#unnecessary INFP anxiety

[diorgirl444]

hi there!! words cannot describe how excited I got when I saw you we’re doing matchups. I’d be delighted to receive a Harry Potter universe one (era doesn’t matter at all!! marauder or slytherin fanon. pick whoever fits best) <33 (if you have the willingness, motivation and energy for it obviously!!)

starting off, i’m an infp with a sun sign of taurus. i’m a straight (BUT 110% SUPPORTING) woman who goes by she/her. i’m 5’4 with chest length blonde hair, green bright eyes (with a line in the left one?) w a slim/a lil curvy figure.

describing my style will always be a touch cookie. one thing i know for sure is JEWELRY ALWAYS. typically golden hoops. i dress in skirts, sweaters, turtlenecks, white blouses, docs, stockings. going for comfort but making it look somewhat chic. got my big pink/blue scarf walking down the street lol. i really don’t have a color palette - but they tend do be softer, earthier.

people tend to describe me as intelligent and observant, which I do agree on partly. the thing is that i hate bragging about myself, but secretly i consider myself better than anyone else. i’m an introvert, but talking to strangers and improving their day brings me life. i’m such a fantastic friend once you’ve got to know me. i think about the small things and adore giving thoughtful gifts as well as letters. overachiever and ambition is my first names and those are probably the grounding sources for my anxiety ejdjsksb. my humor is definitively worth questioning. it’s just awfully dry and sarcastic (and yes, I do die laughing at my own jokes). honestly, a lot of people might call me boring, but that’s because they are out there acting like goblins on drugs. as well as i assume i got this stone face frame before you crack me open. i’m so stubborn for better or worse, and if I want something - I’ll work for it and succeed.

in my free time i tend to read a lot. mostly classics and psychology inspired ones at the moment. don’t worry, no collen hoover for me thank you. i have a huge interest in true crime and other creepy themed stuff, and it has always been that way. horror enthusiasts forever and always. my favorite area to deep dive into are cults. currently i take humanities courses, which is philosophy, history and culture inspired. my way of handling emotions is probably by scream singing to emotional music or just yelling out of the blue. i love shopping (my wallet does not agree) other things I enjoy; deep conversations and singing - ending up sounding very poorly. researching stupid, unnecessary things, taylor swift, kisses, physical letters, iced coffee, pretty nicknames, rain, people smiling at me, feeling loved and needed, thunderstorms, paranormal stuff, dark shades of colors (like navy, dark green, blood red, hot pink etc) academic valuation

about the things i dislike thennnn. being excluded, invalidating my feelings, car noises HAHA, slow walkers, not doing something perfectly at the first time, BEING IGNORED OMG

my love language is most likely words of affirmation. there’s just something about a beautifully put together love declaration that makes me melt. also, physical touch. this was something i used to feel awkward about but now I like for those gentle gestures and touches

i assume that’s pretty much it! have a wonderful continuing day, or night - whatever time it just hit. thank you dearly in advance <33

aw you’re such a sweetheart + tysm for being so considerate of my personal state that’s so lovely &lt;3

your perfect matchup is 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐨 𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐥𝐞 💌

𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧 <3

𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝟐 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 <3

so the minute i read your description of yourself it became glaringly apparent that you and mattheo would be perfect for each other! like he’s truly gonna be head over heels for you but very much in a mr darcy kind of way if you’ve seen pride and prejudice. 🎀

i think he would of had a crush on you for literal years because you’re in the same house and you’re pretty and clever and he’s a little bit pathetic really but he would have you convinced that he hated you because i feel like he’d either just stare at you or walk away if you came near 😭

eventually though i think he’d finally be forced to talk to you when he joined an after school society that hogwarts had for looking into the paranormal (because it’s my personal belief that he’s actually not that cool as he likes to pretend and is secretly the biggest nerd) and ofc you were a member because you love all that stuff.

and surprise surprise you two hit it off super well. the pair of you tease each other with snarky remarks and dry jokes. a fond grin plastered over his face when he watches you laugh at your own jokes. and you’re like ok this is strange because we’ve literally never spoken before? but you go along with it.

but the thing is like you don’t talk outside of the club. like during the society meetings he’s calling you fond nicknames and teasing you and playing with your hair but outside of it nothing???? like you just got back to normal which understandably you’re not too thrilled about! and like neither is he but he thinks this is what you want???? ridiculous boy!

anyways it all comes to a head when you finally question him about it one day when he’s walking you back to your dorm after the club. to be fair you go about in a rather angry tone but that’s because your hurt <\3 his cheeks go pink, his eyebrows furrow and in a very period drama kind of way he confesses to you. think mr darcy’s proposal to elizabeth or the way mr knightley tells emma that “if i loved you less i might be able to talk about it more!” like it’s kind of angry but sooo romantic. he tells you he’s adored you for years but couldn’t say anything and that he knows you don’t feel the same and to be honest he’s just rambling so you kiss him, mainly to shut him up and maybe a little bit because you want to kiss him too.

