#tw: transphobia mentioned

[samwisethewitch]

Homemaking, gardening, and self-sufficiency resources that won't radicalize you into a hate group

It seems like self-sufficiency and homemaking skills are blowing up right now. With the COVID-19 pandemic and the current economic crisis, a lot of folks, especially young people, are looking to develop skills that will help them be a little bit less dependent on our consumerist economy. And I think that's generally a good thing. I think more of us should know how to cook a meal from scratch, grow our own vegetables, and mend our own clothes. Those are good skills to have.

Unfortunately, these "self-sufficiency" skills are often used as a recruiting tactic by white supremacists, TERFs, and other hate groups. They become a way to reconnect to or relive the "good old days," a romanticized (false) past before modern society and civil rights. And for a lot of people, these skills are inseparably connected to their politics and may even be used as a tool to indoctrinate new people.

In the spirit of building safe communities, here's a complete list of the safe resources I've found for learning homemaking, gardening, and related skills. Safe for me means queer- and trans-friendly, inclusive of different races and cultures, does not contain Christian preaching, and does not contain white supremacist or TERF dog whistles.

Homemaking/Housekeeping/Caring for your home:

Making It by Kelly Coyne and Erik Knutzen [book] (The big crunchy household DIY book; includes every level of self-sufficiency from making your own toothpaste and laundry soap to setting up raised beds to butchering a chicken. Authors are explicitly left-leaning.)

Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair by Mercury Stardust [book] (A guide to simple home repair tasks, written with rentals in mind; very compassionate and accessible language.)

How To Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis [book] (The book about cleaning and housework for people who get overwhelmed by cleaning and housework, based on the premise that messiness is not a moral failing; disability and neurodivergence friendly; genuinely changed how I approach cleaning tasks.)

Gardening

Rebel Gardening by Alessandro Vitale [book] (Really great introduction to urban gardening; explicitly discusses renter-friendly garden designs in small spaces; lots of DIY solutions using recycled materials; note that the author lives in England, so check if plants are invasive in your area before putting them in the ground.)

Country/Rural Living:

Woodsqueer by Gretchen Legler [book] (Memoir of a lesbian who lives and works on a rural farm in Maine with her wife; does a good job of showing what it's like to be queer in a rural space; CW for mentions of domestic violence, infidelity/cheating, and internalized homophobia)

"Debunking the Off-Grid Fantasy" by Maggie Mae Fish [video essay] (Deconstructs the off-grid lifestyle and the myth of self-reliance)

Sewing/Mending:

Annika Victoria [YouTube channel] (No longer active, but their videos are still a great resource for anyone learning to sew; check out the beginner project playlist to start. This is where I learned a lot of what I know about sewing.)

Make, Sew, and Mend by Bernadette Banner [book] (A very thorough written introduction to hand-sewing, written by a clothing historian; lots of fun garment history facts; explicitly inclusive of BIPOC, queer, and trans sewists.)

Sustainability/Land Stewardship

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer [book] (Most of you have probably already read this one or had it recommended to you, but it really is that good; excellent example of how traditional animist beliefs -- in this case, indigenous American beliefs -- can exist in healthy symbiosis with science; more philosophy than how-to, but a great foundational resource.)

Wild Witchcraft by Rebecca Beyer [book] (This one is for my fellow witches; one of my favorite witchcraft books, and an excellent example of a place-based practice deeply rooted in the land.)

Avoiding the "Crunchy to Alt Right Pipeline"

Note: the "crunchy to alt-right pipeline" is a term used to describe how white supremacists and other far right groups use "crunchy" spaces (i.e., spaces dedicated to farming, homemaking, alternative medicine, simple living/slow living, etc.) to recruit and indoctrinate people into their movements. Knowing how this recruitment works can help you recognize it when you do encounter it and avoid being influenced by it.

"The Crunchy-to-Alt-Right Pipeline" by Kathleen Belew [magazine article] (Good, short introduction to this issue and its history.)

