#which makes my life even harder

[mainepdf]

whenever you change your theme i imagine you frantically searching for "[x colour] lightning aesthetic"

caught in 4K 📸

[governmentmandatedryujinstan420]

releasing this from the hj discord dungeon because the public populace was in agreement also i'm chronically offline on tumblr and need to fix that for my chronically online ahh

[paleode-ology]

number one suffering of all wicked fic writers is deciding which aspects of which canon they want to include in their fics

[eddis-not-eeddis]

I am the most hopeful of pessimists

[trislosherfan25]

So sick and tired of other peoples notions about what constitutes a platonic or romantic relationship dictating the level of closeness I can have with other people. Not even talking about physical closeness… like even just the degree to which I hang out with someone, or how I behave around them has been enough for people around me to insist I’m “acting like a couple” with someone and just push that narrative on me absolutely constantly despite me being in a pretty long term relationship with someone else. It’s absolutely infuriating because having that narrative projected onto me and thus having to avoid it and reject it constantly puts up so many barriers to my ability to form close connections with people and strong friendships. I just want to be able to connect with people in the way that feels natural and comfortable for me without being constantly questioned about my intentions or having to question my own intentions because of what other people are projecting onto me. I know what is platonic and what is romantic to me, even when to other people that line looks blurry. I wish people would just listen to me and let me be.

[eggsistential-basket]

thinking about the person i could have been if i tried a little harder to find my own way

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Talked with my recovery coach about how I’ve been struggling lately so we decided I’m going to try and take myself to some new op shops tomorrow but now it’s almost 1am and I can’t sleep because I’m anxious over it lol

[eponychium]

I may not show it but I do be feeling like the last dog left at a shelter lately.

[atopvisenyashill]

do love how this is an asoiaf blog but i did not put either show in my top 10 this is the world we live in

[lorephobic]

this is the funniest thing that sits and rots in my drafts because its been four months atp and i still have not thought of a single headcanon for these two

[machidielontheway]

i don't know if it's being tired or what but it feels like i forgot how to like the things i like to do

or i just don't know how to do things at home if it's not being on the computer

[thatmintleaf]

Finnish snacks good for my soul

[1796samuel-seabury1729]

that was terrible 😸😸😸😸

[cuteniarose]

nia, r u doing ok??

No.

[artykyn]

We need to retire the idea that calling complete strangers sir/ma'am/miss is somehow "polite".

Some men have long hair and get called ma'am/miss. They aren't used to responding to those words and so they will ignore you. Vice versa for women with short hair. Either you continue to be ignored, or eventually you'll realize you messed up, and both situations end up awkward.

Some men aren't used to being called "sir" either! And will also ignore you! Vice versa for women! Those are formal terms of address, and it can feel weird to some people to be called that in a casual setting.

Some women have specific feelings regarding "ma'am" vs "miss". If you choose incorrectly, now you've made her feel uncomfortable, or even insulted.

A lot of men have voices that sound higher on the phone, especially if they have certain accents, and are constantly referred to as ma'am or miss. A lot of women have low voices and get called "sir" on the phone. I once got called both "ma'am" and "sir" in the same phone call, by the same person.

They're so generic that if you shout any of them to try getting someone's attention out in public, there's a pretty high chance you will be ignored until you say something more specific anyway ("Excuse me, sir?? SIR???" vs "Hey you with the bandana!")

There is no useful reason to need to address a complete stranger with an honorific. Your odds of choosing incorrectly and making someone uncomfortable are higher than you think. You might not even realize how often you do it; best case scenario when you screw up is that the other person says nothing and moves on since they know they'll never talk to you again. But you did still make them uncomfortable. And making people uncomfortable is not "polite".