#you heal for the rest of your life

[r4v3nr0s3]

​therapy was never that people can’t be messy it was that you shouldn’t let your trauma make you cruel.

In her essay Less TikTok, More Screaming, Persinette writes that these e-therapists have turned healing into “a religion, a lifestyle, and above all, a brand” while promoting a culture of isolation and individual optimization. In this ecosystem, “...therapy has become a litmus test for social belonging and inherent goodness, a sign that one is aware of and has adapted to the newest standards of how to behave.”  The social standard this culture offers is one of controlled, placated solitude. Its narrative often insists that you’re surrounded by toxic people who are trying to hurt you, and the only way to ever become the person you’re meant to be is to cut them all off, retreat into a high-gloss cocoon of talk therapy and Notion templates, and emerge a non-emotive butterfly who will surely attract the relationships you’ve always deserved — relationships with other “healed” people, who don’t hurt you or depend on you or force you to feel difficult, taxing emotions. And finally, your life will be as frictionless and shiny as you, alone, have always deserved for it to be.

Rayne Fisher-Quann, no good alone

[ohmyglobwhatthefrickamievendoing]

I will never be over how at its core OFMD is about queer hope and joy in finding the strength to change and grow, specially during a stage in life/age at which the majority will say that you should be settled with who you are and what you're doing

From Stede falling in love with a man and finally realising he's queer, and embracing that with all the overwhelming joy that he can possibly embody, after years stuck in an unhappy marriage trying to force himself into a role that didn't fit him

To Ed finally falling in love with someone and using that as a catalyst for change to find out for himself what he wants to do and who he wants to be, after years of feeling like he was stuck in one place and treading water

To Izzy finally finding a safe community where he can try out new things and find new ways to express himself, after years of being so tightly wound up and repressed

To Anne & Mary stuck in a rut and unhappy but scared they're too old to change, burning down their old life so they can move on forward together and try something new

To Buttons doing the impossible and changing into a fucking bird

Doesn't it give you hope?

Doesn't it make you overwhelmed?

That no matter what age you're at and no matter how scared you are and no matter how impossible it seems, you can still grow, you can still change, you can still find your people and you can still discover new things about yourself.

That you don't need to figure out everything about yourself in your 20s. That you don't need to fall in love and start the perfect life by your 30s. That you don't need to know exactly who you are and how you're expected to spend your life by your 40s.

That you don't need to remain stuck in the box you put yourself into because that's what people dictated or because that's what was safest.

That you can always grow and change and try something new and it's never too late

[mars-ipan]

god i cannot wait to be off these steroids…

[ae-cha08]

How are you feeling today?

[billford-dump]

Bill and Ford getting into a fight, first verbal, then physical, and then it escalates and suddenly Ford isn't fighting because he's angry, he's fighting for his life because it's kill or be killed and he's so far from home and earth and his brother and everything familiar-

Bill is... Well, no real human could ever come back from something like that. But Bill, impossible as always, sits up from the pool of blood and pushes the pieces back into place and grimaces as they rearrange themselves to where they belong, and he says he's sorry.

Ford isn't a naturally violent person. He doesn't like to fight, or hurt people, but thirty years have brought some feral part of him dangerously close to the surface, ready to be unleashed at a moments notice. Bill didn't mean to push that far, thought he could predict Ford's limits better, but he was wrong. He admits it, and apologizes, even as his body knits itself together with the power he can barely use anymore and blood stains the floor and his clothes and fills the air with a metallic smell.

Ford hasn't lost control like that in years, since even before he came back. He's gotten close, gotten animalistic, but never completely lost it like that. He's scared, but Bill isn’t upset, Bill says I'm sorry and I love you and it's... not fine, but a little bit more okay than before.

Bill isn't quite as okay as he says he is, physically or emotionally, but at that moment Ford is terrified of himself and he needs Bill to be okay. And Bill, for all his rage and bitterness, still cares for this pathetic, dangerous old man. He can pretend, at least for a little while.

[destiny-in-the-universe]

i am vibrating

some of you are so not prepared for what i have planned. i have a fic being written and trust me, i am going to make it hurt but that's all i'm going to say, i am hoping to have this ready by tomorrow because i am on the grind

this is what that stupid (/aff) show is doing to me, oh my lord

have fun~

[candyskiez]

I really really hate the "you'll only be happy/a redemption arc can only be good if the character is forgiven by Everyone or else everything is unsatisfying and the characters who didn't forgive them are horrible people or the characters that did forgive them are awful or blah blah blah" in stories. because it's such a shitty idea on both sides?

