#we are ALL shaped by our experiences you are just as biased and emotional as i am just differently so get off your high horse

[novadreii]

people who think personality typing is a credible thing will be like omg.....ur the personality type where ur perceptions and beliefs are shaped by ur experiences.....unlike this other personality type, who is as rational as a computer program and can be trusted as a more objective source of reality.

[random-thought-depository]

Re: my last post about HDG: also I think if I were writing something in HDG I'd want to make the Affini feel more like actual aliens.

Affini would logically have a very different somatic experience than us. So much of human experience is shaped by the fragility of our bodies. Affini are mostly made of easily replaceable vines and hard wood, they can fully regenerate from even very severe injuries as long as their core is intact, and they don't experience degenerative aging. They would probably have little instinctive fear of penetrating injuries (wounds) or blunt force trauma, because those things wouldn't have been major threats to them in their ancestral environment, and they would probably experience little physical pain from even quite severe injuries, because basically anything that doesn't harm their core is just a temporary inconvenience to them. Also, Affini reproduce by pollination so they probably wouldn't have any instinctive fear of or horror at sexual violation.

On the other hand, I think they might be just vulnerable enough to have enough empathy for us to take a look at non-utopian conditions of human life and go "AAAAAAAA!!!"

I think for a species like that when a death did happen it'd hit hard. They'd probably be even more K-selected than us. A typical death in a species like that would mean the loss of a living library of centuries or millennia of accumulated knowledge. Every death would feel the way the death of a 16 year old in a car crash feels to us, the foreclosure of vast possibility. I think very plausibly there would be very old Affini who were alive during and remember their Stone Age and still remember and mourn friends they had back then who died before they could have cool experiences like getting to understand the true nature of the stars and getting to walk on other planets and getting to meet intelligent aliens.

A species like that wouldn't fear penetrating injuries or blunt force trauma much, but they would have reason to fear fire, and various molds, fungi, etc. that might infect and rot them, and deprivation. Chronic inadequate nutrition and chronic exposure to stressful environmental conditions would be some of the biggest threats to a species like that in their ancestral environment, and hence would logically be some of their biggest primal fears. So I think Affini might empathize and sympathize very easily and acutely with a human suffering from a calorically adequate but poorly nourishing and unappetizing diet, poor housing, etc., cause that'd be one of the human experiences most similar to one of their biggest primal fears! Similarly, Affini would probably be a lot more intuitively scared of low-intensity chronic health problems and stressors than us, cause for them a problem that might kill them in 200 years would be one of the primary threats to them (for a human it wouldn't be worth worrying about cause something else is going to kill them long before that anyway). So I think Affini biases would kind of be the opposite of ours in this way: they'd empathize with low-intensity chronic pain more easily and intensely than they'd empathize with acute pain.

I think if you take seriously the idea that Affini imperialism and slavery is qualitatively psychologically different from human imperialism and slavery because the Affini version isn't motivated by selfishness or in-group preference (I would be willing to run with this idea, I think the problems with imperialism and slavery wouldn't all go away if the imperialists and slavers are nice), it suggests that a lot of human social emotions would be alien to them and empathizing with us and modelling how we think wouldn't be easy for them. A species like that would probably have to have much less intra-species competition in their evolutionary history than we have in ours. A lot of human social emotions are adapted for a social environment with intra-species competition (e.g. to detect, resent, and resist exploitation) and might be very unintuitive to a species that wasn't shaped by intra-species competition (a lot of autistic/neurotypical miscommunications seem like autistics often not getting status emotions, so that might be something to look at for IRL precedents for how such a species might find interacting with humans difficult).

I think all this might explain a lot about how Affini act toward humans. Especially, I think human status emotions being unintuitive (possibly counterintuitive) to Affini might explain a lot about why they talk to us in ways that realistically would be a huge unforced propaganda/PR disaster for them.

One contrarian take I have on HDG is I think it'd make more sense if the Affini didn't understand human psychology well at all at the beginning of the war, and relatedly it'd make more sense if you scaled back the size and age of the Compact a lot so contact with humanity was a third or fourth contact for the Affini and they aren't very used to dealing with sapient aliens.

Some general notes:

I definitely favor the idea that Affini don't naturally look like the cute monster girl version of an Ent, the ones who regularly deal with humans often deliberately shape themselves to look like that by strategically pruning and carving themselves (similar to how human gardeners make cubical bushes and the like) to be more relatable to us, their natural form looks kind of like if you tried to make a shoggoth out of a willow tree and if you went to an Affini core world most people there would look like that.

Also, I think it'd make a lot of sense if ancestral environment Affini moved around a lot less than modern ones, and the modern Affini high-mobility lifestyle is a product of them unnaturally super-charging their metabolisms by consuming artificial sugars and/or spending significant amounts of time under artificial high-intensity grow-lights. There's a reason plants are sessile; sunlight is an abundant but relatively low-intensity energy source.

If the floret thing is derived from Affini relationships with symbiotic pollinators on their homeworld, I think it'd make sense for them to be very into hooking their florets up with other florets and Affini for polyamory. As somebody who'd love to have a partner who actively helps me hook up with other partners, I think there may be some wish-fulfillment potential being slept on here!

Another fluffy thought is I think Affini might often express intimacy with florets by letting them carve writing, art, etc. onto them, like carving messages onto the bark of a tree.

[melliae]

The Last Boss in Persona 3

This is more of a continuation to my previous post (in Tumblr, here) about the meaning behind the Universe arcana. This post will follow the same main idea of my previous one: to analyze the meaning of final boss within the series through using esoteric and psychoanalitical concepts.

Now, before analyzing everything, it'll be better to first summarize the final boss' lore:

“The mother of all Shadows and bringer of death since ancient times. If she awakens, ‘the Fall’ will occur.” - Persona 3 Portable (I wanted to use the japanese version, but I haven’t found any perfect save for P3P/FES in japanese, or a ISO for Vanilla)

That’s almost everything that the game says in relation to what Nyx is, and it’s just a repetition of what Ryoji explained in December. There’s some interesting comments the cultists give during January, like how it “will change the flow of causality” or is an “Absolute Will” (“普遍の意志”, or “Universal/Omnipresent Will”), but their nature is obviously biased. It’s not until the release of the P3 Club Book that its lore becomes clearer, and which I’m going to summarize as it follows:

Nyx” is not actually called “Nyx”, but it’s a nameless entity classified as some sort of “Star Eater” that, eons ago and in a dormant state, crashed against the hadean earth (4.5 billions of years ago).

Due to both its dormant state and it’s strange material composition, existing between “mass and information” (similar to the Velvet Room), both the earth and the Star Eater survived the impact, but not without consequences: a lot of the earth’s matter came off and covered the Eater’s body, creating the moon – the Persona version of the “giant impact theory”.

However, that’s only in regards to the body, because its psyche got separated from the body and “flooded” earth’s surface, putting at risk the existing, but primitive life (ie. amoebas) on it due to its anathemic nature.

Life, driven completely by its instinct to survive, sealed the psyche within themselves, limiting their lifespan (ie. creating death) as well as allowing their psychological development, ending in both the creation of consciousness and the collective unconscious.

As you can see, there’s a good reason Nyx is called the “maternal entity”: its very own soul is what allowed the birth of humanity and all forms of complex life, explaining why it was named “Nyx” by the Kirijos – just as the greek deity give birth to all sort of deities that shape the human experience, the Star Eater made possible its existence. The same applies to its title as “mother of Shadows”, because its psyche wasn’t only sealed within the depths of the collective unconscious by life’s drive to live, but also became an essential part of the human soul as well: their Shadow. So it’s not that “she” is the mother of Shadows, but that Shadows are Nyx, and we all know how important they are.

“The Shadows we hold in our psyches themselves are not just mere prisoners, but have become an essential part of the inner structure of our minds. Without a Shadow, a mind - especially one as highly complex as that of a human being - cannot function properly and ceases to work, as if it had been lost entirely.” – Ikutsuki, P3 Club Book

“What I released from the Trapezohedron just now was the half of that woman that could not come to life until now: her complexes, her emotional trauma–her suppressed Shadow, if you will. And you learned on the other side what happens should you kill the mind’s Shadow, didn’t you? How ironic that it was all of you who made her this way.” - The Faceless God (Nyarlathotep’s Avatar), Tatsuya’s Scenario (referencing Yukino’s end if her Shadow jumps into the abyss).

“If we erase a Palace, there is no doubt that the person’s distorted desires will be erased as well. But desires are what we all need in order to survive. The will to sleep, eat, fall in love–those sort of things. [...] If all those yearnings were to vanish, they’d be no different than someone who was shut entirely. They may even die if they’re not given care.” - Morgana, Persona 5

The shadow men, apathy syndrome, mental shutdowns, and psychotic breakdowns… All of them are manifestations of what happens when the Shadow of an individual is disturbed or destroyed: the collapse of the individual psyche or soul. That means it’s equally valid to affirm Nyx is the origin of both all Shadows and souls in the series, becoming even clearer when see how the personality module of the anti-shadow weapons, their “papillion heart”, is made out of plumes of dusk, crystalline fragments of Nyx’s body. This is further strengthened by Sho Minzauki’s second personality, born out of the plume implanted on his brain, and Metis as the Shadow of Aigis, bearing the name of Athena’s mother and her Persona being the embodiment of the soul in greek mythos.

