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if taylor swift could do me a big favor please and play stay beautiful in pittsburgh on 6/16 i would be forever in her debt
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isat pokemon au, my liege?
my rambling in tags
#my art#in stars and time#isat#isat spoilers#pokemon#siffrin#mirabelle#isabeau#odile#bonnie#i am not individually tagging pokemon sorry. floragato eevee ursaring scorbunny meowstic <- for anyone who does not know them#im personally a big fan of when artists mold pokemon designs like clay to fit their characters so i tried to channel that#siffrin really does have the perfect mystery dungeon backstory. washes up on a beach with no memories of their past type of deal yknow#i imagine that he was still a sprigatito then? and evolves at some point during their journey? dont ask me for details i dont know them#veryy tempting to make him an absol but ive already seen that done very well!! so i kept most of these to floragato sif#mirabelle being an eevee is suuuch low hanging fruit sorry. i could not resist the evolving pokemon not wanting to evolve trope#i was concerned that sif was no longer shortest party member until i realized they just stand on their back legs all the time to feel talle#when quadruped like mira he is still shortest. sorry siffrin#isa gave me such a hard time. like i never thought i would turn a character into ursaring of all things but it really was the best choice#my other choices were bewear or pawmot if you care. he’s so bear coded#if going purely based on looks i probably would have made odile a sneasler. but i wanted her to be psychic#ill be honest bonnie was purely vibes. they carry the treasure bag :)#never draw bonnie's hat in profile worst mistake of my life#loop is still cat shaped here but i’ve seen the idea of them changing species thrown around. much to think about#i like the idea of the party seeing sif and loop side by side and immediately clocking their entire deal#the change god is mew btw. very important information to no one but myself#eurasie as hisuian zoroark?? lots of hair. and the king can be darkrai#don’t mind the inconsistencies. me and my 2781 ways of drawing the same character#wait what does an eevee look like again. googles it. oh i really crabbed this one up#uhh. looks around. been sitting on this one for a bit too long i think. maybe ill clean up some more sketches later
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I’m now fairly certain that every Persona protagonist is (or has been) some flavour of depressed/traumatized, with the exception of Chad Narukami
#naoya totally zoned out: ‘I should’ve died instead of my twin brother���#his friends: awkwardly staring in horror at him#tatsuya: ‘I can get stabbed a little it’s fine I deserve it I deserve eternal torment. this is a healthy coping mechanism’#shadow maya: ‘you’re not happy at all are you?’#maya: ‘lmao whaaat??? no no I’m happy all the time definitely don’t have crippling pyrophobia or the weight of existence on my shoulders’#now idk p3 at all but those guys summon their personas by literally shooting themselves in the head#there is no way emo blue or suspiciously cheery red are well adjusted#ren: canonically has police trauma. heavily implied to not take care of himself properly unless his talking cat reminds him#I also don’t know p4 that well but from what little I have seen#Yu: ‘I mean there are murders happening but I’m just vibing with my friends for the most part are you guys ok???’#storyrambles#persona
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Y’all I’m completely flat broke and need cat litter, cat food, and groceries. My phone bill is due on the 7th. I had to call out of work yesterday because of nerve pain and now I only work two days this week and need to pay rent too. I really can’t do this shit anymore I’ve been trying so hard to get by without help bc I never feel like I deserve it but I can’t take it anymore. My friends and partners can only offer moral support bc we’re all fucking poor.
I really don’t know what to say. I know so many of us are struggling and it makes me so mad that ANYONE has to beg online or out on the street just to survive. I’m so angry all the time that community aid is seen as a last resort. It should be easy to find help and support in the people around you and it’s not and it’s bullshit. So few people care.
I don’t have a dollar amount I’m asking for, the number would be so high and I don’t care if I get all I need I just need SOMETHING. Anything to feed myself and take care of my cat.
Please.
