#use tags

[1seaweedbrain1]

imma be honest im squinting real hard @ fic writers who tag "dubcon" instead of rape/non con when the dude is not able to give consent. like at least put the warning, i see dubcon im thinking maybe theyre real drunk or its a lil funky or something not he technically said yes but only bc other dude said hed kill his brothers. the point of the tag is to tell me wtf im going into. if he said yes under duress that should have a rape warning "but people filter out that warning" YEAH THATS WHY THERE ARE TAGS. SO YOU CAN CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE. womp womp someone doesnt wanna read about rape, thats fine dont make them. ik a lot of yall writing that are adults, and if you arent you are writing about an 18+ topic so act like it and fucking tag your shit.

[imbecominggayer]

Hi,

This is me, Noura Ayman,

A medical lab specialist and I have been working in the Turkish Friendship Hospital for four years and studying a master's degree at Al-Aqsa University but have not yet finished it.

I am married to Ibrahim who works the same profession at Al-Shifa Hospital and we were studying a master's degree together.

My story in short is that we have been out of Gaza for treatment in Egypt since July 2023, and we have done an “in vitro fertilization” to give birth after four failed operations in Gaza.

We had a very beautiful baby.

But sadly that the war happened in Gaza in October 2023 and we have been stuck in Egypt ever since without any source of income, and I don't know how to provide for my beautiful daughter's Hanan needs and how to pay for the house and the rest of life, plus our house was bombed in Gaza.

So please support me to set up my own medical analysis laboratory and complete a master's degree in Egypt.

I've launched a https://gofund.me/32f1f5e4 campaign to start our life from the beginning.

I thank you very much for your interest and support.

If you find this story touching and wish to support then there is a gofundme page that this individual has created. Unfortunately I can not verify them so if that's a dealbreaker, there are several verified gofundme accounts from various palestinians.

Feel free to donate to this poor individual

[saku-fangirl]

i wish you freaks would start to tag your posts appropriately.

[sparkiekong]

Please tag your posts and reblogs with some kind of tag.

There are some people in the world who get anxiety and phobias from seeing certain types of things. If you don't tag these things, they cannot keep themselves safe and still enjoy your sims.

Then they unfollow you because you become a source of stress for them. I see so many people who are sad because they never get interaction with their sims posts in between posts that aren't sims related, but things they're passionate about that have no tags at all... this is one of the reasons you're not getting enough interaction with people. If you tag everything then people can still feel safe on your blog and block the things that cause them anxiety.

Be responsible, not part of the problem. It doesn't take that long to add a couple of tags regarding your post topic.

[bluestonewings]

Contributing to the Reddit migration by encouraging people to just look for tags and topics you enjoy, reblog liberally, follow for fun, and block if necessary. Get silly w it :3 combine the Reddit ecosystem w the present tumblr one :)

[winchesticles67]

no pls tag nsfw art as NSFW ART. im in school, i cant be scrolling past boobs in class. thats NOT GOOD.

[cljordan-imperium]

I am going to ask nicely because up until recently I haven't had this problem....

PLEASE USE TRIGGER WARNINGS AND TAGS Y'ALL!!!

I DO NOT want dead children, antisemitism, gore, or other shit on my timelines that I have specifically blocked words, phrases, tags, etc.

It has really ruined my day. Don't preach tolerance and call for death to an entire ethnic group.

[a03-anxiousandafraid]

If you post Tears of the Kingdom spoilers without tags I WILL block you. I don't care how long we've been mutuals, do NOT spread those to people who don't want to see it

(and if tumblr fucks up and doesn't filter correctly I'm sorry but I'm blocking in this situation too just to be safe)

[halfmouse]

Hi. Coming on here to talk a bit about the topic.

You may or may not have noticed but I am very generous with tags here and on AO3. That’s because I have experience with interacting with a wide range of people, and that I, myself, would really appreciate it if some of the things I don’t want to see are tagged and some of the things I do want to see are also tagged.

“Tagging is a courtesy, not a requirement” is NOT an excuse. Why not be courteous, when it’s so easy?

And hey. Sometimes the potential risks for someone if something they block tags for isn’t tagged are much greater than you may think. The reason I tag fast GIFs as such is because I literally know a person in real life who had a seizure because she was watching a librarian shelve books and the fast motion triggered her epilepsy. I know someone who is thankfully doing much better these days and no longer has lepidopteraphobia, but when she had it the mere glimpse of a butterfly would send her spiraling into a panic attack and feeling suicidal afterwards.

And of course, some people really want to see fast motion and butterflies. A lot of people. So tags are a way to seek out things you want, too.

Same rules apply to other stuff, stuff that a lot of people want or need to see, stuff that a lot of people don’t, stuff that’s super niche, stuff that doesn’t have a lot of high stakes associated with it, stuff that does, etc. Heck, this very post is going to have some serious tagging!

And on the other end of things, it’s okay to block tags. It’s okay to block people. I have blocklists that are very long because I have enough to deal with without people and things that bother me and/or trigger my mental illnesses popping up all over the place.