It’s easy to see, then, that Nyx is not just “another god” (without the intention to diss Izanami, Yaldabaoth and the rest), but a primordial aspect of the life’s collective psyche (ie. the unconscious). That’s why it’s called the “Universal/Absolute Will”, for “she” is all around life and humanity, being the “ground of being” from which all their potentials come from, for even the very own power of Persona is nothing but something derived from the “small Nyx” acting as the foundation of one’s psyche. Even the capability to alter space-time and reality inherent to life is derived from it, even in Tadashi’s trilogy.

“Mitsuru: These people are Persona Users who appeared in “Megami Ibunroku Persona”, “Persona 2: Innocent Sin” and “Persona 2: Eternal Punishment”. As far as we can see from what’s been shown on television, they seem to be living peaceful lives right now. [...] Akihiko: Still, those guys are Persona Users, right? They have the potential, yet I haven’t heard anything about people like that trying to help out with the things that have been happening here in the Minato Ward… Mitsuru: Well, you have to consider that not all of them might be Persona Users any longer. [...] According to the staff, in our game, the “Value of Life” is defined by the sudden changes in time and space that our wills can bring about. We’ve already explained that Shadows have the ability to manipulate space-time, so the same might be true for those they dwell in, us living beings.” - P3 Club Book

“From the first, people have had a tremendous power in their souls over the flow of reality. [...] Yes… The power that created your world is the same as your inner strength… In this collective unconsciousness, it’s possible.” - Philemon, Innocent Sin.

Even the plumes of dusk, and thus the body of Nyx, have the same properties to alter reality, and emit readings similar to “living beings” despite being deadly to life on earth.

While it’s pretty clear how encompassing Nyx's lore and nature is, it’s important to keep in mind that most of this, at some level, was implied or said by the games. Side material like the Club Book just clarifies what was shown in the Journey, the Answer and even Arena. So now, it’s time to really analyze the beast this eldritch abomination is.

The Golden Egg

Now, it’s just common sense to begin with the mythological foundation of the games: greek mythology, and in particular Orphism, a branch which acted as a mystery (ie.secret) cult mythological founded by Orpheus. It preached, in basic terms, about the findings of the poet after he returned to the land of the living with wisdom about the nature of the world, its cycle of death and rebirth, and how to break from it.

It’s unknown if there’s a cycle of reincarnation in Persona, but we know there may be a similar thing based on Enlil’s quote of how “humans have learned nothing from the cycle of destruction and rebirth” during her second phase. There’s something similar in PQ, where Zen described the “providence of the world” (ie. the collective unconscious), and in the Club Book, about how the unconscious created an archetypal tale between demons and gods to protect the human soul from Nyx’s influence. However, that’s not that relevant, with our focus being more on the creation myth of the cult:

“Similarly, in connection with the raven as the name for this situation, we must consider the creative night mentioned in an Orphic hymn, which calls it a bird with black wings that was fertilized by the wind (pneuma). The product of this union was the silver egg, which in the Orphic view contained heaven above and earth below, and was therefore a cosmos in itself, i.e., the Microcosm.” - Mysterium Coniunctionis.

Within the context of cosmogonical eggs, the hindu hiranyagarbha can also be rescued, described by Jung as “the collective aggregate of all souls”. The relation between these two eggs and Nyx as the “mother of all” is quite obvious, but more important is the fact that its core is a giant, golden egg… cracked – the universe has already been born. But as I wrote in my previous post and as implied by the hiranyagarbha, the universe born out of Nyx is equal to the collective unconscious and thus humanity, harking back to other traditions in which the archetypal man is born out of an egg.

Since we now know what Nyx gave birth to the collective soul of life after “she cracked” or crashed against earth, we must ask what was it like before it crashed:

“The phenomenology of the "child's" birth always points back to an original psychological state of non-recognition, i.e., of darkness or twilight, of non-differentiation between subject and object, of unconscious identity of man and the universe. This phase of non-differentiation produces the golden egg, which is both man and universe and yet neither, but an irrational third.” - Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious

Quite self-explanatory, don’t you think so? It even explains why Nyx is an “alien Star Eater”, for its true nature is what lies in the state before the separation of “heaven and earth”, before the divide between unconsciousness and consciousness. This liminal state is even reflected in its body which exists as both information/thought and matter at the same time, in-between the physical moon and the deepest abyss of the Sea of Souls as per Elizabeth’s route in Arena (“最も深淵なる場所だ”), or how even the Club Book describes its main body as “neither organic nor inorganic” ("有機物とも無機物とも判断しかねる外見である") – completely undifferentiated.

Naturally, this brings out to the mind the jewish associations established by the Club Book and the P3xP4 Analyze, about how Tartarus represents both the seven earths Adam wandered after being expelled out of Eden and the Sephirot that comprise the kabbalistic tree of life respectively, the two symbols for the development of consciousness out of the primitive, undifferentiated unconsciousness, which even Soejima noted. The Star Eater, as the one above Tartarus, becomes equal to Paradise and the unconscious godhead, the Ein Sof, from which the tree, synonymous with the archetypal man and universe, grows out, thus being one with the deepest layer of the Sea, as previously commented.

If you remember the confrontation with its Avatar, how “he” uses the narrative of the tree of knowledge to explain the arcanas, it adds another layer to its meaning: the fruit of knowledge is a very obvious metaphor for the birth of consciousness, but also one for the Shadows as well, with both ultimately causing the birth of death (or the awareness about it). This means Nyx, as the sum of all Shadows, is the tree of knowledge and death, which makes it equal to the tree of life and archetypal man, with even Tartarus being compared to the “corpse of god being (hanged) upside-down” in the Analyze book.

“七つの地” は神をシンボライズした “セフィロトの樹” と上下逆向きで対応しており、テベルは根本の基礎部分にあたる “イェンド” に相当する。” “The “seven earths” correspond to the Tree of the Sefirot, which symbolized God upside-down, with Thebel corresponding to “Yesod”, being the root of the foundations.”

And according to the same source, Tartarus is made out of Shadows and the psychic stratum of humanity:

“これは、タルタロスが基本的にはシャドウと同じ精神体によって構成されているからで、言ってみればその場所の記憶のようなものが構造に反映された結果そうなったもの。同様にタルタロス自体の内部構造も精神体からできたもので、タルタロス構造に取り込まれた精神体の記憶のようなものが反映されている” “This is thanks to Tartarus being fundamentally composed by the same psychic nature of Shadows, as if the memories of the research facility were reflected into the structure so to speak. Similarly, the internal structure of Tartarus itself is made up of such psychic substance, and as such it’s as if the memories of that substance were reflected and taken in by Tartarus’ architecture.”

So more reason to think Nyx, in essence, was the preconscious state of humanity and life before it crashed. It’s the unknown, unconscious godhead in which there is no difference between object and subject, acting as its own “universal individual” in a dormant, sleeping state. It’s pure coincidentia oppositorum.

Joining Opposites

“Nyx” means “night, and the night (along with darkness, dusk and many others) is one of the de facto symbols of the unconscious, along with the underworld (Tartarus). The moon being another symbol of the same thing just further confirms the Star Eater is the unconscious or it’s in an unconscious state. However, pure unconsciousness it’s not what only Nyx has to offer, for someone deeply related to it also exists: its avatar, Death, also known as Pharos.

Pharos’ name is a quite interesting, because in japanese is written as “ファルロス”, mixing both the katakana for “ファルス”, or “phallus”, and “ファロス”, or “pharos (of Alexandria)”. There’s no need to comment the masculine nature of the first word, but it has to be done in regards to the second one and its double nature, since the pharos of Alexandria acts as an obvious masculine symbol thanks to its phallic form, and as a symbol of consciousness due to the light it emits. That’s to say, Pharos is the conscious and masculine counterpart to Nyx’s actual state; Ryoji, with his casanova attitude and yellow scarf, reinforces the concept.

Now, all of that means that, just as expected, the original state of Nyx was androgynus in nature – both female and male at the same time. Some remains of this can also be seen in its core, golden and solar in nature despite being within the moon, and obviously harks back to another quote of Jung:

“The moon with her antithetical nature is, in a sense, a prototype of individuation, a prefiguration of the self: she is the “mother and spouse of the sun, who carries in the wind and the air the spagyric embryo conceived by the sun in her womb and belly.” This image corresponds to the psychologem of the pregnant anima, whose child is the self, or is marked by the attributes of the hero.” - Mysterium Coniunctionis.

Such an image is alchemical in nature, describing the nature of “Queen Luna” (a symbol for both the feminine essence of nature and Nyx) as the mother and partner of “King Sol” (the masculine essence, and in this case Death), who ultimately join in matrimony to achieve the “philosophical stone” – oneness with the world. I doubt I have to explain how the Fall acts as the “shadow” of such a process, ending with the death of all living beings. Though it’s also interesting how is related to the Avatar as such, whom only isn’t only found at the top of Tartarus or “tree of death”, meaning it acquired the same dignity as all other mythological primal humans, but it’s also androgynous in appearance – both feminine and masculine natures are necessary for wholeness, be it conscious or unconscious.

