#victim consciousness

[wayti-blog]

victim consciousness and manipulative behaviour; a childhood memory

"It reminds me of when I was a small child out on a weekly shopping trip with my mom. Afterwards, walking back to the car, I had a bit of a nasty trip and scraped up my knee. Naturally, I cried. My mom tried to console me and tend to the scrape, and then brought me into an ice cream shop we just happened to have been walking by. Upon receiving ice cream, the scraped knee was largely forgotten. The following week, walking by the same ice cream shop, I made myself fall on purpose and pretended to cry. My mom stared at me for a few moments, and then once again got me some ice cream. I repeated this performance again the next week. But this time my mom said: "If you don't get your butt up off the ground, I'll give you something to cry about." It makes me wonder what kind of an adult I would be now if I had been rewarded with ice cream every time I perceived myself to be the victim of some misfortune."

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[loveandthepsyche]

The nature of the time and societies that we are living in promote the idea of collective "victimization." It is very easy to be a victim, and much harder to own or accept responsibility for our own action--to understand that the overall realities we create emanate from within ourselves according to our evolutionary and karmic requirements.

~ JEFFREY WOLF GREEN

[aunt-kats-chats]

The fact that people are claiming that they won’t trust the allegations against Neil Gaiman because the author of the article is “TeRfy” is bullshit. People cry out “support victims” unless the supposedly wrong kind of person calls attention to it. Like fuck man just the age range between Gaiman and his victims is more than enough evidence for me

[yourmoonie]

How to get out from the victim mentality?

ABANDON THE OLD MAN

There are many ways on how you can get out of this mentality

1st of all, define what you mean by "Victim mentality" because that specific phrase can mean a million things.

Take power over your own thoughts, reactions, emotions, and feelings by practicing being in the present moment.

The present moment is the key.

Whenever the old man/the old story comes up mentally tell it to "fuck off", yes that's right! If you find it "hard" to serve the new man, tell the old man to stfu. "I am on a different timeline and things are working out in my favour in the best way possible, so the old man simply has no place to exist on this timeline"

You can also try any of these to help you change your state:

- work on your self-concept

- journal / script

- find what makes you unique (define your strengths and talents)

- focusing on the new state

- listening to affirmation tapes

But at the end of the day, when you know the world is under your feet and nobody can ever compare with you because you are irresistible, irreplaceable, and unforgettable, then you can't be in a victim mentality (so prioritize your self-concept and mental health above anything)

[nacrelysis]

made a meme for all us 2ha readers because i keep getting mad at shi mei and then remembering class conflict and then getting mad at shi mei and then remembering class conflict. when will i be free

[relaxxattack]

Thank you for those posts 😭 maybe it's just me but I've seen a lot of mocking posts like that since becoming a fan and it's real upsetting. I don't want to complain about liking the most popular character past his prime, and more especially as a davekat shipper, but it still stings.

i'm really sorry that that's been your experience. i've definitely noticed that the homestuck fandom can be startlingly unsafe for abuse victims, and really weird about discussion of abuse in general... which is so surprising and disappointing since the comic itself does not shy away from these themes whatsoever.

of course, nobody is being oppressed for liking a character who was for a long stretch of time THE most popular homestuck character. but, you'd think with him being so popular that people would actually analyze him beyond subscribing to weird fanon.

and those weird fanonizations also go hand in hand with the mischaracterization of other characters, like "dave is stupid and repressed and doesn't know anything" feeds into "rose is an all-knowing therapist child who solves everyone else's problems for them instead of having her own personality".

overall i don't think it's ever appropriate to say that abuse can be "deserved" no matter how much you dislike a character. and i really think the homestuck fandom needs to think more critically about homestuck's themes of abuse in general-- like fuck i still see meenah shipped with karkat in main tags!

idk. does it really cost that much to not be an asshole on the internet

[lvminisciel]

dance macabre

let us have this dance of macabre!

strums of lullaby accompany our steps

spectators of all kinds eagerly waiting in silence 

people of all race, of all ages

humans and fae alike, mingling into one

isn't this what you always long for, my dearest?

rub away your tears, if you would

look above, my dear!

look how the ceilings crumbled, 

forging a path upon the starry skies

under the sea of stars shall we waltz with grace

one step forward, two steps back

a tango everyone desires

now then, don your brightest smiles!