Ok I want to say something controversial

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.

[peskypixel]

i was so scared for him

[word-count-bullet-count]

I've been seeing a lot of knight posts recently. pretty great

[rvllybllply2014]

The fact that this is 80 fucking years ago but still just as relevant is terrifying.

[gaddaboutgriffon]

Seriously though, please Tag things and make it easier for us to filter.

i'll never understand why some people have a problem with trigger warnings. if the content being warned for doesn't bother you then you can just use it as a recommendation. literally where is the problem. everyone wins.

[atinymexicanbird]

Ark siblings in all universes 🪐

[humming-fly]

was thinking about that one blind professor post earlier today and how well it applied to the aptly named Team Dark

(really 'Team Dark' just sounds a lot cooler than 'Team Saves-On-Electricity')

[shadesofmauve]

I want to step away from the art-vs-artist side of the Gaiman issue for a bit, and talk about, well, the rest of it. Because those emotions you're feeling would be the same without the art; the art just adds another layer.

Source: I worked with a guy who turned out to be heavily involved in an international, multi-state sex-slavery/trafficking ring.

He was really nice.

Yeah.

It hits like a dumptruck of shit. You don't feel stable in your world anymore. How could someone you interacted with, liked, also be a truly horrible person? How could your judgement be that bad? How can real people, not stylized cartoon bogeymen, be actually doing this shit?

You have to sit with the fact that you couldn't, or probably couldn't, have known. You should have no guilt as part of this horror — but guilt is almost certainly part of that mess you're feeling, because our brains do this associative thing, and somehow "I liked [the version of] the guy [that I knew]", or his creations, becomes "I made a horrible mistake and should feel guilty."

You didn't, loves, you didn't.

We're human, and we can only go by the information we have. And the information we have is only the smallest glimpse into someone else's life.

I didn't work closely with the guy I knew at work, but we chatted. He wasn't just nice; he was one of the only people outside my tiny department who seemed genuinely nice in a workplace that was rapidly becoming incredibly toxic. He loaned me a bike trainer. Occasionally he'd see me at the bus stop and give me a lift home.

Yup. I was a young woman in my twenties and rode in this guy's car. More than once.

When I tell this story that part usually makes people gasp. "You must feel so scared about what could have happened to you!" "You're so lucky nothing happened!"

No, that's not how it worked. I was never in danger. This guy targeted Korean women with little-to-no English who were coerced and powerless. A white, fluent, US citizen coworker wasn't a potential victim. I got to be a person, not prey.

Y'know that little warning bell that goes off, when you're around someone who might be a danger to you? That animal sense that says "Something is off here, watch out"?

Yeah, that doesn't ping if the preferred prey isn't around.

That's what rattled me the most about this. I liked to think of myself as willing to stand up for people with less power than me. I worked with Japanese exchange students in college and put myself bodily between them and creeps, and I sure as hell got that little alarm when some asian-schoolgirl fetishist schmoozed on them. But we were all there.

I had to learn that the alarm won't go off when the hunter isn't hunting. That it's not the solid indicator I might've thought it was. That sometimes this is what the privilege of not being prey does; it completely masks your ability to detect the horrors that are going on.

A lot of people point out that 'people like that' have amazing charisma and ability to lie and manipulate, and that's true. Anyone who's gotten away with this shit for decades is going to be way smoother than the pathetic little hangers-on I dealt with in university. But it's not just that. I seriously, deeply believe that he saw me as a person, and he did not extend personhood to his victims. We didn't have a fake coworker relationship. We had a real one. And just like I don't know the ins-and-outs of most of my coworkers lives, I had no idea that what he did on his down time was perpetrate horrors.

I know this is getting off the topic, but it's so very important. Especially as a message to cis guys: please understand that you won't recognize a creep the way you might think you will. If you're not the preferred prey, the hind-brain alarm won't go off. You have to listen to victims, not your gut feeling that the person seems perfectly nice and normal. It doesn't mean there's never a false accusation, but face the fact that it's usually real, and you don't have enough information to say otherwise.

So, yeah. It fucking sucks. Writing about this twists my insides into tense knots, and it was almost a decade ago. I was never in danger. No one I knew was hurt!

Just countless, powerless women, horrifically abused by someone who was nice to me.

You don't trust your own judgement quite the same way, after. And as utterly shitty as it is, as twisted up and unstead-in-the-world as I felt the day I found out — I don't actually think that's a bad thing.

I think we all need to question our own judgement. It makes us better people.

I don't see villains around every corner just because I knew one, once. But I do own the fact that I can't know, really know, about anyone except those closest to me. They have their own full lives. They'll go from the pinnacles of kindness to the depths of depravity — and I won't know.

It's not a failing. It's just being human. Something to remember before you slap labels on people, before you condemn them or idolize them. Think about how much you can't know, and how flawed our judgement always is.

Grieve for victims, and the feeling of betrayal. But maybe let yourself off the hook, and be a bit slower to skewer others on it.