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my college essay <3
There’s always a debate about what really makes someone a woman; I believe it’s fear. The specific type of fear only women can have when they know that this interaction could end in an assault. It’s like when you get your blood pressure checked, they place the band around your arm and it starts squeezing. Only the band is put around your legs, neck, and heart; you can’t run away, you can’t scream for help, you’re about to become a statistic. The worst part is that most men barely realize when it happens. They’ll see a girl talking with their friend across the room and silently cheer him on, completely ignoring her darting eyes searching for help or her side steps to prevent him from cornering her. To be a woman is to always know you’re in danger.
One of my favorite musical artists is a band called Badflower. One of the main reasons I love them so much is because all four members are not afraid to talk about important social issues. In fact, their newest album, “This Is How The World Ends”, is all about social issues ranging from patriotism to the effect the pandemic had on politics. The eleventh track, "Tethered", keeps in line by following a young girl who ends up being drugged and raped at a party by a much older man; subsequently leading her to marry him and stay in the abusive relationship. Once the emphasis on her naivety is made, the following lines play in the third verse: "Then speech becomes a slur, She’s talking to some creep, Uncomfortable as hell, But too polite to leave" You can tell by the last line alone that it was a man who wrote this song; any woman would have said "scared" instead.
The fact that men can write an entire song about this issue and still completely misunderstand it demonstrates how uniquely feminine this experience is; men will never understand our fear, pain, or solemn understanding of our place in the world. Every woman has, at least once, dealt with a creepy guy whether he was following her in the store, staring at her on the beach, or outright catcalling every girl has a story. Yet if you ask a man about his experiences with sexual assault, chances are he won’t have any. This isn’t to discredit male survivors but to highlight the disproportionate gap between sexes. Most men won’t even think twice about walking to their car after work but women are always told to go in pairs "in case anything happens".
When men are talking to a creepy guy, he doesn’t want to end the conversation out of fear of being seen as rude. If he abruptly ends the conversation and moves on to do something else, the other person might be offended and not talk to him again. But when women are talking to a creepy guy, she doesn’t want to end the conversation out of fear. If she abruptly ends the conversation and moves on to do something else, the other person might be offended and follow her to the bathroom to get her alone. Growing up young girls are constantly taught how to protect themselves, not to walk alone at night, never leave your drink unattended, and always share your location when on the first date. It is never presented to you as an "if this happens to you" scenario, but rather as a "when it happens" scenario.
Sexual assault is always on women’s minds as it is the only thing we all have in common; the fear of it happening to us. Men can never and will never be able to experience that level of systematic terror. When women are feminists, it's because they will literally die without it. When men are feminists, chances are they just want girls to think they're hot. Even if they truly do want a change in how women are treated, they can't even begin to understand what it means to be in that position. The feminine experience of fear is what defines me as a woman, but it will never define me as a person.
#collegeessay#writing#badflower#tethered#tw sa#this is how the world ends#what makes a women#female solidarity#trans#transgender#trans culture#growing up a girl#writematic
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We are well beyond canary in the coalmine warning levels with the way trans people and particularly trans women are treated on this site.
Maybe you've heard the metaphor of allowing wolves and sheep to share the same space, welcoming everyone. You end up with just wolves because allowing them in that space makes it unsafe for any sheep. Or the story about how a nazi goes into a dive bar and is refused service. The bartender then explains to someone else at the bar that if you serve them once they tell their friends and before you know it you're the nazi bar they all go to and normal customers don't feel safe.
Terfs and other bigots are seeing these targeted harassment campaigns succeed against trans women and rejoicing. They see Tumblr ban them and officially stand by those decisions as endorsement for their harassment. It's a sign to bigots across the internet that Tumblr is a good place for them.
And what's more is that a lot of us probably don't realize just how much trans women contribute to Tumblr. The women banned recently were sources of site-wide memes and posts I wasn't even aware originated from them.any years old memes and references can be traced back to trans women on this site.
