#women are wonderful effect

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Whilst I try to enter every conversion with an open mind, I won’t lie, whenever someone starts talking about ‘patriarchy’ this, and ‘toxic masculinity’ that, I roll my eyes and find myself acting as a parent would, when their child once again grabs hold of the microphone, to unleash a diatribe of incoherent babble.

I hear reductive, meaningless, and shame-laden neologisms pepper discourse, stoke division, and erode the value and mental health of men and boys.

I watch as we routinely and systematically deride ‘men’, and name everything bad in the world after them.

How we insult and gaslight men, pathologising innate parts of who they are as ‘toxic’, to be expunged, exorcised or corrected.

We frame men as collectively responsible.

We blame them for things they never did and are horrified by.

This slow drip of such hateful ideas naturally impacts the group consciousness of society, who have now learnt to dislike men too; including men, who continue to take their own lives in record numbers.

And whilst this ‘men vs women’ narrative might sell your angry book, look great on a placard, or shift tickets to expensive ‘positive masculinity’ workshops where the self-righteous flagellate themselves, and proselytize, with whines and crocodile tears – such ideas have little efficiency in the realm of real life.

Such ideas don’t work. Such ideas often make things worse.

They make little sense and are thankfully rejected by most of the world.

Still, damage is being done, and ought to be discussed.

So, what do you think of the profile of men, now found to be the most disliked demographic of all?

And what can we do to reframe people’s minds to value, treasure and respect men, as we do women?

What do you think?

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Sources:

Study: "Intersectional implicit bias: Evidence for asymmetrically compounding bias and the predominance of target gender"

Center for Male Psychology: "Landmark research study finds clear evidence of pro-women/anti-men bias"

Supplementary studies:

"'Women are wonderful' Effect"

"Sentencing in Homicide Cases and the Role of Vengeance"

"Evaluations of sexual assault: perceptions of guilt and legal elements for male and female aggressors using various coercive strategies"

"Estimating Gender Disparities in Federal Criminal Cases"

"The Thorny Challenge of Making Moral Machines: Ethical Dilemmas with Self-Driving Cars"

"Police Perceptions of Rape as Function of Victim Gender and Sexuality"

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Bonus study: "Worth the Risk? Greater Acceptance of Instrumental Harm Befalling Men than Women"

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Nobody who lives in a western country lives in a "patriarchy."

As evidenced by this very simple question: who are you allowed to criticize and villainize with impunity, with no expectations of repercussions?

If you lived in an actual "patriarchy," you couldn't complain about the "patriarchy." You'd suffer government and societal repercussions. Like Iran, Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan.

Pretending you're the same makes you vile and repugnant. Western women are the freest, most self-determining, prosperous people who have ever walked the face of the planet at any time ever.

[mothmvn]

more cisgender women should be looking at cisgender boys' puberty as a menopause preview, honestly. i find that cis men treat menopause with more pause, ironically, because they recognise the emotional/physical rollercoaster - gee, your body is suddenly sweating absolute buckets and smelling way outside of your control? you feel gross, you keep growing patchy hairs in new itchy places, and summers have suddenly become unbearable? woof, been there done that, let's get you an ice pack and some gatorade buddy, i mean mom

until menopause hits them, cis women (among others) can sometimes treat male puberty as a gross horror that they are forced to mitigate the consequences of - ugh, men with their hair and their smelliness that they can't keep sanitised, it's a concession to live with them, it's a chore to share space with them. you know it's not just a Boy Hormone, right? this exact same testosterone will jump you in a dark alley 30 years from now, you can accept it before then or keep treating it like an enemy latched onto those around you

[twilightarcade]

if I was a character I would've gotten non binary headcannoned so hard

[throwawayasoiafaccount]

those both sides are bad morons are just undercover greens lmao

i sincerely question these peoples intelligence

bc it is clear that this both sides are bad bs is just a way to sneakily justify the greens bc they know that supporting the greens outright is tantamount to admitting that they’re misogynists

they are intelligent enough to know that taking the greens side outright is a bad look but are too stupid to realize that claiming both sides are bad is just as idiotic of a stance to take

they also completely lack self awareness because they don’t even realize that taking the both sides are bad stance is a misogynistic stance as well

the worst part is that these people sincerely believe that they are enlightened and correct

you people need to get your heads checked bc there is only one correct side and it’s the blacks

btw this green vs black bs is just trump vs hillary

both candidates fucking sucked ass and deserve to rot in hell but one side was infinitely better than the other

pssst hillary was the better choice

literally look at what has happened to women’s rights in america after trump became president. fucking look. now look at what has happened to westerosi noblewomen and their obvious decline of power after rhaenyra was murdered.