as we are the prima donna of this palace 

knightly boots replacing glass slippers

briars and thorns, prettier than roses

mere infatuations and lust desist,

only loyalty alone shall exist

hush now, dear

do not loathe me amidst parada

cease your sadness at once

bury your soul deep within one’s eyes

never let those speckles of aurora

be tarnished by the mere sight of carcass 

for I have bestowed you the honor

of taking my hand for this dance

moving in front ochos,

I whisper to you eternal happiness

a promise that’ll never go unkept

holier than the eternal slumber

oh, if only the crowd would cheer!

rather than rotting beneath our feet 

but fret not, my dear 

as we have a long night ahead of us!

[elytrafemme]

and obviously this is by far the least important part of ANY of this, but i'm going to pretty strongly dissociate myself from anything relating to that smp-- mostly for my own mental health (again, not to center myself here). as for CS, i would like to continue it, though obviously the disclaimers again will be heavy. it is a story i wrote to cope with abuse, and if fanworks like that are called to be stopped then i will obviously rethink things. but i will give it a lot of time to figure out how to meaningfully create something from a piece of media created by unfathomably shitty people, and i'd like to be able to continue writing for the message that CS was set to convey.

again, this is not the focus of the conversation, but i just wanted to say that since i am online for once and i figure i may get an ask or two about it.

[minarachelle]

Make your choice ❤️

[kittenchrissy]

I can smell your blood from a kilometer away

I can hear your heartbeat even in the noisiest room

I'm a hunter

You're a victim

You know what I mean?

...

RUN

[cryingpariah]

One Piece is a sad ass show but this is still top 15 most tragic characters to me

[jup1tersparx]

the real reason i take sociology is so that i can use bigger words when talking about fandom things

[drifloonz]

I'm autistic for Steven too lol (He's my beloved little scrunkly) (He'd probably hide my body in a dumpster)

i think if steven ''accidentally'' killed someone nowadays ( almost 100% via s!3v3n ) after barely processing it, dissociating immensely, and probably having a breakdown, he'd like. messily bury you

[unproduciblesmackdown]

another day another "applying the concept 'disposability' to 'someone withdraws from a personal relationship, & that wasn't signed off on by the other'" kill me

[seafoam-taide]

i yam thinking abt. my Thing

[argonautsoul]

I can't help but shake the feeling that Father Fuego is contributing to the disinformation process along with Gabor Maté.

Confusion will dissipate once you decide not to rely on anything they say...

A person is a mask, the clue is in the Latin root of person, ‘persona’, which means mask.

When we encounter dysfunctional behaviours, these always originate from the ego, since our true self will act and behave in ways that honour, respect, and treat all parties involved with compassion and kindness.

The expectations, desires, fear, and inhibitions are all in the mind. Awareness breaks that pattern. Recognition and understanding of a thought or emotion — the underlying basis of a reaction — in the present moment, even if it is ugly, is the key to becoming aka “healing.”

When it comes from our true Self/sovereign Soul, also called Higher Self, all actions are intended for good. — It can get confusing, but once you stop hiding (behind your mask), when you finally see yourself with all your faults and vices, you can start to become who you really are.

The deeds of the light are goodness, kindness, honesty, awareness, humility, mercy, moral goodness, and patience.

Does your heart walk forward in the light?

Once you truly understand, you will know that all you do is intended for the Light; later, you are better able to distinguish what your true Self/ Higher Self/Soul choices are.

The more you know who you really are, the less you let things upset you.

Feeling alienated from others can also be an indicator of ET history and origin of the soul, i.e., spending many lives in other realms, or on far away planets/in star systems (but it can also relate to trauma — so child abuse or neglect shouldn't be ruled out).

Getting help when you need it is a responsible way to care for yourself.

Part of that responsibility is learning what you are doing with your energy. You don’t go and just scream icky things at other people because you feel like you are having a bad day. You take care of your energy. This is part of learning to take control of your energy.  Who is going to control your energy if you don’t?

Nevertheless, irritability can be a sign of a mental health issue, like depression or anxiety. Extreme irritability, or feeling irritable for an extended period, can sometimes indicate an underlying condition, such as an infection or diabetes.

So, if your irritability lingers for an extended period, get professional help.

Impatience is very destructive to yourself and others.