#tw: pregnancy/motherhood

[specialgradefckr]

Hiiii, I’m liking the stalking idea and satoru gaslighting the reader into sleeping with him out of pity and yearning then ending up pregnant. Suguru would find out and manipulate then gaslight reader into coming back because he still wants to be with satoru, but satoru has reader and the baby now so it’s like a package deal kind of thing. But on the low they’re both giggling cause now she’s stuck with them cause of the baby. Idk if this makes sense, but I tried 😭😭😭

no no it makes sense ,i get u,,, this is in reference to ANOTHER ask i answered a while ago: https://www.tumblr.com/specialgradefckr/769289621280636928/im-curious-about-your-last-fic-if-reader-asked?source=share

you have the vibes though. they are giggling. baby trapping is absolutely on the table, these freaks do not think for one single second "gosh maybe we shouldn't bring a child into this" dksjhglhdfg they're so awful.

in the first place, they'd do everything in their power to prevent you from leaving to begin with. sabotaging your move-out plans, guilting you into staying longer, hell, even trying to convince you to come on a "vacation" to one of satoru's secluded villas and then "run out of gas" so you're "stuck" there,,, that's all more likely than you just moving out.

i do think that if satoru comes to manipulate you, it's actually a concerted effort on the part of him and suguru. they are a team and they are playing this together.

but baby trapping is definitely on the table. suguru would even tell satoru to do it, and tell him when to approach you because he knows exactly what point of your cycle you are on <3

he gives satoru tips on how to win your pity and affection (although they're like. 40% wasted on satoru bc of his personality) but it's definitely going to be enough. especially if satoru looks beaten up enough.

it's not like suguru has to get you back in order to get satoru back. getting you back for both of them was the plan from the beginning.

if anything, suguru would plan for satoru to go "missing" and leave you alone during your vulnerable time, pregnant and stressed out, only for him to step in and demonstrate what a doting and caring partner and potential parent he would be.

by the time satoru is back in the picture (and he is an impatient little shit), suguru has absolutely convinced you that you need him if you're going to parent successfully. satoru isn't going to be there on his own. but satoru's the father, so you can't just push him out, either...

how conveniently this all lines up into you three being together. they're still not satisfied, though, not convinced you've truly fallen for them the way they've fallen for you, so you are unfortunately destined for more yandere antics in the future, but hey! two husbands :)

[tinyhandsonmyapron]

05.19.2024

I found out yesterday that I'm finally pregnant! 💛

We had actually just had our consultation with a fertility specialist Friday, the day before. I feel like that timing is so funny, like I had to scare my body into behaving: "if you don't work, you're gonna end up poked and prodded and all kinds of shots and medications, so get it together!" Idk maybe that's just my sense of humor.

Now to call my OBGYN tomorrow, get on the waitlist at my son's daycare, and decide when to tell people!

We're going to Disney World in two weeks. I had wanted to wait to tell my family until 12 weeks because honestly my mom stressed me out last time haha, but I don't know if I'll be able to keep it a secret when I'm turning down going on rides I love so much.

I'm just so relieved and grateful and maybe now more anxious? What if after all this time and heartbreak month after month I lose it?

Also I have a strong gut feeling it's a girl. I didn't have that with my son, at least, not until I started feeling his flutters around 16 weeks. Then I knew he was a boy, even if I somewhat preferred a girl. I also had a different girl name in mind, but it's the strangest thing. If it's a girl after all, I know her name, and I was actually not my first choice.

I just love this baby so much already 💛🥹

[suusoh]

how we feeling about johan and baby trapping 👀

i give all the power to you anon respectfully 🙏 I personally think it doesn't cross his mind even once or at all. He wouldn't need to resort to that because there are sooooo so many wonderful ways of keeping you trapped with him.

[workinprogress14]

tw: fertility

This is something really personal, and I’ve chosen to keep this very private with people that know me in real life, but I need a safe place to share this.

I had a miscarriage three weeks ago.

The pregnancy wasn’t planned, but the loss has been so hard to cope with. Some days I hold it together okay. Some days I’m a weeping, falling apart mess. Also my libido has been so incredibly low since the miscarriage and I honestly just don’t feel like myself sexually right now.

I have a ton of DMs I haven’t responded to cause I just haven’t had the strength, so if I haven’t responded, I’m sorry. I’m not ignoring you. I don’t know when I’ll be back to normal, but that’s what’s been going on in my life.

[archxngxl]

Closed Starter

Some people aren't meant to be mothers.

That was the cold, hard truth that a lot of people had to live with. Mothers forced into doing something they did not want, to carry babies they did not want. Laura often thought about her mother, what her life would've been like if she was not forced into marrying Laura's father, if she was not forced to carry her and her brother. Today would've been her 46th birthday. Laura was sat in front of her home, on the wooden steps in her backyard. A cigarette in her hands, a blanket over her shoulders and tears running down her face.