By that matter, the protagonist acts as both “Queen Luna” (gray eyes, pretty boy, “death was inside him”, and Messiah being completely white) and “King Sol”, for he, as “Orpheus”, enters into Nyx’s “eye” in an scene eerily reminiscent of what Jung wrote:

“The “eye” evidently stands for the female genitals, as is clear from the myth of Indra, who, as a punishment for his wantonness, was smitten with yonis all over his body, but was so far pardoned by the gods that the shameful yonis were changed into eyes. The little image reflected in the eye, the “pupilla,” is a “child.” The great god becomes a child again: he enters into the mother’s womb for self-renewal.” - Symbols of Transformation.

Yep… But at any rate, returning to the Avatar, his speech about the arcanas returns once again, since it includes all the arcanas from the Fool to Death, passing through the twelve intermediary ones, with each one representing one of the “hours” within a clock. This implies the Fool and Death stand outside of the cycle of time somehow, and since the Fool it’s the “beginning of life” as per Edogawa’s lecture on japanese, it’s not surprising to connect the card with an infant… like Pharos – Death itself.

Within the Avatar and Nyx the entire cycle of life is described, where both the beginning and end life become one to form a ring, a circle that can be described better as the Universe or World itself, as the Analyze book says:

“最後に発現する “世界” あるいは “宇宙” のタロットには、卵のような形のウロボロスの輪に囲まれた女性の姿が描かれている [...] 二ュクスの中心核は、そのウロボロスの形にも似ている透明な輝く卵の姿をしていた” “In regards to the final manifestation of the “World” or “Universe” tarot card, a feminine figure encircled in an egg-shaped ouroboros ring is depicted. [...] The shining, translucent egg acting as Nyx’s core resembles the shape of the ouroboros as well.”

More telling, the core, despite being the cosmic egg and having the light of creation (or “libido”, the name put by Jung to describe “psychic energy”), only uses “Death” to attack.

The Forgotten Godhead

What you are seeing is one of the first mandalas Jung created during his schizophrenia visions in 1916 or so. It’s called “systema munditotius” or “system of all worlds”, for it represents the psychic activity of all human beings at some level. It’s full of details and the like, but the more important things for now is the vertical axis, beginning with the golden egg with a human at the top, and ending with the lion-headed serpent at the bottom.

The first figure, the egg, represent the future, collective “imago dei” of humanity, the next symbol for the Self that has yet to be born and that Jung called “Phanes”, the primordial being born out of the cosmic egg within orphic myths, embodiment of existence itself and husband, father and/or son of Nyx. The second figure, the serpent or “Abraxas”, represents the past and present “imago dei”, a symbol reminiscent of the Demiurge and a bastardization of the christian god, having both a monster and a caterpillar, the promises of death and life, by its sides, and the tree of life rooted on its head (or mind)

If you begin to think, it becomes obvious what’s the relationship between the Star Eater and those two figures: It’s both. Not only the Eater is both death and a “caterpillar”, since it’s the source of all souls which are represented by butterflies in the series (see the Papillion heart and Psyche), but it’s also the cosmic egg and thus Phanes (see Ryoji). It’s the unconscious self of all humanity, forgotten and fragmented, hanged upside-down, and to which everyone has to obey

“What the god-sun speaketh is life. What the devil speaketh is death. But Abraxas speaketh that hallowed and accursed word which is life and death at the same time. Abraxas begetteth truth and lying, good and evil, light and darkness, in the same word and in the same act. Wherefore is Abraxas terrible. [...] To look upon it, is blindness. To know it, is sickness. To worship it, is death. To fear it, is wisdom. To resist it not, is redemption.” - Seven Sermons to the Dead

For Abraxas, in its primitive and unconscious brutality, is life and its origin, the endless cycle of death and rebirth, just as the Star Eater holds the Fool and the Death as one and the same. They are the flow of time, the drive that created everything from the unconscious as the savage demiurge. They are the endless conflict of life.

But in its role as Phanes, as the yet-to-be born Self, the Star Eater is the promise and realization of all beings – their meaning. However, its core, its egg, is cracked, damaged and divided, and therefore the Self of all humanity is unable to be born yet. For that, the egg must be joined once again and understood, just like Philemon said in IS and Tatsuya’s Scenario, for the egg – the Star Eater – is life.

Such transformation, at an individual level, is masterfully shown with Death’s own journey, going from a shadowy, primitive and savage monster to a kid curious about the world, and then to a teenager which loves everything life can offer from the beginning, all thanks to the journey of the protagonist and all the memories he gained. Yet, such search for meaning wasn’t enough to stop the hopelessness and self-destructivity of the collective, of humanity’s and the godhead’s yearn to return to what they were once… but the protagonist didn’t give up on and, against all possibilities, created a miracle: he was able to give meaning to life and thus to death, instauring hope in the furthest depths of everyone’s hearts.

That’s the true meaning of death within the game. It’s not about merely physical death, but also psychological death, transformation and, ultimately, hope. Death and time are the drives for the endless change within the human soul, equally givers and takers of happiness and tragedy. And with life and light, they make up the totality of the universe we know, for they are one and the same, with the rejection of one meaning the rejection of the other.

Death it’s not only a unknown hunter, but also a part of oneself, and that it’s hopefully treated as a friend even in the worst times. After all, accepting death and life as parts of the whole, to accept that everything will come and go, your sadness and happiness, it’s the first step to break off from the endless cycle of suffering and conflict, of “evil demons and benevolent gods” that are naught but a part of the human soul.

Don’t forget life brims with joy, and that you should bring that same joy to death. Live a good death!

[hayatheauthor]

The Ultimate Guide to Writing Persuasive Arguments

Within the vast landscape of written expression, where words hold the potential to shape opinions and ignite change, the art of crafting compelling arguments stands as a formidable force. As an author, I recognize the tremendous opportunity we possess to harness this power and leave an indelible mark on our readers.

I was recently asked to write a blog about creating argumentative scenes, I found the topic quite interesting as arguments and persuasion are something authors of all genres can find themselves writing. Anger is a very raw emotion that authors often feel the need to perfect, I hope this guide on how to write persuasive arguments can help you reach that point of perfection. 

Understanding the Power of Persuasion in Fiction

Persuasion in fiction goes beyond convincing readers of a particular argument or viewpoint. It involves crafting narratives that engage readers on multiple levels, influencing their emotions, thoughts, and even actions. Just like skilled orators sway their audiences, we can use the tools of persuasion to captivate readers, immerse them in our stories, and make them feel deeply connected to our characters and themes.

By masterfully crafting persuasive narratives, we can make readers question their assumptions, reconsider their beliefs, and view the world through a new lens.

However, it's important to note that persuasion in fiction doesn't mean manipulating or forcing readers to adopt specific viewpoints. Instead, it's about presenting compelling arguments within the context of our stories and allowing readers to engage with them organically. Through our characters' journeys, conflicts, and personal growth, we can subtly challenge readers' perspectives, encourage empathy, and foster critical thinking.

Your character doesn’t have to necessarily be wrong or right and it is important to remember your readers can always have a viewpoint completely different from your opinion of your character and that scene. 

Developing Convincing Characters and Narratives

Captivating characters possess the power to sway readers' hearts and minds. They are multidimensional, relatable, and possess qualities that make their actions and beliefs compelling. By carefully sculpting our characters, we can infuse them with the ability to embody persuasive arguments and engage readers in thought-provoking ways.

To create convincing characters, we must delve into their backgrounds, motivations, and desires. What drives them? What are their core values? Understanding their unique perspectives allows us to shape their beliefs and opinions, providing a foundation for persuasive storytelling. When our characters' convictions align with the arguments we wish to convey, their authenticity and passion become catalysts for reader engagement.

Character Examples 

In Angie Thomas' powerful novel, "The Hate U Give," the protagonist, Starr Carter, serves as a compelling argumentative character.  

Through authentic dialogue and poignant internal monologues, Starr articulates her experiences, frustrations, and desires for a more just society. Her arguments against racial profiling, police brutality, and the need for equality are rooted in her personal journey, allowing readers to empathize with her and reflect on their own biases and prejudices.

By skillfully intertwining character development with persuasive arguments, Angie Thomas creates a protagonist whose voice and convictions leave a lasting impact. Starr's transformation from a reluctant witness to a courageous advocate exemplifies the power of persuasive storytelling, inspiring readers to challenge injustice, examine their own beliefs, and work towards a more equitable world.

Crafting Engaging Dialogue

When it comes to persuasive writing, crafting engaging dialogue is a powerful tool that allows us to convey arguments, challenge beliefs, and captivate readers. Effective dialogue not only propels the plot forward but also serves as a vehicle for persuasion.

To craft engaging dialogue with persuasive impact, consider the following techniques:

Character Voice: Each character should have a distinct voice that reflects their personality, background, and beliefs. Whether it's through word choice, dialect, or speech patterns, make sure their dialogue is authentic and consistent. This authenticity lends credibility to their arguments and makes them more compelling.

Conflict and Tension: Engaging dialogue often thrives on conflict. Introduce opposing viewpoints and create tension between characters with differing opinions. These clashes of ideology can spark thought-provoking debates and allow readers to see multiple sides of an argument.