either way it works and with one hand he’s tenderly cradling your face in his hands and in the other he’s tightly holding onto your waist as if to make sure this is actually happening. and when the two of you pull away he mumbles against your lips that “ he’d like to take you out to hogsmede for a date if you can forgive him for being such an insufferable arse” you tell him teasingly that you’ll think about it and he lets out a deep chuckle and that fond smile is etched on his face. ❤️‍🩹

the next weekend he takes you to hogsmede and he buys you a ring. telling you that this is the first of many rings he intends to give you <3

𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 <3

ok i feel like this is not a gradual relationship at all 😭 like a day ago you two didn’t talk outside of your society and now he’s literally always by your side, everyone else is literally so confused??? because like to them it’s like where did that come from, yet they can’t deny how head over heels the two of you seem.

you have serious scary guard dog privileges like the two of you are holding hands in hogsmede and he’s just scowling at everyone it’s genuinely so funny to watch.

also you’re an infp and he’s an entp and because of that you two have a very mature relationship where you two definitely encourage each other to grow as people whilst still have a very playful relationship.

he’s always mumbling sweet nothings to you :( nobody would guess it but he’s literally the biggest softie ever but only for you. he’ll buy you whatever you want because it’s safe to say he thinks you deserve it. he’d give the world to you if he could <3

if you two fight, which is very rarely, they’re big and awful but he never lets either of you go to bed angry. he makes sure to still kiss you one last time and tell you that he loves you as he has seen the worst of the world and hates to think that your last memory of him might be something bad ❤️‍🩹

love, love, loves when you read to him whilst playing with his hair. he’s never felt that kind of love from anyone before so understand he might seem a bit emotionally stunted at first. 😭

tells you that he’s going to marry you one day and take you away from the future that his father wants for the two of you. he’s already got fake identification papers set up and everything. it’s sad that he has to but at least it proves he cares :(

𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 <3

hope you like it! xoxo, flo <3

[snnbnny]

Heyyy, I just saw your bunny’s birthday event ! ( Happy birthday !). May I request for a male matchup please ?

Fandoms : Jujutsu kaisen, my hero academia and Haikyuu pleasee

My zodiac sign is Leo and my mbsti is INFP-T, my pronuns are she/her.

Personality : I’m an ambivert (mix of introvert and extrovert), at first I’m really shy but I became comfortable with a person if she make me feel safe. As soon as I’m comfortable I became very extroverted and funny. I love to laugh so, basically, I laugh everyday. I also smile pretty easily and all the time. Besides all that I like to « be chill » and somewhat calm but I gets stressed/ anxious very easily. However, I can easily stand up for myself like when something/someone is bothering me I immediately say it and don’t necessarily need people to help me with this. Also I’m collected but have a certain attitude. I like to « be rude » and sarcastic to my loved ones but they know that I’m not genuinely mean to them. All that doesn't mean that i'm not polite and respectful because i really am. Finally I’d say that I’m creative, empathetic and passionate but emotionally vulnerable and really self-critical.

Interests/Hobbies : sleep, play video games, watch Anime/Netflix/Disney plus, chill, listen to RNB/ US Rap, study and discover things about science…

Apparence : I’m black girl and my height 5’7 (170cm). I have 4c hair (I often wear long braids) and dark brown eyes. I’d say that my style is a mix between streatwear and Y2K. And an unnecessary information : I wear glasses (but I rarely put them on)

I think that’s all ! Thanks you very much and have a great day !

Welcome to the party! hope you have a fun time with your dates!!

your date from jjk is...

Yuuji Itadori!!!!!

He is one lucky guy to find you. the two of you are two lil peas in a pod! the two of you are laughing all the time and you make such a cute couple. I think he can handle any sarcasm or rudeness I mean he handles Megumi pretty well! He'd calm your nerves whenever needed, no problem. The two of you would rave the entire party ab movies on netflix and disney films.

your date from my hero is....

Shouto Aizawa

Idk something about your vibes mix well, you two just fit somehow. the two of you share sarcasm and seemingly rudeness as a love language. but your bring out a more funny and fun loving side in him its honestly impressive. he would be so nuturing to you when need be. the two of you are so chill together and love to just lay on the couch watching the same shows over and over.

Your date from hq is...

Tadashi Yammaguchi

Two sweet lovely people here. he would love the daulity of your personality, handling your sarcasm well (his bestie is tsuki for christ sakes). the two of you would look so cute together. he loves your independence but is never afraid to step in and help whenever you need him. he so can help with your anxiety. the two of you would nap and play games on your days off.

