#we love pcos problems

[doerot]

I've been seriously considering laser lately, well honestly for years now, but I'm stuck in a loop of will this improve my quality of life, or am I just submitting to beauty standards ?

[mylovesstuffs]

OT13 reacting to their s/o having pcos/pcod

Request: can i request ot13's recation to so having pcod/pcos and her dealing w cramps, mood swings, month long periods and shi?

A/N: can definitely relate to some of this </3 been on the end of no period for 6 months too :( whoever's going through this—you are so strong !

Seungcheol: The moment you tell him, Seungcheol is all in. He researches everything about PCOS, what foods can help, what to avoid, and how to ease your pain. If you're having cramps, he insists you lie down while he warms up a heating pad for you. Mood swings? No problem, he’s your emotional rock. And when your period lasts forever, he reminds you to take care of yourself, brings you dark chocolate, and even cancels plans just to stay by your side.

Jeonghan: Jeonghan is so soft with you during this time. He knows you already feel like shit, so he never invalidates your emotions. If you’re in pain, he pulls you onto his lap, rubbing soothing circles on your lower belly. He buys you all the snacks you crave and will literally fight the universe if someone upsets you while you're feeling irritable. If you need to cry, he'll hold you. If you need to scream, he'll scream with you.

Joshua: Joshua treats you like a literal princess when you're struggling. The type to run a warm bath for you, light candles, and play soft music to help you relax. When the cramps hit, he massages your lower back or holds you against his chest, humming soothingly. He’s also super patient with your mood swings, never making you feel bad for being emotional.

Jun: He may be playful sometimes, but when you’re dealing with PCOS symptoms, he’s so doting. He lets you complain all you want, and listens without judgment, and makes you laugh with his cute cat thingys he does. He also researches herbal remedies from China and makes you warm teas that help. "Pain is no match for my love! Now, let me bring you your heating pad!"

Hoshi: Hoshi PANICS every time you get cramps. He freaks out and is like, "Should we go to the hospital?!" But when he calms down, he takes such good care of you. He gets you painkillers, heats up your heating pad, and even holds it against your stomach for you. If your mood swings hit, he’s so patient, always saying, “It’s okay, baby. I know it’s not you, it’s the hormones.”

Wonwoo: He just knows exactly what you need. The type to just appear with a warm water bottle, painkillers, and your favorite food. He won’t hover, but he stays close, playing games on his Switch while letting you rest on his chest. When the mood swings hit, he lets you vent and simply listens without judgment.

Woozi: Acts like he doesn’t know what to do, but he actually does everything right. He may grumble, "Why does your body bully you like this?" but then he’s wrapping you in a blanket burrito and bringing you snacks. He lets you sit in his studio, knowing his presence comforts you. He even makes a playlist of songs just to help you relax.

Dokyeom: My sunshine hates seeing you in pain, so he does everything to make you feel better. He sings to you, cuddles you, and even watches cringey dramas with you just to make you laugh. If your mood swings get bad, he reassures you, "Don’t worry, love. I know you don’t mean it. I still love you." He’s also the type to hold your hand when the cramps are really bad, just to let you know he’s there. "I wish I could take the pain away, but I’ll do everything I can to make you feel loved."

Mingyu: He's the overgrown puppy who is too sweet. Mingyu treats you like the most precious human ever when you’re struggling. He literally carries you to bed, makes you warm meals, and cuddles you endlessly. If you cry, he panics, wipes your tears, and brings you all your favorite things. The type to say, "Want me to punch PCOS in the face?"

Minghao: Minghao takes a holistic approach to your pain. He brews traditional Chinese teas, suggests stretches, and breathes with you through the cramps. He understands when you're moody and never takes it personally. If you’re feeling down about your body, he reassures you, “You are beautiful, no matter what. PCOS doesn’t define you.” He knows you're strong but he won't let you go through this alone.

Seungkwan: Seungkwan makes your PCOS his personal battle. If you’re in pain, he’s sassing your uterus with his pointer finger directed like, "EXCUSE ME, LET HER LIVE!!" He coddles you so much, bringing you snacks, blankets, and endless love and comfort. If you snap at him from mood swings, he just pouts but still loves you anyway.

Vernon: He never makes a big fuss, but he remembers everything—when your cramps start, what snacks you like, and how to make you laugh when you’re down. He lets you borrow his hoodies, plays soft music for you, and just vibes with you until you feel better. "You don’t have to say anything. I got you, babe."

Dino: He literally takes care of you like a pro. He googles meds, buys all the essentials, and even tracks your cycle just to be prepared. If your mood swings make you emotional, he pulls you into his arms, rubbing your back soothingly. If you’re frustrated with PCOS, he reminds you how strong and beautiful you are.

[blingblong55]

Funny Feeling -141

Photo credit: @ave661 (left)

A/N: König will be done in the next post, I'm sorry I couldn't add him to this one..

Not a request but my own need for this:

141&Konig find out (same time as you do) that you have PCOS. You of course are sad because of the fertility issues and all the problems this condition brings, but not to worry, your partner is here to help and uplift you.  ---- F!Reader, reader with pcos, fluff, angst, comfort, established!realtionship, tw: self worth issues ----

A/N: I needed comfort and well I figured you might too so.. here's this

"All the signs point to yes, the way you have given me a description and the tests we ran," the doctor breaks the news. "This can't be right? Maybe there was a mistake?" Your hand holding onto your husband's hand. "It's PCOS, ma'am." You shook your head. You read every article, and watched every video, and even though you said your signs must be for something else, here you are. 

"What does this mean for her?" your husband asks, knowing you are just trying to find yourself in the void you've been pushed to. "Well it can mean a lot of things, for example..." the doctor's voice fades. Your eyes are on that desk, the lighting of the room only making this news worse. Tears form in your eyes. What does this mean? No family, no picket fence, and Sunday walk with your kids. 

You wanted to cry and argue against the results but it's all there in that paper. Your heart breaks and you grip his hand again. 

The ride home was silent, he knew it was best this way. You thought of it all, the giggles, the drawings on the wall, the stained clothes, and the staying up late that you'll never get to do. 

"We're home," he mentions softly, his hand on yours again as you are lost in thought. All you can do is get out of the car and walk inside. You know it's wrong to push him away but it's the only thing that feels right. Your emotions are all over the place. You feel more disgusted with yourself. The hair that's growing on the chin and chest, the stupid periods you've missed, the weight gain, the way you look around and see everyone building your families and you, sitting in a bathroom, undressed as you look at the weight and wished you were 'better'. 

John Price: 

The first thing he does is leave you alone. He doesn't know how it feels, however, he knows that if he were in your place, he'd too need some time alone. He knows one thing, if the places were changed, you'd be doing something to make him cheer up, anything. "My love, I'm going out for a few minutes, you need me, I'm a phone call away." he kisses your forehead but when you refuse to let him kiss your soft skin, he sighs and walks away. 

