#women’s safety

[ayaahh00]

Isn’t it so fucked up how men will constantly try to deter any woman’s sense of safety or power? If a woman says she has big dogs to walk with at night, you’ll find men saying “Can it take a bullet” or if a woman has a gun they’ll say “I can just twist your wrist and take it from you”. They’re always intentionally trying to make us feel threatened and unsafe. Men will go the extra mile to find every possible way to antagonize and harm women, if we have the power to defend ourselves, they will do whatever it takes to undermine it because for them, putting women in danger, stripping us of our agency and safety, gives them power and control. And they have the audacity to call themselves protectors and actually delude themselves to believe it. The idea of women protecting themselves and taking precautions angers them, which is why they always feel the need to undermine it.

[erebusvincent]

[caitlinjohns77]

[billionbrilliantstars]

This is such a poignant fact. I’m not here to say all American women should join the 4b movement. But we should all consider it to some level. I will always believe in true love, but this election has proven that we need to be VERY careful about the men we trust if we choose to pursue a relationship at all. An overwhelming number of men voted to elect a man guilty of SA. An overwhelming number of men are okay with that. It’s not all men, but let’s be better safe than sorry. If you’ve already got a good one, keep him. But for those who are single like me, let’s be very careful. Especially with American men. At least for right now, I won’t officially call myself 4b because I’ve been willing to talk to men from other countries for a while now. I don’t think they’re magically more progressive but many other countries have better gender equality norms than America.

There are still a few good men in America. I know a few men who are good husbands to their wives. But with what has happened in this election, we as women deserve to prioritize ourselves and our own safety. Whether we choose to fully align ourselves with the 4b movement or simply use even more caution than we did before, we deserve to put ourselves first.

[radfemforwomensrights]

This is fantastic. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Social commentary on the state of women’s sports right now. That last line is gold. 🤭😂

Spread this.

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“Men are more likely than women to be involved in a car crash, which means they dominate the numbers of those seriously injured in car accidents. But when a woman is involved in a car crash, she is 47% more likely to be seriously injured than a man, and 71% more likely to be moderately injured, even when researchers control for factors such as height, weight, seat-belt usage, and crash intensity…She is also 17% more likely to die and it all has to do with how the car is designed - and for whom…When men and women are in a car together, the man is most likely to be driving. So not collecting data on passengers more or less translates as not collecting data on women. The infuriating irony of all this is that the gendered passenger/driver norm is so prevalent that…the passenger seat is the only seat that is commonly tested with a female crash-test dummy, with the male crash-test dummy still being the standard dummy for the driver's seat. So stats that include only driver fatalities tell us precisely zero about the impact of introducing the female crash-test dummy.” - Caroline Criado Perez (Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men)

[hadesoftheladies]

it makes me angry nowadays when i realize how many women will endanger the women and girls in their life because they can’t face their own cognitive dissonance and crumbling worldview where men are (laughs) good. to me it’s the equivalent of parents who take their child to a pastor to pray an autoimmune disease out of them and watch the kid die.

you mean to tell me that in my own house I can’t wear shorts because my brothers and father are there because my body is provocative? you’ve made it my fault that you placed me in a house with males. you want to yap about how your husband and sons are saints and get angry when I say I don’t want to live near men of any kind but then go and tell me to “sit with my legs closed�� in my own house? you’ll take me to church only if I’m covered head to toe in clothing and my hips and boobs don’t show and the swear up and down there are only men of god in there and I should want to go there? you’ll tell me how your boyfriend is so perfect and then rip me in two for saying two words in his direction because he’s so fucking loyal? kinda like how my brother will tell me “yes all men” and then get mad when I agree with him and don’t want his pervert friends around. yeah I don’t believe your bullshit for a second. don’t tell me you care about me when you’re chasing the status symbol of having a man or having a son. this has nothing to do with how good he is or how dear little boys are because we all know that’s horseshit and it’s everything to do with your pathetic attempt to boost your ego in a patriarchy.

women must take protecting themselves into their own hands because most people are not qualified or interested enough to do it.