#disability#mutual aid#please reblog#please fucking reblog I’m begging you#gfm#donate#donations needed#if you want proof of my bank balance or something you can message me I guess whatever it takes to get someone to care#and not think I’m just asking bc I want to#I don’t fucking want to#I want to kill myself honestly I’ve been struggling for years#and I’m out of pain meds and I just want to cry and never stop#came out of my room to find my roommate didn’t lock the panty and the their cats ripped into and destroyed the loaf of bread I bought#now I just have canned tuna and can’t even make a sandwich anymore and I’ve just been sobbing#I hate this
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Nami WIP + some chibi doodles heheeee
#chia draws#one piece#nami one piece#cat burglar nami#Nami#i love women#this piece is kicking my ass tho#like I’m trying to find my style but it’s all#confusing#like what do I want to achieve with my drawings? what do I want to focus on?#in other news I am now cooking as a way to procrastinate#thank you dunmeshi and the bear#I made bread and fresh pasta and carbonara and lemon curd#I love cooking man#idk why but my butter cookies always end up too hard#I’m gonna make some tangerine dishes so I can pretend I’m cooking for Nami#that way I trick myself into self care#anywayyyys#I love Nami so muchhhh#and idk how people have such cute tumblr layouts I don’t really get httml#I’m a STEM girlie but coding? not my forte#lately I’ve been thinking about one piece from a biotech standpoint#like tf do you mean nobody knows what DNA is besides judge and Vegapunk#they know some diseases are congenital but don’t know about DNA#huuuuuhhhh?#anyways I’m writing a fic about an OC funding a science journal in OP#it’s a lot of fun#art wip#unfinished
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I want to preface this post by saying that I love the cat king as a character, especially one that has such a major impact on Edwin and his relationship with his queerness and learning to be okay with it; HOWEVER, I also believe that everyone that genuinely believes he should be a love interest for Edwin should read this. (Also if you just like the cat king as a character and want to understand his character better and why his and Edwin’s relationship is not something that would be healthy or “real” for either)
#dead boy detectives#edwin payne#the cat king#i do not ship them but I don’t want to hate on those who do (mostly) I just want to kind of inform people of the creators meaning for their#Relationship because I keep seeing people saying they hope they get together in s2 and it’s really confusing to me#Their relationship stems from the cat kings own narcissism and predatory behavior and Edwin’s need for someone to push him into under#Standing that his queerness doesn’t have to be torture and can be something giddy#even if he doesn’t return those feelings#The cat king does like Edwin but he doesn’t know anything about him. He likes the game and then he likes the kindness he’s shown despite#Knowing the cruelty he’s presented to Edwin#Queerness and preformance always go hand in hand#He’s a older secretly insecure character#Edwin is the younger#genuinely kind character that shows him that projecting his hurt will never get him what he wants#It’s about the isolation of queerness and the walls put up and the coping mechanism used to protect yourself even at the risk of hurting#Those just like you. That kiss from edwin was to say “I’m sorry your loneliness had caused you to be cruel. It’s the easiest way to feel.#And while I cannot and will not give you what you want or need#you deserve to feel happy and not like you have to gain the attention of uninterested people#I can’t even explain all my thoughts about their dynamic it’s just so much it’s just about the predadation from older queers because of#The trauma they’ve endured and the cycle of hurt and the way we can break the cycle with kindness while also protecting our youths by#Healing those traumas#Something the cat king learns and accepts#Off topic but I don’t like people defending their age gap because#Yes; Edwin is 86#but he died with a teenage boy brain and then spent 70 of those years in hell where he certainly was not getting his brain developed while#The cat king has possibly hundreds of years of sentience and experience. The power imbalance is not if y’all. And that part of their dynami#Is actually very clear I think but some people didn’t catch it?? Or didn’t care??? Idk man
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This is like, the fifth time I’ve had someone say “you can’t even tell you own a cat” and I pointed out all my cat’s toys and stuff and they were like “I mean it never smells bad in here” and I’m just confused? I can often tell when someone has dogs based on their house smell, but when I visit cat people a majority of them have normal smelling houses? I can only think of one instance that was different and they were fostering multiple cats and could only fit the litter boxes in the living room. Who are they visiting that have weird smelling houses? I’m legitimately confused? The only place that smells strong is the closet where his litter boxes are and they mostly just smell like litter dust. I wouldn’t say they smell like flowers, but if you keep up with the boxes it’s not that bad? Is this about marking things? There’s only ever been one cat who I couldn’t stop from doing that behavior and it was a senior in a house that wasn’t mine who’s home owner didn’t want to put stuff like cat trees on the main floor. Give them other ways of marking things (stuff to rub and scratch, especially near entrances and windows) and make them feel secure and they are way less likely to mark with piss? I’m not saying no cat is ever going to have that behavioral issue when provided with all the other options and stuff, but it’s way less likely. Most people I know don’t even deal with the piss marking. The two instances that come to mind involved parents who didn’t want to ruin their decor by having cat stuff in the more trafficked areas and didn’t like the cats themselves. If you don’t listen to the advice then it doesn’t have a chance of working. I have to stop myself before I infodump more about cat care. I’m just confused by the comments I’ve gotten from visitors.