Sisters in Hate by Seyward Darby (I feel like I need to give a content warning: this book contains explicit descriptions of racism, white supremacy, and Neo Nazis, and it's a very difficult read, but it really is a great, in-depth breakdown of the role women play in the alt-right; also explicitly addresses the crunchy to alt-right pipeline.)

These are just the resources I've personally found helpful, so if anyone else has any they want to add, please, please do!

[ducknotinarow]

[FootClan FTM Casey and Raph - Casey couldn't confess how he wanted in main FTM or Vampire BUT HE CAN HERE]

Casey was nervous, biting his bottom lip. He knew he had a mission, and he also knew his father would lose his fucking mind if he found out Casey was in love with their enemy. Then again, his dad was being a colossal dick right now about the fact Casey is, well, Casey. Maybe that's what spurred this bit of bravery...maybe that's what spurred this need to be accepted by someone. Anyone.

Breathing out, he began to text, just letting his thumbs tap away - with a mind of their own,

[TXT] Hey babe [TXT] I need 2 tell u some thing [TXT] It's not bad promise <3 [TXT] Just some thing important 2 me [TXT] Meet me @ 2nd avenue @ 9pm? [TXT] Pizza on me <3

Casey breathes out a sigh, nerves on fire, heart beating so far. But he had to do this...he needed to do this.

---

God he wished nine in the night didn't come so damn quick. Even with a blanket down and food sorted, Casey still didn't feel ready. He was freaking himself out more than everything, a million 'what ifs' running through that empty skull of his. He wished he could've brought photos to show the changes he's gone through, but he couldn't risk Raph seeing his father, or sisters. He prays they understand. Casey isn't sure he would be able to cope if Raphael rejected him too.

When Raph showed up, Casey offered a shaky smile, and even a small wave, but he had lost his voice in the moment. Hands were clammy as he looked away, quirking his mouth. His stomach refused to settle, even more so when Raph comes and sits with him. Casey's heart beat faster; all he could hear was his own breathing. Even as he watched Raph's lips move, he didn't hear a single thing from them.

And that's when it happened, Casey blurted it out, with no tact or anything at all,

"Raph I aint got a dick!"

Casey's hands flew to his face, head thrown back as he gave a yell. That was NOT how he wanted to say that, and he hates the way Raph is now looking at him. He can't tell if he felt regret or not right now,

"Okay okay no - I mean, yeah, I jus', ah okay hold on!"

Throwing his hands down, Casey tried to breathe. He was fucking up this entire thing and he wanted to throw himself off the roof because of it,

"I'm sorry jus', this means a lot t' me an' yer mean a lot t' me, so, I gotta tell yer this, I'm jus'..."

Just what? Terrified, that's what, but he doesn't say it,

"I'm jus' dumb hah..." Casey stumbled out, taking another breath to try and calm down, "Okay," He claps his hands together, starts finding his words, "Raph...I...well, I wasn't born a guy named Casey; I was born Evelyn...a girl. I'm Trans."

He waits, a moment, lets that sink in. He wonders if Raph even knows what 'Trans' is.

"I was named after my ma, but, growin' up I never felt like a girl, I always felt like a guy, so, I started namin' mysel' Casey, an' dressin' like a guy, an' it felt good, like, it felt right yanno?" Casey tries to explain, "An' I wanna be a guy 'cause I know I'm supposed t' be a guy..."

He looks away, wonders if he should mention his dad...he bites the bullet.

"Dad aint...acceptin' of it, always calls me Evelyn, or his daughter," Casey admits, "S' I get the stuff I need behin' his back, an' my sister cut my hair for me..." He hates how his voice wavered when he admitted that, "An', I thought, yanno cause we're t'gether it's only right I shoul' tell yer 'cause I love yer..."

He hates how he starts to get worked up, tears forming, that fear taking over, his voice continuing to crack and shake as he grew panicked - almost frantic,

"An', an' I know a lotta people aint okay with the Trans thing an' the idea of yanno datin' a Trans person yanno like me, an' if, if yer don't wanna be with me anymore 'cause of it I'd totally get it."

Casey would hate it, but he'd understand it.

"But I love yer, an'...an' I jus' needed t' tell yer okay..."