How many of these folks have to be removed before this is no longer a site you want to be a part of it? Sure you cultivate your own experience, but you can't follow or interact with people who aren't here. And if I wanted to interact with the nazis and terfs I'd go to reddit.
I encourage everyone to reblog this. Trans women shouldn't have to be the only ones speaking out against the bigotry they're experiencing. They shouldn't be the only ones risking their blogs being nuked by staff. We have to stand with them.
#i didnt want to make this a post about how their being oppressed impacts you too#but honestly trans women contribute way more to this site's culture than pretty much any other single group of people#taking them out#and especially the more well known ones#absolutely destroys community#i think not just the trans community here though it definitely does that#but its also tearing away at the overall site community#if tumblr doesnt get shit under control this will hurt them more in the long run than anything else#protect trans women#thats what youve gotta do staff
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#girlhood#girlblogging#girlrotting#hell is a teenage girl#this is what makes us girls#lana del rey#this is a girlblog#lana del ray aka lizzy grant#girlblog aesthetic#the virgin suicides#pretty little liars#little women#girl interrupted#female hysteria#i dont know how to tag this#maneater#manic pixie dream girl#girls who smoke weed#weed pot cannabis mary jane#aint nothing cool about what it can do to your brain!!
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#feminised#feminine sissy#boyswillbegirls#sissy crossdresser#girlslikeus#sissy gurl#boy to girl#fem boi#boy2girl#fem boy#transisbeautiful#trans beauty#transfem#this is what makes us girls#this is what trans looks like#trans bulge#trans women are beautiful#sissy bitch#sissybaby#beta sissy#panty sissy#sissi bitch#sissi femboi#sexy crossdressers#sexy tgurl#cute trans#cute tgirl#sissy femboi#sexy femboy#i want to be a girl
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"if hell is a teenage girl then heaven is a woman"
#women#woman#womanhood#girlhood#hell is a teenage girl#hell is other people#womenhood#core#corecore#coquette horror#coquette dollete#dollette#coquette#gaslight gatekeep girlblog#2013 girly#girl blogger#gloomy coquette#dark coquette#girlblogging#southern coquette#feminism#feminist#radical feminist safe#trans women are women#lana del rey#girly#girlblogger#this is a girlblog#this is what makes us girls#girls girls girls
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I take your “I don’t remember my mother” and give you “Luke thought Leia and Padmé visions were the same person”
#cus if I found out I had a secret brunette twin with great style#I would immediately assume all visions I had of brunette women with style I had were her!!#I dislike how I wrote leia in this but uh#it is what it is 😭#anyways this is gonna be context for an evil evil comic I intend on making…#will I go through with it? I hope the fuck so#for my sake more than yours… you’re gonna hate me for it..#art#fanart#digital art#fan art#my art#star wars#star wars fanart#comic#Star Wars comic#padme amidala#leia organa#luke sykwalker#post RotJ#RotJ
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"Oh so we're not allowed to say 'trans men are men' anymore? So you think they're women? You're a transphobe?"
What they actually said: "Ugh, gross, trans men really are the men of the trans community."
Times like this are when I need more people to be aware of the term "malgendering," the kind of transphobia where someone validates a trans person's gender identity just to use it against them. We can all tell all you're doing is applying your negative stereotypes of cis men to trans men, and it's not transphobic to call you out on it. Trans men do not become shittier people when they transition and you are awful for implying they do.
#malgendering is rooted in sexism and this is no exception. what makes you think it's okay to use a whole gender in a derogatory fashion?#it's because you think men are inherently more aggressive & misogynistic/bigoted & emotionally stunted & capable of harm than women are hm#transandrophobia#intracommunity issues tag#rb
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makes me a little sad when star trek ignores IDIC. like. vulcans are logical. that is true. But 'logical', for vulcans, does not amount to 'without compassion,' and it definitely doesn't amount to 'racial superiority.' Belief in 'infinite diversity in infinite combinations' should NOT result in the weird racist/speciest stuff we're getting in some of the newer treks. It does make sense that some vulcans are discriminatory. They're still flawed. But that should not be common or expected, like it seems to be in SNW. If it is, then it's a race of hypocrites, which. doesn't seem very true to Star Trek's message.
