#woah that got long

[skippydiesposting]

okay jfc I have to write a post about why the idea of "intuitive eating" rubs me the wrong way as a solution to eating disorders

not saying that it can't be a helpful tool in getting people back in touch with their bodies and unlearning certain lessons of diet culture, but I think it still enforces the societal harm that is weight stigma and discrimination. Here's why:

1. Intuitive eating still moralizes food in a hugely uncomfortable way. The whole basis of intuitive eating is centered on the idea that "if you let yourself eat the 'bad food', eventually you will start to crave the 'good food'!"

There are no bad or good foods. They are all just food. The food you eat in your everyday life is not medicine, nor is it poison, no matter what food it is. Your body needs sugar. Your body needs carbs. Your body needs fats. It's just food. It's just a way to get nutrients into your body. There's no wrong way to eat.

2. Intuitive eating still moralizes body size and implies that thinness is the correct goal. One aspect of intuitive eating is the sometimes unspoken implication that "once you learn how to eat correctly, you might not lose weight...but maybe you will, which would be great!"

In practice this is still praising weight loss, even if it's unintentional weight loss rather than intentional. It still gives the message that thinness is superior to fatness, and that thinness is a healthy ideal to strive for. Like this essay says, "Celebrating weight loss, even when it is a result of intuitive eating and having more compassion for your body, is still a commitment to thinness and still perpetuates fatphobia and diet culture."

3. Intuitive eating puts too much emphasis on hunger and hunger cues. There's the idea that once you "learn how to eat better", your hunger cues will fall into place and you'll "only eat when you're actually hungry". But guess what? You need to eat even if you're not hungry.

There are so many people who no longer, or might have never had, completely functioning satiety signals. People who have spent so long doing dieting or restrictive eating or battling eating disorders, but also people who suffer from illness or chronic disabilities which might affect the regulation of hunger cues. Some people will never feel hungry. But they still need to eat.

I've heard far too many people say that they don't eat breakfast/lunch/et cetera because they aren't hungry in the morning. As someone with a form of dysautonomia who becomes completely nonfunctional if I don't eat frequently, this attitude gets under my skin. Food is not about desire--or not entirely, as I'll get to later in the post--or about what you want to do. Food is crucial, full stop, no matter what.

I think the fatphobic myth that weight is tied to health and is something that can be controlled has created this idea of food as something optional, something that is purely driven by desire. Diet culture has made us believe that eating is simultaneously an Evil™ force that can control you and take over your body while simultaneously praising behavior of restriction, and at its heart restriction is about choice. Eating is not a choice. Eating is an entirely mandatory, necessary part of life, the same way that sleeping is. It's regulatory. It keeps you alive. The best thing you can do for your body is eat regularly and consistently.

Sometimes it's really fucking hard to eat when you don't have an appetite, or when you're nauseous. I completely understand that. Just like it's really fucking hard to sleep when you have insomnia. But you still have to do it. Eating is not optional; it's not something you do when you want to. It needs to happen regularly, every day. It's a very basic part of being a human being with a body, and no matter the state of that body, it needs to be fed.

You don't need to feel hungry to eat. Some people will never feel hungry, and they still need to eat. And it's also okay to eat without hunger, even if your basic needs of satiation and nutrition have been met. This leads me to my next point:

4. Intuitive eating puts too much emphasis on "mindful" eating. By continuing to constantly monitor and overthink your own eating behavior, it becomes a chore; it becomes a pattern of overattention and scrupulousity; it becomes something moralized, the same way that it is moralized in diet culture.

By all means, we should all try to be more mindful and intentional in our lives. But eating is just a basic fact of life. We don't consider whether we're "mindfully" sleeping, or "mindfully" taking a shower. Eating is just a part of your day, just something you need to do, and I don't think we have to focus every moment of our attention thinking about what food is wrong or right to be eating, or how we're eating it. In fact, I think everyone deserves to be mindless sometimes: everyone deserves to zone out in front of the TV, or get sucked into a video game. And that includes mindlessly eating.