[lovelyscript]

BASICS.

raighne ( rai / rain ) ▹ 21+ ▹ she/her ▹ infp

HOBBIES.

reading ▹ writing ▹ making gifs / moodboards ▹ napping ▹ collecting notebooks / pens ▹ playing video games ▹ journaling

BAD HABITS.

staying up all night ▹ forgetting to eat ▹ procrastinating ▹ rewatching shows instead of watching a new one ▹ not accepting compliments ( don’t know how hdksjhfksdh ) ▹ keeping my feelings bottled up

RANDOM STUFF.

i am in love with the moon; i will literally run out of my house in the middle of the night, barefoot and in the cold, if someone tells me it looks pretty that night ( and i have )

i also love the rain, though i don’t like thunder. fun fact: when driving to visit some family out-of-state lighting struck right next to our car and it was loud AF and very scary

i have an unnecessary amount of notebooks, unused notebooks because they’re too pretty to use

on a similar note, i will never use any of the stickers i buy because i don’t want to regret using them, so i guess i’ll just save them until the day i die sskdjhfksfjks

i am terrible at starting conversations ( social anxiety sucks ( ˃̣̣̥ω˂̣̣̥ ) ) but i love chatting and meeting new people, so feel free to drop into my inbox/dms anytime!!

SOME FAVES.

shinsou hitoshi, amajiki tamaki & aizawa shouta ﹝ my hero academia ﹞ tomioka giyuu & hashibira inosuke ﹝ demon slayer ﹞ akira fudo ﹝ devilman crybaby ﹞ diarmuid ua duibhne / lancer ﹝ fate/zero ﹞ zhongli, xiao, kazuha & razor ﹝ genshin impact ﹞ kuroo tetsurou & kozume kenma ﹝ haikyuu ﹞ fushiguro megumi ﹝ jujutsu kaisen ﹞ kuroko tetsuya ﹝ kuroko no basket ﹞ kyo & hatori sohma ﹝ fruits basket ﹞

other blogs: writing ▹ animanga ▹ fic recs

[ninappon]

Tag Game! Tagged by two sweet peeps, @nakey-cats-take-bathsss & @togetherkru. Thank you ladies 😘

1. Why did you choose your url?

I was creating a sort of travel/life blog and wanted a name that connected me to Japan since I was studying there at the time. I asked around for suggestions and someone came up with a mash-up of my name, Nina, and Nippon (Japan in japanese), resulting in ninappon. Now I use this for all my various accounts :)

2. Any side blogs?

Not on here, no. My travel blog is probably dormant somewhere, I haven't checked it for a few years...

3. How long have you been on tumblr?

I don't even remember! Probably since sometime around 2008, or maybe even when tumblr was brand new. I was probably only active for a few months, and then I came back here a little over a year ago when I started reading fanfics and noticed that many writers had their blogs here.

4. Do you have a queue tag?

Honestly, I've been wondering for ages about various people's different queue tags and what they meant!! This question here made me realize that it's used for queuing a post for a later time... right?!

5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?

To use as a sort of journal I guess. I'm disappointed that I didn't keep it up to be honest, I miss writing but I never felt like I had much to write about. These days I'm only reblogging things and doing tag games.

6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?

I wanted something that showed off a little of who I am without being an actual profile pic.

7. Why did you choose your header?

As with the icon, I wanted something that reflects a little of what I like/what I'm drawn to, so I chose a flower photo I took a few years ago. Flowers, sunshine and pastels, that's my jam!

8. What’s your post with the most notes?

One of my photography posts of flowers, haha! ☝️

9. How many mutuals do you have?

Oh, I haven't counted but there's a bunch of wonderful people who I'm very glad to have connected with through the bellarke fandom! Seeing a notification from a mutual always brightens my day 💕

10. How many followers do you have?

Hm, not sure. I don't think the number I see is accurate, and I have a bunch of pornbots following me as well. My guess is around 25?

11. How many people do you follow?

Tumblr says 60, but again I don't think this is accurate. Maybe 30-40?

12. Have you ever made a shit post?

No? Not even sure what that is.

13. How often do you use tumblr a day?

Probably around two times a day, unless I'm trying to do a tag game on my breaks while at work then the number goes way up 😂

14. Did you ever have a fight/argument with another blog?

No, thank goodness!

15. How do you feel about the ‘you need to reblog’ posts?

I want to support creators if I can, but sometimes I feel like I reblog way too many posts so I also try to keep the number down.

16. Do you like tag games?

Yes! Don't hesitate to send them my way!

17. Do you like ask games?

Yes, but I can find it really difficult to answer those questions so I have only done it once or twice. I also don't have that many followers so usually it feels unnecessary to even try since not many will see it anyway.

18. Which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous?

I've always been in awe of @nakey-cats-take-bathsss, @togetherkru and @burninghoneyatdusk and their creations that they post here, so I'll go with them!