Subtext and Nuance: Effective dialogue often goes beyond surface-level conversations. Include subtext and underlying emotions to add depth to your characters' interactions. What remains unsaid can be just as powerful as what is spoken, allowing readers to infer hidden motives and subtle persuasions.

Relevance to the Plot: Ensure that your dialogue serves a purpose within the larger narrative. Use it to advance the story, develop characters, or explore thematic elements. When dialogue aligns with the overall arc of the narrative, it becomes an integral part of the persuasive storytelling process.

Emotional Impact: Infuse your dialogue with emotion to create a deeper connection with readers. Engage their empathy, evoke their curiosity, or stir their passion through the heartfelt words exchanged between characters. Emotional resonance enhances the persuasive power of your arguments.

Utilizing Descriptive Language and Imagery

By skillfully utilizing descriptive language and imagery, we can immerse our audience in the world of our story and strengthen the persuasive nature of our arguments.

Appeal to the Senses: Engage readers on a sensory level by incorporating descriptive details that evoke sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. By immersing readers in the sensory experience of a scene, you can make your arguments more tangible and relatable.

Paint Vivid Settings: Transport readers to vibrant and immersive settings that act as a backdrop for your arguments. By creating a rich visual landscape, you can enhance the persuasive impact of your words and immerse readers in the world of your story.

Evoke Emotions: Harness the power of emotion to make your arguments resonate deeply with readers. Use descriptive language that elicits a range of feelings, whether it's anger, empathy, awe, or hope. Connect with readers on an emotional level, and they will be more likely to embrace your persuasive message.

Plotting and Structuring Persuasive Storylines

Crafting persuasive storylines requires careful plotting and effective structuring to engage readers and convey your arguments in a compelling manner. By strategically organizing your narrative elements, you can captivate your audience, build tension, and ultimately deliver persuasive messages that resonate long after the final page. Here are key considerations for plotting and structuring persuasive storylines:

Establish Clear Goals: Define the central objectives of your narrative, both in terms of the overall story and the persuasive arguments you aim to convey. What do you want readers to understand or believe? Set clear goals to guide your storytelling, ensuring every plot point and character arc serves the purpose of advancing your persuasive message.

Build Rising Tension: Structure your storyline to escalate tension and keep readers invested in the outcome of your persuasive arguments. Craft each plot twist and revelation to heighten the stakes, gradually intensifying the conflict and presenting new challenges that test characters' convictions.

Use Narrative Devices: Employ narrative devices such as foreshadowing, flashbacks, and dramatic irony to enhance the persuasive impact of your storylines. These devices can provide deeper insight into characters' motivations, reveal hidden truths, and strengthen the arguments you present.

Balance Pace and Reflection: Find a balance between fast-paced action and reflective moments to allow readers to digest and connect with your persuasive messages. Provide opportunities for characters to contemplate their beliefs, engage in meaningful conversations, and undergo personal growth, which reinforces the authenticity and impact of their arguments.

Editing and Polishing Your Argument

Editing is the key to refining and enhancing the persuasive impact of your writing. As you revisit your work, focus on clarity, coherence, and compelling language. Here are essential editing steps to maximize the persuasive power of your piece:

Streamline Your Argument: Trim unnecessary details and tighten your arguments. Ensure each sentence and paragraph contributes to the central message, eliminating any tangents that may dilute the persuasive impact.

Enhance Clarity: Clarify your ideas by simplifying complex concepts and using concise language. Avoid jargon or technical terms that may alienate or confuse your readers. Opt for clarity over complexity.

Strengthen Structure: Check the flow of your piece, ensuring a logical progression of ideas. Arrange your arguments in a coherent manner, guiding readers from one point to the next with clarity and coherence.

Choose Compelling Language: Use powerful and evocative language to captivate readers. Employ vivid verbs, descriptive adjectives, and figurative language to engage their senses and emotions, heightening the persuasive impact of your words.

Proofread for Errors: Eliminate grammatical, punctuation, and spelling errors that can distract readers from your persuasive message. A polished and error-free piece lends credibility and professionalism to your arguments.

I hope this blog on the ultimate guide to writing persuasive arguments will help you in your writing journey. Be sure to comment any tips of your own to help your fellow authors prosper, and follow my blog for new blog updates every Monday and Thursday.  

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Twin Loss: Navigating Grief and Others' Responses

For those who are new to my blog, I lost my twin in December 2022. It has been an incredibly painful and difficult journey, one that I continue to navigate each day. As I reflect on these experiences, I hope sharing my thoughts can help me process the depth of this loss.

Life Without My Twin

With December fast approaching, marking two years since her passing, I find myself facing the reality of life without her. The world feels different now, as I learn to navigate it as just one person. The bond between twins is unlike any other, and losing that connection has profoundly impacted my sense of identity.

Other's Reactions

Throughout the grieving process, we realise just how much the reactions of those around us shape our ability to cope. Others, depending on their reactions or how they cope, add to the weight of grief. Others' responses may be helpful and offer comfort and support, creating space for healing. Others may be based on opinions.

An opinion that isn't considered helpful is a prejudice, because it is based on preconceived notions rather than informed understanding. Such opinions tend to reinforce biases instead of contributing constructively to discussions or problem-solving. Without being grounded in open-mindedness or facts, they close off opportunities for understanding, growth and progress.

The Impact of Others' Reactions

Speaking with others who have experienced twin loss, I've learned that feelings of isolation are common around grief. Many have encountered distancing from friends and family, due to various collective factors, including uncertainty about what to say, or discomfort with the intensity of grief.

Losing a twin is distinctly different from losing any other sibling – it’s a profound loss that permeates the very core of one’s being and doesn’t bind to the conventional grieving process. Balancing the loss with my identity and seeking acceptance has and continues to be challenging.

Protecting My Emotional Wellbeing

One significant lesson we learn is the importance of safeguarding our emotional space. While I like others cannot control how others react, I can shape my own responses. This sometimes involves setting clear boundaries. Other times, it means accepting that not everyone will understand the depth of our loss.

Meaningful Support

The journey of grieving my twin is one that I have largely navigated alone. Experiences, including grief, which is also based on our collective experiences and including the parting of the waves, is like no other – and as a result, I have turned to professional help. Working with a grief counsellor has created a safe space for me to explore the complex loss tied to my twin identity and profound sadness. In healing I need to find ways to coexist with my grief, while learning to find acceptance on the memories of a shared life. All multiples will feel the same way.

Facing the Challenge of Moving Forward

One of the most difficult realities to confront has been the need to adjust to life without her. However, moving forward doesn’t mean leaving her behind. While my grief may never fully dissipate, I am learning to co-exist with it rather than letting it consume me. There are days when I still struggle and days when I feel a sense of progress – both experiences are completely valid.

Moving Forward, Not Moving On

I am moving forward, but that doesn’t mean moving on. My twin will forever be a part of me, and her absence will always be felt. I can carry the weight of our shared memories, while forging my own path.

Grief is not something that you simply "get over" especially when the loss is of someone who was a fundamental part of your identity; the other part of you. One half of a whole. Yet, as time passes, I am finding that it becomes a part of my life that I can learn to live with, rather than allowing it to control and define me. And while the journey is ongoing, I know that my twin’s memory will always be with me, as I continue to heal and grow.

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𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐵𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓 𝑎𝑛𝑑 ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑡𝑜 𝑑𝑜 𝑖𝑡: We all have beliefs that shape our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Some of these beliefs are based on facts and evidence, while others are based on personal experiences, emotions, or preferences.

Sometimes, we encounter new information that contradicts our existing beliefs. How do we react to such situations?

According to the theory of cognitive dissonance, proposed by social psychologist Leon Festinger, we experience a state of mental discomfort when we hold two conflicting beliefs or when our actions are inconsistent with our beliefs. For example, if you believe that smoking is harmful to your health, but you still smoke, you may feel uneasy about your behavior. To reduce this discomfort, you may try to rationalize your smoking by saying that it helps you cope with stress or that you will quit soon.

However, rationalizing or ignoring the new information is not always the best way to deal with cognitive dissonance. In fact, it can prevent us from learning new things, growing as a person, and changing our behavior for the better.

Therefore, it is important to challenge our own beliefs and be open-minded to other perspectives and ideas.

Here are some tips on how to challenge your beliefs effectively:

༺ 𝐁𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧-𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝: Don’t dismiss new information or opinions just because they don’t fit your existing beliefs. Instead, try to understand where they are coming from and what evidence they are based on. You may find some valid points or insights that can enrich your knowledge and worldview.

༺ 𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞: Don’t rely on assumptions, biases, or emotions to form your beliefs. Instead, seek out reliable sources of information and data that can support or challenge your beliefs. Be willing to revise your beliefs if you find new evidence that contradicts them.

༺ 𝐁𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬: Don’t cling to your beliefs just because they are familiar or comfortable. Instead, be flexible and adaptable to changing circumstances and situations. Remember that changing your beliefs does not mean that you are weak or wrong. It means that you are intelligent and curious.

༺ 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬: Don’t accept everything you read or hear as the truth. Instead, evaluate the credibility and accuracy of your sources of information. Consider the motives and biases of the authors or speakers. Look for multiple sources that can confirm or refute the information.