#emma posts#and even the house with the parents that didn’t want it to look like they had cats were super into cleaning up any marking#it didn’t solve the problem but you still wouldn’t usually smell it#if anything I have a lot of ‘wow. your house doesn’t smell like dogs’ moments myself#maybe not a lot of those actually. I can only think of one or two instances#my autistic nose will smell anything out of the ordinary though#which also probably contributes to the apparent not cat smell thing#but my whole apartment is ‘catified’ how do these people think ‘wow. couldn’t tell’#I’m confused#cats are some of the least strong smelling animals I’ve been around#and I’ve helped care for a lot of different pets and animals#I had fish once and the tank smelled stronger than the cats#I will get even more autistic about pet care especially cats. don’t test me
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I took this photo of my boy, Miguel, this morning at 6:45am. I knew this would be the last morning I would have waking up with him. He has always slept in my bed and I have always woken up to him nearby. Every single day for the past 15 years and 9 months. And now I have to go to sleep without him near my face or on my back. Not even under my blankets with me. And I will wake up without him. No weight on my legs or meowing for breakfast.
I mostly fear that moment tomorrow morning when I first wake up and I still believe he is here. It’s going to hurt. It’s going to hurt so fucking much because in that moment I will be happy again. But it will come and go so fast. I almost want to believe that maybe if I do believe strongly enough, if I can trick myself enough into truly believing he is still here and just in the other room, then maybe the universe will realize its mistake. ‘That person believes their cat is still alive so it must be true! We must have made a mistake!’ And the universe will plop Miguel back into my arms, healthy and alive and purring. I wish it worked like that.
I miss him so much. And the thing is, I’ve been missing him. He’s been a little down for a while now. But it got worse around September 15th and by the 20th, he wasn’t eating and was stumbling around. Falling and getting cold. I was so fucking scared. I cried into his fur, telling him over and over “I’m not ready. Please don’t break my heart. I’m not ready.”
We got him to a vet and he was extremely anemic. They could barely draw blood. But all the tests came back negative. The only thing they couldn’t test for at the time was cancer. They gave him a bunch of medicine and we took him home. We bought him joint meds and iron supplements and senior cat food and treats. Some high calorie snacks to help him gain weight. And he was better for a while. He finally ate some kibble! Which he hadn’t eaten in years. He had completely switched to wet food.
So Miguel was eating kibble and drinking water and taking his meds and doing good. He got to see my daughter turn 9 years old. He got to see my sister’s kids one last time. Because they had recently moved away but unexpectedly dropped by just a few days ago. But this past week he got bad again. Doing the same stuff he was before. Not eating. Drinking lots of water. And, I failed to mention, but while he was eating and ‘getting better’ he was having trouble with leaking poop.
It was hard but this whole week, and really the whole extra month we had with him, I’ve been thinking real hard on his whole situation.
Love hurts. It fucking hurts. Because all love comes with suffering. I must suffer because I love him and I didn’t want to force him to stay alive just to avoid the pain of being without him. So I made the choice today, after having him by my side all last night, to euthanize him.
I had him stay in my bed one last time. I didn’t care if he made the bed messy. I have a washing machine. I just needed him to know that I love him and that I was going to take care of him. And I think he knew. He kept rubbing his head against me and I petted him all night. Talked to him. Told him everything that was on my mind and how I’m still not ready, not 100 percent ready, but no one ever is and I wasn’t going to have him go another day and night with an empty belly, falling down everywhere. I thanked him for the extra month. That it really helped me get ready. And that he can go play with Molly now. (My daughter’s kitten that died back in January of this year)
I made him a sweater. Hand knitted it. He always loved wearing clothes. It was a beautiful, warm day. A perfect last day. Miguel’s last meal was on Friday. It was a pork street taco for our local Mexican restaurant. I always get the pork ones on Friday because they are on sale. I always order an extra one for him. I’m glad he got to eat that. That he had the energy to eat that day. The extra month I had him, he got to eat all of his favorite foods. Spaghetti, pork tacos, turkey, pepperoni, bacon, ham. My boy loved ham. And anytime we ordered a bacon cheeseburger he would come over, begging for a bit of bacon. His favorite snack was pepperoni slices. Second favorite snack was strips of ham or turkey lunch meat.