ofc rhaenyra isn’t even close to being as awful as hillary, but you couldn’t convince me that book aegon isn’t trump just not orange and show aegon seems to be getting there

[isfjmel-phleg]

🫥

*it cut off my last tags which were: I don't know what I can do about this but in the meantime it's a struggle

[pynkhues]

Wait why would he take out Good girls off his Bio wasn’t that like his break out role or something 😭😭😂. And is that like a normal thing to do to take work off your résumé?  I don’t know anything about Hollywood lol but anyways, very interesting. 😂👀 ☕️ also thank you for answering my ask :) I’ve been trying to find more about the short film but I couldn’t find anything. Do you know anything about it!!? Cool that they’re both working with such a stacked cast That’s awesome.

Mmm, I'd say Graceland would probably have been his breakout role as it seems to me to be what saw him transition from guest roles to series regular roles, but it's definitely his most significant recent role given Mayans was a one-season arc and his roles in Westworld and All American were so small.

He's still got Good Girls on his resume, but to drop it from his bio and replace it with a project that's not even out yet (Ironheart) [how can you be 'known' for a role no one's seen you in yet?] and an older project (The Mule) is definitely a Choice and I think likely indicates that he's trying to distance himself from the role and the show. It happens, but I think it's a pretty interesting choice given he doesn't really have many upcoming projects outside of Ironheart which has been delayed to 2025.

But yes! I haven't found much about the short film either! I'm curious as to what it might lead to. Given the number of people in it, I lowkey wonder if it's a proof-of-concept short for a bigger project, but who knows. Guess we'll just have to wait and see :-)

[21threjectedsoul]

You sympathize with the self-proclaimed "femcel" because they are women and they actually HAVE romantic options — many of them even had boyfriends and everything but you are just ridiculously stupid and idiot to admit about being wrong

[slingbats]

Okay and? The canon s5 outfits sucked, we did Not get good post canon nygmobs idk 🤷‍♀️

at least I feel robbed of decent menswear anyway

[aashiqui-aashiqui]

me devouring my food only for my mom to say “you should learn how to cook too before i depart this world with my cooking skills”

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

The political opinions of so many are predicated on the base level belief that ‘the world hates women’.

It is from this limited understanding, that our current conception of ‘structural sexism’ is born.

The belief that those in positions of power, who are men, are actively uplifting other men like them, whilst trampling upon women and girls.

And it makes sense at face value.

‘The Patriarchy’ is how many will describe this belief - the world dislikes women - and heaps an extra portion or two of privilege onto the plate of its favourite child: ‘man’.

The problem with this theory is that it often lies in stark contrast to what actual research tells us – the typical finding that both women and men actually hold more favourable views of women.

‘Women like women, more than men like men’ as the APA puts it (and nearly five times more at that).

But there is yet another hidden layer beneath this too… that men also like women, more than they like men.

And with that, ‘patriarchy theory’ takes a direct blow to the very core of its credibility.

Because actually, most people prefer women over men, rather than the other way around.

This phenomenon is well established and studied, and observed across generations, and in dozens of countries around the world.

It’s called the ‘Women Are Wonderful Effect’, and it describes how, in general, people associate more good things with women, and more bad things with men.

So is it time we question the notion of ‘a world that dislikes women’, and honestly asked ourselves, does the world like men any better?

What do you think?

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Sources

Study one: https://www.stevestewartwilliams.com/p/why-people-react-less-positively

Study two: https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjop.12463

Study three: https://www.apa.org/monitor/dec04/women

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See also:

Abstract

Little is known about implicit evaluations of complex, multiply categorizable social targets. Across five studies (N = 5,204), we investigated implicit evaluations of targets varying in race, gender, social class, and age. Overall, the largest and most consistent evaluative bias was pro-women/anti-men bias, followed by smaller but nonetheless consistent pro-upper-class/anti-lower-class biases. By contrast, we observed less consistent effects of targets' race, no effects of targets' age, and no consistent interactions between target-level categories. An integrative data analysis highlighted a number of moderating factors, but a stable pro-women/anti-men and pro-upper-class/anti-lower-class bias across demographic groups. Overall, these results suggest that implicit biases compound across multiple categories asymmetrically, with a dominant category (here, gender) largely driving evaluations, and ancillary categories (here, social class and race) exerting relatively smaller additional effects. We discuss potential implications of this work for understanding how implicit biases operate in real-world social settings. (PsycInfo Database Record (c) 2022 APA, all rights reserved).

