#tw; anon hate mention

[notdrifting]

tale as old as time, its like talking to wall i swear

[frownyalfred]

Can I get clarification on your pro shipping post? The example you gave was a 20 year old with a 40 year old, and that's "problematic" (not really), but not really what I think of when I hear "pro shipping". Usually it's the shipping of minor/adult or incestuous relationships that I see getting defended. Does being against fictional works/ships that depict pedophilic or incestuous relationships as normal/romantic count as puritanism to you? Do you see the ship of Bruce Wayne/Damian Wayne as a personal preference with no moral implications?

I think there's a huge difference between being personally against something, and wanting to shame others or ban others from reading or writing something. The Puritanism comes from wanting to limit and ostracize others who don't share your beliefs. It comes from believing that your perspective is the only morally right one.

I think there will always be people who want to write or read about ships like that, yeah -- incest, pseudo-incest, everything in between. By moral implications, do you mean for the person interested in the ship? Or do you mean for others? Because I see that concern a lot on here -- this idea that somehow, by wanting to read/write about something, people are either 1) harming others by spreading this morally wrong ship or 2) harming themselves by normalizing the ship, and therefore making it more likely that they'll pursue similar relationships in their real lives.

We don't have much evidence for either of those claims. People have been clutching their pearls and wringing their hands over "morally wrong" books for ages -- and yet, Game of Thrones is still available in every bookstore. Am I a bad or woefully misguided person for having read Lolita in high school? Is a 16 year old reading a Bruce/Damian fic likely to turn around, shrug, and say "guess fucking my Dad is okay now"? Did an entire generation of fans shipping Wincest somehow have lasting, moral effects? I really don't think so. Not at the scale anti-shippers online seem to think, at least.

I think we need to separate how we moralize people from the content that they consume. And acknowledge that shaming and excluding people for wanting to read something doesn't exactly do much to prevent "moral implications." There's also a huge difference between reading a book, and endorsing the ideas/events inside of it. Same things with fics.

Anti-shipping is very appealing to people because it purports to protect people from harm. Until you look a little closer, and you realize that that protection comes at the expense of free expression, creative license, and agency to choose what we personally do and do not consume. And that that protection isn't really airtight out of your anti-shipping discord or tumblr community.

I think the best we can do is let people write and read what they want -- whatever they want, with limited warnings/etc like ao3 employs -- and ensure that those pieces of content are tagged, warned, and displayed accurately. We need to understand that the only control we have is over ourselves, and what we choose personally to consume or not consume.

I don't generally read those fics you mentioned, but I'm not saying they should be banned from ao3. Just because I might possibly think they're wrong or gross doesn't mean I think the person who wrote them is wrong or gross, either. The more we go down that moral slip and slide, like I said in my previous post, the worse off we will all become.

[cringefaecompilation]

No but really the Imodna criticism has only made me double down harder. You mean to tell me I lived through 2000s tv that inevitably and reliably buried gay relationships as soon as they were established, so much so that there is now an entire ‘bury your gays’ trope in modern media… only for streaming services to dominate serialized shows and force them into condensed and truncated seasons that air once every two or three YEARS… to then have Critical Role.. with over 1000 hours of its campaigns over a decade… to dedicate enough time to a friendship between two women that actually and organically developed into romantic feelings.. only for people to complain that its codependent or forced or one-sided? Like. Have we grown too online to appreciate how fucking miraculous the sapphic ships CR has given the community actually are?

you know it's a good lesbian ship when straight people or otherwise not lesbians are accusing you of hating platonic female friendship or claiming it's basically incest to ship them

[couldtransitionsaveher]

I hope hamas rapes you next ;)

Normal people: Hey, how's it going?

[hindulivesmatter]

You deserve to be raped with your clit cut and uterus busted.

it is far too early in the morning for this you sick, sick fuck. I hope you never know what peace looks like in your life. I hope your friends and family find out you send messages like these and fucking disown you. You are a disgrace to humanity and all things kind and good. Fuck. You.

[dreamlifebunny]

kill yourself

This is so funny to me because I had my anons off for several months due to personal life issues and needing to catch up on other asks, then today I thought "You know what, I'm gonna open them up and start answering questions again!" and THIS was the first message I received without even announcing my asks were open lmaoo 😭😭😭

Anon I am happy to talk about why you sent this over DMs if you'd like! I'm sorry you're feeling hurt, let me know if you want to talk more about this privately. I don't know what I did to upset you but sending d3ath threats is not the way to get someone to change their behaviour. It's also a criminal offence to encourage someone to hurt themselves; please keep this in mind and consider not doing this in the future.

[azelmaandeponine]

If Stan wanted to get revenge on Filbrick and committed parricide, I wouldn't judge him.

Me if Stan gets revenge via patricide:

[whereserpentswalk]

"sexual assault isn't ressistance" seriously stop trying to conform to western purity standards! we cannot resist zions oppression with people like you telling everyone what can and can't be praxis!!! people are going to have to face conasqences for what their countries do and this type of praxis has been done in the swana region for thousands of years!!!

What the fuck how do I even answer this? How are tankies this wrong about humans?

Chat, is it imperialism to think rape is bad?

[maryland-officially]

....I probably should block them.

[holy-reference-in-a-username]

was afraid to say anything bcuz ppl seemed to b enjoying the comic but I do have to say I am a little concerned about how you're handling the topic of s/a /gen

i think this ask is important to answer, because this is a pretty serious topic.