He finally stops talking, and just breathes. He hates he's terrified of whatever Raph's going to say, or do, in response.

| Muse interaction

It wasn't like Raphael didn't often text Casey, he texted pretty often always quick to read them when they came through. Never caring to play the whole game of waiting a bit before he answered the text back. Nah Raphael always answered right away. Either because Casey and him were just having a nice conversation going on, flirting or Casey was needing to vent about his dad. Guy seems like a real dick head in Raphael's opinion and maybe that was unfair but he can just see it when Casey's talks about them. Sure he and Splinter don't always see eye to eye and he doesn't always feel like Splinter hears what he is trying to really say. But with Casey and his own? There did seem to be a deeper rooted pain there. Seeing how Casey after fights with his Dad always seemed in need of some kind of comfort. Raphael couldn't do much about it he hardly ever knew what spurred them on anyway. But he still tried after all Casey listened to him or just sat around when he needed it. Why when the string of texts suddenly came across to his t-phone Raphael stopped what he was doing to read them over. Slightly confused due to the lack of real detail given from Casey.

[TXT] Hey babe [TXT] I need 2 tell u some thing [TXT] It's not bad promise <3 [TXT] Just some thing important 2 me [TXT] Meet me @ 2nd avenue @ 9pm? [TXT] Pizza on me <3

Hmm, well it wasn't a dreaded 'we need to talk' text like he seen on shows and movies. Just that Casey wanted to tell him something? They promised it wasn't anything bad? Normally Raph answered faster but his mind was growing curious to understand what exactly was being said here. They been together for sometime now? So not like it be some confession or maybe it was? He said he had to tell Raph something?

[text] Be there :)

Was all he texted back before moving to stand up from the couch in the pit. When asked where he was going Raphael simply rolled his shoulders up and crossed them to rest behind his head as he walked away. It was already close to 9 but it would take him sometime to meet up with Casey. SO if he took his time he would get there just on time. "Out" Is all he tells the rest of his brothers. Keeping his cool on the outside. Well he kept trying to crack and uncovering what this could be about the whole time in his mind. Constantly telling himself it wasn't anything 'bad' Casey promised it wasn't anything like that so he was going to trust them.

He had no reason not to trust Casey. He owed it to them. Casey saved his life after all.

Though he had to admit all his own worries an nevers died down the second he was greeted with the sight. Smiling a little to himself he felt kind of bad for still having a single thought that this was going to go wrong somehow.

"So is 'his a date thing or still cause ya wanna talk?" Raphael himself had found it easy to suddenly spring into the usual rhythm he always had with Casey. That ease and comfort that Casey just natural provided as he looked around before moving to sit down with Casey. One leg pulled up so he could rest his arm over his knee as he looked at Casey. Who honestly looked freaked?

Didn't really help Raphael trying to understand the tone of what was going on here. Offering a smile back at Casey hoping it helped them chill out. "So?"

"Raph I aint got a dick!"

Raphael had ran a few possibilities through his head when Casey texted him and more when he made his way to meet ho with them and maybe a few more once finally getting here and setting the set up with the pizza and blankets. Honesty he thought it was a lame excuse to get Raph to go on a date with him. So this? Was unexpected. As his eyes shifted between looking at Casey's face and down towards their legs

"...did it fall off?"

"Okay okay no - I mean, yeah, I jus', ah okay hold on!"

Raphael wasn't really sure what todo do here still reeling from how Casey started this whole talk. As they seemed more annoyed by hiw this was going from slamming thier hands into thier face. Raph just sat there eyes wide still trying to understand what happened to Casey's dick here. In the turtles defense what else was he meant to even think in thos situation after all?

"I'm sorry jus', this means a lot t' me an' yer mean a lot t' me, so, I gotta tell yer this, I'm jus'..."

Raphael can't help how the corn of his beak tugs up into a soft smile at the mention of meaning a lot to Casey. "Hey chill s"okay, take a second ya? I aint gonna go anywhere." He least offers shifting how he was sat as he crosses his legs and better faces Casey. They had his full attetion and all the time they needed to figure out how to get this out.