[femme-dor]

Hey Ladies, men who bitch about women’s outfits with dumb shit like “Men like The Chase™️” & “Women are gifts that should be unwrapped by a special man”, are admitting out loud he’s a predator who sees & prefers non-consenting women as consumable objects for male enjoyment he must outwit & manipulate in order to “win” aka get her clothes off.

It’s never about modesty. Run in the other direction.

[troythecatfish]

[caitlinjohns77]

For those who say Imane Khelif is a female. He’s a man.

[guilty-feminist]

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“A UK Department for Transport study highlighted the stark difference between male and female perceptions of danger, finding that 62% of women are scared walking in multi-story car parks, 60% are scared waiting on train platforms, 49% are scared waiting at the bus stop, and 59% are scared walking home from a bus stop or station.

The figures for men are 31%, 25%, 20% and 25%, respectively. Fear of crime is particularly high among low-income women, partly because they tend to live in areas with higher crime rates, but also because they are likely to be working odd hours and often come home from work in the dark.' Ethnic-minority women tend to experience more fear for the same reasons, as well as having the added danger of (often gendered) racialised violence to contend with.” - Caroline Criado Perez (Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men)

[miss-saytr]

I was born a sheep, and I was put into a world where I have to walk alone at night sometimes.

Sheep stick together and that’s natural for us. Sheep can see during the day and that’s all right. Sheep have friends and family that check in on them.

To get to point A to point B, I know it isn’t safe. Because during the night, there are glowing eyes that watch me. I don’t know if the glowing eyes belong to wolves or dogs, but they all glow during the night, so I always assume the worst.

I continue to walk down the path while trying to look away from those glowing eyes. When a set of them approach me, it was just a dog stalking like a wolf, passing by to where it needs to go. Dogs and wolves need to go places too. Even wolves will walk by me, and I won’t even notice, because maybe that wolf has already had its dinner for the night and I was lucky.

Wolves will blabber about how sheep shouldn’t look so tasty. Sheep have been hunted and killed no matter how much wool covers them. Sheep are sheep to wolves like that. Sheep are sheep which means wolves will lick their lips upon the smell of one behind closed doors… usually. Sheep are sheep so wolves will get tired of the usual rabbit or squirrel from their forest and go attack the sheep because they are never satisfied with their kill.

What my metaphor gets wrong is that men and women are the same species. What my metaphor gets wrong is that wolves hunt out of survival, instinct, and to eat. What my metaphor gets wrong is that women have tools to protect themselves.

But damn, I really do feel like a sheep walking in the woods by myself as the glowing eyes of wolves watch me.

[whaleiumsharkspeare]

PSA to any men who think it’s okay to hit on random women and take the woman’s laughter as a sign that it’s okay to continue:

First of all, don’t hit on random women because most of us hate that. But I just want to point out that just because a woman is laughing in response to what you’re saying, doesn’t mean she digs it. Myself and many other women may be laughing because we’re nervous, and that’s just how our nerves choose to present themselves. A random man coming up and asking us what we’re doing after our shift ends is bound to make a lot of us nervous, and sometimes nervous laughter is the body’s response to that very awkward and sometimes frightening scenario. And sometimes we’re laughing because we hope that whatever you’re saying is just a joke or teasing, so we laugh along. But not because you’re actually funny, it’s more like “haha, yeah. Good one. Leave me alone now, please.” Don’t just assume that because a woman is laughing at your (dumb) antics that it means she likes it. Sad to say, but very often in situations where a man comes up and starts hitting on her, she starts to feel kinda powerless. And maybe we’re pretending to have a “pleasant” reaction because we’re afraid of a situation escalating into something not so pleasant. So please just like, don’t hit on us out of nowhere to begin with and furthermore don’t assume a lady likes it just because she’s laughing.

This happened to me today and I just felt like sharing. This guy asked what I was doing when my shift ended and if I’d like to come work out with him. I laughed because I thought he was joking, but nope! He just kept prodding. So ladies, stay safe! And fellas, do better, quite frankly.

[erebusvincent]

My mom is a small woman. Without a Caesarian I would have killed her. People who criticize c-sections can take a long walk off a short pier.