19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?

I'm sorta copying both Leah and Phanou here but I'd say I have a few "friend crushes"! I've met so many lovely mutuals through tumblr and I think it'd be nice to meet them and see if we hit it off in real life as well. You know, if distance and my social anxiety wasn't an issue.

20. No-pressure tags: @infp-with-all-the-feelings, @bookwormforalways, @heartbellamy, @moreflowersthanweeds, @burninghoneyatdusk, @igotbellarkeforthat, @bellamyblake, @excuseyouclarke, @talistheintrovert, @kinetic-elaboration & @helloeurydice 👋

[im-just-as-sane-as-you]

Life as an INFP:

1. People thinking you're weird because you do things differently to them

2. When you're actually weird but you own it

3. Constant existential crisis

4. Food

5. Procrastination

6. Starting a 1000 new books and never finishing any of them

7. Being that person who reads 7 books at any one time cos #yolo I can keep up with 12 different plot lines.

8. Taking up 1000 hobbies like Beekeeping.

9. I took up beekeeping, until a bee got in my damn suit, and stung me in the eyelid. Still got goddamn trauma from it.

10. Getting sidetracked and end up writing unnecessary paragraphs of pure rambling, and writing it as a separate point to the point on which it is about.

11. Preferring to write than speak

12. Probs likes Tim Burton films

13. Probs relates to Charlie from Perks of Being A Wallflower

14. Forget how to speak when some talks to you *cold sweats*

15. More food

15. "Why am I the way I am?"

16. Wrote 15. Twice and couldn't be bothered to change it cos it's 1am and cos YOLO

17. Probs an old soul who thinks they were born in the wrong era.

18. Forever mistyped as shy when you're just an introvert because there's A GODDAMN DIFFERENCE CLAIRE

19. Even more food

20. Feel like an outsider in a group of friends you've known for years

21. Eventually lose them friends and continue living life with a plant as your friend

22. Was the quiet one in school

23. Probs excelled in English and History

24. Had anxiety and depression at some point

25. Probs still has anxiety and depression cos its a bitch that won't go away and you too anxious or depressed to get help

26. Has an overbearing parent/guardian/family member who just wants to ✨ understand you ✨ but end up acting like a total bitch to you which makes you hate yourself

27. Slowly realises that this list is getting very deep and depressing very fast

28. Has an eclectic taste in music/books/films/TV shows

29. Uses words like eclectic to sound smart

30. More food

31. Writes stuff with 1% battery hoping our phone doesn't die before finding a charger

32. Realises that this list is still going eventhough you're running out of ideas

33. Making any random shizz up because you've got nothing better to do

34. Randomly changing font colour because y not.

35. Used to love heroes in stuff but now totally loves the villain cos who doesn't love a psychotic meglomaniac

@ Tate Langdon from AHS. oofff 🔥

36. Probs read this entire thing out of solidarity to the person who wrote it.

[creatingquirks]

hi i was hoping it’d be ok if i could get a quirk matchup please!

zodiac sign - aquarius

pet peeves - bullies, obnoxious people, being nagged at relentlessly, people who smoke / do drugs, people who are judgmental & close - minded, people who make no effort & aren’t considerate back, creeps & people who make unnecessary comments and make others feel uncomfortable & insecure, people who can’t take no for an answer, manipulative people, and so on . . .

good at - video games , editing

bad at - drawing i guess?

ambivert

personality - open-minded, nonjudgemental, helpful, good listener & gives good advice, very loving & accepting, kind, honest & blunt, passionate, understanding, considerate, funny, innocent, diligent, curious, sometimes moody?, a perfectionist, patient, empathetic, intelligent, creative, confident, observant, mature, genuine, positive, reassuring, communicative, bubbly, energetic, respectful, sensitive / emotional [depending] & i can be a whole different person if someone does me dirty and is being disrespectful to me when i already communicated with them once. i suppress my anger as long as i can but if someone keeps consistently going at it even when i tell them to stop i will blow up and get mad which isn’t pretty but i make sure not to say things i don’t mean; i’m an angry-crier. i don’t forgive people that easily. i don’t like getting mad or arguing, if i’m mad or upset at someone or something it’s not for anything petty but a reasonable thing. i’m really full of emotion and i never half-ass anything [as you can tell lol, i love going into detail and making sure i explain everything, i like writing] have trust issues so i’m hesitant with people and in groups i get social anxiety & filled w negative thoughts, basically the same in public [because i’m sheltered] but i’m good thru texting and can keep a convo going irl too. thru calls i get really shy and quiet and i need to be comfortable with the person. i love romance stuff & physical affection but i’ve never experienced it so i’d be really anxious and awkward. i get flustered easily and my face gets red easily. when i get shy & nervous and don’t know how to respond i just giggle. i don’t open up that easily and keep things to myself unless i have someone i trust. i need to connect to people on a deep emotional level i guess? i feel like i’m a very likeable person though.

mbti - when i first took the test a while ago i was a mediator (infp-a / infp-t) and i just retook it again and now i got defender (isfj-a / isfj-t)

i’m sorry it’s long, thank you for your time & have an awesome day / night !! 💜💜

Hi, hope you like this!

