#lgbtqiaplus

[gor3sigil]

I'm spending TDOR in the hospital but I'm with y'all on spirit.

I'm spending TDOR being suicidal but I won't be another statistic. I need to show as much as I can that we do succeed and grow up.

I'm struggling, this year, another of my mutual killed himself. But the day after tomorrow I'm doing my T shot with 5 other transmascs, and last Friday I met 15 other transmascs during a party I held. All after spending years thinking I wouldn't be able to trust my local community anymore.

This TDOR I'm grieven, I'm angry, I'm sad, I'm sick, and as much as I'm pissed to be alive, as much as I feel overwhelmed by everything, it's not just about me.

Hug your trans friends, SOs, siblings, be good to each other, reach out if you can. We'll make it out. Promise.

[nnaalluuaa]

Random old photos of lesbian couples happy, kissing, holding each other, in love, etc...

[illegally-downloaded-skeleton]

[runeehyst]

Whale Shark Pride pt.3🐳🏳️‍🌈

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

a very fucking special shout-out to aros who have been the token "weird queer" friend amongst a queer friend group, only to have the novelty lost and find yourself left when they all decide their romantic relationships matter more than you, or your aromantic worldview becomes off-putting because they don't (and don't try to) understand what amatonormativity means.

i have many qualms. this happens to a lot of aros, and it just speaks to the infantilization of aro folks (and ace too!) when all we're seen as is the weird one who doesn't feel love, there for the amusement of "normal queers" and then cast out when they find something more interesting.

if your friend group did/does this, it may mean they weren't truly seeing you, or doing their best to be actual allies to aro and aspec people.

it's the gay best friend trope all over again. everybody loves the gay best friend because it's trendy to have one and not treat them like a person outside the stereotype.

and it fucking sucks. ive been there.

it's not your fault you're not "palatable". let them choke.

[flyingdumpsterfire]

y'all ever seen those forms where it says

GENDER:

male

female

i hate them

at this point I have gotten to my limit of having to endure misgendering while being closeted to the point where I just tick the female box in all of these forms bc i'm AFAB so it just makes life easier

THIS SHOULD NOT HAPPEN

GENDERQUEER, NONBINARY, GENDERFLUID, AGENDER AND GNC PEOPLE IN GENERAL SHOULD NOT HAVE TO FEEL THIS WAY

NORMALISE HAVING A THIRD OPTION ON ALL YOUR FORMS FOR THOSE WHO DON'T FIT THE GENDER BINARY

BE IT 'OTHER'

'PREFER NOT TO SAY'

OR EVEN 'ENTER YOUR OWN LABEL'

REBLOG IF YOU AGREE

QUEERPHOBES AND TERFS GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THIS POST UNLESS YOU'RE GOING TO TAKE THIS POINT TO HEART

[laurabstar]

it's so crazy to see cishet people complaining abt lgbtq+ people being openly lgbtq+ like oh I'm sorry was it your turn to shine your heterosexuality to the world as if you haven't been doing that since humans started understanding the concept of sexuality?????

[aesthetic-otd]

Today's aesthetic is pridecore

[its-brit-bruh]

Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈 🌈 ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💜🩷🤍🩵

Two days of PrideFest weekend wiped me out but it was so fun!

Also met new friends!

@celestesthoughts

@zerosuitsammie

[cepheusgalaxy]

(You don't know for how long I've been thinking on doing this)

LGBTQIA+ representation on media be like:

ID: The meme with an adult holding up one child in a pool while the other drowns, and underwater is a skeleton. The adult is labeled "LGBTQIA+ "representation" in media." The kid being held up is labeled "gays" with an asterisk of "sometimes, lesbians and bi people." The drowning child is labeled "Transgender and other sexualities/romantic orientations." The skeleton is labeled "Intersex people." /end ID.

(Edit: id by @aromanticsky)

[gor3sigil]

Before starting T, when I socially transitionned, I was surrounded by radical feminists who saw masculinity as gross and inherently evil, something to avoid, something to make fun of, something to destroy. The other transmascs in my friend group, sometimes, told me that they didn’t knew if they really were non-binary or if they just were scared shitless of saying “I am a man”. Because they saw this as a betrayal to their younger self who had been SAd and abused.