They say, to be loved is to be known and he knows you all too well. So, he goes to every store in town, looks for that one book you've been looking for, and then, there it is, the flowers, the takeout and the one blanket you eyed for a little too long when shopping with him. 

Meanwhile, in the small bathroom, you lie down. Eyes on the ceiling as you feel yourself cry once more. Stupid, stupid, stupid body of mine. Why must this be your place? Why can't you give him the one chance at happiness? One kid at least, two at best and a stupid family dog that could be running around during family walks. 

"I hate you-"

"Love? Hey, open up, I'm home," he says as he knocks on the door of the bathroom. "Go away-"

"Not happening, open up my sweetheart, let me show you everything will be alright," his voice was so soft and gentle. 

Once he finally has you in his arms, guiding you to the cosy living room, he covers your eyes and smiles. "We'll talk about this all later but for now, let me release some stress."

"But-"

"Love, no. I'm not letting you think that just because of this condition you are less than any other woman out there. You are so much more than just someone who can give me children. You are this incredibly funny, smart and seriously kind person. You're my girl, nothing changes that, kids or not. Now, let's eat, watch some film I found and then, we'll stay up and talk about today." 

Simon Riley: 

You've been in the bedroom, looking at the pictures your siblings have sent you of your nieces and/or nephews. Their little giggles, the silly little things they do when they get annoyed when not solving a small puzzle. Tears form in your eyes. "Lovie, I got the bath- Lovie?" His voice was softer than ever. He recognizes that frown and the only thing he can do is walk to you, wrap his arms around you and give you a tight hug. His lips meet your forehead. "I feel broken like there is something very wrong with me," you confess as small tears fall. "You're not broken, lovie," he whispers. 

"Well, it feels like I am, everything is wrong with me, I feel disgusted with myself."

He shakes his head, "If there is one thing I've learned is that even if you feel like you are completely worthless, it's a temporary thing. At the end of the day, you are much more than being the one I have a family with. So what if we can't have sleepless nights? You're not here to just be a mother. And, if we want kids, I'm sure we'll adopt or maybe we can search for other stuff- the point here is, you are much more than serving as some womb for our kids." 

He kisses picks you up and carries you to the bathroom. "Now, let me take care of you, okay? You do it for me when I come home and it's time you get treated the same." 

One thing with him is that he shows you his true love, admiration and excitement with acts of service. He won't directly tell you all his emotions but his actions do tell you all you need to know. As you lay back on the tub, he grabs your hand and kisses it. "Everything will be alright, I promise you that much," he smiles and slowly scrubs your body, the feeling of the bubbles and warm water soothe you. 

Kyle Garrick: 

It's bizarre. The rain pitter-pattered against the windowpane as you sat curled up on the sofa, your thoughts a whirlwind of worry and frustration. Today had been one of those days where everything seemed to spiral out of control. To be diagnosed with this condition had hit you out of a tidal wave, and left you feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about the future. Why must you be this way?

Kyle, your ever-supportive husband, noticed the heaviness in your demeanour the moment he stepped through the door. Droplets of rain clung to his jacket as he approached you, concern etched on his features. "Y/N, love, are you alright?" he asked softly, kneeling beside you. He knows you, that weak smile falters almost immediately. "It's a lot to take in," you admit, your voice barely above a whisper. Kyle wraps his arms around you, pulling you close in a comforting embrace. "I know, darling. But you're not alone in this. We'll figure it out together, okay?" he murmurs, pressing a gentle kiss to the top of your head. 

You nod, feeling the weight of his words anchor to the present moment. You lean into his warmth, finding solace in the familiar scent of his cologne mingled with the rain outside. 

For the rest of the evening, Kyle made it his mission to care for you in every way he could. He brewed your favourite herbal tea and fetched the cosy blanket to wrap you in it. He listened attentively as you, for so long, poured out your fears and frustrations. In between doubt, he offered words of reassurance. 

As the evening goes on, he notices how the weight of your diagnosis left you with a burden. He can see the sadness etched into your features, the worry lines creasing your forehead as you sit and stare into the distance. "Love, what's on your mind?" he asks softly, reaching out to gently squeeze your hand. 

You let out a heavy sigh, and your shoulders slump as you face him, "I just can't shake this feeling off, babe," you admit to him once more, that soft voice of yours tinged with sadness. "It's a lie no matter what I do, this stupid condition will always be a part of me." Tears well in your eyes. 

His heart aches at the sound of defeat in your voice, but he refuses to let your despair consume not just you but him as well. With a tender smile, he cups your cheek, brushing away the stray tear with his thumb. How can you tell someone you want to listen to and understand them? How can you show love for them when they can't even accept love for something they can't control?  

"Y/N, listen to me," he says firmly, his gaze unwavering. "This condition doesn't define you. It's just one part of who you are, love. And it certainly isn't your fault." 

You blink back tears, your throat tightening with emotion. "But it feels like...like I'm broken," your voice barely above a whisper. He shook his head, his expression softening with understanding. "You aren't broken, Y/N. Not even in the slightest," he insists, his voice laced with conviction. "You are this strong, beautiful and capable of so much more than you realise. And I will be here every step of the way, holding your hand through it all."

With that, Gaz pulls you into his arms, holding you close as if to shield you from pain. He presses a gentle kiss to your forehead, pouring all his love and reassurance into the simple gesture. At that moment, surrounded by his unwavering love and support, you felt a flicker of hope ignite in you. 

In the days that followed, he was your constant support and encouragement. He researched PCOS tirelessly, eager to understand your condition better and help you navigate the complexities. He accompanies you to doctor's appointments, holding your hand through every moment. He also made small challenges to not just your lifestyle but his. New healthier habits, medication, self-help books and moments of joy filled your life with him. 

John "Soap" MacTavish:

The soft glow of the bedside lamp, once you reach the bedroom, casts a warm ambience in the room as you sit on the edge of the bed, your mind clouded with worry and uncertainty. You stare blankly at the floor, thoughts consumed by this condition. It felt as though the world had turned upside down in an instant, leaving you lost and vulnerable. 

Johnny, your steadfast husband, watched you with concern from his place beside you. He could see the turmoil written in your eyes. Without a word, he reached out and gently took your hand in his, offering a silent anchor in this storm. 

You squeeze his hand tightly, seeking solace in the warmth of his touch. "What am I now, Johnny?" you confess. "It's like... everything I thought I knew about myself has been thrown into question."

Johnny's heart ached, he can't let you suffer alone, not like this. "You don't have to deal with this alone, bonnie," he kisses the top of your hand. "We're in this together, remember?"

You nod, eyes brimming with unshed tears. "I know, but... it's just so hard," your voice trembles with emotion. It's not love if they leave during something so hard, they say. It's unconditional love when they stay, I say. 