I’m going to share some pictures of my boy now.
And I apologize for this long, sad post. Especially since I haven’t been around Tumblr for a long while. I’ve been with him. My boy. My Miguel.
#he kept looking at me with these eyes all last night#I think he knew because those eyes felt like he was begging me for something but not for food or a snack#I just kept telling myself all this month that ‘when you don’t know what to do you do what you can’#my boy is gone. and idk what to do now#I have 3 other cats to care for and of course they will feel Miguel’s absence#he was their father in a way. he raised them#im so broken#I knew he would die one day especially when he started getting older and older#I always referred to it as ‘the day he breaks my heart’#but I’m calling it ‘the day he went to play’ now because he didn’t break my heart#he would never#and he didn’t want to#he kept trying to walk and stand and be a cat but it wasn’t working and he wasn’t going to get better and I could let him hurt like that#it very likely was cancer which means he was hurting even if he didn’t let me know#my cat#my Miguel#my boi#personal#tw pet death#tw pet loss
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I’m outnumbered by cat people in the gc so here’s my headcanon about Arthur getting a giant fluffy seeing eye dog and yes I looked it up they were a thing in the 30s.
#giant fluffy dog that doesn’t bark just has deep woofs….#good touch…. for comfort…. always near…. agh#malevolent#I don’t care what Harlan said about him not being an animal guy I’m right#(don’t take this seriously I support my cat loving friends)#I’m just missing my dog so you know how it is. still can’t listen to episode 20 without having a meltdown so what can you do#text
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so I had the summer (in reality, like… almost three months) off from one of my volunteering roles and I’m 20 minutes into my first meeting back and I am already so irritated and angry. maybe this is Not A Good Sign.
#people! are! just! so! useless!#and I am being uncharitable to some people but god#this meeting is also going to go on fucking forever bc nobody can stay on track#and like everyone is very nice! but sometimes I do not care about people being nice I care about getting shit done and not being in#a meeting til 8pm#like maybe I need to#just. dip.#I am full of frustration#I managed to get my point said about us needing more people there to Get Shit Done in between everyone being very optimistic#and like they agree with me#but god#I thought I would have more patience after a few months off and. nope. less patience#it’s just herding cats on intense steroids#and not doing it for a couple months has uh. brought into sharp relief how dysfunctional and infuriating a system it is#one of the people I work with just talks all fluff#like a consultant who charges by the word is what my partner said#and it’s all like things we should do or things we should focus on and empty buzzwords#‘we need to ensure these people have a seat at the table’ ‘we need to expand our offering’ ‘we need a concrete x policy in place’#‘we need to provide a space for the most marginalised in our community’ ‘#like great ok but what are we doing and crucially who is doing it and how#bc you’re not doing it you’ve just said you’re at low capacity#and we are at best a team of five and currently a team of three if we’re optimistic#the buzzword bingo REALLY pisses me off idk if it’s the lesbian in me or the scientist in me or just the tired grumpy old man in me#I think I’ve complained enough#I may…….. have to reconsider what I’m doing here I don’t think getting this angry within a few minutes of a meeting is healthy#it’s a good org I think we do important work#buuut at what point is that not a good enough reason to stick around yknow#ok if you’ve read this far thank you for reading all my anger
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I don’t know as much as i should about warriors to make this post but . I really like the idea of an au where one of mapleshades kits survives and become firestars grandparent or smth because imagine her finding out about leafpool and seeing ashfur go to starclan would she protect her great grandkids would she even know. so many thoughts