"I'm jus' dumb hah..." Casey stumbled out, taking another breath to try and calm down, "Okay," He claps his hands together, starts finding his words,

And ture to what raph told Casey he kept quite letting Casey try and have a moment to find his words here. Had to be better that 'I have no dick' after all.

"Raph...I...well, I wasn't born a guy named Casey; I was born Evelyn...a girl. I'm Trans."

"Oh?" Raphael simply stated to help voice response to his boyfriend. It had to be better than Raph keeping quiet. Didn't seem too hard to follow hrs seen mention of that before how he was aware of general label like gay and lesbian after all. Donnie and Mikey might know more. But he figured all he needed to know was Casey was once a girl named Evelyn but he was now well who Raphael knew him to be. Casey.

"I was named after my ma, but, growin' up I never felt like a girl, I always felt like a guy, so, I started namin' mysel' Casey, an' dressin' like a guy, an' it felt good, like, it felt right yanno?" Casey tries to explain, "An' I wanna be a guy 'cause I know I'm supposed t' be a guy…"

Raphael offered a nod feeling his thiught from before were on the right mark here.

"Dad aint…acceptin' of it, always calls me Evelyn, or his daughter,"

Adding that to his mental notes of Casey Dad just being a general jack ass. Would maybe explain the issues they seem to have if his Dad was dick about it to even calling Casey the other name still despite what Casey wished and wanted. Poor Casey. No wonder he was freaking out actually. He already deals with it from his Dad so ya his boyfriend would hurt?

No different then him and his brother wishing to be accepted by humans after all. Always seen and treated as monsters. Casey wasn't any different he just wanted to be Casey. Accepted as Casey even.

"S' I get the stuff I need behin' his back, an' my sister cut my hair for me…" Casey admits "An', I thought, yanno cause we're t'gether it's only right I shoul' tell yer 'cause I love yer…"

Raphael can hear it all in the small crack and wavering of Casey voice. This was a lot for him to fess up to and he was still clearly scared even as he was doing it now. Raph can't help but wonder how long poor Casey had been wrangling with the thought alone.

"An', an' I know a lotta people aint okay with the Trans thing an' the idea of yanno datin' a Trans person yanno like me, an' if, if yer don't wanna be with me anymore 'cause of it I'd totally get it."

Now he pulled a face he didn't mean to, as he brow knotted up but he looks down and thinking on ot for a moment. Was Casey really wrong to think this would be a deal breaker? Generally maybe not but between them?

"But I love yer, an'…an' I jus' needed t' tell yer okay…"

"I'm the five foot mutant turtle who lives in a sewer and was raised by a mutant rat who also trained me tk be a ninja and ya 'hink between the two of us your the one who be the deal breaker?" Raphael smiles as he looks back up at Casey. "You really are an idiot." Moving to rest on his knees as he gently brushes his fingers over Casey's cheeky, carful to take hold of thier face in his hand. Treating Casey with just an ounce of gentleness they seemed to need right then and there. Before pressing his forhead against Casey gently bumping his forhead against thier own.

"Casey it don' matter. Girl, boy, he'll ya could be a roach even." Coming from Raph that had to say a bit. "I aint into you or with you because of anything like 'hat.." Moving his other hand up to hold Casey's face between them slightly smooshing thier cheeks in so he can hold Casey's attetion.

"I'm with you be I love you idiot. I love my reckless, crazy hockey loving, kick ass boy friend. Who happens to be cleaver in his own way. Kinder than most, protective of what matters to him people or you stupid horror movies." Raph goes one to list. "The ony person able to give me maybe slight run for a money In a fight. Cause Casey Jones ain't scared to face a mutant head on in a fight." He smirks a little and slowly lightens up his hold on Casey's face.

"Ya the guy I love Casey. From those brown eyes to that gap tooth grin when ya yell that stupid catchphrase of yours." Genlty nuzzling his snout against Casey's nose for some affection hoping to show Casey he had nothing to be scared of. "And that who ya are don't matter if ya girl or a guy or if ya got a dick or not. Nothing ever gonna change how I feel about you Casey. It's not so shallow of an attraction I promise." Pulling back just a little Casey was brave here he can be brave too.