"I know it's hard, bonnie. But I also know how strong you are," he gives you a small smile. "You are much more than this diagnosis." It's beautiful, how in the middle of this heartache, he still gives you this funny yet warm feeling. "And I will be here every step of the way, supporting you, comforting you, and loving you with all that I am," he promises.  -----

A/N: If you have this, I'm always here, it's okay to sometimes rely on others. This isn't something to be ashamed about<3

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[lady-severus-snape]

Random headcannon #987

Severus is a feminist and a champion to one he decides to love.

In the U.S. alone close to an estimated 6 million women suffer from PCOS (myself included) , this does not include those that have not been diagnosed.

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Severus would absolutely be appalled and down right foaming at the mouth when he finds his woman curled up on the bathroom floor crying from pain.

Severus (Concerned, bends down to help you): Darling, what is the matter? Are you hurt? Talk to me?

Y/N (whimpering and writhing in pain): yea, I'm OK. A cyst probably burst. I already took the maximum dose of acetaminophen for today. So hopefully it will take the edge off.

Severus (worried about you): what? What do you mean a cyst has ruptured?! Where?! Max dosage? Woman, that's about 2000mg!

Y/N (grunts and pants through the wave of pain): An ovarian cyst probably burst, and/or I'm having severe menstrual cramps. Yea, short of prescription pain killers, that's what I have on hand. Don't worry I made sure to eat so it doesn't fuck me up more.

Severus could only listen in horror. His woman looked and sounded like she was dying, and all she explained was that a cyst, an ovarian cyst at that exploded internally, and she said was it's was ok?!

Severus: Lovey, we need to get you to the hospital. (Helps Y/N into the room)

Y/N: no, that's OK. They won't do anything. The most they will do is maybe a scan, blood work, and maybe ibuprofen before sending me home with instructions to rest, use a heating pad, and more Tylenol. It's not worth the cost of the visit. I'll fine Sev, honest. Not the first time it's happened and won't be the last.

Severus (mouth dropped open, aghast): what?! What. Do. You. Mean. They. Won't. Do. Anything. You're literally agonizing in pain. They have to do something, they just can't dismiss your problems. It's happened before? When? Why? How?

Y/N (Climbs into bed and curls up): Severus, baby, I hate to break it to you, the medical community don't give a shit about us women. I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome or PCOS. There is no cure and only like 4-5 medicinal options to manage the symptoms. It took me nearly 20 years to recieve a diagnosis. Dr's called me crazy, depressed, hallucinating, that everything was normal.

Severus felt white hot anger course through his veins. His Y/N was in clear pain, distress, and who knows what else. The muggle doctors failed to help his love.

Severus asked y/n many questions in regards to it until he saw she was nodding off to sleep, the pain finally retracting enough. His mind was already running with possible potion ideas. He needed more information. He walked over to the small library y/n had built over time and pulled every book she had on PCOS. By the 3rd book it was obvious to him, that the information was repeating/recycling itself:

-hormonal problem -uncontrollable weight gain -excess body and facial hair(all the depilatory supplies made more sense) -female patterned hair loss(it explained why she always wore her hair up and always with a hat or scarf) -depression -super heavy and painful menstrual cycles or lack of one -cysts developing not just internally but also outwardly -infertility -high insulin levels

Treatments: hormone contraceptives, metformin or other type 2 diabetic medications, spironolactone or other hair growth inhibiting medications, losing weight, and excersize.

Severus peaked into the bedroom when he heard y/n whimper in her sleep. Another cramp of pain was hitting. His grip on the book tightened until it started to smoke and smolder from his magic, acting to his emotions. Taking a deep breath to calm himself, he weighed his options. He would have to delve into extensive research. What good was his potions mastery if he didn't utilize it. The rest of the weekend was spent with him taking care of y/n through what seemed to him a very hard and agonizing menstrual cycle.

^food in bed ^long soaks in the bathtub with his own personal muscle relaxant ^snacks and chocolate galore ^pampering of every kind you could think of

Once y/n was right as rain, Severus consumed research like a man possessed. Muggle medical reports, studies, and pharmaceuticals. Hell, he even researched for it in the magical world. Boy, was he sorely disappointed. If he thought muggle medicine was lack luster in regards to PCOS, then the magical community was left in the dust! Nothing, zip, zero, nada was found in correlation to PCOS. There is nothing to even address the barest of symptoms! Severus had never been so....so......so......horrified! Armed with rage, spitefulness, and indignation on behalf of y/n, Severus plunges into the world of the unknown for PCOS. Experimental potions safe for muggle use, others for the witches. Thankfully, he has some basis from when he modified the wolfsbane potion. As his research progressed, he discovered that the magical birth rates were low due to not only the inbreeding for blood purity, but in actuality, PCOS was also common amongst the magical woman folk. This led him down another rabbit hole that played on genetics.

After many failed results, Severus managed to find the right combination for y/n. It wasn't a cure by any means of the imagination, but it was far cry from the plebian options offered. His elixir, taken consistently, would lower the excess androgen levels and keep the cortisol level low. It worked better than the aforementioned muggle drugs. He still had problems finding a solution to the whole ovulating problem without causing severe side effects worse than the muggle drugs, but by the gods, he was working on it. Y/N's hair was already growing back fuller, thicker, healthier. Even the beard and mustache she let herself grow out for the sake of research (and laziness. Why should she worry about her beard if it didn't bother Severus. If anything, he was slightly jelly at how glorious hers was; it wasn't fair) had begun to thin out, practically patchy in some spots. But most importantly, to Severus, seeing the how y/n flourished, the femininity of her unrestrained from the dismorphia caused by PCOS. Free from the debilitating pain and suffering. It was breath taking, it made everything he had done worth it to see his love and hopefully the rest of the women population heard and seen.

[rodolfoparras]

Pinky promise I will write more for the concept of turning homophobic dude into your puppy and breeding bitch as soon as I have time. I also wanted to write you something for your birthday but I genuinely don't have time at all 😔

Since my co-worker is on vacation and we only work one shift (aka mine) I am swarmed the entire day and I have cried from stress nearly every day this week and I basically never cry. Also I had customer yell at me and threaten me two days ago and I was certain he would attack me?? He might've if another customer didn't walk in and it was for his mistake too. And when I tried to tell him that and offer to correct it, he got worse. Thankfully my manager is really nice and he told me I could've called him and police and that I should next time.

I really miss being here and every day and interacting with people but like...I barely see my dog because most of them home is spent sleeping. And the play I'm in is in like two weeks and I didn't have time or energy to properly learn my lines yet and we're supposed that have rehearsals before work next week and ngl I feel like throwing myself off of the building. (And I didn't even start with my final paper for college). Also I had bit of a cold and hell of a sore throat, I could barely speak and it hurt to swallow :((

There was so much I wanted to talk about and comment on but I literally don't have energy to type and I wish I could psychically send my thoughts to my phone. I hope you're doing better than I am though ✨🫶🏻 I'm on a hunt for less stressful job, hopefully something online so I can do it when I start college again this year (after two years).