Laura loved her mother, she really did. She just wished her mother loved her the same.

"Oh..." Laura quickly wiped away her tears when she heard footsteps. "Sorry, did I wake you?" // @spideysmuses

[domina-honoribila]

wait are you anti-medical supports/intervention for pregnant women? (such as c-sections, induction, medication, etc) like congrats on your home births, you are not the spokesperson for all women nor the norm. complications happen ALL. THE. TIME.

Interventions are vastly overused because the medical industry finds normal childbirth inconvenient. The average healthy woman, after an average healthy pregnancy, will most likely have an average healthy birth without interference. Interventions often cause bigger problems, which then need more invasive solutions.

[madmanwonder]

Ask

Crossover

Pregnancy Test

Nami with Dante.

Pregnancy Test: Positive

"Look like that idiot is going to learn how to be good father and provider to our family." Nami said to herself as she sat on the toliet seat in numbness, unable to believe she was going to be a mother to quarter-blooded demon child with the careless but loving demon hunter.

[professortennant]

personal entry below re: babies and the future and i just gotta get this out somewhere before it eats me up on the inside 

my sister gave birth to her first kiddo this past week (yay i’m an aunt!), but it’s just kicked up all of these emotions for me that i didn’t expect, namely grief. i had a miscarriage a few years ago and i really thought i’d moved past those feelings and that trauma, but i guess not! 

i feel grief over what could have been and grief over the fact that i’m 31 and perpetually fucking single and the likelihood of me being a mom (something i desperately want) is just not going to happen. i feel grief over the fact that i thought my sister and i would have kiddos at the same time to grow up together; to give them the big family and the bonds we didn’t have. i feel grief that i’ve failed in some way. i feel grief that i may not hold a title or a role that i’ve desperately wanted and hoped for; grief for a dream withering away. 

i feel alone, deeply deeply alone sometimes. i love my life and my fuzzy crew of animals and my parents and friends and sisters but i don’t have that person to lean on, that person to love me, that person that i want to grow a family with. i think about the romantic parts of having that person. i think about the practical benefits of having a partner in order to have a child--financial security, physical security, emotional security. i’m struggling on my own as rent goes up, groceries go up, everything is sapping and sapping from me and i’m doing my best to stand on my own but i just feel beaten down sometimes like i can never get back up without someone else to help. 

i get on fucking dating apps and i swear men out there are testing my interest in men. there’s disconnect everywhere, dispassionate interactions, a lack of honesty and genuine interest. i’m tired of rejection, tired of ghosting, tired of passive. it makes me second-guess my own desirability and worth. 

i feel like there’s a disconnect sometimes between who i am, what i want, and my ability to connect and communicate with others. i feel ugly and unwanted--like that’s the reason i’m single and unmarried. i know that’s my brain lying to me, but god some days it’s hard to look in the mirror. 

i know there are single mothers out there who manage, i am in awe of them and their strength and resiliency. i don’t think i’m strong enough to do it. i don’t think i’m secure enough financially to become a single mother. 

and so i’m just sitting here, holding my niece and feeling her heartbeat and simultaneously feeling a ticking of the clock and an overwhelming sense of grief and loss. and these feelings have no where to go. 

it just hit me all today how i’m feeling and i just had to get it down.

[anthromimicry]

okay, but i think it is about time to talk about one of misao's fears is, because i believe that they can tell you a lot about a character and their psyche — and i came to tell y'all that the one i'm going to be talking about today is that misao fears becoming a mother / motherhood. the first reason in which why i believe this is because misao just genuinely thinks that she is not the nurturing type and that she would likely be a terrible parent to her child ( which i know is a very depressing thing to think about. but it is something that she has feared for a long time, unfortunately. ) this likely stems from a mix of misao's inability to deal with her own emotions, though, as she feels like it's better to just bottle them up and deal with them all on her own rather than the alternative. and this would be to try to confide in someone and/or get help from them should she need it. so, misao feels as if her child were to come to her needing emotional support from her, she would absolutely fail at it and the last thing she wants is to emotionally neglect someone the way she had been as a child ( p.s. of course, this was mostly just borne out of unfortunate circumstances, as i've stated before because of kaiyah's illness. though this hasn't stopped misao from feeling the brunt of the impact that it had on her. )

plus... i feel as if misao also doesn't have a lot of confidence in herself whenever it comes to the concept of always being able to put a child first, as she has a pretty negative self-image of herself deep down if i'm being honest. she sees herself as an extremely selfish person who can't even become friends with one person because she is so afraid that someone will hurt her, and in her opinion, that makes her pathetic or weak. so she doesn't feel like she'd be able to take care of a child with the amount of responsibility that is required to in order to raise them properly and protect them at the same time.