"Casey, I love a fuck ton. I know hiw it sounds cause I only even been with you but...I feel like I was jus' waitin' all this time to meet you." Fuck that sounds corny but he meant it he really did mean it. "I love you Casey. No matter what." Smiling before leaning in to press his beak softly in against Casey's lips. Hoping the physical display helps prove that this changed nothing to Raphael.

"Cause ya mean a lot to me too, Casey. I don't want you to forget that okay?" He offers as he moves his beak against Casey's lips. Slowly pulling away. "Not gonna get rid of me that easy 'm in this for the long game." He offers with a slight shrug of his shoulders bot explaining what that means but sure Casey can make a safe bet. "I thibk that's enough mushy stuff now." Only because Raphael was too aware of how much he let out to Casey as he turned hus attention to the box of pizza and pulled it over.

"Why don' we chill out watch the stars and jus' ya know hang out?" Because he meant it every word nothing would change anything between them. "Sides I missed ya ain't ready to let ya go yet."

[wolfertinger666]

fuck it, my black trans guy experience has been:

other trans people(especially fellow trans men) invalidating my identity because I don't conform to gender norms or whatever bullshit cope they can think of

being fetishized constantly cuz I present fem. even in conversations that aren't even sex related. been told I'm "an easy cheat for straight people" or a heavy fixation on my breast

seeing queers who are white benefit from including black queers in their talking points but in some ways excluding us or tokenizing us.

oh yeah and the extreme transphobes misgendering me and threatening me with corrective SA

but I've also had positive experiences such as inspiring other trans and even cis folks to stay true to themselves and basically express themselves however they want. i like being myself but it sure is scary sometimes.

[shamebats]

If you only ever mention trans mascs & men in relation to misogyny when you want to talk about how we're capable of being misogynistic (which wow you've discovered that afab people can be sexist? good job, I learned that at like 11 probably but I'm glad you got there eventually) and never in terms of how we're affected & harmed by it, how it puts us at risk of being sexually abused & exploited by family members, partners & in workplaces, forcefully detransitioned, forced into unwanted pregnancies, murdered etc, then I don't trust you and don't consider you an ally to trans people btw

[lgbtqtext]

[incorrectbatfam]

Not DC related but it genuinely baffles me how someone can look at my friend—the seediest, Shaggy Rogers looking, bong water smelling dude on the Eastern Seaboard—and still misgender him

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[pokemon-radical-red]

I got this comment on a post that I made about being a trans man and noticing how we’re perceived by others. This person is blocked now because I don’t want some transphobe on my blog, but I want to talk a little bit about this.

I like how this person’s trying to convince me that I’m wrong while saying that the only people who would be attracted to us are lesbians who are into butch women. But they can’t use those exact words or else we’ll all KNOW that they’re misgendering us. It’s interesting. Let’s play a game! TERF or transandrophobe. (I’m not scrolling through their blog long enough to find out.)

Okay. Let’s pretend that we live in their world, where trans men are not also a porn category (as someone pointed out in a response comment), and get to the deep cuts!

Now maybe this person defines oversexualization in a different way, and frequently commenting on our bodies—especially our chests—is totally cool and normal to them, because I literally have a post talking about the Tik Tok trend of “oh trans man wants me to respect his pronouns but he has HUGE BOOBS!!! haha this is so funny, guys!” You may notice that in this example here, she claims to feel bad, but then immediately turns around and makes a joke about it. Is describing transmascs essentially as our chests not sexualization? Not to mention dehumanizing considering they refer to this person as “a he/they,” instead of a transmasc or a nonbinary person or anything else.

But if that’s not enough sexualization for you, or you think that it isn’t valid to be upset over that, you can look under the cuts for the disgusting descriptions of our bodies from some transphobes. From some of those “ladies who just like butch,” since they’re innocent and aren’t oversexualizing us because “nobody oversexualizes ftm trans folks,” as the person in the screenshot said confidently.

