#we lived with my grandparents for about a year
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I got 160, though whether that's CE or BCE is up for debate. Except it doesn't matter. My quality of life goes downhill due to a lack of diabetes & ADHD management medications...but if I can hold it together long enough, the Coastal Salish folks will have a quantitiative leap forward in their quality of life.
You see, while the local clay bodies suck badly for anything other than making bricks at best (it's why they invested in steam-bent wood cooking boxes that were heated with cooking stones), there ARE plenty of copper & iron deposits (if not the highest quality for the latter) in the area, limestone deposits for lowering the melting point of iron ore, and not only plenty of wood for turning into higher-temperature charcoal...but there are coal deposits within the Puget Sound area--we literally have a coal-rich site called Newcastle, nicknamed after the same coal-bearing location in the British Isles.
More than that, the Coastal Salish people already knew the value of iron long before European colonizers came along. Chinese folks traded all the way up the Kamchatka peninsula as far as the Aleutian Islands, who traded down the coast of Alaska & British Columbia with the Haida, who traded with the Salish. When the first white explorers reached this area, some of the Salish had iron tools. They were heavily ground down and basically heirloom inheritances, but they were genuine trade goods that had been exchanged all the way from the forges and smithies of China.
(I'm not sure how far back this trading took place, but if you go back far enough in Chinese art, you can see a distinct similarity in some of their pieces to the styles of the art of the Haida & Salish coastal peoples.)
So I could totally introduce the Iron Age to North America well over a millennia earlier than it actually came along, and the Coastal Salish folks had a genuine caloric abundance of easily harvested foods, with managed orchards of white oaks for acorns and hazel trees for their nuts, plus a plethora of edible berries, over-abundant fish spawning seasons, a variety of edible bulb roots for starches, a relatively very mild climate, so on and so forth.
I'd just have to hurry to pass this knowledge along before my genetic inheritance from my grandparents offed me...and I'd have to be extra careful about not offing the local populations due to all of the diseases I'm carrying on my body. Also, the language barrier would be a wee bit of a problem. But conceivably, I could live for at least a few years!
The decade you’re given is the decade to which you’re transported. Your geographic location doesn’t change; only the time period changes. “Equivalent QOL” means a qualify of life that approximates the life you have now and anticipate being able to have in the future.
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#im so stressed ughhhhh#this divorce is gonna end me man though im probably stressing out over nothing AGAIN#like tomorrow my dad's bringing some expert to the house to put a price on the house#and i literally have no idea whatever that's gonna be how we are gonna pay that shit lmaoo#also i just really don't wanna be there or be with them in the same house god i hate it when they're near each other#i am..... going through it more than i probably should since I'm an adult now n stuff but whatever#it's not like i can just stop feeling all this distress and grief n shit especially since he's already found a girlfriend#with kids and stuff and they've already been going to my grandparents ughhh i feel thrown away you know#it hasn't even been a year it's pissing me off so badly#i feel like killing myself every time i think about tomorrow and then I feel even worse when i think about later ughhh#i shouldn't be so distressed i really shouldn't#especially since I've been living my life on an incredible streak of luck so.#whateverrrrr#uhh like comment and subscribe#vent#i just gotta. cause there isn't anyone here i can really talk to since#everyone sees this so much more differently and sis is just always telling me im making it into something bigger than it is#but it's really stressing me out#idk i fear this is not gonna end nicely I don't even see him anymore#and it literally hasn't even been a year but he's not really talking to me but at the same time i don't really#feel like talking to him either so who knows uhh..