By challenging your beliefs, you can improve your critical thinking skills, broaden your horizons, and enhance your personal growth. You can also avoid falling prey to false or misleading information that can harm you or others. Remember that intelligence is not knowing everything, it’s the ability to challenge everything you know.

༄𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚌? 𝙿𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎 𝚕𝚎𝚝 𝚖𝚎 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜.

𝐿𝑒𝑛𝑎 𝐾𝑟𝑎𝑣𝑒𝑡𝑠

𝑩𝒚 𝑲𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒍𝒆𝒅𝒈𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓

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The Psychology of Money: Mastering Your Financial Mindset

Learn about the psychology of money and how to master your financial mindset in this video. Get insights on budgeting, achieving financial freedom, and understanding behavioral finance from expert Morgan Housel. Money, it’s a concept that looms large in our lives, yet its true nature often eludes us. We think we understand it, but the reality is that our relationship with money is shaped more by our emotions, experiences, and biases than by cold, hard facts. Morgan Housel’s insights in "The Psychology of Money" resonate deeply because they strip away the pretense that financial success is merely a product of intelligence or knowledge. It’s not about how smart you are; it’s about how you behave. The choices we make, often driven by feelings rather than logic, dictate our financial journeys. Consider this: how many times have you made a financial decision based on a fleeting emotion? Perhaps you splurged on something extravagant after a bad day, or you hesitated to invest because of fear. These moments reveal a fundamental truth: our behaviors are often at odds with what we know. We can read all the books, attend all the seminars, but if we don’t confront our emotional tendencies, we’re bound to repeat the same mistakes. It’s about control—controlling our impulses, our fears, our desires. That’s where the real challenge lies. And then there’s luck and risk, those unpredictable forces that shape our financial outcomes. Housel emphasizes that success isn’t solely a reflection of our skills; it’s also about the whims of chance. We celebrate the winners, the savvy investors who seem to have it all figured out, but how often do we acknowledge the role of luck in their success? It’s a humbling thought. Recognizing that some of our achievements may be due to factors beyond our control can help us maintain perspective. It teaches us to be grateful, not just for our successes, but for the circumstances that allowed them to happen.

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Decoding the Buzz: From Global Headlines to Celebrity Culture - Navigating Viral News Responsibly

Viral news, with its lightning-fast spread and captivating nature, dominates our attention spans. But in the whirlwind of celebrity dance challenges and global emergencies, discerning truth from hype can be challenging. This article explores the distinct realms of world viral news and celebrity viral news, equipping you to navigate these domains responsibly.

World Viral News: Beyond the Clickbait, Seeking Understanding

Fact-Checking Frenzy: Don't fall prey to sensational headlines. Verify information with reputable news sources like established media outlets or government agencies. Cross-check information and prioritise diverse perspectives.

Context is King: Headlines rarely tell the whole story. Seek in-depth reporting that explores the root causes, potential impacts, and global implications of viral news.

Understanding Biases: Be aware of potential biases inherent in news sources, especially social media posts and websites with specific agendas.

Beyond the Outrage: Viral news often triggers emotional reactions. Use it as a springboard for informed discussions, critical thinking, and potential action rather than simply fueling negativity.

Empowering Change: Leverage viral news to promote positive change. Share credible information, support worthy campaigns, and hold powerful actors accountable.

Example:

A viral video highlighting environmental destruction should spark discussions about sustainable practices, not just momentary outrage. Promote articles analysing solutions or ways to support conservation efforts.

Celebrity Viral News: Deconstructing the Hype Machine

Authenticity Check: Don't get blinded by carefully crafted online personas. Be wary of overly positive or negative portrayals promoted by celebrities or their PR teams.

Substance Over Sensationalism: Celebrate viral news that showcases genuine talent, social initiatives, or insightful perspectives from celebrities. Avoid content that focuses solely on personal lives or manufactured drama.

Respecting Boundaries: Celebrities deserve privacy too. Avoid sharing intrusive or exploitative content, even if it's trending.

Amplifying Diverse Voices: Support viral news that features a variety of celebrities from different backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. Challenge stereotypical portrayals in mainstream media.

Critical Consumption: Analyse the narratives surrounding celebrities in viral news. Consider the power dynamics at play and how these portrayals might reinforce or subvert existing social norms.

Example:

A celebrity's viral charity campaign should be evaluated based on its transparency, impact, and long-term goals, not just the celebrity's involvement. Look for analyses that explore the effectiveness of the campaign and encourage responsible giving practices.

Remember: Viral news, both global and celebrity-driven, has immense power to shape our understanding of the world. By prioritising reliable sources, critical thinking, and responsible engagement, we can navigate this dynamic space and leverage its potential for positive change. Let's move beyond the "best" of viral news and strive for a more informed and responsible online experience.

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This article avoids labelling specific news or celebrities as "best" and instead empowers readers to critically evaluate both world and celebrity viral news by providing clear guidelines and examples. It highlights the importance of fact-checking, diverse perspectives, responsible sharing, and promoting positive change, all while considering the ethics of online celebrity culture.

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Navigating the Rollercoaster: Emotions in Financial Decision-Making 🎢💰

Hey Tumblr fam! Let's dive into a fascinating topic today: the role of emotions in financial decision-making. 💭💼

We all know that managing money isn't just about numbers; it's also about the emotions that come along for the ride. From fear and greed to excitement and anxiety, our emotions can have a significant impact on how we handle our finances.

🤔 Understanding Emotional Influence: Emotions play a powerful role in shaping our financial choices. Fear might lead us to avoid taking risks, while greed could drive us to make impulsive investment decisions. Understanding how emotions influence our behavior is key to making more informed financial choices.

💡 The Psychology Behind Financial Decisions: Psychological factors such as cognitive biases and heuristics can often lead us astray when it comes to money matters. For example, the fear of missing out (FOMO) might tempt us to jump on the latest investment bandwagon without proper research.

🌟 Emotional Intelligence and Financial Well-being: Developing emotional intelligence can be a game-changer in navigating the ups and downs of financial decision-making. By learning to recognize and manage our emotions, we can make more rational choices that align with our long-term financial goals.

🔄 Strategies for Emotionally Intelligent Finances:

Pause and Reflect: Before making a financial decision, take a moment to assess your emotions. Are they clouding your judgment, or are they guiding you towards a sound choice?

Seek Perspective: Talk to trusted friends, family members, or financial advisors for an outside perspective on your decisions.

Stick to the Plan: Establishing a financial plan and sticking to it can help reduce the influence of emotions on your decisions.

Practice Self-care: Taking care of your physical and mental well-being can help you approach financial decisions with a clearer mind.

💬 Join the Conversation: How do your emotions impact your financial decision-making? Have you found any strategies that help you navigate this complex terrain? Let's share our experiences and insights! 🗨️💡

Let's keep the conversation going and empower each other to make smarter financial choices! 💪💸

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15 lessons from Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky:

1. Behavior is complex and determined by a multitude of factors. Our behavior is not simply a product of our genes or our environment, but rather the result of a complex interplay between the two.

2. The brain is constantly making predictions about the world around us. These predictions are based on our past experiences and help us to navigate our environment. However, they can also lead us to make mistakes, such as misjudging people's intentions or overreacting to threats.

3. Hormones play a powerful role in influencing our behavior. Hormones such as testosterone and oxytocin can affect our aggression, empathy, and social bonding.

4. Our emotions are deeply rooted in our biology. Emotions are not simply fleeting feelings, but rather complex physiological responses that prepare us for action.

5. Stress can have a profound impact on our physical and mental health. Chronic stress can lead to a variety of health problems, including anxiety, depression, and heart disease.

6. We are all social animals and have a deep need for connection. Human beings are wired for social interaction, and isolation can have a detrimental effect on our health and well-being.

7. Altruism is a natural human tendency. We are often willing to help others, even at a cost to ourselves.

8. Aggression is also a natural human tendency. Aggression can be used for both good and evil, but it is important to understand its roots in order to control it.

9. Love is a complex emotion with biological underpinnings. Love is not just a feeling, but a complex set of physiological, cognitive, and emotional responses.

10. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Empathy is essential for building strong relationships and creating a just and compassionate society.

11. Prejudice and discrimination are rooted in our biology, but we can overcome them. Prejudice and discrimination are often based on fear and ignorance, but we can learn to override our biases and treat others with respect.

12. We are all capable of great good and great evil. Our behavior is shaped by a complex interplay of factors, but ultimately we are responsible for our choices.

13. Understanding the biology of behavior can help us to create a better world. By understanding the roots of our behavior, we can develop more effective strategies for promoting peace, justice, and compassion.

14. We should strive to be aware of our own biases and prejudices. Recognizing our own biases is the first step to overcoming them.

15. We should be open to learning new things and changing our minds. The world is a complex place, and we should be willing to adapt our beliefs in the light of new evidence.

Behave is a groundbreaking book that explores the complex and fascinating world of human behavior. Sapolsky's insights are based on decades of research in neuroscience, psychology, and evolutionary biology, and he offers a compelling case for the importance of understanding the biological underpinnings of our behavior. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in understanding what makes us human.

BOOK: https://amzn.to/3QTScR3

You can get the audiobook for FREE using the same link, as far as you are registered on the audible platform

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"Biases." From the Chandogya Upanishad, the Exploration of the Mysteries of the Priesthood.