I give you.......

Vibe Check

Quirk type: emmiter

Quirk summary: you have the ability to make everyone around you match what you are feeling when you activate your quirk. So they will match your vibe.

Drawbacks: you can only make them match what you feel, you would have to change how you are feeling if you want to change the results of activating your quirk.

[coolsatellite]

Hi!! Matchup please? I'm 5'3 I have dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, and freckles. Infp n a libra! I'm kind, funny, n caring n always putting others before myself. Quiet and known as a good listener/therapist of the friend group. I love cats n have one! I listen to music lots n eat almost anything (I avoid raw oysters it's a traumatic story)! I love horror movies but also enjoy comedy! I play the violin n draw! I have depression & social anxiety pt1

Part 2:  n need someone who can deal with reminding me to take meds bc I forget small things way too often... I also hate drama but won't hesitate to go off if needed! Thank you so much!!

I’m matching you with Eyeless Jack!

You’re both quiet and don’t like to be around unnecessary drama which creates a really nice relationship for you

There may be a few communication issues sometimes just because he’s not very experienced when it comes to talking about how he’s feeling but it’s something he’ll work on

Jack pays close attention to your daily schedule and will remind you to do anything that may have slipped your mind during the day

Is very wary of your cat when first introduced just because he isn’t used to being around animals that weren’t created to kill

Quickly turns into a cat dad and insists on carrying them around everywhere

Let! Him! Listen! To! You! Play! Violin!

It just really comforts him okay

Since he’s very familiar with your normal routines he can pick up on your moods as soon as you enter the room

Can usually tell what kind of comfort you need based on this (a hug, food, someone to rant to, etc)

[universal-imagines]

BASICS.

raighne ( rai / rain ) ▹ 21+ ▹ she/her ▹ infp

HOBBIES.

reading ▹ writing ▹ making gifs / moodboards ▹ napping ▹ collecting notebooks / pens ▹ playing video games ▹ journaling

BAD HABITS.

staying up all night ▹ forgetting to eat ▹ procrastinating ▹ rewatching shows instead of watching a new one ▹ not accepting compliments ( don’t know how hdksjhfksdh ) ▹ keeping my feelings bottled up

RANDOM STUFF.

i am in love with the moon; i will literally run out of my house in the middle of the night, barefoot and in the cold, if someone tells me it looks pretty that night ( and i have )

i also love the rain, though i don’t like thunder. fun fact: when driving to visit some family out-of-state lighting struck right next to our car and it was loud AF and very scary

i have an unnecessary amount of notebooks, unused notebooks because they’re too pretty to use

on a similar note, i will never use any of the stickers i buy because i don’t want to regret using them, so i guess i’ll just save them until the day i die sskdjhfksfjks

i am terrible at starting conversations ( social anxiety sucks ( ˃̣̣̥ω˂̣̣̥ ) ) but i love chatting and meeting new people, so feel free to drop into my inbox/dms anytime!!

SOME FAVES.

shinsou hitoshi, amajiki tamaki & aizawa shouta ﹝ my hero academia ﹞ tomioka giyuu & hashibira inosuke ﹝ demon slayer ﹞ akira fudo ﹝ devilman crybaby ﹞ diarmuid ua duibhne / lancer ﹝ fate/zero ﹞ zhongli, xiao, kazuha & razor ﹝ genshin impact ﹞ kuroo tetsurou & kozume kenma ﹝ haikyuu ﹞ fushiguro megumi ﹝ jujutsu kaisen ﹞ kuroko tetsuya ﹝ kuroko no basket ﹞ kyo & hatori sohma ﹝ fruits basket ﹞ nagi seishirou & kunigami rensuke ﹝ blue lock ﹞ l  ﹝ death note ﹞ roy mustang & greedling  ﹝ fullmetal alchemist ﹞ chifuyu, draken, mitsuya & baji  ﹝ tokyo revengers ﹞

other links: ao3 ▹ hq blog ▹ anima/manga blog ▹ fic rec blog

[boredjodyc]

Tfw you’re writing something you wanna share with some people... Then, getting too carried away because you haven’t fangirled with them for some time, you might just have overstepped and crept them out (?) 

And now you’re beating yourself up for your stupidity ._. 

I must have been away from fangirling on Tumblr for too long oops.

[infjingontheroad]

What do you like about INFPs?

