder). Some reasons for this might be: Not being able to get diagnosed, having DPD traits, etc.

Why? - I genuinely believe that I have DPD despite being told that I don't have DPD (or any personality disorders for that matter) but I cannot unconvince myself that I have it for some reason (I'm questioning if it could be considered a dissomei/dissoDPD)

Desirselmu - A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have selective mutism

Why? - I have very severe anxiety and talking is something that is extremely difficult to me, I often wish that was mute/selectively mute that way I wouldn't have to/be forced to talk

Desirinterceleb - A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to be an internet celebrity

Why? - I've always wanted to be an internet celebrity of some kind, from YouTuber, streamer, TikToker, to being super popular/well known on Reddit or Tumblr, I also have (self-diagnosed) MaDD and the vast majority of my daydreams involve being an internet celeb

Desirpermabruised - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want have permanent bruises/be permanently bruised

Why? - For a long time I had bruises on my legs that just didn't go away and after they finally started fading it just felt really weird to not have bruises on my body constantly and ever since then I've had this strong desire/need to have visible bruises cause it just felt wrong if I didn't (I'm not sure why this happened tho lol). I also have intrusive/impulsive thoughts (not entirely sure which it is) relating to wanting give myself bruises or wanting to worsen/darken bruises I already have

Desirpopular - A desirdae term for people who yearn/desire/want to be popular due to atypical dysphoria, mental illness, self-doubt, etc.

Why? - Despite my super severe anxiety not wanting people to be aware of my existence, something in me also desperately wants everybody to know who I am and to be the center of attention (my brain is just confusing like that lmao) Also just to be liked by everyone

I also have some desirharmed terms that I identify with but I won't get into those ones, mainly just cause they're super complicated to explain and I already struggle enough with articulating things lol

This has been in my drafts for well over a month and I've just been adding stuff to it throughout that time, I will probably update this or reblog it with an update from time to time

Also, if anyone would like to share their own desirdae's or related experiences, I'm all ears! (not forced of course)

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Desirpermabruised

[pt: Desirpermabruised /end pt]

Desirpermabruised - A desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want have permanent bruises/be permanently bruised

(No ID because I don't know how to do that, sorry!)

I'm not entirely sure if this is classified as a desirharmed term. I mainly made this because for a long time I had bruises on my legs that just didn't go away and after they finally started fading it just felt really weird to not have bruises on my body constantly. I also have intrusive/impulsive thoughts (not entirely sure which it is) relating to wanting give myself bruises or wanting to worsen/darken bruises I already have.

A tip for anyone who has similar experiences would be to use make-up to give yourself fake bruises or to darken bruises you already have, that's something that really helps me with these feelings

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Trying to figure out if it's just a hyperfixation or if it's a fictionkin/heart type/link type lol

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Wanna go home :(

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Desirinterceleb

[pt: Desirinterceleb /end pt]

A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to be an internet celebrity

(No ID because I don't know how to do that, sorry!)

This desirdae term is basically an alternative to the transinterceleb term for those who would prefer to use desirdae terms to transid terms (I'm aware there are mixed opinions on non harmful transids which this would be, but personally I'm still not comfortable using transid terms even if they are considered non harmful which is why I went ahead and made a desirdae alternative)

The flag colors used are from the transinterceleb flag

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I gotta charge my nc headphones before it gets dark out

Everyone always goes crazy with fireworks for new years

It's awful 🥲

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Have any systems/plurals here done TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) before?

If so how (if at all) did it affect your system functioning?

My new psychiatrist has recommended TMS for my depression/anxiety/ocd but I'm nervous it will affect my system negatively. We're still trying to recover from dormancy and I really don’t want it to get bad again or have my headmates disappear again.

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Desirselectivemutism or Desirselmu

[pt: Desirselectivemutism or Desirselmu /end pt] (I think that's how plain text is done, correct me if I'm wrong, I'm trying to learn)

A desirdae term for those that desire/yearn/want to have selective mutism

I've got absolutely horrible anxiety and talking to people is something that's extremely difficult for me. I often wish I was mute or selectively mute so that maybe people wouldn't constantly try and force me to talk (I've even had times where I'm talked down to like a toddler simply because I won't verbally respond). (Please note this is a very simplified version of why I feel like this, I struggle to put my full thoughts into words.)

I've been wanting to relearn ASL for a while now so that maybe I could have an alternative to actually verbally speaking but I haven't gotten around to finding credible online places where I can learn that (I'm aware going to in person classes is better but like stated above, I have anxiety and am very much agoraphobic), unfortunately I feel like even if I did that most people probably don't even know sign language unless they are or have people close to them who are deaf/hoh or have limited speaking abilities :')

Please note that this not meant to downplay the struggles that people with selective mutism have, this is just something I've felt for many years now and I'm just trying to put a name to it.

This doesn't currently have a flag as I have no ideas, I don't mind if someone wanted to make one, I don’t currently intend to make one myself.

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OCD, but like specifically Religious/Moral OCD. I don't see it talked about much, most people really only talk about 'just right' OCD and contamination OCD. If other types of OCD were talked about/portrayed more often then it probably wouldn't have taken me so long to learn that I had OCD.

Also Celiac Disease, no one ever seems to know what that is whenever I would talk about it, and apparently it's also very forgettable because almost every time I've told someone I have celiac they seem to forget and I would have to remind people over and over again which means I had to explain what it is over and over again. -3-

YUNNO WHAT . Any system / plural who sees this what is a disorder / condition / disability / symptom that you have/experience that isn’t talked about much/mot many people know about it !!

For us it’s Palilalia , Prosopagnosia , PAD, Borderline ID and Factitious disorder ! ( happy to explain what these are if anyone has questions !! )

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DID is fucking with my gender rlly bad and my friend said I should reach out so. Trans systems with complicated genders reblog so I know ur out there???

I would love to hear ur experiences bc I’m getting my ass kicked by gender