(and side note but I love the idea of period sex but in reality because of my pcos and other problems, I am in way too much pain to do anything irl which sucks. But there are fanfics and roleplaying 😌 and the anon who mentioned this and said they have vampire thing are so real, me too bestie. And thank you for providing links of my husband, trans Simon is elite)

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Dw sugar bee!! You pop in whenever you have time!! And besides I appreciate the fact that you wanted to write me something sweet in the first place as we say down there it’s like you already did it so thank you lovey!

Sugar bee :(( that sounds absolutely horrible I’m so sorry angel customer service can be hell on earth especially down in the Balkans they really should have security work alongside cashier bc that’s what they do here you never know what can happen you know it’s okay to feel upset about it and cry it out just rmr that it was his fault and customers in general can be devils my cousin worked at a store for a short period of time and she says every time she passes it she gets physically sick bc ppl can be so nasty

And again like I said pop in whenever you can I understand you’re very busy rn and I hope things become less stressful so you can get some rest and spend time with your baby and of course to pop in here but I also have to say I admire you for balancing a job school and hobbies bc personally I wouldn’t be able to withstand this 😭

I also hope you get a much easier job so you don’t get burn out no offense but isn’t life crazy like you’re doing everything that’s expected of us have a job do school hobbies and you’re on the verge of getting burned out every day I am reminded of the hell on earth this is our society

Fanfics and roleplaying are definitely a good way to go about it! I mean might as well take the chance and have a vampire role play with your partner I mean who said that :/

[dead-loch]

CW IM TALKING ABOUT WEIGHT HERE

as people who read my posts know, I’ve been seriously ill twice in the past 6 months with nausea and vomiting. The first time i was unable to eat for 14 days straight, and the second time was for 8 days. I drank water and gatorade mixed with water and nothing else.

Both these times I didn’t lose a single pound.

In contrast, my sister was sick for 7 days with the exact same nausea/vomiting and lost so much weight that none of her clothes fit her now.

When i went to the doctor the other day, i mentioned this to her because i felt completely defeated. My goal is not to lose weight, but it made me feel so frustrated the way I’m consistently treated by the world for my weight to know that even being unable to fucking eat for days on end doesn’t change a single thing. Because so many people think we should starve ourselves (or much fucking worse).

The reason it’s so difficult for me personally to lose weight is because i have both pcos and hypothyroidism. I have not lost a single pound since i was about 16, i have only gained. And not only does this affect things like social opportunities and professional opportunities, but it affects my ability to get gender affirming care.

In 2020 i had a consult for top surgery. I was 30 then and I’d wanted this since i was like 14. At the consult i was told that because i had large breasts and whatever the fuck my bmi is, that the surgery, yes, would be covered (i know i’m very lucky to have this covered in my country) but that the reconstruction would cost me $6000. I know people pay this and more for surgery but that number is so completely out of the realm of possibility for me.

I went into that appt so hopeful and came out crying, knowing i would never get top surgery.

Since 2016, I’ve lived in the downtown core in my city. I don’t have a car and our city buses are a nightmare. This means i walk everywhere. (I also just love walking). I live in a three story walk up with extremely high ceilings. Every single other person i know bitches about going up those stairs, which I do daily, sometimes carrying very heavy things. I’ve been working on my relationship to food and eating well when i can (this gets harder with shitty jobs that don’t pay living wages).

So right now i just feel… defeated. It’s the only word for it. I feel like i am being pushed to lose weight just to get something that i desperately need, but even if i want to (which i don’t), i literally fucking can’t. Since 2020 I’ve been making it a priority to heal my relationship with food and with my body..

But it’s not MY relationship with my body that’s the problem. It’s everyone else’s relationship with my body.

[foxs-howl]

I love working with children. I'm a preschool teacher (a floater, so i bounce around all classes ranging from infants to 5 year olds) and got a hysterectomy right before our winter break (because PCOS has not been kind to me). The kids have actually been pretry great about it.

I still have a lot of weight and movement restrictions, so when we got back, I sat the toddlers and older kids down and talked to them about it. My spiel was basically "I've been having tummy problems, so over the break, the doctors used special tools to go in and fix it. And they did fix it! But my tummy is still a little sore and we have to be very gentle with me right now. I also can't pick anyone up for awhile." Some of my favorite responses:

4 year old after I said "tummy problems": "issues! You had tummy issues!"

2 year old who is normally pretty rough and tumble: gave me the most careful, gentle hug I've ever recieved

Same 2 year old noticed a heart shaped sticker on my jacket: "thats to help your tummy?"

4 year old who asked if it hurt, and I said they gave me medicine to fall asleep, so I didn't even feel it: "There's medicine to make you go to sleep?!" To which a five year old said "one time I went to the dentist and they put a pig nose on me! But I didn't go to sleep"

4 year old after I told the kids they were getting too loud (it was naptime for the babies next door): "I know why we have to be quiet. It's because of your tummy."

5 year old when another kid asked how the doctors got in my tummy, and I said through my belly button: lifted up her shirt, looked down out her outy belly button and asked "but how?!"

And then today a 20 month old and two 2 year olds who normally climb all over me and like to be picked up: took my hands and slowly walked me around the playground to show me things

[rottenstrawberrigirl]

So sorry! I got lost in my theory. Let me break it down for you:

I’ll be talking about the major religions or Abrahamic religions!

What if religions are created for men to feel pain, guilt, regret, and suffering? Most religions (or at least, the most popular ones) are made/discovered by men. They take charge of them as well (i.e. men become priests, rabbis, and imam). While women, they have already had pain and suffering in them. Women have menstrual cycles, PCOS, and then give birth which is the most painful part. All of this just to give birth and even if you don’t, you still bear the pain (menses & then menopause)! So, why would women need an external source to feel?

Thank you for listening :>

🍓🐛 anon

Interesting. I can see where you are coming from. But I don't fully agree with that. I think most religions, if not all, are being used to control people (especially women, but I'll get to that later), not to make men feel bad or anything. I would say all religions were initially designed to maintain social order, and their books (the Bible, Quran, Torah, etc.) are the law of values for civilization.

It's a bit controversial; I'm not vilifying religions because I don't think they're bad in essence. Religions are there to guide us to have a code of morality, to satisfy our need to believe in a greater force than ourselves, in a god, in a source of hope that will hear our cries for help in our most desperate hours. Some people find comfort in the belief that they and their loved ones will go to someplace safe after they die, a heaven where they may find the peace they did not find on this earth. Similarly, it is also comforting to believe that supernatural beings will deal with the injustices of this world even after those bad people’s physical bodies are long gone.

That is if it could only stay that way.

Religion is constantly exploited by those in politics. It should not be mixed with political matters. The two should be kept very far apart. Otherwise, it leads to disastrous consequences, but humans never learn any lessons.

And I also think that many people often use religion to legitimize the "sins" they have committed. It was even used to justify criminal acts throughout history—the violations of freedom of speech, the right to life…our most fundamental human rights. Religions have a role in almost every single event or are directly responsible for it: the Crusades, Inquisitions courts, Jihad, executions of philosophers and scientists, etc. I could go on and on and on…. More modern examples would be the war in Afghan-Taliban and Israel-Palestine. You already know.