I wanna say trigger warning for disgusting oversexualization of trans men (including trans men who are in their teens!) under the cut, but huh… the commenter said that nobody oversexualizes trans men, so this can’t be right. (On a serious note, please do heed the trigger warning before deciding to open the rest of the post.)

[victoriadallonfan]

…Oh my god, she’s just copying South Park

That’s seriously where she’s at right now. Copying South Park’s attack on the trans movement.

Also, like, this is a TERRIBLE thing to bring attention to, considering the black character of Kingsley Shacklebolt she created.

And the fact that house elves really love slavery and Hermione trying to free them was seen as naive and ignorant.

Anyways, her post is in response to people upset that she’s targeting Lucy Clark, the first openly transgender football (soccer) referee in the world, who came out in 2018. She honestly just seems like a nice person.

But this was too much for JK Rowling! She posted the above tweet and several more

Misgendering and sending stray shots at people who cross dress too - apparently because the media(??) is too nice to them(??)

I wonder how JKR would react to learning that pants were initially unisex, and that pants were deemed “unmanly” at times

Or the fact that people who cross dress have played important roles in history, like Dorothy Lawrence

Of course, JKR doesn’t really care about facts.

All she cares about is that Lucy had the audacity to… lightly warn people to not make transphobic comments:

JK Rowling is a real asshole

[theothergal]

TW: Transphobia, transandrophobia, rape, suicide

A 22 italian transgender man was raped after being admitted at the hospital Vizzolo for being abused by his family, and he committed suicide.

As if It wasn't enough, EVERY SINGLE FUCKING NEWSPAPER has misgendered him.

I read the news yesterday where he was reported as a woman, and if I didn't came across a post made by his friends, where they explain that he was a man, I would have never known.

Italy Is a shithole country, and Italians journalists are FUCKING WORMS, almost all of them.

And don't fucking Say that they didn't know, because he had his pronouns on every social and his Friends told them that he was a man.

Here's an article where the news Is reported and he's gendered correctly (mind me, in the same newspaper they made multiple articles misgendering him, but that's the best I found).

https://notizie.virgilio.it/22enne-suicida-all-ospedale-di-vizzolo-predabissi-dopo-lo-stupro-lettera-degli-amici-per-chiarire-la-vicenda-1622834

Let's not allow them to erase him.

[communistkenobi]

something unavoidable in researching transgender suicide and hate crimes online is that there will always be transphobic charlatans acting through non-profit organisations who manage to get near the top of search results (even on Google scholar!) to deny that trans suicides and hate crimes are occurring at all. and it’s funny in a very ghastly way to see “TRANS CHILDREN SUICIDE MYTH” as a headline plastered in between dozens of news reports, government inquiries, non-governmental organisational reports, activist writers, international bodies, legal clinics, and academic scholarship saying it’s worse than it’s ever been - all of them use language like epidemic, crisis, state of emergency, and then you scroll down again to see sex-matters.org saying they’re defending the rights of womyn to fight for ‘single sex’ spaces. It’s performance art in a way, bile and pus leaking out of the cracks in between headlines of another murdered trans teenager, trying to cover it up

[ducknotinarow]

[2012 FootClan AU FTMCasey Karai] [Rip Karai he's literally just dropping this on you at like 2AM i feel u_u]

He'd maybe should've snuck off to a barber of sorts, but that was just hindsight now. In what may've been rage, or a fit of stupidity, Casey had grabbed the first sharp object he could and lopped off a good chunk of his hair, leaving it uneven and a mess at it now stopped at his shoulders, as opposed to his mid back. Already he felt better though.

Scissors in one hand, a chunk of hair in the other, having not found a place to chuck it, he wanders through the compound until he finds another soul - thankfully the one he was looking for, Karai. He says nothing as he stares at her, clearly tired and upset - probably from another fight with dad. He opts not to acknowledge that though,

"Your older sister is dead," He says without any tact, "Now he's yer brother, an' I go by Casey."