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feeling solidarity these holidays with everyone not allowed to talk about their partner with the family
#for some reason i too am not allowed to bring him up when my dad is present because he gets really uncomfortable about it#and my mom has to come tell me off about it in private bc he wont say the problem directly to me#thunderclap#i understand the problem but what the hell man im almost 27 years old#its extra annoying cause ive been to his house a lot already and i know his parents and have a good relationship with them#but my parents absolutely REFUSE to let him come here because again itd make my dad uncomfortable to have us (checks notes)#living in the same space??#my GRANDPARENTS have seen my partner more than my parents have#i just think its annoying as hellll holy shit all i did was bring up miguel sleeptalking and say hes woken me up once or twice saying stuff#and my mom told me off on it after like 'dont bring up you being in bed with your guy in front of your dad' HUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!#HUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO INFER THAT AS THE MEANING TO WHAT I SAID... I WAS JUST TELLING A FUNNY ANECDOTE#THAT HAD 100% TO DO WITH THE CONVO WE WERE HAVING (SLEEPWALKING)#ARRGHGGHGHGHGH THIS IS JUST LIKE COSMIC ONLINE REACHING BUT IRL
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Was doing so good holding it together today but now that I’m laying down and trying to sleep I’m tearing up and I can feel that I’m about to burst into tears any second now
#my mom called me like ten minutes before I was off work today#and asked if I had talked to my grandpa lately and I was like yeah some why?#I’ve been showing what I’ve been cooking with him and my grandma because I was proud of myself#and she was like oh so you know about his potential surgery?#and I was like. his what???????#apparently his pace maker is dying and malfunctioning and he needs a new one#but this is the third time it’s had to be replaced and as he’s gotten older he’s had a lot more health issues#and they’re not even sure his heart can handle getting it replaced…. he has an appointment tomorrow to find that out#and no one told me. no one fucking told me it was that bad and I’m so#like man my feelings on my grandparents are so insanely complicated but I do love them#I love them so much and they practically raised me and loved me more and treated me better than my mother EVER did#they’re the only family members I’ve ever been legitimately terrified and upset over not accepting me cuz I’m queer#like my mom and siblings? I could not give a flying fuck if they hated me for my gender or sexuality#if my grandparents had a bad reaction I think I would fucking kill myself#and idk the point is I love him and I’ve barely seen him at all the past few years because we live far away now and I never visit because I#hate the rest of my family#but what if he can’t have this surgery?????#or what if he can but something goes wrong??????#what if he’s dying and I’m only able to go down and see him one more time#and he could be fine. it might all work out and he could be fine#but man I’m terrified that won’t happen because WHY WOULD NO ONE TELL ME ANY OF THIS#and yeah no I’m fully crying now I can’t do this#he taught me to draw and he built the house I grew up in and he got me into lord of the rings and would take me book shopping#and and and I’m gonna fucking throw up#kaz rambles
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OOPS forgot to take pictures for my one year anniversary on testosterone cause I went on a walk with my bf and then ate a lasagna garfield style so uhmm here have some pics from the last few months ok?
Featuring @binesetakeout as that sexy lil binch in the top left corner
#shut up max#ill take some tomorrow okaayyyy#not Thursday though because my bf and i are gonna try making salmon fried rice because my grandparents gave me some salmon!!#and we keep forgetting about it#anyways uhm these are in order from oldest (September 30 2023) to newest (April 20 2024)#its been so fun and im very grateful to have such strong support amongst my friends throughout my first year on testosterone#lots of ups and downs but the ups have far surpassed the downs#i say that over all for everything the past few months btw not just about my hrt#so many fun times but ive also been sick more in the past few months than i had been in the past like three years. like actually#not to mention the $5000 worth of car repairs#but i wouldnt trade any of this away for anything. i love my boyfriend and my bestie Andi and all my friends#and i love living my life and im soooo free now#it gets so much better guys i promise. i love you
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all im saying is im gently making plans just in case my 10-year breakdown-iversary is on the cards
