#tw; anon hate mention

[notdrifting]

tale as old as time, its like talking to wall i swear

[ndcultureis]

Autism culture is not feeling things in the normal way and hating yourself for it

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[frownyalfred]

Can I get clarification on your pro shipping post? The example you gave was a 20 year old with a 40 year old, and that's "problematic" (not really), but not really what I think of when I hear "pro shipping". Usually it's the shipping of minor/adult or incestuous relationships that I see getting defended. Does being against fictional works/ships that depict pedophilic or incestuous relationships as normal/romantic count as puritanism to you? Do you see the ship of Bruce Wayne/Damian Wayne as a personal preference with no moral implications?

I think there's a huge difference between being personally against something, and wanting to shame others or ban others from reading or writing something. The Puritanism comes from wanting to limit and ostracize others who don't share your beliefs. It comes from believing that your perspective is the only morally right one.

I think there will always be people who want to write or read about ships like that, yeah -- incest, pseudo-incest, everything in between. By moral implications, do you mean for the person interested in the ship? Or do you mean for others? Because I see that concern a lot on here -- this idea that somehow, by wanting to read/write about something, people are either 1) harming others by spreading this morally wrong ship or 2) harming themselves by normalizing the ship, and therefore making it more likely that they'll pursue similar relationships in their real lives.

We don't have much evidence for either of those claims. People have been clutching their pearls and wringing their hands over "morally wrong" books for ages -- and yet, Game of Thrones is still available in every bookstore. Am I a bad or woefully misguided person for having read Lolita in high school? Is a 16 year old reading a Bruce/Damian fic likely to turn around, shrug, and say "guess fucking my Dad is okay now"? Did an entire generation of fans shipping Wincest somehow have lasting, moral effects? I really don't think so. Not at the scale anti-shippers online seem to think, at least.

I think we need to separate how we moralize people from the content that they consume. And acknowledge that shaming and excluding people for wanting to read something doesn't exactly do much to prevent "moral implications." There's also a huge difference between reading a book, and endorsing the ideas/events inside of it. Same things with fics.

Anti-shipping is very appealing to people because it purports to protect people from harm. Until you look a little closer, and you realize that that protection comes at the expense of free expression, creative license, and agency to choose what we personally do and do not consume. And that that protection isn't really airtight out of your anti-shipping discord or tumblr community.

I think the best we can do is let people write and read what they want -- whatever they want, with limited warnings/etc like ao3 employs -- and ensure that those pieces of content are tagged, warned, and displayed accurately. We need to understand that the only control we have is over ourselves, and what we choose personally to consume or not consume.

I don't generally read those fics you mentioned, but I'm not saying they should be banned from ao3. Just because I might possibly think they're wrong or gross doesn't mean I think the person who wrote them is wrong or gross, either. The more we go down that moral slip and slide, like I said in my previous post, the worse off we will all become.

[cringefaecompilation]

No but really the Imodna criticism has only made me double down harder. You mean to tell me I lived through 2000s tv that inevitably and reliably buried gay relationships as soon as they were established, so much so that there is now an entire ‘bury your gays’ trope in modern media… only for streaming services to dominate serialized shows and force them into condensed and truncated seasons that air once every two or three YEARS… to then have Critical Role.. with over 1000 hours of its campaigns over a decade… to dedicate enough time to a friendship between two women that actually and organically developed into romantic feelings.. only for people to complain that its codependent or forced or one-sided? Like. Have we grown too online to appreciate how fucking miraculous the sapphic ships CR has given the community actually are?

you know it's a good lesbian ship when straight people or otherwise not lesbians are accusing you of hating platonic female friendship or claiming it's basically incest to ship them

[couldtransitionsaveher]

I hope hamas rapes you next ;)

Normal people: Hey, how's it going?

[hindulivesmatter]

You deserve to be raped with your clit cut and uterus busted.

it is far too early in the morning for this you sick, sick fuck. I hope you never know what peace looks like in your life. I hope your friends and family find out you send messages like these and fucking disown you. You are a disgrace to humanity and all things kind and good. Fuck. You.

[meeb-motes]

ah, that anon still going at it??? i think its the same person that was ableist towards us for. checks notes. having zoophilic intrusive thoughts??? and basically implied they don’t believe paraphiles deserve human rights???

just speculation, but honestly wouldn’t be surprised ^^

— hazel

WHAT ,??,,,,,?????? D:

ew …. /nay

( also aren’t you…. Not a zoo what ??)

well if anon was referring to you then they were completely wrong and just a jerk.

I’m sorry to hear that someone was harassing you /vgen

-???