though this isn't necessarily true as misao has put up those barriers that would normally let people into her heart mostly due to trauma, and having experienced trauma doesn't make anyone weak. i just feel as if she desperately needs to remedy her self-image because it is very damaging to think of yourself like that and it would be really good for her emotional health if she were to try to ways to better cope with everything that she's experienced throughout her life. there are other reasons as well behind why misao fears motherhood while i'm talking about it, however, and these are arguably one of the more bigger ones: the act of giving birth itself and suddenly being thrust into having to not just take care of yourself, but the baby inside of you as well. which sort of makes sense whenever you connect the dots as to how many horror stories misao has heard about delivering a baby and also how much a person's experience while being pregnant can vary from others. i mean, it has been shown that some people may have more morning sickness than others and that they just don't have a very good experience with being pregnant in general, for example. but other's may be 'glowing' as they say and may find it easier to deal with.

so, you never really know what kind of pregnancy you're going to have until you actually become 'with child' as misao would call it. and the unknown aspect surrounding it scares misao more than anything. plus, as it stands now, she isn't sure whether she'd want to go through the process of giving birth as there can be a lot of complications regarding it. but there can also be so many good things about inviting a new member of the family into your home and misao feels as if it is kind of expected of her to have children so she can continue the kanade line.

but misao is just so afraid of it for these reasons that she can not see herself as a mother, even in her head. however... there is the matter of adoption that she has yet to take into account, but with how focused the jorōgumo are about having biological children, i feel as if misao hasn't even considered it to be an option for those who are afraid of giving birth and also to give a baby / child a loving home as everyone deserves one of those. but yeah. i hope that this gave y'all a little more insight into her character, as misao is scared of re-enacting her past in a way, though i feel as if you become a mother yourself... you have to separate what will be your own experience of parenthood from your parents. so, in order to overcome this fear she has, misao would have to treat it as an entirely different thing from kaiyah's experience as a mother and her own child self's experience of her as a mother.

and this is definitely possible. it would just take some work, as overcoming any kind of fear would. plus, i feel as if misao were to accept other people's help it would also benefit her, since discussing motherhood / plunging into the topic of the sometimes seemingly scary thing that is parenthood is definitely not something that you have to try to go through alone.

[nexusvcrti]

HOPE AND MOTHERHOOD

While the universe makes a big deal about how vampires have to miss out on the magic that is parenthood, particularly when it comes to women, it’s really not something that is at the top of Hope’s priorities, particularly not at this stage of her life, and it’s also not been something she’s given a lot of thought to over the years. It also entirely ignores the many valid ways parenthood can be a thing, either via adoption or magically transplanting babies from dying witches into a vampire who is technically incapable of conceiving). Either way, Hope has no desire to become a mother any time soon, if at all.

Being praised as a miracle baby who never should have existed is not as inspiring to a child as some might think. Coupled with the near-constant death threats and the requirements to hide who she was from everyone she cared about, Hope saw very little merit in the way her childhood played out. More than anyone, she is aware of what that kind of life can do to a child, so it doesn’t make sense why she would want to bring a child into the world who would inherit the same problems and enemies. Everything that Hayley feared for Hope would be the same fears she has for her own child, and it just perpetuates a cycle that she's unwilling to put them through. 

Furthermore, during the course of the show, Hope is still very much a child, and idk about most of y’all, but motherhood wasn’t really at the top of my list when I was that age. I know for some people, that is their life goal and I’m not knocking that, but I just don’t see that for Hope at this stage. She has grown up with that life, with a preview of knowing exactly what people would do to hurt a child of hers, and she is too cynical to put them through that. She also just straight up wouldn’t want to do this without Hayley.

Hope, unlike the rest of the Mikaelsons, has a bit of a different take on family. At the end of the day, the Mikaelson relationship is one forged by blood. That’s why it is such a big deal when they accept Hayley unequivocally as a Mikaelson, because in over a thousand years, pretty much no one else has been able to be a part of that bond. Hope, despite all of her issues with Salvatore and its students, grew up with peers who eventually become friends. They become people who she would lay her life down for, even if it takes her a while to get there. To her, blood isn’t the end all be all. 

It makes sense why Rebekah is so adamant about having biological children, because her entire life has been defined by a family vow bound by blood. Also, for a great majority of her life, women were defined by their ability to have children, and that kind of social thinking doesn’t disappear overnight. But Hope is born of a completely different generation, with a very different upbringing. She has been taught that family can extend beyond just blood relationships, and that it’s okay to embrace that. 