That’s a very good question, because almost all of my closest friends are or have been XNFPs, so there must be some underlying reason.

As an INFJ and a socially anxious person, I am mostly attracted to NFs types because they’re easier to get along with, but Fi has a unique ‘what you see is what you get’ attitude that makes it also easier to get closer to. I mean, INFPs will not beat around the bush, bullshit you or emotionally manipulate you into liking them: if they’re interested in you then they are, if they are not interested in you then they are not. They will not try to mold their personality around your needs. This can be a double edged sword because it makes them uncompromising, but I find it extremely relaxing: if my INFP friend decides they like me, then they do, I don’t have to worry about pleasing them because Fe and social anxiety say so. I know what to expect of an INFP friend because they are always true to themselves. 

Ne also makes them as ‘weird’ as me, even tho Ne is more all over the place than Ni, so we get plenty of topics to discuss, no matter how abstract and unrelated they may seem. Fi keeps Ne in check, so the discussions are a little more opinionated than with an ENFP, but it’s still amazing and incredibly relaxing to just let your mind explore concepts and ideas like this, without a fear for being judged or a general fear for ‘deep’ topics. Also, we would both be introverted, so I do not feel any pressure to manifest extraverted tendencies.

Let me tell you a story: one of my closets friends is an INFP and we’ve known each other since high school. Back then we hated each other with a passion. Literally. I am an extremely pacific and conflict-avoidant person but we would literally fight and lash out at each other. Why? Fe vs Fi. She thought I was fake and I thought she was picking useless battles because she would speak her mind all the damn time, even when it was unnecessary, while I would let things go more easily, for the sake of harmony. 

She was also the weird type, just as much as me, but she didn’t hide it, she wasn’t worried at all about what other people thought and I admired her for that. I also couldn’t stand the way she would violently lash out at people because of not agreeing with her ideas (immature Fi-Te) but I tried to understand her point of view and, little by little, as the years passed and we both matured, we became closer and by the third year of highschool we were friends. And I am still excessively agreeable and she is still prone to uncompromising Fi-Te bursts, but let me tell you: she is the most loyal and truthful friend I’ve had, because her Fi chose me in the end. It took a few years, it took for it to trust me, but she won’t let me go. Then there is Ne, which means we started a dozen of projects but never finished even one of them, her thinking she was an INTJ and me going “No” “But what if-” “No. You’re the INFP-est INFP who ever INFPed” and her having a new weird interest every other week while I mostly just mull over the same passions. 

In her own awkward and weird way, she has been with me through thick and thin and, well, I do consider myself lucky for it. I like to think that, not only function-wise, we complement each other: I ground her in the now and act like the responsible one, preventing her from lashing out too much, while she pushes me to be true to myself and independent and acts as an anchor when I need one. I can’t speak for all INFJs and all INFPs, but in my experience an INFP-INFJ friendship can have very interesting dynamics and prompt both types to grow and mature.

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INFP Depression… Is It Inevitable In This Evil World?

To be an INFP is to be a walking paradox. We are authentic, deeply feeling creatures, which makes us the comfortable people to be around. We give acceptance and understand others’ emotions without judging. We love deeply. But feeling too much is also our burden, and hence the paradox. Our biggest weaknesses are the same as our biggest strengths. What makes us understanding and empathetic, makes us also extremely vulnerable to all negativity. Which traits make an INFP depression-prone then?

The answer is:

Weltschmerz.

WHAT?!

Nope, it’s not some weapon of mass destruction. This terrible German word stands for “world-weariness”, but Wikipedia explains it way better:

Weltschmerz denotes the kind of feeling experienced by someone who understands that physical reality can never satisfy the demands of the mind.

INFP & Depression… Why Me?

Depression isn’t unavoidable for the INPFs. There are many different causes of depression, and personality is just one of them. However, the way we think, perceive and interpret the world may be one of the risk factors that makes us prone to falling victims of depression and anxiety.

What are the INFP traits that make us susceptible to depression?

I’m a hopeless idealist who holds extremely high standards and expectations never to be fulfilled. Especially when it comes to love, relationships, and morality. When I love someone, nothing else matters. That’s why losing one of those who loved me unconditionally was by far the most traumatic experience I’ve ever had, which triggered a whole lot of other problems.

My naivety makes me an easy target for narcissists and other toxic individuals. I automatically assume everyone’s intentions are as pure as mine are, even when their actions show quite the opposite. I can’t imagine that someone can hurt me intentionally. For most of my life, I believed that “honesty is the best policy”, even though I suffered often as a result. Only recently, my Mom has told me: “You know, Marta, it’s important to be honest, but sometimes it’s better to sweep certain things under the carpet and not to tell the whole truth, especially to your superiors”. Mom, why didn’t you tell me earlier?! It hurts to discover in your adult life that not everyone has good intentions.