Of course, it doesn't make sense to put all the blame on religions itself; the core problem is usually not even because of them but with the people who believe in them.

Now, let me go back to your question. No, I don't believe that religions are designed to make men feel guilty or suffer. If so, why is it that women are the ones who are suffering? Religions are being used to manipulate and manage women, to keep them under patriarchal society’s control. The roles of men and women in religions are not equal at all. From the day we are born, we have more duties than men do, and we live our lives in a much more restricted way than they do. These rules should apply to all, but for some reason, they only apply to women, and if we both commit the same sin, we are punished more harshly than they are.

In some cases, they are not even punished at all. Women are scapegoats responsible for the problems caused by men. When a man sins, it is because he was tempted by a woman, but when a woman sins, she is evil, she is impure, she is inherently a liar. They don't take her word for anything because what the man has to say is what is truly valuable. Do you see where I am trying to go with this? They are normalizing the misogyny that is deeply rooted in humanity through religions.

Even women's pains are blamed on a woman, humanity’s mother, Eve. They say it's her fault that we experience the pain of childbirth. The serpent tricked her into biting the forbidden fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil because she wanted to know good and bad like God. But Adam was just following Eve, right? Because she persuaded him. They were innocent and perfect; they both disobeyed, yet only Eve, the female, was punished for it; Adam, the male, was not punished, except for being thrown out of Eden with his wife. God is not fair, is he?

Is it not questionable that in most religions, God himself is considered a male (because apparently, this is the way God has chosen to reveal Himself to us. He consistently describes Himself in the masculine pronoun) ?? And his prophets are all men, even though it is we women who give life, who give birth to life? Why is that? Sure, I know, there are female religious figures, but they are usually overshadowed by the male ones, you know. They're often merely a tool. They're holy, yes, but never enough to be gods. Even in the example you gave, apart from religious figures, the priests, rabbis, imams, and so forth, again, men are the exclusive ones, and again, they are supreme over women. They are not in some minor positions either; if you think about it, they are, in a way, leaders who rule people, hold power over people, and people listen to them. And you surely must know how horrible the results have been because of the misogyny that has been going on throughout history. What women endure because of absurd superstitions, ceremonies, and traditions associated with religions... It's just so unfair. Most of the time, they strip us of our humanity. Let alone being a woman, we are not even seen as a person in their eyes. We are objects that are meant to serve men, fulfill their desires and needs, give birth, and mother their children on our own so that their bloodline continues to exist. It used to be like that, and it is still like that in some places in the world, even if this mentality has thankfully diminished over time. This issue doesn't stop at religions; it extends to other topics so that I won't go that far.

So why would women need an external source to feel?

They needn’t. Neither do men.

However, I think men's emotions and empathy are repressed and denied by society. It's not like they don't feel things or need religion to feel pain, guilt, regret, and suffering. They do feel. They just don't admit it because of their ego, because they don't want their honor to be damaged in the presence of other men. That's why most women often label men who are not afraid to feel their emotions as ‘good men.’ Misogyny is not just a hatred towards women. It's a hatred towards people in general. It also creates hatred among men. I honestly think they know deep down that it is very wrong, but they don't want change, or they are too scared, or it is simply easier for them this way.

Anyway, apart from that, if people want to believe in a religion out of their own free will, they can just do that. Everybody's belief is their own. Religions are something that shouldn't be forced on people; they are something that people should discover on their own and experience a spiritual awakening, you know. It is kinda the whole point. I believe that morality exists in our nature; we don't need religions to have it, but religions offer a path for people who have a weaker understanding of it or who feel lost.

I personally am not a religious person. I believe religions are man-made, like most other things. But again, there may be a creator. Just not in the way we imagine, a power beyond our human comprehension. And this force, this God, I believe, is genderless; it has nothing human about it. But if it were to have a gender, I would like to imagine it as a woman, the Mother of all Universe. Calling it “Mother” would probably make me feel closer to it. It sounds way better, IMO.

Anyway, that's what I feel.

[spicyraeman]

Well interacting with you makes my week too! **aggressive friendly fist bump**

I hope your holidays are going well 😁

Wolfheart is ending me. Can I pet that dawg? CAN I PET THAT DAWG? (https://vt.tiktok.com/ZGeN9U7kG/)

I love seeing the hairy SH art! PCOS / trans / wolf girlie, I stan all versions I see. We're not cowards here! The new band drawings are fire, still making my heartrate go jglcbxlw. And seeing the growth? Honestly it's magic to me, I think it's perfect then it becomes even more perfect and I'm just how?? How possible?

Veteran'zel, Baby'zel, Beam'zel, Horny'zel, Rat'zel, all I do is love'zel! The cheetah/dog doodle + wet rat'zel made me hiccup from laughter, we were blessed.

Buddy, Karlach's got her tail docked like the gith children, that's why! See, problem fixed **insert Flex Tape meme**

Also for Lae'zel's accent : yes, she would have such a harsh accent! As a foreign speaker, the pronunciation isn't always intuitive and is sometimes paradoxal. She probably never used some sounds, and it's hard to guess a lot of them. It's so inconsistent. I lack air in the middle of my sentences because of the tonal accentuations differences. Languages are crazy man. Lae'zel would have a stroke, struggling to say "library" with Gale correcting her.

I've been upgraded to bestie? Careful, I feel like the most specialest goblin in town now 😎

I also wanted to share with you my recent victory : I passed my exams with unexpectedly high grades! It's been 10 years since I succeeded in anything school related, I feel strangely proud and hopeful. I attribute this partly to the intense hyperfixation for BG3. I can come back to this fandom and get comfort when I feel burned out and in need of motivation. Thank you for being part of it and sharing your blorbos with us. Good soup for our cold starving souls. So yeah, you and your art matter even if you find it bleh sometimes and you doubt yourself.

I wanted to be brief but I'm incapable of shortening shit even if my life depended on it. Violently dumping my brain in your ask like I'm late on garbage collecting day. Sorry not sorry for the awkward emotional stuff. Take care of yourself, bestie ✌️

🫀🚑

Sry for answering these “backwards”, I just needed to get the conlang stuff out first before all my good braincells shut down lol

hope the holidays are going well on your end as well :]

To pet a werewolf truly is the dream isn’t it, wereshart is prob my fav hc for her it just fits so well. I've been trying really hard lately to figure out how to draw her recently bc despite the art disparity her and lae’zel are neck in neck at being my fav characters. Seeing the growth in the bass drawing really gave me that boost of confidence that I'm at least slightly getting there lol

I truly do love Lae’zel in every form, but wet rat’zel rotates in my mind more than it should, sadly its not a hc I could ever commit to considering I can’t even remember Karlach’s canon tail lmaoo I really should just hc that karlach got her tail docked at this point, that or I need to make a checklist for her so I can go through and make sure ive got all her bits when I draw her

Also Ive already posted my big rambling mess about Gith accents but yeah harsh accent lae'zel best lae'zel, it just makes sense

But yoooo big gratz on the exams! Def something to be proud of!! I can agree this fandom really is a huge motivator, I haven’t had this much drive to do anything I've been doing recently in years. Glad I could help provide a lil comfort spot full of blorbo soup for the soul lol

Dw about shortening shit as you’ve prob seen i’m prone to rambling and also every emotion I experience is awkward so that's just par for the course here.