Content warning: discussion of SA

firstly, i want to make it clear that i don't intend to portray SA as positive in any way. if anyone following me condones r*pe, unfollow me now and seek therapy. i don't think i need to justify that.

i also don't want to pretend like my work is immune to criticism, because it isn't. i'm not an expert. i haven't been assaulted. hell, i've never even been in a relationship, sexual or otherwise.

with that being said,

if anyone has concerns or criticisms about the way i've been presenting the topic of SA, please let me know.

i have my askbox open (with anons on) for a reason. don't be afraid to open up a conversation, comments in this post included.

i have been careful in tagging, using post cuts, and providing content warnings for the tomtord comic with the intention to make it easy for people to avoid topics they are uncomfortable with. if there's anything else i should be doing to make my blog safer, i would be grateful for recommendations! if necessary, i can also move the comic and similar artwork to a separate blog, but i feel like tumblr's tagging system should be enough to keep this kind of content contained.

[syshop-culture-is]

fuck you guys for stealing a fucking ramcoa term fucking use a different fucking term fuck you

its not a ramcoa term, please learn :)! the person who used it for their ramcoa experience has stated Multiple Times, they were just speaking of their experiences.

also this ask is rlly funny lol.

oh and to note, we are also a ramcoa survivor. so. if you're gonna say im "stealing" or gonna assume I'm not. i am, so I'll state it now.

[2facedweirdo]

Nobody cares about ur stupid little dumb blog, ur a wannbe plus si or @lavender-teardroplettes was the first, he did the cat sona thing first and he does it better than you will ever will be. Go cry to ur mama you bitch

OMG YIPPIEEE MY FIRST ASK AND MY FIRST HATE ANON!!!! >W<

ANYWAYS back to the ask, ur right, nobody cares about my blog but the fact that ive been noticed by MANY amazing blogs like campwillowpeak or restart heart OR krows nestOR stanf and many others just shows that MAYBE somebody cares! plus im unnoticed because im new to the site and i dont post much due to the fact that i have work UNLIKE SOME PEOPLE cough you cough ehm so yeah. and ur right @lavender-teardroplettes IS better than me and they were before me but the cat sona thing was when i was a kid. I always wanted to become a cat and i also am a therian so thats y i made chloe a cat ^^

oh and for the last part

[diosakuu]

ALESSI IS NOT YOURS. IS NOT YOURS. IS NOT YOURS. GO KYS RIHGHT NOWNGO KIYS SKKWKKMS MKSHSHISKS

he's a fictional character, hope this helps. he can be totally yours, just block me and move on 🫶

edit: also not answering your other asks, too repetitive and i don't wanna fill my blog with hate.

[couldtransitionsaveher]

I'm a feminist. Me and my friends all vote no on every post because we think they're all disgusting men, most likely rapists who should kill themselves, and then we laugh about how stupid and sexist this blog is in our discord for making fun of you. I think it's probably the majority of the no votes at this point. Sometimes one of us misclicks by accident though. I hate you!

To this definitely real person who totally isn't just some right-wing troll trying to stir outrage,

I apologize for the very real stress this blog with barely over 1k followers may have caused you. I understand that this is the biggest problem in your life right now, and you're just dying to address it. Please accept this official @couldtransitionsaveher No-Prize™ for your trouble.

[greensaplinggrace]

🔥 about Baghra and darkling's relationship

alright! this one's going to be kind of heavy though. I know I've talked about my feelings on the darkling and baghra's relationship being canonically emotionally abusive and most likely also physically abusive, but I've never really talked about my feelings on the fact that their relationship is a textbook version of emotional incest, and that baghra abused him in this way too.

now: "emotional incest often takes place when a parent lacks or has lost their own emotional support system, including their partner or spouse. they might feel isolated or not know how to find constructive outlets for difficult emotions in these cases." (x)

the relationship on it's own displays signs of this: in baghra's jealousy and possessiveness when it comes to aleksander's connections with others (often romantic), the ways she teaches him to survive often overlapping with a desire to isolate him from others so she is his only support system, her expectation of his responsibility as an adult in an adult relationship even when he's a child (and then later the expectation of his acting in a relationship with her when they're both adults), and her active blurring of his boundaries, as well as numerous other things.

when you know baghra's history, it becomes even more obvious, however. because the reason she had him in the first place was to fill the void of a life partner and a spouse - this is extremely evident in her abandoning of all previous children until she not only had one that could live as long as her, but also one that could understand her emotions and needs as a shadow summoner, and one that she would have an easier time of grooming into her likeness and her partner.

it also becomes obvious from a character standpoint when you consider that her efforts to have this child who could serve as her partner were driven by many of the classic emotions that lead to emotional incest, such as her loneliness, her grief and loss (or desire not to grieve and always lose others), the lack of intimacy and emotional availability in her life, as well as attachment trauma and a fear of abandonment, and the fact that she's self obsessed.

so anyways, that's my unpopular opinion on baghra. I think it's kind of commonly accepted in fandom that she 'wasn't the greatest mom', but that kind of sidesteps the fact that she was not only actively abusive, but acted incestuously towards her son.

send me a 🔥 for an unpopular opinion (x)

[eclipian]

How the heck are you anti-radq... And make stuff for transplurals, willogenics, etc...

transplurals & willogenic aren't the same. willogenic isnt radqueer. i will not and will never support people who believe in joining cults to "transition to trauma" and/or encourage such behavior thank you very much <3!!

Mod Music Note: Ditto