The empathy that makes me a good listener, also makes me extremely susceptible to other’s moods, and I truly hate that. I get easily upset with problems that aren’t mine or get “infected” with other’s bad mood and unnecessary tension. I can burst into tears watching any movie and I find it hard to say “no”, so people often take advantage of me.

My communications skills are another strength that often turns into a weakness. From a simple conversation, I receive tons of input: the pitch of your voice, your facial expression, your intonation, your enthusiasm or lack of it, your choice of words… that’s a lot of data to deal with and everything matters.

Closed in my internal world, I think a lot. I overthink everything that happens to me. I ask myself lots of why questions to understand better, but I often don’t come up with satisfying answers. I started writing this blog to get those thoughts out of my head.

I’m a born artist, but as a perfectionist, I never find my “artwork” satisfying and I often get discouraged by the lack of progress.

I’m a perfectionist on one hand, but also quite messy and chaotic on another. Administrative tasks are just too boring to keep me engaged. I do as I feel, and thus, I often start new projects and suddenly abandon them. As a result, I often get stuck in my dreams and artistic visions… There are so many exciting things to do and so little time, that I’d rather spend it on something else than paperwork, or learning the basics.

Being sensitive, I get stressed easily. It’s hard not to get stressed when you feel intensely, truly care and aim for perfection. And in stressful situations, I tend to avoid solving the problem until it is too big to manage. Obviously, procrastination adds to my stress making my life and self-esteem miserable.

Overwhelmed by the injustice and cruelty of this world, I switch to my hermit mode. Terrorism, wars, abuse of the weak and the poor, destroying the Earth for profit… I want to make a change, teach love, end suffering, but no matter how much time and effort I dedicate, it will never be enough. When I think about all the evil, I seriously consider withdrawing to a wooden hut in the middle of nowhere, out of network coverage, where I can only hear the birds singing and no bad people can reach me. But I know I would feel lonely too.

I have a tendency to be a people pleaser and a praise junkie, which makes me extremely susceptible to criticism. If I put my whole heart in something, it’s unavoidable to take it personally. Even a complete lack of feedback is interpreted as “not good enough”.

Being independent, creative, idealistic and cause-oriented, we generally make poor employees. Especially in businesses that are all about the money, such as insurance and finance, for instance (hell, yeah). We can’t bear when our work doesn’t stand in line with our values. But bills don’t pay themselves, so it’s normal for an INPF to be lost in terms of a career. Jobs that demand helping people are difficult too, since witnessing others suffer is too painful and may lead to burnout.

No wonder that INFP is the personality type that statistically makes less money than any other. That’s not very comforting. 

source: By Marta / infp and depression, perfectionism, personality 

[posiey]

Could I get a ship please? I'm around 5'8 with short curly hair that's brown. Also I have blue/green eyes. I have an INFP personality and I love music, movies, and literature. I also am learning ASL. I want to be in an occupation where I could help people (possibly both) mentally or physically. I am additionally every affectionate towards the people I care and trust (which isn't many).Also I tend to be an emotional and sensitive person but I hate to show emotions whenever it's unnecessary. Thx!

I ship you with Jason Todd!I feel like you would be amazing to help Jason out when he has panic attacks or just feels clouded with anxiety. At first you guys didn't get quite along, since you two are closed out to people at first, your relationship was rocky with him. But once you guys hung out more and developed into a dating relationship you both opened up to each other little by little.

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I’m really starting to wonder about my mental health. ((More unnecessary personal rambles lol))

My mother has Borderline Personality Disorder, and while that isn’t necessarily given to children through either nature or nurture, traits of BPD can develop in those raised by a BPD parent. My sister, for example, has extreme narcissism that she’s unaware of. She can’t hold onto a conversation if it’s not about her. She has poor listening skills for other people, and tends to always bring the conversation back to herself. She does honestly mean well deep down, but is so blinded by her own personality flaws, that she can’t see how destructive she’s been with family and her past relationships.  My brothers on my mothers side also suffer to a large extent. Two of them have an alcohol problem, and the other has extreme social anxiety as well as disassociation issues.