Chapter V The Supremacy of the Prana.

1 Om. He who knows what is the oldest and greatest becomes himself the oldest and greatest. The prana, indeed, is the oldest and greatest.

2 He who knows what is the most excellent (vasishtha) (blood) becomes the most excellent among his kinsmen. The organ of speech, indeed, is the most excellent.

3 He who knows what has the attributes of firmness (pratishtha) (steadfastness) becomes firm in this world and the next. The eye, indeed, is endowed with firmness.

4 He who knows prosperity (sampad), his wishes are fulfilled−both divine and human wishes. The ear, indeed, is prosperity.

5 He who knows the abode (ayatana) becomes the abode of his kinsmen. The mind, indeed, is the abode.

6 The pranas (sense−organs) disputed among themselves about who was the best among them, each saying: "I am the best," "I am the best."

7 They went to Prajapati, their progenitor and said: "O revered Sir, who is the best among us?"

He said to them: "He by whose departure the body looks worse than the worst is the best among you."

8 The organ of speech departed. After being away for a whole year, it came back and said:

"How have you been able to live without me?" The other organs replied: "We lived just as

dumb people live, without speaking, but breathing with the prana (nose), seeing with the eye, hearing with the ear and thinking with the mind." Then the organ of speech entered the body.

9 The eye departed. After being away for a whole year, it came back and said: "How have you been able to live without me?"

The other organs replied: "We lived just as blind people live, without seeing, but breathing with the prana, speaking with the tongue, hearing with the ear and thinking with the mind." Then the eye entered the body.

10 The ear went out. After being away for a whole year, it came back and said: "How have you been able to live without me?"

The other organs replied: "We lived just as deaf people live, without hearing, but breathing with the prana. Speaking with the tongue, seeing with the eye and thinking with the mind." Then the ear entered the body.

11 The mind went out. After being away for a whole year, it came back and said: "How have you been able to live without me?"

The other organs replied: "We lived just like children whose minds are not yet formed, without thinking with the mind, but breathing with the prana, speaking with the tongue, seeing with the eye and hearing with the ear." Then the mind entered the body.

12 Then as the vital breath was about to depart, he uprooted the organs from their places just as a noble horse tears up the pegs to which its feet are tied. They came to him and said:

"Revered Sir, be thou our lord; thou art the best among us. Do not depart from us."

13 Then the organ of speech said to him: "That attribute of being most excellent which I possess is thine."

Then the eye said: "That attribute of firmness which I possess is thine."

14 Then the ear said: "That attribute of prosperity which I possess is thine."

Then the mind said: "That attribute of being the abode which I possess is thine."

15 And people do not call them (i.e. the sense−organs) the organs of speech, the eyes, the ears, or the mind, but the pranas. The prana alone is all these.

These verses explain the power of bias and how it is formed, how it shapes reality either in accordance or contrary to what allows us to experience Grace.

The word for bias in Sanskrit is vasana (mistake). A vasana influences how reality and Reality work or malfunction together. Success and failure likewise fluid and concrete depending…depending on the nature of the vasana.

Vasanas are the root drivers of our behavior. They are the inexplicable, invisible causes of the ways we think, emote, and behave. They create actions, the actions create fruits, we consume the fruits. If the fruits are appealing, we will go back for more, if they are unappealing a habit of avoidance will form.

Vasanas are not sins, but they can greatly exaggerate the effects of sin on our lives. Whether or not a vasana is a cause for delusion depends on why one is has an attachment to the fuit.

The Science of the Vedas illustrates God's Vasana first: the Creative Urge. God's behaviors are all defined by His Grace. He does not sin, does not desire what is wrong, incorrect or improper, or unhealthy for us, He has explained his character traits beautifully in all the world's scriptures. In visual format they look like this:

The big V at the top is "Grace". To understand how the vasanas work, put one of your vasanas or tendencies in its place, like hunger, fear, the urge to exercise, your favorite TV show, masturbation, sex, the choice of clothes you wear, the work you do, anything that motivates the self to translate a thought into an action.

If the behavior is transgressive, like adultery, the vasana needs to be ignored till it goes away. If it is progressive, like meditation, then encouragement is in order.

Once one's list of vasanas are tuned up to the level of God's Graces, salvation starts to occur.

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The Art of Active Listening – A Game Changer for Leaders

Hey fellow leaders! Communication breakdowns and struggling to build trust within our teams, or finding it difficult to effectively manage stakeholders is a common challenge we are all facing in this fast moving world with both “online interactions and distractions” at it’s peak, especially post covid.

The solution might be closer than you think.

In a world filled with noise and distractions, the art of truly hearing and understanding others is often overlooked. However, those leaders who embrace active-listening unlock a wealth of benefits that can propel their teams and organizations to new heights.

As a leadership coach, “I’ve witnessed time and again how trust can make or break a team’s productivity and effectiveness. And you know what? The inability to listen actively is often at the heart of this trust issue.”

Listening attentively or actively is effective when it becomes a “habit” (not a one off gesture) ..then it has a 360 degree impact on our success and our life.

In this blog, we’re diving deep into:

What is active listening & what comes in our way to patiently listen with complete presence

The practical application of active listening with a real-life example of a leader

How to inculcate this powerful habit

The Power of Active Listening:

Active listening is not merely about hearing words; it’s about immersing yourself in the speaker’s world, with curiosity. It is a gift of our presence we offer to others, a silent embrace that says – your words and feelings matter.

It involves being fully present, not just with your ears, but with your mind, heart, and undivided attention.

But let’s be honest, the demands of leadership can be overwhelming at times. Tight deadlines, challenging stakeholders, and the constant pressure to deliver results can make it tempting to prioritise “talking” and “controlling the discussion” over listening.

However, it’s precisely in those moments of intense pressure that active listening becomes a game-changer.

So, how can you become an active listener?

Start by setting aside distractions and giving your full attention to the speaker. Maintain eye contact, nod along to show engagement, and provide thoughtful feedback that demonstrates your understanding.

Empathy and curiosity should guide your interactions, allowing you to ask probing questions and delve deeper into the speaker’s perspective.

Remember, active listening is a skill, a habit that can be cultivated and refined over time. It requires practice, patience, and a genuine desire to connect with “yourself first” before you can authentically connect with others.

So, let’s dive in and explore how our “mind” influences our ability to actively listen.

The Subconscious Mind’s Influence:

We’re all familiar with that little voice in our heads, the one that filters our perceptions and shapes our responses.

Yes, I’m talking about the subconscious mind. It’s responsible for those preconceived assumptions that can cloud our understanding of others’ perspectives.

Let’s understand these barriers head-on.

1. Preconceived Assumptions:

Our subconscious loves to jump to conclusions based on past experiences, beliefs or limited information. But hey, leaders, it’s time to challenge those assumptions! Let’s recognize that we might not have the full picture and consciously engage in the conversation without premature judgments.

2. Internal Dialogue and Self-Focus:

Ah, the internal chatter that distracts us from fully comprehending and empathizing with the speaker. We’ve all been there, lost in our own thoughts, formulating responses instead of actively listening. But fret not! We can shift our focus outward, quiet the noise, and truly be present in the moment.

3. Emotional Triggers:

Our own emotions & feelings that we are not in touch with, play quite a big role in our subconscious mind. They can trigger biases, defensiveness, and even the need to control the narrative. So it’s important to set aside sometime to delve into what’s going on in our minds.

We have the power to manage those emotional triggers. Cultivating self-awareness allows us to let go of our past subconscious biases, stay open, curious, and non-judgmental during conversations.

Before I delve into some strategies to overcome subconscious distractions, let’s look at how a leader transformed his effectiveness and relationship with his stakeholders by learning to listen better.

Real Life Leadership Case Study

Let me share an inspiring personal executive coaching experience that beautifully illustrates the transformative power of letting go and active listening.

During a coaching assignment, I had the privilege of working with a senior leader who struggled with an issue that many of us can relate to: “defensiveness” and “cutting-off people”.

Whenever challenged in public i.e. team meetings, his immediate response was something like, “I am the boss here,” shutting down his team’s valuable contributions. It became clear that this defensive attitude hindered collaboration and stifled innovation within his team.

As we delved deeper into his experiences and mindset, a remarkable realization emerged. It turned out that his defensiveness stemmed from childhood experiences of financial hardship. Growing up, he constantly felt inferior and fought to prove himself in a competitive world. This unconscious sense of inferiority or low self-worth due to childhood events had subconsciously seeped into his leadership style, causing him to build walls and resist inputs from his subordinates and colleagues.

What he didn’t realise was that he was making some assumptions because of his past experiences, such as:

People who take final decisions are highly regarded I assume that if I am not highly regarded I will be a failure

Together, we embarked on a journey of self-reflection and introspection. The leader bravely acknowledged the need for change, consciously let go of the trigger to always wanting to be in control and recognized that listening without preconceived notions played a pivotal role in fostering a culture of trust and growth.

By unravelling the subconscious barriers that held him back, he began to let go of his old approach.

By letting go of his defensiveness, he created an environment where team members felt empowered, heard, and respected.

The impact of this transformation was truly remarkable.

As the leader opened himself up to his subconscious distractions and assumptions and focussed on active listening, he started focussing on the subject or the purpose of the meeting rather than taking things personally.