#warrior cats#warriors#Mapleshade au#see cuz from my understanding of the character she’s like pure chaotic evil right willing to do anything to avenge her kits and the#betrayal of her former mate.#even though her own actions lead too the kits thing#but like can you fucking imagine that anger directed towards the dark forest? or Tigerstar even? that shit is interesting it’s not cuz he’s#cuz like. that’s her family her kits kits the one thing she’s ever cared about was her kits so like watching tiger try and kill them ofc#she would be pissed but like does that make her a better person now her anger and hatred is directed at ‘’the bad guys”’’ I don’t know!#maybe? it’s really interesting ahajajaja#but also like#I don’t think i would wanna write this au cuz a I haven’t read the books so I’d miss details and it’s possible I misunderstand the charater#and b I have too many ongoing projects#this is a prompt#warriors au
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hey siri how do I stop feeling gutwrenchingly anxious in the guilt way for using the treatment methods available to me to not be in constant misery
#starlight personal#it’s very bizarre to have my life going objectively well - work is good! personal life is good! family is good!#and still be very mentally ill and feel like I’m faking it even though I know damn well I ain’t scream-sobbing every couple of days alone in#my apartment for attention because What Attention??? my cat????? Bug is never moved by my tears she cares only for string and wires#like I know that cannabis has been immensely helpful to getting me to fucking sleep on a regular schedule and that’s integral to -#my functioning and I know that having emergency klonopin in the event of a total breakout is helpful#and I KNOW that my PMDD and depression and anxiety are very treatment resistant and ketamine is the only thing that’s provided any -#meaningful relief and logically I know I’m not abusing any of these#I’m getting a promotion at work I still go out to see friends regularly I have hobbies I have a girlfriend (??? Wild right)#like clearly these things are working because i’m better now than i was for years leading up to now#SO LIKE. DON’T STOP USING THE THINGS THAT HELP. LOGICALLY THIS MEANS THESE ARE GOOD FOR ME#I always roll my eyes when ppl go off their meds b/c they’re feeling better like babes that’s what the meds are meant to do#if you stop taking them you stop feeling better - but it’s REALLY HARD to get past the cultural conditioning#the feeling that ‘but I can white knuckle my way through this I can force myself to live without’ like WHY BITCH#WE DON’T HAVE TO LIVE WITHOUT#AND ALSO. WE’RE STILL GENERALLY MISERABLE BRO. EVEN WITH OUR LIFE IN A BETTER PLACE!!!#DO YOU NOT THINK THIS MEANS THAT WE SHOULD USE WHAT WE KNOW WORKS TO BE LESS MISERABLE#basically it’s really hard to not feel like a loser when the only things that help are ‘fun’ drugs like weed and psychedelics#I feel like I’m being a hedonistic reprobate which 1) is actually kinda cool now that I wrote it out#2) @ myself were not a good enough liar-faker that every medical professional we see wouldn’t pick up on that if that was our motivation#time to remind myself that it’s arrogant to think I could trick many trained professionals without actively trying tbh#that generally helps me get out of my self-pitying ‘ohhhhh I’m awful and lazy and bad and abusing substances’ spiral#to be very mentally ill on main it is weirdly reassuring to be like ‘just as my fanon interpretation of obi wan kinda hates himself but is -#practical enough to take care of himself even when it makes him cringe and want to scratch his face off; I too am aware that self-care is -#radical and punk and In Fact Necessary to beat back the dark and live in the light with hope so yes even though I doubt and -#feel squiggly and guilty about it I’m not going to NOT prioritize my health and well-being b/c self-hatred and self-denial benefits no one’#thank you inner obi wan i love projecting my issues onto you mwah mwah mwah smooches for my favorite boy!!!!!#and smooches for me I’m going to be proud of myself gosh darn it even if I have to fake it at first#see I wouldn’t be able to be nice to myself like this if I hadn’t been doing ketamine treatment for a year IT WORKS BRO KEEP IT UP#SCHEDULE THE DAMN APPOINTMENT AND CLEAN YOUR BONG
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I got a handmade wolf link plushie at a con this weekend and he’s so soft and such the perfect hug size so I’m sitting here at my desk a grown adult working on my comic and he is just. in my lap
#he’s REALLY well made like professional grade work it’s impressive#ALSO his nose has a squeaker in it so I can just. squoosh him head and SQUEAK and the dog comes running#wolf link….give me the strength to get through this massive backlog of homework….#wolf link can I hire you to do my flats for me. pls pls pls I don’t even care dogs are colorblind I can fix the colors later#no but like this is good right bc the actual real dog is a little snooty guy who won’t cuddle#and I won’t have my cat until this summer#and my family dog is SO snuggly but he’s at home with my parents#so I need a stand in !!!!!!