I was raised by my birth mother for about 9 years of my life. I’ve been told I don’t reflect any of her negative qualities but I think the true reality that I’m starting to see now is that I’ve had those traits but have hidden them fairly well, all except towards one person. Only one person truly saw who I was right down to the roots, the rawest form of my positive and negative traits. A 10 year friendship that has been fucked up very badly. Her experience aside, though, if I reflect upon my elementary and junior high years I’ve had similar problems socializing at a younger age. Most people in my life have attributed this to my “shy disposition” but I was actually anything but shy in school. I had a way of throwing my “wild card” at people and letting them “deal with it” because it was ‘who I was.’ This behaviour didn’t really stop until I started working at about 18. I remember yelling out the circumcision information of a student down the hallway because I thought it was funny and he “shouldn’t care about who knows about it or not.” From what I can tell by analyzing my past self, anything that I labelled as nothing to “stress about” I didn’t take seriously, and therefore deemed it as okay to laugh about. I only ever thought of my perspective on an issue. I never considered what it may mean to another person, and if they did take a matter more seriously or differently than I did, I would rationalize that they should just, “shake it off” or “roll with the punches” because I was just “teasing” and if I didn’t take it seriously, then they shouldn’t either. Apparently I “knew” best. *eyeroll* But, that’s not how life works and.. that’s quite selfish. Looking back, it all seems like a fuck load of inconsideration from my end. 

I bullied others, pants’d my friends, scared people on purpose, made fun of teachers and students to the point where I was almost expelled (and was suspended for three weeks) I mocked others ideas if they didn’t match mine. Like when a guy in our class did ballet for the talent show, I was brutal, calling him a faggot and such (whoops, 10 years later and I’m a shining rainbow myself)

I guess I’m just worried that most of my life I’ve been inconsiderate and selfish. I’m a child who was raised in abusive households for 13 years of my life. It’s not an excuse though, and I’m still hurting people around me. I’m really trying to break it down to understand the true cause of it all. And well, childhood is always where to start. BPD traits include: - Fear of Abandonment  - Unclear or unstable self-image.  - Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors.  - Self Harm  - Extreme emotional swings  - Chronic feelings of emptiness.  - Explosive anger  -Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality

So, obviously self diagnosing is bad, but I do have concerns. A lot of my life has fallen apart and I feel like I need to rebuild myself from the ground up. About 7 out of 8 of those traits have been huge parts of my childhood thus far; with two bleeding into my adult life.

Here’s some interesting things I’ve read about BPD:

“What would you expect to see in a mother (or a dad) with borderline personality features?  ...you would see narcissism, that is, inability to attune to others' needs, including her child's.  Instead of attunement to the child's needs, whatever happens would be experienced as 'all about her.'

Here's a classic example of a borderline parent in a situation that most dads or moms would react to with an easy hug.  Mom and child are walking on the sidewalk.  Child falls.  Mom erupts in fury. "How could you fall like that here where everyone can see you?  You are making me look bad!"  The child's concerns would be irrelevant.  The mother's reaction to the incident would be all about Mom.” -Psychology Today

“Children whose parents meet the criteria for BPD are at five times greater risk than other children in the general population to acquire this personality disorder” (APA, 2000). 

“The main traits of the disorder include emotional deregulation, impulsivity, and difficulties with interpersonal relationships i.e. fear of abandonment and unclear boundaries” (Paris, 2007)

“Frequently, parents with BPD experienced cognitive distortions when at a level of intensified affect, producing a gap in memory.”

“Susceptibility to psychopathalogy consists of two factors “cognitive vulnerability factors,” such as low-self esteem, ruminative tendencies, high self criticism and pessimistic accrediting and “interpersonal vulnerability factors,”  like reassurance seeking, dependency and insecure attachment styles. Combined, these two factors create an even greater risk for children with parents with BPD to not only have an episode of depression, but to also develop BPD (Abela et al.). “ - Scholar Works.

I suppose, at the very least, I DO have more self awareness over these things than before. It’s unfortunate that it’s been so long before I realized it though.  That being said, I wonder (and will be mindful of from now on) if the awareness of this behaviour, will actually help it cease to exist.

All in all, I’ve had more of those traits on that list in my youth, rather than within the past 4 years. Lying out of fear of abandonment, and general selfish behaviour have been the main concerns over the past little while. BPD is technically something that can be overcome from what I understand, so if I do have these traits then perhaps with an increasing level of self awareness, I’ll level out as a person. After all, it would be just the traits, not the actual disorder itself.

Before last July, I hadn’t realized the extent to which I make things about myself. In all honesty I’d even dubb it as an INFP (Fi) thing back then, since introverted feeling is about being yourself and refusing social roles despite risking making yourself look socially rude or selfish. The reality is though I’ve been ridiculously cunning and manipulative to avoid abandonment/confrontation for over 3 years. Lying, preparing, planning, avoiding conflict, hiding, etc.

It’s been much more than me “following my heart” or keeping my “moral principles” It’s become a distorted BPD-esque version. Perhaps Fi but unhealthily so. I cared about people but was willing to disrespect their characters to sate my insecurity. To the point where both were taken for granted immensely.  Either way, I did have the revelation of this pattern of destructive, self preserving behaviour while out for a deep thinking walk. Thank god for nature, always helping me be grounded again and again throughout life.

So idk, weird self analysis ramble over. I should really just start putting these in a journal or something lol but I guess a blog is a blog for a reason?