In addition to being something basic and mandatory about having a human body, eating is one of the great pleasures of life, like sex or sleep. And like those things, it's completely fine if you just want to snack! For no other reason besides desire! In absence of hunger or satiety, eating can be something completely neutral and comforting. Eating can be a form of stimming for sensory seeking people; it can be fun; it can be used as a way of connecting other people. In fact, eating with other people is one of the things that induces oxytocin--known as the "love hormone"--in our brains, along with sex, childbirth, lactation, and singing with other people.

Telling people to be "mindful" when eating has the same flavor as the ways we treat drugs or alcohol in our society: "drink responsibly". "Eat mindfully". As if food is actually something that could harm us, rather than simply being the nutrients that keep us alive.

I really don't think that teaching people to overthink their food choices or behaviors is going to help anyone. Instead it needs to be clear that there are no morals attached to eating, nor the foods themselves. Eat when you need to. And also, eat when you want to. Eat for fun, for connection with other people, for pleasure, for sensory stimulation. Eat without thinking about it. That's the only way you can normalize it.

You don't need to eat in the "right way". There is no "right way". You just need to eat.

ALSO: this is meant for everybody, not just people who struggle with eating disorders or have been harmed by diet culture, but this is ESPECIALLY for fat people. Fat people are shamed constantly for the extremely natural and necessary practice of eating regardless of their actual eating habits, and I fully believe that unless we center fat people and their experiences in the anti-diet conversation, we will be trapped in the same horror of moralizing bodies, food, and basic humans needs that we have been for centuries.

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO EAT. No matter what.

[skybristle]

ask game time

8, 17, 22 for whichever one is on your mind at the moment

IM SO SORRY NAV I WENT OUT TO EAT AND THEN IMMEDIATELY FELL ASLEEP

hmmm. Looking at prompts.... [grabs chimes like a soda can and crushes him]

8 - What is your iterator's opinion on bioengineering? Natural ability of iterators? A cruel push of artificial will? Something to be moderated? etc.

he does do bioengineering much more than a lot of his groupmates!!!! mainly for slugcat messengers [gardener, recon, and mercy were all designed by him]. i think he's very... modest about it though. he's very careful to make sure their quality of life is intact and modifications work well [which is interesting when mercy's spores make *it* sleepy all the time, hes just in such a rush... </3]. i think he doesn't have many qualms about it but tries not to be.... clinical. he tries to hand raise them, brings them to his puppet chamber as soon as he can, etc etc. they're his babies!!!

he also feels like he doesn't have much of a right to step on their free will [again, mercy is a divergence with such a specific task. also recon but it was made by ochre in flors can chimes just designed it], but gardener especially spends most of its time just,... wandering the wild being happy. especially as he remakes it dozens of times and watches them all choose different lives [living with the colonies, on its own, staying in his can more permanantly, etc]. it's only when ochre approaches death that he sends overseers to beg it to come back.

17 - How does your iterator feel about ascension? Is it something they want to strive for? Help others achieve? Something to avoid? etc.

you see he was never particularly oriented towards iterating to solve the Problem compared to most iterators- partially because reefs, his mama, didn't believe in the construct of religion as ancient soceity practiced it, and honestly a lot of that belief continued to his city with a very lax view of ascension. just 'yeah, hopping in a vat of void fluid if you feel fufilled and happy at the end of your life is a thing you can do if you want.'

he DID care about his ancients very much and while YES ascension made them happy, he had a really good understanding of like.... the trust and weight of the choice, and he doesn't really think its the kind of choice a slugcat can make [or if they do, its not up to him].

he misses his parents, so deeply, and it never really leaves him.... he doesn't resent ascension but sometimes wishes he could see them again [reefs, especially].

he doesn't know if he'll ascend some day, especially as he sits in the snow having not spoken to another iterator in centuries. but as saint descends the rubble and approaches him, i think he's okay with it. he wants to go home [to his parents, to his friends, to his wife...]

22 - Where does your iterator live? Describe the region.