Hope life treats you well till the next ask, peace ✌️

[nerdyqueerandjewish]

I’m a new follower so I don’t have your full context but have you read Thank You for Waiting by Doree Shafrir? It’s about being a late bloomer and also infertility and as a queer someone who started fertility treatments in 2018 and didn’t have a kid until 2022 I valued it.

Ooo I will look to see if my library has it on Libby!

Essentially my context is that the most supportive and loving person in my family unexpected died in October and it made me realize we have limited time on this earth and grand scheme of things, I feel as ready as I’ll ever be to have kids. But my partner had a traumatic brain injury in 2021 and is still recovering and because of that is not as ready as I am . I don’t have any known fertility problems, although doctors think I have PCOS. I recently learned about the term social infertility which I think fits my situation…. It’s sort of weird because I feel a lot of overlapping emotions with people experiencing infertility and also I don’t want to like, co-opt or diminish that experience, you know?

[yourfavoritehorseman]

I need to vent about something so maybe I can quit dwelling on it and actually write the fics I've been working on:

Some time ago, I was having a conversation with someone who I thought was something akin to a friend. We mostly just worked together, but we used to bitch to one another a lot. It was cathartic.

We've also both have fertility issues. She does have two children, though. Both are from a previous relationship and she's thus far been unable to conceive with her current husband. The doctor's she spoken with haven't had any definitive answers as to why. She's also had to deal with miscarriages, which I wouldn't wish on anyone.

A lot of my issues stem from PCOS. My condition was left unchecked for years due to my family being unwilling to take me to the doctor to find out why I was having some of the symptoms (lack of period or extremely painful period when I do get it to name a few). I'm not quite 30, but my OB warned that it's a very real possibility that I may have to get a hysterotomy in the near future to avoid significant health problems.

I'm trying to make peace with it. Having children isn't exactly my number on goal right now, but there's something about the idea that it may not be an option to me that's sort of final and sad. The added pressure of having relatives and in-laws make it seem as if this thing that's happening to you is just an excuse is another matter altogether.

Anyway, one day this person and I were venting to one another. She turns to me and says with her entire chest, "I do think it's much harder on me because you've never had children. You don't have to wonder why you can't have them with the man you love, but managed to conceive for someone who's a part-time father."

I was stunned. Firstly, I didn't realize it was contest. I genuinely thought we both understood the other. Secondly, I can't fathom how it's easier to possibly never have the choice.

The idea that maybe I'm being selfish and depriving my husband of being a father has crossed my mind several times. He's never made me feel this way, but I know he wanted children at one time.

I do admit maybe it's harder for her because she wants it more than me. Motherhood seems to be where she particularly finds fulfillment and I've never needed it for that purpose. Still, to be dismissed that way was like a hardy slap to the face. Trying to come to terms with this while also being told it's not that bad is a worse feeling that I expected. Plus, I get the added bonus more pressure being on me to conceive before "it's too late." Maybe a hysterectomy would be a small blessing because then I would know it isn't happening and wouldn't even feel like talking about it anymore.

[margot-mills]

Just out of interest do you have a problem with the Britney Spears circus album / tour

(It happened before the issues with her mental health / legal limitations I think)

I never engaged with it positively or negatively. She honestly wasn't as in-your-face omnipresent as TS (I was alive then and I didn't see ads about her every 2 min) and there wasn't as much of a meta culture of analyzing social justice implications in that era so it would have been surprising if it WAS something I thought much about then.

Now that I consider it, the nuances are different IMO even given that the conservatorship started the same year the "Circus" album came out. The effects of the conservatorship weren't felt immediately but would amount to exploitative forced labor so the circus reference is so retroactively fitting. Addressing this without that in mind as you asked, her period of highly publicized erratic behavior started before that (2006-2008 per the internet) and generated unprecedented public interest in her perceived behavioral dysfunctionality and public suffering. She and TS do share being papped relentlessly which I agree is a level of scrutiny most people can't take (look at Princess Di who was literally killed by it). But it's just a bit different when the source of the scrutiny is your public manifestation of what would be diagnosed as bipolar later vs it being about your work's intentional specific references to your personal life in a culture you created of easter eggs and puzzles. I am not stating it has inherent political consequences but the pattern of dissecting clues in an ongoing and consuming way is what QAnon is. I'm referring to the process, not the morals or the message. People like feeling like they have deep insider knowledge of an opaque situation based on their own intelligent analysis of a symbol system with hidden meaning. Even us antis do it because it's pretty irresistible in a culture based on meta, but we were kinda trained to do it by TS.

Please keep in mind as an old person I recall the music world as an industry where women like Britney had very little control over their image, marketing strategies, probably even wardrobe and styling. Britney grew up singing gospel music as a kid but commercial relevance required a Marilyn Monroe-eque image of a teen halfway between sensual womanhood and childlike innocence. She could sign huge contracts based on that image but I don't think her decision-making powers matched TS'. And I give TS credit for gaining control over her image, label, creative output and brand to a large extent as it IS a step forward for women. Like Liz Taylor signing a million dollar contract for Cleopatra and crafting her own contract stipulations.

But in Brit's case the public scrutiny circus about her progressive bipolar-influenced behavior is not one she created and ultimately it put her into slavery. If she were brand and brand manager at that time, designing and booking and adding dates to tours on her terms, speaking cogently about her marketing strategies, gaining control over every aspect of her business and seeming to do it with as much savvy influence as TS does, no, I doubt I'd love the circus imagery. I don't really care for it as a baseline narrative or metaphor for fame by itself. But if used I would like it to be in the hands of those who are marginalized. "The Greatest Showman" the film is a massive rewriting of history but there was something massively cathartic for me in seeing a pacific islander woman who is not just "Hollywood heavy" (like Renee Zelleweger as Bridget Jones playing 'fat' at a size 12) but actually plus size and also playing someone with genetic excess hair. PCOS gang (me!) found a bigger woman who falls under at least 3 categories of minority being the vocal backbone of the movie and the heart and soul of the diversity message undeniably compelling even when much of the historical rewriting was a hot mess and ick.

Taylor has been a victim of misogyny and I didn't mind when she spoke about it and it was truly the source of the criticism. But outside of that and in her billionaire era she is losing credibility with many when she goes for underdog status. Fame is a cage, I get that. Her parents are culpable for overly emphasizing her career and brand management from childhood. But when you set the tour dates, have unprecedented financial returns for them, etc it's hard to see the circus and public interest as not also being the source of much of your gain.