1. the idea that every single person a person hurt HAS to forgive them is just so. Gross to me. sometimes forgiving someone helps you heal. sometimes forgiving someone brings you no closure or satisfaction and just hurts you more. it depends on the person whether or not forgiving someone is a good thing. and the situation and literally countless variables!

2. the idea that if every single person doesn't forgive you you're not allowed to grow as a person is just....no. leads to "why should I try at all if ANYONE hates me." the people you hurt are allowed to cut contact with you and hate you all they want, and you can still grow and become a better, healthier, and happier person. other people's opinions aren't the end all be all. it's not about whether you deserve forgiveness it's about if you'll treat the people who *want* to be in your life better.

[moodr1ng]

i think its so annoying whenever ppl r reposting "aesthetic" pics of dainty thin lined pastel colors little tattoos and someone says "this would not hold up after healing/in a few years" and everyone goes "oh so youre the fun police!! who cares!! its what they want!! dont be a hater!" etc etc like.. its called information? sure the tattoo is already on the person and thats a done thing and maybe they know its gonna fade and the whites are gonna look yellow-grey and the colors are gonna blur together and its gonna be an unreadable mess and maybe theyre fine w that. but the thing is youre posting all types of pics of these brand new tattoos that still look fresh saturated and perfect and that makes ppl think its gonna actually look like that, and we know very well many ppl dont do enough research before getting a tattoo to know that it wont stay like that. its perfectly fair to point out "this style of tattoo looks good at first but it does not stay like this long term" and people should probably do it more so that those getting them dont do it under the impression that the quality is gonna remain..

[heyitslapis]

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

[wederyed]

oh my god my mom is going to drive me fucking insane. her zionist ass is still trying to get into an argument with me about palestine even though she is fully aware im pro palestinian and hate israel. we are in the car and she points out a car and goes “oh my god look at that car with a straight up palestine flag” and i already know shes trying to start shit with me. i just respond “ok” and thats the end of that. not even gonna give her the satisfaction of getting into an argument with me, thats more than she deserves. we already had this discussion when you told me that i am a disgrace to her, my family, my ancestors who died in the holocaust, and everyone who died in the holocaust. you yelled at me for 30 minutes straight spewing bullshit. telling me i know nothing because she researched this for years and i am a stupid kid who cannot understand anything. where you told me until i am able to support myself and move out i have to listen to everything she says and believe what she believes. then has the audacity to tell me she never said any of that. this is the bullshit my friends, myself, and so many jewish children of zionists have to deal with. being called disgraces to our family. some being threatened with being kicked out. it wont fucking work. you can kick me out send me to gaza what fucking ever ill do anything in order to support all of the palestinian people. you may scare me but you cannot scare the palestinian support out of me when i have seen images and videos of the horrors they have gone through in the last 100+ days when you refuse to read a single article or look at any footage because its “””too triggering””” for you. how do you fucking think the palestinians feel LIVING THROUGH this. you selfish excuse of a “human”. you lost all respect i had for you years ago and now you will never get it back. enjoy my tolerance of you while it lasts. the second i move out i doubt youll see me or hear from me again.

[reunioninn]

actually it is kind of interesting how x and xx venom is like. very not subtle with how much he hates being alive (looking at the jp lyrics to a solitude that asks nothing in return as well) but by xrd hes a lot more calm about it. sweetheart you have so much trauma its not even funny

[pepplemint]

Being an adult is just your body hurts all the time but only if you think about it

[ziracona]

I am finding that the more I learn about and understand and even like myself, the less palatable I become.

It’s very hard. To know what to do.

I am making sense to myself for the first time in years. I am proud of who I am finding out I am. I am relieved to be making peace and headway. But even when I find relief in acceptance of something I was ashamed of before, I cannot un-hide it from the world. It was buried for a reason.

I am not afraid of the other parts of me, or ashamed of them. I’m glad they’re with me. I am not ashamed of being them, but I am afraid of what other people will think and do if they know. I cannot make them feel the way I do.

I like the parts of me I am discovering and making peace with, healing.

But they were broken for a reason.

The more of them I fix and find, the less of myself I can share with anyone.

It’s hard.

To be more okay and more awake. To dig up parts you buried. And then brick them up in the walls.

[ae-cha08]

[superconductivebean]

#312: >_> <_<

low-key amused at wright's awkward crush on sharp she didnt realise she had if not for imelda pestering her about it all the time bc of some vicious rumor, following #294

not me writing lines in tags again

[keyboard-cowgirl]

True justice is:

Supporting Victims (community involvement, professional help, financial assistance)

Crime Prevention

Public Education

Rehabilitation

True justice is not:

Punishing Offenders

In this essay, I will