#why do people hate aroace people

[ohdeer0-0]

Okay so what the fuck

[knifearo]

i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a binary i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a sliding scale of "less" to "more" i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the only two options i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as significantly different things i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as all encompassing i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the two halves of a shallow concept of love that doesn't actually encompass anything at all i think we need to overhaul every popular conception about "types" of love so we can talk about things that are real and true for once

[dragonet-the-proto]

i love being extremely aroace in a server where theres like, one other person who agrees with me :3

[oceanwithouthermoon]

random rant but actually im so sick and fucking tired of this fandom being so disgusting to aroace people under the guise of defending us 😭 actually i DONT want a bunch of alloromantics telling ME what aroace rep should or shouldnt look like, and i definitely dont want other aroace people telling me my view of aroace people is wrong because it doesnt fit what they think we should all be like!!!!

[autisticlee]

i'm aroace, sex repulsed and don't get traditional romance or find the need for it, but I still often think how it would be neat to have a gf/partner for other purposes that arent romance and sexual. but it seems impossible to make someone want to date you if you take out those things????

sometimes I think it would be nice to have a gf to do cute gay cosplay photoshoots with. there would be mouth smooching and you usually can't do that with a friend and I don't really want to either, so a gf would be useful for that.

then there's hating showers because they exhaust me and it would be nice to have a gf to wash my hair and stuff for me??? can't call up a friend to do this every time I need to shower. that won't work and I doubt they'd want to/be comfortable doing that.

most friends will end up putting all their priority into their partner and/or family they create. I want someone that will make me their priority and not run off with someone else they start dating and abandon me??? something like that. their priority is cleaning our home together, hanging out together, going shopping and other domestic/partner stuff. they don't do that with someone else or use me temporarily until they can find a partner. so it's essentially dating/being partners. but it looks different from your typical expected romance and partnership.

doesn't matter how aroace I am, I have accepted that a relationship is beneficial in many ways and there's certain things that you can't expect friends to cover and they can't fill. but I have zero interest in looking for a partner in traditional ways that requires small talk/flirting/dates/etc. so that makes me realize i'll most likely not trick someone into partnering with me lmao

the internet seems to call this kind of thing "queer platonic relationship" (did I remember it right?) and you just need to find another sroace person to do it with. but either way, there's no textbook to study for how to get that and where to find these people. it seems harder than the puzzle that is regular dating tbh.

there's that saying "there's other fish in the sea" but i'm a worm in a puddle the other worms got out before they drowned. there's no fish here lmao. my options are so limited that I haven't met a single option yet in my life. there's barely any chance the first aroace person I meet irl will be compatible, or the first compatible person will accept a relationship with an aroace. you know what I mean? any other aroace that's interested in some kind of relationship/partnership and feel like you don't get that whole sea to choose from like everyone else and only have a dried up puddle? 😅

[kavehayati]

Chappel Roan saying she’s sad she’s demisexual and then there’s me being aroace as a whole like don’t you think I’m even more sad 😭

[itsseriouslyridiculous]

I really hate how my physical body looks so so so much. unfortunately there isn't much I can do about it.

[twomanyfandomshelp]

Gotta love amatonormativity.

I’m aroace. Me, my dad, and my sister are at my grandma’s house for the week, and I’m not out to anyone in my family, just some close friends, so literally no one in the state knows I’m aroace. Yesterday, my grandma’s neighbor came over (they’re besties) and one of the first things she said to me and my sister was “do either of you girls have boyfriends?” and then proceeded to be surprised when we both told her no and said “well I guess your dad wouldn’t let you date anyway”.

Like?! Excuse me ma’am, I get that you’ve known me my whole life, but did you ever think that maybe me or my sister just don’t want a boyfriend? God forbid two teenage girls just want to be single. It must be their father’s fault.

People baffle me sometimes.

[milonator]

Dude one thing that i cant fucking stand in media is when theres a confirmed (or heavily implied) aroace character, and then people go and ship them with other characters.

YOU HAVE ENOUGH LITERALLY FUCKING EVERYONE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP ALREADY CMONNNNNNNN BROOOO

"but being aroace is a spectrum! ☝️🤓" MOTHER FUCKER YOU THINK I DONT KNOW THAT ITS ABOUT THE REPRESENTATION THEYRE AROACE FOR A REASON PLEASE MAN

Im mainly talking about this cause i was rewatching saiki k and realized how many people shipped saiki with teruhashi (the blue haired bitch that i find endlessly annoying). It just pissed me off a little and i am nothing if not a giant ball of rage and opinions so yknow

[nyaacatboy]

hey aros/aces of tumblr has anyone else figured out to express the sentiment "I hate it when people complain about being single to me" to allos without them launching into the perfectly valid ways in which they are unhappy with their singleness or conflating "complain about being single" with "talking about dating or being attracted to anyone."

[aroaceofthesea]

One of my fave people in catalan folklore is sant jordi (saint george) who saved the princess but when the king asked him to marry her he was like naaah and left forever. icon

[anqelbean]

Every time I see someone complaining about how there's not enough sapphic works in fandom I take exactly one (1) moment to emphasize with them, then I get annoyed because they're usually the same people that won't actually do shit about it. Like babe, be the change you want to see!!

[ghastlyinterspecies]

literally less than an hour ago someone confessed to me and i almost had a panic attack on the bus

[artemisaed]

[cosmicredcadet]

It's obvious a lot of you are more concerned with not being labeled as aphobic instead of actually supporting aspec people and not being aphobic.

[sirompp]

every time i think about riverdale i get so incredibly fucking mad and i try and make a coherent post about it to get across why its whole concept of existing is So Shit and i can never do it and i delete the post before its even made.