[dreamlifebunny]

kill yourself

This is so funny to me because I had my anons off for several months due to personal life issues and needing to catch up on other asks, then today I thought "You know what, I'm gonna open them up and start answering questions again!" and THIS was the first message I received without even announcing my asks were open lmaoo 😭😭😭

Anon I am happy to talk about why you sent this over DMs if you'd like! I'm sorry you're feeling hurt, let me know if you want to talk more about this privately. I don't know what I did to upset you but sending d3ath threats is not the way to get someone to change their behaviour. It's also a criminal offence to encourage someone to hurt themselves; please keep this in mind and consider not doing this in the future.

[azelmaandeponine]

If Stan wanted to get revenge on Filbrick and committed parricide, I wouldn't judge him.

Me if Stan gets revenge via patricide:

[whereserpentswalk]

"sexual assault isn't ressistance" seriously stop trying to conform to western purity standards! we cannot resist zions oppression with people like you telling everyone what can and can't be praxis!!! people are going to have to face conasqences for what their countries do and this type of praxis has been done in the swana region for thousands of years!!!

What the fuck how do I even answer this? How are tankies this wrong about humans?

Chat, is it imperialism to think rape is bad?

[maryland-officially]

....I probably should block them.

[holy-reference-in-a-username]

was afraid to say anything bcuz ppl seemed to b enjoying the comic but I do have to say I am a little concerned about how you're handling the topic of s/a /gen

i think this ask is important to answer, because this is a pretty serious topic.

Content warning: discussion of SA

firstly, i want to make it clear that i don't intend to portray SA as positive in any way. if anyone following me condones r*pe, unfollow me now and seek therapy. i don't think i need to justify that.

i also don't want to pretend like my work is immune to criticism, because it isn't. i'm not an expert. i haven't been assaulted. hell, i've never even been in a relationship, sexual or otherwise.

with that being said,

if anyone has concerns or criticisms about the way i've been presenting the topic of SA, please let me know.

i have my askbox open (with anons on) for a reason. don't be afraid to open up a conversation, comments in this post included.

i have been careful in tagging, using post cuts, and providing content warnings for the tomtord comic with the intention to make it easy for people to avoid topics they are uncomfortable with. if there's anything else i should be doing to make my blog safer, i would be grateful for recommendations! if necessary, i can also move the comic and similar artwork to a separate blog, but i feel like tumblr's tagging system should be enough to keep this kind of content contained.

[ghosting-plural-userboxes]

I'm going to find you. I'm going to kidnap you and I am going to rape you and I'm going to keep raping you over and over and over again until you die. <3

Im sorry fucking what ,?, FUCKING WHAT ? I’m sorry but you’re fucking pathetic . You’re a pathetic ducking peice of absolute utter sludge . Your are that fucking liquid at the bottom of dumpsters .

You can’t even go off anon you fucking absolute waste of a person .

Your parents should have used fucking protection so you were created you pathetic pathetic peice of absolute dog shit.

If you were trying to trigger us a SA , COCSA , CSA survivors then fucking congrats . Fucking congrats you triggered a literal child who has been SAED multiple times by multiple different people , a fucking child who still scratches their skin raw cuz they Can feel those awful touches . A child who was taken advantage of multiple times . Congrats are you happy ? Are you fucking happy ? We hope you are . We hope your have with your miserable fucking life and existence and we are hope your happy that all you do is inflict pain and suffering.

and we are GLAD we are fucking GLAD that you will never have to expedience what we did . No one including you deserves that . You don’t deserve to be abused , groomed and sexual assaulted . Even though you’re an absolute piece of shit .

we hope your fucking happy with yourself .

We hope your happy you made a fucking abuse survivor cry .

[syshop-culture-is]

fuck you guys for stealing a fucking ramcoa term fucking use a different fucking term fuck you

its not a ramcoa term, please learn :)! the person who used it for their ramcoa experience has stated Multiple Times, they were just speaking of their experiences.

also this ask is rlly funny lol.

oh and to note, we are also a ramcoa survivor. so. if you're gonna say im "stealing" or gonna assume I'm not. i am, so I'll state it now.

[couldtransitionsaveher]

I'm a feminist. Me and my friends all vote no on every post because we think they're all disgusting men, most likely rapists who should kill themselves, and then we laugh about how stupid and sexist this blog is in our discord for making fun of you. I think it's probably the majority of the no votes at this point. Sometimes one of us misclicks by accident though. I hate you!

To this definitely real person who totally isn't just some right-wing troll trying to stir outrage,

I apologize for the very real stress this blog with barely over 1k followers may have caused you. I understand that this is the biggest problem in your life right now, and you're just dying to address it. Please accept this official @couldtransitionsaveher No-Prize™ for your trouble.

[silly-lil-scribbles]

woag was just going into settings to look through my asks and apparently i lost like over 100 followers somewhere in the past like week or two????????????? i mean im not upset, my posts and art suck ass and idk why anyone follows me to begin with and nobody is obligated to stay but im just really confused if i did something now