Britney's bipolar diagnosis apparently came at 2008 as well, same year as the Circus album. I am bipolar gang gang and I can't imagine having a sense of control of your life that would render the circus metaphor wholly offensive. She's beautiful and gained riches but everyone could see it cost her more than privacy and we were all worried. Taylor's control of her brand is the thing that separates them. In general, circus metaphors are a bit derivative tho.

[bridgertonopinions]

Why should Luke Newton be savvy as to covering up his entire existence online? If the fandom didn't have an entitlement to everything about him, this wouldn't be a problem, because he has done absolutely nothing wrong. He's the number 3 actor on IMBD right now, Bridgerton is a global phenomena and a huge success again in massive part thanks to him. He's one of the best actors on that entire production, and yet all anyone on here can talk about is 'oh, he's dating so and so' as if it has any bearing as to his ability to do his job. He's perfectly pleasant and kind, he's respectful and has met this fandom with more grace than we deserve. We harassed his last gf, Jade, and now any woman associated with him is under threat of the same all because what? They're not Nicola? Calling a woman who has done absolutely nothing to you 'Toilet Twerker' as a nickname? Are we in middle school? This is Bridgerton Opinions? Here's my opinion. This fandom is full of chronically online, internet poisoned mean girls who desire to know and dictate everything about LNs life unfairly. It criticizes how he does his hair, every outfit he wears, every action he undergoes, his friends, women in his circle. It made fun of his longterm ex-gf for having PCOS openly on Insta and almost certainly contributed to their breakup. It stalks his page to determine when he likes various pictures. It went after Ruby Barker for just playing a character love interest to his character. It's called him a groomer for allegedly dating a grown woman of 23. It's insisted he's had work done to his face. It calls him ugly. Makes remarks about his intelligence. Why? He was cast to do a job and he does that job well. He's a fantastic actor and a kind, attractive man who helped craft a beautiful season that we are obviously invested in. No other actor on this production is treated with the same vitriol and disrespect as he is and he has done absolutely nothing bad. He doesn't owe any of us anything outside of being a decent person and performing well. He's done that in spades. Nicola herself has said that she wants to defend him and no wonder because her own fans are a bunch of bullies. Time to do some self reflection.

This is very heated and I’m posting out letting you voice your opinion

You say all of this and yet you have come to my blog

I created this space to let people vent, speculate, give their opinion, etc

I don’t agree with everything that people say or do on here but I’d rather them vent here than to these people directly…..

This is what I mean by combative

It says in my bio this is a speculation and opinion blog, if you do not like it then you can block me, unfollow me and never come into my asks again

I think Luke is incredibly talented, kind, and generous

Am I confused by his actions? Yes

But I have not once uttered a word of hate towards him

I’ve never participated in trolling and hated on Jade nor Antonia

I simply discuss speculation by what I am seeing

If you feel the need to come to my blog, then you yourself are participating in speculation and opinion

I think someone also needs to self reflect

[twosides--samecoin]

15 Questions for 15 Mutuals

as tagged by @vault-heck <3 thank you friend, I hope you're doing well these days! tagging @edaworks and @perfectlypreservedpie @persephotea @truebluemeandyou @bokatan @aviatorfics @wolfbirbisme @khazrablood @kremvhstooth

1. Are you named after anyone?

My name is a bit of an "oof". In a sentence my mom was raised by Very Strict Irish Parents and she had me at 18. They disowned us after I was born; my name is her mom's middle name and my middle is the fem version of her dad's name. I have mulled over changing it because we don't have a relationship with them - it's fairly unique being an Irish name and I find myself resigned to it. TMI moving on lmao

2. When was the last time you cried?

I cry every time my girlfriend goes home :'D

3. Do you have kids?

I have PCOS and will hit 30 next year - I likely will never have my own but I am open to adopting :) I really love kids.

4. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

I invented sarcasm

5. What sports do you play/have you played?

Judo

6. What's the first thing you notice about other people?

I notice.. a lot - I am... observant about people, to use a word. Whether you feel awkward or standoffish or open or not. I don't know how to describe it. Perhaps it is a body language thing.

7. Eye color?

Bright blue - kind of like the lighter part of a blue portal from, well Portal

8. Scary movies or happy endings?

Why not both? :D

9. Any special talents?

One thing my girlfriend mentioned is I can pick people apart like a lawyer can. I can figure out fairly quickly what someone's damage is and put someone in their place. This sounds like an evil skill, but the best way of putting it is I am not going to be dishonest if you act holier than thou or if you think you're special and better than others, and you need to be told to sit down. An example of doing this for good is standing up for people, especially if someone is being punched down upon. If you enjoy being a bully to others in fandom spaces because you feel most comfortable when you're an expert and can control the conversation, and that self perception being questioned is such a problem you think you're being attacked (yet do nothing when a less popular account than yours gets a ton of hate for days while you get headpats from your minions), I'm gonna send an anon about it. Bullies tend to be insecure nerds and I will do my best to call them out behind the scenes.

10. Where were you born?

Atlantic Canada

11. What are your hobbies?

I write Long Time Running on AO3. I am a really big music fan and am a bit of a historian for punk music. I really love my plants - I collect primarily aroid species such as philodendron and monstera but I also really miss traditional gardening. The goal is to get a fraction of a piece of land sometime in the next few years so I can have a proper garden space again. Woooo compost :)

12. Do you have any pets?

I do not and I wish to! I can claim my partner's cockatiel, Darwin. We video chat and it's funny - he and I have intense whistling conversations and he understands I exist but he doesn't conceptualize that me existing through the phone doesn't = me being in the same room. So he tries looking around the phone to see if I am there. Poor baby

13. How tall are you?

5"2. Tiny terror

14. Fave subject in school?

I felt most seen by Language Arts/English. My fourth grade teacher let me read the Lord of the Rings trilogy for a book report instead of telling me I had to choose just one for a book report. I am hopeless if I am not writing

15. Dream job?

Everyone asks me what I wanna be when I grow up, everyone asks me what I wanna do for a job. Nobody asks me if I want to work or not. I don't. I want to be a househusband for my girlfriend and I want to make her lunch and keep her house clean. This said, I am in school to be a paralegal because working and getting an income is important I guess. True Marxist Accelerationism is accepting: money isn't real, be a wifeguy instead ;)

[vamptastic]

AFAB nonbinary anon again.

I am glad that my words resonated but also sorry that you have had the experiences you've had.

It seems like a lot of people refuse to actually listen to and learn from AFAB trans people (of any gender) who have had any experience other than "I was seen as woman and was part of the sisterhood all women are a part of until I realized I was trans", and take the "all women are part of this friendly loving sisterhood" thing at face value.