He also decides not to elaborate further.

| Muse interaction

The foot clan was the last of it's kind, a survivor of the feudal era of Japan's history making it's way into the modern age. Set in it's ways from far back then even when it nearly was lost thanks to another clan. It's not easy keeping such a old line around and it nearly fell apart once due to the Hamato clan. Thought to be gone now, it meant the head of the clan after restoring it after he was nearly 'taken over by the Hamato's' as he often would speak of his adoption before learning of his true heritage. And he just seemed to double down on that ever since. Everything he wanted to secure so not to ever lose this again? Truly just turned in some obsession that Karai never cared for. The foot today wasn't really some honorable old ninja clan it was a crime syndicate answering only to the Shredder, though others run the various factions of the Foot Clan across the globe. And she was expected to take that place.

Not just her there were plans for her sisters as well, all raised under the heel of their father. Shrdder didn't raise weak kids. Pressure was on all thier shoulders. Why Karai couldn't help but take chances to sneak away. Which was worth it for a few good moments of peace but not everyone as lucky as she found herself back home making her way to her room? She found the aftermath of what allowed her to sneak away in the first place.

The only other soul that was awake clearly nit in a good place mentally. It was a bit hard to tell till they drew closer to Karai, but she could at least tell that Eve was holding a good chunk of hair and scissors. Eyes a little wide as she tried to read the situation. But honestly no matter how long the pair stood here in silence she might not ever figure it out on her own. Eve's hair looked awful! it was a choppy layers at best on the one side she cut off. Couldn't even pass it off as a asymmetrical cut. Even if you squint and tried.If it was for the sour expression over Eve's face? Karai would maybe laugh. Luckily Eve spoke up first to break the silence of the hallway.

"Your older sister is dead,"

"With how many times I told you to drop dead Evie I gotta say this is a pretty hard sell with you standing in front of me like this." Karai shifted her weight and cock a hip to the side as she lifted up a brow. That sounded just a tad dramatic here. But, lips keep shut as she just looks at them.

"Now he's yer brother, an' I go by Casey."

Oh.

This might not be some over dramatic remark after a spat with their father. Well it may still very well be fueled by that and why Eve went and did well this but. Oh wait no Casey? Why Casey she wonders a moment. Karai in part dose want to ask but it was also two in the morning or around that when she made her way back home. Moving from her spot she makes her way over to them. Lifting a had to the jagged cut side of their hair. "And you still have a trashy sense of style." Karai dose at least offer in response. "You look like you lost a fight with the scissors there."

Karai didn't in truth really understand what Eve, was getting at here. "Did you have an argument with dad?" it might be a without tack to make it out that this was nothing more than a emotional response to a fight with him. But getting a closer look at their expression? It was clear there was more then just those hurt emotions. There was more than that raw sting from some petty scrabble that may have happened when she was away. Looking down to how they were holding the section of hair they chopped off. The cutting their hair bit was still at least a emotional outburst. She pursed her lips a little before meeting Eve's eyes again. "Eve- Casey? You said?" she asks trying to get some conformation.

"Well Casey you are awful with hair, good thing I handle Angel's." The teasing was just how she spoke to Eve and she saw no reason to change that. If anything they might need it most now, as she manged to get their hair out from their grip. Casually chucking it down to the floor. Someone else can deal with that, before she took the scissors from his other hand. Slowly slipped them out so not to risk the blades cutting his hand. As she looked them over. "No wonder these are dull, almost as dull as you." She smirks as she snips the scissors a few time "These aren't meant for hair." She elaborates a little before slipping them into her person, as she grabs for, their wrist. Letting out a drawn out sigh.

"Come on, I cut my own hair so I can try and fix this mess." She offers, as she leads the way to her room. She lets Eve or Casey work through their thoughts as they make their way back to her room.

Karai leading them to the chair by her vanity well she goes and grabs what she needs. "Want me to even it out? or want something short? Personally I find short works best harder to grab after all." She idly discusses as she finds her set of scissors and combs. Making her way to stand behind her well now brother? She runs her fingers under the choppy side well waiting for them to answer. "Maybe a bob even?" she offers as she measures out how much she would need to cut in order to even the mess out.