#happens squarely once every 10 years there abouts i just get wrecked#this time im very aware of it and can attempt to mitigate the issues#im just in a whole lot more stress this time and my cornerstone support systems are kind of ... not quite there this time#Tom's here thats so much better#buuttt my immediate family is a part of the problem as well as the support#my grandparents are kind of going through it and also showing their age now#and my friends for like ... 18 years .. arent speaking to each other? im not sure where to go with that#one of then is primo great stuff if a bit ditzy#the other .. no idea where i stand on that one#and i know im going back to the Big Away Work in January too#also fine but we have some work hiccups going on#i do wish the best for who i work with and i care about them but oh boy gksnfkd fhdj#some of them are being pretty self-destructive and its hard to watch#and others are after better jobs and i WILL miss them (ive been living with them for 3 months)#sighs ... anyway ... not sure what to do#rory's ramblings
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#i'm updating the family birthday and anniversary calendar as a christmas gift for my grandparents and#it's kinda just driving home how very much i am in a different stage of life than the majority of my cousins :/#like.#oldest uncle's kids: married with kids; married with kid; single with chickens; living with SO; expecting a baby#other uncle's kids: married with kid; married; dating#one aunt's kids: married with 4 kids; married with kids; married with kid; married with newborn#another aunt's kids: married with kids; married with kid; married with foster kid; married with kids; single; in high school#and then my family is me (single) and blue (single)#and yes i know there is some degree of cultural difference (my aunts and their families are still in the huldeman church)#and some degree of age difference (blue and i are among the youngest cousins on this side)#but it's still kind of a. bittersweet? idk. a weird feeling. to know that they're all building their own families and i'm just. me.#don't get me wrong i'm not discontented with where i am in life#i just sometimes spend time with them and wish i could have that (husband who loves me and cooks&hosts with me and adorable kids) too#idk i'm just in my feelings a bit rn#also like. i don't actually know most of my cousins kids? heck i haven't seen some of my cousins in years#so there's also a bit of 'we used to be close but now you're off doing your own thing with your own little family'#'and im still here just being me'#about
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#so ive been crying since 5:30am#ive had to cancel my meetings today bc i cant face people#im literally trying to save up all my will power to be able to make it through class tonight#but i just can get over whats just happened#the next few years will break me i know it#ill make sure i persevere but its gonna hurt and its going to be hard#im worried about my grandparents who rely on medicare to survive and get their medication#im worried about my trans and queer friends#im stressed about the threats about the cuts to the board of education#if its gone i loose my ability to finish school#I /rely/ on those loans like it or not#how am i supposed to face my younger sister who dreams of going to school knowing she might not get the same chance bc loans are gone#how am i supposed to watch my little cousin with adhd and autism lose his iep#how am i supposed to live with myself knowing the right to my own body is threatened at every turn#how am i supposed to be able to look both my parents in the eyes ever again and not hold their votes against them#today i let myself morn my hopes i had yesterday#tomorrow i build new hopes for the people i love and those that will be effected by this coming administration#thank god my next therapy appt ended up being schedule for this fri#anyway thanks for reading if you did#i love all of you <3 and i know we can make it through together no matter how tough
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I think coming out to my very old and super traditional grandparents should be worth it if it gets them to stop asking me and wishing that I'll find a groom, I think
#evelyn stuff#post 187371 about how I'm not out to my grandparents yet#this is about my maternal ones and i dont really care about how they'll perceive me afterwards#but my mom cares super hard and so i keep silent#but it is really tiresome how they just keep asking every time we talk#and so if i come out and they just never talk to me again that would be fine#this is the same grandma who tried to set me up with a guy 10 years older than me when i was like 21#and had done all the talks about dowry and where we'll live after marriage with his mom#i super duper dont care what she thinks. but yeah. mom does. her family her choice its fine.