HIS REGIONS ARE SOOO FUN I THINK...... his can is built partially over the sea!!!!!! and underneath his can is reef's hometown, a once prosperous and bustling port city that was crushed under the rains during sparks' time and abandoned. but i think you can still kind of tell it used to be like this... there's probably a really cool sub region in there thats an old temple. its probably pretty flooded and stuff too... idk the contrast is fun to me....

towards the west you can find the decayed old docks which lead into the sea itself.... i really should develop a sea-living scug for the area because god is it so cool to me, going into the colorful depths... HOWEVER ! as for navigating the region you still CAN because of the WHALE SAILS !!! WOOOO.

they're GIANT ass creatures originally bioengineered to function similarly to the sky sails [thank you cheston druidshollow for making them biological its so cool] but... for water. they lsot their purpose a while ago when the great equalizer set in and it became too dangerous to navigate the surface but they're still very friendly and okay with slugcat getting a ride. probably function similarly to rain deer... maybe they eat glow weed? idk. probably some kind of filter feeder.

his underhang/leg region is also called the frets. aren't i so clever. iirc i called his wall the neck at some point too. hehehe instrument analogies. and his city is named Chorus and is probably similar to most besides all the decor and murals and music-making stuff like wind chimes everywhere still left behind. he doesn't mind scavs and stuff up there.

[ivarismaybecrazy]

THIS FITS OOUUGGHHH BRAINROTTT!

Fall is when things get chillier, kinda like the calm before the storm. and thats sorta what 3rd life was bc of the drastic change in moods between it and last life. (and also its fall and grian fell. yknow. puns.)

Winter is cold and chilly and uncaring, which fits with last life. yes theres the scary vibes of trekking through snow, being chased by the boogey. but also theres the amount of heartwrenching betrayal in this season. people were forced to do cold hearted things to their allies.

Double Life fits for spring because of new beginnings and new friendships. We got a lot of different matchups during double life (RANCHERS I MISS YOU SO MUCH-) that were fan favorites! players were forced to try something new due to the soulbound rule.

Summer and Limited Life goes hand in hand because everyone was runnign around like they had all the time in the world. they were making questionable decisions, taking a lot of risks, and making many mistakes. bc thats what people do in summer, they let loose.

i LOVE the headcanon of the different life series taking place in different seasons, and i especially love last life taking place during winter. something about having to trek through the snow and freezing cold alone, being practically hunted by the boogeyman. wowww.

[ithinkdogshouldvote]

Sleep deprivation is one hell of a drug

[boiled-bronze]

[Image ID: A digital drawing of another's artist anthro fox oc, Damian. They are depicted as a bright cyan with black ears and white arms and countershading, they are leaning forward with a wide stance, facing down and looking at the viewer while winking and smiling mischievously, their hands are forward one of them with an open palm and slightly clutched fingers, and the other one in a similar pose but with a peace sign instead. End ID.]

Fanart of @creepincrawl 's recently(-ish) named fox guy, Damian!!

[cupophrogs]

The Three D's

(Click for better quality)

I have a horrible habit of dropping any series-comics I try to make, so I thought it'd do a little story-ish ask event!!

So far, we've got the three D's: Dogday, Daddy Long Legs, and Drew.

Basic info and closeups!

Drew, he/him, 18 yrs: the horror-loving nephew of an old Playtime Co. employee. Squawks like a strangled bird when surprised.

Daddy Long Legs, aka: "Pops:" If you could find a loving father from the 20s who wasn't a misogynist. Misses his wife, but doesn't blame Drew for her death.

Dogday, aka: "Deedee" or "Dogs:" The last, overly traumatised Smiling Critter who really needs a hug. Drew found him some spare legs in a closet somewhere.

Without dirt and grime:

[chrisbangs]

🥲👆 eight years in the making... let's go !

[dreamdancerdotfile]

Say hello to Mr Bury the Light himself!!!

Screw him he gave me so much trouble all his other sprites will be based on this

This is the name I‘ll be using for this project from now on btw nothing could be funnier

[jokzs]

majima demo and a spyuo

[nightowlssleep]

I have a lot of thoughts about Phoenix's Magatama, so headcanon time

We know in JfA that when Maya gives us the Magatama, she calls it her own and it's even labelled as "Maya's Magatama" in the court record

But that doesn't really make sense considering

1) Maya's Magatama on her necklace doesn't disappear from her sprite (this could be purely a technical difficulty considering the time the game came out)

2) BUT it doesn't explain the fact that Maya's Magatama is a different colour all together (Yellow)

This is where my headcanon comes in that Maya has two Magatamas

The yellow and green one, but unlike the yellow which is hers most likely since birth, she carries the green one with her just as a good luck charm, since she definitely does not know it's power (On whether the other Magatamas have powers or not I'm unsure, but I like to think so)