It’s not to say that Hope is forever turned off by the idea of being a mother, but simply that having biological children is not something she is interested in, nor is it possible for her at this point. If she ever does choose to be a mother, it will be in a situation where she adopts orphaned supernaturals and it would be in the distant future, probably after she has been able to experience a few lifetimes on her own. Hope also is physically frozen at 18, which provides additional complications to being a mother while also trying to hide among humans.

[primordialchoice]

Been thinking. For the HH verse, I still want Lilith to default to red hair like she's described in the texts, but since her design has her with platinum blonde hair, I'm going to HC that her pregnancy with Charlie lead to that discoloration.

Lilith, as a general rule of thumb, represents infertile earth. The red pigment in her hair, lips and cheeks could represent the last remaining "nutrients" that have made her appear lively. Perhaps her pregnancy drained her of all those minerals in order to be able to conceive her child which might have also left Lilith extremely weakened. This might be why she needs long periods of rest in between tasks nowadays. Not only does she dislike being bound to one place in her high position as queen of Hell which is something she internally resists and rebels against, but her general body is just overall extremely fragile.

She relies on makeup to regain some of that redness in her face.

[oceanherbalist]

A little postpartum mom in mom jeans she couldn't fit before she was pregnant with her first baby lol They are still a little tight, but I'm excited to have more clothes to wear. As my body shrinks down from holding a baby, it's becoming a little awkward. The belly I have is still cute and stripey, but it's not really proportional to the rest of my body. Which makes finding clothes in my closet to wear a little difficult. I love my body and the changes that come with giving birth to 2 babies so close together, even though I'm in a state of constant change. I'm only 5 weeks pp, and my body is going to keep changing and morphing, and it teaches me to be adaptable and grateful. I couldn't ask for a more beautiful and interesting space to be in. I am very grateful 🙏.

[jechristine]

Your baby is so sweet. 😍 I’m glad I got to glimpse him before you take it down. As a woman in her late 20s/early 30s, do you have any advice for those of us who are on the fence about children and motherhood? When I think about having and supporting a child, I just don’t know how to wrap my head around it. My partner and I both work and make enough to get by, but we don’t have generational wealth and don’t live close to family. We’d be amazing parents but there’s so many obstacles. We both deal with chronic but manageable health issues. How would we afford childcare and healthcare and student loan debt and safe housing (we rent, probably forever with the housing market like it is)? Or when considering having kids, do you just hope for the best and not think about all of the scary things?

You and I are a lot alike. My husband and I doing pretty well and are happy in our jobs, but we both went to school for a long time (some would say too long!) and we didn’t get any money from our parents to buy property so we, too, rent and we have seemingly interminable student loans. And our parents live far away, but they will come visit if, say, my husband is going to be away for a week on a work trip. To be honest, we would have more kids if we felt that we could afford more daycare and aftercare and college savings, etc.

Yes, we basically just hoped/are hoping for the best lol. We had my daughter before I was employed, when I was still finishing my degree. And it was really rough for a while, financially! Still we can’t afford everything that my daughter wants (like, ballet OR gymnastics? Favorite restaurant on Friday but not on Tuesday, too, etc.) We’d probably travel more or live in a bigger house or fancier neighborhood if we had more money and fewer expenses, too. So there are compromises.

One thing I’ll say about kids is that before they show up, they can feel like strangers who are coming to ruin your life. You don’t know them, let alone love them, and so it’s not really rational to invite this massive responsibility and financial burden into your life. BUT when they arrive, and IME increasingly over the first year, they become the most lovable, magical little people, and also IME there’s no love like the love for a child. Speaking for myself, I never truly imagined what that love would feel like before it was there. It’s life altering. I would give up every other experience I’ve ever had to keep motherhood.

Back down to earth, I’d say look into state and local benefits around childcare and food. We have so far to go as a country (I’m assuming you’re American), but depending where you live and your income, there may be supports that you haven’t considered.

And last thing—I’m speaking for my experience only, and part of that is that I have a wonderful partner who gladly does 50% or more of domestic labor and at-home childcare. I’m not saying it can’t be done otherwise. One of my very good friends on her own adopted a child 6 years ago and is making it work. But that’s another thing to consider.

[futurewife]

when i have pms it tricks me into getting upset other people are having babies and that i am undesirable for this purpose. im childfree by choice. hormones are evil. And i have to remind myself i just want to be the centre of attention from a partner for being pregnant and get fussed over and not to raise kids selflessly. it would drive me insane.

[sabertoothdeer]

This morning, mom's friend told me with a smile that she found out she was going to be a mother on a Mother's day.

This afternoon, I read a post from someone I follow about being r-worded and being forced into motherhood on a Mother's Day.

What a strange world this is.

[undercover-ballerina]

New wip 'The things nobody says'

Original work about the hard things in pregnancy and motherhood nobody tells you beforehand.