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Xians reveal too much about themselves when they say that without their god's rules, there would be endless murdering, rape, theft, etc. It's what they would do.

"Patriarchy" theory proponents do the same thing. They assume that men are as biased towards men as they are to women. It's what they would do.

All it really does is confesses to us their own bias, and that their claims aren't based on evidence. Which we already know.

[snekdood]

someone: *says something bigoted towards transmascs*

me: hey you shouldnt do that its shitty in these ways-

someone: IT IS NO CONCERN OF MINE IF TRANSMASCS HAVE- what was it again?

me: uhm. basic human decency?

someone: HAH! YOU REALLY SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE YOU BECAME "AFAB" AND TRANS! TAKE HIM AWAAYYYY

[hanzajesthanza]

am i allowed to give my witcher OCs and witcher characters with no canon design silly little hats…

maybe the answer is “not only allowed am i Allowed, but i am Compelled and even moreso—Required”

[musical-chick-13]

The THING is. When people (I am including myself in this) try to talk about how "Why is there overall less of an emphasis on women's stories and female characters and f/f shipping, especially when according to the stats we see being shared, fandom is significantly populated by queer women, hmm this seems a bit strange," there's ALMOST ALWAYS this assumption that it comes from a place of gender essentialism or purity culture or hating every single man for existing or something. ARE there some people who mean that? Yeah, there are going to be people like that in EVERY group of people who try to talk about anything. But when people complain about this, it's most generally because WE EXPERIENCE STRUCTURAL MISOGYNY IRL, AND NOW WE ARE EXPERIENCING THE SAME SOCIAL EFFECTS WITHIN SOMETHING THAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE "FUN." THAT IS THE PROBLEM.

And this goes for when people try to talk about racism in fandom spaces as well. And ableism. And transphobia. And any other form of prejudice you can think of. Is talking about this in one (1) context that is not directly political going to forever eliminate bigotry? No. Obviously not. But the thing about systemic bias and prejudice is that IT IS PRESENT AT EVERY LEVEL, EVEN THE "FUN" ONES.

[toubledrouble]

Why Texans and Southern Moravians are basically the same thing

Tractors

Farms

Rednecks

Insane amounts of alcohol

More Christian than other regions

Recognisable by clothing

Conservative old people (more than elsewhere)

Specific music

'weird' accent

Dads are usually fat, sport obsessed and beer loving

A thing for flannels and wifebeaters

Dancing a lot. Specific dances, too

It's all just a bunch of villages tied togheder

Everyone knows everyone

Everyone has a field, unless in a big city

Terrible at Christianity despite being Christian

Barns are a thing. A specific thing. A core memory

Alcoholism.

Extreme heat and sun

Both are southerners in their countries

Cows are also a thing

Traditional family values *sigh*

Usually a joke to the other regions for no reason

The kids form packs in the neighbourhood

Playing the guitar is a big deal

Just about everyone sings for some reason

As a kid you probably ate an animal you knew by name

Pies are a great deal (different kinds of pies but still)

Songs must contain either tractors, religion, farming, women, alcohol, complaining about work, personal tragedy (with a too happy tune), or a combination of those

I would bet that everyone has at least one family member that knows a pastor personally. It doesn't even have to be your pastor, but it's a pastor that this family member is basically friends with

[platinum-iridium]

i was transitioning away from red meat just out of taste preference and then i got anemic. my mother has been anemic for years. we must have terrible genes for iron absorption or something. i don’t have particularly heavy periods so its not that. idk

[eurofox]

Saw a reel on Instagram of girls making a fantasy map and knew what the comments would be before I looked:

First comment was that stupid shite 'women always pose with their art🙄'

Second was some whiny cunt going on about 'wasting rice' (as if they couldn't have just re-used it, even if they didn't it's the cheapest item you can buy these days)

Then a whole heap of whingers asking how they had the time to do it (it took like an hour or two)

People complaining about the names they chose because they were 'cringe'

Patronising fucks aggressively offering 'constructive criticism '

A small handful of positive comments

Existing as a woman online doing literally ANYTHING attracts cuntwads by the dozens. There was nothing in the video that could possibly be deemed as offensive unless you twisted yourself in knots and yet the comments section was full of pretzels 😡