Which leads me to believe that this green one actually used to belong to Misty

From the way I interpret Maya's design in SoJ, it seems like the gold Magatama is inherited by the Master, while the acolytes only have crystal ones

Therefore it's possible for Misty to have left behind her original crystal Magatama once she became master

And while Maya didn't know her mother, I like to think that she at least hoped that she was looking over her, and carried the Magatama with her for good luck

I don't know how to interpret her giving it away to Nick besides a sign of "I trust you", but it's there either way

I also like to think that after giving it away, she decided to carry Mia's Magatama instead :')

[pebblezone]

I can and will make a sequel to this

[healer-pop]

YOU!!! FIEND YOU!!! DONT think about how venture would whisper the *filthiest* of phrases in your ear,,, pressing a kiss to your neck before just walking off like they DIDNT JUST- ahem bonus points if its in spanish just *think* about that drawl in their voice,, ouhg :]c -feral

I CANTTT DO THIS — there’s not enough Venture content to sustain me 😭 I already linger in yt videos with their voicelines and the venture’s adventures one… it kills meeeee

i think about that one post about them pulling you aside in the middle of a teamfight to make out with you all the time. they’d feel so guilty about it, but so helpless at the same time. they can’t keep their hands off of you, trying to soak in any and all content with you that they could before they’d have to return. it would be so sloppy and rough, their desperation seeping through like the salty sweat on their skin. leaving your lips red and bruised, clothes disheveled, as if you two actually fucked, but they couldn’t bring themselves to actually go that far, no matter how much they wanted it. they had a mission to complete. but rutting against you? feeling the warmth of your own arousal against theirs? enough to tide them… for now. they’d wish they’d actually cum against your leg, or fingers, but it’d probably chafe really bad.

if anyone caught them, they’d probably claim to have needed extra special healing, they are a flanker after all. need to be in tip top shape to get those nasty incapacitations.

can see them being the nastiest flirt when no one is watching. pda is pretty wholesome when eyes are on you, but when they turn away? Venture is backing you into a darken corner of the base, whispering to you the small amount of Spanish they’ve taught you, about all the things they’re going to accomplish between your legs tonight. (“Mi lengua va a probar lo dulce que eres esta noche, cariño. No pararé hasta que ambos estemos satisfechos. Mis dedos quieren estar dentro de ti, ahora mismo. Pero esperaré hasta poder oírte gritar.”)*

it almost gives you whiplash when they pull away, and you wonder if they’re some sort of masochist because you know their own words and thoughts affect them just as badly as they do you. Venture accidentally edges themselves by thinking of you lol. definitely the type to become a bit more spacey when they’re in a relationship with you because you’re on their mind all the time. plays it off super well though! but horny them is another beast…

* — I’m going to taste how sweet you are with my tongue, tonight, darling. I’m not going to stop until we’re both satisfied. My fingers want to be inside you. But I’ll wait until I can hear you scream.

[waterloo-to-anywhere]

bored, flashpoll:

Lyrics:

For:

•"it begins with how i fell for you / saw myself in your eyes":

"it might have turned out differently / if things had worked out good"

"by your side the music rose"

"and the chilling fear that maybe i could lose what i had found"

"when the hate and hurt and poisoned tongues rang out across the town"

Against:

it's a fairly generic love/breakup song so any amount of "it's about [specific person]!!!" is gonna be a bit of a reach

(i just find it funny how he almost certainly meant "by your side the music rose" in a metaphorical way but like bro, the music literally rose when u were by his side🤨)

& i know we meme on him for the marrying line but in my heart of hearts im skeptical that he would think that abt peter tbh.

Anyway, ✌️

[honeyconez]

guys hear me out would painis cupcake pay taxes? Because he’s not like mega insane like ass pancakes I think he’d pay his taxes in my professional opinion.

[yourwormfriend]

CHAPTER 19!!! RAHHHH! It's finally up, sorry it took so long you guys.... i've been busy with life... and schooool... and school sucks and yeah.... BUT it's finally here hope you guys enjoy!! <3 <3

[truethes]

still looking etheral while having an existence changing experience ...