As a mixed race person who also has PCOS I very much relate to being treated as "failing at being a girl" growing up, and it's so very frustrating and upsetting the way people will talk as though all AFAB people were seen as girls and accepted into the universal sisterhood of girls/girlhood and refuse to listen when I tell them that that was not my experience. People want so badly to pretend like I didn't have the traumatic childhood experiences that I had because that would require acknowledging that AFAB people can actually go through difficult things and genuinely be victims, which doesn't mesh with the idea that AFAB people are only ever faking being victims to cause harm or for their own gain.

And as you said, the idea that AFAB people are only ever faking being victims to cause harm or for their own gain is just misogyny.

That conception that by virtue of a doctor deciding to put F on our paperwork at birth, we must all have some mystical connection to the healing female sisterhood is so common across so many demographics... You see it from cis women who are trying to include us but don't really respect us, and from one who openly hate us and are dangling the prospect of acceptance over our heads if only we radically change ourselves. You see it from cis men MRA types that think we can't understand Masculine Struggles. You even see it from other trans people in various presentations.

Of course there's then this cool catch-22 where acknowledging that someone sees you as a woman and is being misogynistic towards you because of that is 'misgendering yourself' to play the victim. Or from t/erf types, an acknowledgement that your problems are Female In Nature and a marker of your True Womanhood. Either way, all it does is make us unable to admit that somebody is mistreating us without it being taken as a tacit surrender of our gender identity.

Something that's underlying a lot of the rhetoric there is this idea that someone AFAB 'clings to womanhood' not to avoid being seen as transgender and thus discriminated against but to gain privilege. Which I guess is somewhat fair, in that being seen as a cis woman is generally easier than being seen as a genderfreak, but it's not any different than any other form of closeting or stealthing.

And it attaches a level of deliberation to someone's gender presentation that I find unfair. I don't know why people assume a trans person AFAB would be 'clinging to womanhood' in order to perpetuate transmisogyny towards others rather than in an attempt to avoid transphobia in their own life. Or why their connection to womanhood is more sinister than that of a cis woman.

Someone can happen to have some amount of social capital against you by dint of their gender presentation without their gender presentation being a deliberate choice in order to better oppress you. I see this same kinda thinking in those posts that are like 'people with contradictory gender identities like lesboy or boygirl or fagdyke hate trans women and i am implying or outright saying that their gender identity somehow has to do with that'. As if someone cannot just feel that that is the best term to express their gender.

[ayushyaa]

Acupuncture for Female Infertility- Natural Conception

Pregnancy is a miracle of life. It’s a chance to nurture a growing soul within your body; a soul to protect, care for, and promise to love forever. Many young couples aspiring to grow their families face difficulty in fulfilling this wish of theirs.

While Western Medicine has evolved miraculously over the past decade, today's science offers modern solutions to the ailments of the body, and infertility is no exception. From IVF to hormonal therapy, there are several ways to help you start your own family.

However, when it comes to centuries-old holistic healing practices like acupuncture in Bangalore, you might be wondering if it has a scientific basis and whether it may be worth a shot. According to many researchers, acupuncture has been used for thousands of years with great benefits for couples looking to solve their fertility problems.

But before we get into the details of acupuncture, let’s first understand female infertility and why you may be having trouble with natural conception

What do you mean by Female Infertility? 

According to the NIH’s resources on infertility, at least 11% of the women trying to conceive naturally will end up having trouble getting pregnant. while women trying to conceive naturally will face difficulty getting pregnant. Having trouble with fertility means failure to conceive naturally after a year of regular intercourse with no means of protection.

What Can Cause Female Infertility or Trouble in Natural Conception?

The trouble with natural conception can happen due to certain medical conditions or maybe idiopathic i.e. without any apparent cause. Acupuncture sessions help in restoring the balance of body functions in all these cases. On the other hand, female infertility can have various causes among which some of these listed below are the most common reasons.

•   PCOD/PCOS

•   Endometriosis 

•   Blocked fallopian tubes

•   An ovulatory cycle

•   Hormone imbalances

•   Fibroids, cysts, and polyps in the uterus

•   Stressful lifestyle

•   Mental health

•   Metabolic disorders 

•   Endocrine dysfunction, etc.

While the rest of the time there was no reason at all. Gynecologists in such cases would express to you that all the reports are normal and to keep trying till you succeed. Another cause that we are not commonly aware of is stress.

Stress:

Stress is quite often a root cause for a lot of health issues; starting from high blood pressure, and gastric ulcerations to upset in the balance of our biological functions causing difficulty in reproductivity.

Natural conception requires a very delicate balance in hormonal functions and adequate responsiveness from the reproductive organs. This hormonal balance can be significantly impacted by the shift in moods and emotional fluctuations. Hence, the need for relaxation and stability is very important for couples who have trouble conceiving.

What Can Acupuncture Do to Help?

Acupuncture, as you might have heard before, relies on the insertion of fine needles into certain points on the body. It is popularly known to release blocked energy (also known as Qi) in our body. Restoring the flow of Qi to its normal state helps the body regain balance resulting in good health.

Meanwhile, there are three main physiological effects of acupuncture on fertility. 

1. It promotes the release of neurotransmitters which help in the proper function of reproductive hormones and the respective organs. 

2. It enhances proper blood circulation to the ovaries and uterus resulting in the production of healthy follicles and increasing the chances of conception respectively. 

3. It activates the brain to release chemical compounds which help in combating anxiety and stress, as explained earlier is one such contributing factor for infertility.

Is Acupuncture a Suitable Choice for Me?

Regardless of age and medical history, acupuncture is a very safe procedure suitable for anybody. While Chances of natural pregnancy increase with Acupuncture, it can also be of great value before IVF procedures to increase the success rate, as recommended by many gynecologists. As a general rule, once you choose a reputable acupuncturist, the procedure is highly safe and with minimal pain.

In short, acupuncture can help in:

•   Producing healthy follicles by stimulating ovarian function. 

•   Increasing the Endometrial (uterine lining) thickness.

•   Regulating hormonal levels (Estrogen, progesterone, FSH, LH, etc.)

•   Stabilizing mood and relaxation.

•   Conceiving your child naturally.

•   Easing pain during sexual intercourse.

•   Clearing blocked fallopian tubes.

•   Increasing the success rate of In Vitro fertilization cycle (IVF) Procedure before and after embryo transfer.

•   To relieve symptoms during different stages of pregnancy like morning sickness, mood swings, fatigue, nausea and vomiting, Lower back, Sleeping problems, Cramping, etc.

How Safe is Acupuncture?

Acupuncture is a very safe and minimally invasive procedure, as long as the session is held by trained professionals. In terms of pain, acupuncture needles are extremely fine to avoid unpleasant experiences and the majority of times one expresses that they have not felt the prick either. This procedure lasts for about 20-40 mins depending on the patient's history.

At Ayushyaa Clinic-The best acupuncture in bangalore, safety comes first and our highly qualified doctors are here to ensure the best experience possible for your specific case. We use the best quality imported sterile disposable needles (silver/copper) for the procedure every time, ruling out any possibility of health hazards