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WARNING FOR ANIMAL DEATH/MUTILATION IN THE TAGS
I think I’ve figured out why it’s the stuff with my cats that gets me the most viscerally upset when it comes to my roommate and I think I need to tell him why that is… we had a talk and he apologized for a lot of stuff but I just feel like I need to explain why I react so intensely to him hating my cats/wanting me to get rid of them
#like there’s the obvious things I’ve said before that ANY pet owner would feel the same about obvious#but like. okay I love cats. I’ve loved cats my WHOLE life#not just cats but animals in general#animals were baby’s first special interest#and I grew up on a farm and I had usually at least 8 pets at a time growing up#that I got money for by doing odd jobs and you know as a child you can spend all your money on your hobbies#and I love animals so I had pets#specifically I always had at least 3-4 cars#*cats#my mom’s first husband hated cats… fucking DESPISED them#and he talked about hating them/getting rid of them all the time#and. well. when I ever did anything to really piss him off#(which you know as a nine year old could be something as simple as breathing too loudly or some shit)#he would kill them#that man killed probably like 20 cats#cuz even after I was old enough to process ‘don’t get more cats bad things will happen to them’#my mom would bring home cats cuz she ALSO loved and wanted cats#even when I would beg her not to because I knew they were going to die#she never cared because in that moment she wanted cats#and obviously this was awful and damaging#and now that I live on my own with my two cats who are my BABIES that I love and cherish#my roommate talking about hating them and wanting them gone….#yeah it’s uh. um. hitting some really specific nerves#obviously I do not think he would EVER EVER do something like that#because you know. he’s not an insane control freak who hates me and animals#it’s still hitting those nerves#and yeah I think I need to tell him that for us to start coming to an understanding#like i get you don’t LOVE my cats you don’t have to#but you can’t talk that way about them… or I’m going to get VERY upset and defensive#kaz rambles
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people who treat hamsters like disposable pets and seem almost proud about not caring what happens to them. i hope you are shot btw
#the carelessness with which people treat hamsters because they are small + have short life spans. i will eat you#remember my boss coming to work with her six year old daughter one day holding a new hamster in a box#and my boss going yeah accidentally let the old one eat a whole load of chocolate haha! um kill yourself sorry#if you cannot bring yourself to care about the fate of a tiny animal you should not get one as a pet!! ‘haha my hamster got loose and ended#up trapped behind a wardrobe!!’ so would it be pretty funny too if i hit your cat with a car. thought not!!#anyway. silly rant stupid rant about a silly topic but i have never had a dog or a cat but#I have had three hamsters and the way people will buy them and then not seem to give a shit what happens about them is. horrible actually!#this goes for all small animals also. hamsters fish guinea pigs what have you. if you have such a low capacity for love that you are not#capable of extending it to an animal smaller than a cat then. don’t get pets i think!!#someone once told me they used to send their childhood hamster down a garden slide as a joke. my current hamster we only have#because someone tipped him out onto the street and we found him. what the fuck is wrong with people!! gross!!#small animal pets are not like. a tester pet for a big animal that you can afford to neglect or mistreat you understand that right#(ridi's) bigmouth strikes again
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mom was saying how she wasn’t good at getting gifts and was like “I don’t even know what to get you :(” and I was like. no mom. I’m the problem here.
#my ramblings#anyway I’m helping her fold dumplings for sister and dad to eat while she’s in cn to take care of grandpa#she has to. wrestle a lot with healthcare. not really looking good.#sister’s gonna order groceries so I don’t have to spread myself too thin but I’m still gonna help out of course#but anyway I think gift giving is a skill that can be trained#but part of gift giving as a skill is knowing how to give gifts to folks when you don’t necessarily know what they want#for a high school pal I don’t know the specifics of fandom or what she already has#so I gave her socks and was like: now that you are an adult you get adult gifts.#and she seemed to get a kick out of that#but in general it’s helpful to 1) keep in mind if someone wants something specific#2) keep in mind if there’s a type of theme they enjoy (e.g. space or fish or cats)#3) keep in mind if there’s a type of object they collect (like mugs or magnets or merch)#3.1) find a way to keep track of their collection and check on it (ask them if they’ve gotten anything new/are planning to)#4) gifts can still be food or experiences it doesn’t have to be limited to An Object They Keep#(one of the ‘gifts’ I was planning for mom was ‘let’s go to this scenic garden for an hour or two and I’ll take pics of you however long yo#want and I won’t complain at all)#(mom loves getting her photo taken and posting her outfits to wechat)
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