I think TOS Spock does a pretty good job of embodying this. Not always, it was the 60s, after all, but mostly. He was often trying to find non-violent routes, and get by without killing - even if they were in danger or had already been attacked. (See: the mugato, and the horta (until Kirk was the one in danger, lmao. t'hy'la > IDIC), the Gorn ship). Kirk, in his eulogy, calls him the most human soul he's ever known, and I've always read that as Kirk calling out Spock's overwhelming compassion.
It's just so much more interesting when Vulcans get to be radically compassionate. I want them to believe that everything and everyone has value. I want them to respect all ways of being. I want them to find ways for even very non-humanoid aliens to exist unfettered in society. I want them to see hybrids and think that it's amazing. Also, like, disability rep. I want Vulcans to have The Most Accessible Planet and available resources because they want everyone to feel accepted and valued. It makes for better characters and more interesting stories.
#tbh feels like some weird racist/misogynistic enlightenment-era philosophy coming through when they do that. y'know?#like 'oooh if you're fully logical you're BETTER than those who have EMOTIONS like WOMEN do'.#and the paramount execs are eating it up like 'yesss logic means being an ASS to people LESS LOGICAL than you!'.#like really guys. c'mon#like it makes sense in TAS that spock would get bullied by some kids. kids bully. that's common. makes sense that even vulcan kids bully#but if ADULTS are OFTEN doubting spock because he's half-human? that just kinda sucks. if i may it's even illogical#IDIC for me but not for thee type thing.#i think that being discriminatory should be a source of shame on a vulcan's house.#i think vulcans should adore learning about other cultures#star trek#vulcan#star trek vulcan#vulcans#vulcan culture#spock#star trek tos#tos#star trek the original series#sorry for my lack of mention of other major vulcan characters. I am so so behind in my star trek watching.#from what i've heard tuvok is also a good example. i know next to nothing about t'pol so couldn't say for her.
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bunch of portraits
#my art#jujutsu kaisen#jjk#jjk fanart#jujutsu kaisen fanart#yuji itadori#ryomen sukuna#megumi fushiguro#gojo satoru#nanami kento#choso kamo#nobara kugisaki#yuta okkotsu#fanart#crying im so tired....#busts aren't hard on their own but 8 of them ???#i should have stuck at 6 if i knew what was good fr me#but lucky fr choso n yuuta enjoyers i dont know whats good fr me and tacked on the extra 2 last minute#i did a bust piece waaay back in 2020 early jjk days and it was this crowd minus choso/yuuta so i wanted to like. do a kind of redraw#im happy choso n yuuta made the cut tho they r fun they look as tired as i feel#i've been having a lot of fun w the more semirealistic skin render so i wanted to stretch those muscles a bit more#took the better part of 3 days but u know i'm pretty happy w these i dont think i have a hard least favourite#fun game guess my favourite characters based on how i draw them it is Glaringly obvious 2 me#ik i said i dont have a least favourite but i certainly have A Favourite#uhhhh misc notes i tried rly hard to make sukuna's face look like yuuji's and only rly change the expression#i think i was successful??? i hope?????? like i didnt want to make him look like his own person as bad as that sounds#he is Wearing Yuuji that is Yuuji's Face#also i rly . wish there were more women . but as much as i like maki as a character i fr some reason don't find drawing her very fun ?#so nobara out here pulling her weight fr the girls my goat my queen <333
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courtney love performing at reading festival , 1994 ₊ ˚ ⊹ ♡
#people ♡#aesthetic#girly#fashion#coquette#dollette#kinderwhore#riot grrrl#grunge#courtney love#hole band#hole#90s fashion#90s#90s music#nineties#women in music#alternative rock#rock photography#female insanity#female manipulator#female rage#female hysteria#pretty on the inside#live through this#girlcore#girlhood#this is what makes us girls#girlblogging#gaslight gatekeep girlboss