His team blossomed, ideas flowed freely, creativity soared, trust deepened and innovation became the norm.

Not only did the leader experience a profound shift in his leadership effectiveness, but the team also achieved remarkable results.

So you see how just focussing on 1 simple growth area such as active-listening can completely transform not just leader’s effectiveness but also enhance entire team’s success, passion, ownership and happiness at work.

Strategies to Overcome Subconscious Barriers:

Now that we understand these sneaky barriers, it’s time to equip ourselves with strategies to overcome them. These are not just strategies to be looked at but practised regularly, every single day. Here’s our action plan:

1. Practice Reflection:

Take a moment to reflect on your own assumptions, triggers, and internal dialogue. Take a moment to tap into your “feelings”. Understand what’s going on inside. By understanding your subconscious tendencies, you can consciously set them aside and prioritize active listening.

These practices help you stay present, reduce internal distractions, and enhance your ability to listen actively

2. Practice Mindfulness:

Embrace mindfulness techniques like deep breathing, meditation, and grounding exercises. “Again it’s not important which practice of mindfulness you adopt but more important is to do it every single day…even if it is for 10 mins or just before a call or discussion.”

Observing your breath go in & out, contemplating on your feelings or thoughts or just observing any of your body part touching something, such as the seat you are sitting on or the table where your hands are kept etc are some simple practises that may help you come back to the present moment.

These practices help you stay present, reduce internal distractions, and enhance your ability to be more present to the one speaking.

3. Seek to Understand:

Curiosity is your superpower!

Ask open-ended questions, paraphrase what you’ve heard, and seek clarification when needed. By showing genuine interest, you validate the speaker’s thoughts and invite deeper dialogue

4. Suspend Judgement:

Explore and let go of preconceived assumptions and biases. Embrace a non-judgmental mindset that allows new ideas and perspectives to flow.

Suspending judgment opens the door to a comprehensive understanding of the speaker’s message

Active listening is not just another leadership buzzword—it’s a skill that has the power to truly transform our interactions. However, it requires “conscious effort” to overcome the subconscious barriers that hinder effective listening.

By acknowledging and addressing these barriers, we can create an environment where open communication flourishes, trust deepens, collaboration thrives and most importantly you create “success that is joyful “and not just a mundane ‘pat on the back’.

So, dear leaders, let’s embrace the art of active listening and recognize the immense potential for transformation that lies within each of us.

This can be further enhanced through Leadership Coaching and team building programs, which provide valuable guidance and tools to develop our Stakeholder Management skills.

Together, let’s embark on this journey of active listening, fostering meaningful connections, and achieving extraordinary results.

Ashwni Sharma

MD & Founder – A Brighter Life | Global Executive Coach | Psychometric Assessment Professional | Master NLP Practitioner | Inner Transformation Specialist | Self Mastery Coach

Ashwni, the Founder and MD of A Brighter Life, is dedicated to empowering leaders to enhance their effectiveness, mindfulness, and influence for joyful success. With over 27+ years of corporate experience, driven by his passion for personal transformation, Ashwni left a successful career spanning four major companies across the UK, USA, and India. Working with CXOs, Board Members, and Top Leaders globally, he combines business management skills with life transformation expertise to enable practical and applicable conversations and actions. He holds international certifications as an Executive Coach and has mastered modalities such as NLP and Hypnotherapy. Ashwni’s passion lies in fostering self-leadership as the foundation for leadership development.

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I think this touches on something really important that we don't necessarily talk that much about, but probably should.

There's an assumption that everyone's understanding of what's moral & ethical is the same, when in reality we shape our morals & ethics for ourselves and there's a lot of differences from person to person about what should be considered standard.

For example, a pretty easy one is "It's bad to kill people." And that's a fairly widely accepted standard that most people seem to agree with on paper. However, in practice, when pressed, there are all sorts of ways people justify murder. Some think it's okay to kill criminals. Some think it's okay if done in self-defense. Some think war can be necessary, and therefore the deaths that happen in the face of a just cause are regrettable, but better for the greater good. There are *all sorts* of nuances and exceptions to this "easy" moral standard that people uphold every day. Not to mention all the people who are strictly anti-murder and think it's wrong to take a life no matter what the circumstances surrounding it are.

When it comes to defining harm, that's also hard, because not everyone experiences harm the same way. Physical harm is the most obvious -- you can feel and often see when someone hurts you physically. But mental and emotional harm? Different from person to person, often based on their individual trauma, oppression, or their individual understanding of what is "good" or "bad" for them. Some people use harm in broader terms that extend beyond themselves. X group hurts Y group when they do Z behavior. That can sometimes be shown to be quantifiably true in statistics or studies, depending on which groups & behaviors we're focusing on. Other times, it can be a baseless claim rooted in someone's biases.

Any measure of morality can (and often will) be used against any target the user sees fit. If your culture values hard work & individualism, then someone who is struggling with productivity or taking care of themselves is a potential target. That's why so many addicts, drug users, and/or alcoholics are vilified in my country once they're unable to function unassisted. And there are plenty of people who think it's okay to socially (and, frankly, systemically) punish these folks on the basis that their addiction is a moral failing. I use this as an example, but there are all kinds of people who are labeled "bad" by folks who don't agree with them morally. Whether it's facts or feelings that drive that kind of thinking, it still comes down to each individual's worldview and whether they feel strongly about their moral judgement enough to react to those who disagree.

All that to say: there is no definition. There is no definitive answer. There are only the facts & truths of the world and how we each perceive these things as individuals. We might be able to get a good number of people to agree with some basic moral concepts, but not everyone is going to define "good" and "bad" and "harmful" using the same parameters. When people say "Do what you want as long as it doesn't cause harm," are usually under the assumption that you share their own definitions of harm without thinking that hard about it. So, in that way, it's a sorta meaningless & subjective platitude.

So, yeah. I don't think that necessarily helps in any material way, but I do think it's important to consider.

Something I wonder when people say "do what you want as long as it doesn't harm anybody" is that it opens a question people don't always answer: how do we define harm?

I agree that people should be "allowed" (hate that phrasing) to live how they want/need to live, but when we attach "...as long as it doesn't hurt others!" I sometimes wonder how harm is defined. I think it's intuitive to define harm as physical, but we know that that isn't the only type of harm out there.

I'm not trying to be ornery or whatever, but I do want to encourage people to think critically about how they view and define harm. It's vital that we should have an idea about what harm is, lest we oppress people because we think they are "harming" others (e.g., "you can't transition because it stresses me out!")

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After some thinking, a conversation with my sister-in-law with a psych degree, and a couple of sessions with my godsend of a therapist, I think I've finally put my finger on the thing about Mobius that Loki (and a lot of the fandom tbh) so quickly latched onto like a man dying of thirst at the first sign of water:

Unconditional positive regard.

This concept is at the core of client-centered psychology and basically is a stance that a therapist will take in relation to their client, where they simply accept and support their client as a person, regardless of what they do or say.

My therapist uses this framework with me, and when the Loki series came out, I immediately saw Mobius and was like "holy crap, this man has the exact same energy as Sami what???" And I couldn't for the life of me figure out why until I was talking about it with my sister-in-law and she mentioned unconditional positive regard. And then it clicked.

Mobius radiates unconditional positive regard from the minute he meets Loki in episode 1, and arguably even from the first time we even see him onscreen. He approaches everyone he interacts with using a basic framework of "I see you and care about you as a person, and nothing you do or say can change that," so we immediately get the impression that this man is soft, kind, and shaped like a friend. However, it's most obvious and pointed in his interactions with Loki.

While yes, Mobius' primary objective in episode 1 is to interrogate Loki, it's important to note that it's not an interrogation where Mobius is trying to find proof of guilt for a crime like we'd see in a typical detective procedural. Rather, Mobius is trying to see if this variant of Loki is self aware enough to be able to help him in his hunt for Sylvie. It's fundamentally a test to find out Loki's current place in his emotional and psychological development. It is not maliciously intended, and it is not designed to harm Loki. On the contrary, the intent is clearly to help Loki begin to come to terms with the reality of who he is and the choices he has made.

In fact, the whole time this is happening, Mobius very purposefully strives to foster an environment where Loki knows that A.) Mobius sees him. Truly sees and knows him. B.) Despite knowing what Loki is and what he's done, Mobius loves him and regards him positively, and C.) nothing Loki can do or say will change that positive regard.

Loki, however, is super not used to receiving unconditional positive regard. He has no idea how to respond to it. He feels like it's a trick, like there's another shoe just waiting to drop. I related to him hardcore in this scene because that's exactly how I felt when my therapist presented me with unconditional positive regard for the first time. It's confusing and strange and difficult to believe at first. Especially because it sets the stage for honest self reflection and personal growth that can be incredibly painful.

Loki is not a perfectly innocent person. He has done a lot of really bad things and hurt a lot of people in his life. He has a lot of very deep seated trauma that has informed these actions, but he still made those choices and he needs to take responsibility for them. This is not a fun process. Mobius knows this is actually a really awful, sucky process. But he also knows that change and growth requires two things: acknowledgement that a change needs to be made and the expectation that change can and will occur when properly cultivated. Mobius clearly laying out the reality of Loki's actions and who he is in the Sacred Timeline is the first part of that equation, and his unflappable, unconditional positive regard towards Loki as a person despite knowing that reality cultivates an environment for the second part to flourish.