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My granddad died today, I feel so fucking broken, he was one of the kindest men I knew and always taught us to love and accept people... the only positive thing is that he is now back with my nan and uncle who I knew he missed dearly
#i'm so broken#i was going to see him this weekend because we knew it would be soon#people always die around birthdays that's why they make me so anxious#i can't stop crying#i'll miss him so much talking about his TV shows and his stutter which i also have#his red hair and chatting about being irish#he was 77 so he lived a long life none of the men in his family lived past 60 so he beat the odds on that#this week has been too much i want it to finish i want 2024 to fucking finish rn#i wish he lived longer i wish he got to see his great grandchildren to grow up#this is the second grandparent to die around my birthday exactly 18 years ago my dad's dad died#8th June is the worst day for me#i want to take up and everything is a dream and i'm 10 years old again#he survived so much so many illnesses falls and so much heart break#i can't put into words how broken i feel#i used to help my nan and granddad round the house with cleaning and shopping#I want to fucking d*e#tw death#tw family death
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Happy 40th birthday, B! I'm so glad you get to celebrate the big four-zero today. Any wishes for turning forty today? I bet you're so happy to be 40 now.
Thanks, Word!
My wishes for my birthday are as follows:
I wish to not feel the way I felt when I told my mother that she had the wrong candles out again for a very long time. (My mother is not losing it any more than she was six months ago, but she admitted later that she hadn't gotten a decent night's sleep in over a week, which should explain what isn't explained by there being 3 kids and we all struggle with everyone's ages honestly).
I wish my mother picked a different day to tell me her stepmother (whom I haven't seen since I was about 12 years old and haven't spoken to since I was 18 or 19) died in March.
#stop b think of the children#there's not even an interesting story or anything as to why we didn't talk#mom's dad remarried in his late 60s to a widow with her own grown kids/grandkids#They met and got married in FL close to her family and I only recall meeting her a handful of times#and she outlived her second husband by like 25 years#my family wasn't even mentioned in the obituary and nobody contacted us about the death!#I'm sure this is actually not an uncommon situation anymore with retirement communities and whatnot#but growing up in Appalachia where your grandparents often live pretty close? It was pretty wack honestly
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joining the battle against disinformation on the side of disinformation
#unironically love it when people get some specific detail about me and it's wildly incorrect like#this person from work today was shocked that i am italian he was like!! what i thought you LIVED in italy but were FROM germany or poland#that's so specific where did you get this information#or we had some guests from japan and i went along with then just fine and my colleagues where like yes gin went to japan a couple years ago#i never did how did you made up the date too i know i always mention akira kurosawa but ??#*with them#or how they decide which relatives of mine i am staying at and i never correct them like my aunt? yes my cousins? yes grandparents? yes#notes of a countryside dandy
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last few hours in boston :(
#purrs#conference tag#we literally just got here and now we have to go 😭💔 i havent rly felt as enriched by this conference as i have in the past (though there’s#still 2 more sessions to go to incl the closing plenary and we’re getting lunch in the station before the train ride home) but ive walked#around so much and have spent time with people i love and some people i miss. and have been on adventures i have been looking forward to for#a rly long time though i am kinda bummed i never made it down to fanueil square. but… idk what happiness feels like anymore but maybe for me#it’s just absence of misery and despair. or contented ness. i have gotten a little triggered from time to time these last few days and ive b#been lonely in my hotel room but MAN it has been nice to not be miserable and suffering and to take walks and to not go to every session (ev#even though i do feel bad abt it like i missed 2 plenaries and an afternoon concurrent session which is more than i usually miss) and to#be in this city which feels so much like brighton and so uncity like in some ways. it’s so charming and omg i went to harvard and it was#NOTHING like what i imagined it to be / feel like.. just a quaint artsy quirky town. and the rest of the places ive been have been like that#too. and people LIVE here every day!!!!! there’s a big beautiful world here both above ground and below!!!! and im gonna be late to#breakfast but… i just feel nourished and healed in a way i wasn’t expecting to. I haven’t been this far away from home in 3+ years and#it’s just been really nice being somewhere else and going on adventures and seeing things surviving. i miss my grandparents a lot and im sad#to not be visiting them and to be unable to visit them now lol but it’s just rly nice and special being here. im goingto miss it so much and#im trying to savor every second. i wish we had one more day here and im a little sad to be going home lol#* what i meant when talking about happiness earlier is that i think… i have been happy these last few days. for the first time in a really#really long one. and that’s nice. it’s good to be happy again. and good to be here