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Tgirls lovers say hi and Reblog your sweetest tgirl 💖💖
#trans goddess#trans nsft#trans woman#transgirl#transgender#transformers#trans gurl#gay men#trans is beautiful#transfem#transsexual#biseuxal#girls who smoke weed#this is what makes us girls#trans women are beautiful#trans selfie#trans sex worker#trans is sexy#punk
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Ghouls night out
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#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#wei wuxian#lan wangji#Scopophobia#Don't be mean Lan Wangji - the dead girl aesthetic is a curated one. Support women's rights to look dead!#I have been waiting for this scene for ages...the ghost girl entourage is such a good look for WWX.#And by gods does the audio drama actually do something interesting with one of them.#Namely that we actually get to see WWX talk with them and learn about who they were and what they left behind.#I love necromancer characters but it's way too common for them to be like “Go! Ghost no.145!” like they're a pokemon#and not...you know...someone who had a whole life that they left behind.#I love me a necromancer who has an awareness to whose soul/body they are using. It adds a lot of flavour!#MDZS is a little hit or miss with this. I think the fans do a lot of the work with making Mo Xuanyu a bigger character.#Yi City has this in spades. Even though we don't individually get character backstories#We get many painful reminders about how these 'corpses' were people.#We also get a few lines about how WWX used whatever corpses he could get his hands on (including grandparents - Woof!)#MDZS often (but not always) likes to remind us that every sacrifice and every ghost was a person.#It is so close to nailing the landing regarding the deconstruction of the necromancer character.#Anyhow. You may have noticed the uptick in quality in the last two comics. Rule of three means next one is going to be a treat B*)#See you all very soon!
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#lana del rey#girlhood#girlblogger#lizzy grant#girlblogging#i love women#girlcore#coquette aesthetic#girl interrupted#coquette#coquettecore#coquette winter#coquette community#coquette girl#girl coded#hell is a teenage girl#this is what makes us girls#this is a girlblog#girlblog#girl stuff#just girly posts#just girly things#girly tumblr#just girly thoughts#lolita lana del rey#lana del rey stan#lana del rey vibes#lana del slay#lana is god#ultraviolence
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FNAF Vanny 🤝 TADC Pomni: being bullied by a rabbit
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#tadc#fnaf vanny#fnaf vanessa#tadc jax#tadc pomni#tadc gangle#tadc caine#glitchtrap#security breach#fnaf help wanted#digital circus#fnaf fanart#tadc fanart#five nights at freddy's#the amazing digital circus#Vanny and Pomni could get along with each other#they have similar pain and problems#both got that fuck ass rabbit bothering them#Who loves to make them commit some sorta violence (or at least try)#glitch and Jax just wants to see people get hurt FOR fun 🎉#what’s their problem? probably many things#gotta love your pathetic women just doing their best 💜💜
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“Criminal” Fiona Apple
8/07/97
#fiona apple#girlblogging#hole#women in rock#girl hysteria#when the pawn#tidalmusic#tidal#the idler wheel#courtney love#hole band#femcel#hell is a teenage girl#this is a girlblog#this is what makes us girls#girlhood#female rage#female manipulator#female hysteria#fem#rock
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What part of my body you want to kiss ? 🐰🐝❤️🐳
#mtf trans#trans#trans and proud#trans angel#trans are beautiful#trans are women#trans artist#trans beauty#trans dating#trans dick#trans queen#trans women are amazing#trans women are real women#trans world#trans women of color#trans woman#trans women are beautiful#trans women are hot#trans women are valid#trans women i love you#trans women positivity#trans romance#trans relationships#trans rights#trans people#transgender#transsexual#trans your gender#trans unity#this is what makes us girls
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