"By definition, it is essential in any helping relationship to have an anticipation for change. In the counseling relationship, that anticipation presents as Hope—an optimism that something good and positive will develop to bring about constructive change in the client's personality. Thus, unconditional positive regard means that the therapist has and shows overall acceptance of the client by setting aside their own personal opinions and biases. The main factor in unconditional positive regard is the ability to isolate behaviors from the person who displays them." (source)

Mobius is not Loki's therapist, but he does take on a therapeutic role in Loki's life. He shows Loki that he is fully aware of all of Loki's faults and mistakes. He's seen them over and over again and knows them by heart because it's his job. And in the face of all of that he looks at Loki and says that he doesn't see him as a villain. That he likes him anyway and believes that Loki has the potential to help him and what he believes is the cause of good. (Yes the TVA is corrupt, but neither of them know that at this point, and the fact that both Mobius and Loki believe this to be the side of good to varying degrees is important here)

Mobius maintains this regard throughout the series and his subsequent interactions with Loki and when talking about Loki to Ravonna and others, and it's a big part of why Loki so quickly trusts and feels comfortable around Mobius. I know some people say it's unrealistic how fast it was, but it made a lot of sense just based on my experience. I mean, after one (1) session with my therapist, I was 100% ride or die for him, and it was kind of absurd. But the feeling of being seen like that is so potent when you're starved for it, that extreme reactions to it make a lot of sense. And if anyone's starved for unconditional positive regard, it's Loki.

Mobius is only human though, and he's not perfect at this. Over the course of the series, it's clear that Mobius has emotionally invested a lot in his Loki, and he struggles to maintain a professional distance, though he usually is able to keep his head enough to give Loki that positive regard he needs. The only time we see this regard slip is in episode 4 when Mobius is feeling betrayed and jealous. In these moments, Mobius is unable to step back from his feelings enough to get into a headspace where he can separate Loki's actions from who he is. He calls Loki an asshole and a bad friend, and it comes from a place of hurt and jealousy. It's also what drives Loki into a defensive mode we haven't seen since episode 1. He's no longer receiving that unconditional positive regard from Mobius and he feels betrayed. He worries that maybe it was all an act in the first place and Mobius never really cared for him at all. For the first time, Loki feels like Mobius doesn't see the best in him anymore and it hurts.

Mobius' unconditional positive regard was genuine, though, and this is reinforced in the subsequent scenes where we see him act on his instinctual desire to assume the best of Loki and investigate his claims. We see it again when he returns to Loki and he reaffirms both his desire to trust Loki and his belief that Loki can be "whoever, whatever he wants to be, even someone good." At this point, Loki is able to accept it and no longer pushes back against Mobius' belief in Loki's goodness and that he "has within himself vast resources for self-understanding, for altering his self-concept, attitudes, and self-directed behavior." He's grown and begun to see himself in a more realistic and positive light and it's a direct result of the time Mobius has spent cultivating that relationship based on unconditional positive regard.

That's why their relationship feels so comfortable and satisfying. Unconditional positive regard isn't only a therapy principle. It's something everyone craves in a relationship. To be seen as you are, flaws and mistakes and quirks and all is terrifying and mortifying, but when that person then just smiles and says I love you anyway because you are not your mistakes and you are not your flaws and nothing you can ever do or say can change how I feel about you, the relief and joy and comfort is more than worth the discomfort. So I think the idea that Mobius can look at someone as deeply flawed, broken, and jaded as Loki and love him exactly as he is right there and then, eyes wide open and smiling, believing that beneath it all Loki has the potential to be good, gives us hope that someone could do the same for us. I know that's what Lokius does for me, at least. Mobius represents to me the ideal of unconditional positive regard, and having an image of what that looks like in the character of Mobius gives us the opportunity to apply it to ourselves when we may not get it elsewhere in our lives. And I, for one, think that's very sexy of him.

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𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐵𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓 𝑎𝑛𝑑 ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑡𝑜 𝑑𝑜 𝑖𝑡: We all have beliefs that shape our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Some of these beliefs are based on facts and evidence, while others are based on personal experiences, emotions, or preferences.

Sometimes, we encounter new information that contradicts our existing beliefs. How do we react to such situations?

According to the theory of cognitive dissonance, proposed by social psychologist Leon Festinger, we experience a state of mental discomfort when we hold two conflicting beliefs or when our actions are inconsistent with our beliefs. For example, if you believe that smoking is harmful to your health, but you still smoke, you may feel uneasy about your behavior. To reduce this discomfort, you may try to rationalize your smoking by saying that it helps you cope with stress or that you will quit soon.

However, rationalizing or ignoring the new information is not always the best way to deal with cognitive dissonance. In fact, it can prevent us from learning new things, growing as a person, and changing our behavior for the better.

Therefore, it is important to challenge our own beliefs and be open-minded to other perspectives and ideas.

Here are some tips on how to challenge your beliefs effectively:

༺ 𝐁𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧-𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝: Don’t dismiss new information or opinions just because they don’t fit your existing beliefs. Instead, try to understand where they are coming from and what evidence they are based on. You may find some valid points or insights that can enrich your knowledge and worldview.

༺ 𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞: Don’t rely on assumptions, biases, or emotions to form your beliefs. Instead, seek out reliable sources of information and data that can support or challenge your beliefs. Be willing to revise your beliefs if you find new evidence that contradicts them.

༺ 𝐁𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬: Don’t cling to your beliefs just because they are familiar or comfortable. Instead, be flexible and adaptable to changing circumstances and situations. Remember that changing your beliefs does not mean that you are weak or wrong. It means that you are intelligent and curious.

༺ 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬: Don’t accept everything you read or hear as the truth. Instead, evaluate the credibility and accuracy of your sources of information. Consider the motives and biases of the authors or speakers. Look for multiple sources that can confirm or refute the information.

By challenging your beliefs, you can improve your critical thinking skills, broaden your horizons, and enhance your personal growth. You can also avoid falling prey to false or misleading information that can harm you or others. Remember that intelligence is not knowing everything, it’s the ability to challenge everything you know.

༄𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚌? 𝙿𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎 𝚕𝚎𝚝 𝚖𝚎 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜.

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The Psychology of Money: Mastering Your Financial Mindset

Money, it’s a concept that looms large in our lives, yet its true nature often eludes us. We think we understand it, but the reality is that our relationship with money is shaped more by our emotions, experiences, and biases than by cold, hard facts. Morgan Housel’s insights in "The Psychology of Money" resonate deeply because they strip away the pretense that financial success is merely a product of intelligence or knowledge. It’s not about how smart you are; it’s about how you behave. The choices we make, often driven by feelings rather than logic, dictate our financial journeys. Consider this: how many times have you made a financial decision based on a fleeting emotion? Perhaps you splurged on something extravagant after a bad day, or you hesitated to invest because of fear. These moments reveal a fundamental truth: our behaviors are often at odds with what we know. We can read all the books, attend all the seminars, but if we don’t confront our emotional tendencies, we’re bound to repeat the same mistakes. It’s about control—controlling our impulses, our fears, our desires. That’s where the real challenge lies. And then there’s luck and risk, those unpredictable forces that shape our financial outcomes. Housel emphasizes that success isn’t solely a reflection of our skills; it’s also about the whims of chance. We celebrate the winners, the savvy investors who seem to have it all figured out, but how often do we acknowledge the role of luck in their success? It’s a humbling thought. Recognizing that some of our achievements may be due to factors beyond our control can help us maintain perspective. It teaches us to be grateful, not just for our successes, but for the circumstances that allowed them to happen. Compounding is another powerful concept that Housel highlights. It’s the idea that small, consistent actions can lead to monumental outcomes over time. Think about it: a little bit of saving here, a modest investment there, and before you know it, you’ve built something substantial. But it requires patience, a quality that seems increasingly rare in our fast-paced world. We want instant gratification, but the magic of compounding lies in its slow, steady growth. It’s a reminder that the journey to financial security is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. Housel also introduces the notion of "tail events," those rare occurrences that can dramatically alter our financial landscape. A single event—a market crash, a sudden windfall—can skew our perceptions of success and failure. It’s a reminder that while we can strategize and plan, we must also remain adaptable. Life is unpredictable, and our financial strategies must reflect that reality. And what about the relationship between money and happiness? Housel argues that beyond a certain point, more money doesn’t equate to more happiness. It’s a sobering realization. True wealth, he suggests, lies in financial freedom—the ability to live life on your own terms. It’s not about accumulating riches for the sake of it; it’s about creating a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. Saving and investing wisely is crucial, but it’s not just about the numbers. It’s about finding peace of mind in knowing you’re prepared for the future. Living below your means isn’t a punishment; it’s a pathway to security. It allows you to weather life’s storms without fear. Ultimately, personal finance is deeply personal. What works for one person may not work for another. It’s about understanding your own values, your own goals, and crafting a financial strategy that reflects who you are. Housel’s insights remind us that while the numbers matter, the emotions behind them matter even more. It’s a delicate dance between reason and emotion, and finding that balance is the key to mastering the psychology of money.