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#i need to vent sorry#living with my mother is impossible. she is absolutely impossible#she gaslights u every single day and plays the victim when she is so manipulative and toxic#yesterday was my parents wedding anniversary and she thinks its all about her#she didnt get my dad anything while my dad HAD to get her a present bc if he hadnt she would have made him pay for sure#we do things for her out of fear because she could throw a tantrum at any word u say#u use the wrong word? u use the wrong tone of voice? she throws tantrums#my gandma called to ask if i said happy anniversary to my parents and i told her i refuse to#that is not a marriage. its a dictatorship#i refuse to celebrate a marriage that has been dead for over 10 years but needs to keep going just because my mother threatens god knows#what whenever they fight and my dad says he cant do it anymore#i know he cant stand her anymore. and i feel so bad for him#and i cried so much with my therapist some weeks ago because she has these moments where she lovebombs u and she always says im the most#important thing in her life but she has these behaviors that would make anyone want to scream their head off. she drives u insane#and i feel guilty about having so many negative feelings about her but she has destroyed this family and refuses to get treated for the#disorder she so clearly has#even my grandparents cant stand her anymore#god…… i need to get the fuck out of this house#i feel sorry for my dad though
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im so fucking angry
#part of my family lives in Switzerland so we dont see them very often#so everytime they come we have a family dinner at a restaurant#but these past years the dinners were 'adults only' (as in without the children aka me my sibs and all the cousins)#me and my sibs were always bummed but we could see our cousins on different occasions so it was ok#and i absolutely hate my grandfather so im not that sad about not seeing him lol#anyway there was a restaurant dinner on tuesday. my dad said its adults only and me and my sibs cant come. whatever. business as usual ig#but then yesterday i hang out with my cousins. and guess what i learn. they were ALL at the dinner. they always went to the dinners.#and of course i cant be 100% sure but i think i know why it's like this#i think we were always invited but my dad doesnt want us to go so he lied everytime. doesn't want ME to go in particular.#he had lied to me about having told my grandfather i was trans for me (i didnt want to do it myself for reasons) which led me to get#absolutely humiliated and receive a disgusting amount of transphobia from my grandfather when i called him on the phone once. because he#didnt know. because my dad had lied to me. and im fairly sure my dad just wants to like hide me away or smth because he's a fucking#spineless coward. that or my grandparents specifically ask for us not to come lol.#anyway. im so mad. me already don't get to see our cousins a lot and now i learn this. fucking hell#.txt
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Have you ever heard of a Gongfu Tea Tray? It’s typically used to collect excess water and tea that gets spilled during washing, steeping and pouring. You can also store various teaware items inside
As you can tell, this type of tea brewing isn’t the same as any Western style brewing. Not only is the brewing style different from the West, but so is the type of teaware. Teaware used for this type of brewing is smaller, for example: a clay kettle will usually hold around 350 ml of water, which is significantly less than a Western glass kettle!
When you use a clay kettle, it is important that you pour the tea quickly, because the kettle is very hot and will cool down significantly slower than a glass kettle! High-temperature of the water will draw out the fragrance of the tea, but if you steep it for too long you are greeted with a bitter taste
#the more you know#unfortunately mine isn’t as fancy as these two#but i’m too lazy to take a picture of the one i have🧍#i learned this from my grandpa when i was younger#i used to live in indo for half a year when i was younger#even went there to school and such#it’s when my grandparents would teach me a lot#and i may or may not have had a few too many almost dead experiences#but we won’t talk about that 🥲#ᙏ̤̫ — senn’s tea diary [🍵]#source: umi tea sets
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