"Wanna tell me about it?" She suggests soon after, about the whole sister is dead part of what happened with their Dad. Karai left for them to decide her meaning. As she slowly started to sip their hair going to even the job out for now. That would be a start at least depending on whatever was going through their head fixing them up would at least hopefully help lift their mood a little. Part of here could tell the run in was an accident. They were looking for her and she wasn't around. Was that before or after this though? Karai was the only one always dealing with that overbearing weight Shredder put on her own shoulders.

Being the heir to the clan she had to know ever aspect of it. From the ninja stuff to his businesses prospects. She couldn't be weak or yield and in most cases she didn't. Outside this.

Eve was no different all the same training the same teaching methods even. Maybe worse Karai was at least born into this Eve had to be shaped and molded to fit in correctly. With this whole they are her brother named Casey event going on now? Karai wonders if it relates. They always were an escapes for her though so for once she could at least offer that back. Sister, brother? Eve or Casey? doesn't matter what matters? was making them not look like they have a fight with a blender.

[deadeyedfae]

Here it is! Part 3 of Dead Eyed Ivy Second Puberty Edition 💜🏳️‍⚧️

[stiffyck]

Every time I see something transphobic I’m transing one more hermits gender.

Starting with-

Cleo. Cleo already uses she/they and they are an icon.

[lgbtqtext]

[gor3sigil]

Little things about being transmasc and/or a trans man:

As trans men and/or transmasc, we always are told to "do better" than cis men, and at the same time to conform to the patriarchal model of masculinity (white, able bodied, strong, thin, necer show emotions etc) to be seen as men/masc.

But you have to understand that some trans men don't want to perform that type of masculinity or CAN'T altogether.

Furthermore, our sexual orientations are often weaponized against us. If we love men, we're called slurs or in more feminist spaces. we're told that we're just women with extra steps, and if we love women, we're asked why we can't just be lesbians or told that we are doing patriarchy all over again. And if you dare to identify gay, you're told that no gay men like p*ssies, and if you dare to identify as a lesbian, you can't because no lesbians like men. And that is without considering the very broad sexuality/romantic spectrum, where your transness is basically a weapon too (aromantic ? Yeah, figure, you're trans and confused. Bi ? Yeah, figure, you're trans and can't decide. Asexual ? Yeah, figure, you're trans or WORSE you're afab and traumatized and so on and so forth).

Gender nonconforming trans men/transmascs are relentlessly called trenders within the community or asked why they even bother to transition. In the outside world, we are often read as a threat and assaulted because of it. But if you are gender conforming, you'll have smirky cis women tell you how you just fantasised about being a Big Strong Man and are just matrixed by patriarchy or too traumatized to live as a woman.

Want to transition medically ? Oh, but T is a BAD hormone that does BAD thing like make you gain WEIGHT and gives you ACNE and makes you GROSS. On the weight topic I could write a book about the horrible fatphobia within the community because I kid you not, I have been a girl teen with EDs who hung out in pr* an* forums and I've seen some shit in transmascs groups and passing tips that have a real resemblance to what I saw back then. Same for transmascs/trans men fitness groups.

Don't want to transition medically ? Lol theyfab. Like so much a woman. Very lady like with a bonus of bringing the movement down.

When it comes to inside the community, we can't talk about specific issues without being shushed, intersex transmascs, and trans men face a LOT of hardships and are insulted. I remember a friend of mine who is an intersex trans man receiving death threats and got told to [redacted] himself when he talked about his experiences as an intersex trans man BY TRANS PEOPLE.

Bipoc trans men and transmascs are always confronted to the white standards of passing coupled with the rampant racism within and outside of the community.

And one thing I can not not bring up: I think a lot of people forget that we can't mourn our dead. Why ? Because these past years, transmascs and trans men have been forgotten from TDOR lists. I remember seeing Twitter threads from trans men adding them because we don't even KNOW when someone has died or they are deemed as women and the death is treated like a feminicide. And it has been a constant.

We can basically never please no matter what we do.

That's my 2 cents on the transandrophobia because I feel like it needs to be said. If you still think that trans men and transmasc individuals don't face specific issues, think again.