I saw many of my masc friends and trans men around me hate themselves, not outing themselves as men because it would imply so so much, it was like opening the Pandora Box. Even when we were just together, talking about our masculinity was always coated with bits like “I know we’re the privileged ones but…”, “I don’t want to sound like I have it bad but…”, “Women obviously have it worse, but last time…” and we were talking about terrible traumas we experienced while taking all the precautions in the world in the case the walls were a crowd of people in disguise waiting to get us if we didn’t downplay the violence we faced, or like crying and being upset and being traumatized and afraid and scared and to say it out loud would make us throw up the needles we were forced to swallow every second of every day living in our skin.

Most of us weren’t on T yet, some of us were catcalled every day and harassed in the streets or in abusive relationships nobody seemed to care to help them get out of because they were “strong enough” to do it by themselves.

I was using the gender swap face app and cried for ours when I saw my father looking back at me through the screen. The idea of transforming, of shedding into a body that would deprive me of love, tenderness, and safety, was absolutely terrifying. I knew I couldn’t stay in this body any longer because it wasn’t mine, but I also knew that if I was going to look like my dad, my brother, my abusers, it would be so much worse.

5 years later and I’m almost 2 years on T, and almost 2 months post top surgery.

I ditched my previous group of friends. I was bullied out of my local trans community. But let me tell you how free I am.

I was scared that T would break my singing voice: it made it sound more alive than ever.

I was scared that T would make me less attractive: it made me find myself hot for the first time in my life.

I was scared that T would make me gain weight: it did. But the weight I put on is not the weight I used to put on by binging and eating my body until I forgot that it even existed. It’s the weight of my body belonging to me, little by little. The wolf hunger for life.

I won’t tell you the same story I see everywhere, the one that goes “I started going to the gym 8 times a week, I put on some muscles, I started a diet and now I look like an action film actor”, in fact if you took pictures of me from 5 years ago vs now I’d just have more acne, I’d have longer hair and still look like I don’t know what to do with myself when I take selfies.

But the sparkle in my eyes, my smile, tell the whole story way better than this long ass stream of words could ever.

I want to say some things that I wish someone told me before starting medically transitionning.

It’s okay to take your time. It’s your body, it’s your journey, if you don’t feel comfortable taking full doses and want to go slow, the only voice you need to listen to is your own. Do what feels right.

If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break, it’s okay to ask for support.

Trans people are holy. Everyone is. You didn’t lose your angel wings when you came out because you want to be masculine. You are not excluded from the joy of existence, from being proud of yourself, from being sad, from being scared, from being angry. The emotions and feelings you allowed yourself to feel while processing what you experienced when you grew up as a girl and was seen as a woman are still as valid as before. Nobody can take that from you. If someone tries to, don’t let them.

It’s perfectly normal to grieve some things you were and had before you started to transition, like your high soprano voice or even your chest. Hatching is painful. You can find comfort in things that don’t feel right, so making the decision to change can be incredibly scary and weird and you deserve to be heard and supported through this. Wanting top surgery doesn’t make the surgery less intense, less terrifying, less painful to recover from. When it becomes too much you have the right to take a break and take some deep breaths before going on.

You don’t have to have a radical, 180° change for your transition to be acceptable or valid or worthy of praise. Look at how far you’ve come already. It doesn’t have to show, you’re not made to be a spectacle, you’re human and it is your journey.

Oh, and last thing, you know when some people say “Oh this trans person has to grow out of the cringy phase where you think that you can write essays about being trans or transitionning or just their experience because it’s weird” ? If you ever hear this or see this online, remember all the people whose writing you read and, even if they were not professional writers, helped you more than any theorists did ? If you want to write, do it. It won’t be a waste. It can help people. Or it won’t, and even then, if it helped you, that’s enough.

Love every of my trans siblings, take care of yourselves. You deserve the world.

[nnaalluuaa]

Tokyo Babylon (1990, CLAMP) Official Art/Illustration

[runeehyst]

your whale sharks are so cool!!! do you have an aroallo whale shark :0

Made one just for you my g

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

shoutout to aros who hate love fr

fuck love, love loses

[scretladyspider]